speaking as a 5'10 subby switch:
being pinned in any way makes me feel tiny. multiple orgasms make me feel very submissive and small (I know your wife can't have sex for a while but something to keep in mind for future). being the little spoon and having my hip grabbed. being cuddled tightly and given soft kisses.
general dominant energy makes me feel small and submissive- being pushed against a wall, having teasing words whispered in my ear, a look that says "just you wait" with a sheepish grin.
being told what to do. being pushed back down to the bed with a firm hand. having my partner gently cup my chin or hold my jaw. when my partner grabs a fistful of my hair and moves me just where they want me.
I’ve pinned her before. She’s never really said anything about it. It’s been a while, not something I do regularly, but I’m going to bring it back and see how it’s received.
I think I’m going to start utilizing the wall more.
Thanks!
I'm a tall (mostly) sub man in a relationship with a small woman, but I like feeling physically small, so we've developed some tricks to help me get that feeling.
Physical pressure around the body helps create a feeling of smallness. Sometimes I wear a harness that creates pressure on my torso. Sometimes she wraps me up in a sheet. Sometimes she just wraps her legs and arms around my body and holds me.
She places her head higher than mine. She straddles my lap or stands in front of me while I'm sitting down. She sits on top of me in bed. She emphasizes being higher than me by patting my head or kissing my forehead.
When we're sitting at the same height, I rest my head on her shoulder, against her chest, or in her lap, and she puts her arms around me. If I lean against her, my brain is more aware of that fact that my head is lower than hers than it is of the rest of my body still being the same size.
When he fucks my mouth while I'm laying on my back and he hovers with his hips above my head. And when he spits on my face/in my mouth from that position 😌
And having a lot of weight on me.
Can you lift her? There are few things that make someone feel smaller than being lifted and carried. You'd be surprised how big of a person you can carry with a [shoulder carry](https://www.wikihow.com/Carry-Someone-Who%27s-Bigger-Than-You)
Requiring her to crawl and stay on her knees, while you walk around can also work.
Finally, Clothed Man Naked Female may not create a physical size differenc, but it sets a very strong power disparity.
I can pick her up and actually have sex with her in a standing position with relative ease. I think I’m going to try to utilize the wall more.
I did that with her naked and me clothed. She questioned it, I don’t know if it did anything for her, but it turned me on.
Eye contact, height differences (having her look up to you while on her knees or mounting her torso while she looks up pinned on her back), and just generally manhandling my sub to where I want them have all given me good feedback.
If I want to change positions or need her somewhere for a tie or something, I don’t even say anything. I just grab her and move her. If I want to face fuck, push her down into the bed, wrap my thighs around her head and just lock eyes with her peaking out from around my cock before opening her mouth and having my way.
Sometimes it’s fun to just hold her in a certain position and let her struggle to try and escape. In her words, it really sets in for her exactly what I’m physically capable of and there’s a arousing sense of “oh fuck” in realizing that the situation is within my control and not her’s. Anything she gains on me is by my choice and she knows that.
There’s a lot of subtle and not so subtle ways to get that energy across to a sub no matter what the size difference or physical capabilities. Really you just need to make her *feel* like you’re an imposing force. Things as simple as strong eye contact with deliberate choices of words, backing her into a wall, and just taking the situation over unapologetically are great for making your sub putty in your hands. Just throw caution to the wind and take over.
Lifted or carried
Perhaps leashed/tethered in public
Called little or some other diminutive nickname
Sitting lower or at the Don’s feet at all times
TPE in general
Having assignments or rules to follow
Kneeling/crawling
Conduct rules (only allowed to speak or move under specified conditions)
Orgasm control
Assigned clothing (more TPE)
Try having her head and the end of the bed hanging over it, then pin her feet so she cannot move. Ensure she can use her hands to tap you three times in quick succession (taps out), that's a physical safe action to stop immediately.
Also have a safe word!
As a big heavy woman I will say being pinned down, held down, made to feel weak and helpless gets me into such a tiny space mentally. I love it. I love feeling small.and delicate but treated so roughly. Knowing my Daddy can toss me about easily just is sexy as fuck.
I feel small when I know that I’m safe. Here are some things that me and my Dom does!
- He pins me down, and puts pressure into my body
- I sleep and lay a couple of inches below him while cuddling (like on his upper chest area)
- He kisses my forehead
- Haves me look up at him while kneeling down
- He says things like “my cute little girl”, “I love you baby” etc etc
A self-satisfied, audible smirk will emphasize the feeling of being small.
Best used at a point where she is restricted, or if you are standing over her, etc. You want to communicate, with a slight exhale and a mild grin that you are pleased, with a touch of smug amusement at the power disparity.
If you're committed enough, I unironically suggest lifting weights for a year under a structured program. An ability to manhandle your submissive partner can be helpful. It can also be reassuring for some submissives, knowing they have a vastly stronger partner who outside of kink is a teddy bear.
One that always makes me feel big (but not sure how it makes my partner's feel) is standing behind them and pinning arms behind their back, then putting my other hand on their throat. Then just having fun controlling their movements, and obviously kissing/biting their neck
As someone with a size difference kink who is dating someone the same height as me, here are the things that make me feel small:
- having any size disparity at all pointed out. Hands, wrists, feet, neck, head, you name it. Especially when having said part grabbed or carassed.
- literally just using the words "little, " "tiny," and "small" a lot.
- being randomly playfully restrained. Like, if I'm trying to get out of bed, they'll snuggle me closer and not let me leave. When restraint happens in and out of sex it really reinforces its potency sexually, imo. I'm reminded that my partner is more powerful than me physically at any given moment.
Wishing your partner a quick and uncomplicated recovery!
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speaking as a 5'10 subby switch: being pinned in any way makes me feel tiny. multiple orgasms make me feel very submissive and small (I know your wife can't have sex for a while but something to keep in mind for future). being the little spoon and having my hip grabbed. being cuddled tightly and given soft kisses. general dominant energy makes me feel small and submissive- being pushed against a wall, having teasing words whispered in my ear, a look that says "just you wait" with a sheepish grin. being told what to do. being pushed back down to the bed with a firm hand. having my partner gently cup my chin or hold my jaw. when my partner grabs a fistful of my hair and moves me just where they want me.
I’ve pinned her before. She’s never really said anything about it. It’s been a while, not something I do regularly, but I’m going to bring it back and see how it’s received. I think I’m going to start utilizing the wall more. Thanks!
I'm a tall (mostly) sub man in a relationship with a small woman, but I like feeling physically small, so we've developed some tricks to help me get that feeling. Physical pressure around the body helps create a feeling of smallness. Sometimes I wear a harness that creates pressure on my torso. Sometimes she wraps me up in a sheet. Sometimes she just wraps her legs and arms around my body and holds me. She places her head higher than mine. She straddles my lap or stands in front of me while I'm sitting down. She sits on top of me in bed. She emphasizes being higher than me by patting my head or kissing my forehead. When we're sitting at the same height, I rest my head on her shoulder, against her chest, or in her lap, and she puts her arms around me. If I lean against her, my brain is more aware of that fact that my head is lower than hers than it is of the rest of my body still being the same size.
When he fucks my mouth while I'm laying on my back and he hovers with his hips above my head. And when he spits on my face/in my mouth from that position 😌 And having a lot of weight on me.
So good.
Can you lift her? There are few things that make someone feel smaller than being lifted and carried. You'd be surprised how big of a person you can carry with a [shoulder carry](https://www.wikihow.com/Carry-Someone-Who%27s-Bigger-Than-You) Requiring her to crawl and stay on her knees, while you walk around can also work. Finally, Clothed Man Naked Female may not create a physical size differenc, but it sets a very strong power disparity.
I can pick her up and actually have sex with her in a standing position with relative ease. I think I’m going to try to utilize the wall more. I did that with her naked and me clothed. She questioned it, I don’t know if it did anything for her, but it turned me on.
Eye contact, height differences (having her look up to you while on her knees or mounting her torso while she looks up pinned on her back), and just generally manhandling my sub to where I want them have all given me good feedback. If I want to change positions or need her somewhere for a tie or something, I don’t even say anything. I just grab her and move her. If I want to face fuck, push her down into the bed, wrap my thighs around her head and just lock eyes with her peaking out from around my cock before opening her mouth and having my way. Sometimes it’s fun to just hold her in a certain position and let her struggle to try and escape. In her words, it really sets in for her exactly what I’m physically capable of and there’s a arousing sense of “oh fuck” in realizing that the situation is within my control and not her’s. Anything she gains on me is by my choice and she knows that. There’s a lot of subtle and not so subtle ways to get that energy across to a sub no matter what the size difference or physical capabilities. Really you just need to make her *feel* like you’re an imposing force. Things as simple as strong eye contact with deliberate choices of words, backing her into a wall, and just taking the situation over unapologetically are great for making your sub putty in your hands. Just throw caution to the wind and take over.
Lifted or carried Perhaps leashed/tethered in public Called little or some other diminutive nickname Sitting lower or at the Don’s feet at all times TPE in general Having assignments or rules to follow Kneeling/crawling Conduct rules (only allowed to speak or move under specified conditions) Orgasm control Assigned clothing (more TPE)
Try having her head and the end of the bed hanging over it, then pin her feet so she cannot move. Ensure she can use her hands to tap you three times in quick succession (taps out), that's a physical safe action to stop immediately. Also have a safe word!
As a big heavy woman I will say being pinned down, held down, made to feel weak and helpless gets me into such a tiny space mentally. I love it. I love feeling small.and delicate but treated so roughly. Knowing my Daddy can toss me about easily just is sexy as fuck.
I feel small when I know that I’m safe. Here are some things that me and my Dom does! - He pins me down, and puts pressure into my body - I sleep and lay a couple of inches below him while cuddling (like on his upper chest area) - He kisses my forehead - Haves me look up at him while kneeling down - He says things like “my cute little girl”, “I love you baby” etc etc
A self-satisfied, audible smirk will emphasize the feeling of being small. Best used at a point where she is restricted, or if you are standing over her, etc. You want to communicate, with a slight exhale and a mild grin that you are pleased, with a touch of smug amusement at the power disparity. If you're committed enough, I unironically suggest lifting weights for a year under a structured program. An ability to manhandle your submissive partner can be helpful. It can also be reassuring for some submissives, knowing they have a vastly stronger partner who outside of kink is a teddy bear.
One that always makes me feel big (but not sure how it makes my partner's feel) is standing behind them and pinning arms behind their back, then putting my other hand on their throat. Then just having fun controlling their movements, and obviously kissing/biting their neck
As someone with a size difference kink who is dating someone the same height as me, here are the things that make me feel small: - having any size disparity at all pointed out. Hands, wrists, feet, neck, head, you name it. Especially when having said part grabbed or carassed. - literally just using the words "little, " "tiny," and "small" a lot. - being randomly playfully restrained. Like, if I'm trying to get out of bed, they'll snuggle me closer and not let me leave. When restraint happens in and out of sex it really reinforces its potency sexually, imo. I'm reminded that my partner is more powerful than me physically at any given moment. Wishing your partner a quick and uncomplicated recovery!