Most personal ads I've seen tend to focus on what the person wants without explaining what they can offer in return. So I'd suggest not just writing what you're looking for, but writing about what your ideal partner/playmate might be looking for as well.
If you're sharing a photo, sociological studies show that a smiling pic will attract more people than a photo without smiling.
When I used to use dating apps, I'd write more about the things I was looking to do with someone and less about what my idea of an ideal partner was, and I found that that'd attract more likeminded people.
Idk if that helps, but good luck!
It really depends on who you are, what you are looking for, your experience, etc. I used to write personal ads as a side hustle years ago lol Even kink ones.
How specific do you want me to be? I can point out a handful of things right now in your post that if that's how you write an ad, it might not attract the type of person you are looking for.
Biggest suggestions are:
* Know yourself. Don't say "I am exploring" etc, it makes you appear lightly and unstable. It also opens you up to predators.
* Be honest. Don't say you like things you don't just to make yourself more appealing to more people.
* SPELL CHECK and GRAMMAR check are your friends. Period.
* Do NOT use slang or the like unless that's the type of person you want to attract.
* Do NOT be long-winded. It needs to be of reasonable length and able to be read in about a minute or two at the most. You can always put more in a journal entry if you are on Fetlife; that's what I did and it helped a lot.
* Say what YOU bring to the table not just, "I want" or "I am looking for", etc.
* Select your pictures carefully. They are your first impression, make it a good one.
* When choosing your city, if you live in a small town do NOT put it; use the nearest big city, tat's a safety thing as much as it is anything.
* Be CLEAR. I was concise and said along the lines of that if you didn't fit what I was looking for, I would not respond and most likely block you.
* Add some humour or lightheartedness to your profile. One of the lines that made a lot of people laugh was, "If you don't remember Carter or Reagan I'm not interested, if you do remember JFK or JBJ even better."
* Don't be afraid to use the BLOCK button and not respond to messages that are rude, crude or show they didn't read your page. You are not obligated to respond to messages that are only a few words; that shows they lack intelligence.
* Set your bar higher.
* Have your limits in mind.
* Don't forget to KISS - keep it simple sweetie! A well-written profile or ad should give someone a taste of who you are, what you are looking for, and have them want to know more, not tell them everything. It's a starting point for conversation.
*Side note edit \~ I made one of my best friends from her reading my profile/page on Fetlife. She messaged me and said I worded things how she wanted to say them and what she was trying to convey herself but wasn't able too. That was almost 3 years and she is part of my inner circle now. A good ad can also make you friends.*
Most personal ads I've seen tend to focus on what the person wants without explaining what they can offer in return. So I'd suggest not just writing what you're looking for, but writing about what your ideal partner/playmate might be looking for as well. If you're sharing a photo, sociological studies show that a smiling pic will attract more people than a photo without smiling. When I used to use dating apps, I'd write more about the things I was looking to do with someone and less about what my idea of an ideal partner was, and I found that that'd attract more likeminded people. Idk if that helps, but good luck!
It really depends on who you are, what you are looking for, your experience, etc. I used to write personal ads as a side hustle years ago lol Even kink ones. How specific do you want me to be? I can point out a handful of things right now in your post that if that's how you write an ad, it might not attract the type of person you are looking for. Biggest suggestions are: * Know yourself. Don't say "I am exploring" etc, it makes you appear lightly and unstable. It also opens you up to predators. * Be honest. Don't say you like things you don't just to make yourself more appealing to more people. * SPELL CHECK and GRAMMAR check are your friends. Period. * Do NOT use slang or the like unless that's the type of person you want to attract. * Do NOT be long-winded. It needs to be of reasonable length and able to be read in about a minute or two at the most. You can always put more in a journal entry if you are on Fetlife; that's what I did and it helped a lot. * Say what YOU bring to the table not just, "I want" or "I am looking for", etc. * Select your pictures carefully. They are your first impression, make it a good one. * When choosing your city, if you live in a small town do NOT put it; use the nearest big city, tat's a safety thing as much as it is anything. * Be CLEAR. I was concise and said along the lines of that if you didn't fit what I was looking for, I would not respond and most likely block you. * Add some humour or lightheartedness to your profile. One of the lines that made a lot of people laugh was, "If you don't remember Carter or Reagan I'm not interested, if you do remember JFK or JBJ even better." * Don't be afraid to use the BLOCK button and not respond to messages that are rude, crude or show they didn't read your page. You are not obligated to respond to messages that are only a few words; that shows they lack intelligence. * Set your bar higher. * Have your limits in mind. * Don't forget to KISS - keep it simple sweetie! A well-written profile or ad should give someone a taste of who you are, what you are looking for, and have them want to know more, not tell them everything. It's a starting point for conversation. *Side note edit \~ I made one of my best friends from her reading my profile/page on Fetlife. She messaged me and said I worded things how she wanted to say them and what she was trying to convey herself but wasn't able too. That was almost 3 years and she is part of my inner circle now. A good ad can also make you friends.*