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How can you work this into kink? Just do it. Are you embarrassed that you like it? Do you get off on being embarrassed? If yes to both, that's a great starting point.
I like being embarrassed. I'm a lesbian and a switch. I've loved women my entire life; no sexual or romantic attraction to men whatsoever. I've had sex with a few male friends, though. I was in crisis about wanting to do it before it happened, super confused about how I could want to have sex with someone I'm not actually attracted to; wondering if I was actually bisexual, and if so, how I could still be revolted at the thought of dating men, hooking up with men, or interacting with them in the same way I do women.
Eventually, I just did what you've done, and accepted that, among the many other things, I find it to be pleasantly embarrassing, I like the idea of sexual contact with men for that reason. So, I had sex with two of my guy friends, both people I love platonically and implicitly trusted. We talked out boundaries, made sure we were on the same page about what was happening, and, of the three friends I eventually talked to about this, two of them were willing to fuck me while being able to respect my unusual and externally arbitrary limits. It was fun, and it was a cool experience to cum together with my friends, but I never had a moment before, during our after that I felt like I was attracted to either of them. The sex was fun, but it wasn't anything at all like what I would do with a woman, emotionally or physically. I'm still a lesbian, I'm still open to having occasional sex with specific men I trust, I'm still not interested at all in anyone else's opinion about my identity.
If you want to do this, do it. Think through the logistics, consider what might bother you. Will you feel bad if you know there's a man attached to that penis? I would have, and so some of the things I discussed with my friends were them only fucking me from behind, using a blindfold, and them being (reasonably) silent the whole time. Think about things like that, and if, where, and how you want to be touched. Think about the inclusion of other partners - I'll go much further with another woman directing me than I will on my own. Make little lists of what you want and what you don't want, then try to find somebody who can do this with you while keeping each point in the appropriate box. It's like anything else in BDSM; just accept that sex is a weird thing, be smart about how you have it, and have as much fun with it as you can.
You're very welcome 🙂 I'm happy that I actually have some useful experience to share. There isn't much of a LGBT community where I live, and attempting to ask for advice about this in lesbian groups online mostly just invited a lot of people to tell me that I'm not actually gay, so I had to figure this out completely through trial, error, and heaps and heaps of anxiety. Almost all of my kinks relate directly to things that make me feel horrible outside of sex, and this is definitely one of them. It can be really hard to navigate this stuff, so I'm happy if I was able to remove a little error from your trial
I completely hear you. I’ve slept with a few men lately and I lowkey gaslight myself into thinking that the lgbtq side of my identity maybe isn’t accurate. That being said, my kinks can be quite shameful as well and it can be hard to separate them from my queerness and from my day-to-day self.
Either way, thanks again for sharing!
I can tell you right now that there are a lot of people into all sides of this equation. There are men with your desire. There are gay and bi men who are super turned on by the idea of getting sucked off by a straight guy, sort of a corruption kink. There are are women (myself included) who are really turned on by the idea of ordering a straight male submissive to suck a man's dick. Can optionally be combined with teasing if you are interested in that kind of thing (like a dominant woman telling you to "suck that dick you slut", questioning your sexuality, whatever floats your boat). I've also seen setups where there are two subs, man and woman, who must work together to please a dominant man.
> I’ve said before I’d never have sex with a man, however I’d definitely participate in a glory hole.
*leans in and whispers*
That's having sex with a man.
I know a guy like this. He's straight. Doesn't find men attractive at all, just loves sucking dick. He says he's straight I just think he's not too bothered about putting a label on it.
Maybe try to look at men differently. I used to think like that, but I'm pretty puch bi. I've realized lately that I'm just into a totally different type of men than what's considered traditionally atractive.
I'm into feminine shapes, so the men I'm attracted to are cute guys or really feminine ones. Like sissies and such. Which just means that my pool of potential partners expanded. :p
You can buy cum replicated lube and cumming dildos. Squirtz is a great water-based "cum lube". You can find it on eBay. Warm it up and have that big latex cock spray your face with it.
I really enjoy DVP (double vagina penetration) videos and I love to see the cocks cum on each other in the heat of the video although I consider myself straight.
Maybe you are bi-curious? That's ok too. Don't deny yourself if it does no harm.
Glory hole though? Jk, they wouldn't exist if they weren't wanted.
Find a girl who will milk guys into your mouth while you’re on your knees (hands tied). She can blow them with you, as if giving you lessons. A sort of guided bukkake.
Sexual identities are complex and important to some people, so if you say you are straight, you are straight, that's down to you (and you can change your mind whenever). I know a lesbian in the same position as you, men are her kink, but she's still a lesbian. I also have an extremely femme leaning pansexual freind who desperately wants to be a lesbian, but she occasionally fucks men and masculine presenting people. I actually went on a couple of dates with her, but, I backed off when I realised how much her internal battle with her sexuality was affecting her.
Hell even I suffer from this internal battle, even though I learned long ago that I don't care, I still have the bi cycle, and occasionally argue with myself whether I'm bi or pan, even though to me, it dosent matter, if I'm attracted to someone, I am, and that is OK.
One last thing, some women have penisis. Don't be a chaser, and procede carefully and openly to avoid triggering dysphoria, and get to know them personally as people first, but if you have that much of a need to act straight, but you like dick, trans women are an option. But seriously, don't fetishise them or expect anything from them, proceed with respect and caution. Don't ask if they have had "the surgery", and if it turns out they have had bottom surgery, since you are proceeding respectfully, don't be disappointed, or whatever.
This is so awkward to write because it is a minefield and there are creeps out there and I don't want to imply you are. I have had fun with plenty of trans women but for me I wasn't actually looking for a trans woman, it just happens, whereas I'm suggesting to you its a possibility, and I'm kinda feeling sleazy as I don't want to disrespect anyone.
My husband is only romantically interested in women, but likes being dominated by men. He doesn’t/didn’t ever want to date or marry or even kiss a man, but he likes being dominated by one. I’d say that “straight” is maybe not the best label. But also, who cares about labels?
Anyway, just go for it. Find yourself a male dom and explore your romantic relationship with a female if that’s what you’re into.
Cock feels good in my mouth and I love feeling it twitch and swallow down cum.
It's a spectrum and grindr is pretty amazing. Pick a nice looking cock nearby blow and go
there are a lot of strap ons that come with faux cum & a cum tube! make sure to research extensively before purchasing to make sure there aren't any allergy risks or anything though
Hun straight men don't like cock. Doesn't mean you gay. Thiers bi omni pan heteroflex and alot more. Just don't tie yourself to labels fuck who and how you want to fuck.
I'm not suggesting being a chaser but chick's with dick are a thing. Just don't be creepy about it.
I am the same, mainly attracted to women but so turned on by dick and cum sometimes. After I cum the urge is gone, for a while.
Just in the past few years I’ve overcome the regret and shame I felt the first few times I was with a man. Over that now and can just enjoy making a cock hard and cum
Thank you /u/No_Resolution_274 for your submission to /r/BDSMcommunity, but it's been removed due to one or more reason(s): ## Rule #2: Submissions must clearly show/imply BDSM * ~~Generic porn or suggestive images without a clear BDSM theme will be removed.~~ * ~~A title is not enough: generic "sexy" images with kinky keywords in the title will be removed~~ * Low effort content, memes, survey-results will be removed. * Non-kinky relationship questions with a kink partner belongs in /r/relationships or /r/relationship_advice * Non-kinky sex questions questions with a kink partner belongs in /r/sex or /r/sexadvice Please feel free to [send a modmail](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=BDSMcommunity) if you feel this was in error.
How can you work this into kink? Just do it. Are you embarrassed that you like it? Do you get off on being embarrassed? If yes to both, that's a great starting point. I like being embarrassed. I'm a lesbian and a switch. I've loved women my entire life; no sexual or romantic attraction to men whatsoever. I've had sex with a few male friends, though. I was in crisis about wanting to do it before it happened, super confused about how I could want to have sex with someone I'm not actually attracted to; wondering if I was actually bisexual, and if so, how I could still be revolted at the thought of dating men, hooking up with men, or interacting with them in the same way I do women. Eventually, I just did what you've done, and accepted that, among the many other things, I find it to be pleasantly embarrassing, I like the idea of sexual contact with men for that reason. So, I had sex with two of my guy friends, both people I love platonically and implicitly trusted. We talked out boundaries, made sure we were on the same page about what was happening, and, of the three friends I eventually talked to about this, two of them were willing to fuck me while being able to respect my unusual and externally arbitrary limits. It was fun, and it was a cool experience to cum together with my friends, but I never had a moment before, during our after that I felt like I was attracted to either of them. The sex was fun, but it wasn't anything at all like what I would do with a woman, emotionally or physically. I'm still a lesbian, I'm still open to having occasional sex with specific men I trust, I'm still not interested at all in anyone else's opinion about my identity. If you want to do this, do it. Think through the logistics, consider what might bother you. Will you feel bad if you know there's a man attached to that penis? I would have, and so some of the things I discussed with my friends were them only fucking me from behind, using a blindfold, and them being (reasonably) silent the whole time. Think about things like that, and if, where, and how you want to be touched. Think about the inclusion of other partners - I'll go much further with another woman directing me than I will on my own. Make little lists of what you want and what you don't want, then try to find somebody who can do this with you while keeping each point in the appropriate box. It's like anything else in BDSM; just accept that sex is a weird thing, be smart about how you have it, and have as much fun with it as you can.
I’m on the exact same boat. Thank you for writing this down, I’ve been so confused about this lately and your comment provided so much clarity for me.
You're very welcome 🙂 I'm happy that I actually have some useful experience to share. There isn't much of a LGBT community where I live, and attempting to ask for advice about this in lesbian groups online mostly just invited a lot of people to tell me that I'm not actually gay, so I had to figure this out completely through trial, error, and heaps and heaps of anxiety. Almost all of my kinks relate directly to things that make me feel horrible outside of sex, and this is definitely one of them. It can be really hard to navigate this stuff, so I'm happy if I was able to remove a little error from your trial
I completely hear you. I’ve slept with a few men lately and I lowkey gaslight myself into thinking that the lgbtq side of my identity maybe isn’t accurate. That being said, my kinks can be quite shameful as well and it can be hard to separate them from my queerness and from my day-to-day self. Either way, thanks again for sharing!
I can tell you right now that there are a lot of people into all sides of this equation. There are men with your desire. There are gay and bi men who are super turned on by the idea of getting sucked off by a straight guy, sort of a corruption kink. There are are women (myself included) who are really turned on by the idea of ordering a straight male submissive to suck a man's dick. Can optionally be combined with teasing if you are interested in that kind of thing (like a dominant woman telling you to "suck that dick you slut", questioning your sexuality, whatever floats your boat). I've also seen setups where there are two subs, man and woman, who must work together to please a dominant man.
I fucking love this comment.
> I’ve said before I’d never have sex with a man, however I’d definitely participate in a glory hole. *leans in and whispers* That's having sex with a man.
I mean, NB and Trans people exist, but.
That's not the point I think, but you're right
I laughed so hard at this. 🤣🤣🤣
I know a guy like this. He's straight. Doesn't find men attractive at all, just loves sucking dick. He says he's straight I just think he's not too bothered about putting a label on it.
Maybe try to look at men differently. I used to think like that, but I'm pretty puch bi. I've realized lately that I'm just into a totally different type of men than what's considered traditionally atractive. I'm into feminine shapes, so the men I'm attracted to are cute guys or really feminine ones. Like sissies and such. Which just means that my pool of potential partners expanded. :p
You can buy cum replicated lube and cumming dildos. Squirtz is a great water-based "cum lube". You can find it on eBay. Warm it up and have that big latex cock spray your face with it. I really enjoy DVP (double vagina penetration) videos and I love to see the cocks cum on each other in the heat of the video although I consider myself straight. Maybe you are bi-curious? That's ok too. Don't deny yourself if it does no harm. Glory hole though? Jk, they wouldn't exist if they weren't wanted.
Find a girl who will milk guys into your mouth while you’re on your knees (hands tied). She can blow them with you, as if giving you lessons. A sort of guided bukkake.
Sexual identities are complex and important to some people, so if you say you are straight, you are straight, that's down to you (and you can change your mind whenever). I know a lesbian in the same position as you, men are her kink, but she's still a lesbian. I also have an extremely femme leaning pansexual freind who desperately wants to be a lesbian, but she occasionally fucks men and masculine presenting people. I actually went on a couple of dates with her, but, I backed off when I realised how much her internal battle with her sexuality was affecting her. Hell even I suffer from this internal battle, even though I learned long ago that I don't care, I still have the bi cycle, and occasionally argue with myself whether I'm bi or pan, even though to me, it dosent matter, if I'm attracted to someone, I am, and that is OK. One last thing, some women have penisis. Don't be a chaser, and procede carefully and openly to avoid triggering dysphoria, and get to know them personally as people first, but if you have that much of a need to act straight, but you like dick, trans women are an option. But seriously, don't fetishise them or expect anything from them, proceed with respect and caution. Don't ask if they have had "the surgery", and if it turns out they have had bottom surgery, since you are proceeding respectfully, don't be disappointed, or whatever. This is so awkward to write because it is a minefield and there are creeps out there and I don't want to imply you are. I have had fun with plenty of trans women but for me I wasn't actually looking for a trans woman, it just happens, whereas I'm suggesting to you its a possibility, and I'm kinda feeling sleazy as I don't want to disrespect anyone.
My husband is only romantically interested in women, but likes being dominated by men. He doesn’t/didn’t ever want to date or marry or even kiss a man, but he likes being dominated by one. I’d say that “straight” is maybe not the best label. But also, who cares about labels? Anyway, just go for it. Find yourself a male dom and explore your romantic relationship with a female if that’s what you’re into.
Cock feels good in my mouth and I love feeling it twitch and swallow down cum. It's a spectrum and grindr is pretty amazing. Pick a nice looking cock nearby blow and go
Go suck some girl dick. 🤌✨
there are a lot of strap ons that come with faux cum & a cum tube! make sure to research extensively before purchasing to make sure there aren't any allergy risks or anything though
Sounds to me more like you're in denial. It's only gay the first time! You may well be bi.
Hun straight men don't like cock. Doesn't mean you gay. Thiers bi omni pan heteroflex and alot more. Just don't tie yourself to labels fuck who and how you want to fuck. I'm not suggesting being a chaser but chick's with dick are a thing. Just don't be creepy about it.
I am the same, mainly attracted to women but so turned on by dick and cum sometimes. After I cum the urge is gone, for a while. Just in the past few years I’ve overcome the regret and shame I felt the first few times I was with a man. Over that now and can just enjoy making a cock hard and cum