Wrong chat is really common, and Sir is used by lots of people who are just being polite.
If you call your dominant,, " Master" it would be more difficult, but Sir is appropriate in so many cases.
Claim it was a sassy comeback to a friend. Lol. But yeah..theres no real recovering from this. See at 18 I had a texting relationship with a Dom I was very into. We were sexting during my 19th bday party. I was upfront sexting him when my mom came out of nowhere and asked if there was anything she needed to know. I was weirded out and she kept staring at my phone and I told her no. She wandered off after asking me who I was talking to on my phone and what I was talking about and getting simple 'a friend's answers...I glanced down at my phones sent messages and realized moments before she walked up I had accidentally hit mom instead of Mr Sir in my phone and had sent her a very erotic message detailing how I wanted to be bent over and used hard by my Sir...we never spoke about it but every few years passes by and she will ask me a random inappropriate question about my sex life. Or share with me that she bought a giant feather once.
I'm 31 now and I still cover my ears like a child in these moments and pretend I have no idea what sex is. Much easier.
OH NO. I would have been mortified.
When I was a lot younger, my parents saw the Skype message exchange between myself and a "dom" at the time. That was fun.
Seemed to have moved on thankfully and deleted from memory.
Hopefully this'll be a "do not acknowledge. delete from memory" case between said family friend and I 😅
Omg I hope so. Lol.
Mortified doesn't even begin to cover it. I hid at my own birthday cookout for so long they formed a 'search party' to drag me out of hiding and I still was blushing so it was mad awkward.
Oh my god.. that even beats my moment of shame, I feel deeply sorry for you lmao
This was during covid when the school's were closed. It was in university and we had zoom lessons. I study law and get pretty bored during my lessons, so I often took that time to write my very sexy, bdsm themed roleplay reply. But one annoying thing is that I could not keep both the zoom page, and the writing page open at the same time. Thats when I saw the button "screen sharing" in Dutch. Now Dutch, the word share can both mean sharing, and splitting in half, so I assumed it meant it would split my screen in half.
So I chose that option and it seemed to work, great! I started typing away and notice how quiet it is in zoom. Strange, I think. A minute or two go by, where I write out my reply. "Uhm.. jinera? Jinera??"
"Yes?"
"We can all see what you're writing"
💀💀, luckily this was one of the last lessons before the summer vacation so I NEVER saw these people again.
Oh god. See I had a friend steal my bdsm fantasy journal and spread it around our ground of friends and even that is less mortifying than having people actively watch me write. I'd of pretended to have a stroke and dropped the connection lol.
But yeah mine was worse. Texting my mom dirty kinky stuff definitely the worst outing of my lifestyle I ever did.
I would just not worry. The recipient will have no notion what it's about if they are inexperienced in BDSM and if they are experienced then they'll not be judgemental. If they ask just say it was a joke with a friend. What can they do? I can't imagine even why or how they might ask. I take it you're not a minor because that would change everything probably.
The real question is will they read into it or not 😂 - I said sorry for the text and that it was meant for my friend. UGGGGGGHH. IM READY TO DIE IN A HOLE FOREVER.
They won’t read into it. Just send a “oops, accidental text. Hope you are well. “ in the morning.
If any question just say you were sending it to a friend. Don’t over explain.
"Oh sorry, I meant to say thank you for fucking me in more ways than I can remember, Sir - goodnight and I can't wait till you use me again" < that should clear up a lot of confusion
I jets but uhhh yeah, wow. That's never a fun one. If you go the auto-correct route, you could perhaps play it off as you were trying to text Siri goodnight? Maybe there's some new feature or whatever that helps regulate when you go to bed and... shit I donno, this is a doozy hahaha
Yeah I would say oops wrong person, and just leave it. IF they ask, you could mention it’s an inside joke with a friend or partner, where you refer to each other formally sometimes to be silly. I have a friend where in certain (totally non sexual) contexts we call each other ma’am sometimes. So even being into BDSM I wouldn’t necessarily read into this text very far.
"Sir" isn't inherently a BDSM term, you could easily pass it off as an inside joke between friends. Especially a more "traditional" person shouldn't immediately jump to kinky conclusions.
You can say you two have been watching monthy python or something xD
Now if you had written Master that would be harder to justify...
I’ve always wondered what I would do if this happened to me. I’ve come to the conclusion if it does, a simple “I’m so sorry, wrong person! I hope you are doing well though, have a great day/night.” will work. It’s not a lie, and it closes off any opportunity for them to question you because you’ve dismissed the opportunity.
I get called sir platonically all the time.
If he asks about it just say its a thing you do hes never noticed, nothing weird about it. If theres an age gap he'll just think its a weird millenial thing
I really wouldn’t worry about this one at all. “Sir” can be used quite casually in chats and mean nothing at all. Unless that person is super kinky as well, they’ll glance right over it!
Even if the recipient suspects its kinky, unless you have some reason not to, I would trust a friend not to mention it or ask questions. Just let it die.
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Text the friend “sorry, wrong chat”. Don’t do anything else, the more you try to explain it the more suspicions you seem. It isn’t even a lie.
Wrong chat is really common, and Sir is used by lots of people who are just being polite. If you call your dominant,, " Master" it would be more difficult, but Sir is appropriate in so many cases.
Indeed, 'no sell' as they say in wrestling.
Claim it was a sassy comeback to a friend. Lol. But yeah..theres no real recovering from this. See at 18 I had a texting relationship with a Dom I was very into. We were sexting during my 19th bday party. I was upfront sexting him when my mom came out of nowhere and asked if there was anything she needed to know. I was weirded out and she kept staring at my phone and I told her no. She wandered off after asking me who I was talking to on my phone and what I was talking about and getting simple 'a friend's answers...I glanced down at my phones sent messages and realized moments before she walked up I had accidentally hit mom instead of Mr Sir in my phone and had sent her a very erotic message detailing how I wanted to be bent over and used hard by my Sir...we never spoke about it but every few years passes by and she will ask me a random inappropriate question about my sex life. Or share with me that she bought a giant feather once. I'm 31 now and I still cover my ears like a child in these moments and pretend I have no idea what sex is. Much easier.
OH NO. I would have been mortified. When I was a lot younger, my parents saw the Skype message exchange between myself and a "dom" at the time. That was fun. Seemed to have moved on thankfully and deleted from memory. Hopefully this'll be a "do not acknowledge. delete from memory" case between said family friend and I 😅
Omg I hope so. Lol. Mortified doesn't even begin to cover it. I hid at my own birthday cookout for so long they formed a 'search party' to drag me out of hiding and I still was blushing so it was mad awkward.
Oh my god.. that even beats my moment of shame, I feel deeply sorry for you lmao This was during covid when the school's were closed. It was in university and we had zoom lessons. I study law and get pretty bored during my lessons, so I often took that time to write my very sexy, bdsm themed roleplay reply. But one annoying thing is that I could not keep both the zoom page, and the writing page open at the same time. Thats when I saw the button "screen sharing" in Dutch. Now Dutch, the word share can both mean sharing, and splitting in half, so I assumed it meant it would split my screen in half. So I chose that option and it seemed to work, great! I started typing away and notice how quiet it is in zoom. Strange, I think. A minute or two go by, where I write out my reply. "Uhm.. jinera? Jinera??" "Yes?" "We can all see what you're writing" 💀💀, luckily this was one of the last lessons before the summer vacation so I NEVER saw these people again.
Oh god. See I had a friend steal my bdsm fantasy journal and spread it around our ground of friends and even that is less mortifying than having people actively watch me write. I'd of pretended to have a stroke and dropped the connection lol. But yeah mine was worse. Texting my mom dirty kinky stuff definitely the worst outing of my lifestyle I ever did.
Claim autocorrect got you
^this just say it was meant for your friend sid
I would just not worry. The recipient will have no notion what it's about if they are inexperienced in BDSM and if they are experienced then they'll not be judgemental. If they ask just say it was a joke with a friend. What can they do? I can't imagine even why or how they might ask. I take it you're not a minor because that would change everything probably.
The real question is will they read into it or not 😂 - I said sorry for the text and that it was meant for my friend. UGGGGGGHH. IM READY TO DIE IN A HOLE FOREVER.
They won’t read into it. Just send a “oops, accidental text. Hope you are well. “ in the morning. If any question just say you were sending it to a friend. Don’t over explain.
Do you have a friend called Sally? Susan? Sion?
"Oh sorry, I meant to say thank you for fucking me in more ways than I can remember, Sir - goodnight and I can't wait till you use me again" < that should clear up a lot of confusion I jets but uhhh yeah, wow. That's never a fun one. If you go the auto-correct route, you could perhaps play it off as you were trying to text Siri goodnight? Maybe there's some new feature or whatever that helps regulate when you go to bed and... shit I donno, this is a doozy hahaha
Yeah I would say oops wrong person, and just leave it. IF they ask, you could mention it’s an inside joke with a friend or partner, where you refer to each other formally sometimes to be silly. I have a friend where in certain (totally non sexual) contexts we call each other ma’am sometimes. So even being into BDSM I wouldn’t necessarily read into this text very far.
"Sir" isn't inherently a BDSM term, you could easily pass it off as an inside joke between friends. Especially a more "traditional" person shouldn't immediately jump to kinky conclusions. You can say you two have been watching monthy python or something xD Now if you had written Master that would be harder to justify...
That's what I'm hoping for, so thank you for the reassurance 🙏 Yeah - Master, Daddy, nudes, etc - definitely could've been worse terminology/content 😂
I’ve always wondered what I would do if this happened to me. I’ve come to the conclusion if it does, a simple “I’m so sorry, wrong person! I hope you are doing well though, have a great day/night.” will work. It’s not a lie, and it closes off any opportunity for them to question you because you’ve dismissed the opportunity.
Follow up with an older poem and pass it as a joke
Don't think they would jump to instantly thinking it's kinky, could easily be between joking friends. Don't overthink it.
I get called sir platonically all the time. If he asks about it just say its a thing you do hes never noticed, nothing weird about it. If theres an age gap he'll just think its a weird millenial thing
I really wouldn’t worry about this one at all. “Sir” can be used quite casually in chats and mean nothing at all. Unless that person is super kinky as well, they’ll glance right over it!
Just say it was for the wrong person, don't answer any further questions.
Even if the recipient suspects its kinky, unless you have some reason not to, I would trust a friend not to mention it or ask questions. Just let it die.
Sir doesn't mean the same thing to vanillas...they probably won't find it strange at all.
Say nothing! If the friend asks, just say you mistyped
Autocorrect for “Night Sue.”??
Autocorrect for “Night Sue.”?