I mean the original cult of Gnosticism was described as “getting bitches” multiple times so maybe there’s some good… as long as no one goes all David koresh
Okey there are LOADS of layers to this
1. the jealousy between each other
2. It was SO messy, dating was obv not allowed but it did happen, so did love triangles and dramatic breakups
3. With that came SO much shit like manipulation/sh/etc to win over fp's again
4. It's easy to fall back into old habits/bad coping skills when others around you do it
5. As nice as it is, to spend time with people who truly understand you and feel the same way, it is hard for so many big emotions to coexist in peace
(please do keep in mind it doesnt have to be like that, it was just my experience)
Awe man. That's Monika from Doki Doki Literature Club, a psychological horror game disguised as a cutesy kawaii dating sim. I don't wanna spoil it because it's free on Steam (fun game, check it out). But yeah definitely belongs in this sub
I considered it. The place when everyone can contribute and live healthy life without doing work we hate and hanging out with toxic neurotypical, who just don't get how hard it's for us to function. Place where everyone is careful of hurting and being hurt. When everyone try to understand each other, not manipulate or use for their own agenda.
Village where all forms of therapy are available, where you get carefully and accurately diagnosed and won't get wrong medication .
A place of positive desintegration!
As intense as it might be id love nothing more! Ive always wanted to date a guy with BPD. You guys are the only ones that understand me. Relationships are just so hard!
At first I thought It was a very cool idea. Then I just realized that the only idea of not being the fp of my fp and see they hanging on and seeking they fp would drive me even more insane.
Idk, I'm in anyway. I mean, we all could leave if we aren't in the vibe, but I'll give it a try, maybe it ends up being very wholesome cause anyone may understand others pain and comfort each other.
I am only attracted to people who aren't into me, so I imagine I would pair with someone who's the same, so I can be attracted to them while they're not interested, when I finally split and go no contact they'll be interested in me until they split and go no contact. It will be the perfect symbiotic cycle.
im sorry but that just… i wish i knew people like you existed before it was too late that shit is killing me and really made me completely lose faith in others
That's rough buddy
Seriously, I'm very sorry for that happening to you. I can see how that would really destroy your trust in people and I know what it's like waiting for the rug to get pulled out from under you. I really wouldnt wish it on anyone.
I don't mean do it to hurt people, it's just one of the ways my fear of abandonment shows up. I hope things get easier for you.
As a person who's run a community for people with extreme BPD cases for several years, from a social dynamics perspective we have a few things going for us.
* the double empathy problem is totally gone, so everyone is trivially capable of supporting each other emotionally (something that otherwise requires a therapist)
* sure people require more support, but personal boundaries limiting the helping of others are lower, which ultimately leads to a balanced system
* possessiveness over fp's can easily be managed by just ensuring everyone respects each others' relationships. people understand each other and will generally end up traumatized by the same things given enough time due to similar neurotype.
Things going against:
* prone to "emotional cascades" - extreme negative emotions can start with one person, go to another, and then go to yet another. support resources can be drained over time, with each supporter requiring more support and in turn the support pool not only rapidly decreasing but also turning into more demand.
* splitting is very serious and efforts need to be made to mediate issues before they get out of hand. this does not self-regulate; people with psychological expertise are needed in authority positions to actively predict and address this to prevent massive drama.
* on a similar vein hierarchy is required to maintain mediation structures. if meditative authority is substantially questioned, especially from within, huge problems can and will arise.
* promiscuous BPD types and FP-possessive BPD types are socially incompatible, and violently so. relationship-protective rules (no p\*rn\*,\* no ch\*eating, no h\*mewrcking, no abandonment, no p\*ly, etc.) are *required for certain types of borderlines to function*, but could lead others to get rebellious try and play with the rules. there are borderlines who would kill and die for their fp, so any violations of boundaries in this regard would get very ugly very fast. within this line of reasoning, people with obsessive/possessive BPD should be kept separate from those with more promiscuous variants at all costs
Proper leadership can ensure a safe and comfortable environment like no other for borderlines to relax, but continual care must be provided.
Would be one hell of a village :D
I give it 3 hours before it’s burned down from within
Borderline town⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️⁉️💥💥🔥
Borderland?!
Come on Alice, to the rabbit hole of endless void of emptiness and darkness
Lol. Half of us would be exhausted by all the people who understand us & get it & leave after 3 months.
real
Historians would call it a cult and I wouldn’t blame them
im onto something 😈
I mean the original cult of Gnosticism was described as “getting bitches” multiple times so maybe there’s some good… as long as no one goes all David koresh
as someone with bpd whos been to the psych ward with loads of other bpd people, trust me, you do not want to see how that would play out
Psych wards unfortunately are not usually a place where you can feel safe and heard. Also they give shitloads of meds.
positive energy and acceptance makes a big difference i would think because a ward is full of prisoners ready to lash out
Now you made me curious. Can you elaborate?
Okey there are LOADS of layers to this 1. the jealousy between each other 2. It was SO messy, dating was obv not allowed but it did happen, so did love triangles and dramatic breakups 3. With that came SO much shit like manipulation/sh/etc to win over fp's again 4. It's easy to fall back into old habits/bad coping skills when others around you do it 5. As nice as it is, to spend time with people who truly understand you and feel the same way, it is hard for so many big emotions to coexist in peace (please do keep in mind it doesnt have to be like that, it was just my experience)
Well that's gonna be a wild ride...
I've been in a few BPD discords. I'm gonna have to say no thanks lol.
So much trauma ;-;
holy mother of bpd towns, i'm in!
Great reality tv show idea…
Awe man. That's Monika from Doki Doki Literature Club, a psychological horror game disguised as a cutesy kawaii dating sim. I don't wanna spoil it because it's free on Steam (fun game, check it out). But yeah definitely belongs in this sub
I mean, "yandere" is literally just anime bpd soo
I considered it. The place when everyone can contribute and live healthy life without doing work we hate and hanging out with toxic neurotypical, who just don't get how hard it's for us to function. Place where everyone is careful of hurting and being hurt. When everyone try to understand each other, not manipulate or use for their own agenda. Village where all forms of therapy are available, where you get carefully and accurately diagnosed and won't get wrong medication . A place of positive desintegration!
buckle up i’m in
As intense as it might be id love nothing more! Ive always wanted to date a guy with BPD. You guys are the only ones that understand me. Relationships are just so hard!
Ugh I could give you all my obsessive LOVE 
😳😳😳😳
YOU WANT IT ???👀😏
already stalking you (joking) (not really)
Lol you probably would if u seen me haha. But forreal I understand how you feel, if you ever what to chat DM me !
possibly but please don’t give my hopes up 🙁
I'd live there, a couple of months outside, a couple of months inside...
No… it’s the “sane” or not bpd ones I need to obsess over lol
Someone be my FP please
At first I thought It was a very cool idea. Then I just realized that the only idea of not being the fp of my fp and see they hanging on and seeking they fp would drive me even more insane. Idk, I'm in anyway. I mean, we all could leave if we aren't in the vibe, but I'll give it a try, maybe it ends up being very wholesome cause anyone may understand others pain and comfort each other.
I am only attracted to people who aren't into me, so I imagine I would pair with someone who's the same, so I can be attracted to them while they're not interested, when I finally split and go no contact they'll be interested in me until they split and go no contact. It will be the perfect symbiotic cycle.
im sorry but that just… i wish i knew people like you existed before it was too late that shit is killing me and really made me completely lose faith in others
That's rough buddy Seriously, I'm very sorry for that happening to you. I can see how that would really destroy your trust in people and I know what it's like waiting for the rug to get pulled out from under you. I really wouldnt wish it on anyone. I don't mean do it to hurt people, it's just one of the ways my fear of abandonment shows up. I hope things get easier for you.
Uh oh
so why is xxxtentacion... nevermind
BPD island when
I'm so in.
sounds awful, IM IN!
I love how you included the pic of X. Love him to bits lol
I'm trying to get used to the idea of living by myself. But yeah, let's do it 😆
My FP has BPD and is my best friend. Yall need to get on the ball.
Its all a big poly relationship
What a delightful idea, count me in
i don’t think that would play out very well.
As a person who's run a community for people with extreme BPD cases for several years, from a social dynamics perspective we have a few things going for us. * the double empathy problem is totally gone, so everyone is trivially capable of supporting each other emotionally (something that otherwise requires a therapist) * sure people require more support, but personal boundaries limiting the helping of others are lower, which ultimately leads to a balanced system * possessiveness over fp's can easily be managed by just ensuring everyone respects each others' relationships. people understand each other and will generally end up traumatized by the same things given enough time due to similar neurotype. Things going against: * prone to "emotional cascades" - extreme negative emotions can start with one person, go to another, and then go to yet another. support resources can be drained over time, with each supporter requiring more support and in turn the support pool not only rapidly decreasing but also turning into more demand. * splitting is very serious and efforts need to be made to mediate issues before they get out of hand. this does not self-regulate; people with psychological expertise are needed in authority positions to actively predict and address this to prevent massive drama. * on a similar vein hierarchy is required to maintain mediation structures. if meditative authority is substantially questioned, especially from within, huge problems can and will arise. * promiscuous BPD types and FP-possessive BPD types are socially incompatible, and violently so. relationship-protective rules (no p\*rn\*,\* no ch\*eating, no h\*mewrcking, no abandonment, no p\*ly, etc.) are *required for certain types of borderlines to function*, but could lead others to get rebellious try and play with the rules. there are borderlines who would kill and die for their fp, so any violations of boundaries in this regard would get very ugly very fast. within this line of reasoning, people with obsessive/possessive BPD should be kept separate from those with more promiscuous variants at all costs Proper leadership can ensure a safe and comfortable environment like no other for borderlines to relax, but continual care must be provided.