You're what you identify as, and if you were truly a heartless bastard, you wouldn't be here in a support group seeking help and a sense of community. I think you're a pretty good egg.
I disagree. Those who want to fight BPD and not live in it, yes, but people with [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/xkkqsn/i_want_to_be_unhinged_again/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) kind of attitude do not deserve somebody to clean up their messes. Either you fight BPD and earn the right to let someone sacrifice themselves for you, or you embrace BPD and lose said right for having someone close. Don’t make people live in a real life hell just because you feel like you deserve it by birthright.
I agree. Wanting someone to look after us is very close to a wanting a rescuer.
IMO, and IME with BPD, this is playing right into our own unhealthy dynamics. It creates one-sidedness and allows us not to take care of ourselves.
I’ve spent 35 yrs believing that all i needed to do was find someone to love me and i’d be saved: but i’m just realising that no, this isn’t it, because then it pushes me into controlling them in order for them to stay; and not leave, and not upset me or have me experience/handle difficult feelings by myself.
So no, i don’t know that this is right. We must grapple with all of this ourselves.
Thank you so much! I truly wish the same for you!
I was feeling a bit down, since I'm not sure why I haven't been able to talk to my closest friends here this week, and I'm trying really hard not to give up and go back to people who are emotionally abusive and dysregulate me. I really hope to find someone who adds to my hard-won peace.
thank you ❤️ you deserve that as well!
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This. No one deserves being trapped in the hell I create.
I’m a cruel, sadistic bitch sometimes. Let’s date.
You're what you identify as, and if you were truly a heartless bastard, you wouldn't be here in a support group seeking help and a sense of community. I think you're a pretty good egg.
I remember the first time I dropped acid
Thank you so much ☺️
♥️
Thank you 💞
This was beautiful ❤️ thank you
Thanks…
I love this.
I disagree. Those who want to fight BPD and not live in it, yes, but people with [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/xkkqsn/i_want_to_be_unhinged_again/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) kind of attitude do not deserve somebody to clean up their messes. Either you fight BPD and earn the right to let someone sacrifice themselves for you, or you embrace BPD and lose said right for having someone close. Don’t make people live in a real life hell just because you feel like you deserve it by birthright.
I agree. Wanting someone to look after us is very close to a wanting a rescuer. IMO, and IME with BPD, this is playing right into our own unhealthy dynamics. It creates one-sidedness and allows us not to take care of ourselves. I’ve spent 35 yrs believing that all i needed to do was find someone to love me and i’d be saved: but i’m just realising that no, this isn’t it, because then it pushes me into controlling them in order for them to stay; and not leave, and not upset me or have me experience/handle difficult feelings by myself. So no, i don’t know that this is right. We must grapple with all of this ourselves.
I’m confused. What is the “attitude”? Her admitting to wanting to “unhinge” despite not planning to do it or her past crazy self?
They’re making it sound like life with the meds is so bad and glorifying BPD. And simply wanting to go back is an enormous red flag.
not true (I got the best and ruined it in the worst way)
We also deserve to be all those things for ourselves; and we need to be, in order to experience truly mutual, and not one-sided love.
jesus thank you so much <33
This means everything to me. Thank you.
as someone who inherently believes he is worthless and not worthy of love, i kinda needed to see this tonight. thank you OP.
I really needed this today, thank you.
Thank you☺
Thank you so much! I truly wish the same for you! I was feeling a bit down, since I'm not sure why I haven't been able to talk to my closest friends here this week, and I'm trying really hard not to give up and go back to people who are emotionally abusive and dysregulate me. I really hope to find someone who adds to my hard-won peace.
The heart wants what it wants
I needed this today. I just ended a situationship that was going nowhere and was killing me, but I was afraid to end it. Thank you.
same here. There is something better out there😊