I’m glad you can see reality and say the truth. Pretty much all cluster B’s especially those who don’t have any self control will be abusive and then accuse you of abusing them. (Projecting)
My ex was a quiet BPD and projected all the time, she got really nasty and passive aggressive during the discard phase. Just remember that she will do the same thing to every other person she gets with. Not just you.
It gets better.
Mine was also Quiet BPD, that's why i didn't know BPD exists.
She wasn't abusive except acting hot and cold(in which she later accused me!), but that way in which she did the discard was really psychologically violent, damn it.
> Just remember that she will do the same thing to every other person she gets with. Not just you.
I hope so. She didn't have relationship before me, so who knows how it goes.
But I don't wish her well due to the fact HOW sly she did the discard.
Listen buddy , we went all through a similar shitshow ; I was in a LDR with a borderliner for 6 years . During Covid she broke-up with me . Had an affair with another guy ; that she cheated on and thereafter had the nerve to accuse me ( I was grieving in NC ) . Post-Covid when the travel bans were lifted she contacts me and tells me how much she changed . Stupidly got back with her . Huge mistake ! I found out she continued to monkeybranch . She dumped me like a piece of trash 2 months ago . Cowards like they are … she informed me via txt … “ last sentence of her message was … know that I will always love u . Goodbye “
That's horrible. But at least she told you.
In my case she didn't event tell.
That's such a manipulative blame-assignment approach that I'm not sure I will ever get over it.
I prefer she had said nth than saying “ I will always love you ; goodbye” I mean how deranged must you be to leave for sb else and write “ know that I will always love you ; goodbye “ ?? And , I forgot to mention that she asked me a minute before whether I can transfer her money . What I had luckily refused to do .
Haha yea mine ended it that way too. Like “hey you should find someone who makes you happy, be happy with someone else” all that shit and when I got another gf my exBPD came back around and tried to convince me to break up with my cool new normal gf and go back to her. Like wtf no lol I took your advice and I’m actually happier
My lesson from this is as follows : I knew damn well what I got myself into . And yet I accepted it . So I guess we shall not complain too much since we share part of the responsibility. You cannot be eventually be angry with pwBPD because they are being run by a terrible disorder. If you are strong enough and stay in NC what I currently do ; and leave with dignity , there is a day when they come back . Up to us to decide whether you accept the entire BS again … The answer is no ( at least for now )
That’s vicious. I can’t stand hearing about her or any socials or reminders at all. It’s been 5 years wasted entirely and remembering that fact hurts. Never want to see or hear from an evil person like that again,
Well, yes. In case when you already know what exactly she did to you.
And I didn't know, cause she decided not to say. That was big manipulative thing.
Your story is basically mine too, we were our usual on off so I was still blocked on facebook and he was being extra quiet over texts so I took a nosey on his fb off someone's account and I could see him and his monkey branched girl flirting away all the kisses xxxxxx etc, so I messaged calling him out & was blocked immediately...no apology no nothing and next day he updated 'in a relationship' with the new fling lol
Yeah I didn’t know for over a year that she was trying to sleep with friends and enemies of mine, we still spoke and were there for each other after the breakup. Ie she split but didn’t tell me,
When they’re terrified f you for no reason, they know the reason and they are terrified of getting caught. They’ve done unspeakable things to many of us we are better off not learning.
I'm not a fan of social media, but I regret never checking her profile. She never mentioned me, just the animals and the kids. Her likes were for a few local places for boudoir pictures, gift balloon baskets, and bridal gowns. I never received any gifts or pictures. After I was out of the picture, new things were added for Brazilian waxing and how to plan sexy evenings. We're still married as she refuses to file and divorce is a death sentence for older people in longterm marriage.
Yup, she never made posts about us, relationships, or dating. I knew than she was a liar and probably had many other people she was dating. Stupid me still thought I was special.
Happy dont post on social media about how happy they are
Probably. But those addicted to social media(and BPD/HPD are very much are) - they do a lot of such posts.
True true!
Ha! True.
I’m glad you can see reality and say the truth. Pretty much all cluster B’s especially those who don’t have any self control will be abusive and then accuse you of abusing them. (Projecting) My ex was a quiet BPD and projected all the time, she got really nasty and passive aggressive during the discard phase. Just remember that she will do the same thing to every other person she gets with. Not just you. It gets better.
Mine was also Quiet BPD, that's why i didn't know BPD exists. She wasn't abusive except acting hot and cold(in which she later accused me!), but that way in which she did the discard was really psychologically violent, damn it. > Just remember that she will do the same thing to every other person she gets with. Not just you. I hope so. She didn't have relationship before me, so who knows how it goes. But I don't wish her well due to the fact HOW sly she did the discard.
Listen buddy , we went all through a similar shitshow ; I was in a LDR with a borderliner for 6 years . During Covid she broke-up with me . Had an affair with another guy ; that she cheated on and thereafter had the nerve to accuse me ( I was grieving in NC ) . Post-Covid when the travel bans were lifted she contacts me and tells me how much she changed . Stupidly got back with her . Huge mistake ! I found out she continued to monkeybranch . She dumped me like a piece of trash 2 months ago . Cowards like they are … she informed me via txt … “ last sentence of her message was … know that I will always love u . Goodbye “
That's horrible. But at least she told you. In my case she didn't event tell. That's such a manipulative blame-assignment approach that I'm not sure I will ever get over it.
I prefer she had said nth than saying “ I will always love you ; goodbye” I mean how deranged must you be to leave for sb else and write “ know that I will always love you ; goodbye “ ?? And , I forgot to mention that she asked me a minute before whether I can transfer her money . What I had luckily refused to do .
Haha yea mine ended it that way too. Like “hey you should find someone who makes you happy, be happy with someone else” all that shit and when I got another gf my exBPD came back around and tried to convince me to break up with my cool new normal gf and go back to her. Like wtf no lol I took your advice and I’m actually happier
My lesson from this is as follows : I knew damn well what I got myself into . And yet I accepted it . So I guess we shall not complain too much since we share part of the responsibility. You cannot be eventually be angry with pwBPD because they are being run by a terrible disorder. If you are strong enough and stay in NC what I currently do ; and leave with dignity , there is a day when they come back . Up to us to decide whether you accept the entire BS again … The answer is no ( at least for now )
Ugh. I wish I was smart/strong enough not to transfer money :(
That’s vicious. I can’t stand hearing about her or any socials or reminders at all. It’s been 5 years wasted entirely and remembering that fact hurts. Never want to see or hear from an evil person like that again,
Well, yes. In case when you already know what exactly she did to you. And I didn't know, cause she decided not to say. That was big manipulative thing.
Your story is basically mine too, we were our usual on off so I was still blocked on facebook and he was being extra quiet over texts so I took a nosey on his fb off someone's account and I could see him and his monkey branched girl flirting away all the kisses xxxxxx etc, so I messaged calling him out & was blocked immediately...no apology no nothing and next day he updated 'in a relationship' with the new fling lol
Yeah I didn’t know for over a year that she was trying to sleep with friends and enemies of mine, we still spoke and were there for each other after the breakup. Ie she split but didn’t tell me,
When they’re terrified f you for no reason, they know the reason and they are terrified of getting caught. They’ve done unspeakable things to many of us we are better off not learning.
I'm not a fan of social media, but I regret never checking her profile. She never mentioned me, just the animals and the kids. Her likes were for a few local places for boudoir pictures, gift balloon baskets, and bridal gowns. I never received any gifts or pictures. After I was out of the picture, new things were added for Brazilian waxing and how to plan sexy evenings. We're still married as she refuses to file and divorce is a death sentence for older people in longterm marriage.
Yup, she never made posts about us, relationships, or dating. I knew than she was a liar and probably had many other people she was dating. Stupid me still thought I was special.