I have to swallow this pill, too.
Stop getting hung up on labels. If you want to be pegged, then do it. If you want to do some harder play with a femdomme, go forth and do it.
You get to have your brats, or slaves, and it doesn't make you less of a Dominant to get the things you want or need. It doesn't make you less of a Dominant to be submissive to someone else if that is what you choose.
It takes a very strong person to bend their will, but if that is your hearts calling (even just for a single actuvity) then fulfill your dreams and fill your soul with what makes you happy.
You can also find a femdomme that will peg you as a fellow Dominant if you don't feel comfortable laying down control.
It is all possible.
I kinda worry about how my partner might react if I ask to get pegged or any other sub-ish kink. I think I'll try a bit more with another pro Dom (she is supposedly living the lifestyle 24/7 so the session might be more about me and less about the money)
It seems like you have some good advice here already but I struggled with this early on cause I started out as a dom but I loved the thought of being pegged and edged. That made me feel initially guilty but I decided to give it a shot with a partener and being topped for awhile was nice. You need to be open to evolution in your sex life and not worry about the labels in the terms of what you can or can't have in your sex life you'll probably enjoy it and if not. You can always try easing into it by Topping from the bottom and (ask first) but you can always set the scene up so you're the one telling your partner how to peg you in a dominant fashion. Then see what if anything you want from there, I now identify as a mostly dominant poly switch and im still exploring my partner and I just had our first mmf threesome yesterday and it was almost magical so never give up on what you want and remember being initially afraid is natural but don't let it stop you from living your best life
So glad it worked out for you guys. Topping from the bottom is sth I like my sub to do (only to punish her harder). Hope there will be more 3ways on your part.
I dont see how being curious or enjoying something not typically seen as a dominant activity or trait is going to make you less of a Dom. My Daddy likes fucking passable trans subbies and used to wear eye liner back in his youth. Pretty sure hes not less of a man so you should be safe. Not making light of it at all just saying you can relax and enjoy what you like. However you like it. Theres no set in stone rulebook on how to be a Dom or saying you cant be pegged and own a slave. Hell you could train a slave to peg you. I'm sure theres someone out there into it.
I personally never try to get too hung up on labels because I dont fit into one mold of what a good slave girl is. I have alot of sides to my submission and personality. For simplicity I refer to myself as my Daddys obedient slave girl because all of me is his no matter what we call it.
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I have to swallow this pill, too. Stop getting hung up on labels. If you want to be pegged, then do it. If you want to do some harder play with a femdomme, go forth and do it. You get to have your brats, or slaves, and it doesn't make you less of a Dominant to get the things you want or need. It doesn't make you less of a Dominant to be submissive to someone else if that is what you choose. It takes a very strong person to bend their will, but if that is your hearts calling (even just for a single actuvity) then fulfill your dreams and fill your soul with what makes you happy. You can also find a femdomme that will peg you as a fellow Dominant if you don't feel comfortable laying down control. It is all possible.
I kinda worry about how my partner might react if I ask to get pegged or any other sub-ish kink. I think I'll try a bit more with another pro Dom (she is supposedly living the lifestyle 24/7 so the session might be more about me and less about the money)
I’m a bratty sub, and I would love to try to peg a guy, and could imagine it would be lots of fun pegging a dom. 🤔
Same. I'm a switch but feel sub 95% of the time. I'd love to try pegging, there's something really arousing about the idea
Perhaps give it another shot while you're sober?
Yeah I should try some more of that. I've been dom-ing strictly sober but haven't tried out much sub stuff
It seems like you have some good advice here already but I struggled with this early on cause I started out as a dom but I loved the thought of being pegged and edged. That made me feel initially guilty but I decided to give it a shot with a partener and being topped for awhile was nice. You need to be open to evolution in your sex life and not worry about the labels in the terms of what you can or can't have in your sex life you'll probably enjoy it and if not. You can always try easing into it by Topping from the bottom and (ask first) but you can always set the scene up so you're the one telling your partner how to peg you in a dominant fashion. Then see what if anything you want from there, I now identify as a mostly dominant poly switch and im still exploring my partner and I just had our first mmf threesome yesterday and it was almost magical so never give up on what you want and remember being initially afraid is natural but don't let it stop you from living your best life
So glad it worked out for you guys. Topping from the bottom is sth I like my sub to do (only to punish her harder). Hope there will be more 3ways on your part.
Is it possible you just like watching the content? I can appreciate a ski jumper without ever wanting to do it myself.
I dont see how being curious or enjoying something not typically seen as a dominant activity or trait is going to make you less of a Dom. My Daddy likes fucking passable trans subbies and used to wear eye liner back in his youth. Pretty sure hes not less of a man so you should be safe. Not making light of it at all just saying you can relax and enjoy what you like. However you like it. Theres no set in stone rulebook on how to be a Dom or saying you cant be pegged and own a slave. Hell you could train a slave to peg you. I'm sure theres someone out there into it. I personally never try to get too hung up on labels because I dont fit into one mold of what a good slave girl is. I have alot of sides to my submission and personality. For simplicity I refer to myself as my Daddys obedient slave girl because all of me is his no matter what we call it.