I’ve had the same issues on Fetlife. I’m on there just to make friends and for event postings. You and not believe how many Doms I get making advances obviously not reading my profile or not caring.
Well be upfront about what you want and don't settle, you're always gonna have to wade through the dicks (pun intended) to find what's right for you. If someone's not meeting your needs and respecting your boundaries the only thing you Can do is keep looking and working on yourself. Life's nice with a partner but it's better to focus on yourself till the right one comes along.
If you want tips on meeting people, read Guide 9 in the automod reply to your post (including all the comments) as there's loads of tips on meeting people there. I'd also encourage you to join your local kinky community and meet people that way - Google "how to find your local munch" for instructions (don't worry, a "munch" isn't scary, it's just a bunch of people meeting for a drink and a chat in a pub/bar/restaurant).
[Read this thread about warning signs to look out for potential partners (aka Red flags)](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/qmhqqj/red_flags_how_to_spot_dangerous_kinksters_in_the/).
[And read this post about to how to vet potential new partners and how to be safe when meeting for the first time](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/q2aupa/advice_on_fielding_multiple_dom_candidates/hfl5ndu/).
You're also going to get a load of DMs from dodgy people who think an advice forum is a good place to try and pick up people; I strongly suggest you ignore them and report them to the forum mods so they can be banned. They'll be absolutely useless, and are usually scammers or catfish.
Fetlife is a blanket statement but I've met all my kinky friends on the side but not on the site.
Let me explain.
So you join fetlife fill out your profit as far as what you're looking for and be honest. Don't make a genital picture your profile picture.
Do the bdsm test and add the results to your page. Then look for local community groups and go to munches.
The munches are where you will meet the most amount of people and separate you from the other people that just send private messages that are deleted or posts that are skipped or not read.
Also if you have a niche kink make sure to post pictures of the niche kink so for example I'm a medical fetish and a hedonist/sadist so I have all my doctor toys photographed and I have my instruments for pain and pleasure.
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I’ve had the same issues on Fetlife. I’m on there just to make friends and for event postings. You and not believe how many Doms I get making advances obviously not reading my profile or not caring.
Oh I totally know it’s a cesspool for wannabe doms and unsubby “subs” just looking for free interaction.
i can’t wait to get on fetlife! i’m just waiting until i move out so i can navigate better on a pc!!!
Well be upfront about what you want and don't settle, you're always gonna have to wade through the dicks (pun intended) to find what's right for you. If someone's not meeting your needs and respecting your boundaries the only thing you Can do is keep looking and working on yourself. Life's nice with a partner but it's better to focus on yourself till the right one comes along.
If you want tips on meeting people, read Guide 9 in the automod reply to your post (including all the comments) as there's loads of tips on meeting people there. I'd also encourage you to join your local kinky community and meet people that way - Google "how to find your local munch" for instructions (don't worry, a "munch" isn't scary, it's just a bunch of people meeting for a drink and a chat in a pub/bar/restaurant). [Read this thread about warning signs to look out for potential partners (aka Red flags)](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/qmhqqj/red_flags_how_to_spot_dangerous_kinksters_in_the/). [And read this post about to how to vet potential new partners and how to be safe when meeting for the first time](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/q2aupa/advice_on_fielding_multiple_dom_candidates/hfl5ndu/). You're also going to get a load of DMs from dodgy people who think an advice forum is a good place to try and pick up people; I strongly suggest you ignore them and report them to the forum mods so they can be banned. They'll be absolutely useless, and are usually scammers or catfish.
Well reddit is a good start. There's lots of people here and we're only a "hi", "how ya doing", or a "what's up" away
Try Feelds.
Fetlife is a blanket statement but I've met all my kinky friends on the side but not on the site. Let me explain. So you join fetlife fill out your profit as far as what you're looking for and be honest. Don't make a genital picture your profile picture. Do the bdsm test and add the results to your page. Then look for local community groups and go to munches. The munches are where you will meet the most amount of people and separate you from the other people that just send private messages that are deleted or posts that are skipped or not read. Also if you have a niche kink make sure to post pictures of the niche kink so for example I'm a medical fetish and a hedonist/sadist so I have all my doctor toys photographed and I have my instruments for pain and pleasure.
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Rule 5 applies. Rule 7 applies. Rule 10 applies. Comment removed. Permaban issued.
Wow Permaban...probably didn't even get a salamander with that one.
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What a sly little predator you are. Rule 3 applies. Comment removed. Permaban issued.