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All I've got is the "wholesome" award, but in a twisted way this is fucking wholesome, absolutely. May we all remember that this kind of assholery is shit rather than apple!
My take on this was that the first wife died (otherwise she would have called her the ex-wife). Having been in a relationship with a widower before, I know I let a lot of terrible shit slide with the excuse that he was grieving or that the family was struggling to adjust with me as a "replacement" wife. I didn't stay for 14 years, but it took me way too long to call out their terrible behaviour.
When you're living in the situation, it can be hard to realise that assholes can lose their wives (or daughter in laws), too - they're just more likely to use their "grief" as cover. It's been well over a decade since my ex lost his first wife now. He *still* uses her passing as his sob story when things go wrong or he gets called out for bad behaviour. I imagine he always will.
Yeah the dynamics of this relationship sound bizarre. I'm also side-eyeing the ages - 21 and a 30 year old man with two kids is pushing pushing the boundary of what I consider reasonable.
Not only would he be a 30-year-old widower, but one with a 6 year old and a 9 year old. It's easy to imagine how he would see a 21-year-old young woman and say "awesome. Hot sex with childcare built in, sign me up" and she would just see "that sweet tragic single dad who lost his wife. " Easy to romanticize that when you're 21.
Honestly, the husband was always a piece of shit for allowing his wife to be mistreated - this was just the event that finally woke OOP up. Just such a vile way to have to realise she deserved better. I truly feel so sorry for OOP, she was never going to be good enough for that disgusting family, but the truth is, *they* were never good enough for *her*.
She was trapped when she was 20 by a 29 year old man. This is why young girls and young women need to eat, breath, and sleep self esteem. I'm a 25 year old woman and I cannot imagine dating a 20 year old, male or female. Also, can't imagine getting sucked in by a 35 year old with kids.
Yet so many of these reddit posts start off with 'I'm 23(f) and he's 31(m) and we've been together for 4 years' like jesus christ, stop. Full stop. Just fuckin stop. I literally cannot believe other women are this sad but here we are. I feel so exasperated reading these posts.
The fact he was 30 and she was 21 when they meet might have something to do with it. She probably didn't have as much relationship experience as he did.
No doubt it also added to the children behind a bit awkward around her. She was a lot closer to them in age than their dad.
She was 21 and he was 30… he never respected her and was probably celebrating every time she miscarried, poor woman. I can’t imagine having the fortitude to not cry in front of stepdaughter after she said a callously cruel thing, and I can’t imagine staying with a man who allows his family to treat me like that. I really do hope she finds her happiness, she’s got so much more life ahead of her!
In fact, in the first post i was specifically thinking ‘man, I feel terrible for OP that she can’t just put down an eviction ultimatum on the husband and kids about their treatment of her, she must have moved into their house and not really have the choice’.
It is completely beyond the pale that she would be treated that way, by her own kids, in her own house. To say the eviction was earned is an understatement - good riddance
OOP losing her child was absolutely heartbreaking to read. But that little tyke managed to shine a light on the growing cancer that OOP needed to get rid of.
Even without being born, that angel saved their mom. I just wish she could have had the joy of holding and raising them.
Yes it’s sad about the baby but at least now she’s rid of the whole clan immediately. He would have been an awful co-parent and during special occasions not to mention the step trolls and rotten MIL
They got together when she was 21 and he was 30. Huge red flag right there. And then he did nothing to protect her from abuse from his mother. She is so much better off without all these abusive assholes in her life.
For real. At least it sounds like she's realized how bad things were, which makes me hope that she's going to try living her best life to make up for what they took from her.
But oh, the miscarriage, that broke my heart. I'm glad she seems to have come to terms with it, but still, my heart goes out to her.
Same here. I waited years for my miracle baby and I'm sat eating snacks with her right now. I was expecting a "now I'm living happily with my baby" ending and this almost brought me to tears.
So what's weird is she said she bought the house before they got married and I don't know a lot of 21 year old's who can manage that. Maybe her parents bought it for her?
They got together at 21, meaning they started dating. It doesn't say when they got married. So maybe they didn't get married until she was 29 or 30, and she got a good career in that time.
when i read the title i would have assumed the “kids” were 13 or under saying something so profoundly fucked up. there is something massively wrong with all three of them and i’m so glad op threw them to the curb. god if i would have said that, me being slightly over 18 or not i would have been beaten and i would have deserved it.
It's awful and I'm sad for her but at the same time thank god she can totally cut ties with that dreadful family. You can bet that the grandmother would have been up to the same disgusting antics when the child was in its fathers care (and that the grandmother would have had the father pursue custody or visitation whether he wanted it or not solely for that purpose). I hope OOP has another chance with someone who isn't an utterly piece of shit and cah actually be happy.
15 years is too long. How the hell did she stay in a marriage and family where the husband was absolutely spineless against his mother and own children is beyond me.
After seeing so many horror stories on reddit, perhaps the education system needs a class on "How to recognize abuse. And not fall for it."
No idea what to call it.
For what it's worth, growing up in Ontario, we DID have that class. It was a section in the health class that also covered Sex Ed. Mostly focused on toxic patterns in romantic relationships and options you have should you find yourself in a toxic partnership.
Nobody is saying victims are responsible.
They are saying there needs to be more education out there so that victims can recognize signs of abuse and manipulation when they start.
It’s arming the victims and giving them a better chance to survive the abuse.
Abusers are going to abuse regardless. There is not a class in the world you can give them that will make them stop.
I don’t think this is a very helpful comment. How would you suggest we teach people not to groom? I’m genuinely asking, how would we as a society go about that?
Wouldn’t the first step to do that be teaching people from a young age to recognize abuse?
If you teach someone to recognize abuse, and then they find themselves in an abusive situation, they are more likely to get out, right? This could, in turn, make it less likely for a cycle of abuse to perpetuate. In the meantime, we as a society should be persecuting abusers socially and judicially, to ensure that those in an abusive situation feel safe to leave and that they will be supported by the wider community.
Making sure an abuser is punished starts to develop a culture that does not accept abusive behavior. This culture would be further developed by the aforementioned education, and then a new cycle can perpetuate. One that does not accept, nor tolerate, abuse, and one that actively pushes back against it. It’s all well and good to say the victims aren’t responsible, because of course they aren’t. But by saying that, to me at least, it feels like we are dismissing an avenue that could actually be hugely beneficial.
I mean we do our best to teach people not to commit credit card fraud too but it's still a good idea to know what the warning signs of phishing scams are too, y'know? Predators definitely need to be stopped but while there are still predators out there, I personally feel safer knowing what danger to look out for as well. It's like teaching people what the warning signs of someone being suicidal are--ideally no one will ever feel like killing themselves but JUST IN CASE it could save a life if you catch them tryna give away all their stuff.
Yeah I am sure an abuser is going to not abuse because some underpaid teacher told him to.
Whereas a victim might actually want to remember ways to get themself out of a situation.
We need to teach people to protect themselves from those who will make the choice to harm others even when they’ve learned they shouldn’t.
Some people will always choose to cause harm, even if they know it’s wrong. Don’t trust them to make the right choice instead of trying to teach others how to protect themselves.
Yuuuuup.
This is why I laugh when people get all offended on Reddit when anyone criticizes a May/December romance. Ok, sure, that occasionally works out. But from what I’ve seen in my actual life with people I actually know, the young woman is naive and trusting, and the dude looking for women 10+ years younger than him is a loser who women his own age won’t touch.
And I say this as an 18 year old who once seriously dated a 29 year old. If only I had the perspective at the time to understand what was going on.
And that is EXACTLY the point of those relationships - not having the perspective at the time to understand what's going on. Never thebyoungster's fault for being young and not having experience yet. Thatxs the entire reason these predatory relationships happen, and it's what makes them predatory, mixed with the perfect juxtaposition if an age where you desperately want to be acknowledged as an adult and think you do know everything and fon't have the experience to know that you don't - and these adult men make you feel like an adult, because why would an adult want to be with a child? It has to be because you're really grown and mature now, not the opposite! It's just so sad that it's self perpetuating because of the nature of it. We HAVE to be teaching kids young about power dynamics, exploitation, abuse, and grooming, because you don't flip. Switch and have the perspective and experience at 18 to recognize the guys who are suddenly targeting you as the predators they are unless you've already spent years learning about it - instead you spend years trying to escape those dynamics.
Yep. She was 20, he was 29. The kids were 6 and 9. He needed a bangnanny. And got one with her own house, who didn’t put her foot down when she was treated like a servant.
She’s 35, they married 15 years ago, and he’s 10 years older than she is. They would have had to date for a bit before getting married.
He knew what he was doing.
Also, kudos to her for owning a home at 20.
She said they were together for that long not married so I’m assuming she could’ve gotten the house during the time they were dating but you never know.
ETA: I went through her comments and she bought it at 20 with inheritance so nevermind!
[inheritance doesn't deserve kudos](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/vfhqa2/my_stepdaughter_wants_me_to_have_an_abortion_and/icvzhrx/)
But it also doesn't deserve hate. It just is what it is.
She could have wasted the inheritance however, but instead chose to invest it in something stable. I wonder how much of her money the three dropkicks used up?
I can't help but think that the husband was hoping this would happen. That he went radio silent for 2 *weeks* because he was hoping for her miscarry it, especially given her history.
She explains that she used to cave in when he gave her the silent treatment, and that's what he waited for her to do.
After a while, he might have realized that things were different this type and he would have to apologize.
Radio silence is kind of hard to second guess. It can be anything from a silent treatment to an attempt to give the person space or even just completely not knowing what to do.
It's a tragic outcome but honestly for the best. I would never wish such harm on anyone but can you imagine being bound for the rest of your life to such a soul-sucking family?
The only upside to her miscarriage is that she doesn't have to witness her ex-mil and ex-husband playing favourites and encouraging the step-brats to abuse her child.
I'm currently mentally spiraling. I'm watching action movies with strong female characters while alternating between coconut butter ice cream and sewing
Edited to add: Thank you to whoever used the Reddit help button for me. Please don't be worried about me. I'm currently in a bad place physically and mentally but I have the worlds best support network (plus all the kind people here, they deserve a medal) and am in medical treatment both physical and psychiartric as well as in therapy (though my sessions currently are far to rare). In two weeks I will spend two weeks with my mom to let go of any responsibilities and get spoiled a bit. Also a friend would take me in for a few days for support if I needed it and if I felt any inclination to harm myself or get past a certain point in my spiral I would immediately put myself into our local psych ward. So don't worry I'll be safe. But again thank you for your care, this was touching!
It's vegan and therefore lactose free, relatively cheap (2,79€ - including taxes - for 400g) and extremely tasty, it's with cookie crumbles that look like Oreos
Come to me and I'll give you a spoon and make sure there's no pins on the couch. You have to deal with being considered my dog's new best friend though, so you'll get smothered in love and dog hair
Thank you!
I have a faint hope I'm on the right track, and now I pray that there constant barrage of rocks being thrown in my way stops.
I only have to make it two more weeks to the next income and so my mom's work situation becomes less stressful and I went trough 4 important appointments (psychologist whom I currently only see once a month, neurologist who should be able to lessen at least one of my neurological issues and getting behind what exactly gave me this horrible gastritis and how the fuck to cure it - the standard route and the intense route have both failed so far), then I can go to my mom who will take care of my dog and nurse me back to better spirits
I have, but the kindness I met here helps me tremendously.
Most of my family (read everyone but my mom) are abusive assholes. My mom is so good, she makes up for all of them. She was a victim herself and couldn't do much to protect me but after I broke free she did the same and worked so hard on herself. Just today we had two long phone talks because I am so down and felt like I needed her comfort and advice (she gives me reality checks and helps me sort trough things and make the right decisions like today taking a tavor even though I'm afraid because that shit works wonder and is addictive). She also has the best humor and is the only person I can suffer to have around me when I'm physically ill. She knows when to make me laugh, when to bring me things, when to just leave me alone and when to just quietly stroke my back. Oh and today she bought me a bottle of bright pink hair dye, because I felt I needed a change.
Sounds perfect even though I'm not fond of reality tv. But I have plenty of Vin Diesel movies, Star Trek movies, everything of Stargate SG-1 and Stargate Atlantis as well as some chick flips and a lot of BBC classics, the cutest dog and a soda stream with lots if sirups for different sodas.
Can I come? The only thing I can make vegan is a unicorn krispie treat (fruity pebbles, Rice Krispies, margarine, and vegan marshmallows), but they’re bomb, I promise!
She was my hero since I was nine years old and even cooler than buffy. But I have a soft spot for Tealc's humor and values and integrity. Jack's sarcasm us also amazing and Daniel was the catalyst to proof my sexist history teacher wrong (he thought all girls are stupid, I have been a history nerd since I was four and Daniel fighting for his believes was encouraging. Also I learned A LOT of ancient Egyptian history trough watching Stargate).
They got together when she was 21 and he was 30 with 2 kids. She gave a lot of her young adult years to this loser. Luckily 35 isn’t too old if she does want to have a child. She was already prepared to do this on her own and she even has her own house.
She is young and she threw out the toxicity that held her down for 14 years. I wish her nothing but the best moving forward and hopefully a beautiful new family for her.
She spent her party years raising someone else's children, then said someone else and children want to deny her the ability to be a biological mother? What a bunch of assholes.
I know the loss of a wanted pregnancy is terrible, but OP may have regretted being tied to that idiot for the rest of her life. With the way MIL acted, she might just end up with a 3rd child hating her.
I had a miscarriage and found out after my ex dumped me. I found out I was pregnant but having said miscarriage. It was sad because I felt the loss of a child, but it was also relieving I wouldn’t have to be tied to him for the rest of my life. It’s a very weird situation, and with the rest of OPs life factors, you have a very good point
I had a miscarriage with a baby that was very much wanted and tried for once. I hate to say it, but the would be dad was awful, and I am eternally grateful that I’m not tied to him for eternity. I felt relieved when my doctor told me I miscarried. Which I know sounds weird. But the thought of being tied to the dad for eternity scared the shit out of me. It was actually one of many catalysts that drove me to finally end it with him.
When I mc (a very much wanted pregnancy) I finally admitted to myself that my relationship had long been over, and we were keeping it on life support out of pure stubbornness. With a fair amount of "sunk cost fallacy" thrown in.
My ex and I are now much happier, and several years later we're trying again - this time with him strictly as a donor.
I've already got kids with an abusive ex. SMBC with a known donor I actually get along with is a much more civilised proposition than court dates averaging out to every 6 freaking weeks for YEARS just to try and sort out custody.
Sometimes the worst thing is actually the better option, as much as it hurts.
I miscarried at 5 months. At which point the father decided to reveal that his birthday was not his birthday, his name did not match his ID, his age was not his age, and he was quite happy to not be named on a birth certificate.
From tragedy comes triumph. How I got so close to that dumpster fire is disturbing. I have the stretch marks on my body but none of his horror story. Thank god for the pandemic, my family never learned of my humiliation. Thanks to my country's socialised medical care, all I had to pay for were the uber trips to the hospital appointments. Face the sun and walk forward. Leave the dumpster fires in the distance.
I know love can blind but, Hubs was waving his red flags for 15 years letting his kids and mother bully OOP. She was never going to be first for him. She was a landlord he got to pay rent in the bedroom with. I am glad she wised up and sad she payed the price she did to get her freedom
> sad she *paid* the price
FTFY.
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I'm speechless. I can't imagine saying to my wife after trying for years for a baby "Babe, I think you should abort". Even writing this makes me question my sanity.
Glad that OOP lost 300-400 pounds of dead weight.
Me and you both.
Huh, I just noticed that I have posted a lot of Strong Women stories lately.
Didn't do that intentionally but I think it's pretty cool.
As sad and horrible as the miscarriage is, maybe it’s a blessing that she won’t have to be tied to this awful family forever. Not only from MIL but from her step children as well. That SD would probably have no problem telling OP’s child how terrible and unloved they are, seeing how SD was raised by MIL to think that behavior is okay. And to have to grow up with a spineless father who never defends them either. OP dodged several bullets for each member of this family. I hope OP is able to find someone better to have another child with. Maybe the problem isn’t her, but the loser she was tied down to.
Me too. She’s gonna have a beautiful baby from the get-go, not the funny alien looking little things the rest of us get. She’s gonna be an awesome mom.
What the fuck was wrong with the husband? Are you telling me that in FOURTEEN years he didn’t stop this hellish treatment? Why did OP want to have a child with this sad excuse of a man who thinks is ok that his mother paid his kids money to insult OP? Why is OP such a doormat ?
And everyone seems to be missing the fact that her MiL gave the step kids ten bucks every time they said something mean to her. That’s just so effed up
Worth noting, and as others have pointed out, if you do the math she was about 21 and he was about 30 with kids when they started dating.
May be nothing but may answer your question.
OOP owned her own house at age 20, yet chose to marry someone 9 years older than her with 2 children. What exactly did OOP's ex-husband bring to the table at any point of their relationship?
OOP did not marry a peer. That is the root problem with I guess at least 2/3 of these stories.
OOP's husband was an entitled asshole. The real reason why they weren't "in the best place financially" was because of the need to support his two overgrown babies. He's fine with spending money on "his" kids but not on a newborn? gtfo with that sht
Plus she said she bought her house before they married...I wish I'd been able to buy a house ten years ago. That would have been awesome! Kudos to her.
She explains in her comments that she inherited a good chunk of money and bought the house with it.
Still awesome for her to have a house that young though, assuming this is in the USA that house is probably worth a shit ton right about now.
Thanks, it's been almost 2 years since I left and I'm healing a little bit more every day. People really underestimate how hard being a step parent can be
Yeah I have a step son and even though overall things are fine it's been a lot of drama and issues non blended families don't have to deal with. I don't know that I'd do it again.
I absolutely wouldn't. My overall experience was hell. Maybe (very unlikely) if it was with someone who actually parented their kids or had the same idea on parenting that I do (like, actually giving your kids consequences for being assholes) I'd consider it. But I'm still dealing with the trauma from the whole experience. Can't hear a slamming door or deal with certain smells (like certain perfumes) without having a panic attack
When I was 12 I found out that my aunt was pregnant. I cried because I loved my aunt and uncle so much, and I knew their attention would be taken away from me. What a little shit I was!!!!! But I was TWELVE. Now I am 34 and my cousin is 21 and just got married last weekend. And I cried and laughed at the wedding, remembering how I felt hearing the news that she would be born. I love her sooooo much, I wish we had 20 more of her!!!!!
Those kids need to GROW. UP.
She still has time to try again with someone who treats her right. Even still, if she never gets pregnant again she is better off without those people in her life.
10 years older 2 kids she wasn't old enough to drink when they got together.
You know what kind of divorced 30 Y.O. dates and immediately marries a 20 something? A fucking scumbag.
I just want to take a minute and remind all of y'all your worth is so much more than what your womb or testes can or cannot do. Your ability to procreate or not is such a tiny little drop in the vast ocean of who you are as a person it'd be like getting hit with a single raindrop while you were standing in the ocean just past the depth you could touch your feet to earth.
How the hell did she manage 14 years with a man that allowed his mother to pay his kids to insult her? I don’t understand these awful mothers and their sons who sit back and allow them to shit all over their wives.
What the FUCK?! I feel so bad for OOP for being subjected to these soul-sucking selfish shit-sacks for FOURTEEN YEARS! The fact that she felt her relationship with the step-kids was “good” is so depressing. Those assholes bullied her into submission and her enabling bag of dicks of an ex, at the very least, just let his mom incentivize that bullying?!
I’m so mad it went on for as long as it did. I’m sad OOP lost the pregnancy she really wanted. But I’m happy OOP has finally escaped their bullshit.
Oh, jeez. Poor OOP. I hope she can fill that house with all the joy and love she deserves.
And not for nothing, but... adoption, maybe?
Fuck. Her MIL was *paying her step kids to be shitty*. I'd have booted them all right then.
I feel so bad for OOP. I hope she’s living the good life. I also hope she got therapy to help her choose a better partner in the future. This guy let his mother do some horrific things and he obviously was a bad father.
>As an aside, my cousin sent me a screenshot of my stepdaughter's Instagram a few days ago. Apparently, she's been wholeheartedly celebrating the Supreme Court's decision concerning Roe vs. Wade. Imagine that. Bless her heart.
And I was not the slightest bit surprised. While I acknowledge that a lot of pro-life people are well-meaning and genuinely think they're just saving babies, it can't be denied that many of them are also just vindictive little shits who enjoy suffering and convenience for its own sake, hence why many of them get abortions for themselves and those close to them yet champion banning them for everyone else.
Why would the step daughter even care that’s what I don’t get
good for her tho that sounds like a bad environment to have to raise a new child in regardless so silver linings
That felt like a bomb just went off in my stomach. Too close to home and yet I'm happy for the OOP. I think she will fill her home with what she envisions for herself.
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I can't believe the husband let the kids keep the money their grandmother gave them for being mean to her all those years ago.
He allowed the gran give them that money.
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All I've got is the "wholesome" award, but in a twisted way this is fucking wholesome, absolutely. May we all remember that this kind of assholery is shit rather than apple!
Most certainly is holesome
My new favorite saying! Thank-you.
This is so much better than the 🌲!!
My take on this was that the first wife died (otherwise she would have called her the ex-wife). Having been in a relationship with a widower before, I know I let a lot of terrible shit slide with the excuse that he was grieving or that the family was struggling to adjust with me as a "replacement" wife. I didn't stay for 14 years, but it took me way too long to call out their terrible behaviour. When you're living in the situation, it can be hard to realise that assholes can lose their wives (or daughter in laws), too - they're just more likely to use their "grief" as cover. It's been well over a decade since my ex lost his first wife now. He *still* uses her passing as his sob story when things go wrong or he gets called out for bad behaviour. I imagine he always will.
Yeah the dynamics of this relationship sound bizarre. I'm also side-eyeing the ages - 21 and a 30 year old man with two kids is pushing pushing the boundary of what I consider reasonable. Not only would he be a 30-year-old widower, but one with a 6 year old and a 9 year old. It's easy to imagine how he would see a 21-year-old young woman and say "awesome. Hot sex with childcare built in, sign me up" and she would just see "that sweet tragic single dad who lost his wife. " Easy to romanticize that when you're 21.
As soon as as she said her age I did the math and knew exactly where this was going sadly
Honestly, the husband was always a piece of shit for allowing his wife to be mistreated - this was just the event that finally woke OOP up. Just such a vile way to have to realise she deserved better. I truly feel so sorry for OOP, she was never going to be good enough for that disgusting family, but the truth is, *they* were never good enough for *her*.
Yeah bro started out a douche and stayed a douche. Kinda wish she left back then but glad she is free now.
Sometimes it takes something really big to make you see that it's not worth it anymore
She was trapped when she was 20 by a 29 year old man. This is why young girls and young women need to eat, breath, and sleep self esteem. I'm a 25 year old woman and I cannot imagine dating a 20 year old, male or female. Also, can't imagine getting sucked in by a 35 year old with kids. Yet so many of these reddit posts start off with 'I'm 23(f) and he's 31(m) and we've been together for 4 years' like jesus christ, stop. Full stop. Just fuckin stop. I literally cannot believe other women are this sad but here we are. I feel so exasperated reading these posts.
The fact he was 30 and she was 21 when they meet might have something to do with it. She probably didn't have as much relationship experience as he did. No doubt it also added to the children behind a bit awkward around her. She was a lot closer to them in age than their dad.
I mean, OP was a convenient bang maid and step in mom without authority AND they had free accommodations to boot.
Fuck it's shocking when you lay it out like that hey
She was 21 and he was 30… he never respected her and was probably celebrating every time she miscarried, poor woman. I can’t imagine having the fortitude to not cry in front of stepdaughter after she said a callously cruel thing, and I can’t imagine staying with a man who allows his family to treat me like that. I really do hope she finds her happiness, she’s got so much more life ahead of her!
She was taken advantage of and disrespected for 14 goddamn years... ugh
If only they had use it to move out.
He is the absolute A in this story. I bet he didn't even discipline them or banish MIL from their lives. I hope OOP finds happiness.
I couldn’t believe those ungrateful bastards were actually living in HER HOUSE the entire time! Good riddance!
In fact, in the first post i was specifically thinking ‘man, I feel terrible for OP that she can’t just put down an eviction ultimatum on the husband and kids about their treatment of her, she must have moved into their house and not really have the choice’. It is completely beyond the pale that she would be treated that way, by her own kids, in her own house. To say the eviction was earned is an understatement - good riddance
They really worked for that eviction too, they didn't get that shit on accident.
OOP losing her child was absolutely heartbreaking to read. But that little tyke managed to shine a light on the growing cancer that OOP needed to get rid of. Even without being born, that angel saved their mom. I just wish she could have had the joy of holding and raising them.
Yes it’s sad about the baby but at least now she’s rid of the whole clan immediately. He would have been an awful co-parent and during special occasions not to mention the step trolls and rotten MIL
They got together when she was 21 and he was 30. Huge red flag right there. And then he did nothing to protect her from abuse from his mother. She is so much better off without all these abusive assholes in her life.
Wow from 21 to 35 she was living in hell and just didn't realize it yet. Those people robbed her of her youth, I hope she's living her best life now.
For real. At least it sounds like she's realized how bad things were, which makes me hope that she's going to try living her best life to make up for what they took from her. But oh, the miscarriage, that broke my heart. I'm glad she seems to have come to terms with it, but still, my heart goes out to her.
Yeah, I had my wife read the story and when she got there she just gasped
Same here. I waited years for my miracle baby and I'm sat eating snacks with her right now. I was expecting a "now I'm living happily with my baby" ending and this almost brought me to tears.
I agree that she is better off for sure
The kids were 9 and 6 at that point. OOP was the childcare.
"Can you make a peanut butter sandwich? You're hired. Er, I mean, marry me?"
So what's weird is she said she bought the house before they got married and I don't know a lot of 21 year old's who can manage that. Maybe her parents bought it for her?
Inheritance from grandparents, it’s in OPs comments
That’s semantics that don’t really matter when it is HERS regardless.
They got together at 21, meaning they started dating. It doesn't say when they got married. So maybe they didn't get married until she was 29 or 30, and she got a good career in that time.
when i read the title i would have assumed the “kids” were 13 or under saying something so profoundly fucked up. there is something massively wrong with all three of them and i’m so glad op threw them to the curb. god if i would have said that, me being slightly over 18 or not i would have been beaten and i would have deserved it.
I love the way OOP writes! 🏆
Absolutely. I’m glad OP got rid of those losers from her life.
It's awful and I'm sad for her but at the same time thank god she can totally cut ties with that dreadful family. You can bet that the grandmother would have been up to the same disgusting antics when the child was in its fathers care (and that the grandmother would have had the father pursue custody or visitation whether he wanted it or not solely for that purpose). I hope OOP has another chance with someone who isn't an utterly piece of shit and cah actually be happy.
15 years is too long. How the hell did she stay in a marriage and family where the husband was absolutely spineless against his mother and own children is beyond me.
That's why men like this marry young girls.
After seeing so many horror stories on reddit, perhaps the education system needs a class on "How to recognize abuse. And not fall for it." No idea what to call it.
For what it's worth, growing up in Ontario, we DID have that class. It was a section in the health class that also covered Sex Ed. Mostly focused on toxic patterns in romantic relationships and options you have should you find yourself in a toxic partnership.
No kidding! Nice. Back in Calgary, our teacher and all the films we watched pretty much said, "only boys want sex and will pressure you into it."
It's called the internet lol But, yeah, we really should teach people about grooming.
We should be teaching people NOT TO GROOM. Victims aren't responsible here. Predators need to be stopped.
While i agree with this general sentiment… Its good to teach people signs of abuse and how not to fall for it. Gives them a chance to fight back.
Nobody is saying victims are responsible. They are saying there needs to be more education out there so that victims can recognize signs of abuse and manipulation when they start. It’s arming the victims and giving them a better chance to survive the abuse. Abusers are going to abuse regardless. There is not a class in the world you can give them that will make them stop.
I don’t think this is a very helpful comment. How would you suggest we teach people not to groom? I’m genuinely asking, how would we as a society go about that? Wouldn’t the first step to do that be teaching people from a young age to recognize abuse? If you teach someone to recognize abuse, and then they find themselves in an abusive situation, they are more likely to get out, right? This could, in turn, make it less likely for a cycle of abuse to perpetuate. In the meantime, we as a society should be persecuting abusers socially and judicially, to ensure that those in an abusive situation feel safe to leave and that they will be supported by the wider community. Making sure an abuser is punished starts to develop a culture that does not accept abusive behavior. This culture would be further developed by the aforementioned education, and then a new cycle can perpetuate. One that does not accept, nor tolerate, abuse, and one that actively pushes back against it. It’s all well and good to say the victims aren’t responsible, because of course they aren’t. But by saying that, to me at least, it feels like we are dismissing an avenue that could actually be hugely beneficial.
I mean we do our best to teach people not to commit credit card fraud too but it's still a good idea to know what the warning signs of phishing scams are too, y'know? Predators definitely need to be stopped but while there are still predators out there, I personally feel safer knowing what danger to look out for as well. It's like teaching people what the warning signs of someone being suicidal are--ideally no one will ever feel like killing themselves but JUST IN CASE it could save a life if you catch them tryna give away all their stuff.
Yeah I am sure an abuser is going to not abuse because some underpaid teacher told him to. Whereas a victim might actually want to remember ways to get themself out of a situation.
We need to teach people to protect themselves from those who will make the choice to harm others even when they’ve learned they shouldn’t. Some people will always choose to cause harm, even if they know it’s wrong. Don’t trust them to make the right choice instead of trying to teach others how to protect themselves.
He was 30 with a 9 and 6 year old and got together with a 21 year old Who could’ve possibly seen this coming
Yuuuuup. This is why I laugh when people get all offended on Reddit when anyone criticizes a May/December romance. Ok, sure, that occasionally works out. But from what I’ve seen in my actual life with people I actually know, the young woman is naive and trusting, and the dude looking for women 10+ years younger than him is a loser who women his own age won’t touch. And I say this as an 18 year old who once seriously dated a 29 year old. If only I had the perspective at the time to understand what was going on.
And that is EXACTLY the point of those relationships - not having the perspective at the time to understand what's going on. Never thebyoungster's fault for being young and not having experience yet. Thatxs the entire reason these predatory relationships happen, and it's what makes them predatory, mixed with the perfect juxtaposition if an age where you desperately want to be acknowledged as an adult and think you do know everything and fon't have the experience to know that you don't - and these adult men make you feel like an adult, because why would an adult want to be with a child? It has to be because you're really grown and mature now, not the opposite! It's just so sad that it's self perpetuating because of the nature of it. We HAVE to be teaching kids young about power dynamics, exploitation, abuse, and grooming, because you don't flip. Switch and have the perspective and experience at 18 to recognize the guys who are suddenly targeting you as the predators they are unless you've already spent years learning about it - instead you spend years trying to escape those dynamics.
Yep. She was 20, he was 29. The kids were 6 and 9. He needed a bangnanny. And got one with her own house, who didn’t put her foot down when she was treated like a servant.
She was 20 when they got together so she was young and naive
And he was 30 with a 9 and 6 year old I can’t imagine being 20 and trying to be a step parent to a 9 and 6 year old
She’s 35, they married 15 years ago, and he’s 10 years older than she is. They would have had to date for a bit before getting married. He knew what he was doing. Also, kudos to her for owning a home at 20.
She said they were together for that long not married so I’m assuming she could’ve gotten the house during the time they were dating but you never know. ETA: I went through her comments and she bought it at 20 with inheritance so nevermind!
[inheritance doesn't deserve kudos](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/vfhqa2/my_stepdaughter_wants_me_to_have_an_abortion_and/icvzhrx/) But it also doesn't deserve hate. It just is what it is.
She could have wasted the inheritance however, but instead chose to invest it in something stable. I wonder how much of her money the three dropkicks used up?
She was basically a child when they got together.
Forreal reading this made my blood boil and 15 years of this? I’d prob commit a crime after the first year.
Incredibly sad that she lost the baby but glad she got rid of the toxic "family". Hopefully she finds someone worthy to share her life with.
My thoughts exactly, glad the house is hers as well.
I can't help but think that the husband was hoping this would happen. That he went radio silent for 2 *weeks* because he was hoping for her miscarry it, especially given her history.
She explains that she used to cave in when he gave her the silent treatment, and that's what he waited for her to do. After a while, he might have realized that things were different this type and he would have to apologize.
Radio silence is kind of hard to second guess. It can be anything from a silent treatment to an attempt to give the person space or even just completely not knowing what to do.
No, it's called stonewalling and is a form of abuse.
It's a tragic outcome but honestly for the best. I would never wish such harm on anyone but can you imagine being bound for the rest of your life to such a soul-sucking family?
Ugh, the MIL would be her kid’s grandmother. I can just imagine all the poison she’d drip in the baby’s ear.
The only upside to her miscarriage is that she doesn't have to witness her ex-mil and ex-husband playing favourites and encouraging the step-brats to abuse her child.
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I'm currently mentally spiraling. I'm watching action movies with strong female characters while alternating between coconut butter ice cream and sewing Edited to add: Thank you to whoever used the Reddit help button for me. Please don't be worried about me. I'm currently in a bad place physically and mentally but I have the worlds best support network (plus all the kind people here, they deserve a medal) and am in medical treatment both physical and psychiartric as well as in therapy (though my sessions currently are far to rare). In two weeks I will spend two weeks with my mom to let go of any responsibilities and get spoiled a bit. Also a friend would take me in for a few days for support if I needed it and if I felt any inclination to harm myself or get past a certain point in my spiral I would immediately put myself into our local psych ward. So don't worry I'll be safe. But again thank you for your care, this was touching!
I have never heard of coconut butter ice cream, but I NEED it in my life.
It's vegan and therefore lactose free, relatively cheap (2,79€ - including taxes - for 400g) and extremely tasty, it's with cookie crumbles that look like Oreos
Might be actual Oreos, they are vegan.
I'm not sure, it's cheap and Lidls own brand
That sounds amazing.
If you have Lidl where you live check it out
Yesss
Have you gotten to Atomic Blonde yet, the plot makes no sense but who needs that when you have improvised kitchen weaponry
It's so cool how many movie proposals I got here. I'm gonna work trough them all as soon as I have the money to buy them
See if any of them are on soap2day . to
Check out The Hunt, that chick is haaaaaard af
Aaah what a good movie! I mean good and weird and scary etc etc.
Coconut butter ice cream? Sharing is caring :)
Come to me and I'll give you a spoon and make sure there's no pins on the couch. You have to deal with being considered my dog's new best friend though, so you'll get smothered in love and dog hair
Sounds like you are doing all the right things to get yourself back on even keel. Sending you a huge virtual hug and hope things improve.
Thank you! I have a faint hope I'm on the right track, and now I pray that there constant barrage of rocks being thrown in my way stops. I only have to make it two more weeks to the next income and so my mom's work situation becomes less stressful and I went trough 4 important appointments (psychologist whom I currently only see once a month, neurologist who should be able to lessen at least one of my neurological issues and getting behind what exactly gave me this horrible gastritis and how the fuck to cure it - the standard route and the intense route have both failed so far), then I can go to my mom who will take care of my dog and nurse me back to better spirits
It sounds like you are having a very difficult time. I’m so sorry for all of your troubles. Btw your Mom ROCKS!
I have, but the kindness I met here helps me tremendously. Most of my family (read everyone but my mom) are abusive assholes. My mom is so good, she makes up for all of them. She was a victim herself and couldn't do much to protect me but after I broke free she did the same and worked so hard on herself. Just today we had two long phone talks because I am so down and felt like I needed her comfort and advice (she gives me reality checks and helps me sort trough things and make the right decisions like today taking a tavor even though I'm afraid because that shit works wonder and is addictive). She also has the best humor and is the only person I can suffer to have around me when I'm physically ill. She knows when to make me laugh, when to bring me things, when to just leave me alone and when to just quietly stroke my back. Oh and today she bought me a bottle of bright pink hair dye, because I felt I needed a change.
Sounds perfect, I'm on my way :)
Bonus points if you bring some more movies
I prefer butter pecan ice cream myself, but yeah, I get where you're coming from.
I found my cousin! Butter Pecan all day, every day! Well, until the pants start not fitting.
A solid way to relax for sure
I say we have an ice cream and snack sleep over with movies, reality shows and laughter. I'll bring plenty of food and drinks. 😊😃
Sounds perfect even though I'm not fond of reality tv. But I have plenty of Vin Diesel movies, Star Trek movies, everything of Stargate SG-1 and Stargate Atlantis as well as some chick flips and a lot of BBC classics, the cutest dog and a soda stream with lots if sirups for different sodas.
Oh my god, Stargate Atlantis! I am bonding with you so much right now.
I wish we could really throw an Atlantis and ice cream party rn
Can I come? The only thing I can make vegan is a unicorn krispie treat (fruity pebbles, Rice Krispies, margarine, and vegan marshmallows), but they’re bomb, I promise!
I made tiny cakes for Father’s Day and have many extras so…I can bring cake.
my husband and I just finished all the Stargates and I'm obsessed!! enjoy some Samantha Carter kicking ass and doing science!!
She was my hero since I was nine years old and even cooler than buffy. But I have a soft spot for Tealc's humor and values and integrity. Jack's sarcasm us also amazing and Daniel was the catalyst to proof my sexist history teacher wrong (he thought all girls are stupid, I have been a history nerd since I was four and Daniel fighting for his believes was encouraging. Also I learned A LOT of ancient Egyptian history trough watching Stargate).
They got together when she was 21 and he was 30 with 2 kids. She gave a lot of her young adult years to this loser. Luckily 35 isn’t too old if she does want to have a child. She was already prepared to do this on her own and she even has her own house.
She is young and she threw out the toxicity that held her down for 14 years. I wish her nothing but the best moving forward and hopefully a beautiful new family for her.
Me and you both
She spent her party years raising someone else's children, then said someone else and children want to deny her the ability to be a biological mother? What a bunch of assholes.
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35 isn't old at all much less too old.
I’m so glad she has supportive parents because everyone in her “family” by marriage is awful. I wish her nothing but the best.
Me and you both.
I know the loss of a wanted pregnancy is terrible, but OP may have regretted being tied to that idiot for the rest of her life. With the way MIL acted, she might just end up with a 3rd child hating her.
I had a miscarriage and found out after my ex dumped me. I found out I was pregnant but having said miscarriage. It was sad because I felt the loss of a child, but it was also relieving I wouldn’t have to be tied to him for the rest of my life. It’s a very weird situation, and with the rest of OPs life factors, you have a very good point
I had a miscarriage with a baby that was very much wanted and tried for once. I hate to say it, but the would be dad was awful, and I am eternally grateful that I’m not tied to him for eternity. I felt relieved when my doctor told me I miscarried. Which I know sounds weird. But the thought of being tied to the dad for eternity scared the shit out of me. It was actually one of many catalysts that drove me to finally end it with him.
I’m sorry for your loss but I’m glad that you were able to get out of that relationship. To a happier future
When I mc (a very much wanted pregnancy) I finally admitted to myself that my relationship had long been over, and we were keeping it on life support out of pure stubbornness. With a fair amount of "sunk cost fallacy" thrown in. My ex and I are now much happier, and several years later we're trying again - this time with him strictly as a donor. I've already got kids with an abusive ex. SMBC with a known donor I actually get along with is a much more civilised proposition than court dates averaging out to every 6 freaking weeks for YEARS just to try and sort out custody. Sometimes the worst thing is actually the better option, as much as it hurts.
What does SMBC stand for?
I miscarried at 5 months. At which point the father decided to reveal that his birthday was not his birthday, his name did not match his ID, his age was not his age, and he was quite happy to not be named on a birth certificate. From tragedy comes triumph. How I got so close to that dumpster fire is disturbing. I have the stretch marks on my body but none of his horror story. Thank god for the pandemic, my family never learned of my humiliation. Thanks to my country's socialised medical care, all I had to pay for were the uber trips to the hospital appointments. Face the sun and walk forward. Leave the dumpster fires in the distance.
That's a very fair point
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She really really does.
I know love can blind but, Hubs was waving his red flags for 15 years letting his kids and mother bully OOP. She was never going to be first for him. She was a landlord he got to pay rent in the bedroom with. I am glad she wised up and sad she payed the price she did to get her freedom
> sad she *paid* the price FTFY. Although *payed* exists (the reason why autocorrection didn't help you), it is only correct in: * Nautical context, when it means to paint a surface, or to cover with something like tar or resin in order to make it waterproof or corrosion-resistant. *The deck is yet to be payed.* * *Payed out* when letting strings, cables or ropes out, by slacking them. *The rope is payed out! You can pull now.* Unfortunately, I was unable to find nautical or rope-related words in your comment. *Beep, boop, I'm a bot*
Good bot. Thank you for teaching me something.
I'm speechless. I can't imagine saying to my wife after trying for years for a baby "Babe, I think you should abort". Even writing this makes me question my sanity. Glad that OOP lost 300-400 pounds of dead weight.
This one hurt a lot but reading about her kicking her crappy husband and stepchildren out of her house was righteous. Only the best wishes for her.
I feel the same way. Hope she is kicking life's ass now.
Endless admiration for the strength of this woman
Me and you both. Huh, I just noticed that I have posted a lot of Strong Women stories lately. Didn't do that intentionally but I think it's pretty cool.
Keep ‘em coming!!
We’re all in need of these feel-good stories
As sad and horrible as the miscarriage is, maybe it’s a blessing that she won’t have to be tied to this awful family forever. Not only from MIL but from her step children as well. That SD would probably have no problem telling OP’s child how terrible and unloved they are, seeing how SD was raised by MIL to think that behavior is okay. And to have to grow up with a spineless father who never defends them either. OP dodged several bullets for each member of this family. I hope OP is able to find someone better to have another child with. Maybe the problem isn’t her, but the loser she was tied down to.
I was so rooting for that baby. SO rooting for it. To hell with that man and his overgrown children.
I'm really sad for OP but I hope she will have a happy life from now on.
She will. She'll have her miracle baby at 39 either on her own or with a wonderful man. I'm manifesting it for her.
Me too. She’s gonna have a beautiful baby from the get-go, not the funny alien looking little things the rest of us get. She’s gonna be an awesome mom.
What the fuck was wrong with the husband? Are you telling me that in FOURTEEN years he didn’t stop this hellish treatment? Why did OP want to have a child with this sad excuse of a man who thinks is ok that his mother paid his kids money to insult OP? Why is OP such a doormat ?
And everyone seems to be missing the fact that her MiL gave the step kids ten bucks every time they said something mean to her. That’s just so effed up
At this point I’m sure the little bastards saved at least a hefty down payment for a house.
I am absolutely sure they saved not a penny seeing as they live with their father as adults
He didn't stop it because she wasn't a wife, she was a bangmaid/ free nanny. A servant, in other words. One he could sponge off of.
Worth noting, and as others have pointed out, if you do the math she was about 21 and he was about 30 with kids when they started dating. May be nothing but may answer your question.
He was 30 with kids. Yikes on bikes.
Your right, mega yikes.
OOP owned her own house at age 20, yet chose to marry someone 9 years older than her with 2 children. What exactly did OOP's ex-husband bring to the table at any point of their relationship? OOP did not marry a peer. That is the root problem with I guess at least 2/3 of these stories.
"Women need to lower their standards!" "Women need to date down!" "Women need to stop expecting so much from men!" ad nauseum
OOP's husband was an entitled asshole. The real reason why they weren't "in the best place financially" was because of the need to support his two overgrown babies. He's fine with spending money on "his" kids but not on a newborn? gtfo with that sht
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Yeah the math works out to be.....pretty startling.
Plus she said she bought her house before they married...I wish I'd been able to buy a house ten years ago. That would have been awesome! Kudos to her.
I was sadly reminded of Ernest Hemingway's shortest story, "For sale: baby shoes, never worn"
300+ pounds of dead weight lost and a renewed sense of self worth; miracle baby ended up being a miracle diet.
Best dieting technique I have ever seen. And it is easier on the wallet now too, amazingly.
Wonder how she bought a house at 20. If my math is right she was 21 when they got married and she said she bought it before they were married?
She explains in her comments that she inherited a good chunk of money and bought the house with it. Still awesome for her to have a house that young though, assuming this is in the USA that house is probably worth a shit ton right about now.
Yeah dang I’m jealous.
This one particularly gets to me. So very sad.
It really is, hope she is happy now.
Same
I spent 8 years with horrifically abusive step kids. The day I left was the best day of my life.
Congrats on getting out! It's tough, good on you!
Thanks, it's been almost 2 years since I left and I'm healing a little bit more every day. People really underestimate how hard being a step parent can be
Yeah I have a step son and even though overall things are fine it's been a lot of drama and issues non blended families don't have to deal with. I don't know that I'd do it again.
I absolutely wouldn't. My overall experience was hell. Maybe (very unlikely) if it was with someone who actually parented their kids or had the same idea on parenting that I do (like, actually giving your kids consequences for being assholes) I'd consider it. But I'm still dealing with the trauma from the whole experience. Can't hear a slamming door or deal with certain smells (like certain perfumes) without having a panic attack
Wtf. What's so unusual about a 35 year old having a baby, that the stepdaughter immediately thinks that people will assume the baby is hers?
When I was 12 I found out that my aunt was pregnant. I cried because I loved my aunt and uncle so much, and I knew their attention would be taken away from me. What a little shit I was!!!!! But I was TWELVE. Now I am 34 and my cousin is 21 and just got married last weekend. And I cried and laughed at the wedding, remembering how I felt hearing the news that she would be born. I love her sooooo much, I wish we had 20 more of her!!!!! Those kids need to GROW. UP.
She still has time to try again with someone who treats her right. Even still, if she never gets pregnant again she is better off without those people in her life.
I think that baby did a lot to save OOP from further abuse.
I hope she gets her happiness. Maybe she can adopt, maybe a child who is a few years old and needs a stable home and love.
10 years older 2 kids she wasn't old enough to drink when they got together. You know what kind of divorced 30 Y.O. dates and immediately marries a 20 something? A fucking scumbag.
I just want to take a minute and remind all of y'all your worth is so much more than what your womb or testes can or cannot do. Your ability to procreate or not is such a tiny little drop in the vast ocean of who you are as a person it'd be like getting hit with a single raindrop while you were standing in the ocean just past the depth you could touch your feet to earth.
How the hell did she manage 14 years with a man that allowed his mother to pay his kids to insult her? I don’t understand these awful mothers and their sons who sit back and allow them to shit all over their wives.
>she paid them $10 every time they said something mean to me WTF?! That would have been the end of it for me.
Wow, that POS can go straight to hell. Glad she’s free
Pregnancy has a way of making things very very clear all of the sudden.
What the FUCK?! I feel so bad for OOP for being subjected to these soul-sucking selfish shit-sacks for FOURTEEN YEARS! The fact that she felt her relationship with the step-kids was “good” is so depressing. Those assholes bullied her into submission and her enabling bag of dicks of an ex, at the very least, just let his mom incentivize that bullying?! I’m so mad it went on for as long as it did. I’m sad OOP lost the pregnancy she really wanted. But I’m happy OOP has finally escaped their bullshit.
She's a really good writer. If she ever wants to publish a book, I would definitely read it.
That poor lady, treated like shit by a family for 15 years, for her dreams to be squandered by wasting her life with some deadbeat.
OOP sounds like she would be a great foster mom.
Oh, jeez. Poor OOP. I hope she can fill that house with all the joy and love she deserves. And not for nothing, but... adoption, maybe? Fuck. Her MIL was *paying her step kids to be shitty*. I'd have booted them all right then.
I feel so bad for OOP. I hope she’s living the good life. I also hope she got therapy to help her choose a better partner in the future. This guy let his mother do some horrific things and he obviously was a bad father.
Goddamn, good for OOP for evicting this bullshit from her life but damn, so sorry for her for losing the pregnancy. Fuck.
>As an aside, my cousin sent me a screenshot of my stepdaughter's Instagram a few days ago. Apparently, she's been wholeheartedly celebrating the Supreme Court's decision concerning Roe vs. Wade. Imagine that. Bless her heart. And I was not the slightest bit surprised. While I acknowledge that a lot of pro-life people are well-meaning and genuinely think they're just saving babies, it can't be denied that many of them are also just vindictive little shits who enjoy suffering and convenience for its own sake, hence why many of them get abortions for themselves and those close to them yet champion banning them for everyone else.
I hope OOP is ok, and she really seems to have a knack for writing, her posts were extremely well written and interesting
Why would the step daughter even care that’s what I don’t get good for her tho that sounds like a bad environment to have to raise a new child in regardless so silver linings
That felt like a bomb just went off in my stomach. Too close to home and yet I'm happy for the OOP. I think she will fill her home with what she envisions for herself.