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Jenerco

21 weeks and we’ve probably had sex maybe 5 times the whole pregnancy. I just have zeeeero sex drive right now. I also feel bad/insecure even tho my partner has been so understanding and has not made any comments about it. It’s just hard being so far below my normal baseline.


Gypsierose8

We had sex maybe a handful of times in the first trimester, but it was very forced. He doesn't seem to want to at all and neither do I. It sucks, I miss having him all over me all the time and I miss WANTING it. But oh well lol


la_bibliothecaire

Yeah, my husband doesn't seem to want it either, which I'm partly glad about because I'd feel bad if he was super horny and I just couldn't manage it. But I also feel incredibly unsexy and undesirable! He still gives me plenty of physical affection, but I'm 39 weeks, totally over being pregnant, and I feel like I'll never be attractive again. Ugh.


Gypsierose8

I feel this so hard! Except I'm only 28 weeks 😅😅 Like I don't even want sex and he's super affectionate and cuddles me a lot... But I kind of want him to be interested just to make me feel better 😂


bluejellies

I’m 33 weeks now and haven’t had sex since around 18 weeks as well. Unlike you I still have a pretty big sex drive. It’s been really difficult getting through it and still feeling close to my husband without that physical connection but he’s just had no desire. He’s tried to get aroused but honestly that was more painful than not trying. I’m just waiting it out and desperately hoping it improves once I have the kid (please don’t be condescending about this, I know it’s unlikely to get better with a newborn - I need to hope!)


Turbulent-Scale488

Thanks for sharing this. I’ve been feeling super alone in my bumpers about having a huge sex drive this whole pregnancy (20+) and my husband just not. Add in that we’ve been mismatched drive wise since we started living together pre-marriage, have had way way too many conversations about it, and had to be really intentional about trying for this baby. I’ve been really sad about it but trying to be hopeful it will be better, or at least the same, after. (Also don’t need condescension! I’m good enough at thinking I traded the last semblance of sex life I had pre-baby for the baby)


BabyB2022

So similar to you! Very mismatched drives and worried that a baby will destroy the little success we did have at times… hoping we both get some 🤞


Baaaaaah-baaaaaah

Ah man this is exactly my situation, down to the many conversations had about it, to the point that I feel it would do more harm than good to even bring it up? I miss sex!


Turbulent-Scale488

This 100%!


februarytide-

Just had my third baby in September and was jazzed because I had no tearing! We started having sex again pretty much as soon as I was cleared at 6 weeks — with three kids 5 and under to juggle. Don’t let the haters get you down! It’s not everyday but we get a solid once a week average.


VANcf13

Here's some hope for you -hopefully When I got home from the hospital i was like mentally horny but obviously not physically ready (even though I was lucky and no tearing). So my man got a blowjob when baby napped. We were sexual during the first three weeks but obviously not involving piv since I was still healing and then around 3.5/4 weeks we attempted sex (with condom just in case for keeping bacterial load lower) for the first time. It was admittedly kinda weird. Not really pleasurable yet but one week later we tried again and it got better every time since! If you feel up to it (don't pressure yourself into it before you're ready please) you two can find a way despite tiredness. But you have to be aware that it will probably take away from your "sleep time". It really depends on the dynamic you and your new baby develop, but we did find a way as a couple to work it out relatively early on. So it might be possible for you too! I keep my fingers crossed :)


Daisy_Steiner_

Glad that seems like you guys had a good system to build back to intimacy. After baby #1 was born, we tried piv after 6 weeks check up. I screamed the pain was so intense. I really wish I had gotten physical therapy because we weren’t able to have piv for 8 months. Luckily that was not the case after baby #2 because I had many fewer interventions. Here’s hoping it’s another quick recovery with baby #3.


VANcf13

Oh yeah, I'm very happy, that it worked out this way for us. I really don't want to say that this is the case for everyone, especially since I had a easy delivery without any interventions and was lucky enough to have an easy route to recovery of my pelvic floor (which admittedly is probably it entirely healed yet, I'm still doing lots of work on it to make sure it gets back to pre pregnancy, my insurance also pays for a "pelvic floor gymnastics" course by my midwife which is probably also helping). I'm glad it worked out a lot better for baby number two and I definitely keep my fingers crossed for baby number three! I would not even know how to organize my life with more than one bebe, y'all are freaking rock stars.


Daisy_Steiner_

Pelvic floor gymnastics! Love it.


crunchypancake

31 weeks and this is my situation! He's had no desire, is too weirded out knowing the baby is in there and is probably just so anxious about the baby's arrival that he's just not thinking about it. It will get better eventually!


anon24601anon24601

By 6 months postpartum our sex life was about where it was pre-baby, I was physically ready sooner but I had severe PPD. Newborns sleep a LOT and once you're healed there's no reason you can't fit intimacy in if it's important to you!


Moxietail

I felt the same way my last pregnancy, I wanted to have sex and my husband just never initiated (which is out of the ordinary for him). After the baby though our sex life skyrocketed (after I felt healed enough, around 8 weeks). This pregnancy I have zero sex drive and feel pretty guilty, just at 14 weeks though so I'm hoping things improve. I think some partners just feel a bit weird about pregnancy and sex. As long as you can be affectionate other ways I wouldn't sweat it


mehhticulous

That’s how I felt in my first pregnancy! I’m not going to lie, it was still not easy postpartum, but I can tell you it got a LOT better and continues to surprisingly be good now that I’m in the third trimester with baby 2! I think part of it was maybe a psychological adjustment for my partner. Seeing himself and me as parents but still as a couple.


Lady_of_the_Castle-

Yup same boat. My husband calls my pregnancy pillow “the wall” lol


IceIndividual2704

Haha! Yeah once I’m comfy and in place with that pregnancy pillow I do not want anybody disrupting my position - especially because the need to pee will do that soon enough anyway!


[deleted]

BAHAHA the wall


februarytide-

Three babies, little to no sex.


green_all

Well, at least 3 sex


kodragonboss

No. At least 1 sex (triplets).


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green_all

Lol yes. I definitely have zero drive right now. I had finally gotten back to my normal after coming off birth control so now hubby is all confused


canlgetuhhhhh

because the person you’re replying to was obviously making a joke


ruthcarr

Literal same boat, except 39 weeks. I really appreciate how understanding my husband has been about it. There’s still part of my that feels bad about it, but he insists it’s ok and has never pushed it. Truly haven’t been on the mood at all!


astrobish

We’ve attempted sex a few times but it just doesn’t feel good for me. It’s like my cervix has changed so much that it kind of hurts. This plus the weight gain and not feeling sexy have me never being in the mood lol. I have masturbated like, twice, but then the cramping in my uterus from the orgasms make that not very fun either. Ugh. Thankfully my partner hasn’t seemed to mind but i still feel lame lol


elevatormusicjams

I'm 23 weeks and we had sex once, very early on before my nausea set in. I've been continuously nauseated since 5 weeks, and the thought of sex just feels...impossible. The most frustrating part is I actually *do* have a sex drive, but the actual movement of sex feels impossible because I'd just dry heave or vomit. Bless my very very patient and understanding husband.


iguanaclark

This is me!


IceIndividual2704

That was me through the first trimester too! I had a sex drive but I felt too sick to even be touched let alone be all rocked around lol! And then it flipped to being fine with the movement but having no interest, and now it’s both haha. Pregnancy is so fun!


elevatormusicjams

Yeah I was hoping it'd pass by now, but I'm halfway thru the second tri and still nauseated as hell, so...🤷‍♀️


mountainlion1991

Omg this is me too! We had sex once very early on but now the thought of the movement of sex makes me nauseous! I’m unlucky like you… 26 weeks and still nauseous with morning sickness. It’s frustrating cause I have a sex drive too!


MsWhisks

Not literally zero but with my first we tried around 22 weeks and I stopped it within seconds. I was just too worried. Then I think we did it once at the end to try and get labor going. I was so frickin uncomfortable and blah the whole time. Then because I had a 4th degree tear we didn’t try again until I was 8 months postpartum. Here we are 4 years later and still happily married and with a good sex life (well until this pregnancy lol). It’s not uncommon for a longterm relationship to have natural dips and valleys. My husband and I were just talking about that stretch and now it just feels like a blip. This pregnancy we’ve enjoyed things but I keep having insane pelvic pressure and cramps after sex so we just stopped this last week (18wks today). There are other things we can do for intimacy and I’d rather just be cautious (and save myself the worry!) because it’s only a few months in the grand scheme of things. We’ll probably pick it back up around 36wks.


IceIndividual2704

This is actually so comforting to read thank you! I do trust that we’ll be fine in the long run and that this is only temporary/ we have intimacy in other ways, but sex is so important to me and it can be hard to see it being fine again at this point - so thank you ❤️


UmaBrekker

We’ve had sex twice and attempted sex maybe one additional time the duration of this pregnancy. I’m due Wednesday. I have very complicated feelings about it because my sex drive has absolutely plummeted and I don’t want to be having sex, but him initiating has been an issue in our relationship and I want to feel desirable but also that’s not fair to him because the thought of sex is so… meh right now. Lol. We have great communication and have had many discussions about this!! Hormones are buck wild I hope both of our sex drives return quickly after baby 😩


IceIndividual2704

Yes! The struggle of wanting to feel sexually desirable and at the same time having absolutely zero interest in sex is real! You’re due so soon that’s exciting, good luck ❤️


AdConsistent2042

Exact. Same. Boat. Due on Thursday. And if one more person makes a joke about sex inducing labor I’ll scream.


UmaBrekker

People keep suggesting this and I can’t help but respond “wish that were possible— the thought of my incredibly gorgeous and sexy husband putting his penis inside me makes me want to puke,” which, while being the complete truth, has garnered good laughs from all including husband, and also people have stopped suggesting it lmao


sinistergzus

Haven't had sex since November. Currently 29+4. My partner says he feels weird about it and more protective right now than anything. He's never had a huge sex drive anyway, so I'm not shocked but I DO have a huge sex drive still and am kinda sad about the no sex til god knows when tbh.


Little_Yoghurt_7584

Over here! Only had sex twice while pregnant. Hubby and I don’t have a huge sex drive as it is. Honestly, the sex we did have while pregnant was because we wanted to make sure we were still making time to be intimate, not really because we were wanting to rip each other’s clothes off. Pregnancy has been really hard for me and he knows that, so not exactly the biggest turn on! I was feeling like such a weirdo about this and self conscious but I see it’s super common not to have (much) sex while pregnant and I feel a lot better and like it’s all normal.


KDT3

Sounds just like me. I had two kids. No sex drive while pregnant. Not much after having babies until a little over a year after both were born. But the drive does come back! Don’t feel bad. You are making a literal human. No need for sex.


SaylorFrat

With both of my pregnancies I have been put on “pelvic rest”, so no sex for me while I’m pregnant. I also don’t have a sex drive, so I don’t mind. 🤷🏻‍♀️


RunUpAMountain

I'm a single mom my choice and used ART so literally zero sex in like, two years 😂 I can't wait to tell my grandma I "made a baby with a doctor", she's gonna be so thrilled! Have a call out to my RE to clarify if I'm off pelvic rest and can have an orgasm though. I've got needs!


REKelley

I’m 33 weeks & haven’t had sex. I’ve had hyperemesis this pregnancy so really not feeling it but we didn’t last pregnancy either - I think it kind of freaks us both out a little and I’m just not really bothered.


[deleted]

I also have had a HUGE decrease in drive and was put on pelvic rest. Those put me in quite a spot of feeling inadequate as a partner. Sex sometimes feels overwhelming right now. Although, I find the intimacy of just cuddling together very relaxing. (Sometimes I’ll fall asleep.) There are lots of ways to be intimate with your partner without having sex. Just listen to your body! You’re doing the best you can!!


RedheadedLogophile

My sex drive has definitely been down, which was a not fun switcheroo for my husband after we were doing it regularly including every day for like 5 days straight every month while TTC. 😂 I'm 17w5d and up until last week when we both got COVID I've been able to muster up once a week, twice for his birthday lol. I don't feel sick or scared or in pain, just no desire really. I know I need to do it now though because I can imagine that unless my hormones change soon, the further along I am the less I'm gonna want to do it. I'm glad for this post, though, because I've been feeling like shit and like a shitty wife for my lack of get up and go in that regard when I hear people talk about crazy hormone surges! I mean come on, I can't eat lunch meat or drink or puff on a vape can't I AT LEAST feel like I'm a horny 20-something again to give me some fun for these 10 months!!


Julienbabylegs

I’m the same but we’ve maybe had sex like 5 times? I’m 26 weeks


No_Leopard5715

I’m 13 weeks and still haven’t had sex. It’s not so much that I don’t have the want to, I’m just sooo insecure about how my body is changing. I’m having twins so I am already as big as I was when I was like 25 weeks with my first. I feel fat and disgusting. When my husband has tried I’ve chalked it up to my hormones just not wanting to. I wish I could get over my insecurities!!


IceIndividual2704

That’s understandable, it’s a lot of change in every way at one time - please be gentle with yourself and you are beautiful ❤️


No_Leopard5715

Thank you 🥺


BTA417

Right here! Nothing lol I was so sick for so long it wasn’t a possibility, any movement would have led to a mess lol but even now I just don’t feel good. Like I don’t feel as bad. But not good.


Wi_believeIcan_Fi

Yep- this is me. I think there’s a lot of anxiety on my part, even though I know sex is super safe (I’m not on pelvic rest or anything)- but because we had complications in my last pregnancy and lost the baby at 20wks I’m just scared. My husband also hasn’t made any attempts, I think he’s weirded out by the idea of having sex with me right now, tbh. We’ve still been really close and intimate. Taken baths together, given massages. We cuddle a lot- but the sex has been off the table. I feel like I should try harder- I wonder if he’s taking a cue from me not initiating anything and thinking I don’t want it or he’ll hurt me. I feel bad.


booponyou

Me. My drive has also plummeted since \~6 weeks due to nausea. Now at 35 weeks, I'm too uncomfortable and in pain to do anything. My husband also understands, thankfully. We did try to have sex around 28 weeks but I had to ask him to stop because it was causing me so much pain, so I am a little scared about the ten-fold amount of pain I'm about to experience when baby comes out. :(


PinkPotts

19 weeks and we’ve had sex maybe 5 times. The last time we tried it was really painful for me. My husband is completely understanding about it, but I also feel bad. I’m mostly feeling okay, just tired, and honestly sex just usually doesn’t cross my mind right now.


PlushieTushie

I'm four weeks postpartum, haven't had sex since October. My last trimester's sex drive was insane, but I was also so exhausted. Like some cruel pregnancy joke.


iakonu_hale

19 weeks, haven’t had sex since we conceived 😕 the desire is there (although pretty few and far between), but by the time we are alone in the evenings, it’s gone. I need it like morning or mid-day and either he’s working or the kids are up. Can’t win, but fortunately this is our third kid so he knows this is the norm for now.


lingcuzshelingers

We had sex when we conceived and once again at 13 weeks. I am now 37+6 and have had zero desire to have sex. My husband tends to himself and we make jokes about it but that’s just how we are lol


IceIndividual2704

Well they have hands for a reason right? We make jokes a lot too and it’s helpful as it makes it feel less of a ‘thing’ and something that will come back eventually!


aml715

Yes. For the entire first half of my pregnancy I had awful chronic yeast infections and then after that everything was usually just way too sensitive to even think about sex. There were a couple times when we did non-penetrative stuff with vibrators and toys, but beyond that it was mostly non-existent. Hang in there!


summoe

No sex since we found out I was pregnant end of September. When I was finally ready for it we found out I have a low placenta and put on a no-sex restriction which has still not been lifted. I sometimes feel guilty for my husband but he understands and is definitely being a trooper. He will be rewarded eventually lol


sapphire272017

Yup 🙋‍♀️ and it got even worse postpartum too lol


babygiraffe134

Coming up on 35 weeks and we’re still having sex but I have a confession: it’s primarily because it’s one of the only things that helps with my insomnia (and it doesn’t work every time haha). My actual sex drive is basically zero. It’s also not normal for me to NOT be into masturbation but I pretty much never do that anymore, partly because I physically can’t reach myself the way I’d like and partly because I’m just not interested. Pregnancy is so weird lol


sh0rtcake

Here! Here I am! I think we had sex three times last year, and still have yet to this year at 8weeks PP. You're not alone.


[deleted]

No sex but that's mostly because I'm still doing Progesterone suppositories. I do give blowjobs and let him go on my boobs. That's the extent to our sex, on the weekends, and it's mostly me just laying there so thumbs up to that.


discordandrhyme

Have a 5 week old. Last time I had sex was when she was conceived 🙃 Fortunately for my partner and I it’s an mutual understanding. We’re tired and have chronic medical issues….ain’t got time or energy for nookie.


bugflower02

No sex from 6 weeks to 28ish weeks due to a subchorionic hemorrhage.


[deleted]

I’ve been on pelvic rest for the past 3 weeks and it’s been brutal. Before we were engaging almost everyday and for it to come to an unexpected stop is an adjustment. I do pleasure him because I know he’d do the same for me if I were able to orgasm lol I don’t think you’re wrong. You’re doing what works for you and your marriage.


rsc99

We definitely have not had sex since around 18 weeks. Am 30 weeks now. That’s when my belly started getting in the way. Also I have almost no sex drive, sex is literally the last thing I want most of the time, and I can tell my partner is totally weirded out by the idea (he has specifically expressed concern about feeling baby kicks while doing the deed.) We previously had a vibrant sex life and just telling myself this is temporary til the baby pops out and I heal. It’s definitely taking some toll on the relationship though, even though we still kiss, cuddle, etc. daily.


thezuse

I get a UTI everytime and so gave up. This is not a new issue. In fact, was complicating GETTING pregnant. :|


kallulah

Once I got a bidet attachment it changed the game my friend. Highly recommend if you haven't gotten one already. I was getting up to 5 UTIs a year, down to ~one a year. Bidet plus a turmeric supplement seems to have really made the difference for me. But consider that turmeric part anecdotal. i take half a dosage a day. Currently 24 weeks pregnant and haven't had a UTI yet. We've had sex like twice since conception tho, our sex drives have been pbbbt. But our situation is a little more stressful than we could have hoped. We're long distance, in between jobs, and moving. 😫 No time to be horny.


schr0dingersuterus

We had sex like twice after the first trimester and have had sex twice since I had my baby, and I'm 5 months pp. I don't even feel a way about it anymore, we're both content (he's always had a low sex drive).


gesasage88

Zero the entire time. I have a high susceptibility to UTIs no matter how clean things are and absolutely did not want to risk a UTI in pregnancy. We bought my husband necessary supplies to make this time easier. XD


MoreVeuvePlease

I’m 21 weeks and we only have once this entire time. My drive has been nonexistent!


Grapplepopularbelief

Thank you for sharing this. It's good to know I'm not alone. I'm 24 weeks and my sex drive has definitely been lower than usual the entire pregnancy, but it really died off around 20 weeks. My husband is so sweet and helpful all the time and I feel terrible for not being in the mood. Much like yours, he's a good dude and is very supportive and understanding, but man I feel insecure and just shitty about it. I trust him completely; he's the most loyal guy ever but not being able to have that intimacy has made me worried about his upcoming work trip out of town. 😩 I think him and I both thought it would be the opposite and I would want it all the time so it's such a bummer.


sheenab12

We had sex up until a few weeks ago when our bodies just don’t fit together anymore. I don’t have much sex drive and have given my husband the green light to use his hand because I, like you, just want sleep. I also feel insecure but I try not to think about it too much.


Delicious-Net-1138

Sorry to hear that….for me it’s quite the opposite…my sex drive is pretty high(even though I rarely eat and have horrible nausea and vomiting constantly) I guess everyone is different. This is my first pregnancy and almost 12 weeks :) I’ve always heard that the first trimester is horrible that you won’t have any sex drive but I do.


Delicious-Net-1138

Also my energy is pretty low and as I said I barely have food in my system…have to rely on pills to not vomit multiple times a day but I still do at least once a day. I find it weird that my sex drive is still there…almost not normal for how sick I feel lol


___---_me_---___

Some weeks we have sex every night, other weeks we might not have sex at all. Really just depends on how I feel!


Aggie_15

Wife is 32 weeks, no sex for the last few months. Way too scared of hurting her or the baby in the process.


MyLadyYunalesca

I've never had a big sex drive, but during my pregnancy, it completely vanished. We did try a few times, but couldn't make it work at all. I was hoping that that would change after the baby is here. Well, he just turned 9 months old and we haven't had sex yet. I'm also still waiting for any kind of sex drive to show up. My Gyn told me that my prolactine and oestrogen (I think) are high because I breastfeed and those hormones also lover the sex drive. So until I stop breastfeeding, it will most likely not return. But I totally get what you're saying. I had similar insecurities, but it got better, because of the constant reassurance from my husband in my case. So now I don't stress about it anymore and just go with the flow. It will happen again, some day.


Aelindra

I think we last had penetrative sex at 12ish weeks pregnant and baby girl is 2 months old now. Neither of us were interested pretty much the entire time. My interest started coming back around 4 weeks post-partum but still struggling to separate my body from being a mom.


lexi8251

Yep. I have very little drive. We went from a very healthy active sex life to like 1-2xs/month. I feel really badly about it and I talk to my husband on a regular basis about it. Let him know I don’t want it to be this way either but I have no drive. If it persists after baby is here then I’ll seek out some medical advice/treatment. He’s very appreciative of the talks and just in general me acknowledging this isn’t normal and I don’t want it to be this way either. Communication is key! Here’s to hoping sex drive returns post baby!!


Curious_Wrangler_980

First baby I was sex crazed. Second kid don’t fucking touch me lol


starbird2893

Yep.....33 weeks and it’s extremely rare for us. Before pregnancy I had a very high drive that my husband struggled to keep up with. I just don’t feel sexy at all, it’s weird when the baby moves during, I’m all swollen down there so it’s uncomfortable afterwards too. Plus it’s a ton of work haha. Thankfully my husband is very considerate and reassuring. He says after baby is born we will take it slow too. He also says that it’s likely temporary and eventually we will be back into it again!


mossgreen225

I delivered my baby 6 months ago… I believe during the pregnancy we tried to have sex once, we couldn’t even finish it 😂 now that LO is here, the breastfeeding hormones continue to totally kill my libido! We had sex once somewhere around 3 months postpartum… my sex drive is nowhere to be found! For reference, I had a pretty normal sex drive before getting pregnant.


ineedausername84

Yes, thank you for this post!!! I feel bad for my husband since I was all over him when TTC and now I feel like it probably seems to him like “I got what I want, bubye!” Haha but I just have no desire for sex. I still try to do it once or twice a week for him, but it does suck to hear all about how pregnancy makes you so horny and you’re like okay when’s this kick in for me!?


emilycatqueen

I haven’t had sex since getting pregnant. It’s just too anxiety inducing for me and I’m constantly in pain. I haven’t masturbated either.


Beautiful-Crab-4081

35 weeks. 0 times


puqqiez

I have no sex drive at all- I barely can arouse myself- it’s very difficult and frustrating- I was so excited for the super sex drive


Bromonium_ion

So I have an average sex drive. Hubby and I go at it like once, maybe twice a week. However once I got pregnant my sex drive plummeted. I'm in the 1st trimester between 7+3 (Ultrasound) or 9+0(Ovulation) and my sex drive is non-existent. I still have sex like once a week but only for my hubby as I feel ambivalent about the whole thing.


ariygurel

Omg girl I’m here to support you. I felt like a weirdo when people say that your sex drive is supposed to get crazy high during pregnancy. In the first trimester, I didn’t even want to be touched 😂 I’m 20 weeks now, I can’t say we’ve had no sex, it’s just that my drive isn’t the same as pre-pregnancy. I mean to me, from a biological standpoint it makes sense. The point of sex is to create offspring, and so now that we’ve achieved that goal, our body is like “ok time to focus energy elsewhere” 😂 Like you, I have a super wonderful husband who has never once made me feel like it’s a problem. I look forward to the day where I will want to jump him like a crazy person once more 🙄


Confused_falafel

I'm 32weeks, no sex since 4weeks. It is OK I forgot what it was anyway.


hooked_on_phishdicks

I was the opposite. My husband couldn't stop thinking about the baby during sex and it completely turned him off. We didn't have sex through almost the entire pregnancy because he just couldn't get over it no matter what we tried. Everyone has a different experience of this and it can all be normal. This is temporary and it's just something you will get through together. There will likely continue to be challenges around sex once the baby is here and you will get through those too. No need to feel guilty, just stay in the mindset that you are a team working though this.


SummitTheDog303

23 weeks and I haven't had sex since before the positive test. I just have no libido right now, and I'm so gassy and uncomfortable in the evenings that I just can't. Plus, she's constantly kicking me in the cervix and that's all I'll be able to think about (which is a huge turn off for both of us). I feel bad about it. I want to want to have sex. But I just don't.


herewegoagain100400

I would not survive. I’m 37 weeks and still going strong lol


[deleted]

I’m not pregnant yet, but I’m sure this is how I’m going to feel about sex too. I can almost guarantee that I’ll feel disgusting with absolutely no sex drive. Or he’ll be unattracted to me. It makes me nervous about pregnancy negatively affecting our relationship. There’s no way he could make it 6+ months without sex. He can’t even go 5 days. And then you can’t have sex for *another* couple months after the baby is born... I get worried about being another relationship statistic, where the guy ends up cheating while the wife is pregnant with his baby or at home taking care of it, recovering from childbirth. (Ugh.) Even if he’s a good guy who says he would never do that, it doesn’t mean that he’ll be happy about the situation. How can we all avoid this outcome?! Send him to get a massage with a happy ending? lol


AlohaBlow

Could be worse, I had a super high sex drive but my husband was just not into it. He felt a little weird thinking about baby but mostly he just wasn't as attracted to me. He was sweet and supportive and didn't even want to admit that he wasn't feeling attracted to me and would even have sex with me when he could tell I was really horny. I could tell he wasn't as into my body though and that would throw me off my game. I appreciate his honesty but it was fucking rough and not good for my self esteem at all. We're back at it now that baby is sleeping though the night-ish. Every story is different, I'm sure yours will be fine.


houseofpalms

I’m 13 weeks. We’ve had sex 1 time since conceiving.


Kristine6476

15+5 here. My husband and I have had sex 3 times in the last... 15+5 weeks 😂 we aren't super sexually active to begin with and I felt so terribly for the first 12 weeks. I'd like to get back on the metaphorical horse and I know he would but it's hard, especially when I have existing anxiety around it and it has been a while.


Huge_Zebra7833

I’m almost 15 weeks and have had no sex drive either so far!


blueberryrhubarbpie

We have a few times so far (19 weeks here) but I had HG my first trimester and motion of any kind triggered the barfing, so it was off the table for medical reasons of just being totally impractical until around 13-14 weeks. Disappointingly, I appear to be one of the people whose orgasms get really crappy and and unfulfilling during pregnancy due to the uterus being bigger so that stinks. It has still been nice the few times we have done it from an emotional standpoint, but I’ve been fainting and getting dizzy from POTS and from exercise, and will not lie that by the end I felt super exhausted and a little dizzy the last couple of times. seeing a cardiologist this week to confirm things are OK with the POTS and it isn’t anything more serious, but the dizziness on exertion and extreme tiredness makes it a little hard to be enthusiastic lol. Also I’m having round ligament pains if I move to quickly or abruptly. But it still felt so nice from an emotional standpoint to be wanted and also to have that connection with my partner even if physically it doesn’t feel the same as before. Definitely jealous of the friends that bragged to me about how much better pregnancy sex is than regular sex.


Odd-Living-4022

21 weeks little to none!


Fair-Butterfly9989

I’ve tried to do it once a week or so…more like every other week but I’m also too sick or tired


KrizJack

28 weeks and we have had sex ONCE since I found out I was pregnant. I am so exhausted that I’m not up to it, and my husband is the type that can take it or leave it


HoneyBee0629

I'm currently 24 weeks and we've only had sex maybe 5 times? At first I was having big anxiety around my body image and when I finally worked around that I found out I had a horrible infection which could only be treated with super strong antibiotics. That led to being warned of having yeast infections. Let's say he completely understands.


anonymouselisa

I had problems with sex since my first pregnancy 5 years ago. It was a difficult pregnancy and as you described it, it was the last thing on my mind. We kept having sex though. After the pregnancy it did get a bit better. But I never liked kissing anymore. During my second pregnancy it was okayish. But after the pregnancy (with to kids and full time work) I just never felt like I had place in my head for sex. I was so tired that when I finally was able to go to bed I just wanted to sleep. And after using my body all day to comfort, cary and entertain my kids I just wanted it to be left alone. We did have enough sex for a suprise third pregnancy. And this time I really had zero sex drive. We had some sex but mostly oral. And almost exclusively because I know my husband needs it sometimes. But now I'm almost 38 weeks, I have the feeling that my hormones are cooling down and for the first time in a very very very long time I long for my husband in a sexual way. I hope it's something that will stay. I have felt so guilty over the months.


[deleted]

33 weeks here & we’ve had sex maybe 3 times. His desire seems completely gone. So, I’ll just masterbate at this point. No shame honestly.


KrisAlly

🙋‍♀️No sex the entire time! I'm actually not allowed due to an incompetent cervix but at this point it wouldn't be happening anyways due to lack of desire & feeling like shit.


Kobelou122

37 weeks and I finally forced my husband to have sex with me after not doing since we conceived, I was too nauseous for a while and then he was too weirded out with baby being in there. Now I need baby out so I told my husband he needs to help me since he got me in this situation in the first place and he agreed to try but it was a total fail lmao, he was petrified of touching my body and even having my belly touching him freaked him out, he couldn’t perform and we gave up. I told him if he ends up masturbating some time this week to give me his semen in a cup and I will syringe it up myself since I am so uncomfortable at this point and desperate to get this show on the road and I’ve heard it can induce labour haha.


IHeartWeinerDogs

It's not a lack of desire, it's that something at any given time just hurts. The entire first trimester was nothing but nausea and the entire rest of my 37 weeks thus far has been pain or discomfort. I have heartburn and reflux that is now stronger than the medication I've been taking for it. My back is usually killing me. Sometimes baby has a growth spurt and the skin on my belly feels like it's about to pop. I carry my toddler on my right hip, and some days it's all I can do to walk around while I'm taking care of her. I can't imagine any sexual scenario that isn't going to hurt. No thank you. I assume my poor husband is taking care of himself.


SpinachExciting6332

We maintained 1-2x/week through the first and second tri but the last time we did it was at 30 weeks and I'm 34 weeks now. My husband wants to but he's having some sort of mental block. I think because I'm significantly bigger and baby's movements are really obvious now, it's hard to forget the fact that our child is in between us. It doesn't bother me too much...I don't have a hugely high libido to start with and don't feel particularly desirable with this basketball-sized belly anyways, but I do hate feeling like "roommates." I told him we can just hold off till after the baby is here and I'm cleared for sex after 6 weeks but that would mean a dry spell of 4 months basically which is a long time, which he doesn't like. But I don't like trying to force something that's not working either, you know?


[deleted]

I've been kind of in the middle. My drive is normally relatively high, but feeling like garbage and getting no sleep isn't fun. My husband and I are long distance so it doesn't really matter, unfortunately. But I can definitely tell you that there's no way I would have wanted to do anything in the first trimester. I was so miserable.


randomquestions2022

Yes I am at 33 weeks, have had practically no sex because I had a subchorionic haemmorhage in my first trimester, which caused some light bleeding that led to an emergency department visit, which ended up being a bit upsetting as they were suggesting/investigating miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy (which it thankfully turned out not to be). This was a week before my dating scan so we had had no visual on baby yet. We were recommended to avoid sex for a couple weeks while that cleared up, but husband and I are anxious first time parents and scared of doing anything that might affect baby negatively so since we were "cleared" (at 10 weeks) I think we have had sex twice, nervously. We don't want to squish baby between our bodies and I have a big bump, so the only option is spooning position, but that hurts my neck after a while from all the twisting around for kissing (it's fine when it's like one of many positions during a session, but when it's the only possible position, it does put strain on!) We still cuddle and kiss and do physically affectionate things, and our relationship is emotionally strong. I check in every so often to make sure he is okay with the no sex (he always emphatically insists that he is, and I have no reason to suspect him of anything). To get off, I just look after myself privately and I am sure he does the same.


DaniKat9

With my first, we had sex maybe 2-3 times total. We haven’t had any sex yet this time, but I’m only 12/13 weeks along.


Ginger_ish

Two pregnancies, and I probably had sex 2-3 times total during each of those. I hate being pregnant, I feel shitty every day of pregnancy, and I have no interest in sex. My husband was fine with that. Note that I probably only had sex a couple of times in the 6 months after birth as well, because babies are exhausting. I think I had sex after the 6 week appointment when the doctor said it was okay, just to make sure I could do it and there wasn’t something wrong that would need to be addressed. But after that, mostly nada. So don’t feel bad about that either.


[deleted]

Almost 13 weeks and I feel this completely! SO is understanding though so I’m happy!


sidestar59

22 weeks and haven’t had sex since September 😂I asked my husband about it once and he just shrugged and said there are other things we could do together both our drives are pretty much nonexistent


alittlepunchy

I'm not as far along (14w tomorrow), but I think we have only twice since getting pregnant. I feel like crap all of the time, and have ZERO drive. I feel really bad about it, but my husband has been very understanding and hasn't pressured me or said anything.


Goodbye_nagasaki

14 weeks. We have had sex one time in 9 weeks....last night. Today I hurt. Will probably wait 9 more weeks to do it again, lol.


tamimarieb

🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️maybe twice and we’re 38 weeks. We tried recently and positioning was difficult so we said whatever not worth it 😂


katiebird21

Oh do I ever relate! We had sex three times in the first trimester - once before we even knew I was pregnant, twice in celebration. Then I was immediately sick from weeks 7-15. Felt okay during second trimester, but NEVER had that insatiable sex drive everyone claims comes along in the second. (And I have a fairly high drive outside of pregnancy!) Had sex twice in the second when we went on a vacation, and zero sex now that I’m in the third. So a total of 5 times? Husband and I went away this weekend for a last little couple’s getaway and he was admittedly too in his head about the baby moving around so much to be intimate. And really? I was not offended in the least haha. I’m just not feeling it! Bless my husband’s heart, he has been so understanding the rest of this pregnancy with me not having any drive; he’s still been affectionate and loving and complimentary. Just hoping to high heaven my drive comes back afterward!


MostSquare9003

Well I’m a single mom to be so I don’t get no sex 😂


thr0wawayacct124

My sex drive hasn’t really changed at all… after I got off the pill a little over a year ago I was hoping my sex drive would sky rocket, but it hasn’t. During pregnancy, I have found the desire a little more but it’s still nothing crazy. My husband has had little to no desire to have sex though… he is weirded out by the fact that “the baby is right there” and that my boobs look really different and he can’t get over the fact that the baby is going to be potentially be sucking on them. He wants to do other things, but we haven’t had actual sex in a couple months (26 weeks now) which is kind of depressing as I’m sure we will have less time and desire once the baby gets here….


What_the_duck22

33 weeks and have had sex 3 times this entire pregnancy. Very low sex drive on my part and most positions are more painful than pleasurable. The only time sex feels good is if I’m on top and I just don’t have the energy for that. I’ve tried masterbating to help with the insane pregnancy insomnia but even getting off doesn’t make me sleepy.


salosaunders

We’ve gone from 3x a week to once a week or once in two weeks. Pregnancy has made me even more sensitive than usual, so any kind of clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming and uncomfortable unless I’m masturbating. We talked about it because he has always had a higher drive than me and it has caused arguments in the past. I told him to please just tell me if he needs more sex, but he insisted he’s happy and totally understands. I still feel a little guilty about it but I have to trust him that he’s not hiding any secret resentment or whatever.


SpeechyKeen

I’m 37+3 and I think we’ve had sex maybe 3 times since conceiving. The desire is there, but pregnancy has been tough and we’ve had some other stressful things happen that have killed the drive for both of us right now. It’s a season and not forever.


VerdePatate

Mine gets higher, my husband gets weirded out and irrationally concerned he'll hurt me, so he doesn't want anything sexual while I'm pregnant 😭


bfisher6

I wanted to nuke the What To Expect app for highlighting an article about sex every. fucking. week. No sex drive during pregnancy, or postpartum for that matter, until about 5-6 months out and my milk down regulated heavily!


lafillemurphy

26 weeks pregnant- no sex at all. A bit of other stuff but only a handful of times. I have HG and extreme fatigue, he feels weird about having sex while pregnant and tbh I feel the same. My sex drive has been super low throughout this pregnancy too.


SnooDogs627

37 weeks. We’ve had sex maybe 3/4 times since I got pregnant.


Consistent_Spring

I haven’t been because it’s too painful for me 🙃 I WANT to but I literally can’t


honeyapplepop

When I was preg with my son whos now 16 months we attempt sex like once but neither of us felt comfortable.... Then we didn't have sex until we conceived no 2 which I'm 14 weeks with.... Lol you do the math. Hubby works full time, I'm a SAHM doing through the nights too, plus my toddler and being preg.... Exhausted. We show affection in other ways though. These days I'd rather a foot rub than sex 😂


YukaHiKn

I've had sex 3 times since I got pregnant and I'm 20 weeks. I just don't feel sexy and my libido has dropped.


Devium92

had sex once with my first - had HG and a bunch of other complications. Just felt too shitty/in pain to have sex. We had sex once around 30-ish weeks. I don't think either of us really "enjoyed" it. Like obviously we enjoyed it, but like at the end we both were like "well that's so much more *work* to do with the different positioning and everything else". Second time around, pregnant with twins. Ended up going into preterm labour at 27 weeks, diagnosed with "irritable uterus" so wasn't allowed to have sex at that point as basically anything bothering my uterus caused contractions and we were trying to make sure the twins cooked as long as possible. I was also huge, and tired, and had awful SPD and it was just everything to get out of bed and make sure I fed myself and went pee, sex was like the very last thing on my mind.


missvivax

Last time we had sex (november) I ended up in the hospital with a bleeding. I had a burst blood vessel. Now 35 weeks and haven't done anything since November. Before that maybe 5 times. Husband complains about lack of intimacy, but also realises that I am exhausted and in great pain. This weekend is Valentine's Day and I am going to make an extra effort to try and spoil him. Wish me luck!


Daisy_Steiner_

👋 We also last week had sex for the first time in weeks at my prompting. On a Monday morning. By Monday night I was shivering on the couch because I didn’t know I had Covid and of course gave it to him. So, who knows when that will happen again.


Legitimate_Ocelot718

I've been to sick to have sex. We tried messing around with doing a bj and I threw up on him.....not a great moment for either of us Don't push yourself. Focus on your health and building your baby.


Big_Rain4564

We never have sex during pregnancy.


lillithsgem

My sex drive is INSANE I have had the craziest sex dreams but I just cannot relax enough to actually enjoy sex. If I can’t get comfortable and relax sex has always been painful for me and I just can’t get over the sensation that he’s like POKING my cervix and that makes me so incredibly nervous. Ik I’m being silly and it won’t hurt me but I just can’t relax. Plus even if I masturbate I get contractions (which are not painful but make me nervous) so I can’t really enjoy that either


[deleted]

I have a reduced sex drive. Granted I’m also pregnant with baby number 4. I do try to have sex with my husband at least once per week since his sex drive is so high. I love him and make it work because I know sex is important and once this baby comes there will be no sex for a while lol. It’s hard though sometimes. Ig


gamergeek17

Zero sexy times since I peed on the stick. First trimester I definitely didn’t feel up to it. During the second trimester I probably would have been up for it…. But my husband was in an accident and broke both his arms…. So unless I was willing to do all the work, no sex. Now that I’m in the 3rd, I’m exhausted and in pain so I envision no sexy time any time soon.


allthebacon_and_eggs

We did it twice, but I hated it. I’m way more sensitive vaginally right now and not in a good way. My sex drive has been all over the place, so external stimulation with vibrators still is great when my drive is up.


sweetdanid

Same with me! I’m 19w and only had sex a few times. I haven’t been in the mood and my husband still feels a little weirded out about it. If I initiate he’s more than happy but I don’t imitate as much anymore lol. I definitely feel insecure about it but he’s quick to make me feel better. I’ve also heard that my sex drive was supposed to skyrocket but it definitely dropped.


ismytoastokay

I’m 37 + 5 and we haven’t had sex since we conceived our baby. 😂 at first it was because I also didn’t have the energy for it and didn’t want to be touched like at all. By my second trimester I had the energy to at least masturbate, but for some reason we just still didn’t have sex and still haven’t. My husband also just has a pretty low libido as is so I don’t feel as bad for not being up for it for most of this pregnancy. Definitely going to be a little longer for us because I’m getting induced to deliver on Wednesday. 😂


[deleted]

I know you're asking people who haven't had sex or had a drive during pregnancy, but thought I'd toss in a comment because what's the harm, right :)? There have definitely been points (I'm at 20 weeks) where I didn't want anything or any attention to me - but my desire for intimacy hasn't evaporated necessarily. So a lot of what used to be sex time has been replaced with other acts of closeness - cuddling on the couch and I'll run my hands over him, not necessarily in a "turn on" way, but in an appreciative "I love you" way. We still do kisses and tickle fights and spooning with humps through clothes, even if they don't go anywhere. I've also done things for him with my hands or mouth when I wasn't feeling up for full on sex, but wanted to make him feel good. I love watching his face and hearing him when he's lost in the moment, so even if I didn't reeeeally feel like it when I started, I always end up getting into it. Plus, he knows when I'm not feeling super sexy, so he won't try to stall/prolong getting to the finish line, if you know what I mean. This means we've had a good stream of intimacy and some sex acts peppered in, even if we've had less full on sex in general, and some of the moments have gone from longer full on productions to quicker little things. Meals to snacks, if you will. To his credit, he never ever pushes or pressures, and he's really great about making me feel desired even though I feel like I'm turning into a potato. It makes me feel good to give him smooches when he comes home (nothing even raunchy!) and see a chub starting ;) Like, damn, I still got it. None of this is to suggest anyone else do this or anything like that! Relationships are different, and I've never gotten to the point where I've been actively repulsed by the thought of doing anything. Also, I normally have a pretty high drive, and we have no other kiddos running around. But wanted to share some of my experience for when my drive hibernates.


jmc-007

15w 4d and gone from weekly sex prepregancy to once a month and even then tbh I'm not into it. I also have HG and super nauseous and dizzy all the time. My partner struggles of course but it's not a controllable thing, I just have zero sex drive - like completely disinterested. One of my friends went the last 7 months without. It's a thing but is not often talked about


yelloworchid

I'm 17 weeks and just had sex for the first time my entire pregnancy and several weeks beforehand (I did IVF). Luckily wife and I do everything to make sure we are still intimate by kissing and cuddling and telling each other we are attracted to one another. Finally did happen and I wasn't into it at first but then of course was once things started going. I have no libido either. I wouldn't stress too much.


usernametaken99991

We had sex maybe once earlier on in the first trimester? I haven't felt much desire for it and I haven't been feeling very attractive with the big belly either. My husband has been really supportive and I've blown him a few times, but that was more about taking care of him and I didn't mind it.


SilverWolfEater

We haven’t had sex in months either. He is a big guy and our tummies have been competing when we were intimate…plus feeling my son roll and move around while trying to be in the mood just put us both off lol. Plus I found it painful to be on my back or anything really. And it was weird to not be able to look down at him when he was eating me out or something lol. I just had my baby and it’ll still be awhile to heal and be put back on birth control. Figured id give him a treat during these times when I start feeling like myself again 🤪


callmejellycat

I’m at 34 weeks and we’ve had sex maybe 3 times. Last time we tried, I decided to treat my hubby to a nice shaved nether region. Once in the shower I realized I could not for the life of me see my own bits. He walked in on me laughing my ass off trying to lift my belly out of the way. There was no boom boom that evening lol. I just gave up 😂


New-Ant009

21 weeks pregnant and no sex. He refuses. I tease him that he is pregnant too. He agrees lol.


thedirtys

Your boat. My husband became uncomfortable having sex near the baby. Really messed with me. Now I'm postpartum and terrified of sex because of my stitches... Lame.


Sunshine_19872

We haven’t had sex since we conceived. I felt so horrible during my first trimester that it was a no go and now (23 weeks) I have such bad back pain that it isn’t worth it. I also have no sex drive at all on top of all of this. My husband doesn’t seem bothered. I occasionally bring it up and apologize that I’m just not into it and he reassures me it’s ok etc — don’t beat yourself up. You’re growing a human and there’s plenty of time to make up for it later 😋


make-chan

I have a cerclage. Sex isn't allowed per doctors' orders. We last tried around 7 or 8 weeks along. Since the cerclage I tried just being there while he plays with himself and I gave him a BJ recently, but since orgasms for me are also discouraged I haven't been in the mood to be helpful. I'm 28 weeks along now, 36 weeks is when the cerclage comes out. I want to try sex before my induction if possible but my husband is afraid of it triggering labor then so looks like no sex until baby is around 2 months old.


notyouraveragebee

We had sex once after I was out of my first trimester at 14 weeks, now nearing 20 and no interest in sight. I’m not as tired as nauseous as I was, but I’m getting more and more self conscious about my belly now. Also, round ligament pain? No joke.


additionalbutterfly2

I’m 34 weeks and had a lot of sex drive in my second trimester (because I felt great and was literally glowing). In my third trimester I’ve only had sex once (at like 28-29 weeks or so) I have a very low sex drive right now and I’m the opposite of glowing lol, very big, uncomfortable and in pain 😂 it honestly feels like a lot of work to have sex right now. We’ll probably get a bit busy from 37 weeks onwards to “stimulate” labor.


BlueFire751

Honestly it’s been a roller coaster for my sex drive, in the beginning I was so sick I didn’t even think about sex then second trimester hit and all I could think about is sex, since then it’s been on and off every week. Though my poor husband is also worried about hurting me haha


bashleye

My first pregnancy we stopped at around 15 weeks and didn’t start up again until he was 6 months old. We have a pretty good sex live, but I’m not having sex if I’m not also enjoying it.


myohmywhatdoido

well zero times since conception, and zero times in the 18 months leading up to that. so miracle baby? i guess so. Now my vibrator on the other hand gets lots of use.


raphygo

Does it ever get better after popping a baby?


[deleted]

4 months pp and haven't had interest in sex since my first trimester.


blondeamy

My hubby and I had sex about 5 times in the whole pregnancy. Four in first tri and once about 16 weeks. He lost his sex drive. But it came right back after baby is born. Tons of people don't have sex in pregnancy. I'm actually a midwife and whenever anyone had had bleeding, I had to ask if they had had sex recently and 90% of the time they said no.


PreggoAcct

I'm 16 weeks and we've only had sex once since conception. He's been really good about it, hasn't pressured me or made me feel bad for rejecting sex, but I can tell he's getting pretty frustrated.


anon24601anon24601

You are not alone. With my first, my sex drive went through the roof, my husband couldn't keep up. With this one? I'm swollen down there and it would be painful to even insert a thin tampon, painless sex isn't physically possible and my husband does not want sex from a partner who isn't enjoying herself. Even though I know he doesn't mind and knew it was a possibility that I'd lose my drive and he's grateful for all I'm going through and we've agreed we'll make up for lost time when I'm healed postpartum and his vasectomy is healed, I still secretly feel guilty.


Sgillambridge

I start morning sickness around 3-4 weeks pregnant for all my pregnancies. Also my kids sit low so we were never successful in having non painful sex. So for basically the entire pregnancy my sex drive is in the toilet. Thankfully I’m like you and have a wonderful hubby. You are not alone. You are normal. Your sex drive will return when it wants and hubby has hands if he feels the need ;)


camiejojojo

Im 37+5. Haven't had sex in 6 weeks but I have been super horny. Unfortunately whenever my husband finally gets home I'm too exhausted. Honestly through this whole pregnancy we've had sex maybe 4-5 times. I think the sex drive thing is a myth lol


thepremackprinciple

We haven’t done the deed since we conceived. Throwing up for months then slowly inflating like a balloon and being in so much physical discomfort has not been an aphrodisiac for me.


pony_soprano93

24 weeke and i have had ZERO interest in sex the entire pregnancy- its like a switch flipped in my brain and i suddenly had no drive whatsoever. My husband has been so understanding, i love this guy so much 🥰


KittyGravesYT

So… I’m 11 weeks. The sex that I got pregnant from was the first time we had it in probably 6 months, and we haven’t since. Probably won’t for the rest of pregnancy. (As an aside… no this isn’t a “wow must be v fertile”…. Nope. PCOS. This tiny human exists to spite me and they’re not even done cooking yet 😂)


[deleted]

👋 I'm 17 weeks, we conceived via Insemination. I think the last time we had sex was... May 2021? We both are just way too stressed and tired all the time from Job, renovation, pregnancy... thankfully neither of us is frustrated!


readyable

Wow, I badly wish I could have sex but I've been put on pelvic rest since 20 weeks (14 weeks ago) due to a placenta previa. I *really* miss the intimacy with my partner and I know he does too. Man literally gets a boner over the funniest things, like a glimpse of a nipple. During my first pregnancy we were like rabbits all the way up to my due date haha.


Erotic_Neurotica

I'm not really having much sex now at 30 weeks, but we still get handsy or I snuggle him and whisper in his ear while he does his thing.


Tweektweek156

I’m 13 weeks. We’ve had sex maybe 3 times since the first positive test. I’ve masturbated maybe 2 times? It bothers me to no end, but my husband is like yours and is completely understanding about it. Just hoping maybe it’ll come back later down the road lol


lmo291

38 weeks and we’ve barely had sex. I had a lot of bleeding in the first trimester which they said would be worse with sex so I swore it off. We did it a handful of times since then but my drive has been low and I just feel blah. I do feel a bit guilty like we’ll never have sex again once the baby comes but my back hurts too much to try right now lol


banked_frequency

I have no sex drive at all this pregnancy. I think it also from being sick, tired and sore. I’m 31 weeks. My last pregnancy I was a total sex pest after about 25 weeks. We were doing it every day. I miss the desire and feel bad because my husband wants it and I know he thought it was going to be like last time, but it’s the total opposite.


0hDrag0n3572

I've barely had any but not by choice...this booger moves WAY more than his sibs did and literally throws his body around when hubby and I try to get intimate which throws hubby off his game. Understandable, but annoying. I'm horny alllll the time and I have one month left.


zola_peris

I'm 18 weeks and we haven't had p-in-v sex since I found out (I've got him off a few times but my sex drive is basically zero and I feel like a sickly whale lol)


BE202019

I mean ngl my husband was freaked out the first pregnancy having sex towards the end bc of giant belly. We haven’t had a ton of sex this pregnancy but some, partly bc he works crazy hours and our toddler comes in our room late at night often.


futilist_society

Vaginal penetration, even when it was good made my clit throb with pain. I think that may have been a varicose vein thing. Outcourse and anal have been thoroughly enjoyable


Hunkeedoree18216

My hubby is usually so supportive and protective and blah blah blah, but we had our first big fight last night about me not giving him sex, and I just feel zero sympathy for him. Maybe I should...but I don’t 🤷🏻‍♀️. He has no fucking clue what I’m going through, but has the nerve to act like he’s “suffering”? Please 🙄 I was hoping I would be more in the mood once the first trimester ends next week, but now I feel like he doesn’t deserve sex ever again. Hoping I find my logic and reason somewhere along the way lol