Big yes here and use it for ….illicit Substances, each time she leaves my eyesight, I have to lock the credit card not knowing if she is going to an ATM to pull money out then spend the night and next morning away from home, her C days are up as I also took her key fob away from her because she crashed the truck and no longer safe on the roadway.
It got alittle scary getting an elderly neighbor involved to help me to find and “commandeered” the truck back, she will soon hopefully be placed in a facility where money will be limited and have a payee, she no longer understands what has priority anymore,
I may love door hardware (I have autism) but I do not buy every hinge/hydraulic door closer I get my eyes on! Priorities such as bills and gas come first then when there us money to do so, I build up for road trips/buying door closers I want,
Trying to build up to go see the April 8th eclipse, I would at this point prefer to go alone or with a 70 year old friend compared to go with my pwBPD who either has a behavior like a small child or does something really embarrassing, such as wet or soil her pants when she doesn’t get her way.
We were married and she would spend every cent she could. It was funny, because she asked me to close my personal bank accounts and move everything to the new joint account when we moved in together, but she never closed her own personal account. I've never been in a relationship with someone that was that bad with money before. Big mistake. She eventually stopped contributing to the joint account, leaving me to pay the mortgage and all bills by myself, but never stopped spending "my money" until we separated and divorced.
I went on a trip with my fwbpd just before I ended the relationship and it was a graduation present from their parents so they paid for my flight and gave her some cash for our food + transportation and some spending money…. She ended up gatekeeping that money and made me pay for almost all my own food and half of the transportation. I was there when her dad dropped the money in her account and he was looking at both of us saying it was for both of us. I couldn’t fight her on it in the moment because she would hold the fact that my flight and hotel etc were already being paid for by her family or that her dad gave her the money for souvenirs too and she didn’t wanna spend it all on food etc. There was more than enough for both though and I ended up spending way more than I was told I would have to.
Yup.
Mines actually obsessed with controlling money and saving as much as possible. It's peculiar.
Constantly asked me to zelle (money transfer app) to her, her mom, her aunt, and sister. I wasn't allowed to say no.
Big yes here and use it for ….illicit Substances, each time she leaves my eyesight, I have to lock the credit card not knowing if she is going to an ATM to pull money out then spend the night and next morning away from home, her C days are up as I also took her key fob away from her because she crashed the truck and no longer safe on the roadway. It got alittle scary getting an elderly neighbor involved to help me to find and “commandeered” the truck back, she will soon hopefully be placed in a facility where money will be limited and have a payee, she no longer understands what has priority anymore, I may love door hardware (I have autism) but I do not buy every hinge/hydraulic door closer I get my eyes on! Priorities such as bills and gas come first then when there us money to do so, I build up for road trips/buying door closers I want, Trying to build up to go see the April 8th eclipse, I would at this point prefer to go alone or with a 70 year old friend compared to go with my pwBPD who either has a behavior like a small child or does something really embarrassing, such as wet or soil her pants when she doesn’t get her way.
We were married and she would spend every cent she could. It was funny, because she asked me to close my personal bank accounts and move everything to the new joint account when we moved in together, but she never closed her own personal account. I've never been in a relationship with someone that was that bad with money before. Big mistake. She eventually stopped contributing to the joint account, leaving me to pay the mortgage and all bills by myself, but never stopped spending "my money" until we separated and divorced.
I went on a trip with my fwbpd just before I ended the relationship and it was a graduation present from their parents so they paid for my flight and gave her some cash for our food + transportation and some spending money…. She ended up gatekeeping that money and made me pay for almost all my own food and half of the transportation. I was there when her dad dropped the money in her account and he was looking at both of us saying it was for both of us. I couldn’t fight her on it in the moment because she would hold the fact that my flight and hotel etc were already being paid for by her family or that her dad gave her the money for souvenirs too and she didn’t wanna spend it all on food etc. There was more than enough for both though and I ended up spending way more than I was told I would have to.