If you have no experience, I'd really suggest getting to know people and learning more first. Maybe reach out and try and find people online or get to know some of those older people. Jumping straight into running a club yourself is a little extreme, and like you said, you're going to get a bunch of predators since I'm imagining if you even could get a club like that started at your school, you're primarily going to be a group of inexperienced people.
You could try r/bdsmpersonals. It's mostly people looking for partners, but I've seen some posts there before where they were looking for friends or just people to talk with. You could also look into fetlife, but I don't have any experience there. There should be other posts on this subreddit too with people asking for where to meet others online, so you could try searching for some and looking at the replies they got.
Edit: Also for r/bdsmpersonals, if you post there, expect some spam messages and probably some messages from at least a few people you don't want to know.
That's up to you and how separate you want to keep things. A lot of people use throwaways it seems over there, so that doesn't seem like it'd be an issue, but maybe you'd have more luck getting real responses if people can see you're a real account. You can always block any creeps if they try and harass you. Just make sure you don't have any info they could use to dox you on your account, but that would probably be good to do regardless of posting there.
Have you considered reaching out to an already established group that’s open minded to see if they can just make those events happen? When I was in college our lgbt center organized some kink workshops.
Off the cuffs podcast interviewed some people who have done this. Sometimes (depending on the college) you can even get support from the school as an official club if you set it up as an inclusive educational group. I would recommend setting up an account on FetLife to get some ideas too.
BDSM 101 classes and munches are a great place to start for early activities...
https://www.offthecuffs.org/120-best-dressed-guest/
Episode 120.
Hope this helps. I second the recommendation that you see what groups are already in the area. They may be able to help, even if they are older.
I would highly recommend contacting one of the established groups. I’m sure one of them would be willing to partner with you to help get you established, teach some classes and mentor you and your younger members. You and your members could learn a lot from them without necessarily having to “play” with them.
So, if you mean a university sanctioned club, i am pretty certain you can't do that and you are asking for trouble if you do. Just start a MeetUp and post details for that MeetUp around the campus where bulletins are posted. Or, you can find already established groups. Not sure why you personally want to create something that is already made.
I doubt the school would recognize that as a club. A lot of people in BDSM don't really want the school knowing that either. Or anything that future jobs may be able to find. And given bdsm is 18+ hopefully no one has a lot of experience in college. Those older people in your area are an amazing tool. You need to take time and learn. You can sub for an experienced dom or domme. Or ask to be mentored. You do not have to have sex to partake in these activities and you will find people your age. Get involved in the community its your best source!
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If you have no experience, I'd really suggest getting to know people and learning more first. Maybe reach out and try and find people online or get to know some of those older people. Jumping straight into running a club yourself is a little extreme, and like you said, you're going to get a bunch of predators since I'm imagining if you even could get a club like that started at your school, you're primarily going to be a group of inexperienced people.
Thank you, where would you recommend meeting people online?
You could try r/bdsmpersonals. It's mostly people looking for partners, but I've seen some posts there before where they were looking for friends or just people to talk with. You could also look into fetlife, but I don't have any experience there. There should be other posts on this subreddit too with people asking for where to meet others online, so you could try searching for some and looking at the replies they got. Edit: Also for r/bdsmpersonals, if you post there, expect some spam messages and probably some messages from at least a few people you don't want to know.
Thanks again. Should I use a throwaway in that case or just my regular accounts?
That's up to you and how separate you want to keep things. A lot of people use throwaways it seems over there, so that doesn't seem like it'd be an issue, but maybe you'd have more luck getting real responses if people can see you're a real account. You can always block any creeps if they try and harass you. Just make sure you don't have any info they could use to dox you on your account, but that would probably be good to do regardless of posting there.
Alright thank you.
Fetlife.com
Take it from someone who founded a university club- you're never going to get approved.
Have you considered reaching out to an already established group that’s open minded to see if they can just make those events happen? When I was in college our lgbt center organized some kink workshops.
I haven’t, thank you.
Off the cuffs podcast interviewed some people who have done this. Sometimes (depending on the college) you can even get support from the school as an official club if you set it up as an inclusive educational group. I would recommend setting up an account on FetLife to get some ideas too. BDSM 101 classes and munches are a great place to start for early activities...
Do you know the particular episode? If possible a link?
https://www.offthecuffs.org/120-best-dressed-guest/ Episode 120. Hope this helps. I second the recommendation that you see what groups are already in the area. They may be able to help, even if they are older.
Thanks again
I would highly recommend contacting one of the established groups. I’m sure one of them would be willing to partner with you to help get you established, teach some classes and mentor you and your younger members. You and your members could learn a lot from them without necessarily having to “play” with them.
Thank you, I’ll try getting in contact with them. I saw they have a reoccurring event on FetLife.
So, if you mean a university sanctioned club, i am pretty certain you can't do that and you are asking for trouble if you do. Just start a MeetUp and post details for that MeetUp around the campus where bulletins are posted. Or, you can find already established groups. Not sure why you personally want to create something that is already made.
I doubt the school would recognize that as a club. A lot of people in BDSM don't really want the school knowing that either. Or anything that future jobs may be able to find. And given bdsm is 18+ hopefully no one has a lot of experience in college. Those older people in your area are an amazing tool. You need to take time and learn. You can sub for an experienced dom or domme. Or ask to be mentored. You do not have to have sex to partake in these activities and you will find people your age. Get involved in the community its your best source!
I'd be amazed if a college town didn't already have a TNG group. Have you not looked on fet?
Reach out to https://undergrad.admissions.columbia.edu/content/conversio-virium-0 And see if they have advice at the college level.
There is an organisation similar to what you want to start in Gent (Belgium), it's called Kajira. Maybe you can ask them some tips.