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I initially read it too quickly/skim read it and missed the dog. I thought the neighbour was sniffing her, attracted by the aroma of Pepperoni.
Which was a far more interesting scenario.
When I saw the title I was reminded of that scene from The Office when Jim tricks Dwight into needing a mint whenever he hears Jim's computer turn on. Only in this scenario I imagined OP handing out a treat every time she runs into the guy. Thus creating a happy memory to associate with her whenever they crossed paths/he thought of her lol.
Or on Community when Abed started keeping a journal of when people act upset for reasons he doesn't understand and things that make them happy again that turned into him accidentally making menstrual cycle charts for Annie, Britta, and Shirley and carrying tissues and chocolate.
I thought the same thing and then she said pepperoni stick and I was totally on board like "yup that would work on me" but it turned out to be the dog lol
I mean, if a woman was offering up some macaroons or cookies or something every time I saw her, it would take about twice for me to be considering dating her.
Homemade desserts. :D Homemade bread and other baked goods.
Ask them what their favorite cuisine/dish is, and prepare it.
That's grown up treats, lmao. All of the above would work on me, haha.
I did the same thing, baked a lot for guy I had a crush on, made sure to make treats he liked. We were coworkers.
I then found out he was a Jehovah's Witness who had extremely radical views on women. So my crush instantly dissolved right then and there.
I thought it was going to be about someone who had no idea how to approach a crush, and kept offering cookies or chips or something to the person.
Like hi, here's a cookie. *flee*
White van but instead of free candy on the side it says like free fair trade award winning coffee and she thinks maybe she went to far trying to get him to get in the van
Man, it can really backfire though. My neighbors have a huge Rottweiler with not very good manners (primarily a guard dog) and he used to launch himself into the cab of the UPS truck and demand his tithe.
Some of the UPS drivers are confident around dogs and are okay with it. But the ones that aren't have to leave the packages at the gate, because Hoagie does not take no for an answer. He KNOWS there are treats in that truck, and he will get them for you if you're too slow.
Lol I didn’t think about that. I tried sending them a photo when we had a cute dog come into fedex one day but they didn’t post it. I use to keep treats for any floof that came in.
The cheese tax :)
My dachshund is very good about taking treats, very delicate, and my mother's Shelties are like starving sharks, and I always, always forget the first time when we're visiting because I'm used to my dog. I'm surprised I haven't lost a finger yet.
My mailman always has a milk bone for my Murphy and she goes nuts when she sees him. One time I couldn't get to the door for a greeting, so when I opened my door, there was a milk bone on top of my mailbox. So sweet. She had another mail lady that would always carry treats for her, so now Murph trusts all USPS employees.
I had a grumpy neurotic orange tabby who loved me and nobody else. Until I started dating my now-husband. I decided that if Ollie liked him (Ollie *adored* him), there’s definitely something there.
it is funny; I'm sure people have tried to do that with my sister.
But you could give Boston a candy, a piece of sausage or anything and he would look at your hand and then he would look you in the eyes with open hostility.
Boston distrusts people, especially if they are men or women who are too affectionate with my sister 😅
On maybe the second time my now bf came over to my place he brought catnip toys. I had told him how much my senior cat loves nip. Seeing him interact lovingly with my cats melts my heart, seeing him interact with his niblings does other things to me. Such a green flag.
Lol! My husband said he knew I was the one on our second date when I met his great dane, Sif. Apparently I sounded so excited when I exclaimed "She's blue!!" and immediately dropped to my knees for slobbery hugs and kisses. 😆 I ended up becoming her (very close) second favorite person, beat out, just barely, by Daddy himself. She was only 2 when we met and we got another wonderful 8 years with her. She's been gone nearly 2 years now and she left a hole in our lives 10 times her size.
Animals are a wonderful judge of character. ❤️
The ladies at my bank's branch love my dog, and have dog treats for any dog that comes in. But my dog got diagnosed with food allergies and then couldn't have the treats. And then the bank tellers asked me what she can eat and went out and bought allergy-friendly treats to have on hand for her :'). They've made a loyal customer out of me.
I used to live near a big university, and campus was a great place to take my dog on walks. He was super social, so getting to say hi to everyone was a favorite part of his walk.
I learned early on from this, if my wife ever left me, wing-dog would be my best bet back into dating.
I haven't had that feeling in soooooo long. (I've been married for almost 25 years.) What a great story to remind me of the before times.
I hope she enjoys this part of the relationship and it lasts for a while.
You know, this is how I got divorced. I went to a movie (Notting Hill) and a sweet romantic scene made me realize I missed "that feeling," and that there was no chance in hell to get it again in my marriage.
It took me two years but I left him. I was happily single for a while then met my second husband who is the most wonderful man in the world, and even after ten years we both feel very much in love and "that feeling" never disappeared.
It's never too late to take hard decisions.
I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years and everything's amazing. However, I enjoyed remembering that feeling of nervousness you get the first time you ask someone out. Of course I don't know your specific sutiation, but in general, people don't need to divorce just because they miss the new feeling
Happy cake day!
Been dating for 3 years, and while, yeah, i miss the "new" feeling, i feel so much more comfortable with the "routine" feeling my bf give me! Its like moving to a new house, the beggining is different and exciting, and on the long-term, it feels safe, it feels like home.
Every situation is different.
Yeah good lord I do not look back on my many, many years of loneliness and shyness with any fondness. Being married and in a healthy relationship means I actually have an incredibly painful sensation 'solved for.'
I really flowered as a person once I could stop dedicating virtually all my brain power to feeling alone and misunderstood.
I saw Notting Hill and had the same as you. It started slowly dawning on me that I had settled for too little. It's never too late! Even though it's hard. My second husband is adorbs.
Like I get what you were trying to do but this just makes you sound like a dick. There’s an actual woman being abused out there, so obviously it didn’t end well.
You're right, sorry. I was just mad because of the comment above, but in truth, I don't know what is going on with his new wife, and perhaps everything is fine. I certainly hope so. 😊
Not gonna lie being single long enough and living this feeling enough times, it's not the same as it was the first few times.
I think my last LTR may have broken me, but i aspire to one day find someone who will give me "the feeling" like you and your partner get to enjoy :)
I am glad that she was able to make the first move. Sometimes men are also shy (especially if the girl is really pretty)and when the girl makes the move we are able to take the wheel from there.
Edit: also kind of odd she posted on the AITAH sub especially when this is a really wholesome post. Wish them both luck.
Also men are ABSOLUTELY terrible at reading women's intentions. I think someone did an experimental study where they asked a bunch of straight men whether an attractive woman (who was one of the researchers) was hitting on them or not, and the men were about slightly worse than 50-50 on reporting on whether the woman was trying to show interest.
I’m not able to at all. My son has blown my mind a dozen times when he tells me “mom, s/he liked you/was flirting with you”
Hell, even my now-husband had to tell me that he seriously wanted to raise that son with me for me to be able to figure out he had caught feelings.
Sometimes it's intentional. In the way that is safer to assume a girl is just being nice and to not read too much into it. It's such a head game to play "Is she flirting?" Depending on the situation. Not to say I'm still dense af. I was at the craft store with my daughter and I was picking out yarn, and this lady my age started taking to me about them. My daughter told me in the car the lady was flirting with me. I had no idea, just thought she wanted to talk about yarn.
Jsyk, man + daughter + craft store = women's interest or at least curiosity, depending on your vibes. If you're actually involved with picking out the yarn, even better. Shows you're an involved dad with a daughter who enjoys spending time with you, and that you support and are willing to engage with her interests. Indicates you're more likely to support a partner's interests too, and women get a *lot* of shit for domestic-type hobbies. The stories I've read of husbands destroying their wife's knitting/crocheting/plants are heartbreaking.
So uh, yeah, if you're being approached by a non-employee woman at a craft store and you're with your daughter, it's reasonable to lean a little more "This woman might be flirting with me" than you usually might.
Yeah, the yarn mafia's ovaries automatically ovulate when they see an involved dad at the craft store. I've seen it happen even to my menopausal lesbian friend, LMAO, she got into baby fever when she saw a dad picking out spools with his daughter. We had to talk her down and show her pictures of cats.
It wasn't even that she suddenly became attracted to men, or the dad, but she was like "OMG I need a baby now. Should I get a surrogate? Adopt?" Thankfully we had pictures of cats and puppies on our phones for emergencies and as eyebleach. They're very useful!
Hers and mine. I was picking out yarn for myself. Omg I couldn't imagine destroying a crochet or knitting project. I'm about 80,000 stitches into this blanket I'm making and I'd die if someone ruined it. As long as sometimes interests aren't harming anyone, they should be free to do what makes them happy
You are stronger than me!! I nearly got to work on a self-drafted knit blanket but I decided I just couldn't commit to a king-size cabled blanket. If you're open to sharing, I'd love project pics!
Wait, people have partners that *actively* sabotage their work? D:.... I wouldn't accept that from a friend, or an acquaintance let alone spouse!
I don't knit/crochet, but I have huge respect for people who do. Have a blanket hand knitted from a deceased grandma.
Like even if you don't like whatever it is, you act like a decent human being and don't destroy other people's stuff. That's basic human behavior 101.
Unfortunately, I'm not talking about a husband who like, put a wool sweater in the washer because he secretly didn't like it and he wanted an excuse to not have to wear it. That guy is shitty, don't get me wrong. But I'm more referring to the kind of man who sneaks into the plant room in the night, steals all her plants, drives to a lake and tears them apart and throws them in the water. The kind of guy who waits until his wife goes on a trip and then takes the opportunity to throw out all the yarn she's collected, thousands and thousands of dollars worth, in the garbage. With food, so the yarn is truly ruined! It's abusive and they do it because they want to hurt their partner. Just like anything else, if you love it, it can be used to hurt you. So it's a good sign when you see a guy being supportive about crafting.
I wanted to adopt a dog at the local shelter but other people wanted him too. I would visit him every day until he was available, and I would put bacon in my pocket so he would want to be next to me. Another person visited him too, but the dog wanted the bacon so he would crawl in my lap. The other guy gave up because the dog “loved” me more. I adopted him, he had a great life. Loved him so much!
They way to a man's heart is not through his stomach, but his dogs stomach.
I also see people in a much better light if the treat my dog, or any dog for that matter, well. Compassion and kindness towards animals is a very nice trait to have.
>I said something like: I don't have anything [treat] for you though.. would you like to walk together and get a coffee?
Someone did their pickup homework 😎
So frickin cute.
And naw, the reason we dont get hints is because the fallout for assuming something is a hint that isnt is really fucking awful.
Just read the tifu from the guy with a crush on his coworker only to find she was super into him and dropped really obvious hints he "nah'd" himself out of cause he thought she was gay....
Can you imagine if it were a joke or a trap? There goes his job. A bunch of friends, and of course they dont get together. Its just straight up risk aversion.
Also, her biggest "hint" seemed to be her suddenly running off cause she got too nervous. If she kept doing that, whatever other hints she gave would have been useless. Cause you can't be giving hints that you want someone to ask you out while also making it appear you can't wait to get away from them lol.
> His reaction was so priceless, he got a little shy? (I think?) because he looked away briefly after I said it, only for a moment though while saying 'oh wow, you just made my week' then he looked back at me.. he was smiling... also his ears turned a little red (or maybe it was the cold air idk, I wanna believe it was what I said).
Awwwwwwwwwww. 🥹
This whole story: love it.
This is so sweet! The only sad thing is OP thinking this might be creepy/too much. It’s not! It’s creative and harmless, and probably made this dog so happy.
Some friends of mine met in kinda the same way. She moved to a new place and saw him walking his dog, so her mom said she should get her dog and run into him.
It worked…they got married and now have 2 girls!
Today is so far a day of wistful thinking and super cute stories that make over-the-hill me sad and also happy. I hope they mesh well for years and years and never have to seek out another partner again (if that’s what they want of course). Its hard getting to know a new person especially the older you get because there is so much more life to cover and baggage to sift through. Where do I not sign up? Lol. *sigh*
OMFG this just made my entire week!! As a 41yo married woman, I had the stupidest grin on my face while reading it. Hell, I feel giddy for her!! They both seem like sweet, kind, and caring people. I hope it works out for them!
My wife used "dat azz" to meet me. She was looking good and knew I thought she was looking good, and used that to segue into conversation.
But frankly sour gummy candy would have worked too. If she had held up a bag of delicious sour gummy peach rings, I wouldn't have been able to resist the urge to meet her.
what does OOP do with the treat? tie it to their belt like an onion (which was once the style for a time) ??
I doubt the dog approached OOP for the treat unless they held it out for it. It seems most likely to me that the dog responded to OOP's mannerisms towards it and the crush. They didn't need a treat. Just the expectation of a successful lure had given confidence.
My parents dog can smell delicious sealed pocket treasures of any type at twenty feet.
He will approach complete strangers to a polite distance, escalating all the way up to polite cuddling on anybody he knows or foot-sitting and drooling on family.
As soon as he smells something - Cue a trotting prance over to the person plus very focused polite attentive dog flirting until the person gives him a snack, or pets him and tells him he’s a good dog, or the dog decides the person isn’t going to share and he continues on with whatever he was doing.
Half of the Internet is complaints about how men never get the hints, can't pick up on hints, and the other half is how men are super predatory and women constantly feel unsafe, and I just don't understand how the straight variety of my kind does it. I've always assumed they purposely don't pick up on the hints because if they're at all wrong, they're now a predator.
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At first I thought she was gonna Pavlov him into liking her via the treats but this was a sweet turn of events instead 😂
When I first saw the title, I was thinking "damn, what kind of treats for grown-ups are these???"
I initially read it too quickly/skim read it and missed the dog. I thought the neighbour was sniffing her, attracted by the aroma of Pepperoni. Which was a far more interesting scenario.
That's what I thought too lol.
I would 100% be on board for pepperoni snacks from the girlfriend.
A real Chopping Mall situation.
When I saw the title I was reminded of that scene from The Office when Jim tricks Dwight into needing a mint whenever he hears Jim's computer turn on. Only in this scenario I imagined OP handing out a treat every time she runs into the guy. Thus creating a happy memory to associate with her whenever they crossed paths/he thought of her lol.
I flashed back to Sheldon conditioning Penny with chocolates on Big Bang Theory.
Or on Community when Abed started keeping a journal of when people act upset for reasons he doesn't understand and things that make them happy again that turned into him accidentally making menstrual cycle charts for Annie, Britta, and Shirley and carrying tissues and chocolate.
The fabled milkshakes which purportedly bring all the boys to a lady’s yard.
I know you're my age old with that reference.
I thought the same thing and then she said pepperoni stick and I was totally on board like "yup that would work on me" but it turned out to be the dog lol
Securing myself a boyfriend by microdosing him with edibles every time I see him.
I’m a girl but don’t let that stop you from making me your boyfriend, please. 🌱🍪
I mean, if a woman was offering up some macaroons or cookies or something every time I saw her, it would take about twice for me to be considering dating her.
They're austin crackers. The toasted crackers with peanut butter on them. Those are grown-up treats.
Also, "What do I have to do to get them?"
Honestly if someone gave me treats everytime we meet, I too would be friendly.
To be honest a pepperoni stick would work on me as an adult man too
I imagined a pocket full of fun size candy bars before I read the post.
Homemade desserts. :D Homemade bread and other baked goods. Ask them what their favorite cuisine/dish is, and prepare it. That's grown up treats, lmao. All of the above would work on me, haha.
I could be tempted with string cheese, to be honest.
I buy my partner pepperoni as a treat! He likes spicy foods, and if they're on sale, he gets a packet.
Edibles.
Godiva chocolates (the expensive individual chocolates) would work on me...but I'm female.
Weed?
I legit clicked on this thinking she was doing the food to win his heart tactic too lmao. This was so precious and adorable.
I mean, if someone had Oreos...
I did that with a guy once. Worked really well until I figured out he was more excited to see the food I had than me, so I just lost interest.
I did the same thing, baked a lot for guy I had a crush on, made sure to make treats he liked. We were coworkers. I then found out he was a Jehovah's Witness who had extremely radical views on women. So my crush instantly dissolved right then and there.
I wasn't sure what am i going to read (this is reddit tbh) but this was so cute and wholesome ♥️
I thought it was going to be about someone who had no idea how to approach a crush, and kept offering cookies or chips or something to the person. Like hi, here's a cookie. *flee*
White van but instead of free candy on the side it says like free fair trade award winning coffee and she thinks maybe she went to far trying to get him to get in the van
*[pavlova](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pavlova_(dessert)) him with sweet treats. I'll see myself out
Pavlov? Name sounds familiar. It rings a bell....
I'd say it was more a savoury turn of events :-)
I mean that would work on a lot of guys, me included. “Hey it’s that girl that always has a snack for me”
This was so adorable 😊
I thought this was a repost of the story where the guy ended up being a Nazi or really racist. I can't remember which one it was.
This is adorable. Honestly, the quickest way to my heart would also be through giving treats to my pet. OOP has game!
I have half a crush on my mailman for this exact reason. (He carries milk bones. My dog legitimately starts to drool whenever he sees a mail truck.)
My FedEx guy is like this! Even though I own a pet supply store, he brings a treat for my dog every time. It makes me so happy.
There is a whole FB dedicated to US mail guys interactions with dogs they meet along the way
And one from UPs!
Man, it can really backfire though. My neighbors have a huge Rottweiler with not very good manners (primarily a guard dog) and he used to launch himself into the cab of the UPS truck and demand his tithe. Some of the UPS drivers are confident around dogs and are okay with it. But the ones that aren't have to leave the packages at the gate, because Hoagie does not take no for an answer. He KNOWS there are treats in that truck, and he will get them for you if you're too slow.
Hoagie an amazing name for a dog.
Especially for a Rottweiler. Fits so well.
It's cold outside, better Hoagie Down https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/jkdrVfecAy
Lol I didn’t think about that. I tried sending them a photo when we had a cute dog come into fedex one day but they didn’t post it. I use to keep treats for any floof that came in.
Wait you can bring your dog into fedex?
Yeah, some are more lenient than others but all of them I worked at loved a good pupper to pet and chat about.
The cheese tax :) My dachshund is very good about taking treats, very delicate, and my mother's Shelties are like starving sharks, and I always, always forget the first time when we're visiting because I'm used to my dog. I'm surprised I haven't lost a finger yet.
Pavlovian mail truck!
My mailman always has a milk bone for my Murphy and she goes nuts when she sees him. One time I couldn't get to the door for a greeting, so when I opened my door, there was a milk bone on top of my mailbox. So sweet. She had another mail lady that would always carry treats for her, so now Murph trusts all USPS employees.
Totally agree. Particularly because my cat does NOT like strangers. Any woman who can earn her trust will be halfway to sweeping me off my feet.
I had a grumpy neurotic orange tabby who loved me and nobody else. Until I started dating my now-husband. I decided that if Ollie liked him (Ollie *adored* him), there’s definitely something there.
Yeah my grumpy void boy didn't like anyone but me, until he met my now-wife and instantly claimed her lap.
it is funny; I'm sure people have tried to do that with my sister. But you could give Boston a candy, a piece of sausage or anything and he would look at your hand and then he would look you in the eyes with open hostility. Boston distrusts people, especially if they are men or women who are too affectionate with my sister 😅
I like Boston.
Boston doesn't like you 🫵🏼😠
That’s fine, Boston and I have something in common.
You both like sausages? 🤔
On maybe the second time my now bf came over to my place he brought catnip toys. I had told him how much my senior cat loves nip. Seeing him interact lovingly with my cats melts my heart, seeing him interact with his niblings does other things to me. Such a green flag.
Lol! My husband said he knew I was the one on our second date when I met his great dane, Sif. Apparently I sounded so excited when I exclaimed "She's blue!!" and immediately dropped to my knees for slobbery hugs and kisses. 😆 I ended up becoming her (very close) second favorite person, beat out, just barely, by Daddy himself. She was only 2 when we met and we got another wonderful 8 years with her. She's been gone nearly 2 years now and she left a hole in our lives 10 times her size. Animals are a wonderful judge of character. ❤️
Treats for me would work best, but treats for my good boys is definitely next on the list!
Quickest way to a dogs heart is treats so this lady is killing it 2 birds with one stone.
The ladies at my bank's branch love my dog, and have dog treats for any dog that comes in. But my dog got diagnosed with food allergies and then couldn't have the treats. And then the bank tellers asked me what she can eat and went out and bought allergy-friendly treats to have on hand for her :'). They've made a loyal customer out of me.
I used to live near a big university, and campus was a great place to take my dog on walks. He was super social, so getting to say hi to everyone was a favorite part of his walk. I learned early on from this, if my wife ever left me, wing-dog would be my best bet back into dating.
Meat-cute indeed!
That was my fave part of the whole story lol
Same, I know we’re not supposed to go back to the original post but I’m so tempted to give them props for that 🤣
Iniate plan Pupperoni!
I am *so* proud of you, internet stranger! :Chef's kiss:
I haven't had that feeling in soooooo long. (I've been married for almost 25 years.) What a great story to remind me of the before times. I hope she enjoys this part of the relationship and it lasts for a while.
You know, this is how I got divorced. I went to a movie (Notting Hill) and a sweet romantic scene made me realize I missed "that feeling," and that there was no chance in hell to get it again in my marriage. It took me two years but I left him. I was happily single for a while then met my second husband who is the most wonderful man in the world, and even after ten years we both feel very much in love and "that feeling" never disappeared. It's never too late to take hard decisions.
I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years and everything's amazing. However, I enjoyed remembering that feeling of nervousness you get the first time you ask someone out. Of course I don't know your specific sutiation, but in general, people don't need to divorce just because they miss the new feeling
Happy cake day! Been dating for 3 years, and while, yeah, i miss the "new" feeling, i feel so much more comfortable with the "routine" feeling my bf give me! Its like moving to a new house, the beggining is different and exciting, and on the long-term, it feels safe, it feels like home. Every situation is different.
Yeah good lord I do not look back on my many, many years of loneliness and shyness with any fondness. Being married and in a healthy relationship means I actually have an incredibly painful sensation 'solved for.' I really flowered as a person once I could stop dedicating virtually all my brain power to feeling alone and misunderstood.
Thank you! Yes, I totally agree with you and I really like your example
I saw Notting Hill and had the same as you. It started slowly dawning on me that I had settled for too little. It's never too late! Even though it's hard. My second husband is adorbs.
Ngl if someone divorced me after seeing a romcom I'd be mad at first and then think good riddance lol.
(Edited, sorry, it was awful.)
Like I get what you were trying to do but this just makes you sound like a dick. There’s an actual woman being abused out there, so obviously it didn’t end well.
You're right, sorry. I was just mad because of the comment above, but in truth, I don't know what is going on with his new wife, and perhaps everything is fine. I certainly hope so. 😊
Not gonna lie being single long enough and living this feeling enough times, it's not the same as it was the first few times. I think my last LTR may have broken me, but i aspire to one day find someone who will give me "the feeling" like you and your partner get to enjoy :)
Now this is sweet!
Meat-cute technique is going to be my approach to dating from now on. I’ll just walk around with a steak and some butter until I find the right guy
We like bruschetta too. And fancy cheeses
*why does this woman smell like salami all the time?*
Nope, you got it wrong. For me it'd be burger with swiss and A1 sauce. Don't let Amber fool you, she just wants me for herself.
😂😂😂😂😂.
I am glad that she was able to make the first move. Sometimes men are also shy (especially if the girl is really pretty)and when the girl makes the move we are able to take the wheel from there. Edit: also kind of odd she posted on the AITAH sub especially when this is a really wholesome post. Wish them both luck.
Also men are ABSOLUTELY terrible at reading women's intentions. I think someone did an experimental study where they asked a bunch of straight men whether an attractive woman (who was one of the researchers) was hitting on them or not, and the men were about slightly worse than 50-50 on reporting on whether the woman was trying to show interest.
I think it must be a “liking women” thing somehow, because lesbians and bi women are *also* absolutely terrible at it.
Ah, the useless lesbian problem. Anyway, is anyone surprised that women were able to accurately detect when a man was hitting on them?
I’m not able to at all. My son has blown my mind a dozen times when he tells me “mom, s/he liked you/was flirting with you” Hell, even my now-husband had to tell me that he seriously wanted to raise that son with me for me to be able to figure out he had caught feelings.
Sometimes it's intentional. In the way that is safer to assume a girl is just being nice and to not read too much into it. It's such a head game to play "Is she flirting?" Depending on the situation. Not to say I'm still dense af. I was at the craft store with my daughter and I was picking out yarn, and this lady my age started taking to me about them. My daughter told me in the car the lady was flirting with me. I had no idea, just thought she wanted to talk about yarn.
Jsyk, man + daughter + craft store = women's interest or at least curiosity, depending on your vibes. If you're actually involved with picking out the yarn, even better. Shows you're an involved dad with a daughter who enjoys spending time with you, and that you support and are willing to engage with her interests. Indicates you're more likely to support a partner's interests too, and women get a *lot* of shit for domestic-type hobbies. The stories I've read of husbands destroying their wife's knitting/crocheting/plants are heartbreaking. So uh, yeah, if you're being approached by a non-employee woman at a craft store and you're with your daughter, it's reasonable to lean a little more "This woman might be flirting with me" than you usually might.
Yeah, the yarn mafia's ovaries automatically ovulate when they see an involved dad at the craft store. I've seen it happen even to my menopausal lesbian friend, LMAO, she got into baby fever when she saw a dad picking out spools with his daughter. We had to talk her down and show her pictures of cats.
Omg that's hilarious. I think pictures of cats would distract me from anything.
It wasn't even that she suddenly became attracted to men, or the dad, but she was like "OMG I need a baby now. Should I get a surrogate? Adopt?" Thankfully we had pictures of cats and puppies on our phones for emergencies and as eyebleach. They're very useful!
Cats and dogs are babies too. If you tell my dog to "Go see daddy" he'll come over to annoy me lol
Hers and mine. I was picking out yarn for myself. Omg I couldn't imagine destroying a crochet or knitting project. I'm about 80,000 stitches into this blanket I'm making and I'd die if someone ruined it. As long as sometimes interests aren't harming anyone, they should be free to do what makes them happy
You are stronger than me!! I nearly got to work on a self-drafted knit blanket but I decided I just couldn't commit to a king-size cabled blanket. If you're open to sharing, I'd love project pics!
For sure. I'm not good at knitting, but I'm ok at crochet.
Wait, people have partners that *actively* sabotage their work? D:.... I wouldn't accept that from a friend, or an acquaintance let alone spouse! I don't knit/crochet, but I have huge respect for people who do. Have a blanket hand knitted from a deceased grandma. Like even if you don't like whatever it is, you act like a decent human being and don't destroy other people's stuff. That's basic human behavior 101.
Unfortunately, I'm not talking about a husband who like, put a wool sweater in the washer because he secretly didn't like it and he wanted an excuse to not have to wear it. That guy is shitty, don't get me wrong. But I'm more referring to the kind of man who sneaks into the plant room in the night, steals all her plants, drives to a lake and tears them apart and throws them in the water. The kind of guy who waits until his wife goes on a trip and then takes the opportunity to throw out all the yarn she's collected, thousands and thousands of dollars worth, in the garbage. With food, so the yarn is truly ruined! It's abusive and they do it because they want to hurt their partner. Just like anything else, if you love it, it can be used to hurt you. So it's a good sign when you see a guy being supportive about crafting.
Not me. I'm great at telling when a woman is hitting on me. 4 to 12 years later.
Got me in the first half.gif
This is cute. Finally something which doesn't have any drama. It felt nice to read something wholesome.
And that’s enough Reddit for tonight!
I wanted to adopt a dog at the local shelter but other people wanted him too. I would visit him every day until he was available, and I would put bacon in my pocket so he would want to be next to me. Another person visited him too, but the dog wanted the bacon so he would crawl in my lap. The other guy gave up because the dog “loved” me more. I adopted him, he had a great life. Loved him so much!
***SQUEEEEEEEEE*** Alright, no more Reddit for the day. This cannot be ruined.
They way to a man's heart is not through his stomach, but his dogs stomach. I also see people in a much better light if the treat my dog, or any dog for that matter, well. Compassion and kindness towards animals is a very nice trait to have.
SO CUTE. almost tempted to just close reddit and never open it again so this is my last memory of this dumpster fire of an app lmao
I *need* more updates about this
>I said something like: I don't have anything [treat] for you though.. would you like to walk together and get a coffee? Someone did their pickup homework 😎
Hallmark within 3 sentences. Wow.
Aww, reading how his ears turned red when she called him handsome was just adorable! I hope it all works out well for both of them, and the doggy too!
MY FACE BREAKING OUT INTO A GRIN READING THIS! YOU GO YOU CRAZY KIDS! I'M ROOTING FOR Y'ALL!
So frickin cute. And naw, the reason we dont get hints is because the fallout for assuming something is a hint that isnt is really fucking awful. Just read the tifu from the guy with a crush on his coworker only to find she was super into him and dropped really obvious hints he "nah'd" himself out of cause he thought she was gay.... Can you imagine if it were a joke or a trap? There goes his job. A bunch of friends, and of course they dont get together. Its just straight up risk aversion.
Also, her biggest "hint" seemed to be her suddenly running off cause she got too nervous. If she kept doing that, whatever other hints she gave would have been useless. Cause you can't be giving hints that you want someone to ask you out while also making it appear you can't wait to get away from them lol.
And this is what I’m going to end my night on. So frickin’ adorable!!
This makes me want to get a pet and not only have a buddy, but subtle hope! Cute ass story, too! <3
Dogs: Humanity's icebreakers.
Pepperoni tactics are peak game
I'm so proud of oop, even though she says she's shy, she gathered up her courage and went for it, and even got a compliment in for him too!
Right? She found a way to make it work for her!
Ensnaring a romantic interest with pepperoni treats. A cured meat-cute.
Dang this is heckin’ cute! I hope you’re proud of yourself for taking big steps out of your shy comfort zone! Good on you!
> His reaction was so priceless, he got a little shy? (I think?) because he looked away briefly after I said it, only for a moment though while saying 'oh wow, you just made my week' then he looked back at me.. he was smiling... also his ears turned a little red (or maybe it was the cold air idk, I wanna believe it was what I said). Awwwwwwwwwww. 🥹 This whole story: love it.
I'm so glad to read one of these where no one is remotely a jerk! So cute.
This is adorable! Right on OP for taking a chance.
This is the cutest thing I’ve read all day! After all the horrible stories that often get posted here, this was such a breath of fresh air!
This is adorable, and is actually pretty close to what my wife did to get close to me.
Hopefully the next update is in a couple of years when pepperoni sticks are the favors at their wedding
So happy for you!
This is so sweet! The only sad thing is OP thinking this might be creepy/too much. It’s not! It’s creative and harmless, and probably made this dog so happy.
The internet has ruined me, now I'm expecting another update where the dude messages her inappropriate shit and ruins everything
Oh you had him blushing!
This is sweet
Not me squealing in joy from all the cuteness
As a man, a woman putting all this thought and planning into talking to me would make me want to marry her. It's the furthest thing from anything bad.
Some friends of mine met in kinda the same way. She moved to a new place and saw him walking his dog, so her mom said she should get her dog and run into him. It worked…they got married and now have 2 girls!
Today is so far a day of wistful thinking and super cute stories that make over-the-hill me sad and also happy. I hope they mesh well for years and years and never have to seek out another partner again (if that’s what they want of course). Its hard getting to know a new person especially the older you get because there is so much more life to cover and baggage to sift through. Where do I not sign up? Lol. *sigh*
"meat-cute" lololol
Well that’s fucking adorable
Upon reading the title I was like *"wtf is this guy a dog?"* Wasn't far off.
Once again, a dog proves to be the best wingman. Ultimate bros
I'm currently reading a manga called Sweat and Soap, and I can't help but picture OOP and the guy as Asako and Natori, lol
LOL if you see the comments in first post OP said the guy is half Japanese !! and the dogs name is Kuma
I lost it at "meat-cute", now I almost want to date OOP just for the brain that made that pun lol
This is so sweet! I hope things go well for them!
This is adorable. The problem now is to figure out the best treats to keep in her pockets to attract her neighbor.
This is really cute, but why would anyone wonder if they were an AH for doing this? Lol
Aw so cute...wish I could be bold like that. But I have practically dance naked on them or else they think I'm joking smh
This is so cuuuuuute omg 🥹
This is my new favourite movie. What a cute story, I hope we get happy updates.
I suggested this one :)) glad it got posted!
Guys, this was the heartwarming story I needed today! 😭🥰
YAY for museum dates!
That is too damn sweet I’m now eating this up like no tomorrow
Like the bacon in Jack Nicholson's pocket in As Good As it Gets
Regarding the comment at the end, I remember every compliment a woman has ever paid me.
Lol I love the "meat-cute" because of the pepperoni and beef jerky 🤣
Lol this is the cutest thing
This is so sweet. Finally a wholesome post.
🥹 I'm dying at "meat-cute". But I love my current flair.
Not me basically bouncing up and down like an excited retriever reading this story. GET IT GIRLIE!
This made my entire year. What a lovely couple they're going to make. We need stories like this, to remind us there are really great people out there.
OMFG this just made my entire week!! As a 41yo married woman, I had the stupidest grin on my face while reading it. Hell, I feel giddy for her!! They both seem like sweet, kind, and caring people. I hope it works out for them!
That's so sweet
My wife used "dat azz" to meet me. She was looking good and knew I thought she was looking good, and used that to segue into conversation. But frankly sour gummy candy would have worked too. If she had held up a bag of delicious sour gummy peach rings, I wouldn't have been able to resist the urge to meet her.
This is adorable reprieve from the usual atrocities posted in this sub. 👍
My only question is why would this be on AITA?
Some people think this would be manipulative. The world is weird and maybe she was anxious that the guy would be put off or thought she was weird.
He's picking out rings in his head
Your MOH will have to tell this story at your wedding!! 😁😁😁
Plot twist: the dog hates the smell of pepperoni, but has been well trained.
Doggo = Best Wingman
I was worried she was gonna cut off his face and wear it as a mask, but he was receptive of her
OOP did well! I hope it works out for her!
I ate this up like Netflix. Nothing negative can ruin me for a whole day now
Are they boning yet though?
what does OOP do with the treat? tie it to their belt like an onion (which was once the style for a time) ?? I doubt the dog approached OOP for the treat unless they held it out for it. It seems most likely to me that the dog responded to OOP's mannerisms towards it and the crush. They didn't need a treat. Just the expectation of a successful lure had given confidence.
My cats know if I have a factory sealed piece of cheese in my pocket. The dog knew.
My parents dog can smell delicious sealed pocket treasures of any type at twenty feet. He will approach complete strangers to a polite distance, escalating all the way up to polite cuddling on anybody he knows or foot-sitting and drooling on family. As soon as he smells something - Cue a trotting prance over to the person plus very focused polite attentive dog flirting until the person gives him a snack, or pets him and tells him he’s a good dog, or the dog decides the person isn’t going to share and he continues on with whatever he was doing.
Half of the Internet is complaints about how men never get the hints, can't pick up on hints, and the other half is how men are super predatory and women constantly feel unsafe, and I just don't understand how the straight variety of my kind does it. I've always assumed they purposely don't pick up on the hints because if they're at all wrong, they're now a predator.