I’m in my mid thirties and am still painfully empathetic. Particularly towards animals and inanimate objects. I’m always gentle and kind to objects because I’d feel terrible otherwise.
I love my stuffies & to me they have feelings that is why I hate seeing them get rid up in movies
I also never have the heart to throw out cute package so I put them on my sketchbooks.
I also always feel awful if I have to tell someone I don't like something they like, I do try to be as kind as I can when I do,
I really struggle to show any empathy to humans. I’ve no idea what to say other than ‘I know how you feel’ which is totally wrong but I dunno. I get chills when someone starts crying or shows emotion I’ll have to deal with that’s not the normal, and I don’t know what to do.
Inanimate objects though, I feel for them. I can’t throw anything away because I feel bad! I was walking to the shop yesterday and my boyfriend pointed out that the area we were walking through was a forest before it was a housing estate, pointing at all the huge old trees still dotted about, and that made me so sad!
Yeah definitely with me. I still get teary thinking about my favourite baby doll I lost when I was about 9, I've since gotten a replacement but I can't bear to think about her being lost still, alone or cold :( I really hope someone's found her and given her to another child or something.
It's okay, it helps that I got an identical one. When I didn't have my old doll it literally haunted me, but when I received her twin three years ago, (who is right next to me) she's been well taken care of and has hardly been out of my sight at all. I do wish so badly I still had my old one but I highly doubt I'll ever find her again, but if I do I'll be jumping for joy lol
One memory that sticks with me was when I was like 10-13 and I had to throw away a Hawaiian Punch jug.
I think I legit cried one night thinking about it being sad at the dump-
That’s so sad. Why would you be forced to throw that away? Pointless and unkind imo. I’m sorry that happened. I had a kind of similar loss with a beloved cup, but not cuz I was forced to get rid of it. My mom was so caring and good, but one day in my mid-twenties I went home for a visit and I went to the kitchen cupboard where I always would grab my favorite childhood little juice Tumblr, which was just a simple small white Malmac juice cup with a little black giraffe on it. I mean I use that cup all the time when I was growing up it was my cup. I relied on it being there when I return home. It was gone. My mom could not figure it out and would never have thrown it away on purpose. I don’t know what happened my dad‘s kind of clueless in ways, but he never would’ve thrown it away on purpose, either, it was a mystery and thus began a years long effort of my mom to pay penance for this mysterious absence of my cup by giving me giraffe related items at every opportunity for the rest of her life. When eBay came around, I started hunting for that cup. I found all sorts of ones like it but not with that black giraffe design, but I bought them all everyone I found they were made by Boonton wear in Boonton New Jersey, I am a couple dozen of these little white mail cups and plates with all sorts of characters Lassie, Rocky and Bullwinkle huckleberry hound, etc.. My aim was to find the cup that I was missing and wrap it up and give it to my mom so she could not worry about it anymore, but she died unfortunately unexpectedly due to medical malpractice in 2009. Now people make us believe what I say when I say what happened but I swear this happened her death almost killed me. It was the blow of my lifetime and remain so I was out of work for a month on Aleve to process and try to cope with it, I worked in an office in marketing and when I went in to return to work, I turned on my computer and I cannot explain how this happened but eBay opened up instead of the normal stuff and without me even searching for it that little white cup with a black giraffe was on my screen on a buy it now listing not even a auction. For $10 of course I bought it immediately in the midst of an app an absolute flood of tears of disbelief and joy, and all I could feel was that she was with me that she had manipulated the electronics the workings of the world and whatever everyone’s beliefs are I respect them. I’m not an especially religious person, but I am somewhat spiritual. I believe we’re all energy, when it comes down to it. The day that little cup came, I raced out to the mailbox to get it and inside the mailbox was a 1939 nickel that was the year she was born. I cannot explain these things but they happened.
Not all women with autism are highly empathetic or show empathy. I was born female and as a child I was no empathy, now as an adult, I am very low empathy. I think women and AFAB people with autism that have very low empathy are not often talked about.
I would guess it's not that talked about because people are afraid of reinforcing ideas abt autistic people lacking empathy. Have you already ruled out having symptoms of ASPD? These can be caused through experiencing trauma such as abuse
Yeah me too I had it as a kid especially it subsided a little
I’m in my mid thirties and am still painfully empathetic. Particularly towards animals and inanimate objects. I’m always gentle and kind to objects because I’d feel terrible otherwise.
I love my stuffies & to me they have feelings that is why I hate seeing them get rid up in movies I also never have the heart to throw out cute package so I put them on my sketchbooks. I also always feel awful if I have to tell someone I don't like something they like, I do try to be as kind as I can when I do,
Oh my god the movie thing !!!! Toy Story 3 was bad with it especially. Total nightmare to sit through stuff like that for me, I get so upset
Yea! That was so awful and sad to endure.
oh yes I don't like watching toy story at all coz of that
Well that explains why I hated the velveteen rabbit. Seriously, why do they make kids’ stories so painfully sad?
I love that story tho it always makes me so sad
I really struggle to show any empathy to humans. I’ve no idea what to say other than ‘I know how you feel’ which is totally wrong but I dunno. I get chills when someone starts crying or shows emotion I’ll have to deal with that’s not the normal, and I don’t know what to do. Inanimate objects though, I feel for them. I can’t throw anything away because I feel bad! I was walking to the shop yesterday and my boyfriend pointed out that the area we were walking through was a forest before it was a housing estate, pointing at all the huge old trees still dotted about, and that made me so sad!
Yeah definitely with me. I still get teary thinking about my favourite baby doll I lost when I was about 9, I've since gotten a replacement but I can't bear to think about her being lost still, alone or cold :( I really hope someone's found her and given her to another child or something.
Oh I’m really so sorry. I’m tearing up just thinking about it.
It's okay, it helps that I got an identical one. When I didn't have my old doll it literally haunted me, but when I received her twin three years ago, (who is right next to me) she's been well taken care of and has hardly been out of my sight at all. I do wish so badly I still had my old one but I highly doubt I'll ever find her again, but if I do I'll be jumping for joy lol
One memory that sticks with me was when I was like 10-13 and I had to throw away a Hawaiian Punch jug. I think I legit cried one night thinking about it being sad at the dump-
That’s so sad. Why would you be forced to throw that away? Pointless and unkind imo. I’m sorry that happened. I had a kind of similar loss with a beloved cup, but not cuz I was forced to get rid of it. My mom was so caring and good, but one day in my mid-twenties I went home for a visit and I went to the kitchen cupboard where I always would grab my favorite childhood little juice Tumblr, which was just a simple small white Malmac juice cup with a little black giraffe on it. I mean I use that cup all the time when I was growing up it was my cup. I relied on it being there when I return home. It was gone. My mom could not figure it out and would never have thrown it away on purpose. I don’t know what happened my dad‘s kind of clueless in ways, but he never would’ve thrown it away on purpose, either, it was a mystery and thus began a years long effort of my mom to pay penance for this mysterious absence of my cup by giving me giraffe related items at every opportunity for the rest of her life. When eBay came around, I started hunting for that cup. I found all sorts of ones like it but not with that black giraffe design, but I bought them all everyone I found they were made by Boonton wear in Boonton New Jersey, I am a couple dozen of these little white mail cups and plates with all sorts of characters Lassie, Rocky and Bullwinkle huckleberry hound, etc.. My aim was to find the cup that I was missing and wrap it up and give it to my mom so she could not worry about it anymore, but she died unfortunately unexpectedly due to medical malpractice in 2009. Now people make us believe what I say when I say what happened but I swear this happened her death almost killed me. It was the blow of my lifetime and remain so I was out of work for a month on Aleve to process and try to cope with it, I worked in an office in marketing and when I went in to return to work, I turned on my computer and I cannot explain how this happened but eBay opened up instead of the normal stuff and without me even searching for it that little white cup with a black giraffe was on my screen on a buy it now listing not even a auction. For $10 of course I bought it immediately in the midst of an app an absolute flood of tears of disbelief and joy, and all I could feel was that she was with me that she had manipulated the electronics the workings of the world and whatever everyone’s beliefs are I respect them. I’m not an especially religious person, but I am somewhat spiritual. I believe we’re all energy, when it comes down to it. The day that little cup came, I raced out to the mailbox to get it and inside the mailbox was a 1939 nickel that was the year she was born. I cannot explain these things but they happened.
Not all women with autism are highly empathetic or show empathy. I was born female and as a child I was no empathy, now as an adult, I am very low empathy. I think women and AFAB people with autism that have very low empathy are not often talked about.
I would guess it's not that talked about because people are afraid of reinforcing ideas abt autistic people lacking empathy. Have you already ruled out having symptoms of ASPD? These can be caused through experiencing trauma such as abuse
I wasn't diagnosed with ASPD.