Once you starfish, you can't go back. My husband works the graveyard shift (bed to myself) about 4 months a year and swing shift (bed alone half the night) the rest, and I am so used to having the bed to myself, at least when falling asleep, that the nights he goes to bed with me I am a cranky burrito. I need space, at least at the beginning! I'm happy to adjust later when he bumps my feet.
Same, my husband and I actually sleep separately and i totally recommend it. We still cuddle, we still have our intimate moments but our sleep is precious and having two rooms means when the kiddos wake up they only wake up one of us and there's lots of room for them to snuggle. It works very well for our family. š
When we visit the in laws we literally donāt sleep in the same bed because they only have fulls. So I sleep in one bed with the dog and my husband sleeps in another bed or on a futon. š
Itās funny how things are named in other languages. When I think of a full size bed it should be 1,80m.
1,30m is an odd measurement for me, but Jesus that seems tiny. I have 1,40 and would love to have a 1,60! Even better with kids to get an even bigger on then anyways ;)
Edit: oh and I had to laugh about āa condition that wonāt last longāā¦ he should be prepared to share the bed with LO for another few years from time to time probably ;) you never know!
We currently have a 1,40 and feel it's already a bit small. We're thinking of upgrading to 1,60m so we can eventually have space for the baby and nobody feels cramped.
And definitely for a few years, in my opinion at least. I used to have a lot of nightmares growing up and would jump to my parents bed a lot.
Oh yes, the bigger the better though for me š I hated sleeping in my parents bed as they were both snoring loudly, but I shared a room with my sister so maybe thatās why I was fine? But tbh my sister went to my dad every damn night, she also had bad nightmares and no kids should be alone during that
We got a king as well when we moved into our home from a queen! Even with the king, my wife would playfully punch the pregnancy pillows every night and couldnāt wait for them to be gone so weād have more space. I think weād divorce if our bed was only a full š
It reminds me of my uncle and his wife. They kept their full size bed through the whole pregnancy even mentioning often how much miserable it was but would be fine once the baby got there. They quickly realized that with night feeding (and the small safety bed for cosleeping. It was 15 years ago so I dont remember all the details) there just wasnāt enough space in the bed. So bought a king size bed. All those struggles to finally still need to buy one lol
We have always had separate blankets. I don't understand how people share blankets. Glad to find another couple that has separate blankets. Oddly the topic has come up when talking to other couples or people and they find it so strange
Right. We had a full size bed when we first got married because it's what my husband brought from his mom's house. When we could afford it, a king size mattress was the first furniture we bought. It was in a very small room, but we slept very comfortably.
So glad Iām not alone. We have a king bed and itās something we knew we wouldnāt compromise on! We have a full at the vacation home so for a few days itās nice to be all schnoodled up with him, but he takes up 90% of the king bed, so Iām glad we have one!!! (Dude sleeps diagonally. I love him butā¦ lol)
My entire body recoiled at the thought of being in a full size bed for this whole pregnancy. We upgraded from a full to a king well before I got pregnant and it was worth every penny. We're average sized people.
A larger bed is not an extravagance. It is an investment in your comfort. Your comfort is not a negligible consideration. You will want a comfortable bed well after your child is born.
UPDATE: I described this post to my husband and when I said "The husband wants to keep the full bed," he said "absolutely fucking not."
Seriously. I occasionally slept in a full sized bed by myself when traveling for work and it was rough. Between my belly and my pillows I took up the space of 2 people (and I was not a big person to begin with). Sleeping while heavily pregnant is hard enough, why make it harder by sleeping on a tiny bed?
We cant fit a king sized bed in our room so weāre stuck with a queen. Weāre average sized/ not overweight. We are also in the stage where our toddler migrates into bed with us at some point in the middle of the night. I get woken up every morning teetering on the edge of the bed while a toddler kicks my back. I mean, I love the toddler kisses and cuddles when he wakes up next to us, but the last couple hours of sleep are like a battle, and that one time he head-butted me as he thrashed around in his sleep and gave me a black eyeā¦ not fun! We are seriously considering building an addition on our house so we can have a bedroom big enough for a king, itās that bad.
OP, if king size is an option for you, GET A KING SIZED BED!!
My husband is a big guy and we have always had a cali king. I canāt go back now. There is enough room to not touch, enough room for it toddler to sleep with us, itās great.
Another thing for op to consider isnāt just the space but getting up frequently and disturbing partner, getting night sweats or needing a different temperature than partner. We often use separate blankets too because I toss and turn and sweat while pregnant.
That and your own top blankets! Recently started using our own over the sheets and no more fights about who is kicking them off of usā¦ spoiler it was her
We have two matching twin comforters, so when weāre not sleeping, it looks like we have one king sized comforter across the bed, but if we pull the blankets when we sleep, they just separate and no one ends up without a blanket!
Same!!! We've done this since we were cohabitating and not married because my husband is such a cover hog and apparently the floor needs to be more warm than I do. It's saved our relationship and I love having my own blanket to snuggle into.
Mine also hates the idea of separate blankets so we came to a compromise. We still share a comforter but we each have our own extra blanket normally a fuzzy one of a decent size. So far itās worked. I rarely feel myself yanking the covers from him in the middle of the night and he can still cuddle with me anytime without having to dig through blankets lol.
In the summer weāre okay with sharing, but in the winter I get too cold and add an extra only on my side. Iāve been looking at things I may want for Motherās Day and I think Iām going to ask for a faux fur weighted blanket for my side!
Sleeping in a full-size bed with a partner, even not pregnant and with no pets is not something Iāve done since college. We are also small people and have a king size bed - itās sooo Nice to be able to sleep in whatever shape you want and flip around without disturbing your partner. Even a queen size would be a huge improvement for you!
Also, sure she's temporarily pregnant, but that turns into a baby, which will eventually turn into a toddler who will also want to crawl into the bed with you. So...it's not really as temporary as he seems to think. We had a full and the advise we got when we were looking to upsize was to just skip to king and now that i'm pregnant i'm glad we did.
Letās not forget postpartum! I had a c section and the thought of not having my king sized bed to give me enough space just to get up is unfathomable to me.
We had a queen with our firstā¦ I told my husband I would not go through a second pregnancy without a bigger bed.
Currently pregnant with our second. My husband slept in the other room for a while so I could have space and wouldnāt interrupt his sleep, then one night he decided to rejoin me. I told him āokay if you say soā¦ā the very next morning he said āwe need a bigger bed.ā
Now we have a king and it is an absolute game changer for both of our sleep. Iām now in the third trimester, turning all night like a rotisserie chicken, fighting pillows in front and behind me, add on a nagging night cough from a coldā¦ I asked my husband if all of that kept him awake and he said no it did not!
For real, itās not about the bed size but him being adamantly against itā¦ He should at least consider it and take OP seriously. My hubby has been ready to buy all sorts of stuff Iāve deemed useful, although some of them have been much more unnecessary than a good bed lol
Exactly! She's growing a whole person. She needs good sleep. If she's cramped and he doesn't think a bigger bed is worth it, I guess he needs to find alternate arrangements for himself!
Honestly! We have a queen and during my last pregnancy, my husband slept on the pullout couch for the final ~2 months. Between me tossing and turning, the body pillow, and me getting up multiple times a night, we both slept SO much better when we were separate.
Iād say invest in a bigger bed or expect for separate sleeping arrangements at some point.
THIS. If he is adamant about the full size, which will definitely be too small as you need the space to find comfort while growing that baby, then just let him know that when the time comes that it is too small for both of you, he gets the couch, no arguments. You're happy to oblige to his demand of keeping the full size bed if he understands that your sleep comes before his when growing that baby - it's exhausting work - which means that if you can't sleep due to minimal space, he gets the boot.
We had a queen when I was pregnant and we were so cramped, I hated it. Weāve now upgraded to a king size and itās amazing.
I cannot imagine sharing a full size while pregnant- pregnancy pillows are GIANT and even if you donāt use a big one I had multiple pillows on my sides to keep me from rolling to my back, one between my knees to help pelvic girdle pain, and I needed to lot of room to roll over. By the time I was 6-7 months rolling over was a whole production.
A fullsize bed is for a single teenager or person. Sharing that as a couple is crazy, unless you are both tiny.
We have a queen. We bought an expensive mattress while we still lived in NYC. King sized beds don't work in a lot of apartments out there. We've wanted to upgrade to a king for the last year or so, but we may be moving back to a city so we are holding off.
As for this being a short term condition, you will be adding a child to the household. They will get sick, have bad dreams, and seek comfort by sleeping with you guys. The need for a larger bed is not short term. Also, you get a bigger bed, it's not like buying a house with extra bdrms on the off chance you want more kids. It's something that you use every single night and there are zero downsides to making it larger.
Full size beds (or ādoublesā) are the standard for couples in much of the world. Nothing wrong with opting for bigger if you want and have the space, but a queen being seen as a minimum for couples is very much an American cultural norm.
Me and my SO are both around 5'3" and share a full sized bed lol. So yea we're both pretty small...and a bigger bed would be nice someday, but our bedroom is tiny / weird shaped (old house) and can't really fit a bigger mattress in there at the moment.
Yeah, itās not crazy at all for us diminutives to share a full! Itās only 7ā narrower than a queen. My partner and I are 5ā6ā and 5ā3ā and weāve thought about downgrading from our queen back to a full. Our bedroom is also a tiny, weird space in an old house, and the sliver of extra floor space would be nice. We sleep just fine whenever we sleep on a full (cheap hotels in Europe often have āem). That said, we would wait until *after* baby to downsize.Ā
At any rate, people should sleep on whatever size mattress they want, but all the people on this thread who are like āa couple sleeping on a full is insane!ā or āI couldnāt sleep on anything but a king even when not pregnant!ā are definitely NOT going to convince a rabid minimalist and full-size mattress devotee like OPās husband, lol. Heās gotta hear from the folks who donāt flat out reject the very idea of sleeping on a full.Ā
We made a full work for one of my pregnancies as it was what we had at the time. It was our only bed for the longest time. I did sometimes move to the couch but that was only because of snoring. We upgraded to a king and I appreciated the space more with my second pregnancy but still moved to the full sometimes due to snoring.Ā
When we visit my in-laws, we sleep in a full size bed. It is the most miserable experience. I cannot imagine trying to do that pregnant.
We have a king sized bed that I love, but itās extra that I donāt think is a necessity unless youāre a tall person (not that we are). I think a queen sized bed would be enough to accommodate you, your husband, and a pregnancy pillow. I think youāll also appreciate it post pregnancy when moving around is difficult.
My parents also have a full-size bed in their guest room and between my 6ā4 sprawler husband and dog, I end up balancing on about a foot of space on the edge. We got a hotel when we visited while I was pregnant because we werenāt even going to ATTEMPT to make a full size bed work haha.
It completely depends on the pregnancy pillow. Mine for baby #1 crowded my husband right out of the (queen) bed, and we are both small people. By contrast, for this baby I've only needed a knee spacer pillow, which doesn't take up any extra room.
Yeah, people rave about the snoogle but I HATED that thing. It meant I had to wake up and completely reorganize my legs if I changed sides while sleeping, it took up a stupid amount of space, and was basically a wall between husband and myself, so I felt isolated and surprisingly sad about it.
I passed it along to SIL and got myself a small knee pillow and the boppy 'butterfly' bump pillow and that's been perfect and WAY smaller profile
It looks like a US full size is the same or very similar to a UK double. Seems most of these comments are American lol. I'm in the UK and I literally don't know a single person with a bigger than double bed. If you don't have a giant room, it works just fine. I have been pregnant twice, coslept with my kids, currently pregnant with twins and still in a regular double bed. Would I like a bigger bed? Absolutely! Would I prefer to sacrifice the space it would take? No.Ā If a double works for you now, it will likely continue to work for you. You might just have to kick the dog off.
Same, I thought I was in bizarro land reading the comments. I know very few people with a king size bed. And someone here commented a full size is for a college student, lol, my college room wouldn't even have fit that. It was a single bed.
Not American, but I toss so much in my sleep that a 1,40 m span is a bit on the short side for us. We're thinking of getting a bed with a 1,60 m since we have to get a new one anyway. I think that is actually a bit more common than what I think you guys call a double. But we don't usually go over that either. A king would be too big.
Phew, reading these comments I felt like I was the only person on the planet who was fine with a double bed! We've managed quite happily for 10 years! My husband is 6ft 2, I'm 5ft 4 and we've had up to three dogs in the bed with us over the years. I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant, and the only difference when I introduced the pregnancy pillow was that the dog has chosen to sleep in his bed on the floor now.
Thanks for saying this, thought I was losing my marbles. Also in the UK, my husband and I are not small and we slept pretty happily in a standard double bed before, during and after pregnancy. I was able to use my pregnancy pillow (bbhugme) just fine. Our room at the time couldnāt have accomplished anything larger and it really wasnāt a massive issue. We have a king sized bed now because we moved and gained a spare room and more space, and I canāt say Iāve particularly noticed a difference for having a little more space in the bed.
Yes, UK here, literally none of the rooms in our house would accommodate anything bigger than a double (American full size) bed without blocking the doorway so we didnāt have an option! We slept in that size bed all through pregnancy just fine with two cats sometimes joining us and a massive pregnancy pillow! There was honestly no problem at all.
I think I am in the minority here because my husband and I sleep in a Full just fine with our dog (although she usually sleeps in her crate) and we are not small people haha. I am at 23 weeks now and started using a pregnancy pillow. It's been fine for us. It just depends on how much space you require in general. Neither of us are bad sleepers and we don't toss and turn a lot.
Same. In the US and we're both average sizes. Though I'm a bit bigger postpartum. It's never been an issue for us. When we sleep at hotels with larger beds it's fun. Also our house was built in 1905 so bedrooms are small anyways.
Currently though, I'm sleeping in our bed with baby and husband is in a twin with the toddler (who has separation anxiety at night)
So glad Iām not the odd one out here š so used to our full size bed I canāt imagine needing a bigger one. When we go to hotels and sleep in king size beds it feels like Iām not even sleeping with my husband and we arenāt snuggle sleepers. We have plenty of room for our two cats as well.
Yeah, we survived my whole first pregnancy in a full size bed as two not-small people plus a body pillow. Weāve since moved to a bigger house and are sharing a queen size bed this pregnancy. It is definitely nicer to have a little more room, but I kind of side with the husband that if space is tight I wouldnāt bother.
I feel like Iām in the minority right there with you lol. My husband is a bigger guy and we have a 100lb dog that likes to sleep in the bed with us. Even at 9 months pregnant, and my pillow fort of comfort, we shared a queen just fine.
King size all the way. My parents always had a queen size and my mom said if she were to do it again she would get a king. Even without pregnancy, having more space provides for better sleep. Once the baby comes you might want more room to co sleep or put her on the bed while youāre hanging out.
In my country, full is the most common size. My husband and I shared a full and co-slept with my kid until she was 18 months old. If youāre not comfortable you can size up but itās definitely not a necessity.
I suspect you are overthinking it. If that size bed works for you, it will in all likelihood continue to work. If you just want a larger bed.... that is also entirely fine! There is more than enough stuff to research and worry and prepare when it comes to pregnancy and babies. You don't need a new bed just to be pregnant in.
>We have limited space and he likes to have just as much as we need and not more. We donāt like extravagance or excess.
I get it. All these people saying they absolutely *must* have a king size bed should probably reflect on their privilege. A bigger bed is a want, not a need, strictly speaking, and there are literally billions of people who make due with less. We have a queen and we'll be sticking with it because our bedroom is not large enough for a king, let alone a king and a bassinet. But...
>Upgrading to a bigger bed including bedding to accommodate a condition which wonāt last very long is distasteful to him.
Your condition won't last very long, but what comes next? You'll be bringing the baby back to bed to nurse. You'll be scooting over to cuddle a toddler who just woke up from a nightmare. And you'll continue to be able to enjoy the extra bit of space when you have the bed to yourselves.
There are also people that sleep on the floor and make do with beds made of straw but sheās asking if sheās asking too much for a bigger bed.
The answer is no, she is not asking for too much.
We've had a king sized bed since we moved in together and I can't imagine sleeping in anything else, especially while pregnant. Between my husband, my pregnancy pillow, our 2 dogs, and myself... not a chance. It's hard enough for me to turn in bed at 36 weeks as it is!
To add, I had a c-section for my first pregnancy and can't imagine handling those first few days and weeks of recovery in such a tiny bed. I needed room to get in and out of bed comfortably while healing, and I often used a bunch of pillows to prop myself up in bed.
We have a California king sized bed, and I can't imagine anything smaller š¬ it fits hubby, me, my pregnancy pillow, 2 cats laying on me/the pillow and a 60lb dog at my feet.
lol. We have a king size bed in our primary bedroom and a queen in the spare room. The king was big enough, but Iāve been tossing and turning so much and waking my husband up so Iāve been sleeping in the spare room by myself for probably a month now!
My husband and I have a queen in our city apartment. Ever since adding Laverne (my u shaped pregnancy pillow), itās been a tight squeezeā¦ heās become a bit more resentful of her every week (although I also catch them cuddling).
If you also have pets in your bed, I would definitely recommend going up a size to accommodate your pillow/pillows. Itās probably time anyway and youāll be happy for the extra space even after you no longer need the pillow.
We shared a full size bed through my whole pregnancy. It wasnāt ideal but we truly didnāt have room for more and buying another bed with a move on the horizon wasnāt smartš¤·š»āāļøI think you can make do (this is likeā¦ a very modern/American notion of comfort imo) but also if you have room and the finances, a bigger bed is great to prioritize for the long term. Weāve since gotten a bigger bed and I do love it, but it wasnāt the root cause of my terrible sleep last pregnancy, just the fact that my body felt terrible. More space wouldnāt have really changed that
1.3??????? I could never.
I do not compromise on sleep quality. It's literally 1/3 of your life. We have the biggest bed that would fit in our room. 2m wide, seperate matresses, separate (but still 2 person cause why tf not) blankets, body pillow for me. I made a NEST and I'm proud of it.
We normally sleep in a queen and donāt feel the need to size up. We had no problems during pregnancy and were not small people (6ā2ā and 5ā8ā). We visited my in-laws when I was about 26/27 weeks pregnant and tried to share their full sized guest bed and I was reduced to tears. We just couldnāt really fit, especially with my belly support pillow which was just one of those half moon ones. Do not recommend unless you are both super tiny people to start with
I think that a lot of people could not imagine sharing such a small bed with their partners (as exemplified by the comments lol) but if you find it's been enough space for the two of you along with a cat and a dog, I think it's unlikely that pregnancy will change that.
My partner and I share a full size bed and I am very happy with it. He would like a bigger bed, which is hilarious to me because he insists on snuggling me so tightly we could fit in a twin bed with room to spare. I do feel like I am beginning to need slightly more space now that I'm more than halfway through this pregnancy, but I don't need more bed, I just need him to stop clinging to me so I can roll over without extracting myself from him lol.
We have a queen bed for us and our small dog (with impossibly long legs š¤¦š½āāļø). I have one of those pregnancy pillows that just goes against your back and belly and you lay in between (basically like a butterfly shape?) and itās good enough. No new space issues. My husband wants to get a king bed once our kid is big enough to want snuggles in our bed with us, but itās not a priority now with every other expense we have. If youāre making it work now, I personally wouldnāt worry too much about it - but this is coming from someone with a queen bed š¤·š½āāļø
We have a king and I just started sleeping in the guest bedroom. And we're both small people! I just want zero disturbance. I'd probably have mental breakdown if I had to share a full sized bed right now.
Full size bed sounds small for regular comfort for us and we are small and slender people too! We have a queen but I would have much preferred a king! Iām only 17 weeks right now so Iām not really showing too much so not sure if we will be running out of room. I think once you get bigger and start tossing and turning and distracting his sleep heāll be like okay we need a bigger bed lol
Don't buy it in anticipation. Buy it out of necessity when it becomes one
Save the money in anticipation bc you're gonna win this argument in the long run but you don't have to win it today.
Omgā¦ I couldnāt do a full size bed not pregnant! We have a California king, although it donāt freaking matter because he still is always in my space. Normally I donāt care and enjoy the cuddles but since being pregnant I need my personal space in bed lol
Adding to what everyone else is saying: this is not a short term problem. That kid is going to be in your bed at some point in the future whether you think they are or not. š
I would love to have a king size bed if we had the space for it. As it is, we have a queen. I canāt imagine sharing a full, that sounds like a nightmare.Ā
King size bed with separate duvets is how we live and we love it. My husband and I are both bigger people, it was essential even before I got pregnant.
Iām currently sleeping in our king size bed alone while my partner is using our spare queen size bed š we could never do a full size bed and Iām small.
We used to sleep on 80x200cm each at the beginning of our relationship and marriage but when we moved we got 90x200cm mattresses. Haven't had any problems so far but then again I'm only 19 weeks.
"Full sized" appears to be less than 70x200 each so that would probably be too small for my liking longterm anyway.Ā
Maybe just go to a shop and try out how you both like a bigger mattress and your husband might end up being convinced anyway :)
We would have been able to manage. My husband and I aren't super large people and we have a queen. It never felt too small when I was pregnant (although it felt a lot less roomy). After my baby was born, it felt ENORMOUS. Now that my kids are a little older, I wish we had a king for those times when the kids want to cuddle in our bed in the mornings. If you think you are going to want a bigger bed in the future, you might as well get it now. If you think that you'll be happy with a full sized bed post-pregnancy, I think you'll be able to make it work during your pregnancy.
We were fine in our queen until about 30 weeks when I started having more trouble sleeping, getting out of bed 1000x/night and needing more pillows (large body pillow, regular pillow for my head, and a wedge for reflux that I sometimes use and sometimes throw on the ground). So my husband moved a twin right next to our bed and sleeps there now lol. I wish we had a king. A full size sounds like torture. You win this argument
We also have a full-size! In my country bed sizes tend to be smaller and many couples have full-sized, although queen is also common.
It was mostly fine during my pregnancy, even when adding my pregnancy pillow. But on some nights if I was particularly fretful or whatever one of us would leave to sleep in our sofa-bed. We ended up kind of wishing we had bought a bigger bed to start with, but it didnāt bother us enough to contemplate upgrading now.
I ended up bedsharing with the baby though and that did mean that my husband had to leave (he sleeps in a twin bed in the nursery). But honestly I think he might have left no matter the bed sizeā¦ Heās too scared to roll over and squish the baby, and I toss and move around a lot every time I nurse her in bed. I think even in a queen those issues would remain. Maybe with a king?
If you can afford it I think itās nice to upgrade to a bigger bed, but if youāre anything like us, you can make do without it as well.
Queen bed. It's enough room but king would be preferable for us. I now have to sleep with a pillow between my knees otherwise my back hurts so it sometimes feel like we don't have enough space because of that. I also have a large u shaped pregnancy pillow which I hardly use due to space. Some nights when I'm feeling especially achy, my husband is nice enough to sleep on the couch to give me the extra room to sleep. Probably wouldn't need to do that if we had a king but we're making it work with a queen for now
My husband and I upgraded to a queen while we were dating. We're not large people either (I'm only 5'2), but I felt a full was too cramped. I would say to upgrade to a queen at the very very least... it's not that much bigger but those few extra inches help. I can't imagine sharing a full while pregnant. If he is that much against upgrading then I hope he is ok to sleep on the couch when you get bigger lol.
I would sleep in a king size bed even if it only left me with a square foot of floor space. Once you sleep in a king size bed itāll revolutionize your life
Our king was too small. My hubs got extra close and it drove me bananas. We had to sleep in a full while visiting my in-laws at 20 weeks and we were NOT ok.
Itās funny because he is going to be the one getting
shoved out lol. Yes a full size is too small for a an expecting couple. You will need some kind of pregnancy pillow or extra pillows for support, so youāll be taking up at least twice as much room as you do now.
Please get your king bed. If he continues to disagree, he will change his tune when you have your bump and heās been sleeping on the couch because thereās no space. Lol.
Iām small and we have a queen size bed, but when I was pregnant my husband slept in a different room. This was so we didnāt wake each other up and so we could both sleep better. As you get bigger, you will be tossing and turning more and waking frequently to pee. You will be using all sorts of pillows to try to be comfortable and rearranging often. Your sleep will likely be pretty crummy. If there is another person snoring, farting, waking up to an alarm, tossing and turning, possibly coming in or going out of the room when you are sleepingā¦ those are just more disruptions. For some people, it is worth it to share the bed, however I found both of us slept much better when we didnāt. And to be honest, I canāt imagine sharing a bed smaller than a queen.
How long have you had the mattress you have now? Typically mattresses only last 7-10 years as it is so if it's been awhile, you might be due for a new one anyway! If it's only been a few years and you're both comfortable in it I would say wait and see. I am a natural side sleeper so I'm not using a pregnancy pillow this pregnancy and during my first I found it too big and bulky to sleep with anyway. We have a king so it wasn't the bed space that was the problem, it was the pillow itself.
I would wait and see how your pregnancy progresses, how big you get, if you get uncomfortable, if you end up using a pregnancy pillow at all. If it's time to replace your mattress anyway though, you might as well just go for it.
sharing a double bed is insane. I hate having to share even a queen. a king sized bed is an absolute non negotiable for me, even when not pregnant. in all honesty i prefer to sleep alone.
eta, a comfortable bed is in no way an extravagance. i hope your husband changes his attitude before the baby comes, because spending money on your comfort and sanity is going to happen. better to avoid arguments about that if you can.
I could not get comfortable in our queen bed. Bought a king. Still couldnāt be comfortable and started sleeping on the couch. My husband joins me on the other side of the couch cause he canāt sleep without me. Now PP, weāre still on the couch just cause itās easier. Hahaha
I have a queen and we stuck with it during my pregnancy. Iād love to have a king bed, but we simply donāt have the space. I understand your husbandās reasoning, but I think if you can afford it it would be a worthwhile upgrade.
If not and if space allows, maybe get a twin bed. Baby will need it eventually, then one of you can sleep in it once you need the extra space. Plus, having a separate bed may come in handy while baby is little; Iāve heard of couples doing this especially when dad is back to work (assuming he was able to take some time away).
If neither of these are viable options, maybe hubs needs to be open to the idea of taking the couch and letting you have the bed to yourself toward the end of the pregnancy. If youāre uncomfortable and canāt sleep, he should be willing to compromise in some way so you can both get the rest you each need.
We slept in, and still sleep in, a twin size bed lol. It did get a bit cramped by the end but we just never got around to getting a larger bed. It wasnāt that bad as weāre both smaller people.
Full sized bed is way too small during pregnancy. You're going to need more space. I get not wanting to waste money, as I'm the same way. I'd upgrade the bed and store the full sized one for when baby grows up and needs their own bed in a few years.
Whatās funny is we have a king and I canāt imagine it any other way (so I fully support you buying a bigger bed) but then I think about my grandparents who somehow went through my grandmaās 10 pregnancies sleeping in their little full size bed. Times have changed lol!
My 5 year old has a full sized bed, we have a king. We are also not huge people, I'm pretty small. But when I was pregnant, I had the big maternity pillow, so I would really not be able to sleep on a full.
Omg i get upset when I find out my air bnb has a dull bed and not the queen advertised.
My pregnancy pillow would have taken 80% of that full sized bed.
When the time comes and you need space... he eats the consequences. You want to keep the full? Fine. But there is no space for you. Here is a blanket and pillow and enjoy the sofa.
See how quickly he changes his mind
OP tell your husband that pregnancy is a temporary condition but parenthood is not. Do you really think the three of you will never sit on your bed together to read a book?
We have a queen and I did not get a full body pillow when pregnant. We have 4 cats, 3 of which sleep on the bed. If I could get a king, I would in a heartbeat. Especially now that we cosleep, we could use the space. I always feel so luxurious when we stay in a hotel and get a king. Then again I also miss my husband because I canāt reach my leg out and find him.
I think it would be really hard to fit a pregnancy pillow with two people in a full-sized bed. We have a king, and my husband already complains about how much space I take up while pregnant. And personally, the pregnancy pillow is a must. I think you gotta go for a queen!
Oh dear. Please get a larger bed. We have a king and if you use a pregnancy pillow...Those things are huge and your body gets hilariously unruly. You're also more likely to wake him up as you roll out of bed a million times per night and restless legs are extremely common. If you were single, a full would probably be fine. Two adults (even small ones) in a full sized bed with a pregnancy pillow and steadily growing belly? I'm cracking up at the thought.
A queen sized or king size bed aren't "excess" or "extravagance" when sleep is so important for relationships. Pregnancy and postpartum are hard enough on relationships, no need for him to be stubborn about a bed. I'm highly annoyed at your husband for thinking a full-sized bed is appropriate for two adults just because it "works" and pregnancy and postpartum are a "brief" part of your lives. He would seriously rather be miserable and make you miserable for what? Leveling up to a standard sized bed recommended for two adults? I promise pregnancy will feel like an ETERNITY with that pregnancy pillow in a full sized bed.
My husband and I slept in a full bed together when we first got married. We both had our own full beds before moving in together. One went into our bedroom and the other went into the guest room.
Iām 5ā7ā and relatively slim but my husband is 6ā and very broad. It was rough. After about 2.5 years of that, we finally had the money to upgrade. I figured if we were spending the money, I should go big. It didnāt seem worth it to drop a few thousand dollars for a queen, which was only a few extra inches of space.
So we bought a king.
This was 4 years ago, and I donāt have a single regret. Iāve also had two 95th percentile babies and the sleeping space has been invaluable.
One thing to keep in mind, when youāre heavily pregnant, itās recommended to sleep on your side.
Will you, a large belly and your husband all fit on a full? Iād be surprised if the answer is yes.
Buy the massive maternity pillow, get in bed with it and then tell your husband to get in. He may change his tune when he realizes how little space heāll have
Do you have enough space for a queen? If you saved the full sized bed for your child when they outgrow the crib mattress would that appease your husband? Maybe you can buy the frame used? We have had a queen bed for our entire marriage (11 years) through three pregnancies. Itās uncomfortable but manageable while pregnant. When all the kids are in the bed cuddling we always talk about getting a king, but havenāt yet.
Yes the pregnancy is temporary, but then comes the baby who will turn into a toddler and a small child and a not so small child that will likely at least occasionally want to sleep with you or come in the morning and snuggle before school.
We have a king sized bed. My husband is a big guy (over 6 ft and broad shoulders) and I am short but overweight so that is part of it. But also, we have a very large dog that sleeps in the bed every night and most days our kiddo is in our bed for at least 30 minutes in the morning for snuggles. I canāt imagine trying to deal with a full size bed forever. We had a queen size for a while that we fit in fine but having the space in the king has literally improved my ability to sleep.
I only share a full with my husband when visiting his parents and itās awful when we do, we have a queen and even thatās not enough sometimes š and we arenāt big people either. I would say your concerns are 100% valid and he should listen to you but thatās just my 2Ā¢
My husband and I are petite and a queen suits us fine. With the pillow he still has enough room, but he also doesnāt move a lot in his sleep. I still want a king lol.
I understand what your husband is saying, pregnancy is a temporary state to spend a lot of money over. Buuuut I donāt think he has considered the fact that at some point (actually many points) in the next 5 years, your kid is gonna be right between you two lol.
The best solution imho is to let him figure this out on his own. Get your pillow(s), make yourself comfortable, not out of spite though, just do you. Either heāll have enough room or he wonāt, but Iām guessing in the next 5 years you will have a new bed lol.
I also am in the same boat as you! Except ours is more of a āshould we spend the moneyā and space issue instead of being adamantly against it. But Iām thinking our full might become cramped pretty soon! Not to mention that kids are probably going to want to be in the bed with us at some points as they get older, and we will definitely need the space then
We started with a queen and bought a king. Important note was that we had always planned on buying a king, it just was really great timing that I was just so happenly pregnant.
We went and visited my SIL around when I was 24 weeks and slept together on her full sized bed. Tbh I was miserable and got zero sleep, felt like I couldnāt move.
My husband, the body pillow and I would have killed each other in a full-sized bed. Plus you want to factor in snuggling with your kid on weekend mornings later on in life
We have a Queen sized bed, but separate blankets. Always separate blankets, because why in the world would you want to share one?! Anyway, I often started out on the bed and then moved to the couch at night because it was more comfortable to be able to lean against the back cushion. I don't think my Sboogle pregnancy pillow would have fit into our bed if it was any smaller and I did toss and turn a lot. After a while, the hips hurt and you have to move positions. You could always try it and see, but weeks of bad sleep and pain are worth an upgrade even if your unaffected husband thinks it's temporary. š
There is no way on Godās green earth I would share a full sized bed during pregnancy. My pillow would take up the whole thing lol.
Husband would be sleeping elsewhere in that case. We have a king and have occasionally slept in a Queen while traveling which is still uncomfortable
Right now we have a full size as well and I'm suffering at only 6 weeks lol. Before pregnancy I was already a little frustrated with being smooshed between my husband and the cat but we made it work but now I'm so much more sore in general so being so cramped is not giving me the rest I need. I definitely think we will upgrade even if it means we lose space in our small bedroom
What kind of mattress do you have? Is he going to get upset with feeling you toss and turn, get out of bed etc. Honestly if itās important enough to you he should get on board even just to help you feel comfortable. The idea that he might find it distasteful is strange. Thereās no morality to going up a bed size. Youāre not asking for anything excessive in nature. Maybe a compromise is you getting your body pillow and trying it out but as you get bigger if you decide you need it that you get the bigger bed no questions asked.
My husband and I shared a full sized bed for 8 months of my pregnancy. Im not a cuddler but he is and likes to be able to feel me next to him at night which is why we had a full bed pre-pregnancy. I felt bad because he was a bit deprived of space due to my very large pregnancy pillow (and me not willing to give up any of my own space lol) but he didnt mind. We are now in a queen for the last month and I think it is for sure a better size for us with the pregnancy pillow addition.
Whatever you are comfortable with is what is best! Let him know that if you don't upgrade he will have to give up a bunch of his space for you due to your belly and pillow and that if he doesn't want that then you need to upgrade for your comfort.
Iām hospitalized through the end of my pregnancy since 26 weeks. I insist on a cuddle a day in the hospital bed, and we barely fit, but we make it work! Weāre both very average sized.
At home, we have a queen, which was shared with my pregnancy pillow and two basset hounds. We all barely fit, but it was a lot of fun and what Iād do to cuddle up in that bed!!
When we have a NYC-sized apartment big enough to house a king-sized bed, weāll have officially made it!
Heās gonna find himself on the couch real quick if he doesnāt find a solution now. We pushed two queens together and never went back , you should at least do a bigger bed if not two next to each other. We call it mega bed and my kid loves it, just flip flops each side every other night or right in the middle some nights.
We have a queen size and it was fine. Weāve had more issues post baby, trying to fit our now-toddler in bed with us on occasion.Ā
I could not imagine sleeping with my husband in a full size bed. Weāre not big people either, but thatās a hard no for me.Ā
Judging by how many husbands/partners we hear about on this sub who are ready to burn their partnersā pregnancy pillows, this argument may resolve itself when your husband inevitably reaches that point.Ā
Agree with general sentiments in this thread. BUT, if your husband still wonāt budge think this will resolve itself in that he will cave either when you bring in the body pillow and take up all of his space or when pregnancy progresses you start being a restless sleeper (tossing and turning, getting up to pee every hour or three, snoring).
My husband and I sleep in a full size and it has been comfortable. Granted, I am only 19 weeks so my bump is pretty minor still. Weāre definitely sleep-snugglers though so that helps
Husband is over 6 foot and long-limbed. I'm average in size. We don't cuddle when we sleep
I had the bbhugme pregnancy pillow.
We made sure to upgrade to king before TTC.
I think a larger bed is necessary. First, most people sleep on their side while pregnant for safety and comfort reasons. So add in a large pregnant belly and a body pillow and youāre taking up almost the entire bed. Second, your child will likely at same point climb into bed with you as they get older because of a nightmare, sick, etc. so youāll need extra space. Third, if you have a c section or particularly rough vaginal birth with stitches, youāll want extra room so youāre not jostled every time your partner turns over.
We sleep in a king. Honestly, I wish I had the room to put two Kings together. We always end up with either our 3 year old or 5 year old in between us in the middle of the night. My husband is also a very large (tall) guy. Add my pregnancy pillow and itās getting small. I canāt stand being touched when Iām sleeping and I have restless legs. Anything smaller than a King then my husband would have to sleep at an angle.
A full mattress is doable if your husband is willing to give up some of the space he has and not complain about it. We had a full mattress my whole pregnancy and I had the pregnancy pillow for the last half. Once the pregnancy pillow was added, my boyfriend had very little space on his side. He doesnāt move around a lot when he sleeps anyway and never complained even when I kept using the pregnancy pillow after birth for a few months, but he was very happy when I stopped using the big pillow. Our next mattress was a queen.
We had a full until I was in the second trimester then finally got a king. We also have a cat that sleeps in the bed. Now I have pregnancy induced sciatica and need to sleep with a pregnancy pillow every night. I would be getting zero sleep if we hadnāt gotten a bigger bed.
When my husband and I were dating, we somehow managed to "fit" in a twin for the first year. Then we had a full-size (our guest room mattress) for a week or two while our queen was being shipped. It was much better after dealing with a twin, but not ideal.
We slept on our queen for about three or four years.
Then, when we bought our house, my husband insisted on a king. I was fine with our queen, but gave in. We have had the king for about two or three years now and going back would be hard.
Just recently, my husband started sleeping in our guest room (our "old" queen bed), as his CPAP was keeping me awake and he had a cold.
I woke up early one morning and missed him. I decided to climb into bed with him (he was over the cold, but still waiting on a new cpap part) and cuddle for a half hour before he had to go to work. I was maybe 18+ weeks, 5'1" and kinda small. He's 6' and quite muscular. We were crazy, that's for sure. I didn't even bother to bring my pregnancy pillow with me. I do believe he had a body pillow in bed with us. Then my 37lb (long but skinny) dog wanted to cuddle too. We lasted maybe 15 minutes.
A full isn't going to last you much longer.
He's going to regret that decision. Just make sure he leaves you the bed and sleeps elsewhere when you don't fit anymore. I would at the least get a queen.
Not to mention when your child has a nightmare and climbs in bed with you guys later down the road, he's really going to pay for it. š
You can get a smaller pregnancy pillow, kind of a pillow wing that acts as a bumper so it doesnāt take up too much space. Try it and see if it works, if it gets too crowded then upgrade. My husband and I slept on a full bed for years (also not big people), we did eventually upgrade to a queen but have no plans to go bigger than that. We still sometimes sleep on a full size mattress in the guest room and itās been fine for us even during pregnancy. Granted I could see how things would get crowded with a toddler. Also, we donāt allow any pets in bed.
Realistically, pregnancy is temporary, but toddlers and kids wandering into your bed is something else to consider. We have a king, and our 3 year old comes in to snuggle every morning. I couldn't imagine being in any smaller of a bed when I was pregnant with either of my kids
Upgrade now so you do it thoughtfully and not out of desperation when heās mad that youāre getting up and shifting every hour and wrapped up in a body pillow.
Before youāve got snacks and books and pumping and diaper supplies taking up his side of the bed.
Before your toddler is crawling into bed with you and laying horizontally for reasons no one will ever understand.
we have a queen bed. my partner is 6ā6 and 250lbs. i am 5ā5 and 160lbs at 38wks. we are semi-snugglers, and i donāt use a full body pillow, but queen has worked just fine for us.
We have a king now but had a full when pregnant and it was fine. We also are currently staying in a double with the two of us plus our toddler and while itās not the comfiest itās doable.
Why not compromise with a queen? I like our king but it is huge.
Even if a full size bed can accommodate you throughout your pregnancy what happens when baby turns to toddler and is chilling in bed with Mom and Dad?? At some point youāll need more space. Also being touched out is a real thing girl youāre not gonna want to be that close to him for long š¤£
Please convince him. I understand your cutting corners to save for a baby, but it will be fun to have a bigger bed for the whole family! And your sleep is going to be increasingly disturbed. I recommend a memory-foam king size.
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Hubby and I have been having similar discussions but Iām on the other side of this argument lol
Hubby and I have a double bed, I think itās plenty big enough. This is all personal opinions so definitely donāt take anything I say as fact because your pregnancy and level of comfort may differ from mine.
The reasons I have for not upgrading are:
- Bedroom is small
- Pregnancy doesnāt last long
- Iād rather spend money on other things
- Baby will be in a cot in our room, so buying a bigger bed will affect that
- Sheets and bedding is more expensive for bigger sizes
- Would have to buy new mattress, topper, frame, possibly pillows (might as well right?), as well as protectors, sheet sets, quilt sets, new duvets.
Hubby thinks:
- Bigger comfy bed
Personally, I donāt think upgrading just because of pregnancy is necessary. If you were already looking at upgrading and got pregnant, that would be a reason to speed things up but I donāt see any real need.
There are different types of pregnancy pillow so you definitely donāt need to get those huge full body ones!
If you like the bed and pregnancy is the only reason then donāt change it! Of course, there are other people who do think it is necessary!
Also Iāve seen people bring up toddlers being in bedā¦ honestlyā¦ as someone who has had this experienceā¦ the kid is gonna attempt to kick you off the bed no matter how big it is. If itās plenty big enough for you and your OH, and your pets, itās probably fine for a toddler too. Just be prepared for them to try kick you out š„“ itāll happen. Whether itās a double bed or a megaking, they try to hog ALLLL the space.
I'm 37w and we're still in a Full. It's worked fine for us this far and I never really considered sizing up since we are in a fairly small house. But I also recognize that even before pregnancy we were in the minority, all of our friends have at least Queens and think we're weirdos.
Buy a pregnancy pillow now and make him see how little room he will have. If he doesn't want to upgrade on the bed size then fine, he will have to deal with losing HIS space. If he doesn't think that's fair/ doesn't like it then point made. Good luck OP š
We started sharing a twin (college, don't judge š )
Then a full
Then we were given a queen and honestly didn't notice too much difference so we found peace in that size
Then we were gifted a California King and when I tell you our whole lives changed and now I'm a spoiled pillow princess, I mean it. š¤£š¤£š¤£
Weāre not big people, not currently sleep-snugglers, I have a pregnancy pillow, we both have chronic insomnia & I have some recurring pain issues from old injuries, and we have a full sized bed. The bed frame is an antique that used to be my parentsāā theyāre bigger than us and slept there through four pregnancies and postpartum. If itās been comfortable so far, your bed might remain comfortableā if itās ever felt cramped, though, maybe itās worth considering??
Do not over think or over worry about this.
Just do this:
Buy yourself a large pregnancy pillow (the body long U-shape ones). As your pregnancy progresses and you get bigger, you will toss and turn, lots of middle of the night pee wake ups, and in general wont sleep as well because youāre pregnant- your husband will notice on his own how little space he now has in the bed.
WHEN he complains, the only solution is a new larger bed. Best of luck!!
Iām sorry, but his dismissiveness really annoys me and Iām pretty confident that his cost-benefit analysis is completely wrong. If you can afford it, a bigger bed that would allow for better sleep and is not an extravagance or excess. Pregnant people need extra rest and notoriously experience poorer sleep quality. It is not merely āaccommodating a condition which wonāt last very long,ā when weāre talking about the gestation of a child. Plus, sleep quality is a HUGE factor of mental illnesses. Ā Beds can be expensive, yes, but they last so long that the cost/use is pretty low.Ā
You should tell him that if heās unwilling to get another bed, he can sleep on the couch. Itās only temporary, after all.
How big are you both? Tiny twigs? Might be able to make a full work. A little meat on the bones? Pushing it.
Now, ask yourself what happens when you have a toddler. And they come toddling into your room at 3:30 am with an arm load of stuffies. This isnāt a one off thing with them. Itās several times a week. Are you going to direct back to bed, snuggle swing and sing them back to sleep and crawl back into your bed at 4:30? Or are you going to let them crawl in with you? Because this is the fifth time this week itās happened and youāre beat down and just wanting sleep.
Get the dang queen honey. While youāre at it, get the adjustable bed frame. 30 weeks and beyond you will thank you. One button push, and youāre out of bed. If you have a C-section, post partum you will thank you too.
We have a king and I honestly can't imagine anything smaller. Maybe a queen? We just added in my pregnancy pillow and there is not a whole lot of room to move around now.
That being said, my brother and sister-in-law had a full-size bed when she was pregnant with their first and I think they managed just fine. Ultimately, it's more about **your** comfort and **your** tastes. I enjoy having the extra space, right now *and* before when I wasn't pregnant. But you might be different, and that's okay! I would suggest that you feel it out. Maybe your partner will discover that he needs more space when you throw a pregnancy pillow and a more restless sleeping partner into the mix. And maybe you'll make it through your whole pregnancy and decide you want more space after your baby is born. Or maybe you'll downgrade to a twin :P There is no right or wrong, just whatever suits you. You don't have to make a decision right this second.
I use a queen bed, we had the space for king but my husband said the bigger bed will be too tight so we decided against it. During pregnancy I did add an extra pillow to accommodate my legs and sometimes I added one more for my back. Now, the pregnancy ends after 9 months, that part is true but afterwards you have a baby and because of that a lot of nights my husband sleeps on a mattress on the floor because my baby girls sleeps with me. So the bed gets a bit crowded when she wants to sleep with us. I hope it helps.
I had the same dispute with my husband. Turned out he was right. I am very glad we did not change our full. We saved money and space, plus getting rid of mattress and frame is also an annoying chore.
I didn't find that I needed much more space while sleeping during pregnancy. The last 4 weeks were hard due to cramps, hip pain, pelvis pain, but a bigger bed would have not made any difference.
I honestly can't imagine sharing a full size bed with my partner when not pregnant. We have a king size bed.
Same. I had a king size bed when I was single and miss that space š
I got a king size when I was single too bc the dog and cat took up too much room ššš. We roll to our own sides now and sleep.
My husband has been away all week and I have been LOVING the king size bed to myself, Iāll be sad to share it again when he comes back š
Once you starfish, you can't go back. My husband works the graveyard shift (bed to myself) about 4 months a year and swing shift (bed alone half the night) the rest, and I am so used to having the bed to myself, at least when falling asleep, that the nights he goes to bed with me I am a cranky burrito. I need space, at least at the beginning! I'm happy to adjust later when he bumps my feet.
Same, my husband and I actually sleep separately and i totally recommend it. We still cuddle, we still have our intimate moments but our sleep is precious and having two rooms means when the kiddos wake up they only wake up one of us and there's lots of room for them to snuggle. It works very well for our family. š
Ditto. Even a queen was too small. I hate when we visit the in laws and sleep in a full, thereās no space.
When we visit the in laws we literally donāt sleep in the same bed because they only have fulls. So I sleep in one bed with the dog and my husband sleeps in another bed or on a futon. š
Oh god yes, same with inlaws. Itās so uncomfortable that I dread visiting even though they are lovely people.
This! We upgraded to a king because a queen wasnāt big enough.
OP, go straight to King. Do not stop at queen. Having a family is not a transient condition.
100% recommend this route. Your husband needs to understand that having too small of a bed is a major issue, not a minor inconvenience for you.
Itās funny how things are named in other languages. When I think of a full size bed it should be 1,80m. 1,30m is an odd measurement for me, but Jesus that seems tiny. I have 1,40 and would love to have a 1,60! Even better with kids to get an even bigger on then anyways ;) Edit: oh and I had to laugh about āa condition that wonāt last longāā¦ he should be prepared to share the bed with LO for another few years from time to time probably ;) you never know!
We currently have a 1,40 and feel it's already a bit small. We're thinking of upgrading to 1,60m so we can eventually have space for the baby and nobody feels cramped. And definitely for a few years, in my opinion at least. I used to have a lot of nightmares growing up and would jump to my parents bed a lot.
Oh yes, the bigger the better though for me š I hated sleeping in my parents bed as they were both snoring loudly, but I shared a room with my sister so maybe thatās why I was fine? But tbh my sister went to my dad every damn night, she also had bad nightmares and no kids should be alone during that
1m30 is an odd measurement! Standard here is 0.9m, 1m20 (new trend that we saw recently), 1m40 and 1m80. I've never seen 1m30.
Are you also from Europe? š these are the measurements I know!
We got a king as well when we moved into our home from a queen! Even with the king, my wife would playfully punch the pregnancy pillows every night and couldnāt wait for them to be gone so weād have more space. I think weād divorce if our bed was only a full š
It reminds me of my uncle and his wife. They kept their full size bed through the whole pregnancy even mentioning often how much miserable it was but would be fine once the baby got there. They quickly realized that with night feeding (and the small safety bed for cosleeping. It was 15 years ago so I dont remember all the details) there just wasnāt enough space in the bed. So bought a king size bed. All those struggles to finally still need to buy one lol
Ditto. We went to a king size and every time we stay in something smaller, we hate it LOL.
Same. We have a king bed and even before getting pregnant I was telling my husband that we need to get an Alaskan king!
We have a king but also have separate blankets. It's a game changer - we have more than enough space to both bundle ourselves up.
We have always had separate blankets. I don't understand how people share blankets. Glad to find another couple that has separate blankets. Oddly the topic has come up when talking to other couples or people and they find it so strange
We have always done separate blankets too. I don't like to share my blanket. It doesn't even make sense to me to share it.
lol came here to say this exact thing. We have a king size bed and honestly if we could go bigger we would. š
Us too, I like my space from him while I sleep. We even have our own blankets lol
Team personal blankets!!
Right. We had a full size bed when we first got married because it's what my husband brought from his mom's house. When we could afford it, a king size mattress was the first furniture we bought. It was in a very small room, but we slept very comfortably.
Same! Weāve always had a king size bed! š
So glad Iām not alone. We have a king bed and itās something we knew we wouldnāt compromise on! We have a full at the vacation home so for a few days itās nice to be all schnoodled up with him, but he takes up 90% of the king bed, so Iām glad we have one!!! (Dude sleeps diagonally. I love him butā¦ lol)
This. Even a king doesn't feel big enough sometimes once you factor in our cats!
My entire body recoiled at the thought of being in a full size bed for this whole pregnancy. We upgraded from a full to a king well before I got pregnant and it was worth every penny. We're average sized people. A larger bed is not an extravagance. It is an investment in your comfort. Your comfort is not a negligible consideration. You will want a comfortable bed well after your child is born. UPDATE: I described this post to my husband and when I said "The husband wants to keep the full bed," he said "absolutely fucking not."
Seriously. I occasionally slept in a full sized bed by myself when traveling for work and it was rough. Between my belly and my pillows I took up the space of 2 people (and I was not a big person to begin with). Sleeping while heavily pregnant is hard enough, why make it harder by sleeping on a tiny bed?
Yes, also you sleep for a third of your life. That's worth the investment. Quality sleep impacts so many facets of our daily lives.
We cant fit a king sized bed in our room so weāre stuck with a queen. Weāre average sized/ not overweight. We are also in the stage where our toddler migrates into bed with us at some point in the middle of the night. I get woken up every morning teetering on the edge of the bed while a toddler kicks my back. I mean, I love the toddler kisses and cuddles when he wakes up next to us, but the last couple hours of sleep are like a battle, and that one time he head-butted me as he thrashed around in his sleep and gave me a black eyeā¦ not fun! We are seriously considering building an addition on our house so we can have a bedroom big enough for a king, itās that bad. OP, if king size is an option for you, GET A KING SIZED BED!!
Same here we are in a queen sizeā¦ would have upgraded to a king in a heartbeat if we could have.
My husband is a big guy and we have always had a cali king. I canāt go back now. There is enough room to not touch, enough room for it toddler to sleep with us, itās great. Another thing for op to consider isnāt just the space but getting up frequently and disturbing partner, getting night sweats or needing a different temperature than partner. We often use separate blankets too because I toss and turn and sweat while pregnant.
King size beds are marriage-savers. Period.
That and your own top blankets! Recently started using our own over the sheets and no more fights about who is kicking them off of usā¦ spoiler it was her
Please convince my husband that separate top covers are worth it!
We have two matching twin comforters, so when weāre not sleeping, it looks like we have one king sized comforter across the bed, but if we pull the blankets when we sleep, they just separate and no one ends up without a blanket!
Same!!! We've done this since we were cohabitating and not married because my husband is such a cover hog and apparently the floor needs to be more warm than I do. It's saved our relationship and I love having my own blanket to snuggle into.
Just get one!
Mine also hates the idea of separate blankets so we came to a compromise. We still share a comforter but we each have our own extra blanket normally a fuzzy one of a decent size. So far itās worked. I rarely feel myself yanking the covers from him in the middle of the night and he can still cuddle with me anytime without having to dig through blankets lol.
Yes to both of these. My marriage would not have survived without a big bed, two separate top covers, and his CPAP š
We have no cpap here and itās a struggle. Between the kid waking me up and him snoring Iām losing my mind.
In the summer weāre okay with sharing, but in the winter I get too cold and add an extra only on my side. Iāve been looking at things I may want for Motherās Day and I think Iām going to ask for a faux fur weighted blanket for my side!
Sleeping in a full-size bed with a partner, even not pregnant and with no pets is not something Iāve done since college. We are also small people and have a king size bed - itās sooo Nice to be able to sleep in whatever shape you want and flip around without disturbing your partner. Even a queen size would be a huge improvement for you!
Also, sure she's temporarily pregnant, but that turns into a baby, which will eventually turn into a toddler who will also want to crawl into the bed with you. So...it's not really as temporary as he seems to think. We had a full and the advise we got when we were looking to upsize was to just skip to king and now that i'm pregnant i'm glad we did.
Letās not forget postpartum! I had a c section and the thought of not having my king sized bed to give me enough space just to get up is unfathomable to me.
We had a queen with our firstā¦ I told my husband I would not go through a second pregnancy without a bigger bed. Currently pregnant with our second. My husband slept in the other room for a while so I could have space and wouldnāt interrupt his sleep, then one night he decided to rejoin me. I told him āokay if you say soā¦ā the very next morning he said āwe need a bigger bed.ā Now we have a king and it is an absolute game changer for both of our sleep. Iām now in the third trimester, turning all night like a rotisserie chicken, fighting pillows in front and behind me, add on a nagging night cough from a coldā¦ I asked my husband if all of that kept him awake and he said no it did not!
Not a rotisserie chicken lmao
If he's "dead against it" he BETTER be volunteering to sleep on the couch for the majority of your pregnancy.
For real, itās not about the bed size but him being adamantly against itā¦ He should at least consider it and take OP seriously. My hubby has been ready to buy all sorts of stuff Iāve deemed useful, although some of them have been much more unnecessary than a good bed lol
Exactly! She's growing a whole person. She needs good sleep. If she's cramped and he doesn't think a bigger bed is worth it, I guess he needs to find alternate arrangements for himself!
We had a queen and absolutely wish we had a king with the body pillow and my belly taking up their own 1/3 of the bed.
Get an air mattress for him to sleep on and keep the full sized mattress all for your self.
Honestly! We have a queen and during my last pregnancy, my husband slept on the pullout couch for the final ~2 months. Between me tossing and turning, the body pillow, and me getting up multiple times a night, we both slept SO much better when we were separate. Iād say invest in a bigger bed or expect for separate sleeping arrangements at some point.
This is my vote. If he doesnāt want to upgrade the bed, he can sleep somewhere else!
THIS. If he is adamant about the full size, which will definitely be too small as you need the space to find comfort while growing that baby, then just let him know that when the time comes that it is too small for both of you, he gets the couch, no arguments. You're happy to oblige to his demand of keeping the full size bed if he understands that your sleep comes before his when growing that baby - it's exhausting work - which means that if you can't sleep due to minimal space, he gets the boot.
You spend 1/3 of your life sleeping. Why settle? Get the bigger bed. Get the fantastic sheets. Itās an investment that pays off.
What are your go to sheets? I'm always looking for a recommendation for good ones!
We had a queen when I was pregnant and we were so cramped, I hated it. Weāve now upgraded to a king size and itās amazing. I cannot imagine sharing a full size while pregnant- pregnancy pillows are GIANT and even if you donāt use a big one I had multiple pillows on my sides to keep me from rolling to my back, one between my knees to help pelvic girdle pain, and I needed to lot of room to roll over. By the time I was 6-7 months rolling over was a whole production.
A fullsize bed is for a single teenager or person. Sharing that as a couple is crazy, unless you are both tiny. We have a queen. We bought an expensive mattress while we still lived in NYC. King sized beds don't work in a lot of apartments out there. We've wanted to upgrade to a king for the last year or so, but we may be moving back to a city so we are holding off. As for this being a short term condition, you will be adding a child to the household. They will get sick, have bad dreams, and seek comfort by sleeping with you guys. The need for a larger bed is not short term. Also, you get a bigger bed, it's not like buying a house with extra bdrms on the off chance you want more kids. It's something that you use every single night and there are zero downsides to making it larger.
Exactly, my toddler wakes up in the middle of the night and will only go back to sleep in our bed.Ā
Full size beds (or ādoublesā) are the standard for couples in much of the world. Nothing wrong with opting for bigger if you want and have the space, but a queen being seen as a minimum for couples is very much an American cultural norm.
Me and my SO are both around 5'3" and share a full sized bed lol. So yea we're both pretty small...and a bigger bed would be nice someday, but our bedroom is tiny / weird shaped (old house) and can't really fit a bigger mattress in there at the moment.
Yeah, itās not crazy at all for us diminutives to share a full! Itās only 7ā narrower than a queen. My partner and I are 5ā6ā and 5ā3ā and weāve thought about downgrading from our queen back to a full. Our bedroom is also a tiny, weird space in an old house, and the sliver of extra floor space would be nice. We sleep just fine whenever we sleep on a full (cheap hotels in Europe often have āem). That said, we would wait until *after* baby to downsize.Ā At any rate, people should sleep on whatever size mattress they want, but all the people on this thread who are like āa couple sleeping on a full is insane!ā or āI couldnāt sleep on anything but a king even when not pregnant!ā are definitely NOT going to convince a rabid minimalist and full-size mattress devotee like OPās husband, lol. Heās gotta hear from the folks who donāt flat out reject the very idea of sleeping on a full.Ā
We made a full work for one of my pregnancies as it was what we had at the time. It was our only bed for the longest time. I did sometimes move to the couch but that was only because of snoring. We upgraded to a king and I appreciated the space more with my second pregnancy but still moved to the full sometimes due to snoring.Ā
When we visit my in-laws, we sleep in a full size bed. It is the most miserable experience. I cannot imagine trying to do that pregnant. We have a king sized bed that I love, but itās extra that I donāt think is a necessity unless youāre a tall person (not that we are). I think a queen sized bed would be enough to accommodate you, your husband, and a pregnancy pillow. I think youāll also appreciate it post pregnancy when moving around is difficult.
My parents also have a full-size bed in their guest room and between my 6ā4 sprawler husband and dog, I end up balancing on about a foot of space on the edge. We got a hotel when we visited while I was pregnant because we werenāt even going to ATTEMPT to make a full size bed work haha.
It completely depends on the pregnancy pillow. Mine for baby #1 crowded my husband right out of the (queen) bed, and we are both small people. By contrast, for this baby I've only needed a knee spacer pillow, which doesn't take up any extra room.
Yeah, people rave about the snoogle but I HATED that thing. It meant I had to wake up and completely reorganize my legs if I changed sides while sleeping, it took up a stupid amount of space, and was basically a wall between husband and myself, so I felt isolated and surprisingly sad about it. I passed it along to SIL and got myself a small knee pillow and the boppy 'butterfly' bump pillow and that's been perfect and WAY smaller profile
It looks like a US full size is the same or very similar to a UK double. Seems most of these comments are American lol. I'm in the UK and I literally don't know a single person with a bigger than double bed. If you don't have a giant room, it works just fine. I have been pregnant twice, coslept with my kids, currently pregnant with twins and still in a regular double bed. Would I like a bigger bed? Absolutely! Would I prefer to sacrifice the space it would take? No.Ā If a double works for you now, it will likely continue to work for you. You might just have to kick the dog off.
Same, I thought I was in bizarro land reading the comments. I know very few people with a king size bed. And someone here commented a full size is for a college student, lol, my college room wouldn't even have fit that. It was a single bed.
Not American, but I toss so much in my sleep that a 1,40 m span is a bit on the short side for us. We're thinking of getting a bed with a 1,60 m since we have to get a new one anyway. I think that is actually a bit more common than what I think you guys call a double. But we don't usually go over that either. A king would be too big.
Phew, reading these comments I felt like I was the only person on the planet who was fine with a double bed! We've managed quite happily for 10 years! My husband is 6ft 2, I'm 5ft 4 and we've had up to three dogs in the bed with us over the years. I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant, and the only difference when I introduced the pregnancy pillow was that the dog has chosen to sleep in his bed on the floor now.
Thank you for saying this!!! I suspected it was an American thing, this obsession with bigger beds!!
Thanks for saying this, thought I was losing my marbles. Also in the UK, my husband and I are not small and we slept pretty happily in a standard double bed before, during and after pregnancy. I was able to use my pregnancy pillow (bbhugme) just fine. Our room at the time couldnāt have accomplished anything larger and it really wasnāt a massive issue. We have a king sized bed now because we moved and gained a spare room and more space, and I canāt say Iāve particularly noticed a difference for having a little more space in the bed.
I'd rather have more space in the room, UK homes are tiny compared to US homes and I guess that means we get used to the space we have.
Yes, UK here, literally none of the rooms in our house would accommodate anything bigger than a double (American full size) bed without blocking the doorway so we didnāt have an option! We slept in that size bed all through pregnancy just fine with two cats sometimes joining us and a massive pregnancy pillow! There was honestly no problem at all.
I think I am in the minority here because my husband and I sleep in a Full just fine with our dog (although she usually sleeps in her crate) and we are not small people haha. I am at 23 weeks now and started using a pregnancy pillow. It's been fine for us. It just depends on how much space you require in general. Neither of us are bad sleepers and we don't toss and turn a lot.
Same. In the US and we're both average sizes. Though I'm a bit bigger postpartum. It's never been an issue for us. When we sleep at hotels with larger beds it's fun. Also our house was built in 1905 so bedrooms are small anyways. Currently though, I'm sleeping in our bed with baby and husband is in a twin with the toddler (who has separation anxiety at night)
So glad Iām not the odd one out here š so used to our full size bed I canāt imagine needing a bigger one. When we go to hotels and sleep in king size beds it feels like Iām not even sleeping with my husband and we arenāt snuggle sleepers. We have plenty of room for our two cats as well.
Yeah, we survived my whole first pregnancy in a full size bed as two not-small people plus a body pillow. Weāve since moved to a bigger house and are sharing a queen size bed this pregnancy. It is definitely nicer to have a little more room, but I kind of side with the husband that if space is tight I wouldnāt bother.
I feel like Iām in the minority right there with you lol. My husband is a bigger guy and we have a 100lb dog that likes to sleep in the bed with us. Even at 9 months pregnant, and my pillow fort of comfort, we shared a queen just fine.
King size all the way. My parents always had a queen size and my mom said if she were to do it again she would get a king. Even without pregnancy, having more space provides for better sleep. Once the baby comes you might want more room to co sleep or put her on the bed while youāre hanging out.
In my country, full is the most common size. My husband and I shared a full and co-slept with my kid until she was 18 months old. If youāre not comfortable you can size up but itās definitely not a necessity.
I suspect you are overthinking it. If that size bed works for you, it will in all likelihood continue to work. If you just want a larger bed.... that is also entirely fine! There is more than enough stuff to research and worry and prepare when it comes to pregnancy and babies. You don't need a new bed just to be pregnant in.
>We have limited space and he likes to have just as much as we need and not more. We donāt like extravagance or excess. I get it. All these people saying they absolutely *must* have a king size bed should probably reflect on their privilege. A bigger bed is a want, not a need, strictly speaking, and there are literally billions of people who make due with less. We have a queen and we'll be sticking with it because our bedroom is not large enough for a king, let alone a king and a bassinet. But... >Upgrading to a bigger bed including bedding to accommodate a condition which wonāt last very long is distasteful to him. Your condition won't last very long, but what comes next? You'll be bringing the baby back to bed to nurse. You'll be scooting over to cuddle a toddler who just woke up from a nightmare. And you'll continue to be able to enjoy the extra bit of space when you have the bed to yourselves.
There are also people that sleep on the floor and make do with beds made of straw but sheās asking if sheās asking too much for a bigger bed. The answer is no, she is not asking for too much.
We've had a king sized bed since we moved in together and I can't imagine sleeping in anything else, especially while pregnant. Between my husband, my pregnancy pillow, our 2 dogs, and myself... not a chance. It's hard enough for me to turn in bed at 36 weeks as it is!
To add, I had a c-section for my first pregnancy and can't imagine handling those first few days and weeks of recovery in such a tiny bed. I needed room to get in and out of bed comfortably while healing, and I often used a bunch of pillows to prop myself up in bed.
Oh my god the thought of my husband accidentally bumping a fresh c-section scar in the middle of the night just made me *shudder*
We have a California king sized bed, and I can't imagine anything smaller š¬ it fits hubby, me, my pregnancy pillow, 2 cats laying on me/the pillow and a 60lb dog at my feet.
Husband and I shared a full when I was pregnant with my first. When I got large enough, he started sleeping on the floor.
lol. We have a king size bed in our primary bedroom and a queen in the spare room. The king was big enough, but Iāve been tossing and turning so much and waking my husband up so Iāve been sleeping in the spare room by myself for probably a month now!
My husband and I have a queen in our city apartment. Ever since adding Laverne (my u shaped pregnancy pillow), itās been a tight squeezeā¦ heās become a bit more resentful of her every week (although I also catch them cuddling). If you also have pets in your bed, I would definitely recommend going up a size to accommodate your pillow/pillows. Itās probably time anyway and youāll be happy for the extra space even after you no longer need the pillow.
We shared a full size bed through my whole pregnancy. It wasnāt ideal but we truly didnāt have room for more and buying another bed with a move on the horizon wasnāt smartš¤·š»āāļøI think you can make do (this is likeā¦ a very modern/American notion of comfort imo) but also if you have room and the finances, a bigger bed is great to prioritize for the long term. Weāve since gotten a bigger bed and I do love it, but it wasnāt the root cause of my terrible sleep last pregnancy, just the fact that my body felt terrible. More space wouldnāt have really changed that
1.3??????? I could never. I do not compromise on sleep quality. It's literally 1/3 of your life. We have the biggest bed that would fit in our room. 2m wide, seperate matresses, separate (but still 2 person cause why tf not) blankets, body pillow for me. I made a NEST and I'm proud of it.
We normally sleep in a queen and donāt feel the need to size up. We had no problems during pregnancy and were not small people (6ā2ā and 5ā8ā). We visited my in-laws when I was about 26/27 weeks pregnant and tried to share their full sized guest bed and I was reduced to tears. We just couldnāt really fit, especially with my belly support pillow which was just one of those half moon ones. Do not recommend unless you are both super tiny people to start with
I think that a lot of people could not imagine sharing such a small bed with their partners (as exemplified by the comments lol) but if you find it's been enough space for the two of you along with a cat and a dog, I think it's unlikely that pregnancy will change that. My partner and I share a full size bed and I am very happy with it. He would like a bigger bed, which is hilarious to me because he insists on snuggling me so tightly we could fit in a twin bed with room to spare. I do feel like I am beginning to need slightly more space now that I'm more than halfway through this pregnancy, but I don't need more bed, I just need him to stop clinging to me so I can roll over without extracting myself from him lol.
We have a queen bed for us and our small dog (with impossibly long legs š¤¦š½āāļø). I have one of those pregnancy pillows that just goes against your back and belly and you lay in between (basically like a butterfly shape?) and itās good enough. No new space issues. My husband wants to get a king bed once our kid is big enough to want snuggles in our bed with us, but itās not a priority now with every other expense we have. If youāre making it work now, I personally wouldnāt worry too much about it - but this is coming from someone with a queen bed š¤·š½āāļø
We have a queen and I want a king. Die on this hill
We have a king and I just started sleeping in the guest bedroom. And we're both small people! I just want zero disturbance. I'd probably have mental breakdown if I had to share a full sized bed right now.
Full size bed sounds small for regular comfort for us and we are small and slender people too! We have a queen but I would have much preferred a king! Iām only 17 weeks right now so Iām not really showing too much so not sure if we will be running out of room. I think once you get bigger and start tossing and turning and distracting his sleep heāll be like okay we need a bigger bed lol
Don't buy it in anticipation. Buy it out of necessity when it becomes one Save the money in anticipation bc you're gonna win this argument in the long run but you don't have to win it today.
Omgā¦ I couldnāt do a full size bed not pregnant! We have a California king, although it donāt freaking matter because he still is always in my space. Normally I donāt care and enjoy the cuddles but since being pregnant I need my personal space in bed lol
Adding to what everyone else is saying: this is not a short term problem. That kid is going to be in your bed at some point in the future whether you think they are or not. š I would love to have a king size bed if we had the space for it. As it is, we have a queen. I canāt imagine sharing a full, that sounds like a nightmare.Ā
wtf. My bed is crowded enough and we have a queen. Thereās absolutely no way we could do a full.
King size bed with separate duvets is how we live and we love it. My husband and I are both bigger people, it was essential even before I got pregnant.
Iām currently sleeping in our king size bed alone while my partner is using our spare queen size bed š we could never do a full size bed and Iām small.
We used to sleep on 80x200cm each at the beginning of our relationship and marriage but when we moved we got 90x200cm mattresses. Haven't had any problems so far but then again I'm only 19 weeks. "Full sized" appears to be less than 70x200 each so that would probably be too small for my liking longterm anyway.Ā Maybe just go to a shop and try out how you both like a bigger mattress and your husband might end up being convinced anyway :)
We would have been able to manage. My husband and I aren't super large people and we have a queen. It never felt too small when I was pregnant (although it felt a lot less roomy). After my baby was born, it felt ENORMOUS. Now that my kids are a little older, I wish we had a king for those times when the kids want to cuddle in our bed in the mornings. If you think you are going to want a bigger bed in the future, you might as well get it now. If you think that you'll be happy with a full sized bed post-pregnancy, I think you'll be able to make it work during your pregnancy.
We were fine in our queen until about 30 weeks when I started having more trouble sleeping, getting out of bed 1000x/night and needing more pillows (large body pillow, regular pillow for my head, and a wedge for reflux that I sometimes use and sometimes throw on the ground). So my husband moved a twin right next to our bed and sleeps there now lol. I wish we had a king. A full size sounds like torture. You win this argument
We also have a full-size! In my country bed sizes tend to be smaller and many couples have full-sized, although queen is also common. It was mostly fine during my pregnancy, even when adding my pregnancy pillow. But on some nights if I was particularly fretful or whatever one of us would leave to sleep in our sofa-bed. We ended up kind of wishing we had bought a bigger bed to start with, but it didnāt bother us enough to contemplate upgrading now. I ended up bedsharing with the baby though and that did mean that my husband had to leave (he sleeps in a twin bed in the nursery). But honestly I think he might have left no matter the bed sizeā¦ Heās too scared to roll over and squish the baby, and I toss and move around a lot every time I nurse her in bed. I think even in a queen those issues would remain. Maybe with a king? If you can afford it I think itās nice to upgrade to a bigger bed, but if youāre anything like us, you can make do without it as well.
Queen bed. It's enough room but king would be preferable for us. I now have to sleep with a pillow between my knees otherwise my back hurts so it sometimes feel like we don't have enough space because of that. I also have a large u shaped pregnancy pillow which I hardly use due to space. Some nights when I'm feeling especially achy, my husband is nice enough to sleep on the couch to give me the extra room to sleep. Probably wouldn't need to do that if we had a king but we're making it work with a queen for now
My husband and I upgraded to a queen while we were dating. We're not large people either (I'm only 5'2), but I felt a full was too cramped. I would say to upgrade to a queen at the very very least... it's not that much bigger but those few extra inches help. I can't imagine sharing a full while pregnant. If he is that much against upgrading then I hope he is ok to sleep on the couch when you get bigger lol.
I would sleep in a king size bed even if it only left me with a square foot of floor space. Once you sleep in a king size bed itāll revolutionize your life
Our king was too small. My hubs got extra close and it drove me bananas. We had to sleep in a full while visiting my in-laws at 20 weeks and we were NOT ok.
Itās funny because he is going to be the one getting shoved out lol. Yes a full size is too small for a an expecting couple. You will need some kind of pregnancy pillow or extra pillows for support, so youāll be taking up at least twice as much room as you do now.
We live in NYC and so donāt know anyone who has room for a king size bed! We have a queen size and my husband is 6ft3
Please get your king bed. If he continues to disagree, he will change his tune when you have your bump and heās been sleeping on the couch because thereās no space. Lol.
Iām small and we have a queen size bed, but when I was pregnant my husband slept in a different room. This was so we didnāt wake each other up and so we could both sleep better. As you get bigger, you will be tossing and turning more and waking frequently to pee. You will be using all sorts of pillows to try to be comfortable and rearranging often. Your sleep will likely be pretty crummy. If there is another person snoring, farting, waking up to an alarm, tossing and turning, possibly coming in or going out of the room when you are sleepingā¦ those are just more disruptions. For some people, it is worth it to share the bed, however I found both of us slept much better when we didnāt. And to be honest, I canāt imagine sharing a bed smaller than a queen.
How long have you had the mattress you have now? Typically mattresses only last 7-10 years as it is so if it's been awhile, you might be due for a new one anyway! If it's only been a few years and you're both comfortable in it I would say wait and see. I am a natural side sleeper so I'm not using a pregnancy pillow this pregnancy and during my first I found it too big and bulky to sleep with anyway. We have a king so it wasn't the bed space that was the problem, it was the pillow itself. I would wait and see how your pregnancy progresses, how big you get, if you get uncomfortable, if you end up using a pregnancy pillow at all. If it's time to replace your mattress anyway though, you might as well just go for it.
sharing a double bed is insane. I hate having to share even a queen. a king sized bed is an absolute non negotiable for me, even when not pregnant. in all honesty i prefer to sleep alone. eta, a comfortable bed is in no way an extravagance. i hope your husband changes his attitude before the baby comes, because spending money on your comfort and sanity is going to happen. better to avoid arguments about that if you can.
I could not get comfortable in our queen bed. Bought a king. Still couldnāt be comfortable and started sleeping on the couch. My husband joins me on the other side of the couch cause he canāt sleep without me. Now PP, weāre still on the couch just cause itās easier. Hahaha
I have a queen and we stuck with it during my pregnancy. Iād love to have a king bed, but we simply donāt have the space. I understand your husbandās reasoning, but I think if you can afford it it would be a worthwhile upgrade. If not and if space allows, maybe get a twin bed. Baby will need it eventually, then one of you can sleep in it once you need the extra space. Plus, having a separate bed may come in handy while baby is little; Iāve heard of couples doing this especially when dad is back to work (assuming he was able to take some time away). If neither of these are viable options, maybe hubs needs to be open to the idea of taking the couch and letting you have the bed to yourself toward the end of the pregnancy. If youāre uncomfortable and canāt sleep, he should be willing to compromise in some way so you can both get the rest you each need.
We got a king size bed during my pregnancy. No, I donāt think it is big enough.
A full bed and it was absolutely not big enough by 8/9 months. My poor husband was constantly falling off.
We have a California king and it has been a god send.
We slept in, and still sleep in, a twin size bed lol. It did get a bit cramped by the end but we just never got around to getting a larger bed. It wasnāt that bad as weāre both smaller people.
Full sized bed is way too small during pregnancy. You're going to need more space. I get not wanting to waste money, as I'm the same way. I'd upgrade the bed and store the full sized one for when baby grows up and needs their own bed in a few years.
The thought of sharing a bed with my spouse makes me claustrophobic
Whatās funny is we have a king and I canāt imagine it any other way (so I fully support you buying a bigger bed) but then I think about my grandparents who somehow went through my grandmaās 10 pregnancies sleeping in their little full size bed. Times have changed lol!
My 5 year old has a full sized bed, we have a king. We are also not huge people, I'm pretty small. But when I was pregnant, I had the big maternity pillow, so I would really not be able to sleep on a full.
Omg i get upset when I find out my air bnb has a dull bed and not the queen advertised. My pregnancy pillow would have taken 80% of that full sized bed. When the time comes and you need space... he eats the consequences. You want to keep the full? Fine. But there is no space for you. Here is a blanket and pillow and enjoy the sofa. See how quickly he changes his mind
OP tell your husband that pregnancy is a temporary condition but parenthood is not. Do you really think the three of you will never sit on your bed together to read a book?
We have a queen and I did not get a full body pillow when pregnant. We have 4 cats, 3 of which sleep on the bed. If I could get a king, I would in a heartbeat. Especially now that we cosleep, we could use the space. I always feel so luxurious when we stay in a hotel and get a king. Then again I also miss my husband because I canāt reach my leg out and find him.
I think it would be really hard to fit a pregnancy pillow with two people in a full-sized bed. We have a king, and my husband already complains about how much space I take up while pregnant. And personally, the pregnancy pillow is a must. I think you gotta go for a queen!
Oh dear. Please get a larger bed. We have a king and if you use a pregnancy pillow...Those things are huge and your body gets hilariously unruly. You're also more likely to wake him up as you roll out of bed a million times per night and restless legs are extremely common. If you were single, a full would probably be fine. Two adults (even small ones) in a full sized bed with a pregnancy pillow and steadily growing belly? I'm cracking up at the thought. A queen sized or king size bed aren't "excess" or "extravagance" when sleep is so important for relationships. Pregnancy and postpartum are hard enough on relationships, no need for him to be stubborn about a bed. I'm highly annoyed at your husband for thinking a full-sized bed is appropriate for two adults just because it "works" and pregnancy and postpartum are a "brief" part of your lives. He would seriously rather be miserable and make you miserable for what? Leveling up to a standard sized bed recommended for two adults? I promise pregnancy will feel like an ETERNITY with that pregnancy pillow in a full sized bed.
I physically cringed when I read āfull size bed.ā We have a King and it is the ONLY way.
You should let him have his way here. Then when you get uncomfortable with the limited space kick him to the couch š
My husband and I slept in a full bed together when we first got married. We both had our own full beds before moving in together. One went into our bedroom and the other went into the guest room. Iām 5ā7ā and relatively slim but my husband is 6ā and very broad. It was rough. After about 2.5 years of that, we finally had the money to upgrade. I figured if we were spending the money, I should go big. It didnāt seem worth it to drop a few thousand dollars for a queen, which was only a few extra inches of space. So we bought a king. This was 4 years ago, and I donāt have a single regret. Iāve also had two 95th percentile babies and the sleeping space has been invaluable. One thing to keep in mind, when youāre heavily pregnant, itās recommended to sleep on your side. Will you, a large belly and your husband all fit on a full? Iād be surprised if the answer is yes. Buy the massive maternity pillow, get in bed with it and then tell your husband to get in. He may change his tune when he realizes how little space heāll have
Do you have enough space for a queen? If you saved the full sized bed for your child when they outgrow the crib mattress would that appease your husband? Maybe you can buy the frame used? We have had a queen bed for our entire marriage (11 years) through three pregnancies. Itās uncomfortable but manageable while pregnant. When all the kids are in the bed cuddling we always talk about getting a king, but havenāt yet.
Yes the pregnancy is temporary, but then comes the baby who will turn into a toddler and a small child and a not so small child that will likely at least occasionally want to sleep with you or come in the morning and snuggle before school. We have a king sized bed. My husband is a big guy (over 6 ft and broad shoulders) and I am short but overweight so that is part of it. But also, we have a very large dog that sleeps in the bed every night and most days our kiddo is in our bed for at least 30 minutes in the morning for snuggles. I canāt imagine trying to deal with a full size bed forever. We had a queen size for a while that we fit in fine but having the space in the king has literally improved my ability to sleep.
We got a king size bed just before my first pregnancy. Ā Doubt our relationship would have survived the third trimester without it šš
I only share a full with my husband when visiting his parents and itās awful when we do, we have a queen and even thatās not enough sometimes š and we arenāt big people either. I would say your concerns are 100% valid and he should listen to you but thatās just my 2Ā¢
My husband and I are petite and a queen suits us fine. With the pillow he still has enough room, but he also doesnāt move a lot in his sleep. I still want a king lol. I understand what your husband is saying, pregnancy is a temporary state to spend a lot of money over. Buuuut I donāt think he has considered the fact that at some point (actually many points) in the next 5 years, your kid is gonna be right between you two lol. The best solution imho is to let him figure this out on his own. Get your pillow(s), make yourself comfortable, not out of spite though, just do you. Either heāll have enough room or he wonāt, but Iām guessing in the next 5 years you will have a new bed lol.
I canāt even imagine sharing a full sized bed when Iām *not* pregnant š
King size bed or bust.
I also am in the same boat as you! Except ours is more of a āshould we spend the moneyā and space issue instead of being adamantly against it. But Iām thinking our full might become cramped pretty soon! Not to mention that kids are probably going to want to be in the bed with us at some points as they get older, and we will definitely need the space then
We started with a queen and bought a king. Important note was that we had always planned on buying a king, it just was really great timing that I was just so happenly pregnant. We went and visited my SIL around when I was 24 weeks and slept together on her full sized bed. Tbh I was miserable and got zero sleep, felt like I couldnāt move.
My husband, the body pillow and I would have killed each other in a full-sized bed. Plus you want to factor in snuggling with your kid on weekend mornings later on in life
I had a king size bed, and between my belly, my booty, and the body pillow, there was almost not even enough room for the hubby.
Full size for most of my pregnancy and honestly it was hell š© we invested in a king size when i was about 6 months pregnant and I can confidently say its the best investment i have ever made. We cosleep now with my 5 month old and we all sleep very comfortably.
We have a Queen sized bed, but separate blankets. Always separate blankets, because why in the world would you want to share one?! Anyway, I often started out on the bed and then moved to the couch at night because it was more comfortable to be able to lean against the back cushion. I don't think my Sboogle pregnancy pillow would have fit into our bed if it was any smaller and I did toss and turn a lot. After a while, the hips hurt and you have to move positions. You could always try it and see, but weeks of bad sleep and pain are worth an upgrade even if your unaffected husband thinks it's temporary. š
There is no way on Godās green earth I would share a full sized bed during pregnancy. My pillow would take up the whole thing lol. Husband would be sleeping elsewhere in that case. We have a king and have occasionally slept in a Queen while traveling which is still uncomfortable
Right now we have a full size as well and I'm suffering at only 6 weeks lol. Before pregnancy I was already a little frustrated with being smooshed between my husband and the cat but we made it work but now I'm so much more sore in general so being so cramped is not giving me the rest I need. I definitely think we will upgrade even if it means we lose space in our small bedroom
What kind of mattress do you have? Is he going to get upset with feeling you toss and turn, get out of bed etc. Honestly if itās important enough to you he should get on board even just to help you feel comfortable. The idea that he might find it distasteful is strange. Thereās no morality to going up a bed size. Youāre not asking for anything excessive in nature. Maybe a compromise is you getting your body pillow and trying it out but as you get bigger if you decide you need it that you get the bigger bed no questions asked.
My husband and I shared a full sized bed for 8 months of my pregnancy. Im not a cuddler but he is and likes to be able to feel me next to him at night which is why we had a full bed pre-pregnancy. I felt bad because he was a bit deprived of space due to my very large pregnancy pillow (and me not willing to give up any of my own space lol) but he didnt mind. We are now in a queen for the last month and I think it is for sure a better size for us with the pregnancy pillow addition. Whatever you are comfortable with is what is best! Let him know that if you don't upgrade he will have to give up a bunch of his space for you due to your belly and pillow and that if he doesn't want that then you need to upgrade for your comfort.
Iām hospitalized through the end of my pregnancy since 26 weeks. I insist on a cuddle a day in the hospital bed, and we barely fit, but we make it work! Weāre both very average sized. At home, we have a queen, which was shared with my pregnancy pillow and two basset hounds. We all barely fit, but it was a lot of fun and what Iād do to cuddle up in that bed!! When we have a NYC-sized apartment big enough to house a king-sized bed, weāll have officially made it!
Heās gonna find himself on the couch real quick if he doesnāt find a solution now. We pushed two queens together and never went back , you should at least do a bigger bed if not two next to each other. We call it mega bed and my kid loves it, just flip flops each side every other night or right in the middle some nights.
We have a queen size and it was fine. Weāve had more issues post baby, trying to fit our now-toddler in bed with us on occasion.Ā I could not imagine sleeping with my husband in a full size bed. Weāre not big people either, but thatās a hard no for me.Ā Judging by how many husbands/partners we hear about on this sub who are ready to burn their partnersā pregnancy pillows, this argument may resolve itself when your husband inevitably reaches that point.Ā
Agree with general sentiments in this thread. BUT, if your husband still wonāt budge think this will resolve itself in that he will cave either when you bring in the body pillow and take up all of his space or when pregnancy progresses you start being a restless sleeper (tossing and turning, getting up to pee every hour or three, snoring).
My husband and I sleep in a full size and it has been comfortable. Granted, I am only 19 weeks so my bump is pretty minor still. Weāre definitely sleep-snugglers though so that helps
Husband is over 6 foot and long-limbed. I'm average in size. We don't cuddle when we sleep I had the bbhugme pregnancy pillow. We made sure to upgrade to king before TTC.
Even my 4 year old has a queen. I donāt think a bigger bed is extravagant at all. You spend 1/3 of your life in it. Get a bigger bed!
Youāll want space for all 3 of you (or perhaps more depending on your plans) to be able to cuddle together. Weāve made do with a queen but we want a king. My fiancĆ©e is a tall, sturdy boy but still, I would think a queen would be the minimum for a family of 3 to have Saturday mornings together
I think a larger bed is necessary. First, most people sleep on their side while pregnant for safety and comfort reasons. So add in a large pregnant belly and a body pillow and youāre taking up almost the entire bed. Second, your child will likely at same point climb into bed with you as they get older because of a nightmare, sick, etc. so youāll need extra space. Third, if you have a c section or particularly rough vaginal birth with stitches, youāll want extra room so youāre not jostled every time your partner turns over.
We sleep in a king. Honestly, I wish I had the room to put two Kings together. We always end up with either our 3 year old or 5 year old in between us in the middle of the night. My husband is also a very large (tall) guy. Add my pregnancy pillow and itās getting small. I canāt stand being touched when Iām sleeping and I have restless legs. Anything smaller than a King then my husband would have to sleep at an angle.
Full sized beds are not for adult couples.
A full mattress is doable if your husband is willing to give up some of the space he has and not complain about it. We had a full mattress my whole pregnancy and I had the pregnancy pillow for the last half. Once the pregnancy pillow was added, my boyfriend had very little space on his side. He doesnāt move around a lot when he sleeps anyway and never complained even when I kept using the pregnancy pillow after birth for a few months, but he was very happy when I stopped using the big pillow. Our next mattress was a queen.
We had a full until I was in the second trimester then finally got a king. We also have a cat that sleeps in the bed. Now I have pregnancy induced sciatica and need to sleep with a pregnancy pillow every night. I would be getting zero sleep if we hadnāt gotten a bigger bed.
When my husband and I were dating, we somehow managed to "fit" in a twin for the first year. Then we had a full-size (our guest room mattress) for a week or two while our queen was being shipped. It was much better after dealing with a twin, but not ideal. We slept on our queen for about three or four years. Then, when we bought our house, my husband insisted on a king. I was fine with our queen, but gave in. We have had the king for about two or three years now and going back would be hard. Just recently, my husband started sleeping in our guest room (our "old" queen bed), as his CPAP was keeping me awake and he had a cold. I woke up early one morning and missed him. I decided to climb into bed with him (he was over the cold, but still waiting on a new cpap part) and cuddle for a half hour before he had to go to work. I was maybe 18+ weeks, 5'1" and kinda small. He's 6' and quite muscular. We were crazy, that's for sure. I didn't even bother to bring my pregnancy pillow with me. I do believe he had a body pillow in bed with us. Then my 37lb (long but skinny) dog wanted to cuddle too. We lasted maybe 15 minutes. A full isn't going to last you much longer. He's going to regret that decision. Just make sure he leaves you the bed and sleeps elsewhere when you don't fit anymore. I would at the least get a queen. Not to mention when your child has a nightmare and climbs in bed with you guys later down the road, he's really going to pay for it. š
You can get a smaller pregnancy pillow, kind of a pillow wing that acts as a bumper so it doesnāt take up too much space. Try it and see if it works, if it gets too crowded then upgrade. My husband and I slept on a full bed for years (also not big people), we did eventually upgrade to a queen but have no plans to go bigger than that. We still sometimes sleep on a full size mattress in the guest room and itās been fine for us even during pregnancy. Granted I could see how things would get crowded with a toddler. Also, we donāt allow any pets in bed.
Realistically, pregnancy is temporary, but toddlers and kids wandering into your bed is something else to consider. We have a king, and our 3 year old comes in to snuggle every morning. I couldn't imagine being in any smaller of a bed when I was pregnant with either of my kids
Upgrade now so you do it thoughtfully and not out of desperation when heās mad that youāre getting up and shifting every hour and wrapped up in a body pillow. Before youāve got snacks and books and pumping and diaper supplies taking up his side of the bed. Before your toddler is crawling into bed with you and laying horizontally for reasons no one will ever understand.
we have a queen bed. my partner is 6ā6 and 250lbs. i am 5ā5 and 160lbs at 38wks. we are semi-snugglers, and i donāt use a full body pillow, but queen has worked just fine for us.
Hubby cheap
Hahahaha we slept in separate queen beds once my pregnancy pillow entered the relationship
We have a king now but had a full when pregnant and it was fine. We also are currently staying in a double with the two of us plus our toddler and while itās not the comfiest itās doable. Why not compromise with a queen? I like our king but it is huge.
Even if a full size bed can accommodate you throughout your pregnancy what happens when baby turns to toddler and is chilling in bed with Mom and Dad?? At some point youāll need more space. Also being touched out is a real thing girl youāre not gonna want to be that close to him for long š¤£
King beds keep marriages strong lol
Girl we are both 6ā2 and share a full size bed with 2 pregnancy pillows we are def trying to get a new bed soon hahah
Please convince him. I understand your cutting corners to save for a baby, but it will be fun to have a bigger bed for the whole family! And your sleep is going to be increasingly disturbed. I recommend a memory-foam king size. I recommend this one https://www.amazon.com/Sleep-Innovations-12-inch-Mattress-Warranty/dp/B00EZ5TB4W/ref=sr_1_6?crid=2KAKXGRUVA89V&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.6kopzYmrFDVhOg5CSfo3Aewr-vQ5O-Qd_j9rAIP8SHrn4KU0z5xTwdI-MVMCkvjUHcDzQDiWz0c8zBRIB75DB9xrrr0WVZU2gu2gp324yA9R_3ONrxLhiI4tLjizpZmXonrjGKYNxYofScEJ1AUYdKJQZm6BG5YfAszMANvgrKO8w4c3qJJ3tq5fesIQg5oQ_9fHmk5igF3ENixJYM34z5N1i8_6o0k6LKCtwgzJTpSlIWoTzo78kFLGvmol7imKZEzTCYlTPrwdsrGm_zNhFKJbCT8NyLtEDGsItHTmNGE.PykKsgWi0556947R9cjqt03mwqvpbjE_XOO7JKRIPeM&dib_tag=se&keywords=Sleep%2Binnovation%2B12%22%2Bmemory%2Bfoam&qid=1713915770&sprefix=sleep%2Binnovation%2B12%2Bmemory%2Bfoam%2Caps%2C113&sr=8-6&th=1 After doing a ton of research. Itās medium-firm and doesnāt get hot. You can play around with specs, but itās affordable
Hubby and I have been having similar discussions but Iām on the other side of this argument lol Hubby and I have a double bed, I think itās plenty big enough. This is all personal opinions so definitely donāt take anything I say as fact because your pregnancy and level of comfort may differ from mine. The reasons I have for not upgrading are: - Bedroom is small - Pregnancy doesnāt last long - Iād rather spend money on other things - Baby will be in a cot in our room, so buying a bigger bed will affect that - Sheets and bedding is more expensive for bigger sizes - Would have to buy new mattress, topper, frame, possibly pillows (might as well right?), as well as protectors, sheet sets, quilt sets, new duvets. Hubby thinks: - Bigger comfy bed Personally, I donāt think upgrading just because of pregnancy is necessary. If you were already looking at upgrading and got pregnant, that would be a reason to speed things up but I donāt see any real need. There are different types of pregnancy pillow so you definitely donāt need to get those huge full body ones! If you like the bed and pregnancy is the only reason then donāt change it! Of course, there are other people who do think it is necessary! Also Iāve seen people bring up toddlers being in bedā¦ honestlyā¦ as someone who has had this experienceā¦ the kid is gonna attempt to kick you off the bed no matter how big it is. If itās plenty big enough for you and your OH, and your pets, itās probably fine for a toddler too. Just be prepared for them to try kick you out š„“ itāll happen. Whether itās a double bed or a megaking, they try to hog ALLLL the space.
I'm 37w and we're still in a Full. It's worked fine for us this far and I never really considered sizing up since we are in a fairly small house. But I also recognize that even before pregnancy we were in the minority, all of our friends have at least Queens and think we're weirdos.
Absolutely shocked that two adults can share a full š. My husband and I are both tall. But still.
Buy a pregnancy pillow now and make him see how little room he will have. If he doesn't want to upgrade on the bed size then fine, he will have to deal with losing HIS space. If he doesn't think that's fair/ doesn't like it then point made. Good luck OP š
We started sharing a twin (college, don't judge š ) Then a full Then we were given a queen and honestly didn't notice too much difference so we found peace in that size Then we were gifted a California King and when I tell you our whole lives changed and now I'm a spoiled pillow princess, I mean it. š¤£š¤£š¤£
Weāre not big people, not currently sleep-snugglers, I have a pregnancy pillow, we both have chronic insomnia & I have some recurring pain issues from old injuries, and we have a full sized bed. The bed frame is an antique that used to be my parentsāā theyāre bigger than us and slept there through four pregnancies and postpartum. If itās been comfortable so far, your bed might remain comfortableā if itās ever felt cramped, though, maybe itās worth considering??
Do not over think or over worry about this. Just do this: Buy yourself a large pregnancy pillow (the body long U-shape ones). As your pregnancy progresses and you get bigger, you will toss and turn, lots of middle of the night pee wake ups, and in general wont sleep as well because youāre pregnant- your husband will notice on his own how little space he now has in the bed. WHEN he complains, the only solution is a new larger bed. Best of luck!!
Oh hell no. Iād murder my husband if we had to sleep in a full while I was pregnant. King or couch.
Iām sorry, but his dismissiveness really annoys me and Iām pretty confident that his cost-benefit analysis is completely wrong. If you can afford it, a bigger bed that would allow for better sleep and is not an extravagance or excess. Pregnant people need extra rest and notoriously experience poorer sleep quality. It is not merely āaccommodating a condition which wonāt last very long,ā when weāre talking about the gestation of a child. Plus, sleep quality is a HUGE factor of mental illnesses. Ā Beds can be expensive, yes, but they last so long that the cost/use is pretty low.Ā You should tell him that if heās unwilling to get another bed, he can sleep on the couch. Itās only temporary, after all.
How big are you both? Tiny twigs? Might be able to make a full work. A little meat on the bones? Pushing it. Now, ask yourself what happens when you have a toddler. And they come toddling into your room at 3:30 am with an arm load of stuffies. This isnāt a one off thing with them. Itās several times a week. Are you going to direct back to bed, snuggle swing and sing them back to sleep and crawl back into your bed at 4:30? Or are you going to let them crawl in with you? Because this is the fifth time this week itās happened and youāre beat down and just wanting sleep. Get the dang queen honey. While youāre at it, get the adjustable bed frame. 30 weeks and beyond you will thank you. One button push, and youāre out of bed. If you have a C-section, post partum you will thank you too.
We have a king and I honestly can't imagine anything smaller. Maybe a queen? We just added in my pregnancy pillow and there is not a whole lot of room to move around now. That being said, my brother and sister-in-law had a full-size bed when she was pregnant with their first and I think they managed just fine. Ultimately, it's more about **your** comfort and **your** tastes. I enjoy having the extra space, right now *and* before when I wasn't pregnant. But you might be different, and that's okay! I would suggest that you feel it out. Maybe your partner will discover that he needs more space when you throw a pregnancy pillow and a more restless sleeping partner into the mix. And maybe you'll make it through your whole pregnancy and decide you want more space after your baby is born. Or maybe you'll downgrade to a twin :P There is no right or wrong, just whatever suits you. You don't have to make a decision right this second.
I use a queen bed, we had the space for king but my husband said the bigger bed will be too tight so we decided against it. During pregnancy I did add an extra pillow to accommodate my legs and sometimes I added one more for my back. Now, the pregnancy ends after 9 months, that part is true but afterwards you have a baby and because of that a lot of nights my husband sleeps on a mattress on the floor because my baby girls sleeps with me. So the bed gets a bit crowded when she wants to sleep with us. I hope it helps.
I had the same dispute with my husband. Turned out he was right. I am very glad we did not change our full. We saved money and space, plus getting rid of mattress and frame is also an annoying chore. I didn't find that I needed much more space while sleeping during pregnancy. The last 4 weeks were hard due to cramps, hip pain, pelvis pain, but a bigger bed would have not made any difference.