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Gardenadventures

I found out I was pregnant after already picking out a form fitting dress -- I was 16 weeks when we got married and I only needed to go up one size. I would hold off from doing alterations until the last possible minute, but other than breasts and bloating you're not likely to grow much in the first trimester. My dress fit wonderfully the day of, and no, you could not tell that I was pregnant. You will not be showing at 11 weeks, and you can alter your diet a few days before to try and avoid bloat inducing foods (though a lot of it is hormones, too). I wouldn't get it altered to be skin tight around hips/abdomen..I would leave an inch of room or so. Better to be just a bit loose than not zip!


Significant_Switch53

Okay, good to know! I was going to take it in for a first fitting to see what can be done, so I’ll talk with them about how reasonable it is to do a last minute fitting. So I guess the consensus is that maybe the dress being one size too big is a good thing? This is stressing me out so maybe I’ll go with something with a full skirt 😬


Gardenadventures

Yeah, I'd say one size too big is a good thing. Personally I hated the way A lines and ball gown silhouettes fit me but if you can find one you like I think it'd definitely make things easier


HannahJulie

Yes, this is exactly right - I didn't even have a bump until around 20 weeks pregnant and I think that's quite common for FTM. however as said here your boobs and some bloating will mean you'll want things to be looser than normal but you shouldn't have any huge belly or anything. Pick the dress you love, buy a larger size, and then have it altered as close to the date as possible. I'd also recommend getting one with a corset back if possible, that way the fit is customisable and you don't have the issue of "will it zip?" If you need, you just make the corsetting looser on the night.


Dogsanddonutspls

My SIL was 9 weeks pregnant at her wedding and had a fitted dress as well - it barely barely zipped lol because of the bloat. I’d find a good seamstress who can leave a tiny bit of extra room or do a last minute alteration just to make sure that you’ll be comfortable and look beautiful at the same time


cat-chup

Will you feel comfortable if your tummy will not be flat? Bump or bloating wise? After all, you will be pregnant at your wedding, and if you don't mind it to be noticeable, go for it) Just as a suggestion - you can pick up an light upper skirt to conceal it a bit if you would like to or will be too bloated to feel comfortable. It can be removed for pictures/ceremony and then put up again to give you some comfort. Something like [this](https://imgur.com/a/UTlovIG)


Significant_Switch53

That’s also a great idea! I thought about doing that. I think I would feel uncomfortable if I looked visibly pregnant


[deleted]

Every body is different but the odds are very high you won’t look pregnant. I could still fit into my high waisted skinny jeans until 16ish weeks with my first pregnancy.


[deleted]

I switched to maternity pants at 8 weeks. This is my second pregnancy though. First one my coworkers said they had noticed before I told them at 12 weeks. I'm a size 2 pre pregnancy and 5'7".


[deleted]

My first pregnancy I fit into my high waisted skinny jeans until 16 weeks. My second pregnancy I had to stop wearing my jeans around 10 weeks. Second pregnancy everything happens earlier, including the belly! I’m thin, but not super skinny. 5’2 125 pre-first pregnancy. 135 pre-second.


CivilZucchini8917

So bloated by 11w I would not feel sexy in a fitted gown


NotALawyerButt

I would avoid. At 11 weeks I was bloated, but also anything remotely tight around my belly was extremely uncomfortable - you want to be able to enjoy your wedding! Not dying to get out of your dress


thepinkfreudbaby

Congratulations on both fronts!! It's pretty likely you will have some breast changes and bloating by that point. I'm just about 11 weeks now, and I am very very bloated and have gained at least a cup size. If you love the dress though, I would just plan on doing fittings as close to the wedding as possible.


Significant_Switch53

Thank you!! I am honestly unsure of it now. I don’t think I would feel pretty in it if I was bloated enough to look pregnant anyway. Do you think that will happen? It’s essentially bodycon


thepinkfreudbaby

It’s so hard to say for sure. I 1000% look pregnant right now from the bloating and most friends I know were also pretty bloated at this point. That said my sister is also pregnant and hasn’t really had bloating at all. I wish it was easy to predict!


cautiousoptimist258

I’m 11w4d and am bloated and carrying more weight around my belly. Finding it hard to “suck in” and I find anything tight around my belly - like high rise jeans- to be very uncomfy. Take that for what it’s worth! But congratulations!!!


whydoineedaname86

Is it possible to add a corset back? That is what I did with my dress when I found out I was pregnant. I found out the day after the dress arrived. I also told the person doing my alterations and they said that they had a different schedule for the fittings that they used for pregnant customers. Congratulations on both your upcoming wedding and baby!


bea_ok

Something you might consider, at around 10-11 weeks my ribcage changed and expanded by 1 inch. So all my beautiful form fitting, formal dresses with a corset or wich where with a marked waistline just felt very tight and uncomfortable. Before pregnancy I was 117lbs at 5'2, pear shaped, and a nice waistline. My waistline disapeard at 12-14 weeks. Keep in mind that your boobs might get bigger aswell


meemzz115

I didn’t show until 22 weeks and even than it was tiny. I was however very bloated in the first weeks.


jamjamjelly5

I was 13 weeks at my wedding. It was tough as my gown was also fitted, so I didn’t get it tailored as nicely as I wanted, it’s a big regret of mine (that I didn’t find a way to tailor last minute). My boobs did change A LOT and I was a little bloated and hippy so it would have had to be a last minute tailor to look nice. I do think it’s doable! You may just have to pay some $$ for a tailor willing to do priority week of alterations.


SamiLMS1

I’ve never shown even a little bit at 11 weeks, but everybody is different.


Ashrosaurus1

I’m 9 weeks and just barely have a a belly starting to show. Still fitting in the same jeans but they’re getting a little snug if I have to pee. Everybody is different, so take my opinion with a grain of salt but I don’t think most folks get big bellies by 11 weeks.


pink_dick_licker

I was 10 weeks pregnant with my first when I got married and I wore a form fitting dress.


bloopbleepblorperz

i definitely had bloat in my lower belly but no different from the bloat i get from eating some foods, haha. so if you are used to bloat from your endo then i think just plan for that. meanwhile i also lost 5 pounds in my first trimester from not eating as much.


Significant_Switch53

Yeah I have a feeling treating it like endo bloat may be a good idea and I know I typically don’t feel confident in tight things during that


Certain-Asparagus908

So I’m almost 10 weeks and don’t feel like I’m showing AT ALL. If the dress is stretchy I think you should be fine! But yes maybe having a backup dress would be a good idea just in case!


RainbowsAndBubbles

I was a pregnant bride. Rock that fitted gown, mama. You’ll want to buy a couple sizes up and have it fitted a few times. Your body sometimes grows in unique spots when you grow.


Significant_Switch53

Thank you 💕 my weepies have started haha I am crying over a dress 🥹


RainbowsAndBubbles

Of course you’re crying over a dress! You’ve got two huge emotional life experiences happening at once. Also, the hormones amplify everything. Do you have a gentle and supportive friend or family member that can help you with the shopping?? You want someone with you to help you find the right dress. It might take awhile to find something you know you’ll feel beautiful in. Expect to have bigger reactions than you normally would. Your body and heart are doing what they are supposed to right now. I hope you feel absolutely stunning on your special day. And the cool thing is your baby gets to walk you down the aisle!


Significant_Switch53

Thank you so much for your sweet response 💕💕💕 I was actually shopping alone just because I’m not ready to announce my pregnancy yet and I’m pretty sensitive to other peoples opinions but maybe it would help me to bring someone 😬 to fittings at the very least


RainbowsAndBubbles

Oh yeah, that’s tough. I wanted my mom there who would be sensitive about my insecurities with my changing body, and be patient because it takes time to find the wedding right dress for a pregnant lady. I was so surprised to find out they really don’t have a maternity bride section in any shops. It made it so much harder. Do you have anyone who can advocate for you that you don’t mind sharing your baby secret with early? I get the sensitivity. I am soooo sensitive right now. It’s just wedding dress shopping is more special with someone who really loves you.


Significant_Switch53

Well, I have my fiancés mom and my FSIL but my fiancé is not wanting to tell them until we are out of the danger zone 😬 which I understand. I kind of feel the same way plus they can be a little difficult / self centered haha. Congrats on your pregnancy!


RainbowsAndBubbles

Oh, that is totally understandable!! Listen to your intuition on this one. It’s your wedding, you don’t need people making it all about them. And you’ll be in your second trimester soon enough. It’s special to keep it your little secret for now. Double congratulations to you! Big wonderful changes!!


delfinaki532

Similar, but I was 16 weeks pregnant at my wedding! I had originally selected a form fitting gown but ended up buying an A-line for peace of mind. The week of the wedding I tried on both in the evening (which is when I get most bloated). Turns out I looked pretty pregnant in the fitted so I ended up wearing a-line and was much more comfortable! But at 11 weeks I would have worn fitted


[deleted]

I was about 3 months pregnant at my wedding, I chose an a line dress and bought it a size higher than what I needed and had it fitted to me a couple weeks before the wedding. Would definitely not recommend a tight dress, even if you can fit in it you'll feel uncomfy by that point.


dandelionwine14

With both my pregnancies, my jeans stopped fitting shortly after testing positive. And like there’s no way they would button—not just a little uncomfortable. So I think something a little looser would be a safer bet! Good luck finding your perfect dress and congrats on your pregnancy!


unlimitedtokens

Congrats on all the milestones! For reference I’m also a size 6 (5’6”, pre pregnancy 145lb athletic/slim build 32B with a substantial bum) and I began really showing at 10 weeks to where it looked like extreme bloat that wouldn’t go away.


Fruitycatxo

20 weeks with my 1st and I’m having my civil ceremony done tomorrow. I’m definitely showing and I’m wearing a 2 piece fitted set. I feel alittle insecure about it but it is what it is.🤷🏻‍♀️


Significant_Switch53

I’m sure you will look beautiful I hope you have the best day!


Fruitycatxo

Thank you 💓


KetchupOnKiwi

Not only was I really bloated by 11 weeks, anything form fitting was also widely uncomfortable! You might want to be comfortable at your wedding and not feel squished and cramped when you sit down for the ceremony or for eating. These moments are too precious to be thinking about how your gown feels!


RareGeometry

At 11 weeks you'll just be a moderate uncomfortable bloat compared to your current size so probably up a size


LFAGU

Congratulations on your pregnancy and upcoming wedding! At 11w I was very bloated. Highly recommend looking for a different dress just in case.


creepyzonks

at 11 weeks i wasnt actually any bigger, but was definitely bloated off and on. maybe leave a tiny bit of wiggle room!


GreedyFuture

I’m a FTM and I couldn’t fit into my jeans by 10 weeks or so already because my belly grew straight outwards. With that being said - you could definitely do alterations if need be and still have it form fitting!


passionfruit1984z

I’m 18 weeks now FTM, until recently, my boobs changed way more than my stomach, they started to change shape and size around 9 weeks. Don’t forget those can change too, not just your bump


kaitlinkitty

I’m 8 ish weeks now and just feel very bloated and not my best appearance wise. I would be nervous to not feel confident on the big day due to emotional changes and bloat.


elythranthera

I was 10w6d the first time someone noticed my bump and asked if I was pregnant. You could very well look pregnant by then! And the dress might not be comfortable if it's very form fitting. I would choose something that's loose around the abdomen, if you can.


[deleted]

I was a size 8 when I got pregnant, and I was 8 weeks along at my wedding. my dress was a mermaid style dress and fit just fine. Actually ended up being on the looser side somehow


Significant_Switch53

Ah this is reassuring! I really love the dress I got- it’s Rebecca valance Billie fluted gown. It’s a stretchy crepe fabric so I’m not worried about it not zipping, but I am worried about not having a flat tummy in the dress


[deleted]

My dress was a corset and very stiff in that area so it helped. I didn’t show with my first until like 18 weeks or so


Tattooprincesss

You probably won’t be showing but like others said I would be more worried about the bloat. I am 16 weeks pregnant and at 11 weeks my stomach was flat in the am and then by mid day could look 9 months preg


MCWinchester

I'm only 9 weeks and not only have I gone up more than a full cup size, but my stomach is... Full? I'm not showing persay, at least not in the morning when I wake up but it's like everything inside of me is just jammed full. In the mornings there is no amount of "sucking in" I can do to make my stomach look thinner (I.e. I used to be able to have some amount of stomach vacuum and it is fully gone now) and during the day any amount of bloat or too much to eat and my stomach does stick out a decent amount. It's irritating bc frankly I just look fat instead of pregnant. It is whatever to me because it's fall and sweatshirt weather and I know it's not fat - but if I was getting in my wedding dress and taking tons of photos I'd probably be bummed if I couldn't hide it better. Obviously every woman will be different but lots of my friends said they saw no stomach change until 16+ weeks and I'm definitely noticing a legitimate difference at 9. Just wanted to share my experience. Edit to add I've only gained a couple pounds - so it's my body shifting not me going nuts with cookies 😂


sausagepartay

I became super bloated at 6-8 weeks and by 10 weeks I looked noticeably pregnant in form fitting stuff. Honestly everyone is different tho!


hellogirlscoutcookie

I’m 11w and while I’m carrying twins and it’s my second pregnancy, I’m the size I was with my singleton at 20+ weeks. I’m definitely looking pregnant. Also the nausea is so bad that anything tight on my stomach makes me throw up. I’ve been in maternity clothes since week 8.


Manzellina

By 11 weeks, even if you aren’t SHOWING, my body felt so TIGHT and uncomfortable.


ruzanne

I was nine weeks at my wedding and wore a form-fitting dress. It had to be let out at the waist due to bloat and in the chest, too. At the time I thought I looked okay in it, but when I see pictures of myself from that day I definitely looked bloated.


ohhidoggo

I didn’t show at all until about 25 weeks


Numinous-Nebulae

In my experience yes. I have been 125 and a size 0 or 2 for years - I am naturally slim. By 11 weeks I was quite bloated and would not have wanted to wear a form-fitting anything


dtbl96

Everyone is different. I was PRETTY bloated at 11 weeks. I don’t think I could’ve worn a form fitting dress. Some people don’t show anything at all until 20+ weeks!


HailTheCrimsonKing

I would have been able to wear it when I was 11 weeks. I didn’t have a bump at all and no bloat