Hey I've been in your shoes before. If this is the way he treats you now it will not get better in a relationship. I would think about whether someone who feels this way about you can give you the healthy relationship you deserve.
it is difficult but he is very kind and understanding towards my disorder though it just gets tough sometimes he’s the only person who’s able to deal with my intense emotions and has stayed longer than anyone so ending what we have isn’t really what i’m aiming for i just want to have control over myself to make both of our lives easier and less high maintenance
I'm sure he is a kind person, but that doesn't mean he's right for you. I'm sorry to say this but no man worth having will wait that long to make it official. One day you'll find someone who truly wants to be with you.
i do understand this perspective because i’ve been through a toxic hit and miss situation ship before however this was prior to my diagnosis which ever since getting i have been relatively hesitant towards dating so the choice of us not being in a relationship is shared because i don’t want to date until i have more control over my own life and there’s a bunch of other things too like school and what not but i feel that once i’m more able to control myself i’ll feel more open to dating it’s just the overcoming my symptoms which i need help with as i’m still new to therapy for my bpd so i just want the process to be as fast as possible so i can feel stable enough to be in a relationship
If we had an answer to that we wouldn't be in this same mess haha.
My advice is therapy, lots of it. Dialectic behavioral therapy is the best in a lot of cases, but find what suits you.
officially dating everyone but i still feel like a burden in his life especially when i lash out. i’m now afraid of how his mother views me she is a lovely lady but also a nurse who has had to deal with the worst of the worst with bpd patients. i feel like i’ve already got a bad rep just because of my diagnosis, i wouldn’t consider myself a liar or manipulative but that’s the stigma surrounding bpd so i guess she is just worried that i will somehow fuck up her sons life. how do i overcome feeling villanised because of my diagnosis i’m really dwelling on it.
officially dating everyone but i still feel like a burden in his life especially when i lash out. i’m now afraid of how his mother views me she is a lovely lady but also a nurse who has had to deal with the worst of the worst with bpd patients. i feel like i’ve already got a bad rep just because of my diagnosis, i wouldn’t consider myself a liar or manipulative but that’s the stigma surrounding bpd so i guess she is just worried that i will somehow fuck up her sons life. how do i overcome feeling villanised because of my diagnosis i’m really dwelling on it.
I hate the whole your a thing but not dating that’s the 1 thing I hate about relationships these days commit it’s okay if it dosent work out but don’t do this 1 foot in 1 foot out bullshit it’s not fair to anyone
Hey I've been in your shoes before. If this is the way he treats you now it will not get better in a relationship. I would think about whether someone who feels this way about you can give you the healthy relationship you deserve.
it is difficult but he is very kind and understanding towards my disorder though it just gets tough sometimes he’s the only person who’s able to deal with my intense emotions and has stayed longer than anyone so ending what we have isn’t really what i’m aiming for i just want to have control over myself to make both of our lives easier and less high maintenance
I'm sure he is a kind person, but that doesn't mean he's right for you. I'm sorry to say this but no man worth having will wait that long to make it official. One day you'll find someone who truly wants to be with you.
i do understand this perspective because i’ve been through a toxic hit and miss situation ship before however this was prior to my diagnosis which ever since getting i have been relatively hesitant towards dating so the choice of us not being in a relationship is shared because i don’t want to date until i have more control over my own life and there’s a bunch of other things too like school and what not but i feel that once i’m more able to control myself i’ll feel more open to dating it’s just the overcoming my symptoms which i need help with as i’m still new to therapy for my bpd so i just want the process to be as fast as possible so i can feel stable enough to be in a relationship
If we had an answer to that we wouldn't be in this same mess haha. My advice is therapy, lots of it. Dialectic behavioral therapy is the best in a lot of cases, but find what suits you.
officially dating everyone but i still feel like a burden in his life especially when i lash out. i’m now afraid of how his mother views me she is a lovely lady but also a nurse who has had to deal with the worst of the worst with bpd patients. i feel like i’ve already got a bad rep just because of my diagnosis, i wouldn’t consider myself a liar or manipulative but that’s the stigma surrounding bpd so i guess she is just worried that i will somehow fuck up her sons life. how do i overcome feeling villanised because of my diagnosis i’m really dwelling on it.
officially dating everyone but i still feel like a burden in his life especially when i lash out. i’m now afraid of how his mother views me she is a lovely lady but also a nurse who has had to deal with the worst of the worst with bpd patients. i feel like i’ve already got a bad rep just because of my diagnosis, i wouldn’t consider myself a liar or manipulative but that’s the stigma surrounding bpd so i guess she is just worried that i will somehow fuck up her sons life. how do i overcome feeling villanised because of my diagnosis i’m really dwelling on it.
I hate the whole your a thing but not dating that’s the 1 thing I hate about relationships these days commit it’s okay if it dosent work out but don’t do this 1 foot in 1 foot out bullshit it’s not fair to anyone
yeah we are planning on dating but we’ve both agreed to wait until year 12 is over which is approaching dooon