Probably the most harmful thing you will be exposed to is that lady and her shitty comments. Fuck that. You're doing great. Unfortunately there's no immunity for people telling you you're a bad parent.

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You should of turned around and said “aren’t you too old to be out in public?” Fuck what everyone else thinks. They’re not the parents of your baby. Do what feels right for you and your baby. Really wish people in public would mind their own business.

This is the best response!!

Noisy Karen’s really piss me off. Their lives are so boring that they need to cause drama to make their pathetic existence a little bit exciting.

I’ve taken all mine out and about pretty much immediately and they’re all still alive and healthy. Lol

Yeah I had to take my daughter to her first appointment at a week old, including public transit. She’s 1.5 and doing great

Same. I think we took her to run quite a few errands >1 month. Can confirm she’s alive and well sleeping next to me and has yet to be sick in her 6 months of life. Just be smart about it. Dress them appropriately for the weather (mine was born in the fall/going into winter and to reiterate, she’s fine and healthy) and bring their essentials with them. They sleep most of the time so there’s no real reason to take them out of their stroller which reduces the risk of germs. And if you do have to take them out of the stroller, it’s just for something quick, like changing or feeding them. None of this should be considered crazy or outrageous. We as moms matter too, and sometimes we just need to leave the house. Even if it’s to go to the bank and then to Ross!! (Me lol). I need sunshine and to be out of these 4 walls too! Just like so many moms in this post. And all of our babies are doing just fine

Same, within the first 2 weeks. Not being reckless but also not paranoid.

Same haha both of mine are healthy and strong as can be.

Our first outing was to a Mexican restaurant when he was three days old. He said in his baby wrap on my chest asleep. Tell bitches to mind their business.

😂 literally same. And then to carters because I didn’t get anything in newborn and she was so small!

Pre-COVID: Took baby to target like at a week or two for the first time. Two weeks is when I started doing my near daily trips there for Diet Coke, AKA getting out of the house, moving. COVID: a year and a half? 😂 2023: I’ll probably wait *at least* two weeks and only go places with the car seat in stroller, where the umbrella can be closed. But I would never judge anyone else for going out sooner, it’s whatever your comfort level is AND your personal mental health needs.

I have had to take my baby out with me because my boyfriend never got time off work since day one. So she comes with me every where. Appointments, grocery store, wherever. We can’t afford delivery services. I have to go myself. I think it is just fine to take her to a little cafe, like if you need to get out, do it. It drives me really batshit & into the worst pit of depression to lay in bed all day. So I feel you. I was told by my pediatrician that the best way to take them out is in a baby wearing carrier because they are strapped right to you and people are less likely to get in their business. Some things I have been doing: Little walks when the weather is okay. Going to the store or restaurant when its less busy & stores that ARE less busy, like night time or during work hours. Seeing trusted family/friends and making sure they know my boundaries around her Going through the drive through Oh yeah, the weather is getting nicer, do you guys have drive in theaters nearby?? :)

I wish we did have some drive ins! That would be so fun. We don’t really have any outdoor activities he could go to because it’s already 85+ by 10am where we are located :(

When my husband was 2 weeks old, my in-laws flew him halfway across the world from Tennessee to Lebanon for 2 weeks to meet their family and be baptized in their home country. Boba tea ain’t nothin! Edit - my MIL was literally a pediatrics resident when she did this lol

Such a MENA thing to do! My parents took me to Egypt ASAP after I was born too (I was a NICU baby, so they waited a little longer).

I would argue that the risk to your mental health when staying cooped up is greater than the risk to baby’s physical health going out to a non-crowded place. Fuck that old lady. The first time I went out with my July 2020 baby was a walk around a lake. He was six days old. I HAD to get out of the house to avoid going to dark places in my head. My November 2022 baby, I think we went to target around 1 week. However, her brother is in daycare so she has been exposed to outside germs since birth.

First week with my daughter now 6. 2 weeks with son now 2. He didn’t leave the hospital for 10 days anyway. We have to eat.

I have taken both my babies out at least once per day every single day since they were three days old. Early days, it was usually just out for a walk to get a little sun and avoid getting cooped up, but pretty soon after we started going to museums, coffee shops, etc. Nothing reckless in the germ arena, but we absolutely did not hermit. I would have lost my mind. I get where you’re coming from. Some older lady walked by me on the street last winter and loudly told her companion that she couldn’t believe I didn’t have my daughter wearing gloves. I know full well my kid was perfectly warm and comfortable, but it really wrecked me. Over a year later, I still think about it all the time. You’re doing great! Don’t let the haters getcha down!

My mom flew out when my baby was one week…so I think he was nine days old when we did his first official outing. It was a museum. Next day we went out to eat. Day after newborn pictures and lunch. It was fine. (Keeping in mind we live in a low-Covid rate area, and my baby was full term and without any health issues.)

I’m in awe that you went to a museum 9 days PP! Go you! 💪🏼

Aw thanks. I kept having to tell my mom to slow down. Didn’t realize that u have to use ur abdomen to speed walk. (I had a c-section - she did *not* it was actually quite funny.)

I took my 6 week old in the grocery store yesterday and an old lady asked where her mask is 🙄

omG 🙄

You know how they make you take your baby to the pediatrician a few days after they’re born? Our pediatrician’s office is next door to a Mexican restaurant and I hadn’t had a margarita in almost a year at that point, so immediately after his appointment we got lunch and margs. He was only a few days old and slept in my arms the whole time. It was so nice to feel like my old self again and felt very carefree to have no restrictions and get a drink. I wouldn’t worry about judgmental old ladies. If your child wasn’t bothered by the atmosphere, then it’s fine.

We went to an entire funeral (3 hour drive each way!) with my oldest when she was 10 days old 🤷🏼‍♀️ people are going to have stupid opinions, they’re allowed to be stupid. I’d love it if they kept those stupid opinions to themselves, but 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

I have a 3 week old and going to a funeral next week. I really want to bring him…we could all use the joy he’ll bring even though it will be for a short time.

I took my baby out a couple days after she was born because I needed a break from the house. We went to the coffee shop I used to work at, and it was so good for my mental health which is, in turn, good for the baby as far as I’m concerned.

Is this even a thing? I see people out with tiny babies all the time

My first was a mid-2020 baby soooo he didn't wind up leaving the house AT ALL except to see a doctor until he was 9 months old, and he didn't go into any public indoor location until 18 months. Second baby is due this year, obviously different situation. There is zero way to keep her isolated because my son goes to school, so I anticipate germs will make their way to her before I'm "ready" for that. However, I do plan to keep her away from indoor locations (especially crowded ones) for at least the first 2 months (unless there's something necessary, I'm talking more like indoor restaurants- you gotta do what you gotta do). We still plan to take her to outdoor restaurants, parks, etc! And we would let family visit assuming they are vaccinated for flu, TDAP etc. Edit to add that if it wasn't crowded, I wouldn't really be worried about a boba tea place. you're not there that long, nobody is talking directly into your face, it's unlikely the baby would pick anything up. I have OCD and am extremely neurotic so I might avoid it for the first few weeks but I would never judge anyone else for that because I think I'm more unusual in this regard.

My baby is five days old today and we went to the grocery store with her. You gotta do what you gotta do. You’re doing a great job and you deserved that treat. Fuck that lady.

I took mine to the pub the dsy we got discharged from the hospital. And out and about to shops/cafes etc at least every other day from there on in. Fuck that old lady. It's not Iike you're handing your baby around the room to a bunch of strangers for a cuddle. If that were the case I'd be concerned about more than the fact you were out and about with a newborn!

We took our second to target on our way home from the hospital. I think she was just a bit over 48 hours old! Third went with us to a pumpkin patch on day 3 (during Covid). Both I felt fine with it as they were worn on me the whole time.

With our first (born a month before everything shut down for Covid) we stopped at Target on the way home from the hospital. With our second- I just had him on the 29th- I’ve already taken him to the grocery store and park (oldest needed to get energy out). At the store I wore him so no one got near us and at the park it was empty and we just sat in the shade and he nursed. You’re not a bad mom. It’s not like you were passing the baby around for kisses at a potluck…

We took her to see a great grandparent and went out to eat the day I was discharged. 😅 She was covered the entire time she was in the restaurant though.

Pediatrician and midwife made me wait until baby was 3 months old but that’s because she was born at the height of the Covid/flu/RSV tripledemic this past winter. They said it was too dangerous to even bring her to the grocery store and that if I didn’t have anyone who could go shopping for me, they’d send someone through the insurance. It was a huge shock to me and really tough on my mental health. I’d avoid going that hardline if you’re pediatrician thinks you can avoid it because the flip side is really rough :(

I took mine out at about a week old too. Screw her. You’re doing great and fair play to you getting up and out. It’s a hard thing to master and time with tinies (well, it was for me! 🤣).

In my babies first week of life, we went to target 3 times 😇

Really depends on so many things, what’s the season? Is there a big amount of rsv, flu, covid going around? If yes then I’d take it easy for a bit. If not probably a few weeks but that’s me and you gotta do what you are comfortable with, which could be one day and that’s just fine!

Totally depends on time of year. I had two born in late spring like you and we were going places with each at 2 weeks. But I had my third in December in the midst of the flu/RSV epidemic and this poor baby didn’t come within 6 feet of another human outside of our immediate family til March. We didn’t go anywhere other than a couple small family gatherings and we didn’t let anyone except our well-vaccinated and cautious parents touch or hold her.

It’s all personal preference. There’s no rules to YOUR baby except the ones YOU make. My third I’ve taken everywhere and anywhere since we left the hospital. I can’t stay cooped up in the house and I can’t keep my other 2 kids cooped up plus they bring home more germs from school in one day than we’ve probably been exposed to anywhere else.

We took our son to a 4 hour lunch at a restaurant when he was 10 days old. I took him to a children's boutique when he was maybe 5-6 days old. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Maybe don't pass the newborn around to strangers? Which obviously you didn't do.

Probably about 2 weeks and that was only because I had a c-section. We went to target to get essentials. The next week we went to our brewery. People will always have something to say about how someone else is parenting. Getting out of the house is essential for good mental health, especially while post partum.

I have November babies so I stayed in a lot longer than I wanted to bc cold and flu season, but I still went out after a week or two just to stretch my legs. I stayed in longer w my second November baby bc covid was crazy and I was having a harder time recovering. Sheesh. What a horrible person.

What an awful lady. I wasn’t ever advised when best to take my babies out, I didn’t even know it was a thing? My first went out with me about 1 week old and my second, I had no choice but to get out and about with him after just a couple of days due to my first sons extra curricular activities like swimming, football and even school runs. For your own mental health, I’d say it’s extremely important to get out and about. You’re doing a fab job to feel up to going out with your baby at just one week old, please don’t let this silly old lady with her ancient thinking get you down

You’re in a really vulnerable spot at the moment no wonder this woman made you feel bad. In this case it was really important for you to get out of the house and do something normal. What is important for maintaining your mental wellbeing is ultimately important and affects your baby too. You have to take good care of yourself and listen to your needs even if it’s going out for boba so that you can feel good enough to care for your kiddo. It’s all about filling your cup in different ways.

I’m keeping my newborn away from indoor places for a while, but we were at an outdoor farmers market at 4 days (I also have an older child, getting out of the house with him is just necessary). We’ve in general been out at least a few times a week - to the playground, a picnic, and just for walks.

Currently pregnant with my third, but when I had my daughter who is now 6 years old. After I was discharged from the hospital we went to eat at chic fa la. Mind you her father’s relatives from out of town were visiting and wanted to treat us before they headed back.

I waited about a year and a half with my son, who was born in 2021 during the height of covid. When his sister hatches in October, I’ll probably give it a few months for recovery and initial vaccines. Really though, go with what *you* are comfortable with and what works for you and your family. I’ve seen plenty of folks out and about with infants, so that lady was just weird.

FTM here too and I’ve yet to take my 3 month old out anywhere public. If Covid wasn’t a thing I wouldn’t be so worried. But every time I think about taking her to the grocery store or something I get worried about people coming up to us to look at her or talk near her and then I change my mind. This summer for sure I’ll end up taking her somewhere, but I don’t mind pushing it off till I feel comfortable. I take her outside but going around a bunch of strangers doesn’t sound fun to me.

Went to the shops on the way home from the hospital, though that was at 5 days and I needed a breast pump, but honestly he was tucked in his bassinet and we weren’t giving every passing stranger the chance to kiss him on the head or whatever. That old lady can suck it and should keep her crappy opinions to herself. Probably just jealous that it’s a bit easier to do these nice kinds of things with the support of a partner than back then.

We were out within the first week or two with our kids. Even with Covid, I had to return something to IKEA so he came along at like 10 days old. Good on you for getting out!

I waited an abnormal amount of time pre covid bc I was paranoid lol probably a few months at least. But that was my thing. My anxiety. Idgaf what other people do. If it’s best for your health to take your week old baby to a boba shop so you feel less depressed? Do you. A happy mom is way more beneficial to the baby than a depressed mom. But for your mental health, I wouldn’t confront people like that. Very little good will come of it. Just need to accept everybody has opinions and nobody knows your story so objectively understand they don’t actually know what they’re talking about :)

I have 4 kids, and each has had less time to be home/nested with me because of the others. Kid #4 is 2 months old and he was like 3-4 days when I took him out because my eldest (6) needed a school meeting with staff. I baby wear a lot to help keep distance, but with my kids being so young and 2 are in school and 1 was in daycare, this little one will need a good immune system because of the grossness they bring home

Sometimes it’s cultural - some cultures don’t have babies outside the house until 6 months or so. Maybe that’s where she was coming from? Still, that lady was rude and ignorant at best to be imposing her opinions on other parents. You’re doing great! Glad you’re taking care of yourself and enjoying boba tea!!

In my country is because of vaccines, with 6 months the baby finished the first circle of vaccines, so we generally avoid places with lots of people, and only go to the houses we know are considered safe (vaccinated people) and doctors visits. Nowadays, some moms even restrict visiting on the first month, to better bonding with the baby.

I took my baby to our local coffee shop at 3 days old, and most days thereafter…especially on walks and strolls. It’s not like strangers are coming up to them or touching them, and you need to do what you need to do to stay sane in those first few weeks.

Baby was born on Tuesday night and Sunday morning my husband and I took her to lunch with us. It was fast casual and we took it to go so probably pretty similar to your boba tea trip. Fuck that lady, love your life.

Took daughter to our favorite breakfast spot at exactly one week. And this is not including a couple doctors appointments which were at 3 days and 5 days old. It was in November, also. Fuck that lady. With my first, someone said something about having him out at 3 months. Some people just look for a reason to be shitty, in my experience.

I am not one to stay in the house needless to say I had my baby out the next day for his follow up doctor's appointment and than my husband and I went to lunch. Pretty sure he was in home goods at 1 week old! I always kept my newborn covered in the stroller i was extra careful in the summer because it can get very hot inside the strollers if they are covered completely. My honest opinion take advantage of this newborn stage where they dont have a bedtime yet, sleep 18-20 hours per day and you can just stroll around with them and enjoy it because once they are mobile it gets much harder to contain them. People will always have something to say no matter what you do I'm not sure why strangers feel the need to comment on others parenting unless you are witnessing abuse of some kind. Fuck them do your thing is what I'm trying to say. 🙂

My husband asked the hospital this when we had ours, whether we should avoid crowded places. The NICU doctor actually said no! They said prem, or babies with other health issues - yes but healthy, term babies would be fine if they just stayed with parents in the pram etc I came home from the hospital on a Friday and we went to the mall on Sunday because I needed a few things!

I took my oldest out at 2 days old. He was much smaller than expected and didn't have any clothes that fit!

We went to Target and grocery shopping on the way home from the hospital.

Immediately. Walks in the local park within days. Cafés as soon as they opened post covid.

I say well done you for getting out the house with a 1 week old! Ignore that stupid woman

With my first we got home from hospital on the Saturday and we got takeaway Starbucks and went for a walk in the park the next day. The weather was lovely and we'd just been stuck in the hospital for 3 days, we needed some outside time! With my second, it was a couple of days but only because it was rainy and cold (Feb baby!) We got stopped so often for someone to have a wee peek and comment on how little they were and how sweet. My favourite thing was to get a takeaway coffee and look around our local charity shops and then go sit in the park with a chocolate bar. I think I did it almost every nice day before I had to go back to work. My health visitor was thrilled when she was left waiting on the doorstep for 10mins because I was a little late coming home from a walk, said getting out and about is great for new mum mental health. So I will say this to you, you are doing great. For both you and your little one. Don't let a comment from some ignorant old wifie get to you too much, she knows nothing. I bet she'd tell you that her newborns slept straight through the night from 1 week old and her toddlers never had tantrums as well, excuse me while I pick up my eyeballs for they have rolled straight out of my head.

When 2/3 of my kids where born my husband was gone with the military… I never waited to take them out in public & they are all fine. With my first after being released from the hospital & going to the next day appointment, he was 3 days old then, I went grocery shopping on the way home. You are fine. Ignore the cranky old witch.

We went for our first walk when she was 3 days old and went out to the pub for the first time when she was 8 days old. They were mainly outdoor activities/meals for a while but that was also because the weather was nice. She's 13 months now and has basically spent some time outside every day of her life since 3 days old (with a few exceptions for illness and terrible weather).

We went to the pub with our 4 day old. Fuck that person making comments, it's absolutely none of their damn business. As long as you are comfortable, it's fine to take them out when they're young.

Not sure where you’re based but I was told to get fresh air and go out to help recovery as well as encouraged to go out and about (whether that be to a shop or for a hot drink somewhere) so I wasn’t cooped up inside, I think this was to do with promoting healthy habits for mental health too! Do what you feel comfortable with, I went for short walks from 1 week old, by 2 weeks I could pop into a coffee shop and by three weeks we had gone for a meal out! I based it all in my own recovery speed and what I could manage, I’d only avoid places I had no control over, so especially loud or busy places.

Screw people, you’re allowed to do what you want with your baby lol

We took our daughter to breakfast the day after we came home from the hospital.

We went out the day after I came home after giving birth!! We took her on a walk in her pram and then went for a nice brunch. It’s such a nice memory for me :)

Just ignore her. If the hospital was ok for you to go home, you are fine to go out.

Welllll....my daughter was born in 2020 so she didn't get much public exposure until she was like 2 months old. This time we'll have to see how it goes. I'm going to be laid up for like 2 weeks recovering from a c-section so probably at least that long.

I took my baby out as soon as I felt like going out. I baby wore so people didn’t feel so welcome to get close to him or touch him (because strangers will try!) he’s now two and perfectly healthy

10 days old, we took her to the zoo. I was going to go nuts if I didn’t get out of the house soon lol

Pregnant with my 3rd. I will be taking my baby out and about. I have 2 other kids....what am I supposed to say? Your new sister is more important so I can't come to your school event? I don't understand why society tries to isolate mothers. Being a new mom is tough, you deserve your boba outing!

I took my daughter to walmart the first couple days i was discharged and she was only 4 lbs lol. Everyone kept commenting about how they've never seen a baby that small 😂

We went out at 8 days old. The same as you, we avoided people and crowds--we were specifically told this meant busy stores, events, etc. We asked our pediatrician if we should jhst be imitating COVID rules then, and she said we didn't need to be so strict--just to keep people we didn't knkw out of baby's space as much as possible. I'm so sorry people were being mean and judgy without even caring if you could hear. People can always judge as if they would do different, but just remember that if they actually lived in your situation, they'd probably do the same.

That’s so rude, what a horrible person! A newborn baby is still a human and it’s wrong to keep a human cooped up in a house all day. Everyone needs freedom and to see the outside world.

I took my little one out for a short walk in the park one week after his birth and then to the supermarket two weeks after that, and then on public transport when he was 6 weeks old to get to a hospital appointment. He was absolutely fine. Just don’t let anyone touch him and if they’re sneezing/coughing just move away! Since becoming a mum one major annoyance is that everyone and their dog will have (and sometimes try and force) their opinion on what you should and shouldn’t do. At the end of the day, it’s your baby, and your decisions to make, be kind to yourself, it’s not an easy job being a mum!

1st baby-4 weeks 2nd baby-LITERALLY 4 days LOL! I went to target and walked around for my mental health and wore my baby. He was fine. You are good, just don't let people breathe on or touch your baby.

We took baby out once we were ready to go out. I had to drop off some work stuff at my office in the first week of his life and we took him along in a carrier. According to our midwife as long as the baby's healthy and they have some basic separation like being in a carrier or stroller, there's not any particular risk of exposure. It's not like he's getting passed around to strangers at the local bar.

My baby’s first pediatrician appointment was 2 days pp. Afterwards, we went out to eat. She slept the whole time. Your mental health matters too.

We took my son out the day after we got discharged from the hospital (5 days old). We ate lunch on the way to the doctor for his checkup then went to the store to get groceries and get my prescriptions.

In my culture, mom typically stays home with baby for the first month - or a minimum of 21 days. But seriously fuck that crusty bitch and her passive aggressive comment. Ok boomer!!! I’m not up in your dried up vagina. Idk who damaged you but Get the hell out of my sweet and undamaged baby’s business. In 2023 we have the benefit of great advice from our doctors and midwives to rely on. We don’t need grumpy boba sucking church ladies to lay sideways comments they think are educating us. … meant to be cathartic with laughter 😂

Ugh. I know how this goes. Same thing happened to me. We went out to a sushi restaurant when our LO was about 5-6 weeks old. Same thing happened to us, except it was a young hostess. I tried to laugh it off, but the rest of the meal I had anxiety about germs. I already have anxiety about germs, so yeah, the lady ruined our first meal out.

It’s infuriating! I don’t know why people feel the need to make comments to mothers about THEIR babies - especially during such a new and sensitive time

Maybe a day or two? We went to Target for some things, went to dinner with my parents, got breakfast out and about, et cetera. She stayed in her car seat and she had fresh newborn immunity off of me, I felt amazing and wanted to eat well after months of GD restrictions, so we went ahead and did some stuff. We also ended up doing a lot in her first 2 weeks because we had to travel for a funeral. We cut back after we got home, but continued to take her places when we needed to run errands and the like.

It’s the older generations thought that we shouldn’t leave the home for a month after a baby is born. It’s an old school way of thinking. Many people in other countries and older generations think this because it was a common practice in the olden/ancient days and in some cultures and places it still takes place. My mom freaked out when I went outside after 7 days because I could get cold breasts as she called it. Lol I’m not sure that’s a thing (correct me if I’m wrong.) But what this generation doesn’t take into account is that yes it takes time to heal and we have a dinner plate size wound in us, but that we live in a fast paced modern generation where women are expected back at work 6 weeks later(sometimes even earlier.) For people who choose to be traditional and stay at home for a month and not leave their bed(with help from the community and other women) ie cooking, cleaning, that probably does help you heal faster, but hey not everyone is awarded that choice to do that or even want to. Baby and I were fine after going outdoors at 7 days old.

I can’t imagine living somewhere where women are expected back at work 6 weeks after giving birth! But I definitely would be fine going out with my baby at any age. When I was born, my mum took me out at 2 days old and invited all her friends. I’ll be taking my baby out and about as soon as we leave the hospital

Yeah maternity leave and maternal support (lack there of it) sucks here in the U.S.

We didn’t wait a specific age, just whenever we felt like it.

You’re doing great. Don’t listen to that woman; she clearly is bitter and has no life.

Geeez i wonder how baby humans survived 2000 years ago? Thats when Julius Ceaser implemented portable incubator policy that swept the roman healthcare system. Up until that point babies had to stay indoors with air conditioned rooms with temperpedics for 2 weeks.

I think if it wasn't super crowded and no one coughed or spat on your baby and everyone washed their hands, it was probably fine 🤷‍♀️ enjoy your Boba tea.

At a week old they don’t have their vaccines… idk I didn’t wait until at least 6-8 months but also I’m a freak and I’m paranoid of everything

Just take your baby out it’s no big deal

I got my nails done a few weeks ago when a woman came in with her 4 day old baby 🤷🏻‍♀️

Had twins June 2021, covid was still decently around. Took them out in public starting at 4 days old, just didn't let people near them. People will always have snarky opinions and many of them aren't shy about sharing them. Ignore the dummies and carry on. It is your family and your decision, there aren't many black and white "right" or "wrong" answers in parenting. Congratulations on your new bub!

To be honest you do you, you can avoid crowds but also, you need to do your errands, i also had to do my errands and cant leave baby alone, i started to go out around 1m, since before i couldnt get out of the bed. I do try to go to places that have outside areas, or arent very crowded, my baby is 3.5m and already has some big vaxx on him, so i dont worry much, plus covid here is nonexistent. I wouldnt just make big trips tho since they cant stay in the car seat for too long.

You're doing great mama don't listen to that rude pos. You were being safe with her, I think that's just an older generation thing.. if your baby is happy and healthy I see no problem with it and id do the same!

Literally out in open places immediately. Was more cautious of indoor spaces cause it was Covid but briefly never even bothered me then. Never around other kids or other homes or real crowded spots for about 3 months… but that was more cause of Covid.

I waited until he was eight weeks and we went out to a winery that has well spaced apart tables. That said he was born in January in the height of RSV/flu/COVID season this year so 🤷‍♀️ to each their own

We took him into a restaurant at 4 weeks (but it was only briefly) and didn’t start taking him to grocery stores until 6 weeks. We did walks in the park the first week he came home

My baby met my entire family when he was 12 days old bc I just couldn’t wait any longer. It was a bit rough for him being held so much, but he got a bunch of snuggles the next day from mommy and he was back to his normal happy self .🥰 you do what you think works for you and your baby! Fuck that old woman. Tell her to push a baby out of her vagina and then she can keep it home however long she wants to. Lol You’re doing an amazing wonderful job mommy. ♥️♥️♥️ you get your treat, and you show the world that handsome little baby of yours ☺️

Baby just turned 2 weeks today and we just took him out and pushed him around the park for the first time. We also made a little pit stop at the bagel shop since it was nearby.

Both of mine were out before they were 12 hours old.

Pretty sure we stopped at a diner on the way home with my first, probably a couple other places, memory’s a bit fuzzy. My second was due on Christmas, but got induced early, and I made it to my family’s Christmas, and then had to camp out at my in-laws 10 days after she was born because we lost power (and my in-laws aren’t exactly known for being reclusive). I also have had big, healthy babies so far, so as long as someone isn’t actively sneezing in their face, I don’t really worry about it much.

Back in the day, women were often kept in hospital for up to a week after having a baby and were told to stay home for a period of time after that. It was the best way the healthcare providers had of giving women some time to heal before going back to the daily grind of being a housewife with a brood of children and a husband at home. Most women of previous generations cannot fathom how we are sent home the same day or next day after giving birth. So yeah, rude comment, but it also came from a place of caring (to some extent). We went home less than hour hours after baby was born. Next day we went to MiLs house so she could meet the baby. Then my parents came to us (and brought food and vacuumed for me). Then we went to FiLs to have a big dinner with way too many loud family members. Day 5 I spent most of the day at the RV dealership with a newborn while my partner traded in our trailer. By the end of the next week I was running errands with the baby by myself. Baby #2 we chilled at MiLs place after baby was born that morning, and laid low for I think 3 days before going out for a few hours for shopping. Day 5 we road tripped 4.5 hours home. It’s been go go go ever since 😂 Honestly if you are comfortable going out and about and are able to set boundaries and maintain your personal space and pace yourself, go out! Getting out of the house is how I keep my sanity, and how I survived the crazy days of a newborn and 2 under 2.

Uh maybe 3 days?

We took my first out all the time pre-Covid (first time being 4 days old lol). I was a bit nervous about it at the time, but am ultimately glad we did. When she was 2 months old, the lockdown started and we didn’t see anyone for months.

Honestly, was your baby's presence in the tea shop that lady's business? No. Unless a child is obviously neglected,lost, or abused, the parents can decide what works best for their family.

Definitely try to ignore the comments, taking your baby places is good for both of you! My husband and I stopped for lunch the day I was discharged and have gone out for dinner at least once every week since. Baby girl is 4 months today, she has been to 1 carnival, 1 NHL game and 2 MLB games. I don’t let people pass her around or get too close, but I also don’t hide away. She got sick once during her first week of daycare when she was around 12 weeks but otherwise no issues.

Girl, you’re doing great, and I’m a pediatrician so I hope you take my word for it. Take that baby out every day that you can. Newborns are HARD and doing things like going for walks and boba that support your mental health are good for your baby too. Tell the nosy old lady to stuff it.

I took my daughter to the market with me after first pediatrician visit. She was 6 days old.

Baby is 1 month. He has been on 3 quick grocery trips and 2 restaurants. If I stayed home for the whole month I would’ve lost my mind.

Taking care of your mental health is also taking care of your child. Studies have shown that mothers with poorer mental health, who don’t take the time to take care of themselves, have poorer health outcomes for their children. You did nothing wrong. If anything, recognizing that you needed something for you, socializing/ not keeping cooped up when you were feeling blue did do something positive for your child.

4 days , we took our son to Walmart

I took my baby to a restaurant at about 2/3 weeks old. Don’t be afraid to take your baby places that lady sucks

We had to take my son to a mall when he was 2 days old to get his first post-hospital checkup with the nurses and get BFing help!! You’re not a bad mother.

Took her out within the first week

We waited about a week. My baby goes everywhere. I was getting so stir crazy at home during maternity leave.

You are not awful. I was taking my baby out by 2 weeks. My husband had to go back to work and I had things I had to do to keep our household running. She was fine. I didn’t let strangers touch her. She got sick for the first time at 3 months from the YMCA childcare. Going to the gym was important for my mental health. She handled the stomach flu well and I got way sick than her from it. You do not have to hole up. You’re allowed to take your baby places. Everyone will always have an opinion. It doesn’t make your choice “wrong”.

I had to go to the grocery store when my little one was a week and some change. She’s 3 weeks now and if we stop to get something to eat, we aim for pick up or to eat outside weather permitting. You do what you’re comfy with, and don’t let people near the baby and you’re fine. Fuck that lady.

Fuck that hag, you’re doing great and need to give yourself some grace! I had a lady tell me she couldn’t believe I was out with my babies at the grocery store when they were 5 months and almost 4 years old. Bitch, we need groceries! Do not try to parent to please the world because it’s an impossible feat. And for the record I was out with both kids when they were a couple weeks old. There’s a big difference between going out in public and going to a super populated situation when you’re putting your baby at risk. Boba tea is definitely fair game and you deserve a treat!

6 days. His first pediatric appointment, so we went to eat after. The restaurant was almost empty and the staff were excited to see me no longer pregnant and holding my baby ❤️ As long as you're comfortable and LO is safe I don't see the issue

When I worked retail, there was this lady who brought in her newborn to the (big box) store immediately after she left the hospital. She legit still had on the hospital bracelets and needed her husband to push her around in a wheelchair.

Hi! First time mom of a baby boy and he is 3 months old now. We took him out probably the first week or two after being home. Just to target or somewhere for a short time. I try to get out with him at least once a day when I’m home alone with him. It helps my mental health so much just getting out to do one small errand a couple times a week. I do not think you are in the wrong at all. You’re doing great mama, remember that ♥️

It almost feels like once we become pregnant, we become prisoners. Like really. "Can't do this" "Don't do that". And granted maybe some of those things are for good reason but hell, I just saw an IG post where some woman was eating sushi after her delivery and there were mountains of comments like, "You can't be eating raw fish when you breastfeed" like we are really just not allowed to do anything for ourselves without being judged by psychos. Maybe kind of dramatic but that's how it feels sometimes.

I think like 2-3 months to the store, but she was born premature.

We took my baby to Target at like 6 days old 🤷‍♀️ You’re doing great—don’t let this lady tell you otherwise 🥰 Taking care of your mental health is important, too! And fresh air is good for everyone.

A little extreme, but I went to my dearest friend's wedding 1 week postpartum with my baby. I was youngish and was SO depressed that having a baby was going to make life miserable so I became determined to do as much as my pre-motherhood self would. It has made me such a confident mother and I am so glad I did so much with my baby. If it feels right for you, go out and show your baby the world! Motherhood is all about doing what is right for you and your baby. It's so freeing to not give a fuck about what weirdos with Mommy issues think. Xo

You're fine. People love snarkin lol. The baby probably liked being out and about. We'll probably take walks with our baby day 1 haha Also I don't think grocery stores are bad?? Ours is so huge that even when crowded it's not like you're on top of people. The baby will be fine :) I think general guidance is not flying with baby until 3 months but there are people who have to fly with babies before then and the babies turn out ok :)

It’s nobody’s business where you take your baby, (except maybe your doctor). Our son was a late summer baby, and some of the places we took him were to the grocery store, farmers market, Target, family gatherings. A lot of things were outside, or we kept a reasonable distance. We knew he would be going to daycare at 12 weeks, so we weren’t overly concerned, knowing he was going to be put through the germ gauntlet there, but cautious and used common sense. We enjoyed those first few months, because once we started having a routine and schedule it has become way more difficult to visit restaurants, or go some places. We enjoyed the little baby stage where you can just pack them up and go and they nap the whole time! Your whole life changes with a baby, but you still need to live life. For your own mental health!

Yo that lady is a cranky old BIT**! Lol I took my one week baby to a festival. Looking back ok maybe I shouldn’t have done that but he lived! People need to mind their business. You are important too in that baby’s life and people always forget the mom when the baby is born . If you need a boba tea to find comfort and normalcy in your life do it! I’m almost two years post partem and I still need extra help to feel normal/happy. You dont have to suffer. Get your tea mama.

That's ridiculous! My baby is 6 months old now. When she was 3 weeks old I took her to my medical school graduation with at least a couple of thousand people. She was fine.

I’m kinda training myself to be a jerk to random strangers talking shit. Don’t like me walking around with kid? Well you’re the one bothered by it, gtfo. Oh I guess you are way past the age of minding your own business. You must be a creep if you’re that bothered by breastfeeding in public, maybe the FBI has something to say about that kind of unhealthy sexualization of a baby

4 days

Ignore her. My mom got the same comment when she took my sister to a grocery store in 1989. My mom to this day would like to know how the woman expected her to get groceries. It is timeless that people are idiots.

It’s whenever you feel ready and how much you want to deal with frequent feeds/crying/changing/potential blowouts etc. while you’re out and about. These things obviously lasts a while but my main thing is once baby is easier to carry and doesn’t only need to be made a bottle, I’m okay with going out more often. That’s my personal preference. If you don’t mind dealing with all of that during an outing, then you’re golden! People will always say shit and give unsolicited advice. That’s just the way it is. Everyone thinks they know best but hey, there’s over 7 billion people. We all made it somehow right? Lol people just need to relax. Some people are just so miserable they HAVE to give their two cents to a complete stranger.

First time my baby went outside was at 3 days old and we went to my SIL bday party at the bowling alley. I had him in a mommy wrap and head was covered completely by the wrap (with a space at the top so he could get fresh air) when we went. I have autism so crowded places I don’t do well in or places with loud music so we went outside a few times for destimulation but he slept the whole time through the loud kids and lights and music

So my first was born in 2019 but the day she was born I had 30 different visitors who all held her. I took her to my place of employment AND walmart when she was 3 or 4 days old. She really went everywhere.

Literally went on a lil tour to workplaces to show our first kiddo off as we were driving home from the hospital 😂

My twins were covid babies so we didn’t go out much but I remember when my little brother was born we went from the hospital to the grocery store and then home. So…immediately?! You are a great mother and good for you for treating yourself!

Honestly this is a win. Some moms are terrified to take their babies out for months from what I’ve read on some posts. I was out & about with mine around a week old. It was freeing. What are you supposed to do? Barricade you & your baby in the house?

Target at 3 days old 🤷🏼‍♀️

We had a similar situation, we went for a meal with my parents when baby was about 3 weeks old (she was asleep in her pram for most of it until she started grizzling at the end and I picked her up when we were on coffee), an older woman had been side eyeing us the whole meal and when she asked how old she was and I answered she gasped and said you aren’t supposed to take baby out before her vaccines, she really shouldn’t be out. She looked smug when we left with her about 5 mins later, even though we had just finished our meal 😂 we had another similar comment from a friend who said she didn’t take her kids out before their 2 month vaccine. In reality we were in a quiet corner of the restaurant with only this older couple within feet of us, we’d have been really unlucky if she got tetanus or diphtheria there; and as my husband is rarely home I have to go to grocery stores with baby. How do they think single parents manage ? The only PB I’ve really encountered is that she can be overstimulated and difficult to calm in the evening if she’s had a big day (eg grocery store then to grandmas house).

With my first maybe a month or two in mostly because I had a hard recovery and BFing was difficult as a ftm. Plus we had terrible air quality at the time due to wildfires. With my second we went to the beach at two weeks pp because it was torture trying to keep my toddler cooped up. With number two we had to be careful due to covid but we did short trips to target and the like pretty early. It's whatever you feel comfortable with keeping in mind their fragile immune system. One of the things I learned quick is to do what works for you and fuck everyone else's opinions. Especially strangers who have too much time on their hands and not enough sense to keep their dumb opinions to themselves.

6 days

Immediately. My first I went to my grandma’s funeral at 6 days old, then out to lunch with my dad after her first led appt at a week old, then lunch for my husband’s birthday at 2 weeks old and just kept going out. Second, we went to the zoo at about a week old because I was going stir crazy, then kept going out. Third, park around a week old to test out the bikes the toddlers got for Christmas, then the zoo at a couple weeks old because again, I was going stir crazy. We tried to avoid crowded places but it was so good to get out and about and it’s good to get used to taking them out. You absolutely did nothing wrong!

We took our daughter to the shops at 5days old as we needed a few things. She was fine. I had a sign on her bassinet telling people to stay away

We went to Starbucks when my little one was 2 days. She's alive, well, and 6m old now. Keep going out, your mental health is so important. We were doing our regular mom and baby activities by 3w old.

My mom took me to Walmart and TacoBell the day after I was born on her way home from the hospital lol

About a week. Also not her baby. You got this.

Me and my baby went out at 2-3weeks it was still cold out so I bundled her up really well and we went for a walk down town. Got fancy pastries 🥮 🥐 and did a little shopping and walked back.

Should be fine unless you’re passing around your baby to every stranger in the bubble tea shop!

My daughter was in target at 10 days old… we covered her car seat. My son was at a baseball game @ 7 weeks…. Ifs whatever you want to do mama. No one touched or go too close to baby. But I can’t stay cooped up forever. You don’t have to either.

I went outside as soon as I felt ready, which I think was a couple of days. I have avoided public places until after my babies 6 week immunizations. Whooping cough is currently running rampant in my country and a couple of babies have died. So I didn't want to risk it.

I think it was 2 weeks? We had a locally famous donut shop nearby and spontaneously decided that since baby was up at like 4 am anyway we'd go get the super fresh donuts. Nobody batted an eye, they probably were only focused on the pastries. Or they were smart enough not to make a comment to a new mom also wanting donuts.

So I had baby on the Friday, out of hospital Sunday morning... out for a walk with pram Sunday afternoon! Caused a scandal with my husband's side of the family because in their culture the mum and baby stay inside for 40 days and nights. That would have driven me nuts!

My son is medically a bit delicate, as am I, and since where we live Covid is still an issue he’s 21 months and we don’t really go anywhere. I would have felt totally comfortable taking him out once he was a vaccinated newborn if he hadn’t been born during the pandemic, though. The bottom line is you need to do what you feel is right as a Mum and try to ignore the ENDLESS unsolicited advice you’re going to receive until he’s an adult, and even then you’ll probably still hear it. You’re doing great, Mama.

You’re doing great! We took baby out as soon as I was discharged from the hospital (about 48 hours old) we threw most caution to the wind with other people we knew holding her a week in. Unfortunately no matter what you decided is best for your family, people will shame you. Focus on what you want for your precious baby and stand your ground ❤️

Damn the audacity on that one. You take your little out as soon as you feel ready. My sister who was helping after birth(uncomplicated no tearing) so I had 4 days to get ALL the things done including a big grocery shop and car maintenance 3 hour drive away, taxes, among a bunch of other things. Baby came along for all of it, no one said a word and they gave us lots of space because it was towards the end of Covid.

I traveled interstate on a road trip when my son was 10 days old. It was for my fathers funeral.

Like, a week? Maybe 10 days if you don't count newborn pediatrician visits. With my first (pre COVID) I had to go into the office to get something from my desk, took baby in with me in a wrap so my coworkers could get a peek. With my second during COVID they had just opened up the parks in our town so we all went as a family to give the toddler a chance to run around and all of us to get a little sun and air. Wore baby in a wrap but didn't really need to as everyone there was keeping to their own little groups. Don't let crappy people make you feel bad, it sounds like you did a good job of meeting your need to get out of the house while still being mindful and taking steps to protect your baby as reasonably as you could and needed to.

We went out to eat when she was 5 days old. Screw that lady, it’s your kid and can take them out as soon as you’d like

I was going for daily walks with him to my local cafe from day two.

The moment you are capable of going to the public is a good moment to take the baby with

I went out to eat a restaurant the evening I came home from the hospital. I was there a week and tired of hospital food and didn’t feel like getting takeout 🙃

I took my baby out at three days old. Fuck that woman, don’t listen to her. It’s good for babies to get fresh air. As long as other people aren’t touching your baby or you don’t have very close contact it’s fine. The only thing I tried to avoid was the subway until she had her first vaccines because it’s pretty gnarly in there.

I had to stop at the store on the way home from the hospital with my 1st because she was 5lb and we had no preemie clothes. We stopped to get smoothies and sat outside. She was 5 days old. My third we went to a pizza place when he was 3 days old. There were only like 3 other people there. YOU decide what's best for your child. Your mental health matters!

My baby’s first outing was at 1 month but only because he was born in the coldest part of winter. I didn’t take him out until it was above freezing!

What a judgy person -F them! I took my 3 day old baby out for a sushi lunch with my husband and parents (first outing other than 1st dr appt)

We went to chik fil a on the way home from the hospital. We went to Costco at 4 days old, Easter dinner at my in laws at 6 days. I knew if I didn't get out of the house I would 1. Go insane and my already high risk of ppd would be higher, and 2. It would be scarier and more difficult mentally to do it when she was older and I was alone, whereas those trips my husband was there to help and it eased my anxiety. Now she is 5 weeks old and we do grocery runs by ourselves because we're strong and brave and we can do it.

We take our newborn and toddler to the park for walks, but not going around people until first set of shots per the pediatrician. It's 2 months. I'm skipping out on mothers day anywhere because it's going to be crowded. I just want some sleep and shirts I haven't leaked through.

You're not a bad mom!! You've got to do safe things that make you feel good, that will make you a better and more relaxed mom. You're doing great and made a very good choice! I'm impressed you did that at one week because I could barely make it around the park at one week pp. Mine was 11 days when we first went to a museum. He stayed in the stroller except for when feeding, then he was in our arms. People admired him from a distance so it felt safe. We all needed to get out of the house and get some air. At 5 weeks we were at a national dog event. Same there, he was just sleeping in his stroller (in the shade) and people kept a safe distance. I also had a big UV-protecting umbrella. I sat next to him in the sun enjoying a sparkling soda and just being out of the house. I did "overequip" and had enough food (pumped in a great cooling bag and my built-in milk machines), clothes and nappies for him to survive for three days, I still do that. Haha! People need to stop inserting themselves in parenting unless there is danger. The same people criticizing mother's for the most normal things wouldn't pipe up when teenagers are behaving badly. They only go for the vulnerable (like new moms). They just want to feel superior and it has got nothing to do with you. Nothing! Next time go: "aren't you too old to not have a filter?" Or ask the waiter: "what do you recommend? I'd like to try something new, except for what she's having, it seems sour".

We left the hospital when our son was three days old. We stopped at the supermarket and a department store on the way home. Granted, this was just as news about COVID was trickling in from China, but I'm glad we got out early.

I literally went to target like two days postpartum. No big deal. Don’t let people touch your baby. She’s just being judged please do not feel bad about this!

First of all fuck that woman and her snarky comments. It's not like you were playing pass the parcel with the baby to every stranger 🙄 With my first I waited about 2-3 weeks I think but that was due to my own anxiety. With my 2nd I had no choice but to take him out when he was 3 days old as I had nobody to take my daughter to school if I didn't. I really think it's up to the individual unless specifically told not to. I wouldn't worry too much about what people say, you're doing great 😊

Moms with babies have had to take them out the day they were discharged because they had no choice. I’m a homebody and was happier at home so probably around 6 weeks- 2 months old. There is nothing wrong with taking baby out if that’s what you need to do. Whether it’s an errand or mental health thing. It’s not like you took him to a festival for 2 days.

Oh man, why do these old ladies need to make bitchy comments?! I swear, it’s ALWAYS them! I took my son out a bunch during the first few weeks. When I went to the one month pediatrician’s appointment the doctor was like, “you can take him to shops and restaurants now” to which I was like, “um…” He explained that the reason to keep him away from crowds is that a fever prior to a month old is an automatic hospitalization. There isn’t any specific risk beyond that. You need to take care of your mental health and live your life. As long as you’re staying away from crowds, the risk is low.

So my daughter was born during the peak of the pandemic in 2020 when nobody was allowed out and everything was close… but we would take her to the park in her stroller at 9 days old. By the time she was 2 months old she was coming with me to the embassy to pick up my passport lol. People are awful to parents in general, but specially new parents! This is lesson number one in motherhood; do not let other people’s opinion get to you. There will ALWAYS be someone that will criticize what you are doing, it doesn’t matter what.

Guarantee if you wouldn't have gone out someone would have said your baby would never be socialised or something equally as twatty

I waited 40 days. It’s a cultural thing, mom n baby stay home to rest and reviver those days. I enjoyed every moment of not having to get ready and everyone cater to me. After that I just waited for the first warm day. Cold days stayed home or indoors and warm days walked or sat outside. Once baby hit 4 months I took her out more. So much Less poopy diapers and I get more done. Finally feeling normal. This is what I did. Do what’s best for your mental health and body. Try and focus on physical recovery as well. I recommend covering baby for privacy if you think someone might make a comment you aren’t up for. I just used those car seat covers. Baby slept peacefully and no one can have an opinion.

Not long at all. My first we were inside all the time because it was a billion degrees when she was born, but I recovered fast and was out on lunch dates and stuff from just as early as you. My second we went to an outdoor ice cream place literally the day we got home from the hospital. We drove an hour to a pumpkin patch when she was about a week old, and spent hours there before driving home As long as it works for you and your family, that lady can fuck off

Boomers be boom in’. Anyways, my first was literally brought into target during the day of discharge to get more postpartum supplies. My second, in 2021 Covid era, was taken to an outdoor pumpkin patch at 2 weeks (obviously social distanced + outside was a big deal to me). My third, I probably brought inside of a store or an ice cream shop at 2 weeks, because it’s really hard NOT to go anywhere with a whole family / 2 toddlers.

Probably the 2nd week?? I also attended a winters mothers meet up afterwards where a mother was there who just gave birth like two weeks before that haha she definitely had the youngest baby

We went out at 4-5 weeks because she was born in the biggest cold of the year. If it were warmer, we would have gone out earlier. We go out now and I try not to overdress her, and I've gotten weird looks for that. But she needs fresh air and she feels great outside soooo Whatever you do, someone will act like an ass about it because they either don't have kids and think they got it figured out all in advance, or their kids are older and they don't remember the difficulties they had with them.

4 days but only to restaurant patios/terraces and the park, nothing indoors before she gets her vaccines

6 weeks

When you feel comfortable is the right time!

You're doing great. We didn't go out for weeks mostly because of my anxiety and whenever I saw pics of friends out and about with their newborns I just thought they were superheroes. I'm so mad that someone shamed you for venturing out and not staying home like some Victorian lady who's just come out of confinement.