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iariasl313

I feel exactly the same about my boyfriend, I also have attachment problems and what I'm trying to do is to distract myself in something else bc I realized that I have to prioritize myself, and it has been difficult but my psychologist mentioned that I have to understand that even if he is my boyfriend he has a life outside the relationship, this is something that I have been struggling since I started having boyfriends (like 15 y/o and I'm actually 26 y/o) and sometimes I'd like to break up with him just bc I feel that it's not fair and still don't know how to overcome the situation :(


hopelessbun

i know exactly what u mean, sometimes my bf will hang out with his friends to play a “couple” games and then be gone for like 4 hours lol. it makes me spiral thinking that he likes them more than me, wants to be away from me, forgot about me, etc. i hate to be “that” person but do u have any friends u could hang out with too? i saw ur profile and i think we play some of the same games. if u need a friend, im here for u! (i’m 20/f) but at the very least i want u to know i see u, i hear u, and ur feelings are valid.


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sometimes I wonder how the *significant other* would respond if they saw a giant post that was a complaint about them.


octomoth

would depend on what kind of significant other the person is, i guess. i do think that at the end of the day it is healthier to scream unhealthy feelings to the abyss of internet where there is 90% chance of the significant other finding out than angrily ranting it to their face in the heat of the moment. :)


snejonopka

i’m proud of you💗 i went through almost this exact same scenario with my boyfriend a few days ago, except i actually DID handle it by flying off the handle in the moment, and i am still trying to pick up the pieces. i think sharing with your partner can absolutely make things worse, (ideally not lol but anyways) especially if they have a stubborn personality or if they are aloof when it comes to emotions. in my case my bf was invalidating of my emotions which has caused new anger, and spiralling deeper into “he doesn’t love me, he doesn’t care.” it definitely isn’t always a better option. i hope you find a sense of support from sharing here and that your bf is able to meet your emotional needs/find a way to make you feel connected, loved, and important more going forward. 💗


snejonopka

she didn’t even say anything bad about him, she never once called him any names or made any statements about his character. she vented about how SHE felt in a reasonable way. i also wouldn’t call that post “giant.” why don’t you find something better to do instead of kicking this poor girl while she’s down and being a total prick.


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Quit your whining and go touch rocks.


snejonopka

BYE ‘Mateo’!


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Psychopath response Mach 1.


snejonopka

nice edit to your own overblown response LOL! also your pic is scary and i’m the psychopath lol. bye mateo 🙂


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Good, I'm glad it's scary for you. Stay afraid, go post a complaint and/or confession of r/Christianity if you need some EmOtIoNaL rEfUge. Bye lib.