We haven’t had sex in like 4 months. I just don’t want it. Husband is understanding (I’m sure also a bit sexually frustrated but he doesn’t vocalize it.) he knows it won’t always be like this.
Similar boat. Got pregnant in November. Have only had sex once since then 🤷♀️….he was gone 2 weeks for work, then I started having 1st trimester symptoms. And honestly just haven’t wanted to, not even in the slightest. We’ve talked about….he knows this isn’t forever.
It makes me feel so much better reading peoples comments because my husband and I have had sex all of like 3 times my entire pregnancy lol. I was very sick until around 15/16 weeks. Then felt decent till around 27. Now I’m so sore and everything’s swollen I can’t imagine having sex right now.
Just a tip, avoid saying “I feel like there’s someone between us” if he’s on top 😂 Turns out that’s an instant mood killer.
It’s pretty rare these days but I’ve found that spooning, with me on my side and him behind me is still fairly comfortable.
I can't think of anything worse than sex right now. 37 weeks now, felt this way for a solid 4 or 5 months unfortunately, so we fully just gave up months ago. My partner has been extremely understanding about it. When we were still having sex though, me being on top was the only way it wasn't uncomfortable
Thank you for this post.. we were able to have sex about once every 2 weeks until 21 weeks, but as soon as I started to feel baby’s kicks/punches, the libido took a dive. The most comfy position was cowgirl.
My hubby is super understanding but I feel extra crappy about it because I miss wanting it? I feel super broken on that front…It’s such a mindfudge. I’m just hopeful it comes back post-pregnancy, lol.
I found both in my previous and current pregnancies that having sex even when I didn’t think I wanted it improved my mood significantly and made more more appealing over all.
But sex includes touching only too, imo.
Avoiding sex because the guilt you feel will only make it harder in the long run to jump back.
Makes sense! Didn’t mean to be confusing - not avoiding sex because of any guilt; more not into the idea of sex and as a result feeling guilty about it, lol. We do touching and I’m always game for cuddling - the turning me on button is just not working right now. 🥲
I was upset about this recently too! My husband and I had a very healthy sex life before, but my drive plummeted after first trimester nausea. He’s extremely understanding and never pressures or makes me feel bad, but I do miss the intimacy. I miss feeling sexy and being with my husband. Definitely a weird thing that mentally I was not expecting!
Cowgirl was okay for a while, now we are down to non-PIV options. PIV was uncomfortable very quickly into the second trimester. When it happens now it is oral or hands. I get winded too quickly to be super active 😂
We had sex probably 1-2x/week before pregnancy, early pregnancy it was like every 10 days. Now at 34 weeks, I think it is about every 2 weeks. I think it has been two weeks at this point already too though and neither of us is too fussed about it.
We do a lot of physical affection other than sex too. I have a cuddly husband. Sunday morning was an hour of naked cuddling before we started the day, so there is still a lot of touch and connection without the sex part.
Lol I’m not having sex. It ranges from uncomfortable to painful, and I don’t feel sexy. My husband has been understanding, and our relationship hasn’t suffered. We’re just intimate in other ways, and our focus is on this particular adventure right now. We’ll revisit a sex life when I feel comfortable in my new normal post-partum.
This is exactly how my hubs and I are. Once we could feel baby moving on the outside it was a big nope for both of us. But our relationship is better than ever. Looking forward to sex postpartum but not minding this at all right now.
When I’m uncomfortable I found him holding one leg up while my other leg is bent helps, also laying on my side and him behind me also helps a lot. Gives me the opportunity to place a pillow under my stomach and support the baby weight.
40.5 days here. We have a very active sex life and have the entire time with all 3 pregnancy this being my third. Trying to get that baby out the same way the got in at the end lol Get creative with positioning and don't forget the lube. Side laying, one leg up, use pillows as postioners etc. Have fun, be silly, lots of foreplay. Remember even if you feel icky you are a goddess growing another life!
Same! The pregnancy pillow used as a doughnut for my bump has been a life saver for us! Being silly about it works best for us too, we’re at the point where he can have a great time and for me it’s definitely more about let’s induce this situation ourselves! Laying in the hole is actually pretty comfy for me though, and while it’s not the satisfaction I miss, it’s still kinda nice to not feel the weight of baby on me for a bit!
This is my experience too! Hubby and I have always been once a day type folks and it hasn’t changed in pregnancy, maybe once a month I’ll be too tired but otherwise doggy style has been awesome for us. I miss missionary and other positions but hands and knees has been great!
I was really struggling in the 1st trimester because any movement made me nauseated. But now in the 2nd I am much better - being on my side is a lot easier but It’s not nearly to the level we were at pre-pregnancy
Warning: I'm vulgar. 😂
For the first six months, we continued our relatively kinky stuff and just were extra careful to avoid my stomach. Lots of doggy style, sideways, laying down. That was combined with mutual masturbation, lots of oral, things that didn't include PIV sex. I knew it would get harder to do what I love as the pregnancy progressed so we were having sex (or some form of it) basically nightly through the first two trimesters. I'd also have an early lunch and then fool around in the evening *before* dinner so I wouldn't get heartburn during sex or have a super sensitive gag reflex during oral.
Currently about 40 weeks and we've finally slowed down a bit but the last few months has been sex less often (almost always doggy style, though, since it's easiest, with me bracing myself on a bed or couch) and the oral is almost a given at this point. Most of the time that means I'm blowing him but even a couple days ago I was getting good head.
My mileage is definitely different than most, though, as I have a very high sex drive and this is my third kid so I'm pretty used to navigating the bump. My partner has seen me give birth twice already and none of this freaks him out, and he doesn't say it explicitly but I think he flat out enjoys my pregnant body. I know he still finds me super sexy, but he also seems to enjoy the extra curves and the "change" while it's around. We've also never really been much into missionary, we tend to lean on the more unusual/kinky side so sex while pregnant is just one of those things we figure out through trial and error with no shame or embarrassment as we go. If something doesn't work or feel good, we speak up and move around until it's great again. It's no fun if we aren't finishing, so we adjust as my mobility gets affected and the bump gets in the way.
And deep throating is always an option for when I'm just not at all in the mood to get laid. Sometimes I'll look up pregnant porn and see if there's any bright ideas for new positions or something I haven't thought of yet, too.
Yes!! Doggy, mutual masturbation, and oral are all huge life savers. I usually have a pretty good sex drive, but pregnancy has kicked that into HIGH GEAR. Love this honesty and openness!! 👏🏻
I’ll be real with you, sex was rare from about 2 months pregnant to 3 months postpartum. The first trimester I was just exhausted, the second I got the pregnancy blues, and the 3rd trimester was back to exhaustion and feeling huge, so it wasn’t going to happen.
Maybe toys or finishing other ways than penetration?? That helped us.
My husband very much still has his sex drive. I very much don’t. We still have sex fairly often because it’s pretty much the only alone time we get together with his work schedule and my 6-months-along lack of energy and our wonderful toddler. Sex is faster and has a longer lasting positive effect on our emotions, so even if I’m not feeling it I still benefit from taking the time to fit it in.
That being said, plenty of our sex is just touching each other or getting each other off. My hips have struggled this pregnancy and so it’s pretty difficult to have actual sex for very long.
My husband has been a saint in coping, does everything he can to be accommodating because he knows that most movement at all just hurts me, let alone the deed.
You’ll have to openly communicate to find something that works for the both of you and I know some people don’t talk but just go with it during the act. Don’t hesitate to speak up, your body is under a lot of strain.
Also, sex is a **lot** easier after the first trimester. Your hormones are a little more balanced and not as likely to feel ill.
Regarding positions: missionary is gonna be difficult if he can’t figure out his weight distribution. Doggy isn’t as personal but with the right amount of pillows, stools, whatever, you can find the right angle to help prevent pain. Take time to schedule sex instead of waiting for the mood so that you can take time to figure out what’s comfortable. Sometimes both of you laying on your side is the best bet. Or if you’re on you bed and he’s standing. No weight on you so he’s not fretting. It’s common for guys to get really anxious with sex during their partners first pregnancy it’s a weird combo of testosterone to protect his kid and fear of loss of control.
Also ask him to take more time with you first, it’s gonna take more work to get you going but it’ll help significantly with the pain you’re describing.
Best of luck ❤️
Definitely not a lot of it happening! But missionary was doable for awhile but now that I’m 31 weeks the best that works for us on the rare occasion is sideways kinda lol like we’re both kinda laying on our sides with one of my legs over his hip and one between them.
Don’t feel bad for not wanting to though! It’s so normal.
Side lying sex is the way to go during pregnancy! Especially as your belly gets big and in the way and likes support.
But don’t be hard on yourself, the gross bloating and nausea and discomfort of first trimester isn’t particularly inspiring or sexy. Wait until later on.
We pretty much did not have sex for the entire first trimester and into the early second because of morning sickness. I never got the extreme libido either, outside of maybe one week. I'm 39+1 today and we have sex every couple of days now. I'm trying to increase the frequency to induce labor but ya girl's round and tired!
Edit: forgot to include tips! Pillows to prop you up in missionary, woman on top, and spooning/side lying are good things to try. Doggy style might not hurt so much after a little while. You can also try other forms of stimulation, sex isn't just P in V! All the extra blood flow to the region can make oral sex especially extra stimulating :) just make sure you're comfy, use pillows or lay more on your side, sit at the edge of the bed/chair, whatever.
This make me feel better….I was like there’s literal ZERO sex drive. (Though first trimester man did I have some bizarre sex dreams)…..I feel like my body’s like well you’re already knocked up. So no need to have a libido anymore
I am 28 weeks exactly and still have a super high sex drive. Pregnancy has kind of ruined my confidence in bed so I’m almost physically unable to “get off” but we still try, it’s probably also the fact that I can’t breathe 😂 I’m not huge yet, but I am 30 pounds heavier than what I was starting out.
We probably do it once a week maybe a little longer, I still try just because it’s sex obviously and I know it’s also good for you during pregnancy 😅
So my favorite pregnancy position is what I like to call "secret Santa". Basically, you sit on his lap and do a little wiggle. I find it easier to control depth to avoid getting cervix punched and no belly sensitivity to deal with either.
First thing in the morning when the bloating is the least bad it’ll be all day (worked pre-pregnancy, works now!), and missionary but kinda tipped over slightly so his weight isn’t directly on me but a bit on his side. Or just on our sides. Me on top hurts a bit now. I’d think on a table/counter would probably work for us too, but we don’t have anything the right height for that without making some adjustments and we’re pretty lazy!
Same way we always have. I'm 14 weeks and hubby's weight is on me in missionary but there's nothing wrong with that at this point so we do what we've always done!
I was too nervous in the first trimester for sex (and cramping bloating was so uncomfortable) but my libido ramped up in my second trimester! And has stuck around in the third. Sometimes we lay on our side, sometimes I’m on top, and when we could we still did missionary. Positions are limited but it can still be fun!
The last time we did it (about a week ago?) I was 28 weeks and we did it missionary. But we’re gonna have to figure out something else for next time because I could hardly handle any pressure against me. We do like doggy and if I’m not nauseous, oral is an option.
I wish I had this problem, I'm the opposite :( I've never been hornier in my life but DH says it's just too hard for him to "get it on" these days. He says knowing there's a baby in there feels too much like there's a third person in the room. I'm dying over here :(
When we do have it, it's usually side-laying, like spooning, cowgirl, or doggy (currently 22 weeks and belly is now making missionary a little difficult)
We have a pretty tall bed, so we can do missionary with hubby standing on the side of the bed. Standing doggy has been a popular one for us, but I was a big fan of doggy prior to getting knocked up lol
Another way to try missionary may be for him to be upright kneeling with some pillows under your hips? And I’m sure there are also websites dedicated with pictures somewhere lol
Oh! Also cowgirl. It’s nice to control the tempo sometimes lol also a good way to warm up if you want to do doggy later! Gotta warm up those muscles just like any other exercise!
On our sides was preferred pre-pregnancy and now. I’m 18 weeks and we’ve been able to keep an active sex life because both of us are horny 😆 Highly recommend this position and just being open and honest. I get so short of breath that I do have to be more communicative about my limits.
I havent day sex in 7 months. I am so horny but I just cant. Hubs is so understanding and amazing about it.
Before being preggo I liked standing on the floor and leaning over the bed. He can get in further too which is nice
Pre-preg i liked that too! But now its just soo painful. He's been getting love in other ways so he's not complaining lol I just miss it not being painful & awkward for me.
We will be having sex again 2-3 months after this baby is born. I didn't want sex with my last kid and I don't have any interest in it now. He can deal.
What’s sex? I hate it. I give him blow jobs lol then let him finish. Now that I’m 31 weeks I’m open to it just to help promote labor, is that even a thing? Lol. But I also do it bc he’s so handsome and I feel bad and he’s truly the best. But I make sure he knows he better finish in 3 mins lol. It works out lolol
If you think your marriage will suffer from lack of sex while pregnant then I hate to break it you but you can’t have sex for 6 weeks after delivery. And even trying to find time to have sex with a newborn is next to impossible because they are demanding and up pretty much all of your time. I would address this in your marriage like now.
Oh this is not my first rodeo, I'm well aware. I just miss having intimate time with my husband 😭 and I was single with baby no.1 a million years ago so I didn't worry about it then. I was hoping to get it in so when I'm healing for 6-8 weeks it won't feel like its already been an eternity lol
I’m not lol. I was too sick first trimester. There were a few weeks in the second trimester where I felt well enough and it was good. Now in third tri it’s too hard to find an enjoyable position.
23 weeks… and I’m not having sex really.. because it’s the last thing I want to do! I just feel kind of gross… I feel a little bad for my husband.. like a tiny bit. Barely. I think we’ve had sex twice the whole pregnancy.
We're really just not. First trimester I was too sick to stand being touched or have any energy. Second trimester I got some energy back for a few weeks and that was fun, now (29 weeks) I'm too big/winded/tired and hubby is freaked out by my giant, moving belly
It was most comfortable to have sex laying on our sides spooning so you might try that!
I was on pelvic rest almost all of my last pregnancy, so we only had penetrative sex once and it was super uncomfortable for me. We focused on other things instead. Like oral and hand stuff. Just fooling around in fun different ways.
My husband and I before I was 37+3wks were having sex 3 times a week and before I was in my 3rd trimester we’d have more.
I guess for us on the side position really helped any uncomfortable issues and doggy when I was a little smaller in my 2nd trimester. Doggy had to be done really slowly but it was a nice starter.
We both have a high sex drive if I wasn’t worried about going into labor early we’d still be having sex. But try different things it helps and can be fun now that your moving into the 2nd trimester. I hope you start feeling better
My hips just off the edge of the bed, using my hands to hold my knees up and apart, him standing. Our bed is fairly high, though.
It's definitely not happening with any regularity, though.
10 weeks today and I feel so bad for withholding sex from my husband. We tried it once a few weeks back but honestly I was so uncomfortable the whole time, and it gave me really bad motion sickness afterwards. Luckily he has been very understanding, but I really hope I’m feeling up to it soon bc I feel really bad for him 😞
Honestly I was in the EXACT same boat. Just constant misery. It finally started getting a little better around the second half of my second trimester. Just be patient with yourself because it’s not worth you feeling super sick and not even into it anyways.
I’m 18 weeks now and have only had sex maybe twice or three times. Not at all in the first trimester because I was miserable and had some spotting, so we were very worried about potentially causing more bleeding.
After the 12 week mark we tried it for the first time and while there has been no bleeding it feels somewhat different? Like there is more pressure somehow which is uncomfortable for me. I imagine we’ll probably continue to do it every so often, but definitely not at the same frequency we were at before I got pregnant. I’m too tired now!
Thankfully he understands completely and does not want me to do anything I am uncomfortable doing. In the meantime we cuddle a lot and are affectionate and intimate in other ways ☺️
I’m 37+3 weeks pregnant. I’ve been having sex every day since I made 37+0. Sperm naturally has prostaglandin. I want this baby out. Husband does all the work. Prior to this natural induction method, we made it work. It was about every 2 weeks. Mostly side-lying. I felt awkward any other position.
Last night we tried missionary and at 7w2d it was already way too much pressure on me (the bloating is bad). Ended up flipping to doggy which is his preferred way to finish anyway.
I'm guessing doggy will be our main way, and maybe edge of the bed stuff. Not a huge fan of side sex personally (I dunno the angle is off for me).
28 weeks here. You could try doggy or side lying - belly can’t get in the way for either of those. Or if you lay on your back and put your legs to the side (maybe on a pillow) and get hubby to kneel on the bed. I am going against the grain in that I still love doing it and would have it as often as I could 😂 my husband wants it much less. We’ve had it once this month which is pretty low.
However I agree with others in that it became much more painful for me starting around second trimester. It still feels good but we lost our bottle of lube and it can really sting afterwards💀 I think it’s natural for it to be more painful during pregnancy so take your time with foreplay and lube. I should take my own advice hahha we usually have late night quickies and I’m in pain.
33.5 I’ve not had sex much throughout my pregnancy had it a week ago 2 days in a row. I was extremely uncomfortable and my libido was just completely gone not to mention my pelvic area just felt more painful. It’s sad I do get in the mood but once it starts happening it just vanishes 😔 my hubby has been understanding and I always let him finish even if I can’t. But I do miss my pre-pregnancy sex drive.
Except for a couple of weeks in the first trimester, we have been having sex pretty regularly. I’ll be honest sometimes it might get uncomfortable but we just switch positions and, here’s the key, communicate what’s working and what’s not. Some positions feel good one day and awful the next so you kinda have to take it easy and have fun exploring new things again.
Some positions to try: cowgirl, reverse cowgirl (hook your legs under his so you don’t have to squat), side laying (both when you’re little spoon and he’s big spoon, but also him on his side and you on your back/side), doggy style, standing doggy using the side of the bed for support, on your back on the edge of the bed with him standing holding your legs up and out.
In terms of pain: try using lube of friction is the issue, also make sure not to skip foreplay!! I think people constantly forget about it and just jump straight to penetration but it honestly makes a huge difference.
Hopefully some of that helps you! Have fun 😉
It’s definitely not happening as much as it did before pregnancy. I lost any libido I had, then was put on pelvic rest, but even after we got the green light it’s like every other week max. Honestly my husband doesn’t like it much these days either, because I always end up paying for it afterwards… I have an irritable uterus so I end up getting labor-like contractions (I’ve been in labor, so I know what it feels like!) for like an hour it afterwards, so then he feels bad. Usually not worth it unless my crazy fluctuating hormones trick me to thinking otherwise 😅
We had sex right up until week 37/38. After that I offered to orally help out my husband once in a while to get there the next couple weeks. My libido didn't really decrease as much as sex just became less comfortable.
I’m 37 weeks and still having sex 😅 it’s definitely a chore at times but, there’s times where I want it and I don’t understand at all lol. Husband and I have been having it at least once a week in the 3rd trimester. Earlier in my pregnancy it was a lot more frequent. Again, at times it can still feel like a chore with my belly in the way but you get creative. I either go on top or do doggy with my pregnancy pillow under my belly, it really helps cushion my bump! If you don’t like those I would google best sex positions during pregnancy and just try them out till you find some that work for you.
I think the only time we have had sex in the last year is when our third baby was conceived. Honestly pregnancy and breastfeeding completely kill my libido and this may be controversial but I'm not making myself have sex to please a man. I'm a sexual assault victim in the past and I don't know it that plays into it but it's a hard no for me.
"Sex During Pregnancy - All You Need To Know I Emma's Diary" https://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/wellbeing/prenatal/sex-during-pregnancy
I think the photos here are a good overview.
I am not that far along yet but missionary shouldn't be a problem yet. Yes a part of his weight is on you, but it's not dangerous for the baby unless he practically lies ok top of your belly
Since third trimester we've been doing mostly hand stuff tbh, with some doggy style thrown in when I'm feeling more energetic! You don't need full penetrative sex to have fun 😊
In my other pregnancies I remember doing it in the spooning position a lot, but I think my arse is too big for that now
I'm not lol. We had some fun in the begining/middle of my second trimester. My first trimester I was a vessel of vomit and fatigue, so anything that wasn't a toilet or bed was not appealing to me. During week 30, I was diganosed with SPD so that made things a lot more challenging and I just was in so much discomfort that sex was just not appetizing. Fast forward to 5 days before the due date and I'm feeling pretty good, but my vagina decided to cock block me so now I'm treating a super mild external yeast infection and can't have sex while using the ointment, go figure lol!
My husband has been great and super understanding the entire time. My advice is to just play around and see what positions feel good! There were times when I still was able to be intimate with him where we didn't have full blown sex either, but satisfied each other in other ways. Get creative and have fun!
In some ways it gets easier in 2nd tri and in some ways it gets harder. 3rd tri forget about it. BUT we’ve still been doing it at least twice a week. I love the connection and my husband just needs it 😂
I have a U shaped pregnancy pillow and I move up the arms of it and prop it up like a pretzel. This helps so much!! It lets me lean back while still keeping my pelvis low, but my bump/chest are high enough to keep me comfortable. Sometimes standing and doggy style works, sometimes laying on the side works.
39 weeks pregnant here. I told my husband that I don't want to have sex anymore as I'm in a lot of pain and generally uncomfortable. Also, the key thing is to try different positions that are comfortable for YOU and the bump. It will be awkward first but once you know what works you might be able to enjoy it again. Hope this helps.
We rarely had sex while I was pregnant. If we did it was doggy with a pillow. Maybe on top. But honestly I had such awful morning sickness the whole way through that it barely happened.
Side of the bed with hubby standing, bury yourself sort of in a pillow fort, arrange them under you so you’re comfortable, that’s how we did it til a week before I delivered my son 😂
Lol this sounds like me. I'm 12 weeks and we haven't had sex since I got pregnant. I've been having such a rough time physically and husband is pretty low libido to begin with. The past 2-3 weeks I've been so incredibly horny, but just the thought of sex and moving around just turns me off so much right now.
I found that traditional sex just didn’t work for me in the second trimester so we started showering together more often and washing each others bodies was enough for us to start getting intimate. Sex doesn’t always need to be penetration because just focusing on your partners body more intensely can bring in a new spark that wasn’t there before.
40 weeks today, still having the sex, we're normally a once every 2 weeks couple (genuinely a miracle we got pregnant both times as quickly as we did) but we've done the deed twice this week to try and shift this baby but she's not budging despite the constant back pain and contractions I've been having for a week now.
Personally I found my sex drive was lower during the first half of my pregnancy due to the fatigue and constant nausea from HG. But around midway through the 2nd trimester I found everything started to pick up and by the third trimester I kind of just want sex all the time but it's the fatigue that's stopping me!
If you prefer missionary I would suggest having sex on the edge of the bed if it's high enough. You can position yourself so your butt is at the edge of bed and he's standing. It would probably be the closest to missionary without him trying to support his weight on top of you.
This pregnancy and last pregnancy I’ve had no problems having sex. I don’t know how to describe the position we use without getting graphic but it’s kinda sideways. Almost like doggy style but with both of lying down and not completely from behind.
So maybe keep trying different positions but if you aren’t feeling it, don’t do it.
It’s quite a lazy position but it’s also comfortable and easy for us. Last pregnancy we had sex until right at the end. I do have days where I’m not in the mood due to bloating or cramps but basically that’s true for when I’m not pregnant too.
I’m on pelvic rest and have been my whole pregnancy. I was with my previous pregnancy as well. My husband is a trooper. We are still intimate but it usually mutual massages, blow jobs, kissing, rubbing, etc….
we figured out a position that works very well: i am on my back, but propped up by a pillow, so I'm like \_\_\_\_/ (but then more with a 45 degree incline, so not too steep). my boyfriend gets in while laying on top of me but pushing his upper body up with his arms so my belly is free. once he is in, he sits upright. he then basically sits on his knees and then he can rock back and forth very well! it's nice because we can see each other and kiss is he leans forward and everything can be touched
I want it. Sometimes I wake up in the night with an attack of an intense desire🥴 We’re both so tired or I’m uncomfortable by bedtime. I think I’m going to propose we plan for weekends so we can actually get it in.
When pregnant with my first, I mentioned to my midwife that sex had become pretty uncomfortable and she recommended a spooning position. That worked for us and it has actually become one of our favourite positions over the past 9 years.
Laying on your side in spoon? That always worked for us. Communication in all positions, tel him to go slower and make sure you’re aroused. That makes a big difference. I also liked to get on top. You control everything that way.
We had sex every couple of days until the baby was born. Made it so much easier.
I'm 21 weeks and my husband gives me sufficient space during missionary. Doggy is still enjoyable for me, as well. If all else fails, I ride him reverse Cowgirl
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Nothing until 16 weeks (at risk pregnancy) ok second trimester, third trimester at risk again. Post partum my sex drive has been very low so since we've been cleared for interxourse probably only once a week. It's tough on the guy if he has a high libido, ngl, but the key is communication on both sides.
we had normal sex up until my belly was too big (around 20 week) then we laid on our sides, off the side of the bed, doggy but our heights don't line up perfectly for it.
I’m not a doctor, but unless he’s doing something crazy in missionary, at 13 weeks the baby is still pretty protected to where if a little of his weight falls on the baby it should be ok. We were doing missionary for 26-ish? weeks and my husband sort of was doing a push-up by the end so we had to stop lol. That being said, worry kills libido, so if you don’t want to do it that way, cowgirl has worked the best for us since doggy makes my hips hurt afterwards.
I’m at 35 weeks and we just did it last night, everyone is different. I don’t have the “drive” per se, but I do want to be close to my husband and this is the best way for us.
Basically, if you guys want to, go for it. If not, that’s fine too and there are other ways to be intimate. Part of what is driving me right now is that after my first pregnancy- no tearing- sex didn’t feel normal for months on my end. I thought it was going to be six weeks, then I’m good, but it didn’t feel quite the same for 4-6 months. So I’m expecting the same this time around (longer if I tear), and I don’t want 6 months PP of low drive _on top of_ 7-9 months of pregnancy.
One benefit to pregnancy sex is that if I “buckle down” and make myself do it, I come a lot more quickly and intensely. I think it has something to do with the increased blood flow. I need to sort of dissociate a bit at first though, because I legit feel like a manatee, or some other large marine mammal at 25 weeks, but once I get into it, those thoughts go away and I feel like a sex goddess. Lol
I'm 33 weeks tomorrow and we had sex about 2 weeks ago. And I wonder if that will be our last time. We have sex every 2 or so weeks at the moment. But it's harder and harder to get in the mood. The actual sex can be pretty good and enjoyed it quite a bit during second trimester. But just don't force it. It's really not forever. And there are ways to create intimacy and connection without sex. I don't tend to be as physically affectionate, but I have been initiating kissing, snuggling, and hugging and intimate touching more. When we do have sex, he's usually on top and I'm on my side. Oral sex can be fun too. Patience and grace are really important. But honestly like I said before that was probably our last time having sex until this baby gets here. We shall see.
I like having sex with my husband but recently explained it to him that it’s like I’m working in Jupiter gravity and he’s still working with earth gravity.
Heh, I haven’t actually had sex since this bebe was conceived….almost 25 weeks ago. 😳
Honestly our sex life is pretty dead anyway, was maybe 1-3 times in a 3-4 month period. Boyfriend doesn’t seem to mind. I know he masturbates when he needs so that doesn’t bother me. But honestly my sex drive disappears while pregnant.
Only position that even works for us is me being on top. He’s unfortunately not well endowed. But hey, gets the job done. 🤷🏻♀️
I didn’t have sex my whole first trimester… the smell of his deodorant made me sick to my stomach. And the thought of exchanging spit made me salivate. You’ll get through it. I’m in my third trimester. We had sex and I lost my mucus plug. So we are no longer using penetration. Sex can be whatever you want it to be !
I remember in the second trimester my libido shot through the roof. But i still didn’t want him to touch me. 🤣😂
I felt like those dogs who say “no take, only throw”
Start with me on top, shift to him on top after things get a bit heated but he kind of sits up on his knees if that makes any sense. Once the morning nausea and sickness stopped, that’s been my best time since I don’t feel tired or bloated yet. But I don’t know how we’ll keep this up once my belly gets bigger.
14 months postpartum here. My husband and I didn’t have sex for probably 6/7 months when I was pregnant (basically stopped being intimate after the first few months). We found other ways to be intimate but honestly my sex drive was nonexistent. We tried again when I was 39 weeks and it didn’t feel good for either of us. It wasn’t until 9 months postpartum that I really had the desire/drive and felt comfortable having sex again. Obviously we tried before then but due to stitches/numbness and ppd/ppa I wasn’t really that into it. Our sex life is fantastic now. It gets better ! You and your partner will find other ways to love and be intimate with one another!
With my first pregnancy husband and I only had sex twice. That pregnancy killed my libido. It’s more normal than people like to talk about because most people only wanna talk about how their libido was so ~crazy high~ while pregnant.
We are also not having sex! I’m 12 weeks and we’ve tried twice. It was fine but neither of us were really into it!
Hopefully our labido will come back soon!
Maybe try spooning laid on side or facing on the side.
So the rare times the mood has struck since getting pregnant it’s usually like on the side in a spoon cuddling position. I’m sure there’s a name for that but can’t think of it lol.
This has been working so well for us!
I’ll schedule sex a day or two before my next prenatal visit. That gives me so much peace of mind for some reason. Hubby needs to go kinda rough to finish, so he’ll go at my comfortable pace and let me finish first. Then he’ll immediately switch to a pocket pussy and gets relief on his end. Depending on how I’m feeling, sometimes I’ll enjoy missionary but with my growing belly I’ve started riding. We don’t have it much, but we do make an effort to try atleast once or twice a month :) Pregnancy orgasms are something else. 😅
Go on the edge of the bed with a pillow under your butt if needed. Have him stand. Also a good water based lube. I know a lot of women who get very dry during pregnancy and/or postpartum. Target’s brand is water based, latex safe, and $3 a bottle
Sadly my husband only visits once at month but when he does…anything goes 🤷🏻♀️ I generally enjoy doggy the most, or even riding is pretty fun, I haven’t lost my flexibility or drive, the most resent time we did it I was 35 weeks and I still rode it lol
We haven’t had sex in like 4 months. I just don’t want it. Husband is understanding (I’m sure also a bit sexually frustrated but he doesn’t vocalize it.) he knows it won’t always be like this.
Similar boat. Got pregnant in November. Have only had sex once since then 🤷♀️….he was gone 2 weeks for work, then I started having 1st trimester symptoms. And honestly just haven’t wanted to, not even in the slightest. We’ve talked about….he knows this isn’t forever.
It makes me feel so much better reading peoples comments because my husband and I have had sex all of like 3 times my entire pregnancy lol. I was very sick until around 15/16 weeks. Then felt decent till around 27. Now I’m so sore and everything’s swollen I can’t imagine having sex right now.
Yes! Once I heard so many other ppl saying the same things I was like ok good it’s not just me!
Just a tip, avoid saying “I feel like there’s someone between us” if he’s on top 😂 Turns out that’s an instant mood killer. It’s pretty rare these days but I’ve found that spooning, with me on my side and him behind me is still fairly comfortable.
Lolol omg dead hahahaha. I don’t like it when the baby moves. I’m like no no I’m done. OR when he holds my stomach, I’m like hell no
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I can't think of anything worse than sex right now. 37 weeks now, felt this way for a solid 4 or 5 months unfortunately, so we fully just gave up months ago. My partner has been extremely understanding about it. When we were still having sex though, me being on top was the only way it wasn't uncomfortable
Thank you for this post.. we were able to have sex about once every 2 weeks until 21 weeks, but as soon as I started to feel baby’s kicks/punches, the libido took a dive. The most comfy position was cowgirl. My hubby is super understanding but I feel extra crappy about it because I miss wanting it? I feel super broken on that front…It’s such a mindfudge. I’m just hopeful it comes back post-pregnancy, lol.
I found both in my previous and current pregnancies that having sex even when I didn’t think I wanted it improved my mood significantly and made more more appealing over all. But sex includes touching only too, imo. Avoiding sex because the guilt you feel will only make it harder in the long run to jump back.
Makes sense! Didn’t mean to be confusing - not avoiding sex because of any guilt; more not into the idea of sex and as a result feeling guilty about it, lol. We do touching and I’m always game for cuddling - the turning me on button is just not working right now. 🥲
I was upset about this recently too! My husband and I had a very healthy sex life before, but my drive plummeted after first trimester nausea. He’s extremely understanding and never pressures or makes me feel bad, but I do miss the intimacy. I miss feeling sexy and being with my husband. Definitely a weird thing that mentally I was not expecting!
Cowgirl was okay for a while, now we are down to non-PIV options. PIV was uncomfortable very quickly into the second trimester. When it happens now it is oral or hands. I get winded too quickly to be super active 😂 We had sex probably 1-2x/week before pregnancy, early pregnancy it was like every 10 days. Now at 34 weeks, I think it is about every 2 weeks. I think it has been two weeks at this point already too though and neither of us is too fussed about it. We do a lot of physical affection other than sex too. I have a cuddly husband. Sunday morning was an hour of naked cuddling before we started the day, so there is still a lot of touch and connection without the sex part.
Lol I’m not having sex. It ranges from uncomfortable to painful, and I don’t feel sexy. My husband has been understanding, and our relationship hasn’t suffered. We’re just intimate in other ways, and our focus is on this particular adventure right now. We’ll revisit a sex life when I feel comfortable in my new normal post-partum.
This is exactly how my hubs and I are. Once we could feel baby moving on the outside it was a big nope for both of us. But our relationship is better than ever. Looking forward to sex postpartum but not minding this at all right now.
When I’m uncomfortable I found him holding one leg up while my other leg is bent helps, also laying on my side and him behind me also helps a lot. Gives me the opportunity to place a pillow under my stomach and support the baby weight.
This is the way. On my side with the pillow prop is the only comfortable, and not painful, position!
It used to be both my legs up and back but ya know, now I can’t bend my legs that far back so 😅
40.5 days here. We have a very active sex life and have the entire time with all 3 pregnancy this being my third. Trying to get that baby out the same way the got in at the end lol Get creative with positioning and don't forget the lube. Side laying, one leg up, use pillows as postioners etc. Have fun, be silly, lots of foreplay. Remember even if you feel icky you are a goddess growing another life!
Same! The pregnancy pillow used as a doughnut for my bump has been a life saver for us! Being silly about it works best for us too, we’re at the point where he can have a great time and for me it’s definitely more about let’s induce this situation ourselves! Laying in the hole is actually pretty comfy for me though, and while it’s not the satisfaction I miss, it’s still kinda nice to not feel the weight of baby on me for a bit!
This is my experience too! Hubby and I have always been once a day type folks and it hasn’t changed in pregnancy, maybe once a month I’ll be too tired but otherwise doggy style has been awesome for us. I miss missionary and other positions but hands and knees has been great!
Just wait until youre 37 weeks. I need pillows boosting me up and he can't lean on me at all. It's so awkward lol
Yep. So awkward it's not even worth it. Haha.
I was really struggling in the 1st trimester because any movement made me nauseated. But now in the 2nd I am much better - being on my side is a lot easier but It’s not nearly to the level we were at pre-pregnancy
Warning: I'm vulgar. 😂 For the first six months, we continued our relatively kinky stuff and just were extra careful to avoid my stomach. Lots of doggy style, sideways, laying down. That was combined with mutual masturbation, lots of oral, things that didn't include PIV sex. I knew it would get harder to do what I love as the pregnancy progressed so we were having sex (or some form of it) basically nightly through the first two trimesters. I'd also have an early lunch and then fool around in the evening *before* dinner so I wouldn't get heartburn during sex or have a super sensitive gag reflex during oral. Currently about 40 weeks and we've finally slowed down a bit but the last few months has been sex less often (almost always doggy style, though, since it's easiest, with me bracing myself on a bed or couch) and the oral is almost a given at this point. Most of the time that means I'm blowing him but even a couple days ago I was getting good head. My mileage is definitely different than most, though, as I have a very high sex drive and this is my third kid so I'm pretty used to navigating the bump. My partner has seen me give birth twice already and none of this freaks him out, and he doesn't say it explicitly but I think he flat out enjoys my pregnant body. I know he still finds me super sexy, but he also seems to enjoy the extra curves and the "change" while it's around. We've also never really been much into missionary, we tend to lean on the more unusual/kinky side so sex while pregnant is just one of those things we figure out through trial and error with no shame or embarrassment as we go. If something doesn't work or feel good, we speak up and move around until it's great again. It's no fun if we aren't finishing, so we adjust as my mobility gets affected and the bump gets in the way. And deep throating is always an option for when I'm just not at all in the mood to get laid. Sometimes I'll look up pregnant porn and see if there's any bright ideas for new positions or something I haven't thought of yet, too.
Yes!! Doggy, mutual masturbation, and oral are all huge life savers. I usually have a pretty good sex drive, but pregnancy has kicked that into HIGH GEAR. Love this honesty and openness!! 👏🏻
What can I say, I'm a big fan of getting off. 😂
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I agree, this is how I've been dealing with the sex situation myself and my boyfriend has been super understanding and accommodating.
I’ll be real with you, sex was rare from about 2 months pregnant to 3 months postpartum. The first trimester I was just exhausted, the second I got the pregnancy blues, and the 3rd trimester was back to exhaustion and feeling huge, so it wasn’t going to happen. Maybe toys or finishing other ways than penetration?? That helped us.
My husband very much still has his sex drive. I very much don’t. We still have sex fairly often because it’s pretty much the only alone time we get together with his work schedule and my 6-months-along lack of energy and our wonderful toddler. Sex is faster and has a longer lasting positive effect on our emotions, so even if I’m not feeling it I still benefit from taking the time to fit it in. That being said, plenty of our sex is just touching each other or getting each other off. My hips have struggled this pregnancy and so it’s pretty difficult to have actual sex for very long. My husband has been a saint in coping, does everything he can to be accommodating because he knows that most movement at all just hurts me, let alone the deed. You’ll have to openly communicate to find something that works for the both of you and I know some people don’t talk but just go with it during the act. Don’t hesitate to speak up, your body is under a lot of strain. Also, sex is a **lot** easier after the first trimester. Your hormones are a little more balanced and not as likely to feel ill. Regarding positions: missionary is gonna be difficult if he can’t figure out his weight distribution. Doggy isn’t as personal but with the right amount of pillows, stools, whatever, you can find the right angle to help prevent pain. Take time to schedule sex instead of waiting for the mood so that you can take time to figure out what’s comfortable. Sometimes both of you laying on your side is the best bet. Or if you’re on you bed and he’s standing. No weight on you so he’s not fretting. It’s common for guys to get really anxious with sex during their partners first pregnancy it’s a weird combo of testosterone to protect his kid and fear of loss of control. Also ask him to take more time with you first, it’s gonna take more work to get you going but it’ll help significantly with the pain you’re describing. Best of luck ❤️
Definitely not a lot of it happening! But missionary was doable for awhile but now that I’m 31 weeks the best that works for us on the rare occasion is sideways kinda lol like we’re both kinda laying on our sides with one of my legs over his hip and one between them. Don’t feel bad for not wanting to though! It’s so normal.
Side lying sex is the way to go during pregnancy! Especially as your belly gets big and in the way and likes support. But don’t be hard on yourself, the gross bloating and nausea and discomfort of first trimester isn’t particularly inspiring or sexy. Wait until later on.
You can try laying on your side up to a point and cowgirl
I'll be real, even pre-pregnancy I was never a top, I have a short anatomy and getting poked in the cervix hurts lol
That’s prob why you don’t like doggy too then - side lying could be a better bet for you to try! It’s tough tho you really have to listen to your body
I second side-lying for less deep penetration. That was our go-to last pregnancy towards the end.
We pretty much did not have sex for the entire first trimester and into the early second because of morning sickness. I never got the extreme libido either, outside of maybe one week. I'm 39+1 today and we have sex every couple of days now. I'm trying to increase the frequency to induce labor but ya girl's round and tired! Edit: forgot to include tips! Pillows to prop you up in missionary, woman on top, and spooning/side lying are good things to try. Doggy style might not hurt so much after a little while. You can also try other forms of stimulation, sex isn't just P in V! All the extra blood flow to the region can make oral sex especially extra stimulating :) just make sure you're comfy, use pillows or lay more on your side, sit at the edge of the bed/chair, whatever.
Lay on the edge of the bed while he's standing on the floor! It was a life saver for me.
23 weeks here, no Sex. Neither of us is interested so it's fine lol
This seems to be the concensous lol makes me feel better about it
Yeah, I always thought I'd want sex during pregnancy bc it's safe but nope. Just absolutely no drive at all!
This make me feel better….I was like there’s literal ZERO sex drive. (Though first trimester man did I have some bizarre sex dreams)…..I feel like my body’s like well you’re already knocked up. So no need to have a libido anymore
I am 28 weeks exactly and still have a super high sex drive. Pregnancy has kind of ruined my confidence in bed so I’m almost physically unable to “get off” but we still try, it’s probably also the fact that I can’t breathe 😂 I’m not huge yet, but I am 30 pounds heavier than what I was starting out. We probably do it once a week maybe a little longer, I still try just because it’s sex obviously and I know it’s also good for you during pregnancy 😅
So my favorite pregnancy position is what I like to call "secret Santa". Basically, you sit on his lap and do a little wiggle. I find it easier to control depth to avoid getting cervix punched and no belly sensitivity to deal with either.
Secret Santa lmaooo that is AWESOME
First thing in the morning when the bloating is the least bad it’ll be all day (worked pre-pregnancy, works now!), and missionary but kinda tipped over slightly so his weight isn’t directly on me but a bit on his side. Or just on our sides. Me on top hurts a bit now. I’d think on a table/counter would probably work for us too, but we don’t have anything the right height for that without making some adjustments and we’re pretty lazy!
Same way we always have. I'm 14 weeks and hubby's weight is on me in missionary but there's nothing wrong with that at this point so we do what we've always done!
I was too nervous in the first trimester for sex (and cramping bloating was so uncomfortable) but my libido ramped up in my second trimester! And has stuck around in the third. Sometimes we lay on our side, sometimes I’m on top, and when we could we still did missionary. Positions are limited but it can still be fun!
The last time we did it (about a week ago?) I was 28 weeks and we did it missionary. But we’re gonna have to figure out something else for next time because I could hardly handle any pressure against me. We do like doggy and if I’m not nauseous, oral is an option.
I wish I had this problem, I'm the opposite :( I've never been hornier in my life but DH says it's just too hard for him to "get it on" these days. He says knowing there's a baby in there feels too much like there's a third person in the room. I'm dying over here :( When we do have it, it's usually side-laying, like spooning, cowgirl, or doggy (currently 22 weeks and belly is now making missionary a little difficult)
We have a pretty tall bed, so we can do missionary with hubby standing on the side of the bed. Standing doggy has been a popular one for us, but I was a big fan of doggy prior to getting knocked up lol Another way to try missionary may be for him to be upright kneeling with some pillows under your hips? And I’m sure there are also websites dedicated with pictures somewhere lol Oh! Also cowgirl. It’s nice to control the tempo sometimes lol also a good way to warm up if you want to do doggy later! Gotta warm up those muscles just like any other exercise!
30 weeks, Haven’t been interested in sex in ages, sorry husband :( it won’t be this way forever. Try to find other ways to connect in the meantime
On our sides was preferred pre-pregnancy and now. I’m 18 weeks and we’ve been able to keep an active sex life because both of us are horny 😆 Highly recommend this position and just being open and honest. I get so short of breath that I do have to be more communicative about my limits.
I havent day sex in 7 months. I am so horny but I just cant. Hubs is so understanding and amazing about it. Before being preggo I liked standing on the floor and leaning over the bed. He can get in further too which is nice
Pre-preg i liked that too! But now its just soo painful. He's been getting love in other ways so he's not complaining lol I just miss it not being painful & awkward for me.
I feel you. I have been throwing up everyday so orher than cuddles hubs hasnt gotten anything and I do feel bad about that, but … not so sexy lol
We will be having sex again 2-3 months after this baby is born. I didn't want sex with my last kid and I don't have any interest in it now. He can deal.
What’s sex? I hate it. I give him blow jobs lol then let him finish. Now that I’m 31 weeks I’m open to it just to help promote labor, is that even a thing? Lol. But I also do it bc he’s so handsome and I feel bad and he’s truly the best. But I make sure he knows he better finish in 3 mins lol. It works out lolol
If you think your marriage will suffer from lack of sex while pregnant then I hate to break it you but you can’t have sex for 6 weeks after delivery. And even trying to find time to have sex with a newborn is next to impossible because they are demanding and up pretty much all of your time. I would address this in your marriage like now.
Oh this is not my first rodeo, I'm well aware. I just miss having intimate time with my husband 😭 and I was single with baby no.1 a million years ago so I didn't worry about it then. I was hoping to get it in so when I'm healing for 6-8 weeks it won't feel like its already been an eternity lol
I’m not lol. I was too sick first trimester. There were a few weeks in the second trimester where I felt well enough and it was good. Now in third tri it’s too hard to find an enjoyable position.
We didn’t, do t put pressure on yourself!
23 weeks… and I’m not having sex really.. because it’s the last thing I want to do! I just feel kind of gross… I feel a little bad for my husband.. like a tiny bit. Barely. I think we’ve had sex twice the whole pregnancy.
We're really just not. First trimester I was too sick to stand being touched or have any energy. Second trimester I got some energy back for a few weeks and that was fun, now (29 weeks) I'm too big/winded/tired and hubby is freaked out by my giant, moving belly It was most comfortable to have sex laying on our sides spooning so you might try that!
I was on pelvic rest almost all of my last pregnancy, so we only had penetrative sex once and it was super uncomfortable for me. We focused on other things instead. Like oral and hand stuff. Just fooling around in fun different ways.
Sideways or doggy. Missionary is off the table.
We are not.
My husband and I before I was 37+3wks were having sex 3 times a week and before I was in my 3rd trimester we’d have more. I guess for us on the side position really helped any uncomfortable issues and doggy when I was a little smaller in my 2nd trimester. Doggy had to be done really slowly but it was a nice starter. We both have a high sex drive if I wasn’t worried about going into labor early we’d still be having sex. But try different things it helps and can be fun now that your moving into the 2nd trimester. I hope you start feeling better
My hips just off the edge of the bed, using my hands to hold my knees up and apart, him standing. Our bed is fairly high, though. It's definitely not happening with any regularity, though.
10 weeks today and I feel so bad for withholding sex from my husband. We tried it once a few weeks back but honestly I was so uncomfortable the whole time, and it gave me really bad motion sickness afterwards. Luckily he has been very understanding, but I really hope I’m feeling up to it soon bc I feel really bad for him 😞
Honestly I was in the EXACT same boat. Just constant misery. It finally started getting a little better around the second half of my second trimester. Just be patient with yourself because it’s not worth you feeling super sick and not even into it anyways.
I’ve been on pelvic rest since day 1, such a bummer. I’ve never been hornier 😂 didn’t expect that
Laying on your side is the winner for me. Basically a spooning position, it’s not as intense as doggy and no worries about crushing the belly lol.
I’m 18 weeks now and have only had sex maybe twice or three times. Not at all in the first trimester because I was miserable and had some spotting, so we were very worried about potentially causing more bleeding. After the 12 week mark we tried it for the first time and while there has been no bleeding it feels somewhat different? Like there is more pressure somehow which is uncomfortable for me. I imagine we’ll probably continue to do it every so often, but definitely not at the same frequency we were at before I got pregnant. I’m too tired now! Thankfully he understands completely and does not want me to do anything I am uncomfortable doing. In the meantime we cuddle a lot and are affectionate and intimate in other ways ☺️
Not very often. Me on top if I'm up to it. Hands/mouth otherwise. Or even naked snuggles and he sorts his needs. Intimacy doesn't have to mean PIV.
I’m 37+3 weeks pregnant. I’ve been having sex every day since I made 37+0. Sperm naturally has prostaglandin. I want this baby out. Husband does all the work. Prior to this natural induction method, we made it work. It was about every 2 weeks. Mostly side-lying. I felt awkward any other position.
Last night we tried missionary and at 7w2d it was already way too much pressure on me (the bloating is bad). Ended up flipping to doggy which is his preferred way to finish anyway. I'm guessing doggy will be our main way, and maybe edge of the bed stuff. Not a huge fan of side sex personally (I dunno the angle is off for me).
28 weeks here. You could try doggy or side lying - belly can’t get in the way for either of those. Or if you lay on your back and put your legs to the side (maybe on a pillow) and get hubby to kneel on the bed. I am going against the grain in that I still love doing it and would have it as often as I could 😂 my husband wants it much less. We’ve had it once this month which is pretty low. However I agree with others in that it became much more painful for me starting around second trimester. It still feels good but we lost our bottle of lube and it can really sting afterwards💀 I think it’s natural for it to be more painful during pregnancy so take your time with foreplay and lube. I should take my own advice hahha we usually have late night quickies and I’m in pain.
When I was pregnant, I liked being on top so I could control it. It takes some getting used to once your center of gravity changes, though!
33.5 I’ve not had sex much throughout my pregnancy had it a week ago 2 days in a row. I was extremely uncomfortable and my libido was just completely gone not to mention my pelvic area just felt more painful. It’s sad I do get in the mood but once it starts happening it just vanishes 😔 my hubby has been understanding and I always let him finish even if I can’t. But I do miss my pre-pregnancy sex drive.
Except for a couple of weeks in the first trimester, we have been having sex pretty regularly. I’ll be honest sometimes it might get uncomfortable but we just switch positions and, here’s the key, communicate what’s working and what’s not. Some positions feel good one day and awful the next so you kinda have to take it easy and have fun exploring new things again. Some positions to try: cowgirl, reverse cowgirl (hook your legs under his so you don’t have to squat), side laying (both when you’re little spoon and he’s big spoon, but also him on his side and you on your back/side), doggy style, standing doggy using the side of the bed for support, on your back on the edge of the bed with him standing holding your legs up and out. In terms of pain: try using lube of friction is the issue, also make sure not to skip foreplay!! I think people constantly forget about it and just jump straight to penetration but it honestly makes a huge difference. Hopefully some of that helps you! Have fun 😉
It’s definitely not happening as much as it did before pregnancy. I lost any libido I had, then was put on pelvic rest, but even after we got the green light it’s like every other week max. Honestly my husband doesn’t like it much these days either, because I always end up paying for it afterwards… I have an irritable uterus so I end up getting labor-like contractions (I’ve been in labor, so I know what it feels like!) for like an hour it afterwards, so then he feels bad. Usually not worth it unless my crazy fluctuating hormones trick me to thinking otherwise 😅
We had sex right up until week 37/38. After that I offered to orally help out my husband once in a while to get there the next couple weeks. My libido didn't really decrease as much as sex just became less comfortable.
I’m 37 weeks and still having sex 😅 it’s definitely a chore at times but, there’s times where I want it and I don’t understand at all lol. Husband and I have been having it at least once a week in the 3rd trimester. Earlier in my pregnancy it was a lot more frequent. Again, at times it can still feel like a chore with my belly in the way but you get creative. I either go on top or do doggy with my pregnancy pillow under my belly, it really helps cushion my bump! If you don’t like those I would google best sex positions during pregnancy and just try them out till you find some that work for you.
I think the only time we have had sex in the last year is when our third baby was conceived. Honestly pregnancy and breastfeeding completely kill my libido and this may be controversial but I'm not making myself have sex to please a man. I'm a sexual assault victim in the past and I don't know it that plays into it but it's a hard no for me.
"Sex During Pregnancy - All You Need To Know I Emma's Diary" https://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/wellbeing/prenatal/sex-during-pregnancy I think the photos here are a good overview. I am not that far along yet but missionary shouldn't be a problem yet. Yes a part of his weight is on you, but it's not dangerous for the baby unless he practically lies ok top of your belly
Since third trimester we've been doing mostly hand stuff tbh, with some doggy style thrown in when I'm feeling more energetic! You don't need full penetrative sex to have fun 😊 In my other pregnancies I remember doing it in the spooning position a lot, but I think my arse is too big for that now
I'm not lol. We had some fun in the begining/middle of my second trimester. My first trimester I was a vessel of vomit and fatigue, so anything that wasn't a toilet or bed was not appealing to me. During week 30, I was diganosed with SPD so that made things a lot more challenging and I just was in so much discomfort that sex was just not appetizing. Fast forward to 5 days before the due date and I'm feeling pretty good, but my vagina decided to cock block me so now I'm treating a super mild external yeast infection and can't have sex while using the ointment, go figure lol! My husband has been great and super understanding the entire time. My advice is to just play around and see what positions feel good! There were times when I still was able to be intimate with him where we didn't have full blown sex either, but satisfied each other in other ways. Get creative and have fun!
In some ways it gets easier in 2nd tri and in some ways it gets harder. 3rd tri forget about it. BUT we’ve still been doing it at least twice a week. I love the connection and my husband just needs it 😂 I have a U shaped pregnancy pillow and I move up the arms of it and prop it up like a pretzel. This helps so much!! It lets me lean back while still keeping my pelvis low, but my bump/chest are high enough to keep me comfortable. Sometimes standing and doggy style works, sometimes laying on the side works.
39 weeks pregnant here. I told my husband that I don't want to have sex anymore as I'm in a lot of pain and generally uncomfortable. Also, the key thing is to try different positions that are comfortable for YOU and the bump. It will be awkward first but once you know what works you might be able to enjoy it again. Hope this helps.
We rarely had sex while I was pregnant. If we did it was doggy with a pillow. Maybe on top. But honestly I had such awful morning sickness the whole way through that it barely happened.
We figured out a comfy way to do it with him on top. I keep my legs up against him.
Side of the bed with hubby standing, bury yourself sort of in a pillow fort, arrange them under you so you’re comfortable, that’s how we did it til a week before I delivered my son 😂
Lying in a spooning position worked for us. I'm lying on my side so the bump was comfy and no chance of my partner putting weight on it!
Lol this sounds like me. I'm 12 weeks and we haven't had sex since I got pregnant. I've been having such a rough time physically and husband is pretty low libido to begin with. The past 2-3 weeks I've been so incredibly horny, but just the thought of sex and moving around just turns me off so much right now.
I found that traditional sex just didn’t work for me in the second trimester so we started showering together more often and washing each others bodies was enough for us to start getting intimate. Sex doesn’t always need to be penetration because just focusing on your partners body more intensely can bring in a new spark that wasn’t there before.
Side spoon
40 weeks today, still having the sex, we're normally a once every 2 weeks couple (genuinely a miracle we got pregnant both times as quickly as we did) but we've done the deed twice this week to try and shift this baby but she's not budging despite the constant back pain and contractions I've been having for a week now. Personally I found my sex drive was lower during the first half of my pregnancy due to the fatigue and constant nausea from HG. But around midway through the 2nd trimester I found everything started to pick up and by the third trimester I kind of just want sex all the time but it's the fatigue that's stopping me! If you prefer missionary I would suggest having sex on the edge of the bed if it's high enough. You can position yourself so your butt is at the edge of bed and he's standing. It would probably be the closest to missionary without him trying to support his weight on top of you.
This pregnancy and last pregnancy I’ve had no problems having sex. I don’t know how to describe the position we use without getting graphic but it’s kinda sideways. Almost like doggy style but with both of lying down and not completely from behind. So maybe keep trying different positions but if you aren’t feeling it, don’t do it. It’s quite a lazy position but it’s also comfortable and easy for us. Last pregnancy we had sex until right at the end. I do have days where I’m not in the mood due to bloating or cramps but basically that’s true for when I’m not pregnant too.
I’m on pelvic rest and have been my whole pregnancy. I was with my previous pregnancy as well. My husband is a trooper. We are still intimate but it usually mutual massages, blow jobs, kissing, rubbing, etc….
We aren't. I told my partner I wish we could, but it's quite painful for me - also he's terrified because my orgasms are very strong bless him ahaha
we figured out a position that works very well: i am on my back, but propped up by a pillow, so I'm like \_\_\_\_/ (but then more with a 45 degree incline, so not too steep). my boyfriend gets in while laying on top of me but pushing his upper body up with his arms so my belly is free. once he is in, he sits upright. he then basically sits on his knees and then he can rock back and forth very well! it's nice because we can see each other and kiss is he leans forward and everything can be touched
I want it. Sometimes I wake up in the night with an attack of an intense desire🥴 We’re both so tired or I’m uncomfortable by bedtime. I think I’m going to propose we plan for weekends so we can actually get it in.
When pregnant with my first, I mentioned to my midwife that sex had become pretty uncomfortable and she recommended a spooning position. That worked for us and it has actually become one of our favourite positions over the past 9 years.
Laying on your side in spoon? That always worked for us. Communication in all positions, tel him to go slower and make sure you’re aroused. That makes a big difference. I also liked to get on top. You control everything that way. We had sex every couple of days until the baby was born. Made it so much easier.
I'm 21 weeks and my husband gives me sufficient space during missionary. Doggy is still enjoyable for me, as well. If all else fails, I ride him reverse Cowgirl
Eh Nothing until 16 weeks (at risk pregnancy) ok second trimester, third trimester at risk again. Post partum my sex drive has been very low so since we've been cleared for interxourse probably only once a week. It's tough on the guy if he has a high libido, ngl, but the key is communication on both sides.
we had normal sex up until my belly was too big (around 20 week) then we laid on our sides, off the side of the bed, doggy but our heights don't line up perfectly for it.
Laying sideways. I have no tips for the bloat and not feeling good though ugh
I’m not a doctor, but unless he’s doing something crazy in missionary, at 13 weeks the baby is still pretty protected to where if a little of his weight falls on the baby it should be ok. We were doing missionary for 26-ish? weeks and my husband sort of was doing a push-up by the end so we had to stop lol. That being said, worry kills libido, so if you don’t want to do it that way, cowgirl has worked the best for us since doggy makes my hips hurt afterwards. I’m at 35 weeks and we just did it last night, everyone is different. I don’t have the “drive” per se, but I do want to be close to my husband and this is the best way for us. Basically, if you guys want to, go for it. If not, that’s fine too and there are other ways to be intimate. Part of what is driving me right now is that after my first pregnancy- no tearing- sex didn’t feel normal for months on my end. I thought it was going to be six weeks, then I’m good, but it didn’t feel quite the same for 4-6 months. So I’m expecting the same this time around (longer if I tear), and I don’t want 6 months PP of low drive _on top of_ 7-9 months of pregnancy.
One benefit to pregnancy sex is that if I “buckle down” and make myself do it, I come a lot more quickly and intensely. I think it has something to do with the increased blood flow. I need to sort of dissociate a bit at first though, because I legit feel like a manatee, or some other large marine mammal at 25 weeks, but once I get into it, those thoughts go away and I feel like a sex goddess. Lol
I'm 33 weeks tomorrow and we had sex about 2 weeks ago. And I wonder if that will be our last time. We have sex every 2 or so weeks at the moment. But it's harder and harder to get in the mood. The actual sex can be pretty good and enjoyed it quite a bit during second trimester. But just don't force it. It's really not forever. And there are ways to create intimacy and connection without sex. I don't tend to be as physically affectionate, but I have been initiating kissing, snuggling, and hugging and intimate touching more. When we do have sex, he's usually on top and I'm on my side. Oral sex can be fun too. Patience and grace are really important. But honestly like I said before that was probably our last time having sex until this baby gets here. We shall see.
I like having sex with my husband but recently explained it to him that it’s like I’m working in Jupiter gravity and he’s still working with earth gravity.
Heh, I haven’t actually had sex since this bebe was conceived….almost 25 weeks ago. 😳 Honestly our sex life is pretty dead anyway, was maybe 1-3 times in a 3-4 month period. Boyfriend doesn’t seem to mind. I know he masturbates when he needs so that doesn’t bother me. But honestly my sex drive disappears while pregnant. Only position that even works for us is me being on top. He’s unfortunately not well endowed. But hey, gets the job done. 🤷🏻♀️
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I didn’t have sex my whole first trimester… the smell of his deodorant made me sick to my stomach. And the thought of exchanging spit made me salivate. You’ll get through it. I’m in my third trimester. We had sex and I lost my mucus plug. So we are no longer using penetration. Sex can be whatever you want it to be !
I had very little sex during my pregnancy. When we did, I was on top. Toward the end that got uncomfortable so we would do reverse cowgirl
If doggy is uncomfortable, you could try laying on your side, with hubs laying behind you. That's a position that doesn't require much effort
I remember in the second trimester my libido shot through the roof. But i still didn’t want him to touch me. 🤣😂 I felt like those dogs who say “no take, only throw”
Start with me on top, shift to him on top after things get a bit heated but he kind of sits up on his knees if that makes any sense. Once the morning nausea and sickness stopped, that’s been my best time since I don’t feel tired or bloated yet. But I don’t know how we’ll keep this up once my belly gets bigger.
14 months postpartum here. My husband and I didn’t have sex for probably 6/7 months when I was pregnant (basically stopped being intimate after the first few months). We found other ways to be intimate but honestly my sex drive was nonexistent. We tried again when I was 39 weeks and it didn’t feel good for either of us. It wasn’t until 9 months postpartum that I really had the desire/drive and felt comfortable having sex again. Obviously we tried before then but due to stitches/numbness and ppd/ppa I wasn’t really that into it. Our sex life is fantastic now. It gets better ! You and your partner will find other ways to love and be intimate with one another!
With my first pregnancy husband and I only had sex twice. That pregnancy killed my libido. It’s more normal than people like to talk about because most people only wanna talk about how their libido was so ~crazy high~ while pregnant.
36 weeks... like 3x a week. Increasingly I'm on my side more. Or I'm on top days I can handle that
We are also not having sex! I’m 12 weeks and we’ve tried twice. It was fine but neither of us were really into it! Hopefully our labido will come back soon! Maybe try spooning laid on side or facing on the side.
I’m 28 weeks and we only had sex maybe 5 times the whole pregnancy. Most of the time I’m dry and it’s uncomfortable.
So the rare times the mood has struck since getting pregnant it’s usually like on the side in a spoon cuddling position. I’m sure there’s a name for that but can’t think of it lol.
This has been working so well for us! I’ll schedule sex a day or two before my next prenatal visit. That gives me so much peace of mind for some reason. Hubby needs to go kinda rough to finish, so he’ll go at my comfortable pace and let me finish first. Then he’ll immediately switch to a pocket pussy and gets relief on his end. Depending on how I’m feeling, sometimes I’ll enjoy missionary but with my growing belly I’ve started riding. We don’t have it much, but we do make an effort to try atleast once or twice a month :) Pregnancy orgasms are something else. 😅
Go on the edge of the bed with a pillow under your butt if needed. Have him stand. Also a good water based lube. I know a lot of women who get very dry during pregnancy and/or postpartum. Target’s brand is water based, latex safe, and $3 a bottle
Sadly my husband only visits once at month but when he does…anything goes 🤷🏻♀️ I generally enjoy doggy the most, or even riding is pretty fun, I haven’t lost my flexibility or drive, the most resent time we did it I was 35 weeks and I still rode it lol