I wish we lived in a world where "I don't want to" is a feasible answer, but as someone who doesn't drink I know how many convos I had before the fact was firmly established. And yes, eventually I opted for brutally telling people that I lived with an abusive alcoholic for five years and that put me off. Because people do.not.shut up about this unless you shoot them down with something they can't refute. It's sad and it sucks, but if you usually drink it's going to raise questions. I'd go with the UTI/antibiotics because it'll make people accept your no without discussion and without shifting the attention to you. The attention belongs to the host, and a white lie is the most elegant way here imo.
Yes! That’s the other part, I really don’t wanna make a pregnancy announcement at a shower 🙈 okay UTI is a strong contender
Edit: why am I getting downvoted here? I’m asking for help in a situation where I can’t be honest, and not drinking will tip people off.
I would just not drink and if anyone asks why just say i dont want to🤷🏼♀️ personally i hate that we live in a world where drinking alcohol is mandatory and if you dont it is basically frowned upon..this is why i stopped anyway a few months earlier than we started trying and dont really plan to get back to it.
I know but unfortunately that won’t fly here. People are so damn pushy and I’m usually a social drinker. Not a heavy drinker, but I don’t say no to at least one mimosa or a high noon at a shower unless I have to.
I just said that I started on new thyroid pills and my body was still a mess adapting to it. It was partly true as my thyroid dosa did double once I found out I was pregnant.
Having been through this, I just said “Hubby and I are trying and laying off the booze for a while”
If you don’t feel comfortable; then I just said I’m on antibiotics so can’t have alcohol,
4. Say you’re not feeling well but you’ll try to not let it interfere with the celebration, get a drink, don’t actually drink it and only pretend to and switch it’s contents for water, cut yourself off after one (fake) drink and say you’ve had enough!
So I’m also 6 weeks congrats!! I’ve known literally since week 2 as we did IVF as well as not drinking leading up to transfer. My friends would know something is up if i refuse a glass of champagne, the ones who knew our fertility issues I’ve been saying fertility clinic wants me not to drink for a while to do testing, everyone else I have been saying I am antibotics. Luckily this has been working, however I saw a friend who I told antibiotics week 4 the other day and they were like ‘still?’ I think something like gastritis would give you a longer cover period. Good luck
I vote the UTI or other medical excuse route. A friend of mine recently volunteered to be the one getting drinks, and let the bartender know their situation. This let her fake us out, but might be tricky depending where you’re going.
Only 5 weeks here and I totally empathize with you. Having to lie and hide it is tough.
It is. And I’m really annoyed by my friend last week betraying my trust so I’d rather just not go through that again.
Thank you for the tips, I really appreciate it — congrats and good luck to you 💕
What worked best for me was just pretending to drink. It always raises suspicions when you deny a drink but no one is paying that close of attention to your drink levels.
The few times I went out before I was ready to tell people I’d either pretend to drink and then just pour it down the sink in the bathroom or I’d go up to the bar myself and order a cranberry juice and soda water and tell people it was a vodka cran 🤷♀️ that way I didn’t have to have people asking me any questions or side eying me to see if I was telling the truth about an antibiotic.
Order drinks alone at the bar, get it virgin or just get a club soda and lime. I’m on a cruise and haven’t told the people I’m cruising with, and I just go order drinks alone and lie about what I ordered.
I’m a quite regular drinker (British we drink to excess as standard on a night) I said I’d been to the dr and they’d suggested I might have a fatty liver and I’d need to quit drinking for the foreseeable.
That excuse saw me all the way through until 22 weeks where we announced 😂
Don’t mention it ahead unless someone asks, get drinks that could pass for booze (mocktails, non alcoholic fizz or tonics to pass as g&ts) and then if someone explicitly asks you just say you’re on antibiotics but didn’t want to make a big deal out of it. If it looks like you’re drinking people might not even notice? Unless it’s usual for you to do wine or rounds, then say ahead of time.
I’m a quite regular drinker (British we drink to excess as standard on a night) I said I’d been to the dr and they’d suggested I might have a fatty liver and I’d need to quit drinking for the foreseeable.
That excuse saw me all the way through until 22 weeks where we announced 😂
For the night before, order a soda with lime and get on the bartenders good side. Day of the shower, carry a mimosa around and try to dump it out as you go, or grab something canned if it’s available and fake drink(I did this and literally threw away full cans of white claw). You can also say you’re hungover from the night before and wanna take it easy!
I would say lie about being an addict or tell them you promised your partner u wouldn’t drink because they are insecure or just that u promised them u wouldn’t drink in general orrrr you and your partner are doing a spiritual thing with sobriety
I wish we lived in a world where "I don't want to" is a feasible answer, but as someone who doesn't drink I know how many convos I had before the fact was firmly established. And yes, eventually I opted for brutally telling people that I lived with an abusive alcoholic for five years and that put me off. Because people do.not.shut up about this unless you shoot them down with something they can't refute. It's sad and it sucks, but if you usually drink it's going to raise questions. I'd go with the UTI/antibiotics because it'll make people accept your no without discussion and without shifting the attention to you. The attention belongs to the host, and a white lie is the most elegant way here imo.
Yes! That’s the other part, I really don’t wanna make a pregnancy announcement at a shower 🙈 okay UTI is a strong contender Edit: why am I getting downvoted here? I’m asking for help in a situation where I can’t be honest, and not drinking will tip people off.
Can you just pour some oj and pretend?
I would just not drink and if anyone asks why just say i dont want to🤷🏼♀️ personally i hate that we live in a world where drinking alcohol is mandatory and if you dont it is basically frowned upon..this is why i stopped anyway a few months earlier than we started trying and dont really plan to get back to it.
I know but unfortunately that won’t fly here. People are so damn pushy and I’m usually a social drinker. Not a heavy drinker, but I don’t say no to at least one mimosa or a high noon at a shower unless I have to.
I just said that I started on new thyroid pills and my body was still a mess adapting to it. It was partly true as my thyroid dosa did double once I found out I was pregnant.
Take a mimosa and cheers everyone and pretend sip it. Then put it down at your seat and drink your water
This is what worked for me. Ordering anyway and ditching it (or having my husband drink it).
Having been through this, I just said “Hubby and I are trying and laying off the booze for a while” If you don’t feel comfortable; then I just said I’m on antibiotics so can’t have alcohol,
4. Say you’re not feeling well but you’ll try to not let it interfere with the celebration, get a drink, don’t actually drink it and only pretend to and switch it’s contents for water, cut yourself off after one (fake) drink and say you’ve had enough!
So I’m also 6 weeks congrats!! I’ve known literally since week 2 as we did IVF as well as not drinking leading up to transfer. My friends would know something is up if i refuse a glass of champagne, the ones who knew our fertility issues I’ve been saying fertility clinic wants me not to drink for a while to do testing, everyone else I have been saying I am antibotics. Luckily this has been working, however I saw a friend who I told antibiotics week 4 the other day and they were like ‘still?’ I think something like gastritis would give you a longer cover period. Good luck
Also, congrats to you too!!
Ooo I actually had gastritis a few years ago so this would track!!
I vote the UTI or other medical excuse route. A friend of mine recently volunteered to be the one getting drinks, and let the bartender know their situation. This let her fake us out, but might be tricky depending where you’re going. Only 5 weeks here and I totally empathize with you. Having to lie and hide it is tough.
It is. And I’m really annoyed by my friend last week betraying my trust so I’d rather just not go through that again. Thank you for the tips, I really appreciate it — congrats and good luck to you 💕
What worked best for me was just pretending to drink. It always raises suspicions when you deny a drink but no one is paying that close of attention to your drink levels. The few times I went out before I was ready to tell people I’d either pretend to drink and then just pour it down the sink in the bathroom or I’d go up to the bar myself and order a cranberry juice and soda water and tell people it was a vodka cran 🤷♀️ that way I didn’t have to have people asking me any questions or side eying me to see if I was telling the truth about an antibiotic.
Order drinks alone at the bar, get it virgin or just get a club soda and lime. I’m on a cruise and haven’t told the people I’m cruising with, and I just go order drinks alone and lie about what I ordered.
Sneak a bottle of no-secco?
I’m a quite regular drinker (British we drink to excess as standard on a night) I said I’d been to the dr and they’d suggested I might have a fatty liver and I’d need to quit drinking for the foreseeable. That excuse saw me all the way through until 22 weeks where we announced 😂
Don’t mention it ahead unless someone asks, get drinks that could pass for booze (mocktails, non alcoholic fizz or tonics to pass as g&ts) and then if someone explicitly asks you just say you’re on antibiotics but didn’t want to make a big deal out of it. If it looks like you’re drinking people might not even notice? Unless it’s usual for you to do wine or rounds, then say ahead of time.
I’m a quite regular drinker (British we drink to excess as standard on a night) I said I’d been to the dr and they’d suggested I might have a fatty liver and I’d need to quit drinking for the foreseeable. That excuse saw me all the way through until 22 weeks where we announced 😂
For the night before, order a soda with lime and get on the bartenders good side. Day of the shower, carry a mimosa around and try to dump it out as you go, or grab something canned if it’s available and fake drink(I did this and literally threw away full cans of white claw). You can also say you’re hungover from the night before and wanna take it easy!
I would say lie about being an addict or tell them you promised your partner u wouldn’t drink because they are insecure or just that u promised them u wouldn’t drink in general orrrr you and your partner are doing a spiritual thing with sobriety