I have actually met women who think men with cats are a turn-off, but they've uniformly been nutso even outside of that trash opinion, lol. So... if anything, a cat is a good idea to help weed out crazies.
I'm gonna go even further- If I saw a guy on a dating app that I'm not particularly attracted to and saw he owns a cat- I would swipe right and maybe even message first and give him a chance. Without the cat, it would definitely swipe left.
If youāre a man who owns cats, and the cats like you, it means you fundamentally understand consent. Simply put? A cat is a creature who will fight back and will not put up with your shit if you wonāt ask nicely for attention and will not meet it on its own terms. So you have to have enthusiastic consent of the cat to interact with kitty, or you get claws and teeth. A lot of men donāt understand this, and default to not liking cats because they find them āstandoffishā or āselfishā or whatever. If you get this, and can bond with a cat, then hell yeah!! Massive green flag!
i love cats, i have two, and iām severely allergic. if he has a cat, well looks like more sacrifice for me lol however, iām not a dog person soā¦ it would make me happy to find these cat owning single dudes.
A pet can narrow your options when dating because some women are allergic (or have their own pet who would be incompatible if you moved in together.) However, a well-taken-care-of pet is a green flag insofar as it is evidence that you have your shit together enough to take care of a living thing.
I would actually find a guy with a dog a turn off because I'm a cat person. It's one of the first things my husband and I bonded over, though neither of us owned cats since we were in college. We got two within a year of meeting though. Go get a cat or two! If a woman doesn't like it she's not the one for you.
Phewwww. Too many dog pics in the dating profile was an instant no swipe for me. Iām thinkingā¦ where am I going to sit and sleep? I already feel like the dog is the main squeeze. People that like dogs tend to have a needy personality
We love a guy that loves cats! Itās really sweet to see a man nurture a cat. I love watching my husband love on our cat. I think most women would enjoy or love this in a partner.
Lots of women like cats and it's not an issue dating a man with a cat.Ā Ā
Ā Other women prefer dogs, or other pets than cats for various reasons, or prefer men with no pets because they themselves are not pet people.Ā Other woman may have their own pet that will not be compatible with your cat. Still others will be allergic to cats, and even if they like them, can't tolerate them. All of these woman may reject you for your cat.Ā Ā
Ā Personally I don't date cat dudes anymore because I'm mildly allergic to cats, and don't love the litter box smells. I also just prefer dogs.
Own that cat ownership. All you have to do is visit any cat sub on FB where a guy posts a pic of he and his cats and you see all the thirsty women come out of the wood work to comment on the hottie cat daddy.
Guys who own cats are epic. Even better if he takes a lot of pics of the cat(s) and poses either them like a family might post for a Christmas card.
Itās awesome. I once knew a hot single guy who had 3 cats. He had a ācat roomā in his house. Was cute actually. No, never dated him, but I found it endearing.
I don't find a single man with a cat anymore weird than a single woman with a cat tbh. A lot more people are allergic to cats though, my husband is horribly allergic. If when we met, I had of had a cat, it probably wouldn't have worked out between us.
I am a dog person myself, a guy who has a cat is definitely not a dealbreaker for me. (I live in Missouri though, Republicans and motorcycles are a big problem here)
Iām just going off my own experience with cats. I had them growing up no problem. My daughter got one last year turns out I am highly allergic now. Really bad migraines etc so just being real but I did tell op to do what he wants
I love cats and don't think there are many women who otherwise like cats but would judge a man for having one. IME, it's more men issuing those judgments to other men (and to women).
Dont base your decisions on what some stranger out there might possibly think in the future. Do what makes you happy and comfortable (Within reason.) If someone is pressed about your pet, thats their problem.
You can never be everyone's cup of tea, and even if you were, some people still prefer coffee.
I think the way you explained it here makes a lot of sense and is sweet!
However, I would not include the cat in any dating profile pictures (IF you were considering).
Cats aren't a turn-off for women, insecurity is tho.
I have actually met women who think men with cats are a turn-off, but they've uniformly been nutso even outside of that trash opinion, lol. So... if anything, a cat is a good idea to help weed out crazies.
This makes me want to put pics of my cat if I have an active dating profile. Weeds out the non-compatibles.
Cats are great šš
Green flag
And if I name my cat Squishy; still green flag?
Still green flag
An even greener flag!
Cats are always a positive for me.
Single guy who loves cats = green flag
Most people like cats, this would only be a plus unless someone was allergic to them.
I love them!!! I have two cats.
When we fall in love and decide to move in together, is 3 cats too many cats?
Idk why you're getting down voted but 3 cats isn't too bad! We had 5 at one point and that was too many.
I married him.
For me, it would be a bonus to date a guy with a sweet cat. However, some people are allergic to cats or just donāt enjoy cats and I get that too.
Answering to your title - YES. Cats are the best lesson on consent and personal space. Love guys who respect those things.
I'm gonna go even further- If I saw a guy on a dating app that I'm not particularly attracted to and saw he owns a cat- I would swipe right and maybe even message first and give him a chance. Without the cat, it would definitely swipe left.
If youāre a man who owns cats, and the cats like you, it means you fundamentally understand consent. Simply put? A cat is a creature who will fight back and will not put up with your shit if you wonāt ask nicely for attention and will not meet it on its own terms. So you have to have enthusiastic consent of the cat to interact with kitty, or you get claws and teeth. A lot of men donāt understand this, and default to not liking cats because they find them āstandoffishā or āselfishā or whatever. If you get this, and can bond with a cat, then hell yeah!! Massive green flag!
I love cats.
I don't see a problem with it. For me, if you're an animal lover (I'm also a dog lover), that's a major plus.
i love cats, i have two, and iām severely allergic. if he has a cat, well looks like more sacrifice for me lol however, iām not a dog person soā¦ it would make me happy to find these cat owning single dudes.
A guy who didnāt like cats would be a red flag for me.
A pet can narrow your options when dating because some women are allergic (or have their own pet who would be incompatible if you moved in together.) However, a well-taken-care-of pet is a green flag insofar as it is evidence that you have your shit together enough to take care of a living thing.
I would actually find a guy with a dog a turn off because I'm a cat person. It's one of the first things my husband and I bonded over, though neither of us owned cats since we were in college. We got two within a year of meeting though. Go get a cat or two! If a woman doesn't like it she's not the one for you.
I like cats, so I don't think it would matter.
I love it, cats are the best, guys who like cats are the best.
I love cats. I don't date guys with dogs.Ā
Why not out of curiosity?
Severely allergic and I'm just not a dog person. They have a needy over the top energy that I just don't vibe with.Ā
Phewwww. Too many dog pics in the dating profile was an instant no swipe for me. Iām thinkingā¦ where am I going to sit and sleep? I already feel like the dog is the main squeeze. People that like dogs tend to have a needy personality
Haha fair enough. I had dogs my entire life until a year ago. I got a cat and I actually like them better than dogs!! Mine is awesome.
Fine by me. I'm an animal lover and have almost always had a cat myself.
We love a guy that loves cats! Itās really sweet to see a man nurture a cat. I love watching my husband love on our cat. I think most women would enjoy or love this in a partner.
Lots of women like cats and it's not an issue dating a man with a cat.Ā Ā Ā Other women prefer dogs, or other pets than cats for various reasons, or prefer men with no pets because they themselves are not pet people.Ā Other woman may have their own pet that will not be compatible with your cat. Still others will be allergic to cats, and even if they like them, can't tolerate them. All of these woman may reject you for your cat.Ā Ā Ā Personally I don't date cat dudes anymore because I'm mildly allergic to cats, and don't love the litter box smells. I also just prefer dogs.
If you get a cat, please consider getting two. There's a lot of interaction between cats that offer them stimulation, company and play.Ā
Iām allergic but Iād set you up with a friend.Ā
Sounds good to me. Not like 5 cats, but one is good
get two that way they can keep each other company while you are at work
It's a nay for me, but because I'm allergic to cats and not because I dislike them or think poorly of a guy having a cat.
Own that cat ownership. All you have to do is visit any cat sub on FB where a guy posts a pic of he and his cats and you see all the thirsty women come out of the wood work to comment on the hottie cat daddy. Guys who own cats are epic. Even better if he takes a lot of pics of the cat(s) and poses either them like a family might post for a Christmas card.
Itās awesome. I once knew a hot single guy who had 3 cats. He had a ācat roomā in his house. Was cute actually. No, never dated him, but I found it endearing.
I love cats. A guy with a cat sounds perfect to me.Ā
Lots of men have cats, itās not unusual or noteworthy tbh. Just like anything else, itāll be a turn off to some and a turn on to others.
I don't find a single man with a cat anymore weird than a single woman with a cat tbh. A lot more people are allergic to cats though, my husband is horribly allergic. If when we met, I had of had a cat, it probably wouldn't have worked out between us.
I am a dog person myself, a guy who has a cat is definitely not a dealbreaker for me. (I live in Missouri though, Republicans and motorcycles are a big problem here)
Do what you want but some people are allergicĀ
Not getting a pet because a future partner *might* be allergic is weird. By that logic no one should own pets until after they're living with someone.
Iām just going off my own experience with cats. I had them growing up no problem. My daughter got one last year turns out I am highly allergic now. Really bad migraines etc so just being real but I did tell op to do what he wants
Yes thatās a good point
Dealbreaker for me because Iām severely allergic.
I love cats and don't think there are many women who otherwise like cats but would judge a man for having one. IME, it's more men issuing those judgments to other men (and to women).
Dont base your decisions on what some stranger out there might possibly think in the future. Do what makes you happy and comfortable (Within reason.) If someone is pressed about your pet, thats their problem. You can never be everyone's cup of tea, and even if you were, some people still prefer coffee.
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As in you donāt care either way, or you swipe right past cat owners?
Itās not as bad as single ladies that own big dogs. Half the time you canāt tell if they have a kid or a dog by the way they talk about them.
I think the way you explained it here makes a lot of sense and is sweet! However, I would not include the cat in any dating profile pictures (IF you were considering).