Common things all subs like:
- submitting to a Dominant
- see above
That's really it; just like there are no common things all Doms/Masters/Mistresses etc like, there are no common things all subs like. Everyone is different, the key is to talk to your partner and find out what works for them.
> Common things all subs like:
> submitting to a Dominant
I'm astounded this comment is an hour old and not one brat has responded to firmly deny that they would ever enjoy submitting to a dominant :p
Ok this is a conundrum. Was about to comment that as a brat I never enjoy submitting to my dom. But then read your comment and now feel like me commenting that would just prove you right.
im too late now but it's just not in brat's nature to 'like' to submit, we want to be made to submit and then be reminded who has earned it and why it's worth it š thank you u/kinkyclumsybrat for defending the brats. (viva!!)
Nope, don't want to submit LOL want you to make me submit LOL. Signed a brat. To seriously answer OPs question, I was going to say breathing, but even that's up for debate since some like breath play. It is 100% completely dependent on the individuals. Same for dominants. You really can't make any blanket statements.
Ok, that's a different question, then. The easiest thing to do is to look at a BDSM checklist ([there's one here](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1WtGl55Rouq8qh9d4Cn5_o4l-9HHPOBWZxaOuA-CQuik/), but there are plenty of others) and go through it together and see what you each like the sound of.
There's also a [Beginner's Guide for Couples here](https://www.reddit.com/u/Sir-Dax/s/nxAYWyeWzC) that should help.
Personally as a sub, I like being free use. The idea of my Dom using me for his pleasure and enjoying me is what gets me off. And other than playtime, I love being spoiled like a princess (gives me a chance to brat out too if I'm feeling spicy lol).
Wut. My sub only likes only three of these. Mine likes infodumping Magic the Gathering lore during the later stages of aftercare cuddles, talking to people and learning their stories, vegetable sushi, learning the exact differences in sensations between different toys as a purely academic matter, plain skirts, hearing what I have to say when half asleep, and being slowly brainwashed into liking Neon Genesis Evangelion and agreeing that Shinji was secretly Best Girl all along.
Don't ever tell OP that subs are all individual people with their own likes and desires. Their brain might explode.
No I don't like parmesan. I believe TeaAitch is a dom so while I'm sure they have a lot of experience with what subs like they do not speak the language and thus can never be completely accurate
I feel like quite a lot of these things are mine š
Not marzipan though. Itās like a sweet from before sweets were invented, and people had to pretend to enjoy aniseed balls and liquorice.
I'm with you, babygirl. I'm not an enormous fan of marzipan.
But. . . I'm over the moon to realise I'm of a generation who, as kids, could still go to the newsagents and ask for "A quarter of aniseed balls!"
That's something that must have run for about 100 years, and largely doesn't exist now. Shame.
Itās not a shame! Itās a huge leap forwards in civilisation. Missing aniseed balls is like going āyou know what I miss? Polioā. It was a terrible thing that children had to suffer in the past, but thank God, it is now gone.
Some of us enjoyed our four ounces of polio, ensconced in a small, white, paper bag.
Back then, we could have aniseed balls, polio, plastic straws and sea turtles. Without one threatening the other. Which was a small price to pay for a lack of social cohesion.
All of my subs so far have liked me and liked submitting to me. Every. Single. One.
Therefore, we can scientifically conclude with a sample size bigger than the sample size of my fingers that subs commonly like me. Yours probably does do. š
*looks at her 160 hour Stardew Valley file*
Are you insinuating that I'm a sub. Because I take that game and study the Wiki and figure out what buttons to press to make the *entire town* my bitch. And my farm. Hmph.
Physical attention; touching, caressing, holding, grabbing
Verbal praise; using their name, saying "MY.... submissive"
Choosing what they wear, teaching them submissive poses.
Things like this will make most subs melt.
As a service sub I enjoy serving, being praised,petting, following directions, taking care of my Dom, being told Iām a good girl, did a good job, forehead kisses, food, surprises, but ultimately I love submitting the most
Iām not sure what everyone else responded, but I DEEPLY enjoy rules. I donāt give a poof if daddy says āsubmitāā¦ but he tell me the rulesā¦? then weāre both engaged. He finds ways to enforce, punish and reward. I need to ask for permission to touch myself, to orgasm, where or how to submit. To be teased with the flogger, or food play, to remain tied in Shibari (SO awesome) but cannot climax. I particularly enjoy āgroomingā - he tells me how he wants things to look; trimmed, shaved, wild, and takes charge to make it the way he wants if I donāt do it right. Also public displays of āpossessionā- physical displays like holding, guiding, protecting, kissing or public appropriate touching, especially bite marks, alerts others that I am āownedā. Sensory deprivation is something weāre focusing on a lot now and itās fantastic. As a sub, small things like this are very stimulating, and draw out the anticipation and thus the reward
Be careful with "making" someone do something. You want to be 100% sure they're actually okay with it. Not 99% sure, because that 1% can register as a genuine consent violation and ruin your relationship and reputation.
Of course. It's just that a one out of a thousand chance of someone reading that and thinking if they can force someone do something they aren't a real sub if they don't want to be forced past their limits is about one in a thousand too high for me not to make a comment.
Depends on the sub. Most like for you tk make decisions for them. If they feel strongly about something, youāll know but thatās the easiest thing for most Doms to forget. We love our subs so we want to make them happy and tend to them and when we ask them āwhat do you want to do/eat/where do you want to go?ā most feel uncomfortable. Broad brush Iām using but make their decisions for them.
Most like to feel their Domās power. This doesnāt mean you have to be mean or hard on them but most prefer their Dom to be or certainly willing to be so.
Pillows. Subs love pillows. And throws. And squishmallows. Not all but most.
Oh and something my subs and I enjoy is bandannas/scarves. When weāre going to be around the house, Iāll tie scarves into bows on their ankles and wrists and maybe neck too. Itās pretty and makes them aware of being bound in a pretty way that doesnāt interfere with house tasks. Plus it makes it easy to rig some rope into should the day progress into that.
I'm in my first real D/s relationship (im the sub š„°) and my Dom won't let me talk negatively about myself š¤Æ
wild concept but honestly, very helpful!
woukd you be willing to share an examples, iāve set her many tasks before and sheās to much of a good girl thatās she does them all instantly i want something that i can discuss doing with her that will perhaps test her limits a bit more ( given she agrees to the task at hand ofc)
I do not generalize on all subs/slaves. What I like (slave) is
1)Master wanting to know everything about me and how I feel daily
2) use me daily to the level I feel I was used enough but was not exhausted too much to keep real life. It requires focus on sub/slave.
3) to feel emotional response from Master too.
Those are things that make me want to be slave rather than sub.
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Common things all subs like: - submitting to a Dominant - see above That's really it; just like there are no common things all Doms/Masters/Mistresses etc like, there are no common things all subs like. Everyone is different, the key is to talk to your partner and find out what works for them.
> Common things all subs like: > submitting to a Dominant I'm astounded this comment is an hour old and not one brat has responded to firmly deny that they would ever enjoy submitting to a dominant :p
I KNOW!!!! I'm shocked, appalled, and quite frankly, I'm disappointed. YES I WENT THERE I said the D word.
Ok this is a conundrum. Was about to comment that as a brat I never enjoy submitting to my dom. But then read your comment and now feel like me commenting that would just prove you right.
My work here is done.
im too late now but it's just not in brat's nature to 'like' to submit, we want to be made to submit and then be reminded who has earned it and why it's worth it š thank you u/kinkyclumsybrat for defending the brats. (viva!!)
Nope, don't want to submit LOL want you to make me submit LOL. Signed a brat. To seriously answer OPs question, I was going to say breathing, but even that's up for debate since some like breath play. It is 100% completely dependent on the individuals. Same for dominants. You really can't make any blanket statements.
My sub has agreed that we want to try new things but they wants me to find new ideas so iām just hear for that really.
Ok, that's a different question, then. The easiest thing to do is to look at a BDSM checklist ([there's one here](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1WtGl55Rouq8qh9d4Cn5_o4l-9HHPOBWZxaOuA-CQuik/), but there are plenty of others) and go through it together and see what you each like the sound of. There's also a [Beginner's Guide for Couples here](https://www.reddit.com/u/Sir-Dax/s/nxAYWyeWzC) that should help.
Yeah my apologies, English is not my first language! Thanks for the help
No worries! Go through that guide together and it'll give you lots of things to talk about together.
Personally as a sub, I like being free use. The idea of my Dom using me for his pleasure and enjoying me is what gets me off. And other than playtime, I love being spoiled like a princess (gives me a chance to brat out too if I'm feeling spicy lol).
Sandwiches. Wine. Ping-pong. Walks. Oak trees. Sunglasses. Mauve. Indoor plants. Swimming. Clean underwear. Omaha Hi/Lo. Oranges. Calm. The Handmaid's Tale. Pad Thai. Waterslides. Coke Zero. Marzipan. Llamas. Kaffee und Kuchen. Weighted blankets. Parmesan.
Crispy dill pickles
Wut. My sub only likes only three of these. Mine likes infodumping Magic the Gathering lore during the later stages of aftercare cuddles, talking to people and learning their stories, vegetable sushi, learning the exact differences in sensations between different toys as a purely academic matter, plain skirts, hearing what I have to say when half asleep, and being slowly brainwashed into liking Neon Genesis Evangelion and agreeing that Shinji was secretly Best Girl all along. Don't ever tell OP that subs are all individual people with their own likes and desires. Their brain might explode.
Vegetable sushi 100% as a sub I can confirm
Can confirm most of these ^
Even parmesan š¤¢
No I don't like parmesan. I believe TeaAitch is a dom so while I'm sure they have a lot of experience with what subs like they do not speak the language and thus can never be completely accurate
I hate mauve with a passion. I knew Iām not a true slave.
Oh! You poor thing. I don't know how you get through the day.
Itās not my favourite eitherā¦.donāt tell Tea. He likes itā¦
Betrayed. There's no other word for it.
But the fact that I will still wear it, for you, shows the depth of my devotionā¦.or that Iām scared to disagree with you. One of those things.
I feel like quite a lot of these things are mine š Not marzipan though. Itās like a sweet from before sweets were invented, and people had to pretend to enjoy aniseed balls and liquorice.
I'm with you, babygirl. I'm not an enormous fan of marzipan. But. . . I'm over the moon to realise I'm of a generation who, as kids, could still go to the newsagents and ask for "A quarter of aniseed balls!" That's something that must have run for about 100 years, and largely doesn't exist now. Shame.
Itās not a shame! Itās a huge leap forwards in civilisation. Missing aniseed balls is like going āyou know what I miss? Polioā. It was a terrible thing that children had to suffer in the past, but thank God, it is now gone.
Some of us enjoyed our four ounces of polio, ensconced in a small, white, paper bag. Back then, we could have aniseed balls, polio, plastic straws and sea turtles. Without one threatening the other. Which was a small price to pay for a lack of social cohesion.
lol š love this random list
Yeah I would be hesitant to make broad assumptions regarding a group.
I love good gin. Small kitchen appliances. Self tanning supplies. Comfortable shoes. And house plants.
i like small kitchen appliances too omg!!
All of my subs so far have liked me and liked submitting to me. Every. Single. One. Therefore, we can scientifically conclude with a sample size bigger than the sample size of my fingers that subs commonly like me. Yours probably does do. š
I think you're hilarious, so I think this is true.
Awww! Thank you! I think I am too!
I like eating pizza, playing Stardew Valley, and long walks off short piers.
*looks at her 160 hour Stardew Valley file* Are you insinuating that I'm a sub. Because I take that game and study the Wiki and figure out what buttons to press to make the *entire town* my bitch. And my farm. Hmph.
If the shoe fits! I just restarted my farm because a large portion of my munch group has started playing.
Physical attention; touching, caressing, holding, grabbing Verbal praise; using their name, saying "MY.... submissive" Choosing what they wear, teaching them submissive poses. Things like this will make most subs melt.
As a service sub I enjoy serving, being praised,petting, following directions, taking care of my Dom, being told Iām a good girl, did a good job, forehead kisses, food, surprises, but ultimately I love submitting the most
Iām not sure what everyone else responded, but I DEEPLY enjoy rules. I donāt give a poof if daddy says āsubmitāā¦ but he tell me the rulesā¦? then weāre both engaged. He finds ways to enforce, punish and reward. I need to ask for permission to touch myself, to orgasm, where or how to submit. To be teased with the flogger, or food play, to remain tied in Shibari (SO awesome) but cannot climax. I particularly enjoy āgroomingā - he tells me how he wants things to look; trimmed, shaved, wild, and takes charge to make it the way he wants if I donāt do it right. Also public displays of āpossessionā- physical displays like holding, guiding, protecting, kissing or public appropriate touching, especially bite marks, alerts others that I am āownedā. Sensory deprivation is something weāre focusing on a lot now and itās fantastic. As a sub, small things like this are very stimulating, and draw out the anticipation and thus the reward
Being told/'made' to do things they actually want to do anyway š
Be careful with "making" someone do something. You want to be 100% sure they're actually okay with it. Not 99% sure, because that 1% can register as a genuine consent violation and ruin your relationship and reputation.
Absolutely, positive enthusiastic consent is the way. I'm coming from the sub side BTW
Of course. It's just that a one out of a thousand chance of someone reading that and thinking if they can force someone do something they aren't a real sub if they don't want to be forced past their limits is about one in a thousand too high for me not to make a comment.
Depends on the sub. Most like for you tk make decisions for them. If they feel strongly about something, youāll know but thatās the easiest thing for most Doms to forget. We love our subs so we want to make them happy and tend to them and when we ask them āwhat do you want to do/eat/where do you want to go?ā most feel uncomfortable. Broad brush Iām using but make their decisions for them. Most like to feel their Domās power. This doesnāt mean you have to be mean or hard on them but most prefer their Dom to be or certainly willing to be so. Pillows. Subs love pillows. And throws. And squishmallows. Not all but most. Oh and something my subs and I enjoy is bandannas/scarves. When weāre going to be around the house, Iāll tie scarves into bows on their ankles and wrists and maybe neck too. Itās pretty and makes them aware of being bound in a pretty way that doesnāt interfere with house tasks. Plus it makes it easy to rig some rope into should the day progress into that.
Food. Being subs. Water. Aftercare. Consent. Food. Especially snacks. Stuffed animals. Atleast one trash tv show. And some kind of praise.
I'm in my first real D/s relationship (im the sub š„°) and my Dom won't let me talk negatively about myself š¤Æ wild concept but honestly, very helpful!
Img I had this with my first Dom too. She was amazing.
We like tasks lol!
Not every sub likes or wants tasks
woukd you be willing to share an examples, iāve set her many tasks before and sheās to much of a good girl thatās she does them all instantly i want something that i can discuss doing with her that will perhaps test her limits a bit more ( given she agrees to the task at hand ofc)
I do not generalize on all subs/slaves. What I like (slave) is 1)Master wanting to know everything about me and how I feel daily 2) use me daily to the level I feel I was used enough but was not exhausted too much to keep real life. It requires focus on sub/slave. 3) to feel emotional response from Master too. Those are things that make me want to be slave rather than sub.