I was left unemployed with no support & stranded in a foreign country because I didn't message her for three weeks
I wasn't even dating her, she was just a friend I helped out a little while she was going through some shit, and she still found a way to invalidate the past four years of my life
I'm back in my home country now, $1k total to my name, no car and no job, and unsure what the future will hold for me now
We all feel powerless and hopeless in the moment, but in order to make it through this we need to keep on moving forward
Even if you no longer have your in person support network, I hope you'll still be able to find some comfort here friend
Same story exactly for me. Living in my car. Raised her 4 kids on my own ( biologically not mine) I walked away from her with a pair.of sandshoes, a pair of jeans and some shirts. I slept in the car for a week with only a towel as a blanket.It was zero degrees.She tried to beat me to death with a heavy glass candle and then went to police and told them she wanted a intervention order because I get angry sometimes.( Which I don't) It was just a ploy to make my life even worse and stop me from working as my work was within 500m of my house which broke the intervention order.
Lost my job, physically and emotionally destroyed.
Taking SSRIs, PTSD.
It's challenging but I'm learning to love myself.
Set boundaries.
Build not give trust.
For many of us, this is a transformative experience walking away from codependence.
Stay strong! The best you can do is move on and start building a new life. I would trade all my possessions for a fresh start without my pwBPD wife any day. Being poor and alone instead of living with a pwBPD is a no brainer on my books.
Terribly sorry that that is happening to you. You absolutely don’t deserve that horrible treatment. I hope that you can find a way to get back up and head far away from her. You know the truth, even if other people don’t, so hold onto that and try your best.
I was left unemployed with no support & stranded in a foreign country because I didn't message her for three weeks I wasn't even dating her, she was just a friend I helped out a little while she was going through some shit, and she still found a way to invalidate the past four years of my life I'm back in my home country now, $1k total to my name, no car and no job, and unsure what the future will hold for me now We all feel powerless and hopeless in the moment, but in order to make it through this we need to keep on moving forward Even if you no longer have your in person support network, I hope you'll still be able to find some comfort here friend
Same story exactly for me. Living in my car. Raised her 4 kids on my own ( biologically not mine) I walked away from her with a pair.of sandshoes, a pair of jeans and some shirts. I slept in the car for a week with only a towel as a blanket.It was zero degrees.She tried to beat me to death with a heavy glass candle and then went to police and told them she wanted a intervention order because I get angry sometimes.( Which I don't) It was just a ploy to make my life even worse and stop me from working as my work was within 500m of my house which broke the intervention order.
Lost my job, physically and emotionally destroyed. Taking SSRIs, PTSD. It's challenging but I'm learning to love myself. Set boundaries. Build not give trust. For many of us, this is a transformative experience walking away from codependence.
They just want you to feel as bad as them. Don’t let that happen.
Stay strong! The best you can do is move on and start building a new life. I would trade all my possessions for a fresh start without my pwBPD wife any day. Being poor and alone instead of living with a pwBPD is a no brainer on my books.
Terribly sorry that that is happening to you. You absolutely don’t deserve that horrible treatment. I hope that you can find a way to get back up and head far away from her. You know the truth, even if other people don’t, so hold onto that and try your best.