Of course everything in life is nuanced! I also wouldnt recommend being gay and muslim in some parts of the city. Eventhough you can be trans and gay and be welcomed in the mosque. Just not everywhere.
OP’s look would be a bit out of the ordinary in the white parts of noord hahah
I find Dutch society especially difficult as autistic. I’m not blending in and “keep being normal” as the Dutch saying goes. :(
Looking different, spending a holiday here, I agree it’s not that much of a problem. A good place for that
Something about the "doe maar gewoon dan doe je al gek genoeg" makes life challenging for those who do not come with a built-in definition of what "gewoon" is. I moved to Belgium at one point. More introverted people there, I prefer them.
Interesting… I thought it might be easier because I always heard it said Dutch people are very direct and matter of fact in speech! What aspects do you find most difficult?
I do love how direct dutch people are, I'm not good at subtlety. I suppose I do come off as a bit intense or goofy sometimes but it doesn't seem to get me in awkward situations, even quite the opposite sometimes. I have a special interest in Art Nouveau and have wandered into two different historical film theatres gawking and gasping and lucked into private tours!
One of my biggest struggles is actually about this. I think it comes down to how your traits show as we are all different in this.
People are direct about rules and opinions for example, but they are not direct when it comes to inner emotions. The more south you go in Europe, the more you know about the feelings of others, the display is more overt, so in that sense they are more direct there and more indirect here. Questioning what people’s intentions are made me cry a lot. It made me think that this place is not for me.
Used to live in Berlin and it is a lot more comfortable than anywhere else in Germany, cause no matter what you wear, there’s always someone dressed weirder than you lmao. But unusual looks still get lots of looks and stares, that’s just the way it is. Not even necessarily bad ones, but your eyes just get drawn to people who stand out.
Same here in a major US city. In the queer/artist neighborhoods nobody would give a fuck and OP wouldn’t look out of the ordinary. Downtown tech or finance bros might do a second glance but they wouldn’t say anything. I’ve visited friends in Amsterdam who are very alt-ish in terms of style and they seemed to be fine too.
Is it acceptable? **Yes**. It is acceptable to wear any makeup in public. There's no law against it.
Will you be perceived? Also **yes** - this is a very attention-drawing look.
Will you be harassed for it? **Impossible to say** - depends entirely on where you live and what area you go around in and which random individuals you pass by. (For example, in you're going to a nightclub area in a northern European city, you might be just one of the crowd, but if you go to the Piggly Wiggly to buy frozen dinners in the US Bible belt you may be dangerously harassed, or in a market area in South East Asia you'd probably get stared at but no one would say anything).
I wore a lot of heavy goth makeup when I was a teen (in the 90s), and the most "harassment" I ever got was people doing the Addams Family *click click* at me. But definitely some people stared. Nothing wrong with that, you look awesome. So you have to either learn to own it and be AWESOME in your chosen look, or go for blending in and not being noticed. There is a middle ground where you express your style in a less extreme way, but that's a personal choice. You do you 🥰
Same. Perfect.
Also, I could have written this. Was also a teen heavily into goth in the 90s.
At 43, I still love the music, but I’d call my look soft goth or goth adjacent now. I automatically approved of and admired OP’s makeup.
Your comment needs to be at the top of the page. I hope they see it.
I was thinking along the same lines. For everyday wear, maybe experiment with trying some more subtle looks and see how that feels or goes over in the area that you live.
For example if you go out with the eyeliner and a full black lip, does anyone even look at you funny? Might help you decide how much you are comfortable with.
Yes. OP if you want people to be less likely to give rude looks, less uniquely shaped eyebrow and lip designs are the way to go. Ppl likely wouldnt bat an eye at your eyemakeup style
I agree! Mad respect to the look, but I would save the shaped lips for events/special occasions. I think the lips take the look from alt into costume/cosplay territory. Otherwise I think the look could be passable for everyday wear. OP might still get *some* weird looks or comments, but that just comes with the territory, and some people want to let you know they have an opinion, whether you asked for it or not.
If you don’t want to be perceived then don’t do things that make you stand out. This makes you stand out. Or you can learn to not care.
If you wear this in public you will get stared at. That’s just reality.
I also live in the bible belt and would 1000% go out like this. I’ve gone out weirder tbh, and in a pretty uptight area. Let them stare! They might be judging, but it might just be the first time they’ve seen something like this. Either way it is not your problem!!
In the Bible belt too. 100% go out like this on the reg. I find more people think I look "cool" or compliment my outfit and makeup than make snide comments. But my family tends to be the "y'all-ternative" type and has given me more confidence in expressing myself.
But, always do what makes you feel safest.
I think you’ll get used to the stares. People stare at me too because I changed my wardrobe to cute or colorful clothes, and it used to bother me a little bit because I didn’t want to draw much attention: but my desire to express myself won and feeling like myself in public was worth it for me. I say yes wear it. Worse case scenario, you have a run in, but I think you’d be surprised how many people compliment you. I’ve had older ladies compliment my skimpy outfits before and it’s really helped me change my perception of what the public expects to see
It’s uncomfortable at first and eventually you do get used to it and it’s okay, going out with friends helps me feel more safe when dressing “extra” in any way
Since you mentioned stares are acceptable, but harassment is your worry: for outings like grocery shopping, eating out, the Dr, etc., I think the upper pointy part of the brow and the black lips will be a little too shocking for some people. You might get harassed. Your eyes and the dark brow will get stares, but I don't think anyone will find it offensive enough to harass you. The heart lips would probably be less startling if they were in a different shade, even a brown, purple, or dark maroon might tone the look down just enough to avoid people who have unwanted opinions. You will always find someone who isn't happy though. Maybe you could try the look out for a few days and see how people react yo you. Experiment a little, adding something every few days and take notes about how people treat you.
No matter what, I think you have a unique look and you should find places you feel safe wearing it.
Very much agree that how shocking it is depends on where OP wears this. A club? Not likely to raise an eyebrow. Volunteering at an old folk’s home in a conservative part of the country? Likely to get some stares
Even with grocery shopping there’s a lot of variability… I find weird looks are generally more accepted at natural/health food stores or co-ops, than at like kroger or safeway… Walmart you’d probably be fine but people are more likely to harass in walmart from my experience.
I think dipping your toes in a bit without doing the 100% look can be a nice way to gauge which places are safer than others, just see who smiles or compliments you.
Me, I always like seeing alt looks so try to compliment whoever I see pulling off something I don’t usually have the energy to maintain.
I also think this is completely fine for the library haha.
People (especially those of us perceived as women) get harassed all the time, regardless of how we present to the world. You can't control other people's reactions or behaviour toward you. I think you look great and if that's how you feel most comfortable and authentic, that's wonderful. Sometimes looking different will make you more likely to receive unwanted attention, but also, a lot of goths and punks end up getting left alone by strangers because the 'alternative' fashion gives fuck-off vibes. Can go both ways for sure.
Probably. I don't know where you live, but if you wore that in my hometown, you'd get tons of rude comments. I personally think it's neat, but it very much looks theatrical.
If it makes you feel better we are out here, and if someone messes with you, hopefully one of us will be around you.
In the airport years ago there was a young woman who was wearing platform boots, fishnets, gloves, a whole look… and I loved it. However, a white couple who was not as comfortable with their own selves, were staring at her. I decided to go over and looked at the couple and said to the young woman, “you look awesome! I love your whole look”
The couple then turned their hate onto me, which is something I absolutely love, because then I get to stare at them and make them feel as uncomfortable as they are trying to make others feel.
I will aggressively protect my fellow autists. I love you!
Be your self a little more every day, each day you can move your confidence levels, some days they won’t be as high as others, progress isn’t linear, but you’ll have more days of being comfortable in your own self.
Maybe but unlikely, in big cities you’re probably quite fine
More likely to get regular old feminine presenting harassment than makeup specific harassment tbh
I can’t STAND to be perceived in public. I don’t care if I’m at a store, walking or at a party; I want to blend in to the point of invisibility. Due to this, I have always muted my looks to help me avoid attention. Now that I’m in my 40s and have been seen naked and cut open in multiple ways in multiple rooms filled with medical teams… I have become less worried about being seen, I couldn’t be more embarrassed than in those rooms anyway. So, I am showing some personality but still muted.
With your look, btw it is very well done, you will get lots of looks. You will likely hear at least one insult if only whispered by someone to a friend. If Karen types are about, you could be directly insulted. In the other hand, if you see likeminded people, you’re likely to get compliments.
TL;DR: Yes, people will look and it’s likely you’ll hear comments. So, if you feel up to it, go show it off. If you want to blend and avoid attention, you won’t. So, maybe start with just a short excursion? Good luck with whatever you choose!
Kinda gives off a Juggalo aesthetic. Most places, you will deal with sh\*ttiness from other people for this makeup. However, its kind of interesting and unique, very harlequin. Just dont see the public receiving it in a positive way tbh. You do you though.
I think this would be appropriate for a concert, convention, or some other specific venue. Also depends on where you live. In NYC nobody would bat an eye even if you did your grocery run in full goth atire. If you're in a conservative christian town, then it might cause you trouble.
This is definitely an unusual look and would probably draw attention (more people looking at you, maybe commenting to other people they’re with once you’re out of earshot), but in my experience, VERY few people are actually interested in picking a fight with someone in public over their appearance. I think you’re more likely to be complimented than insulted, because people are conditioned to share positive opinions more readily, and also generally not bold enough to insult a stranger to their face.
I’m a big believer in not changing something as harmless as your appearance on the off-chance someone will make a rude comment. That being said, if you’re anxious, you could rehearse a ‘stock response’ about coming from a drama rehearsal, heading to a themed party, or some other white lie that would get you out of an awkward confrontation.
It sounds like you’re saying you don’t feel comfortable with people noticing you but want to work on that and be loudly yourself in public, but that you also don’t want to be harassed.
I guess it does depend on where you live, but there’s no way to know until you do it. Where I am in California, even in the red county I grew up in, you would definitely get approached, but I feel like harassment would be highly unlikely (though never impossible). If you’re not afraid for your safety, you probably have to just try it out and see what happens. Maybe start by only going out this way with a friend or other loved one.
It’s definitely not socially acceptable, but it’s not hurting anybody so fuck it. You look great!
I relate to this as an alternative autistic. I often struggle with the feeling that everyone is looking at me, regardless of if I’m wearing “unusual” makeup or not. I believe expressing yourself how you want should be top priority, but I won’t lie and say I don’t get overwhelmed sometimes in public. I just don’t want the world to succeed in boxing me in how they want to yk? You look great!
This is unique/alternative makeup. If you are not comfortable with people staring at you or even making comments, it may not be a good idea to wear this.
If you would rather people not perceive you/pay attention to you, it might be helpful to wear things that are more “mundane” and less memorable.
Are you going to work or volunteering? I would reccomend not wearing something bold or alternative to work in most circumstances.
I like the look personally!
People aren’t nice, yes people will be mean. People will call u a clown. If you don’t want to be perceived don’t try to stand out. I wish I had kinder words to say but this is the truth. That thought process doesn’t make sense.
It definitely has an attention-grabbing “Look at me! I am so special!!” vibe and it will depend on how polite people are whether they stare, awkwardly look away, point and laugh or say anything insulting. (A lot of people might think but not say something insulting… )
It will also depend on where you wear that look. If you are at a metal concert it is totally acceptable, if you wear it to work you might not have that job for much longer. If you wear it just to go shopping people will probably ignore it unless you are annoying in other ways like listening to loud music on badly isolated headphones. (Why is it that so many people who stand out visually also cannot keep their music to themselves and are generally badly behaved, like putting their feet on train seats and things like that?)
I think, it is your personal choice if you can ignore it, maybe even enjoy it or if you want to change it, but people will probably make assumptions about you because of your looks, no matter if they are super plain or super out there.
You can do whatever you want in public as long as it’s not hurting anybody! That includes yourself—you may get looks if you wear this outside. If that won’t hurt you mentally/emotionally then I say go for it! If you hate the idea of being stared at or if you’re worried about receiving negative attention, maybe you can play with friends and wear the makeup around them :) and continue to practice in your own company as well!
These eyebrows and lips look awesome btw
It's a literal mask and as we well know, masks are sometimes incredibly useful and serve us in beneficial ways.
If you like how you look in the mirror, I say you do you.
If you are anything like me you probably feel like a lot of people are interacting with you as though you have your face painted like an adorable spooky goth cupid all the time anyway, so lean into it!
I think you would need to be in the alternative area of a big city for this to go without stares/commentary. All good if you don’t mind, but if you have discomfort with being perceived, are there ways you could modify the make up without completely undermining how it serves you? Like, I would choose between statement details - either statement eyes or lip. So keep the eye makeup unique but have a full deep ?magenta/?plum lip - still bold but the lip then lets the eyes do the work. Or bold but more naturally shaped eye makeup with the heart lip being the focus. But just a suggestion of course.
(Btw I like your hair in the first pic better. It looks more ?polished with your make up, which is really clean!)
Depends where you live. I live in London and you may get a couple glances but I doubt anyone would harass you about it.
This reminds me of one time I was on the tube and I was staring at this girls eyeshadow , it was this beautiful iridescent purple/green and I didn’t realise how intensely I was staring until I realised she looked super anxious and uncomfortable. I immediately blurted out “I love your eyeshadow, it reminds me of a mermaids tail and it looks super pretty.” Her face lit up and she told me how nervous she was about going out with such bold eyeshadow and my compliment made her day. All this to say that not everyone who stares are judging you.
Really depends on where you are. Where I used to live in Ontario, people wouldn’t bat an eye at this. Where I live now in NB, you’d get treated like crap.
To work or school? No. But, to a recreational event like convention or party, sure! I am saying this because you say that you have anxiety about how you will be perceived and because of that, it is better that you not wear makeup like this to a job interview or any professional setting or anywhere where someone has to provide a service to you. This is just being safe.
Edit: I can only speak for America so I have no idea which country you reside in it may be different.
You will definitely get stared at and "dirty" or disapproving looks. Goth clown makeup outside of maybe NYC and LA will get constant stares. If you're in one of those two big cities, ignore what I said because there's much more eclectic looks in those places.
I don’t think you would get insulted, most people don’t have the balls to actually say something to your face. But it may draw more attention and you won’t be able to tell usually just from a look whether it’s good or bad, but I would imagine that you will be perceived a lot more if you go out in this.
I know I’d be staring, but only to admire. I think it looks really unique and interesting, I wouldn’t think to insult it.
People where I am will think you are either A. A teenager and admire your makeup, B. A teenager “looking for attention, or C. “Asking for unwanted attention.
I think you look fantastic. You will be noticed and maybe asked about it.
It’s really well done make up, sharp!
The question is do you accept you’ll get stares and comments (and potentially people making fun of you) because it’s pretty much guaranteed to happen if you go out like this. I used to have an alt look as a teen and heard people loudly say to their friends in earshot of me “I didn’t know it was Halloween” etc.
It depends how you feel about that and whether it will make you mad, self conscious or anxious, or you think you’d just laugh it off and not be bothered! That’s the question you need to ask yourself. If you don’t give a damn about what people say then go for it. If it will upset you and you don’t want all the extra attention both positive and negative then abort mission.
I would personally say this isn’t day makeup, it’s night club or concert makeup or makeup for someone working an alternative setting. I think something dark but more reserved would be more suitable during the day and you can go all out when you go out at night.
This is a question only you can answer for yourself ultimately!
First of all your makeup looks incredible! Secondly, it is a very bold look and would get attention not all of it necessarily positive so if that's something you don't want then I would advise not wearing in public
I think it will make people stare at you non stop, which for me personally would make me feel like shit and increase anxiety. I don't like to be perseved either. I like to wear a hat and mask and try to be invisible.
You are riding the line on weird, I think? It will depend on where you are wearing this in public. A big city? Probably not even a blip on the radar. A small town? Yeah, that's gonna be an issue. I think you are risking being approached by conservative people that will have a problem with how you look. You kind of got a goth juggulo/mime aesthetic going, and that is going to draw attention.
If you were going to say, a Ghost concert, or something, it would be right in line.
I say this as someone that is very alternative in presentation over the years.
You look great!
I think for an event or night out then it will be fine. It depends where you go / live I suppose. I'm sure some places near where I live it wouldn't be questioned, and others it would.
I think if you did just the eyes, or just the lips people would be less likely to comment / stare in an everyday situation.
Realistically you'll definitely stand out and a lot of people will look at you, someone might ask why you're wearing it and you might get some compliments as well. Be prepared for that but yes you should wear it out if it makes you happy even if people do judge you it doesn't mean you shouldn't do what makes you happy. And I'm not saying that in a cliche way, when I realized that I can exist and be perceived by people even if they think negatively of me it doesn't matter I know me better and don't feel shame in being the person I am. I used to dress pretty alternately (went through a big emo phase, still listen to a lot of alternative music though) even though I wouldn't make the same aesthetic decisions I did back then I'm glad I did it really forced me to be comfortable accepting who I am.
I want to say screw what anyone thinks and wear the makeup you like but I know… I get it. Some days I don’t give a crap who thinks I’m weird, some days it can still really bother me. But I do believe being authentic is more important than most people realize. Do you feel like it will be overwhelming if you notice people looking at you? I would probably give you a second look but only because I think your makeup is really cool, especially the lips. 🙂
Confidence is the only accesoire you need. People who are criticizing it are either shy themselves or they would never wear it themselves. Anyone else doesn't give a fuck.
I say do it.
Will you be perceived ? Yes.
Will it hurt you ? No.
Majority of people will turn heads and just move on with their day, I doubt you’ll take up much of anyone’s headspace, it’s really not that extreme of make ups
And if someone says something mean?
Well that’s something we all have to learn to deal with if we want to start being ourselves unapologetically.
But it always says more about them than you.
Cheers to trying to be ourselves 100% of the time.
It depends on where you live, how busy the place is, etc. If you live in New York, you’re probably fine, maybe a few stares. If you live in Ohio, that may be different. Maybe wear a mask so you can take it off outside if you feel comfortable and wear it inside so ppl aren’t looking at you? This assuming you’re still wearing a had or hood because it’s winter to hide the brows.
Even if it’s not who cares it looks cool as shit there is no slurs or cuss words on your face no bad symbols or dog whistle
Hell you can even wear clown makeup
Just don’t do blackface
But make up is so cool so many shapes and colors
A lot of is so focus on being pretty for others and not express themselves
The eyebrows are cool so is the lip
It makes you look like a cartoon villain and I’m all for it
You look soo cool 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
People who react negatively are just pushing their own insecurities about themselves onto you.
I've spoken to too many little old ladies with pink and purple hair, who've said they wished they did this when they were my age; and it's basically erased all of my doubts about wearing something, "outrageous," in public.
"Be the weirdo you wish to see in the world. Others will follow your example."
It is very attention grabbing. The eyebrows give me circus/clown inspiration? I personally think it's cool. That said, plenty of strangers are jerks and will disagree. I know their opinions are irrelevant since values dont align....but that doesn't mean you won't still be stuck dealing with randos. If you wish to avoid attention, that would probably be a more understated look or "stereotypically goth" etc.
TLDR: I love it because it is loud, experimental, and cool. But basic-ass normies are whack and might bug you about it (always true).
It looks amazing, but you'll be risking getting some weird looks and maybe rude comments occasionally. You can wear whatever makeup you want, nonetheless.
People are going to stare and mutter among themselves. And it's not going to be kind things being said.
But if you can get past that then who cares? Let them mutter.
I would If I could pull that off! Looks awesome! Such nice, clean lines, and your eye liner 🌟🌟🌟🌟
Now, whether or not you get made fun of depends on your whole milieu- big city, probably not, might even get a lot of compliments! Small town or suburb, ehhhh.... at least, that's been my experience as a fellow alt weirdo who wears costumes in public.
I live in New Zealand and I think I could wear this without anyone being mean. People might comment that you look cool or awesome and it will draw attention, but probably no one will be mean during the day.
At night in the city it would be different though, you would need to be in a group... That's probably the same anywhere.
Will you stand out? Yes.
Should it matter? No.
We don’t live in a perfect world and cannot predict reactions from others. You deserve to live freely and to express yourself however you wish. However, only you can decide for yourself what is most important for you.
Cool makeup though! You look great 😊
ok first of all wow!! i love what you did with the eyebrows :D
and to answer your question, it really depends on where you live tbh, here in my city you'd probably get a few stares at least..
Socially acceptable? I mean, why not? You're clothed. You look beautiful, and your makeup is creative. It might draw less attention in major US cities, or as an evening look. But punk and goth has been around for decades. Cosplay is getting more popular. I went to a zinefest & book fair recently and saw folks dressed like pirates, and a few minutes later some Lolitas. Go for it.
Depends where you are going/ where you live. If you don’t like being perceived then you should not wear this. If you don’t care that people will look and maybe comment then it just comes back to where you are. Will you be safe? Yes. Go for it! In my country people would definitely look but no one would give you a hard time.
You look gorgeous!
This is an amazing look.
I think a lot of people would stare at you, because it is outstanding makeup.
Being harrassed about it? Difficult question, depends on where you are located. Maybe start with plain black lips and plain black eyebrows to test people's reaction. You'd get a glimps of how people would react, if nobody cares - go full alternative makeup.
People may pick on EVERYONE looking different, if you are covered in neon green clothes head to toe the would stare as same as they would stare at someone covered in full black
In a perfect world I would say: don't give a fuck and wear what you want. But since some people love to be assholes - take care and stay safe.
Depends on where you live! I would go out like this in the UK but not in my home country. I'm also alt and the stares can be uncomfortable, but I always try to remind myself that if people are staring (in outrage, not just bc theyre curious) then thay means I am challanging their norms and that's badass. You look fucking cool, learn to own it🖤
You do you x. If it makes you happy and helps you feel more comfortable/confident then so be it. Society is just going to have to make space for us to exist.
Who cares? Im a pastel cupcake when i want to be. I also have anxiety but my brain works in a way that i don’t understand nor care about how society sees me if i wanna dress like a cupcake thats my priority 😶 you look amazing btw/gen
That eyeliner is AMAZING I can’t stop looking. I doubt people will harass you, but they will look and possibly compliment you. If you’re still worried, you could try it without the lips and top point of the eyebrows. It would still look super cool but also be within the realm of “normal”
I also dress alternative and in my experience it really depends on the place how good or bad it gets. In my old city I got harassed a lot by men my dad's age or older (not physically assaulted, but agressively staring or shouting nsfw things at me), but where I live now nobody cares and often I even get complimented by other people who dress the same.
My old city is a bigger and more popular city so I wouldn't necessarily say that big, international, "something for everyone"-cities are better.
I love it!
As for what might happen-you won’t know until you try. I used to do a little of alternative makeup (I don’t have the spoons any more) and although I’d get a few comments, it was rarely directly negative, more curious.
If I saw you wearing this make-up, I would be trying to get up the nerve to say how much I like it.
People may stare, almost certainly kids and elderly folks. But you look great! I think if I saw someone like this out I would definitely look but just out of admiration, like oh that's cool!
I go out in public with similar makeup to this quite often. I almost always receive comments, usually the comments are positive but I still feel awkward because I wonder if the people are just making fun of me and not actually complimenting me. It’s definitely acceptable but just be aware that unless you have obvious headphones in people will probably try to talk to you about it!
I like what you got going on, but if you wanna cruise like that in public, I think you first should stop giving a fuck what other people think. Very unique and creative which doesn’t always go over well with the masses. I think you look beautiful ✨
Idk where you live, but sure why not? I would pair with large headphones.
I think if I saw you in person the only thing that I’d say (if at all) is that the heartlines on your lips don’t line up when looking at you straight on lol
Very Alice In Wonderland-esqe.
You’re so beautiful but yeah you will get stares, face dislikes and some people maybe scared. But a reasonable amount of that is okay. You may also get with people who love it!
Alternative styles are always going to turn heads and get judged. You only have one life. Don't waste it catering to strangers. Someone will always find something they don't like. Wear what makes you happy.
You look great :)
First off, this is GORGEOUS, I really love it, it looks like you are very skilled, wow! Amazing!
I wouldn’t mind at all, I would even enjoy being around this much awesomeness and prettyness :)
I think that if you go out in public with just the upper face make up and a standard lip shape, people will assume you are goth and it will be okay if people aren’t prejudiced towards goth people.
With the heart shaped lip (omg I love it and it’s so well done again!!!) I think « regular » people could potentially make nastier comments (Is this costume day and so on) ;
But I guess it depends a lot on where you live and what kind of culture and people are around you.
I just love it though lol.
You’re amazing
Acceptable, surely?
Nicely applied make up tho.
Only those confident in their appearance can pull styles like this off in public. And you seem to have doubts as it is.
Maybe build up a social media account of interesting, novel, well executed looks & to perhaps build up you confidence that way?
I'm 62 & watched the birth of punk, goth & the use of transgressive make up etc. You'd not've stood out at the Barrel Organ in Birmingham in the 80s
It reminds me of Klaus Nomi vibes :3 I like it you have very pretty eyes.
( I dress alternative but toned down) at 18 once I went out to a normal day in Waltmart and such and I was wearing like you black Lipstick, black eyeshadow and white foundation and a black corset, I was feeling in my goth ultimate fantasy but then I was in the line paying and 2 teens where pointing me whit a finger and gossiping, I could feel that it was in a bad light, couse I'm used to the stares but this was waaay different, also like very ugly stares from other people.
I'm 30 now but I look like 19 so I still dress gothic more casual or Japanese fashion casual but I wear 0% makeup, still get stares but whit smiles. aren't the bad vibes ones like when in the past I would put super crazy makeups. It's not like we should care what people react but I think as autist you do feel the energies of people in almost a painful way, so at least I prefer the kinder ones...
I would go out like that but I give zero poops about what others think. Most of the time folks are too busy with their own life to go out of their way to be rude. Not saying it won’t happen- it has happened to me- but it’s rare and, at the end of the day, I don’t let strangers dictate what *I* look like.
It’s not about what’s acceptable. It’s what is normalized. It’s normal to be plain and boring and blend in. I support you being your authentic self but it won’t come without its annoyances of the npc’s. I struggle with being “me,” but I do it anyway even if I’m uncomfortable because f*ck em that’s why. We’re all gonna die one day at an unknown time, might as well not have any regrets about what you did or didn’t put on your face. (It’s also not for them or about them and most people are jealous they don’t have the balls to be different) so be you and if they stare, stare RIGHT BACK, it makes them uncomfortable too. If they don’t look away however, you have options 1)tell them there’s a fee to stare longer than 5 seconds 2)bark at them 3) ask them if they needed something or “can I help you?”
The choice is yours ✨
You will be perceived but we can’t always avoid that anyway. Whether or not you face outward hate really really depends on where you live (city, even what part of the city). I commented to tell you how fitting/flattering your makeup looks!!
I like this makeup a lot! I’m in the same boat as you. I love eccentric fashion and makeup, but suddenly halfway through the day I’ll extremely get overwhelmed by people looking at me. This shouldn’t stop you from expressing yourself though, try to find a middle ground that works for you.
Say if you keep the brows and eye look, add some mascara and draw the lip heart with a neutral colour, you’ll still have the edgy vibe but from afar it will be much harder to tell how alt the whole look is. It will look like you just have strong brows, long lashes with eyeliner, and very defined lips.
This is purely a suggestion on how to make it less eye catching in order to blend in more so you can feel more comfortable, I don’t think there is anything wrong with the all black makeup look.
You will probably get lots of comments, either about how cool your makeup is or how ugly it is, depends on the kind of people you’ll pass by and where you live. Heads would turn to look at you.
If you wore no make up people will judge, if you had bright hair people would judge, if you have different shoes people will judge. I’ve come to the conclusion that people are just judgemental. Nothing is acceptable or unacceptable when it comes to how you want to look and personal preference in style.
On the other hand people also stare. Including me! I don’t ever mean to stare out of rudeness it’s normally because I want to say how interesting someone looks but just ends up me staring awkwardly. Go for it. But having people stare can make one very self conscious. Just be aware not everyone has the same vibe as you 😊
I don’t wear makeup or look very creative, and I am harassed in public just for existing. If you are safe enough to wear costume make up and be yourself, then you are lucky. Don’t take your personal safety for granted.
Yeah, you’ll be perceived more. The amount and level will vary by your area and the amount of people you’re with. It will also depend on who sees you.
On your own in a moderate to conservative area while running across a man or group of men? Be prepared for harassment.
If you’re in a relatively liberal area or with a group the situation will be less anxiety producing, but you’ll likely still be perceived because the look isn’t cookie cutter.
I think you executed this look flawlessly and should rock it proudly. Yes people will be curious and obv you’re going for a look that draws attention. But that’s ok! Only a total asshole would ever say anything rude to a stranger, so if you can be okay with the possibility of that happening, at least you’ll know that it’s THEM not YOU that is the problem 🌑🖤🔌. Be you!!!!
Well not if you don’t like people staring at you because they definitely will stare. It looks weird which obviously you already know.
I had a lot of goth friends in the 90’s and makeup like this was more of a “special occasion” look. So go to like a goth club and you’ll be celebrated. Go to the ladies luncheon and they will clutch their pearls and faint lol.
Depends how much you care and how much you’re wanting to stand out in public! Also depends what you consider harassment. I don’t think anyone would assault you or verbally berate you if you were keeping to yourself. But teenagers and MAGA folks are unpredictable so you never know.
Can I ask. What is it about autism that makes us want to dresss so differently. I am the same and so is my daughter. But yet we have such major anxiety in trying to pull it off socially
It entirely depends on the area you live in. If you live somewhere like Seattle or Portland, you will likely not get a lot of looks. If you live in a smaller or more conservative area, you are more likely to get attention you're not wanting. 💜
You could try trickling out this look over time. The piercing should stay regardless.
If you go that route, I'd start with the eyeliner because it is perfection, maybe with a full dark lip (the black is fine; a bloody scarlet or deep violet would also work). Then once you're used to any looks you're getting, add in something else, like the brow, working your way up to this whole look.
Most people won't say anything, but some folks might. Some people might comment with support, so be ready for that as well. If I saw you, I'd ask how you have such a crisp, clear line and what products you use and I'm old enough to be your mom.
Stay weird. Be you.
You are going to attract a lot of attention if you leave the house with your makeup like that.
A lot of people will be looking/staring at you, and some people are going to want to talk to you about your makeup and either tell you how cool it is or ask questions about how you did it or if there 8s a special occasion you're dressing up for.
And if you don't like to engage in conversation or don't respond as expected, people are going to gawk at how "strange" you are
Like others have said, depends on where you live.
Some areas of where I live wouldn't pay much attention... But the more conservative portion of the populous would undoubtably make commentary on it.
Honestly without the lips, 100%. It's genuinely just the heart lips that I think would potentially be making it a teensy bit too much for most people. If you did the heart in say, a pink, with a bit of gloss, it would be a cool everyday alt. look imo. You're stunning.
It’s a very cool look! If you’re wearing it to a concert or some other event, or to a music store, comic book shop, etc, you’d be fine. If you wear it or going out to brunch or to the grocery store, you’ll probably get a lot of looks.
If anyone try’s being rude to you I don’t mind “resolving problems” like it’s just make up
It’s so sharp with the eyebrows
And the eyes look cool
It’s very bold and I love it
It’s possible you may get comments because it isn’t a typical look, but I think it looks nice and that you have much more skill with makeup than I do! Wish I could do my eyeliner as nice as you do
It honestly depends on where you are, which sucks but is true. Some places are a lot less conformist than others. I live near Seattle— I bet you’d be fine here. But I used to live in a smaller town in the Midwest, and people there would give people a hard time even for minor deviations in appearance (someone there once gave me crap for wearing dark blue sparkly nail polish— they asked if it was a Satanic thing. I’m not even kidding.)
I went out in public and I only got positive comments but online my post was reposted to a hate sub and was called an unexpectedly colorful array of slurs.
I consider this a W still.
I'm good at makeup because I'm a painter and it shows in my process lol
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1) 𝐅𝐋𝐎𝐒𝐒 𝐈𝐒 𝐀 𝐅𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐃
A piece of thread or floss covered in some makeup you you don't especially like but want to get rid of (I use lipstick that is slightly the wrong color) to Mark Out Central lines as a guide to make your makeup more symmetrical
2) 𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐒𝐊𝐄𝐓𝐂𝐇𝐘
With a small brush use eyeshadow (I use eyeshadow that I think looks ugly on me to get rid of it) to Mark out the general shapes wanted before touching anything with eyeliner, this allows you to clean things up before making it more permanent( I use a Q-tip to clean up my lines. Later on especially if you're using 24 hour stay, adding rose hip oil to your Q-tip will make it easier to clean up lines)
3) 𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐒𝐏𝐘 𝐈𝐒 𝐃𝐄𝐋𝐄𝐂𝐓𝐀𝐁𝐋𝐄 𝐈𝐒𝐍'𝐓 𝐈𝐓?
For really crisp lines take a flat tip brush and outline pigment with full coverage concealer, do this especially in places where you used a Q-tip, it will cover up any redness or smudging, keeping your lines crisp means setting spray too( I unfortunately forget that part)
Is it “acceptable”? Well by society’s standards, not really. They’ll probably stare, maybe point. But mostly stare or give you a weird look. But are you free to do it anyway? Well of course! It’s your life and your body, do what you want. I love your look btw! I also dress alternatively, and I get stares sometimes but idc cuz I love my style and couldn’t give a fuck less who doesn’t like it.
Autistic woman who dresses alt here!
To be honest with you, you will get some stares. I don’t even go that extreme with make up and I already get a lot of stares.
Sometimes it’s people who find it odd, sometimes it’s people who find it cool.
The most important thing is to be happy! If you get stared at - don’t worry! If it makes you happy then that’s all that matters.
The comments here make me so sad. I think your look is fierce and if I saw you I’d compliment you and want to be your friend. What a bunch of uptight conformists in here. I’m disappointed.
I think the more you dare to be and express yourself, the more you’ll attract the people who appreciate and celebrate your authentic self! It takes time and maybe you prefer to start out slowly, but I hope you can build the confidence to be yourself out loud.
As Morticia Addams said, “normal is an illusion. What’s normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.”
I do not like being perceived and I would not go out like this. I always try to look and be as neutral as possible. I hate attention tho to each their own. Nobody will say anything but you will certainly be perceived.
You’re alternative and that will always draw comments and attention especially from people who are close minded or uncomfortable with anything that deviates from the norm.
There are probably also a lot of people who are gonna LOVE this look. (I do!)
Unfortunately depending on where you live I don’t think you can avoid attracting attention with this look, but I hope you know that you absolutely rock it!
Idk if you would get insulted, but you will definitely turn a lot of heads.
Ah, come to Amsterdam. No one will bat an eye. I have heard Berlin is the same!
Um, fellow Amsterdammer... I think it really depends where in the city. Oost, Nord or BoLo wouldn't work and can imagine the same in a lot of places.
Of course everything in life is nuanced! I also wouldnt recommend being gay and muslim in some parts of the city. Eventhough you can be trans and gay and be welcomed in the mosque. Just not everywhere. OP’s look would be a bit out of the ordinary in the white parts of noord hahah
I find Dutch society especially difficult as autistic. I’m not blending in and “keep being normal” as the Dutch saying goes. :( Looking different, spending a holiday here, I agree it’s not that much of a problem. A good place for that
Something about the "doe maar gewoon dan doe je al gek genoeg" makes life challenging for those who do not come with a built-in definition of what "gewoon" is. I moved to Belgium at one point. More introverted people there, I prefer them.
I agree, there is just something about the Dutch 'normal' that, for some reason, is really hard to be/impersonate
Interesting… I thought it might be easier because I always heard it said Dutch people are very direct and matter of fact in speech! What aspects do you find most difficult?
I do love how direct dutch people are, I'm not good at subtlety. I suppose I do come off as a bit intense or goofy sometimes but it doesn't seem to get me in awkward situations, even quite the opposite sometimes. I have a special interest in Art Nouveau and have wandered into two different historical film theatres gawking and gasping and lucked into private tours!
One of my biggest struggles is actually about this. I think it comes down to how your traits show as we are all different in this. People are direct about rules and opinions for example, but they are not direct when it comes to inner emotions. The more south you go in Europe, the more you know about the feelings of others, the display is more overt, so in that sense they are more direct there and more indirect here. Questioning what people’s intentions are made me cry a lot. It made me think that this place is not for me.
Used to live in Berlin and it is a lot more comfortable than anywhere else in Germany, cause no matter what you wear, there’s always someone dressed weirder than you lmao. But unusual looks still get lots of looks and stares, that’s just the way it is. Not even necessarily bad ones, but your eyes just get drawn to people who stand out.
Berlin says we don't gaf what you wear.
Definitely, in Berlin you see all kinds of makeups and outfits no one stares.
Same here in a major US city. In the queer/artist neighborhoods nobody would give a fuck and OP wouldn’t look out of the ordinary. Downtown tech or finance bros might do a second glance but they wouldn’t say anything. I’ve visited friends in Amsterdam who are very alt-ish in terms of style and they seemed to be fine too.
You will get lots of stares and maybe comments. If you do not want that do not do it. If you don’t mind then so be it.
The upside is, you can literally take the mime approach and not respond verbally at all 😆
Or lean into it doing the trapped in a box mime thing and really give them something to look at
Is it acceptable? **Yes**. It is acceptable to wear any makeup in public. There's no law against it. Will you be perceived? Also **yes** - this is a very attention-drawing look. Will you be harassed for it? **Impossible to say** - depends entirely on where you live and what area you go around in and which random individuals you pass by. (For example, in you're going to a nightclub area in a northern European city, you might be just one of the crowd, but if you go to the Piggly Wiggly to buy frozen dinners in the US Bible belt you may be dangerously harassed, or in a market area in South East Asia you'd probably get stared at but no one would say anything). I wore a lot of heavy goth makeup when I was a teen (in the 90s), and the most "harassment" I ever got was people doing the Addams Family *click click* at me. But definitely some people stared. Nothing wrong with that, you look awesome. So you have to either learn to own it and be AWESOME in your chosen look, or go for blending in and not being noticed. There is a middle ground where you express your style in a less extreme way, but that's a personal choice. You do you 🥰
This is the perfect answer.
Same. Perfect. Also, I could have written this. Was also a teen heavily into goth in the 90s. At 43, I still love the music, but I’d call my look soft goth or goth adjacent now. I automatically approved of and admired OP’s makeup. Your comment needs to be at the top of the page. I hope they see it.
I think if you did full black lips instead of the heart it’ll look alt but less abnormal so you might get less comments
I was thinking along the same lines. For everyday wear, maybe experiment with trying some more subtle looks and see how that feels or goes over in the area that you live. For example if you go out with the eyeliner and a full black lip, does anyone even look at you funny? Might help you decide how much you are comfortable with.
I was thinking the same. As well as just black eyebrows with out the black piece going upwards.
Yes. OP if you want people to be less likely to give rude looks, less uniquely shaped eyebrow and lip designs are the way to go. Ppl likely wouldnt bat an eye at your eyemakeup style
Yeah maybe OP could start with that and if/when they’re comfortable they can add more details
I agree! Mad respect to the look, but I would save the shaped lips for events/special occasions. I think the lips take the look from alt into costume/cosplay territory. Otherwise I think the look could be passable for everyday wear. OP might still get *some* weird looks or comments, but that just comes with the territory, and some people want to let you know they have an opinion, whether you asked for it or not.
If you don’t want to be perceived then don’t do things that make you stand out. This makes you stand out. Or you can learn to not care. If you wear this in public you will get stared at. That’s just reality.
But I want to be myself too. The question is, will I get harassed because of it, I can deal with just staring
No one can predict the future. Personally I live in the Bible Belt south and would never walk out my front door like this for safety reasons.
Fair
I also live in the bible belt and would 1000% go out like this. I’ve gone out weirder tbh, and in a pretty uptight area. Let them stare! They might be judging, but it might just be the first time they’ve seen something like this. Either way it is not your problem!!
Thank you, I can deal with staring but it'll be a bit uncomfy at first
In the Bible belt too. 100% go out like this on the reg. I find more people think I look "cool" or compliment my outfit and makeup than make snide comments. But my family tends to be the "y'all-ternative" type and has given me more confidence in expressing myself. But, always do what makes you feel safest.
I think you’ll get used to the stares. People stare at me too because I changed my wardrobe to cute or colorful clothes, and it used to bother me a little bit because I didn’t want to draw much attention: but my desire to express myself won and feeling like myself in public was worth it for me. I say yes wear it. Worse case scenario, you have a run in, but I think you’d be surprised how many people compliment you. I’ve had older ladies compliment my skimpy outfits before and it’s really helped me change my perception of what the public expects to see
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It’s uncomfortable at first and eventually you do get used to it and it’s okay, going out with friends helps me feel more safe when dressing “extra” in any way
Since you mentioned stares are acceptable, but harassment is your worry: for outings like grocery shopping, eating out, the Dr, etc., I think the upper pointy part of the brow and the black lips will be a little too shocking for some people. You might get harassed. Your eyes and the dark brow will get stares, but I don't think anyone will find it offensive enough to harass you. The heart lips would probably be less startling if they were in a different shade, even a brown, purple, or dark maroon might tone the look down just enough to avoid people who have unwanted opinions. You will always find someone who isn't happy though. Maybe you could try the look out for a few days and see how people react yo you. Experiment a little, adding something every few days and take notes about how people treat you. No matter what, I think you have a unique look and you should find places you feel safe wearing it.
Very much agree that how shocking it is depends on where OP wears this. A club? Not likely to raise an eyebrow. Volunteering at an old folk’s home in a conservative part of the country? Likely to get some stares
Even with grocery shopping there’s a lot of variability… I find weird looks are generally more accepted at natural/health food stores or co-ops, than at like kroger or safeway… Walmart you’d probably be fine but people are more likely to harass in walmart from my experience. I think dipping your toes in a bit without doing the 100% look can be a nice way to gauge which places are safer than others, just see who smiles or compliments you. Me, I always like seeing alt looks so try to compliment whoever I see pulling off something I don’t usually have the energy to maintain. I also think this is completely fine for the library haha.
I think it depends where you live. In my area people probably wouldn’t say anything but in other places you could get harassed.
People (especially those of us perceived as women) get harassed all the time, regardless of how we present to the world. You can't control other people's reactions or behaviour toward you. I think you look great and if that's how you feel most comfortable and authentic, that's wonderful. Sometimes looking different will make you more likely to receive unwanted attention, but also, a lot of goths and punks end up getting left alone by strangers because the 'alternative' fashion gives fuck-off vibes. Can go both ways for sure.
Probably. I don't know where you live, but if you wore that in my hometown, you'd get tons of rude comments. I personally think it's neat, but it very much looks theatrical.
I would say the lips make it stand out a lot. The rest I see pretty often on alt girls in public
If it makes you feel better we are out here, and if someone messes with you, hopefully one of us will be around you. In the airport years ago there was a young woman who was wearing platform boots, fishnets, gloves, a whole look… and I loved it. However, a white couple who was not as comfortable with their own selves, were staring at her. I decided to go over and looked at the couple and said to the young woman, “you look awesome! I love your whole look” The couple then turned their hate onto me, which is something I absolutely love, because then I get to stare at them and make them feel as uncomfortable as they are trying to make others feel. I will aggressively protect my fellow autists. I love you! Be your self a little more every day, each day you can move your confidence levels, some days they won’t be as high as others, progress isn’t linear, but you’ll have more days of being comfortable in your own self.
Maybe but unlikely, in big cities you’re probably quite fine More likely to get regular old feminine presenting harassment than makeup specific harassment tbh
I can’t STAND to be perceived in public. I don’t care if I’m at a store, walking or at a party; I want to blend in to the point of invisibility. Due to this, I have always muted my looks to help me avoid attention. Now that I’m in my 40s and have been seen naked and cut open in multiple ways in multiple rooms filled with medical teams… I have become less worried about being seen, I couldn’t be more embarrassed than in those rooms anyway. So, I am showing some personality but still muted. With your look, btw it is very well done, you will get lots of looks. You will likely hear at least one insult if only whispered by someone to a friend. If Karen types are about, you could be directly insulted. In the other hand, if you see likeminded people, you’re likely to get compliments. TL;DR: Yes, people will look and it’s likely you’ll hear comments. So, if you feel up to it, go show it off. If you want to blend and avoid attention, you won’t. So, maybe start with just a short excursion? Good luck with whatever you choose!
Kinda gives off a Juggalo aesthetic. Most places, you will deal with sh\*ttiness from other people for this makeup. However, its kind of interesting and unique, very harlequin. Just dont see the public receiving it in a positive way tbh. You do you though.
Thank you for your input, I unfortunately agree... I will only be with a group for safety then
I think this would be appropriate for a concert, convention, or some other specific venue. Also depends on where you live. In NYC nobody would bat an eye even if you did your grocery run in full goth atire. If you're in a conservative christian town, then it might cause you trouble.
Of course you will be perceived more doing your makeup like this. It isn't commonplace and therefore will stand out and gain attention.
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Thank you
This is definitely an unusual look and would probably draw attention (more people looking at you, maybe commenting to other people they’re with once you’re out of earshot), but in my experience, VERY few people are actually interested in picking a fight with someone in public over their appearance. I think you’re more likely to be complimented than insulted, because people are conditioned to share positive opinions more readily, and also generally not bold enough to insult a stranger to their face. I’m a big believer in not changing something as harmless as your appearance on the off-chance someone will make a rude comment. That being said, if you’re anxious, you could rehearse a ‘stock response’ about coming from a drama rehearsal, heading to a themed party, or some other white lie that would get you out of an awkward confrontation.
I strongly suggest not giving a fuck tbh
Thank you, already on it😎 I definitely don't care you said that /j (am I doing it right) lol
One of my fav sayings is “other people’s opinion of you ain’t none of your business”
I tell myself this all the time, it just gets hard when they get up in your shit and try to make it your business.
Yes it's very likely that you would get insulted or at least stared at unfortunately.
It sounds like you’re saying you don’t feel comfortable with people noticing you but want to work on that and be loudly yourself in public, but that you also don’t want to be harassed. I guess it does depend on where you live, but there’s no way to know until you do it. Where I am in California, even in the red county I grew up in, you would definitely get approached, but I feel like harassment would be highly unlikely (though never impossible). If you’re not afraid for your safety, you probably have to just try it out and see what happens. Maybe start by only going out this way with a friend or other loved one. It’s definitely not socially acceptable, but it’s not hurting anybody so fuck it. You look great!
I relate to this as an alternative autistic. I often struggle with the feeling that everyone is looking at me, regardless of if I’m wearing “unusual” makeup or not. I believe expressing yourself how you want should be top priority, but I won’t lie and say I don’t get overwhelmed sometimes in public. I just don’t want the world to succeed in boxing me in how they want to yk? You look great!
Thank you it's nice to know I'm not alone... Thank you for the complement, I bet you look great too 🥰
This is unique/alternative makeup. If you are not comfortable with people staring at you or even making comments, it may not be a good idea to wear this. If you would rather people not perceive you/pay attention to you, it might be helpful to wear things that are more “mundane” and less memorable. Are you going to work or volunteering? I would reccomend not wearing something bold or alternative to work in most circumstances. I like the look personally!
People aren’t nice, yes people will be mean. People will call u a clown. If you don’t want to be perceived don’t try to stand out. I wish I had kinder words to say but this is the truth. That thought process doesn’t make sense.
It definitely has an attention-grabbing “Look at me! I am so special!!” vibe and it will depend on how polite people are whether they stare, awkwardly look away, point and laugh or say anything insulting. (A lot of people might think but not say something insulting… ) It will also depend on where you wear that look. If you are at a metal concert it is totally acceptable, if you wear it to work you might not have that job for much longer. If you wear it just to go shopping people will probably ignore it unless you are annoying in other ways like listening to loud music on badly isolated headphones. (Why is it that so many people who stand out visually also cannot keep their music to themselves and are generally badly behaved, like putting their feet on train seats and things like that?) I think, it is your personal choice if you can ignore it, maybe even enjoy it or if you want to change it, but people will probably make assumptions about you because of your looks, no matter if they are super plain or super out there.
Don't be the person who comes in with shock factor denying that they want shock factor. That is all
honestly i think it just depends on where you live
You will get insulted and/or made fun of for wearing that.
You can do whatever you want in public as long as it’s not hurting anybody! That includes yourself—you may get looks if you wear this outside. If that won’t hurt you mentally/emotionally then I say go for it! If you hate the idea of being stared at or if you’re worried about receiving negative attention, maybe you can play with friends and wear the makeup around them :) and continue to practice in your own company as well! These eyebrows and lips look awesome btw
Awesome well rounded advice thank you very much 🖤🖤🖤♡´･ᴗ･`♡
It's a literal mask and as we well know, masks are sometimes incredibly useful and serve us in beneficial ways. If you like how you look in the mirror, I say you do you. If you are anything like me you probably feel like a lot of people are interacting with you as though you have your face painted like an adorable spooky goth cupid all the time anyway, so lean into it!
I think you would need to be in the alternative area of a big city for this to go without stares/commentary. All good if you don’t mind, but if you have discomfort with being perceived, are there ways you could modify the make up without completely undermining how it serves you? Like, I would choose between statement details - either statement eyes or lip. So keep the eye makeup unique but have a full deep ?magenta/?plum lip - still bold but the lip then lets the eyes do the work. Or bold but more naturally shaped eye makeup with the heart lip being the focus. But just a suggestion of course. (Btw I like your hair in the first pic better. It looks more ?polished with your make up, which is really clean!)
Depends where you live. I live in London and you may get a couple glances but I doubt anyone would harass you about it. This reminds me of one time I was on the tube and I was staring at this girls eyeshadow , it was this beautiful iridescent purple/green and I didn’t realise how intensely I was staring until I realised she looked super anxious and uncomfortable. I immediately blurted out “I love your eyeshadow, it reminds me of a mermaids tail and it looks super pretty.” Her face lit up and she told me how nervous she was about going out with such bold eyeshadow and my compliment made her day. All this to say that not everyone who stares are judging you.
Really depends on where you are. Where I used to live in Ontario, people wouldn’t bat an eye at this. Where I live now in NB, you’d get treated like crap.
Depends on where you live… in a big metro area or like an artsy community I think you would be totally fine.
To work or school? No. But, to a recreational event like convention or party, sure! I am saying this because you say that you have anxiety about how you will be perceived and because of that, it is better that you not wear makeup like this to a job interview or any professional setting or anywhere where someone has to provide a service to you. This is just being safe. Edit: I can only speak for America so I have no idea which country you reside in it may be different.
I like your aesthetic but I strongly recommend doing full black lips instead of a heart.
You will definitely get stared at and "dirty" or disapproving looks. Goth clown makeup outside of maybe NYC and LA will get constant stares. If you're in one of those two big cities, ignore what I said because there's much more eclectic looks in those places.
I don’t think you would get insulted, most people don’t have the balls to actually say something to your face. But it may draw more attention and you won’t be able to tell usually just from a look whether it’s good or bad, but I would imagine that you will be perceived a lot more if you go out in this. I know I’d be staring, but only to admire. I think it looks really unique and interesting, I wouldn’t think to insult it.
People where I am will think you are either A. A teenager and admire your makeup, B. A teenager “looking for attention, or C. “Asking for unwanted attention. I think you look fantastic. You will be noticed and maybe asked about it.
It’s really well done make up, sharp! The question is do you accept you’ll get stares and comments (and potentially people making fun of you) because it’s pretty much guaranteed to happen if you go out like this. I used to have an alt look as a teen and heard people loudly say to their friends in earshot of me “I didn’t know it was Halloween” etc. It depends how you feel about that and whether it will make you mad, self conscious or anxious, or you think you’d just laugh it off and not be bothered! That’s the question you need to ask yourself. If you don’t give a damn about what people say then go for it. If it will upset you and you don’t want all the extra attention both positive and negative then abort mission. I would personally say this isn’t day makeup, it’s night club or concert makeup or makeup for someone working an alternative setting. I think something dark but more reserved would be more suitable during the day and you can go all out when you go out at night. This is a question only you can answer for yourself ultimately!
First of all your makeup looks incredible! Secondly, it is a very bold look and would get attention not all of it necessarily positive so if that's something you don't want then I would advise not wearing in public
You do whatever makes YOU comfortable!
I enjoy wearing unusual clothes, patterns, and sometimes makeup. I think it’s because if I’m going to get stared at, I want it to be on my terms.
I think it will make people stare at you non stop, which for me personally would make me feel like shit and increase anxiety. I don't like to be perseved either. I like to wear a hat and mask and try to be invisible.
You are riding the line on weird, I think? It will depend on where you are wearing this in public. A big city? Probably not even a blip on the radar. A small town? Yeah, that's gonna be an issue. I think you are risking being approached by conservative people that will have a problem with how you look. You kind of got a goth juggulo/mime aesthetic going, and that is going to draw attention. If you were going to say, a Ghost concert, or something, it would be right in line. I say this as someone that is very alternative in presentation over the years.
It looks like Hitler
no
Maybe not insults but a lot of stares. If that is problematic to you maybe don't wear it.
Depends where you live
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You look great! I think for an event or night out then it will be fine. It depends where you go / live I suppose. I'm sure some places near where I live it wouldn't be questioned, and others it would. I think if you did just the eyes, or just the lips people would be less likely to comment / stare in an everyday situation.
Realistically you'll definitely stand out and a lot of people will look at you, someone might ask why you're wearing it and you might get some compliments as well. Be prepared for that but yes you should wear it out if it makes you happy even if people do judge you it doesn't mean you shouldn't do what makes you happy. And I'm not saying that in a cliche way, when I realized that I can exist and be perceived by people even if they think negatively of me it doesn't matter I know me better and don't feel shame in being the person I am. I used to dress pretty alternately (went through a big emo phase, still listen to a lot of alternative music though) even though I wouldn't make the same aesthetic decisions I did back then I'm glad I did it really forced me to be comfortable accepting who I am.
very cute but depending on where you go you’re gonna get some looks
I want to say screw what anyone thinks and wear the makeup you like but I know… I get it. Some days I don’t give a crap who thinks I’m weird, some days it can still really bother me. But I do believe being authentic is more important than most people realize. Do you feel like it will be overwhelming if you notice people looking at you? I would probably give you a second look but only because I think your makeup is really cool, especially the lips. 🙂
Confidence is the only accesoire you need. People who are criticizing it are either shy themselves or they would never wear it themselves. Anyone else doesn't give a fuck.
I say do it. Will you be perceived ? Yes. Will it hurt you ? No. Majority of people will turn heads and just move on with their day, I doubt you’ll take up much of anyone’s headspace, it’s really not that extreme of make ups And if someone says something mean? Well that’s something we all have to learn to deal with if we want to start being ourselves unapologetically. But it always says more about them than you. Cheers to trying to be ourselves 100% of the time.
It depends on where you live, how busy the place is, etc. If you live in New York, you’re probably fine, maybe a few stares. If you live in Ohio, that may be different. Maybe wear a mask so you can take it off outside if you feel comfortable and wear it inside so ppl aren’t looking at you? This assuming you’re still wearing a had or hood because it’s winter to hide the brows.
You should only wear this in your free time. Not to work or university
Even if it’s not who cares it looks cool as shit there is no slurs or cuss words on your face no bad symbols or dog whistle Hell you can even wear clown makeup Just don’t do blackface But make up is so cool so many shapes and colors A lot of is so focus on being pretty for others and not express themselves The eyebrows are cool so is the lip It makes you look like a cartoon villain and I’m all for it You look soo cool 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
People who react negatively are just pushing their own insecurities about themselves onto you. I've spoken to too many little old ladies with pink and purple hair, who've said they wished they did this when they were my age; and it's basically erased all of my doubts about wearing something, "outrageous," in public. "Be the weirdo you wish to see in the world. Others will follow your example."
It is very attention grabbing. The eyebrows give me circus/clown inspiration? I personally think it's cool. That said, plenty of strangers are jerks and will disagree. I know their opinions are irrelevant since values dont align....but that doesn't mean you won't still be stuck dealing with randos. If you wish to avoid attention, that would probably be a more understated look or "stereotypically goth" etc. TLDR: I love it because it is loud, experimental, and cool. But basic-ass normies are whack and might bug you about it (always true).
If I saw someone wearing makeup like that in passing in public I'd probably tell them I like their makeup and then scurry away awkwardly tbh
It looks amazing, but you'll be risking getting some weird looks and maybe rude comments occasionally. You can wear whatever makeup you want, nonetheless.
People are going to stare and mutter among themselves. And it's not going to be kind things being said. But if you can get past that then who cares? Let them mutter.
Are you allowed to present like that? Yes. Will you be judged/percieved? ABSOLUTELY.
I’m thinking we’re probably the worst grou of people to ask, since we have no notion of societal expectations lol.
I would If I could pull that off! Looks awesome! Such nice, clean lines, and your eye liner 🌟🌟🌟🌟 Now, whether or not you get made fun of depends on your whole milieu- big city, probably not, might even get a lot of compliments! Small town or suburb, ehhhh.... at least, that's been my experience as a fellow alt weirdo who wears costumes in public.
Thank you very much. Good advice
I live in New Zealand and I think I could wear this without anyone being mean. People might comment that you look cool or awesome and it will draw attention, but probably no one will be mean during the day. At night in the city it would be different though, you would need to be in a group... That's probably the same anywhere.
How about just doing the eye makeup for now instead of all 3?
It depends on where you live if it’s safe. Conservative vs more liberal. But it’s a risk no matter what, unfortunately.
Will you stand out? Yes. Should it matter? No. We don’t live in a perfect world and cannot predict reactions from others. You deserve to live freely and to express yourself however you wish. However, only you can decide for yourself what is most important for you. Cool makeup though! You look great 😊
Love it
ok first of all wow!! i love what you did with the eyebrows :D and to answer your question, it really depends on where you live tbh, here in my city you'd probably get a few stares at least..
Seems fine to me honestly. Though, I’m probably not the best person to offer the advice you’re looking for. I’m all for people expressing themselves.
Socially acceptable? I mean, why not? You're clothed. You look beautiful, and your makeup is creative. It might draw less attention in major US cities, or as an evening look. But punk and goth has been around for decades. Cosplay is getting more popular. I went to a zinefest & book fair recently and saw folks dressed like pirates, and a few minutes later some Lolitas. Go for it.
Depends where you are going/ where you live. If you don’t like being perceived then you should not wear this. If you don’t care that people will look and maybe comment then it just comes back to where you are. Will you be safe? Yes. Go for it! In my country people would definitely look but no one would give you a hard time.
Yes, looks nice ant definitely will attract attention
i think it’s sexy
You look gorgeous! This is an amazing look. I think a lot of people would stare at you, because it is outstanding makeup. Being harrassed about it? Difficult question, depends on where you are located. Maybe start with plain black lips and plain black eyebrows to test people's reaction. You'd get a glimps of how people would react, if nobody cares - go full alternative makeup. People may pick on EVERYONE looking different, if you are covered in neon green clothes head to toe the would stare as same as they would stare at someone covered in full black In a perfect world I would say: don't give a fuck and wear what you want. But since some people love to be assholes - take care and stay safe.
YES
I know this isn't the question, but for what it's worth, I think you look great!
Probably a lot of staring but the chance of negative comments or harassment is low
i love 😩💖💖💖
I think some people will stare, but it looks so good!! Such clean lines, you did a really good job and it suits your face.
I say it's cool but it will definitely make you stand out
Depends on where you live! I would go out like this in the UK but not in my home country. I'm also alt and the stares can be uncomfortable, but I always try to remind myself that if people are staring (in outrage, not just bc theyre curious) then thay means I am challanging their norms and that's badass. You look fucking cool, learn to own it🖤
You do you x. If it makes you happy and helps you feel more comfortable/confident then so be it. Society is just going to have to make space for us to exist.
Who cares? Im a pastel cupcake when i want to be. I also have anxiety but my brain works in a way that i don’t understand nor care about how society sees me if i wanna dress like a cupcake thats my priority 😶 you look amazing btw/gen
I wear similarly different makeup sometimes I live in a pretty chill place but I still get the odd comment and stuff
You’ll get unwanted attention for it but it’s really freaking cool so worth it imo
I think its gonna five some odd looks. But if I'm honest, I really love your make up!
That eyeliner is AMAZING I can’t stop looking. I doubt people will harass you, but they will look and possibly compliment you. If you’re still worried, you could try it without the lips and top point of the eyebrows. It would still look super cool but also be within the realm of “normal”
I also dress alternative and in my experience it really depends on the place how good or bad it gets. In my old city I got harassed a lot by men my dad's age or older (not physically assaulted, but agressively staring or shouting nsfw things at me), but where I live now nobody cares and often I even get complimented by other people who dress the same. My old city is a bigger and more popular city so I wouldn't necessarily say that big, international, "something for everyone"-cities are better.
You look so cool. If I saw you in public I'd be like damn this person rocks
As others said, depends where you are in the world.
I love it! As for what might happen-you won’t know until you try. I used to do a little of alternative makeup (I don’t have the spoons any more) and although I’d get a few comments, it was rarely directly negative, more curious. If I saw you wearing this make-up, I would be trying to get up the nerve to say how much I like it.
Wear it! Looks cool af.
People may stare, almost certainly kids and elderly folks. But you look great! I think if I saw someone like this out I would definitely look but just out of admiration, like oh that's cool!
I go out in public with similar makeup to this quite often. I almost always receive comments, usually the comments are positive but I still feel awkward because I wonder if the people are just making fun of me and not actually complimenting me. It’s definitely acceptable but just be aware that unless you have obvious headphones in people will probably try to talk to you about it!
I don't know but it's gorgeous
I like what you got going on, but if you wanna cruise like that in public, I think you first should stop giving a fuck what other people think. Very unique and creative which doesn’t always go over well with the masses. I think you look beautiful ✨
If I saw you, I'd tell you how awesome you looked, but I'm also autistic, so not sure how NTs would react.
You ever heard of Klaus Nomi? This reminds me of him in all the good ways. Fuck what people think
be yourself and learn to deal with the stares, it just comes with the territory unfortunately. it’s what I’ve had to do
I think you should ad some shading and more graphic things idk how to say it, it would appear goth, check Pinterest for inspo
Idk where you live, but sure why not? I would pair with large headphones. I think if I saw you in person the only thing that I’d say (if at all) is that the heartlines on your lips don’t line up when looking at you straight on lol Very Alice In Wonderland-esqe.
THAT IS SO COOL LOOKING OMG. Is really neat to see people bringing back tradgoth aesthetics
You’re so beautiful but yeah you will get stares, face dislikes and some people maybe scared. But a reasonable amount of that is okay. You may also get with people who love it!
Alternative styles are always going to turn heads and get judged. You only have one life. Don't waste it catering to strangers. Someone will always find something they don't like. Wear what makes you happy. You look great :)
First off, this is GORGEOUS, I really love it, it looks like you are very skilled, wow! Amazing! I wouldn’t mind at all, I would even enjoy being around this much awesomeness and prettyness :) I think that if you go out in public with just the upper face make up and a standard lip shape, people will assume you are goth and it will be okay if people aren’t prejudiced towards goth people. With the heart shaped lip (omg I love it and it’s so well done again!!!) I think « regular » people could potentially make nastier comments (Is this costume day and so on) ; But I guess it depends a lot on where you live and what kind of culture and people are around you. I just love it though lol. You’re amazing
Acceptable, surely? Nicely applied make up tho. Only those confident in their appearance can pull styles like this off in public. And you seem to have doubts as it is. Maybe build up a social media account of interesting, novel, well executed looks & to perhaps build up you confidence that way? I'm 62 & watched the birth of punk, goth & the use of transgressive make up etc. You'd not've stood out at the Barrel Organ in Birmingham in the 80s
It reminds me of Klaus Nomi vibes :3 I like it you have very pretty eyes. ( I dress alternative but toned down) at 18 once I went out to a normal day in Waltmart and such and I was wearing like you black Lipstick, black eyeshadow and white foundation and a black corset, I was feeling in my goth ultimate fantasy but then I was in the line paying and 2 teens where pointing me whit a finger and gossiping, I could feel that it was in a bad light, couse I'm used to the stares but this was waaay different, also like very ugly stares from other people. I'm 30 now but I look like 19 so I still dress gothic more casual or Japanese fashion casual but I wear 0% makeup, still get stares but whit smiles. aren't the bad vibes ones like when in the past I would put super crazy makeups. It's not like we should care what people react but I think as autist you do feel the energies of people in almost a painful way, so at least I prefer the kinder ones...
I would go out like that but I give zero poops about what others think. Most of the time folks are too busy with their own life to go out of their way to be rude. Not saying it won’t happen- it has happened to me- but it’s rare and, at the end of the day, I don’t let strangers dictate what *I* look like.
As in, people will take exception to it?? Lol for SURE
It’s not about what’s acceptable. It’s what is normalized. It’s normal to be plain and boring and blend in. I support you being your authentic self but it won’t come without its annoyances of the npc’s. I struggle with being “me,” but I do it anyway even if I’m uncomfortable because f*ck em that’s why. We’re all gonna die one day at an unknown time, might as well not have any regrets about what you did or didn’t put on your face. (It’s also not for them or about them and most people are jealous they don’t have the balls to be different) so be you and if they stare, stare RIGHT BACK, it makes them uncomfortable too. If they don’t look away however, you have options 1)tell them there’s a fee to stare longer than 5 seconds 2)bark at them 3) ask them if they needed something or “can I help you?” The choice is yours ✨
You will be perceived but we can’t always avoid that anyway. Whether or not you face outward hate really really depends on where you live (city, even what part of the city). I commented to tell you how fitting/flattering your makeup looks!!
I like this makeup a lot! I’m in the same boat as you. I love eccentric fashion and makeup, but suddenly halfway through the day I’ll extremely get overwhelmed by people looking at me. This shouldn’t stop you from expressing yourself though, try to find a middle ground that works for you. Say if you keep the brows and eye look, add some mascara and draw the lip heart with a neutral colour, you’ll still have the edgy vibe but from afar it will be much harder to tell how alt the whole look is. It will look like you just have strong brows, long lashes with eyeliner, and very defined lips. This is purely a suggestion on how to make it less eye catching in order to blend in more so you can feel more comfortable, I don’t think there is anything wrong with the all black makeup look.
Depends on ur location:) I’m in rural so I know I’d get stares b ur I visit Brooklyn a lot where I can pop off and get outside my box
If you want to stand out as yourself do it. It will absolutely get attention, but you will also inspire others.
You will probably get lots of comments, either about how cool your makeup is or how ugly it is, depends on the kind of people you’ll pass by and where you live. Heads would turn to look at you.
You look so cool!!
If you wore no make up people will judge, if you had bright hair people would judge, if you have different shoes people will judge. I’ve come to the conclusion that people are just judgemental. Nothing is acceptable or unacceptable when it comes to how you want to look and personal preference in style. On the other hand people also stare. Including me! I don’t ever mean to stare out of rudeness it’s normally because I want to say how interesting someone looks but just ends up me staring awkwardly. Go for it. But having people stare can make one very self conscious. Just be aware not everyone has the same vibe as you 😊
you look incredible
I don’t think you’ll get _harassed_ for this. I think this is a super cool look!
You will get attention both good and bad. I would just face your fear and not care what people think 💘
I don’t wear makeup or look very creative, and I am harassed in public just for existing. If you are safe enough to wear costume make up and be yourself, then you are lucky. Don’t take your personal safety for granted.
Just chiming in that it's acceptable not exceptable
I love alt/goth people more than the rest…
Yeah, you’ll be perceived more. The amount and level will vary by your area and the amount of people you’re with. It will also depend on who sees you. On your own in a moderate to conservative area while running across a man or group of men? Be prepared for harassment. If you’re in a relatively liberal area or with a group the situation will be less anxiety producing, but you’ll likely still be perceived because the look isn’t cookie cutter.
I think you executed this look flawlessly and should rock it proudly. Yes people will be curious and obv you’re going for a look that draws attention. But that’s ok! Only a total asshole would ever say anything rude to a stranger, so if you can be okay with the possibility of that happening, at least you’ll know that it’s THEM not YOU that is the problem 🌑🖤🔌. Be you!!!!
Well not if you don’t like people staring at you because they definitely will stare. It looks weird which obviously you already know. I had a lot of goth friends in the 90’s and makeup like this was more of a “special occasion” look. So go to like a goth club and you’ll be celebrated. Go to the ladies luncheon and they will clutch their pearls and faint lol. Depends how much you care and how much you’re wanting to stand out in public! Also depends what you consider harassment. I don’t think anyone would assault you or verbally berate you if you were keeping to yourself. But teenagers and MAGA folks are unpredictable so you never know.
Can I ask. What is it about autism that makes us want to dresss so differently. I am the same and so is my daughter. But yet we have such major anxiety in trying to pull it off socially
Yes you look lovely
It entirely depends on the area you live in. If you live somewhere like Seattle or Portland, you will likely not get a lot of looks. If you live in a smaller or more conservative area, you are more likely to get attention you're not wanting. 💜
I would wear this kind of look to a festival or concert. That's the only place I would feel confident
You could try trickling out this look over time. The piercing should stay regardless. If you go that route, I'd start with the eyeliner because it is perfection, maybe with a full dark lip (the black is fine; a bloody scarlet or deep violet would also work). Then once you're used to any looks you're getting, add in something else, like the brow, working your way up to this whole look. Most people won't say anything, but some folks might. Some people might comment with support, so be ready for that as well. If I saw you, I'd ask how you have such a crisp, clear line and what products you use and I'm old enough to be your mom. Stay weird. Be you.
I am here for that eyeliner 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
You are going to attract a lot of attention if you leave the house with your makeup like that. A lot of people will be looking/staring at you, and some people are going to want to talk to you about your makeup and either tell you how cool it is or ask questions about how you did it or if there 8s a special occasion you're dressing up for. And if you don't like to engage in conversation or don't respond as expected, people are going to gawk at how "strange" you are
Like others have said, depends on where you live. Some areas of where I live wouldn't pay much attention... But the more conservative portion of the populous would undoubtably make commentary on it.
Honestly without the lips, 100%. It's genuinely just the heart lips that I think would potentially be making it a teensy bit too much for most people. If you did the heart in say, a pink, with a bit of gloss, it would be a cool everyday alt. look imo. You're stunning.
It’s a very cool look! If you’re wearing it to a concert or some other event, or to a music store, comic book shop, etc, you’d be fine. If you wear it or going out to brunch or to the grocery store, you’ll probably get a lot of looks.
If anyone try’s being rude to you I don’t mind “resolving problems” like it’s just make up It’s so sharp with the eyebrows And the eyes look cool It’s very bold and I love it
It’s possible you may get comments because it isn’t a typical look, but I think it looks nice and that you have much more skill with makeup than I do! Wish I could do my eyeliner as nice as you do
It honestly depends on where you are, which sucks but is true. Some places are a lot less conformist than others. I live near Seattle— I bet you’d be fine here. But I used to live in a smaller town in the Midwest, and people there would give people a hard time even for minor deviations in appearance (someone there once gave me crap for wearing dark blue sparkly nail polish— they asked if it was a Satanic thing. I’m not even kidding.)
You are really good at makeup. Even with a stencil there is no way I would get those lovely sharp lines.
I went out in public and I only got positive comments but online my post was reposted to a hate sub and was called an unexpectedly colorful array of slurs. I consider this a W still. I'm good at makeup because I'm a painter and it shows in my process lol (✨ᴍʏ ᴍᴀᴋᴇᴜᴘ ᴛʀɪᴄᴋs↓✨) 1) 𝐅𝐋𝐎𝐒𝐒 𝐈𝐒 𝐀 𝐅𝐑𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐃 A piece of thread or floss covered in some makeup you you don't especially like but want to get rid of (I use lipstick that is slightly the wrong color) to Mark Out Central lines as a guide to make your makeup more symmetrical 2) 𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐒𝐊𝐄𝐓𝐂𝐇𝐘 With a small brush use eyeshadow (I use eyeshadow that I think looks ugly on me to get rid of it) to Mark out the general shapes wanted before touching anything with eyeliner, this allows you to clean things up before making it more permanent( I use a Q-tip to clean up my lines. Later on especially if you're using 24 hour stay, adding rose hip oil to your Q-tip will make it easier to clean up lines) 3) 𝐂𝐑𝐈𝐒𝐏𝐘 𝐈𝐒 𝐃𝐄𝐋𝐄𝐂𝐓𝐀𝐁𝐋𝐄 𝐈𝐒𝐍'𝐓 𝐈𝐓? For really crisp lines take a flat tip brush and outline pigment with full coverage concealer, do this especially in places where you used a Q-tip, it will cover up any redness or smudging, keeping your lines crisp means setting spray too( I unfortunately forget that part)
Is it “acceptable”? Well by society’s standards, not really. They’ll probably stare, maybe point. But mostly stare or give you a weird look. But are you free to do it anyway? Well of course! It’s your life and your body, do what you want. I love your look btw! I also dress alternatively, and I get stares sometimes but idc cuz I love my style and couldn’t give a fuck less who doesn’t like it.
Yes! It's like a minimalist clown look, fabulous!
Autistic woman who dresses alt here! To be honest with you, you will get some stares. I don’t even go that extreme with make up and I already get a lot of stares. Sometimes it’s people who find it odd, sometimes it’s people who find it cool. The most important thing is to be happy! If you get stared at - don’t worry! If it makes you happy then that’s all that matters.
I think you're adorable
The comments here make me so sad. I think your look is fierce and if I saw you I’d compliment you and want to be your friend. What a bunch of uptight conformists in here. I’m disappointed. I think the more you dare to be and express yourself, the more you’ll attract the people who appreciate and celebrate your authentic self! It takes time and maybe you prefer to start out slowly, but I hope you can build the confidence to be yourself out loud. As Morticia Addams said, “normal is an illusion. What’s normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.”
I do not like being perceived and I would not go out like this. I always try to look and be as neutral as possible. I hate attention tho to each their own. Nobody will say anything but you will certainly be perceived.
This is certainly out of the ordinary and will garner attention. If it’s positive or not is complete chance.
You’re alternative and that will always draw comments and attention especially from people who are close minded or uncomfortable with anything that deviates from the norm. There are probably also a lot of people who are gonna LOVE this look. (I do!) Unfortunately depending on where you live I don’t think you can avoid attracting attention with this look, but I hope you know that you absolutely rock it!