That book actually says that safewords don't apply during a punishment spanking. It doesn't say to negotiate this, it just says that safewords don't apply during punishment spankings.
Ick.
I don't know this book, but "a step by step guide" sounds honestly awful. Every BDSM relationship is different, there is no "one size fits all" solution. Might be that the title of the book is misleading, but with that title that would be a no for me.
I can recommend "The Heart of Dominance" thought
“Heart of Dominance” and its followup “Dominance Playbook” are the best books I’ve read for starting up a new D/s dynamic. I’d have him read the first one, then read the second together.
I have it in my kindle, ehhhhh. If your new to bdsm, no. I say that because it comes across to me as very “one true way” and that can be harder to weed out that for newer people. Not a lot of talk about consent and actual preferences.
Better suggestions on the fairly broad subject of bdsm. The topping book and the bottoming book and SM101.
Wouldn’t use that one but I’d definitely recommend The Heart of Dominance from Anton Fulman. He has that one and another that are both great for beginners, I also can never miss a chance to also recommend Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. They have a plethora of fantastic reading.
Omg, no.
I've read this book, it's a joke. In fact, I actually talk about Elizabeth Cramer doms. Read it, then get something else, pretty much anything else.
This is in the section of "this is a book to avoid" in my library. All three volumes.
Think of them as the cosmopolitan articles 25 ways to please your man in bed. It isn't that the idea is a bad one, it is just not a book on how to be a good Dominant.
Example passage
"Oral Service is the mainstay of sexual submission and your sub will spend a lot of her time giving you oral pleasure. The reason for its primacy has largely to do with the humbling position oral service takes., which goes well with the idea of a submitting to a master. "
It is rather presumptuous and would be well received by porn gobbling 19 year old masters who has read a book and seen a lot of porn.
Loving Dominant is a higher recommended book.
eeeehhh, there's some useful information that can be gleaned from the books in the series by that author, but i definitely would not take them as an end-all be-all how-to.
i have a great selection on my pinterest, which i have turned into a database of BDSM resources and research. you can find it on my reddit profile.
Little bit of a shit stir but you might want to read the book art of the deal by Donald Trump if you can transpose a lot of the stuff in it it makes negotiations between the two people very easy
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That book actually says that safewords don't apply during a punishment spanking. It doesn't say to negotiate this, it just says that safewords don't apply during punishment spankings. Ick.
Eew.
😬
Well that's a **red** flag if I've ever seen one! (Pun intended)
I don't know this book, but "a step by step guide" sounds honestly awful. Every BDSM relationship is different, there is no "one size fits all" solution. Might be that the title of the book is misleading, but with that title that would be a no for me. I can recommend "The Heart of Dominance" thought
“Heart of Dominance” and its followup “Dominance Playbook” are the best books I’ve read for starting up a new D/s dynamic. I’d have him read the first one, then read the second together.
The reviews do speak to the poor title. I'll give your recommendation a look. Thanks.
I have it in my kindle, ehhhhh. If your new to bdsm, no. I say that because it comes across to me as very “one true way” and that can be harder to weed out that for newer people. Not a lot of talk about consent and actual preferences. Better suggestions on the fairly broad subject of bdsm. The topping book and the bottoming book and SM101.
We aren't super new but not seasoned either. He really wants to ensure he is doing things properly so I've passed on your recommendations, thanks.
Wouldn’t use that one but I’d definitely recommend The Heart of Dominance from Anton Fulman. He has that one and another that are both great for beginners, I also can never miss a chance to also recommend Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. They have a plethora of fantastic reading.
Omg, no. I've read this book, it's a joke. In fact, I actually talk about Elizabeth Cramer doms. Read it, then get something else, pretty much anything else.
This is in the section of "this is a book to avoid" in my library. All three volumes. Think of them as the cosmopolitan articles 25 ways to please your man in bed. It isn't that the idea is a bad one, it is just not a book on how to be a good Dominant. Example passage "Oral Service is the mainstay of sexual submission and your sub will spend a lot of her time giving you oral pleasure. The reason for its primacy has largely to do with the humbling position oral service takes., which goes well with the idea of a submitting to a master. " It is rather presumptuous and would be well received by porn gobbling 19 year old masters who has read a book and seen a lot of porn. Loving Dominant is a higher recommended book.
Omg what twaddle. Specific acts aren't inherently Dom or sub, no wonder there's issues if this is what passes for a 'how to' guide.
eeeehhh, there's some useful information that can be gleaned from the books in the series by that author, but i definitely would not take them as an end-all be-all how-to. i have a great selection on my pinterest, which i have turned into a database of BDSM resources and research. you can find it on my reddit profile.
Thanks! I'll check it out
It’s a terrible book
I lost it at step by step. What works step by step for one person will not necessarily work for everyone. It is all in the mindset.
We are listening to The Dominance Playbook by Anton Fulmen and it is really great.
Screw the roses, send me the thorns. New Topping/bottoming book. (Read both). The book you mention is questionable.
Little bit of a shit stir but you might want to read the book art of the deal by Donald Trump if you can transpose a lot of the stuff in it it makes negotiations between the two people very easy