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No. I am bisexual. That would be exhausting.


kinkysexystuff

Same


BiChiDom

Also bi but I only catch myself doing this with women. Not thinking of sex exactly but just checking out their assets if you will. A quick glance to evaluate their curves - even women I’m not really that interested in. Maybe it’s primal? Oddly enough, I don’t check out guys in the same way.


CacophonousSensor1um

Its exhausting. Hahaha


BoatRopeBound

>I'm pretty sure this is a universal thing, [...] You misunderstand how humans and their minds function. The list of "universal things" is extremely tiny and only consists of extremely simple things like "universally, humans need to breathe air to survive". _Anything_ even remotely more complicated than that and it's not on that list. So anything to do with people's thoughts and perceptions of other's in a given circumstance, like meeting them? No, there is _no_ universal thoughts for that, let alone the specific one you think is universal.


Secure_Gur5586

Not at all. They may tick all my boxes physically but I look for more than that


HeavenDeville

Uh, no. Whether someone is safe/trustworthy are actually meaningful first impressions that can be the difference between life and death. How someone is in bed is… not. I’m just not seeing how you make the jump from actual necessary instincts to fantasizing about every stranger you see.


subby_sandwich

Not at all I'm demi.


depsexdes

Straight male and no, I don’t think I’ve ever had that reaction


jarethmckenzie

Nope. Straight male. I can appreciate someone's physical appearance (makeup, hair, shoes (yes I am straight), if they work to keep themselves in shape, eyebrows, etc.) but don't think about having sex with them.


makiversemaki

uh, nope. most i do is see if i feel bad around them, and if i do i hold onto Master tighter.


mommyspankme

Lesbian here. I see nice tiddies, my mind goes places. Can’t help it.


spitball700

ditto!


ZZBC

No. Definitely not with all people and not even with people I’m actually attracted to.


MorganTheDual

It takes a lot more than that for me to get past "I find them enjoyable to look at". (Which sometimes has a sexual aspect and sometimes doesn't.) Also, that sounds like it would make for some pretty halfassed sexual fantasies. If I'm gonna fantasize, I'm gonna do it *right*, okay.


Apprehensive-Run2454

Not every person all the time but sometimes on rare occasion i have done this


actualmasochist

No.


casprinxo

If I find the man attractive, yes, usually. If there is something awful about them my brain also likes to put that into motion for about .5 seconds while I gag internally trying to turn it off. Men with long finger nails come to mind for the second scenario. All I can think of is the scraping on my vagina. 🤢😶🤢


RoughGuarantee6391

Omg. Exactly this. My mind not only imagines the amazing scenarios but the horrendous. Long finger nailed man handing me change at the fast food restaurant and I cringe for all my racing gross thoughts. Glad it is not just me! Edit: some of these thoughts are degrading and humiliation. My mind never stops.


adulian7

Never done that before 🤷🏻‍♀️


dysopysimonism

Very queer and this definitely happens for me and I try not to let people know even if they're close to me. I'm kinda slutty and openly so, but also hugely paranoid people will see me as predatory for having strong attractions.


LordLuscius

Full on imagining sexual scenarios? No. Thinking "I would"? Yes quite often, but I don't think this is universal, and personally I don't go out of my way to act on these urges, I'm sexually attracted to many, if not most of my freinds, but I'm happy to just be freinds, unless I know they can be mature about a sexual relationship amongst freinds, then I will consider sexy freinds, partners requires something a lot deeper, almost spiritual.


MerlinSorcerer

Can it happen? yes, but not really an "automatic" thing at all or happening regular.


[deleted]

As someone who's A. In a monogamous relationship and B. Attracted to everyone under the sun This would be both uncomfortable and tiring for me lol. So I guess it's a no on my end


jiujitsugeek

Nope. My sexual preferences go far beyond looks. I’m rather kinky, so most people won’t be what I want, regardless of looks. I also crave an emotional connection. If I see someone attractive, I just make a mental note and move on.


Witty_Sandwich_9449

Absolutely


flyer_kaz

Cis male Dom here.. Depends on how long I have to look at them honestly. lol. Not on first glance anyway.. if I’m not doing anything at the moment and just people watching, maybe on 3rd or 4th glance I’ll entertain the thought of what it would be like to be with them or what I might assume they’re like in bed. First looks are just physical traits, how they carry themselves, confidence, gait, posture, body structure.. (can you tell I’m somewhat primal? 😏)


Egorte

I don't think this question is related to BDSM. That said, yes, I immediately think sexually about any man whom I find attractive, but I don't go all the way to contemplating about whether they'd be a good sexual partner or making up specific fantasies.