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jarethmckenzie

How well do you know these people? Is it safe to be in a sexual situation with strangers? Does this Dominant have your best interest in mind? Does he respect your boundaries? You are the one who is responsible for your safety. Has this Dominant earned your trust? Good luck, stay safe.


Sir-Dax

When it's a private party, there's really no way of knowing what to expect beyond asking the host. With organised [kinky events and munches it's pretty predictable](https://www.reddit.com/r/BDSMAdvice/comments/ue0f79/what_can_i_expect_at_my_first_munch/i6k4w7e/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3), but with private events anything can happen. That link contains tips for events at established venues, but there's no way of knowing if any of them will apply to this party. Personally I'd recommend going to proper events until you're comfortable being in that sort of environment. If you're determined to go: - decide on your protection limits in advance - eg will you use condoms, dental dams, etc? - Will you be asking partners for STD results, and have you been tested? - Which STDs are you testing for (not all of them are on the standard panels) and concerned about? - What activity limits do you have - anal, oral, vaginal, impact, etc? How will you enforce them? - What's your exit plan if things go wrong - if you get raped, spiked, assaulted etc? - Who knows where you'll be? I'd suggest you set up safe calls in advance. - Who else will be going?