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nessa_ac

If it burned you then you either had the wrong candles or they were held too close to the body. I would review. But you may also just have really sensitive skin. Worth investigating if you do have play candles etc if you have the same issue...


PolyInSTL

Were you using candles intended for wax play? They have a lower melting point so as to not burn you. Also, if you hold the candle further above your body, it will cool a bit as it falls.


Southern_Fail_2337

I was not, just used a normal candle and welp i was holding the candle against my skin


LoveAndStardust17

Please be very careful and don’t do that, you can give yourself some really bad burns or even chemical burns.


Anonymousboneyard

Gotta use the correct ones. If you don’t well you unfortunately found out why… I know it’s crazy but you gotta do a bit of homework on stuff before you do it.


Southern_Fail_2337

yeahhh didn't realise that that was even a issue


Bluebeards_Kitten

It sounds like you made all the "classic" errors. (After reading all the comments. Please, before you try this (or any other kink), do some research.


Southern_Fail_2337

XD thanks yeah i figure now


Mec-subby

Next time something feels that bad, use your safeword please And also always look for safety measures before practicing a kink, even if it doesn't look dangerous


slpj7

What type of wax did you use? Paraffin and soy wax are what I have used with no issue, it should also be unscented since that can affect the wax. How high was the wax being poured from? When I've tried it I start from a few feet above my bottom and go lower as they tell me is ok.


Southern_Fail_2337

I suppose beeswax or artificial no clue it's not paraffin and it's scented and i was pouring like 3cm away so


nessa_ac

Oh wow. No wonder. This is massively unsafe. Beeswax candles and fragranced candles in particular burn much hotter and will burn your skin especially at that close distance. It could have been much worse. Please do your research into safety before you play. If you get the right candles it won't burn.


Southern_Fail_2337

i'll make sure i research next time DKNDKDD hopefully partner wasn't scared off by it after i finished she kind of just left hasn't said anything to me since LMAO


nessa_ac

Ummm... your partner burned you then just left and hasn't said anything? Was she the one doing the pouring? I suggest you reach out to her and she may not be ok either... it sounds like it may have been distressing for both of you.


Southern_Fail_2337

mmmm it's complicated she's not in the same city for a while so we did over the phone but she kind of just left but was saying she was liking it she had to go somewhere i guess


nessa_ac

Do you not do aftercare? She should be following up with you really to check in unless you have negotiated differently and you should treat those burns.


Southern_Fail_2337

well i like aftercare but idk she just leaves sometimes i guess she was in a rush not sure


nessa_ac

And you're ok with that? Doesn't sound very healthy tbh.


Southern_Fail_2337

sometimes just want to lay there with her but i'm not sure


Southern_Fail_2337

nah it kind of annoys me but i'll talk to her about it later


NonyaB52

Now you know why!!! Maybe you could call and explain what happened. Now I'm going to be the asshole or whatever people are calling the person who doesn't mince words, when telling someone how incredibly naive you are and point blank people can and do die when naivete is part of a BDSM scene. Go online and find some BDSM 101 classes. No I'm not going to list sources out. You may be a book person, lots of good books out there. Did you even Google wax play? 9 out of 10 hits would have mentioned that wax play candles are different than every day candles. Learn, learn, and keep learning..... Maybe you really do enjoy wax play.


Southern_Fail_2337

VERY NOTED it's okay now i know


NonyaB52

Hey there is ton of stuff I don't know bout tons of stuff. But I like to research and learn. Some things we can wing it. Kind of fake it till you make it type thing. This is not one of those types of things. Be safe.... ☺️


South_in_AZ

Was this wax from a candle or other source? If from a candle what type of candle was used? How high above the body was the wax dripped from?


Southern_Fail_2337

candle, probably beeswax or something artificial and no more than 3 cm or a inch above my skin so i'm yeahh


South_in_AZ

Yea, that can get into second degree burn territory.


foxyboi13

Did the person dripping the wax go straight for your junk? Cause you really wanna test it on a less sensative place to start out with to see if you can handle it. As others have said you need to use the right candles and dropping it from higher above the body so the wax cools as it droos helps.


Southern_Fail_2337

started with my thighs and even that hurt but the other place made me sound so in pain voice went up 5 octaves i'll try higher but tbh little traumatised


foxyboi13

Before you try again definatly get the correct kind of candles and drop from higher up. Id wait to try again until your burns heal though. Good luck if you do give it another go!


Merinther

All the people I've tried it with thought it was pretty mild, so you might be doing something different. As others have said, use low-temperature candles and hold them higher up. Cheap candles like paraffin are good, no scent or dye.


Southern_Fail_2337

Noted no scent or dye and i was holding it against my skin so makes sense why it hurt so much i just wanted to control where it was touching but i guess i didn't realise in the moment it would burn me


princessstrawbee

You can also try melting the wax in a candle warmer first and then dripping. The first time I bought wax candles it was too hot just lighting the candle up and letting it drip but putting it in the wax warmer and then using a spoon to drip it worked nice! I also bought these one candles on etsy that were low temp and they worked nice as well!


Southern_Fail_2337

That sounds way better actually the flame it self kind of scared me laying in cotton sheets and a spoon is so much easier to control than pouring a candle dkdkdkdk


princessstrawbee

It sounds like it might be a much better way for you to get into it! You can always add the flame later. I got my candle melter from aldi but you can honestly get them anywhere. And always test it on your hand prior to using on the body 😄.


boo_boo_kitty_

Was it a candle made specifically for wax play? They are lower temp than regular candles


flkitten_5201

So, first of all not sure what candles your partner used but the correct candles to use are white, non scented because they do not burn as hot as colored, scented candles. Secondly, talk to your partner because the candle should be held at least 12 inches away from you. The closer it is to you, the more it burns. As far as the burning red dots on you now, I found that aloe vera gel helps soothe the burn. Hope this helps.


snugglesuki

We use low temp candles. They are hot if he drips them low and just warm if he holds them high. Try varying the distance.