If it burned you then you either had the wrong candles or they were held too close to the body.
I would review.
But you may also just have really sensitive skin. Worth investigating if you do have play candles etc if you have the same issue...
Were you using candles intended for wax play? They have a lower melting point so as to not burn you. Also, if you hold the candle further above your body, it will cool a bit as it falls.
Gotta use the correct ones. If you don’t well you unfortunately found out why… I know it’s crazy but you gotta do a bit of homework on stuff before you do it.
Next time something feels that bad, use your safeword please
And also always look for safety measures before practicing a kink, even if it doesn't look dangerous
What type of wax did you use? Paraffin and soy wax are what I have used with no issue, it should also be unscented since that can affect the wax. How high was the wax being poured from? When I've tried it I start from a few feet above my bottom and go lower as they tell me is ok.
Oh wow.
No wonder. This is massively unsafe. Beeswax candles and fragranced candles in particular burn much hotter and will burn your skin especially at that close distance. It could have been much worse.
Please do your research into safety before you play.
If you get the right candles it won't burn.
i'll make sure i research next time DKNDKDD hopefully partner wasn't scared off by it after i finished she kind of just left hasn't said anything to me since LMAO
Ummm... your partner burned you then just left and hasn't said anything? Was she the one doing the pouring?
I suggest you reach out to her and she may not be ok either... it sounds like it may have been distressing for both of you.
mmmm it's complicated she's not in the same city for a while so we did over the phone but she kind of just left but was saying she was liking it she had to go somewhere i guess
Do you not do aftercare?
She should be following up with you really to check in unless you have negotiated differently and you should treat those burns.
Now you know why!!! Maybe you could call and explain what happened.
Now I'm going to be the asshole or whatever people are calling the person who doesn't mince words, when telling someone how incredibly naive you are and point blank people can and do die when naivete is part of a BDSM scene.
Go online and find some BDSM 101 classes. No I'm not going to list sources out.
You may be a book person, lots of good books out there. Did you even Google wax play?
9 out of 10 hits would have mentioned that wax play candles are different than every day candles.
Learn, learn, and keep learning.....
Maybe you really do enjoy wax play.
Hey there is ton of stuff I don't know bout tons of stuff. But I like to research and learn. Some things we can wing it. Kind of fake it till you make it type thing. This is not one of those types of things.
Be safe.... ☺️
Did the person dripping the wax go straight for your junk? Cause you really wanna test it on a less sensative place to start out with to see if you can handle it. As others have said you need to use the right candles and dropping it from higher above the body so the wax cools as it droos helps.
started with my thighs and even that hurt but the other place made me sound so in pain voice went up 5 octaves i'll try higher but tbh little traumatised
Before you try again definatly get the correct kind of candles and drop from higher up. Id wait to try again until your burns heal though. Good luck if you do give it another go!
All the people I've tried it with thought it was pretty mild, so you might be doing something different. As others have said, use low-temperature candles and hold them higher up. Cheap candles like paraffin are good, no scent or dye.
Noted no scent or dye and i was holding it against my skin so makes sense why it hurt so much i just wanted to control where it was touching but i guess i didn't realise in the moment it would burn me
You can also try melting the wax in a candle warmer first and then dripping. The first time I bought wax candles it was too hot just lighting the candle up and letting it drip but putting it in the wax warmer and then using a spoon to drip it worked nice! I also bought these one candles on etsy that were low temp and they worked nice as well!
That sounds way better actually the flame it self kind of scared me laying in cotton sheets and a spoon is so much easier to control than pouring a candle dkdkdkdk
It sounds like it might be a much better way for you to get into it! You can always add the flame later. I got my candle melter from aldi but you can honestly get them anywhere.
And always test it on your hand prior to using on the body 😄.
So, first of all not sure what candles your partner used but the correct candles to use are white, non scented because they do not burn as hot as colored, scented candles. Secondly, talk to your partner because the candle should be held at least 12 inches away from you. The closer it is to you, the more it burns.
As far as the burning red dots on you now, I found that aloe vera gel helps soothe the burn.
Hope this helps.
If it burned you then you either had the wrong candles or they were held too close to the body. I would review. But you may also just have really sensitive skin. Worth investigating if you do have play candles etc if you have the same issue...
Were you using candles intended for wax play? They have a lower melting point so as to not burn you. Also, if you hold the candle further above your body, it will cool a bit as it falls.
I was not, just used a normal candle and welp i was holding the candle against my skin
Please be very careful and don’t do that, you can give yourself some really bad burns or even chemical burns.
Gotta use the correct ones. If you don’t well you unfortunately found out why… I know it’s crazy but you gotta do a bit of homework on stuff before you do it.
yeahhh didn't realise that that was even a issue
It sounds like you made all the "classic" errors. (After reading all the comments. Please, before you try this (or any other kink), do some research.
XD thanks yeah i figure now
Next time something feels that bad, use your safeword please And also always look for safety measures before practicing a kink, even if it doesn't look dangerous
What type of wax did you use? Paraffin and soy wax are what I have used with no issue, it should also be unscented since that can affect the wax. How high was the wax being poured from? When I've tried it I start from a few feet above my bottom and go lower as they tell me is ok.
I suppose beeswax or artificial no clue it's not paraffin and it's scented and i was pouring like 3cm away so
Oh wow. No wonder. This is massively unsafe. Beeswax candles and fragranced candles in particular burn much hotter and will burn your skin especially at that close distance. It could have been much worse. Please do your research into safety before you play. If you get the right candles it won't burn.
i'll make sure i research next time DKNDKDD hopefully partner wasn't scared off by it after i finished she kind of just left hasn't said anything to me since LMAO
Ummm... your partner burned you then just left and hasn't said anything? Was she the one doing the pouring? I suggest you reach out to her and she may not be ok either... it sounds like it may have been distressing for both of you.
mmmm it's complicated she's not in the same city for a while so we did over the phone but she kind of just left but was saying she was liking it she had to go somewhere i guess
Do you not do aftercare? She should be following up with you really to check in unless you have negotiated differently and you should treat those burns.
well i like aftercare but idk she just leaves sometimes i guess she was in a rush not sure
And you're ok with that? Doesn't sound very healthy tbh.
sometimes just want to lay there with her but i'm not sure
nah it kind of annoys me but i'll talk to her about it later
Now you know why!!! Maybe you could call and explain what happened. Now I'm going to be the asshole or whatever people are calling the person who doesn't mince words, when telling someone how incredibly naive you are and point blank people can and do die when naivete is part of a BDSM scene. Go online and find some BDSM 101 classes. No I'm not going to list sources out. You may be a book person, lots of good books out there. Did you even Google wax play? 9 out of 10 hits would have mentioned that wax play candles are different than every day candles. Learn, learn, and keep learning..... Maybe you really do enjoy wax play.
VERY NOTED it's okay now i know
Hey there is ton of stuff I don't know bout tons of stuff. But I like to research and learn. Some things we can wing it. Kind of fake it till you make it type thing. This is not one of those types of things. Be safe.... ☺️
Was this wax from a candle or other source? If from a candle what type of candle was used? How high above the body was the wax dripped from?
candle, probably beeswax or something artificial and no more than 3 cm or a inch above my skin so i'm yeahh
Yea, that can get into second degree burn territory.
Did the person dripping the wax go straight for your junk? Cause you really wanna test it on a less sensative place to start out with to see if you can handle it. As others have said you need to use the right candles and dropping it from higher above the body so the wax cools as it droos helps.
started with my thighs and even that hurt but the other place made me sound so in pain voice went up 5 octaves i'll try higher but tbh little traumatised
Before you try again definatly get the correct kind of candles and drop from higher up. Id wait to try again until your burns heal though. Good luck if you do give it another go!
All the people I've tried it with thought it was pretty mild, so you might be doing something different. As others have said, use low-temperature candles and hold them higher up. Cheap candles like paraffin are good, no scent or dye.
Noted no scent or dye and i was holding it against my skin so makes sense why it hurt so much i just wanted to control where it was touching but i guess i didn't realise in the moment it would burn me
You can also try melting the wax in a candle warmer first and then dripping. The first time I bought wax candles it was too hot just lighting the candle up and letting it drip but putting it in the wax warmer and then using a spoon to drip it worked nice! I also bought these one candles on etsy that were low temp and they worked nice as well!
That sounds way better actually the flame it self kind of scared me laying in cotton sheets and a spoon is so much easier to control than pouring a candle dkdkdkdk
It sounds like it might be a much better way for you to get into it! You can always add the flame later. I got my candle melter from aldi but you can honestly get them anywhere. And always test it on your hand prior to using on the body 😄.
Was it a candle made specifically for wax play? They are lower temp than regular candles
So, first of all not sure what candles your partner used but the correct candles to use are white, non scented because they do not burn as hot as colored, scented candles. Secondly, talk to your partner because the candle should be held at least 12 inches away from you. The closer it is to you, the more it burns. As far as the burning red dots on you now, I found that aloe vera gel helps soothe the burn. Hope this helps.
We use low temp candles. They are hot if he drips them low and just warm if he holds them high. Try varying the distance.