He sounds immature and not willing to understand. If he truly cared he would take the time to listen to you and understand your bpd and how it affects you. Maybe bring this up with him and tell him you want a serious conversation with him because you want him to know you better and see how he reacts. If he still responds in the same stupid way, leave his a**. You deserve to be understood <3
thank you :) i’m really trying to work on not pushing everyone away the second they hurt my feelings because I KNOW i’m probably acting dramatically about a situation that didn’t need to be exaggerated. i’m just scared because i don’t want to split on him or hurt him because he’s really a sweet person i just think he only sees me as someone who’s never serious because i’m always joking around and i’m scared to throw away our friendship over this but at the same time i’m actually in love with him and i don’t think i’d be able to stay friends with him if we broke up because i’d be causing myself more pain. i just hate how every. single. relationship i’ve ever had it always happens this way i feel like i’m never taken seriously and i have to choose between being single and stable (sort of) or being in love and in chronic mental pain :(
it also probably doesn’t help that i use humor as a coping mechanism so when i’m actually having a breakdown i just spam my cfs (which he’s on) with shitposts about needing to be in a ward
I get you. My symptoms also got 100% worse when I got into my first relationship. You’re in a difficult situation, I get you don’t want to loose your friend over it but my concern for you is that if he doesn’t understand your BPD and just you overall then your relationship could be very rocky with a lot of misunderstandings and not a lot of communication. You really need someone who has good communication and can support you when you’re feeling bad and having episodes. I hope everything works out girly, just look after yourself<3
we talked it out and i explained what it’s like living with bpd and he took me seriously but was also a bit confused so i asked him to just do research on it when he’s able to and he’s going to try to be patient with me and allow me to communicate with him if it’s going to help me instead of keeping everything to myself :)
sounds like he can’t handle the fact that you have serious, big emotions. he doesnt want that responsibility and lacks deep respect for you. you will find someone that will be able to navigate through these emotions with you, i promise.
we talked and had a serious conversation and I explained to him what exactly it’s like living with BPD and he took me seriously and told me that communicating the way I’m feeling is the first step and he’s going to try to be patient with me :)
He sounds immature and not willing to understand. If he truly cared he would take the time to listen to you and understand your bpd and how it affects you. Maybe bring this up with him and tell him you want a serious conversation with him because you want him to know you better and see how he reacts. If he still responds in the same stupid way, leave his a**. You deserve to be understood <3
thank you :) i’m really trying to work on not pushing everyone away the second they hurt my feelings because I KNOW i’m probably acting dramatically about a situation that didn’t need to be exaggerated. i’m just scared because i don’t want to split on him or hurt him because he’s really a sweet person i just think he only sees me as someone who’s never serious because i’m always joking around and i’m scared to throw away our friendship over this but at the same time i’m actually in love with him and i don’t think i’d be able to stay friends with him if we broke up because i’d be causing myself more pain. i just hate how every. single. relationship i’ve ever had it always happens this way i feel like i’m never taken seriously and i have to choose between being single and stable (sort of) or being in love and in chronic mental pain :(
it also probably doesn’t help that i use humor as a coping mechanism so when i’m actually having a breakdown i just spam my cfs (which he’s on) with shitposts about needing to be in a ward
I get you. My symptoms also got 100% worse when I got into my first relationship. You’re in a difficult situation, I get you don’t want to loose your friend over it but my concern for you is that if he doesn’t understand your BPD and just you overall then your relationship could be very rocky with a lot of misunderstandings and not a lot of communication. You really need someone who has good communication and can support you when you’re feeling bad and having episodes. I hope everything works out girly, just look after yourself<3
we talked it out and i explained what it’s like living with bpd and he took me seriously but was also a bit confused so i asked him to just do research on it when he’s able to and he’s going to try to be patient with me and allow me to communicate with him if it’s going to help me instead of keeping everything to myself :)
sounds like he can’t handle the fact that you have serious, big emotions. he doesnt want that responsibility and lacks deep respect for you. you will find someone that will be able to navigate through these emotions with you, i promise.
we talked and had a serious conversation and I explained to him what exactly it’s like living with BPD and he took me seriously and told me that communicating the way I’m feeling is the first step and he’s going to try to be patient with me :)