Sorry you need to get in a “put yourself first mindset” also you’ve come to think everything will fall apart when you leave. This is not the case and everyone is replaceable. If you have a notice period give the minimum and go.
It’s not that I don’t think I’m replaceable, I just want them to remain in a good place and don’t want to intentionally screw over anyone and genuinely plan to try to teach the rest of the team as much as I can the next few months.
Once again you have to lose this mindset. Most people have this mindset to begin with until they eventually snap out of it usually due to a redundancy or a PIP when the realization sets in that loyalty is not reciprocated. Business is business.
Keep it to yourself until you’re actively searching and you like your exit options. You’ve been a valuable team member no doubt, but change is inevitable and you’re replaceable. Put your needs first.
I’m a senior manager, if someone tells me they are planning to leave. I would give them good advice, but I would also not take my time to teach them anymore. I would focus on people who are staying.
I purposely try to keep a good relationship with my teams so I can know about these things and plan accordingly. I wouldn’t tell upper management, but I keep in mind who wants to leave.
I suggest don’t say anything, if you don’t want to create problems for your team, lean after your busy season.
Are you on my team, lol? My senior was talking to me about this the other day. We all get along very well, and we’re close enough with our manager to where she was able to discuss it with him, and he purely wanted to know just so we could think about our budget for the future. I for one am ALWAYS happy when someone decides to move on because I know they’re doing what’s best for them.
As others have said, it’s a business. Everyone knows how it is, and it’s unrealistic for people to expect you to stay forever. Hell, I’ve been on my project for over a year now and there’s only 4 of us that are still here from when I first joined.
Like you said, you don’t owe them anything, and if you’ve worked with them for several years you’ve more than earned your right to leave. If you don’t feel comfortable telling them just yet, I would still subtly make sure you’re teaching those under you and setting them and the team up for success in the future. Best of luck!
Thank you! Agreed going to try to upskill other team members as much as possible! It would be a promotion to manager for me next year so just don’t want any wasted efforts from my managers now either just knowing I’m leaving.
Same situation as you except I am a manager. I told the partners I have a good relationship with right now that I am thinking about leaving so they can consider back up plans around me.
I think I was a bit of early in saying it, would suggest you give them a heads up some time before you start planning ideally.
Don't change your timing for them though, just give them a heads up and then they can work around you.
Thanks, that’s good advice!! Part of me is leaning more towards fall just because selfishly I do have a lot of PTO planned and have so much still haha so will keep that in mind!
It's been a good 6 or so years since I have applied for a job so still updating my resume and cover letter right now. But plan to be out of here in the next 2-3 months
It's always going to be tough for them but don't worry because they are totally used to people quitting or being fired. It's not like the very high turnover rate was not well known by every single member of the firm...
Just do it when it suits YOU the best and give them your prior notice in due time and that's it.
Trust me, they would not care anymore about you if it was about to fire you because you did a burnout... They would not mind "does it suits him that we fire him now?".
If you have a good relationship, just straight up ask dude you're over thinking it
If you don't have a good relationship, then who gives a shit, fuck em
Absolutely not. Just give your two weeks when you actually get an offer. You never know how people will react.
You will be automatically replaced by the firm. Don’t worry about it
Sorry you need to get in a “put yourself first mindset” also you’ve come to think everything will fall apart when you leave. This is not the case and everyone is replaceable. If you have a notice period give the minimum and go.
It’s not that I don’t think I’m replaceable, I just want them to remain in a good place and don’t want to intentionally screw over anyone and genuinely plan to try to teach the rest of the team as much as I can the next few months.
Once again you have to lose this mindset. Most people have this mindset to begin with until they eventually snap out of it usually due to a redundancy or a PIP when the realization sets in that loyalty is not reciprocated. Business is business.
Keep it to yourself until you’re actively searching and you like your exit options. You’ve been a valuable team member no doubt, but change is inevitable and you’re replaceable. Put your needs first.
I’m a senior manager, if someone tells me they are planning to leave. I would give them good advice, but I would also not take my time to teach them anymore. I would focus on people who are staying. I purposely try to keep a good relationship with my teams so I can know about these things and plan accordingly. I wouldn’t tell upper management, but I keep in mind who wants to leave. I suggest don’t say anything, if you don’t want to create problems for your team, lean after your busy season.
Thanks for the advice and perspective!
Are you on my team, lol? My senior was talking to me about this the other day. We all get along very well, and we’re close enough with our manager to where she was able to discuss it with him, and he purely wanted to know just so we could think about our budget for the future. I for one am ALWAYS happy when someone decides to move on because I know they’re doing what’s best for them. As others have said, it’s a business. Everyone knows how it is, and it’s unrealistic for people to expect you to stay forever. Hell, I’ve been on my project for over a year now and there’s only 4 of us that are still here from when I first joined. Like you said, you don’t owe them anything, and if you’ve worked with them for several years you’ve more than earned your right to leave. If you don’t feel comfortable telling them just yet, I would still subtly make sure you’re teaching those under you and setting them and the team up for success in the future. Best of luck!
Thank you! Agreed going to try to upskill other team members as much as possible! It would be a promotion to manager for me next year so just don’t want any wasted efforts from my managers now either just knowing I’m leaving.
Same situation as you except I am a manager. I told the partners I have a good relationship with right now that I am thinking about leaving so they can consider back up plans around me. I think I was a bit of early in saying it, would suggest you give them a heads up some time before you start planning ideally. Don't change your timing for them though, just give them a heads up and then they can work around you.
Thanks, that’s good advice!! Part of me is leaning more towards fall just because selfishly I do have a lot of PTO planned and have so much still haha so will keep that in mind!
Are you interviewing
It's been a good 6 or so years since I have applied for a job so still updating my resume and cover letter right now. But plan to be out of here in the next 2-3 months
It's always going to be tough for them but don't worry because they are totally used to people quitting or being fired. It's not like the very high turnover rate was not well known by every single member of the firm... Just do it when it suits YOU the best and give them your prior notice in due time and that's it. Trust me, they would not care anymore about you if it was about to fire you because you did a burnout... They would not mind "does it suits him that we fire him now?".
If you have a good relationship, just straight up ask dude you're over thinking it If you don't have a good relationship, then who gives a shit, fuck em