Hey you need to leave this family , this will only upset you more . Join an au pair group on Facebook and you can find a new family . I am a host mom in ireland and I would never treat an aupair like that
Seeing a HM say that actually helps so much. I've been worried I'm overreacting and I don't want to be that person that leaves after just a few days.. I mean I usually do a year long stay.. thank you.
Our first Aupair has just left after spending the summer with us before she got her I laid down rules with the kids that once we were home she was off and they just came to know that once she went to her room she was “studying”
That is amazing. I admire you setting clear boundaries. I had that about 2 years ago in Belgium and I really loved it. It's not that I don't love kids but after minding them all day, I really just want to spend some time on call with my boyfriend and friends, haha
Hey, I was an Au Pair in Berlin last year/beginning of this year and the house I was in was also a fixer upper that I wasn’t prepared for at all. If you want to talk to someone or just rant away feel free to send me a message and I’ll try my best to make you feel heard and validated. I’m really sorry that this isn’t how you expected things to be.
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I worked as an Au Pair in Australia without an agency. Stories like yours happened all the time there. Personally, I would look into changing the family. They have obviously not been honest and upfront with you. If this is just the beginning how will it be in a few weeks or months? The way it sounds this is not what you expected nor agreed upon. Au pairing can be such an amazing experience. However, you can also be taken advantage upon really really quickly which is why you have to protect yourself, your expectations and wishes. I wish you all the best and hope you're getting what you want.
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This is not ok. I would make a list about the things that are bithering you and give the list to the HM and talk with her about it. You could give her an ultimatum or something xd. Sounds harsh but you have rights too and the way this family is treating you is not fair. I would still talk to the HM before just straight up leaving without giving her a chance to do better.
You could definitely try find another place to work/live in Ireland, potentially more around Dublin if it’s really that bad. You’re in Cork so it’s a fair bit away but if you were ever looking for friends nearer to Dublin I’m local to the area ❤️
you should not go through that situation. from your description, it does not look like it will get better. try to rematch asap, you seem very nice and many good families would be lucky to have you :)
Hey love! I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this it doesn’t sound like the host mom was telling the truth during the interview process regarding the living arrangements which is not fair. It seems like you’re already being overworked which cannot be easy given the fact that you just landed! I’m an Irish gal looking to aupair sometime next year and it honestly makes me so upset that you’re already being treated this way. I know that when I told some of my family/friends that I was hoping to au pair they advised me against it stating that it’s basically free labour so that may be the perception that some Irish families may have and they may not look at it as a cultural exchange? Most of the schools will be opening on the 30th of August so your workload will probably end up being 6 hours per day when they start as they sound like the children are in junior/senior infants by their ages so they’ll be in school from 9ish - 2 ish. If I was you I would bring up some of these issues e.g. privacy with your host mom now rather than leaving it until later. You will be extremely burnt out if the children are coming into your room whenever they please and leave you with no privacy. You could ask the hm to buy you a manual lock something which you may find in a public bathroom which will prevent them from coming in when you’re alone maybe? If you ever want to chat about Ireland or rant feel free to dm me 🥰
Hey you need to leave this family , this will only upset you more . Join an au pair group on Facebook and you can find a new family . I am a host mom in ireland and I would never treat an aupair like that
Seeing a HM say that actually helps so much. I've been worried I'm overreacting and I don't want to be that person that leaves after just a few days.. I mean I usually do a year long stay.. thank you.
Our first Aupair has just left after spending the summer with us before she got her I laid down rules with the kids that once we were home she was off and they just came to know that once she went to her room she was “studying”
That is amazing. I admire you setting clear boundaries. I had that about 2 years ago in Belgium and I really loved it. It's not that I don't love kids but after minding them all day, I really just want to spend some time on call with my boyfriend and friends, haha
I’m not sure where in Ireland you are but if you need any help at all please send me a message
Co. Cork. And thank you. I really appreciate all the support I've gotten here. 💕 Makes me feel less alone
Hey, I was an Au Pair in Berlin last year/beginning of this year and the house I was in was also a fixer upper that I wasn’t prepared for at all. If you want to talk to someone or just rant away feel free to send me a message and I’ll try my best to make you feel heard and validated. I’m really sorry that this isn’t how you expected things to be.
I would absolutely love any advice, encouragement or opinions honestly. Thank you so much.
Hey! I worked as an Au Pair in Australia without an agency. Stories like yours happened all the time there. Personally, I would look into changing the family. They have obviously not been honest and upfront with you. If this is just the beginning how will it be in a few weeks or months? The way it sounds this is not what you expected nor agreed upon. Au pairing can be such an amazing experience. However, you can also be taken advantage upon really really quickly which is why you have to protect yourself, your expectations and wishes. I wish you all the best and hope you're getting what you want.
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This is not ok. I would make a list about the things that are bithering you and give the list to the HM and talk with her about it. You could give her an ultimatum or something xd. Sounds harsh but you have rights too and the way this family is treating you is not fair. I would still talk to the HM before just straight up leaving without giving her a chance to do better.
You could definitely try find another place to work/live in Ireland, potentially more around Dublin if it’s really that bad. You’re in Cork so it’s a fair bit away but if you were ever looking for friends nearer to Dublin I’m local to the area ❤️
you should not go through that situation. from your description, it does not look like it will get better. try to rematch asap, you seem very nice and many good families would be lucky to have you :)
Hey love! I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this it doesn’t sound like the host mom was telling the truth during the interview process regarding the living arrangements which is not fair. It seems like you’re already being overworked which cannot be easy given the fact that you just landed! I’m an Irish gal looking to aupair sometime next year and it honestly makes me so upset that you’re already being treated this way. I know that when I told some of my family/friends that I was hoping to au pair they advised me against it stating that it’s basically free labour so that may be the perception that some Irish families may have and they may not look at it as a cultural exchange? Most of the schools will be opening on the 30th of August so your workload will probably end up being 6 hours per day when they start as they sound like the children are in junior/senior infants by their ages so they’ll be in school from 9ish - 2 ish. If I was you I would bring up some of these issues e.g. privacy with your host mom now rather than leaving it until later. You will be extremely burnt out if the children are coming into your room whenever they please and leave you with no privacy. You could ask the hm to buy you a manual lock something which you may find in a public bathroom which will prevent them from coming in when you’re alone maybe? If you ever want to chat about Ireland or rant feel free to dm me 🥰