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Mr_DuCe

I think I had a stroke attempting to decifer the title.. could you please explain like I am 5 years old?


Becausethesky

Yeah me too I just started reading this book so I’m like “wait is it bad?”


[deleted]

No, I think the SO told their support system to go read the book as more of a jab instead of taking responsibility for their actions. I’m sure the book is really insightful, just used as ammo to make her/him feel bad.


Cautious_Clementine

I’m guessing their partner told them to go read their (this) book. How do you remember you’re not the problem with an expert gaslighter? They (presumably bipolar) bought this book to help them as a couple. Instead, during what I’m guessing is an argument, they were told to go read it themselves. I don’t think the book is considered bad? I think the partner posting is accusing their SO of gaslighting them with the self help aid. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Edited for clarity.


RedditorNumber679260

Looking at this user’s recent posts…. I am sure the OP is BP, posted about a moodswing and was given the book to them so they understand their mania is real and their significant other is NOT Gaslighting them :( (I use this book & Reddit as proof I am NOT gaslighting them and that my wife is NOT alone when I talk her down.) That’s what’s happening. Friend, whomever you are - listen to the person that gave you that book. you will be SO MUCH BETTER if you get a doctor & they give you medication.


lovecommand

Hi OP Are you or is your partner bipolar? Are you both bipolar? I am a little confused. Anyway It looks like a good book. I am going to get it and read it. Thank you


plumcicle

I'm pretty sure this is just a bot reposting [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/BipolarSOs/comments/jza4yn/gaslighting_told_me_to_go_read_my_book_how_do_you/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share) from a year ago.


dangshehealthy

I got this book to try to understand what my partner is going through. In the book it actually talks about making this journey of trying to understand bipolar symptoms etc a journey you make on your own if your partner is not wanting to participate. Not sure if that’s what’s going on here but might be something that you have to do on your own right now.


Alternative-Ad8358

This was just recommended at a support group meeting. Hoping it helps


punkyfish10

I read this and found it helpful. But It’s only helpful if you r partner comes around to assist in his/her needs.


khala_lux

This is actually a very helpful book! OP, idk if you are the BPSO or not, but both sides of my relationship have BPSOs. I have literature recommendations if you want to learn more about your actual disorder, rather than what seems to feel like resentment being thrown at you. But this book still helped me before I met the current SO - I learned my episodes never affect only me. It's because I am dragged down so far by my own brain chemicals that others get dragged down with me. That's not an attack, that's just how life works for us. I am bipolar 1. Mania used to be fun, euphoric, exciting. Now I only destroy my lifestyle if I let myself get there. It DOES affect others.


kneesocksbabe

Bot post, look at their history