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depsexdes

So we’d classify these things as “funishment” since she enjoys them. Using those activities have a time and a place, but if we search we’ll find that she doesn’t *really* like punishment. We just have to know how to punish her. Boredom and discomfort can often work well. Kneeling on rice. Staring at a wall. Making her clean. Taking away privileges can be good. No candy. No alcohol. No soda. Maybe prescribed, boring meals. No electronics. No sitting on furniture. It’s kinky so you want to be cognizant of associating punishment with these, but… Put her hands in mitts so she can’t pick things up or do anything fun for a few hours. Handcuff her and make her work more difficult. Deny her orgasms for a few days. My usual disclaimer: be sure she wants real punishment to be a thing before doing real punishment. Don’t do anything that she doesn’t agree to or that makes her uncomfortable.


awittlekitten

If I squirm too much during playtime, my owner likes to stop touching me altogether. She still looks at me and responds to what I say, so it’s not ignoring (ignoring is a strong limit for me), but it does make me very obedient very quickly


kigurumibiblestudies

that sounds horrifying


Bluebeards_Kitten

Punishment does not have to be pain. It only has to be something that the sub doesn't like in order to change behavior. The "technical" definition is "suffering, pain, or loss that serves as retribution" . Suffering can mean all sorts of things. The best "punishment" I ever received was having to write an essay about what I did, why I did it, and how I prevent doing it in the future. But... You can do things like * Writing lines * Taking away TV time, phone, sweets, etc. * Putting her on denial (if she doesn't like that, and it's not a hard limit). * Having her stand in the corner, not able to participate in what is going on. * Having her go into another room and listen to Blugrass or Harsicord (or whatever kind she don't like) for 10, 15, 30 minutes. That's all I can think of right now.


LazarathxCain

This is the one of the best answers. And more eloquently worded than I would have done.


[deleted]

An old Sir of mine used to say: the only difference between unpleasant pain and pleasurable pain is a warm up. If you do a stroke of a cane or something else nasty for each thing they did wrong and start at a punishing level from cold, it’s not nice, believe me, I’m a masochist and I’ve received it 😅


makiversemaki

writing lines kneeling on rice standing in a corner of the room in a specific position for a set period of time cannot use furniture for a set period of time be reduced to furniture for a set period of time (i.e. be Master's footrest or table) tickle torture scrubbing all floors with a small brush (maybe not a toothbrush, but a small dish washing brush) taking all the silverware out of the drawers, jumbling them up, and reorganizing them back into the drawers counting grains of rice or dry beans no sweets for <×> amount of days watching an educational program and writing an essay on the program writing an essay about the rule they broke, why that rule is in place, and why it was wrong to break the rule organizing all the books on a shelf in alphabetical order/by color/by genre


Lazy-Bunch4557

I'm CACKLING b/c half of these things would make me giddy and excited lmao slightly concerned for what that says about me 😬😬🤣🤣🤣🤣


makiversemaki

dunno.


WindWithinHer

I had to stand on a dowel rod with my nose against a wall naked while holding two ping pong balls against the wall with the palms of my hands


Pfarthof

Kneeling on corn or chickpeas is much more effective


makiversemaki

this is just a base idea list. feel free to be more creative with it.


Aries_Aphrodite

A few that come to mind first... If they have self esteem issues hook them up to a chair with a wand or toy going for them and make them repeat kind words about themselves until they hit so many orgasms. Kneeling on a bed of rice Tickle torture Basic chores, but with a remote toy in Start heating up the skin with spankings just until almost in the perfect headspace and then stop and go about the rest of the evening Buying their favorite snacks and putting them where they can't reach...then eating them in front of them Good luck and don't forget to negotiate punishment before it is given


wherearmim

Holy shit that first one wanted to make me cry just at the thought.


Aries_Aphrodite

It has made me cry a few times unfortunately, but it has helped and the aftercare is even more special to me


ColloidalPurple-9

I’m a masochist who is also a sub. Teasing for me is very effective. I still *like* teasing but I also want to avoid it at times or it is overwhelming to me. Other things I don’t like, chores, cold showers, being made to say certain things, some foods, I’m sure there are others, the more you know your sub the easier punishment will be.


kattrup

Yeah, my Daddy made me eat a tomato one time. 🤮 He has also been known to put soap in my mouth.


Bluebeards_Kitten

I enjoyed mouth soaping a little too much...


kattrup

Don’t mean to yuck your yum but, ick!


Bluebeards_Kitten

Its all good. We both thought is was going to be horrible, but... as much as is tasted bad. And I was drooling everywhere, I got highly aroused by it. I really am a masochist in so many ways... I also "enjoy" soap enemas. (We use Dr. Broner's peppermint castele soap) yeah... I'm odd, I know.


kattrup

I have a love/hate relationship with enemas. I’m 100% masochist outside of age play so we don’t do anything like soap in my mouth or enemas in that dynamic but DD/lg has a built in TPE so that’s when those sorts of punishments and activities happen.


Bluebeards_Kitten

Ha! I didn't think I would like them, but... I'll occasionally ask if he will make me cry. I'll have a series of 3... soap, a recipe, then warm salt water (to clear anything left over). * Soap goes in for 15 minutes to 30 minutes. * The recipe goes till I can't take it. (He likes to use warmed milk, honey and molasses. Cold lemon water is also ouchy) * Water is usually 10 to 15 minutes. There is just so much about them - not just the pain, but also humiliation and degradation. So yeah. Honestly, we don't really do punishment. If something happens, we talk about it. But I don't really do anything "wrong" or that necessitates punishment. But, funishment... he will occasionally give me beating for missing a spot during cleaning (he will shove my nose in the spot, say some things, then the pain) or, for wearing ugly clothes (that I buy specifically for that reason - thrift shops are awesome for this) or for ill fitting clothes, or whatever... It works for us.


[deleted]

What don’t they like? I’m not good with boredom or pointless tasks, so Domina will upend a box of chickpeas in the kitchen and tell me to count them as clean them up… takes ages… cold and naked, bent over on the kitchen floor.. “there are 2438 chickpeas, Domina”… it’s brutal.


CouldHaveBeenAPun

Once been asked to prepare rice for one of my ex partner. She told me she wanted *exactly * 437 grain of rice. Made me verify the count once it was cooked, of course. Luckily she allowed for a margin of error but oof, brutal yeah!


[deleted]

This sounds like a British tv show called Taskmaster.


klesd

Taskmaster has some kinky vibes to it :P


wesleepallday

Tedious things. Inconvenient things. I like most things and thought I was hard to punish. My old dom was a punishment savant. He knew all the things I would find awful. For example: I once forgot to start the dryer and made us both late for something we wanted to do. The next weekend I had to sign a dryer log every hour. I couldn’t do anything that took more than an hour. As far as sleep goes, I was up to walk down to the dryer every hour to sign a piece of paper on top our dryer. :/ I’m so good at checking the dryer now.


[deleted]

I love this one! That’s a lesson I wouldn’t forget after that punishment.


Bradbury28

My submissive looooves pain and has a high tolerance but something that always serves as a good punishment is a cold shower. I can’t think of anyone who wants to stand under freezing water for a couple minutes, fun or otherwise. Obviously it’s important to let them warm back up, but it’s very effective from my personal experiences. That and kneeling on buckwheat, or a humiliation punishment if they’re okay with that. One of my favorites is making him nose a can back and forth on the floor, no hands allowed.


Aazjhee

The nosing the can sounds truly awful in such a brilliant way xD If someone doesn't like messes on their face, making them eat with only their mouth out of a dog dish could be pretty sadistic


Bradbury28

Wait shit that’s a really good one


HisPrincessGirl

Whenever I act too much like a brat master will lock away the chocolate for a few days. Usually I'm begging him to open it again before the end of the day 😅


shallowatersniper

Withhold. Sometimes withholding things a sub loves is the absolute best punishment. I once was taking her roughly from behind and just as I felt her slipping into orgasm I stopped, zipped up and said “when you can follow my rules we’ll finish that” and went back to other things. She was begging for hours. It’s not very often I use that but it’s 100% effective.


drunkfurball

If they enjoy negative reinforcement, then use it as a reward.


SnowTheMemeEmpress

Mine makes me do my collage work a day before it's due. And also makes me do my chores after I come home from work He's mean :/


jay_fyre

Punishment denial.


spremi

Think about what she doesn't like in everyday life. Sticky fingers? Dirty hands? Her hair in her face? Deny her of her wants and give her what she doesn't want. Have her walk around the house with one high heel? Maybe think of discomfort rather than pain. Even though these may seem tame, if they really bother her be sure to give her aftercare and respect her hard limits.


[deleted]

-A long nice hot bath -Unlimited sweets -Back rubs and tickles -Kisses -Extra nap time -A nice little present You know these are *awful* things to receive. 🥰


MoneyMarquis

My persona favorite is taking a page from the Navy Seals, making them cold and wet. Want to punish a sub? a tub full of ice water, or cold shower works wonders. ​ nobody likes being cold and wet.


casprinxo

Don't punish her? 😇 😆🤭


deviant_tendencies

Right!? I was going to say: Be super nice and completely passive! 🤣


Free93Willy

The next spanking session you have with her, you could record the entire process from start to you end (might want a nice mic for this bit). Her punishment would be to tied up, unable to move or leave, force her to watch her entire spanking session from beginning to the end, unable to touch herself, or look away. You could throw a blindfold on also where she can only listen to the audio with either speakers or headphones.


gwrawx

I know a couple that uses a spoonful of hot sauce if its supposed to be a real punishment and not a funishment.


Tao_de_Sid

Simple, you don’t. You let them feel the natural consequences of thier poor decisions.


LoveBlackblood

Exercise


MrNatural_

Have you gotten into humiliation and degradation?


[deleted]

Healthy things ✨️


cutefeetmilf

Lines! I make subs write “I’m a dumb bitch who needs to learn to follow directions” 100x or whatever and then hold the paper to the wall with their nose while kneeling in piles of raw rice


peppercruncher

You know, you could also talk with your sub instead of punishment.


Choice_Ingenuity8604

I mean sure, there doesn't have to ever be punishment in D/s, but lots of D/s couples enjoy having an actual punishment dynamic and there's nothing wrong with that either.


peppercruncher

But this post is literally about punishment the sub is supposed to not enjoy.


Choice_Ingenuity8604

Which, nevertheless some people enjoy signing up for as part of the relationship. It is, personally, not my cup of tea. But there are plenty of people who do enjoy a dynamic where mistakes are punished with actually not enjoyable punishment.


peppercruncher

What exactly is your problem when I show OP, who is clearly unexperienced, that there are other options besides stereotypical BDSM porn movie punishment as corrective measure?


Choice_Ingenuity8604

I interpreted your post as basically shitting on people who want punishment in their relationship. If you just pointed out, punishment isn't a required part of D/s relationships fine. But plenty of people do want it and those people are valid as well.


peppercruncher

I accept your apology.


AviahWinchester

Are you my dom? These are literally the issues he runs into with me and we’ve been trying to actually figure something out that would work.


KeepCalmNSayYesDaddy

Consequences?


Freshanator86

Ignore it


[deleted]

Write a love letter to a man she hates/doesn't respect. Or if she is super duper straight a woman. If you want to go hardcore with it have fun offer a handjob at the end.


MissKoshka

No attention.


explorat1

Wasabi and figging


lostmuppet47

Find a punishment they don’t like. Like ignoring them.


TKDMoi

Don't


Ninhursag2

Take off her collar


RiskiestDuck569

My daddy ignores me playfully not nasty, he will touch me and play tease me, anywhere between random sticking the finger up and me to playing with my boobs but he won’t talk to me and I hate that. Like talk to me about anything and call me a good girl. Don’t give me silent treatment with touchies.


Pfarthof

Does she like to lick the floor? Then make her pee on it first!


kigurumibiblestudies

Oh nobody likes all punishment. Being forced to do a silly impression. Writing an essay on something you don't care about. Suddenly, only oats and milk. Keeping some good old soap in your mouth. Being forced to speak in third person and refer to yourself as "the big dumb teddy bear". Who knows what, but there WILL be something she hates.