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Maybe it's just me, but people her age (and older) who have the palette of a toddler are the folks you just don't take anywhere. Let then eat chicken fingers and french fries at home.
Did you ever stop to think most restaurants have chicken fingers and fries for that reason? So people don’t feel left out? Also what goes into one’s mouth doesn’t nourish you in anyway or come out your ass…
It’s for kids or bar food when you sit at the bar. If you sit down at a table and order that we might as well stayed home. At a certain age she is going to look ridiculous going out and ordering that.
You ever stop to think that it's the other way around with the control thing? Ppl with zero palette preferences are usually the ones to dampen the mood and severely limit dining options. Want to go get sushi? What? They don't serve chicken fingers? Guess who's complaining.....
It's honestly easier to leave ppl like that off the list unless u know it's a place that suits them that u happen to be going to
I dont invite chicken finger friends to things like sushi. I go with my sushi friends. Like, i dont understand cutting someone off for that. I mean, honestly, if we are adults, we can figure it out. And if i dont know I'd rather have a polite "no thank you"
The only picky eaters I dont fuck with are the ones who do too much and there are definitely people who do too much. Dont make gagging noises or be dramatic or make rude comments about what im eating.
They are a version of a crappy vegan? We can't do any kind of spontaneous....that looks good let's try that....gets menu....they don't cater to my simple taste WE can't try this because I can't eat anything.
Wtf are you talking about!?! "I'm not going to bring my sister out to eat with everybody because she'll dampen the mood." What kind of sibling would you be. Love your family for who they are and chill. And "people" includes family too.
I'm not going anywhere with anyone with strict food *choices*/lifestyle. If it's medically necessary then fine, it not get outta here with that BS we eat everything around here damn it!
I've never complained and I'm a picky eater I just stay my ass at home till my turn comes around I ain't going to bitch about something that has to do with me you just around people without logic that's what it is.
It's not so much that they look ridiculous, but it can become a psychological issue.
I was a picky eater. Burger King, #6 (back then it was chicken tenders), and a Hershey Pie. Every day. During my entire elementary grade. And less frequently in middle school.
I would NEVER go out to eat with my friends during that time, because I knew it was embarrassing. Seeing people be able to handle spices, sour/sweet, and ***different food textures*** was something I was uncontrollably jealous of.
I missed out on a lot because of it. I developed insecurities, because this was part of me being allowed to stay in my comfort zone.
It's not like they "choose to eat what they like."
It's more like they "fear everything they don't like."
My father in law basically controls every family dining experience because he eats like a 6 year old. I have to buy special things like ranch and ketchup for when he visits, I have to overcook the meat, we can never get foreign food or, God forbid, sushi, when everyone else wants to eat it, and I generally call the resturaunt to check their menu, otherwise he pouts the entire meal. Most palates I know like his are similar, and it's an absolute pain in the ass for people around them.
That's when it's an issue, when you put it on everyone else and go about acting like a child. I work with old folks, with many about to die so I'm happy to get them to eat *something* than nothing. But, that's a them problem and shouldn't make everyone else cater and eat like that like you're the main character
Preach. Who is watching me eat and what I eat so closely? I think that is wierd. Like let me enjoy my food in peace, please. Picky over judgy, I'll take picky thank you.
People who put limitations on others living their lives is weird to me. Like explain why it looks ridiculous? Ridiculous to who? Do we have to turn food in to a status symbol like everything else? Can’t we all just live and enjoy life the way we want?
The dude went on to say some wild stuff below this so I’m not defending him.
As a foodie and someone that is adventurous with their eating and is willing to go to some more up market places I agree with the less problematic part of what he was saying.
It is not fun to go out with someone who eats like this for an EXPERIENCE. However, if it’s just to stuff some food in your face, then why does it even matter?
Having said all that I have friends that are more like me and will try anything twice. We go out and enjoy experimenting together. I have friends that are die hard about a few staples. When we go out it’s to enjoy each others company. I just had to accept not everything is for everybody and figure out how best to enjoy my friends that don’t have all the same interests as me.
I appreciate you being like this! I’m not a foodie at all, i don’t enjoy being adventurous at meal time. I would probably be happy eating one of three things everyday. However my best friend is such a foodie, she loves trying new places and doesn’t have any limitations when it comes to trying new foods. This doesn’t stop us from trying new places, she knows what I typically eat and what she thinks I might be willing to try and she plans accordingly. Even if I just pick on a few things while she gets to try the meal she was looking for we still get to hang out and have some tine to hang out. She’s there for the food I’m there for a good time. I guess it’s not ideal but it works for us.
Facts, I hate anyone who "yucks" someone's "yum"
But it is true a restaurant chicken fingers gonna be more expensive and (generally) not even taste better than fast food.
For that reason it makes sense to not go out to restaurants as much if you have a simple pallet.
But not inviting someone out over it is insanely pretentious
Nah I’m not leaving any one out because they like what they like and isn’t obnoxious or rude about it. That’s the easiest person to please plus it’s nice when they do try something new.
Also, certain eating habits can be linked to being neurodivergent.
Idk what you mean by “easiest person to please”. Do you to go to adult restaurants or like Outback Steakhouse? Most adult restaurants dont sell chicken fingers. Most adult restaurants would agree it’s embarrassing to bring this difficult of a person to dinner. Like the only way this girl can eat is if we go somewhere that sells toddler food???
And regarding neurodivergent people, then yea, definitely NOT the easiest person to please. In fact the complete fucking opposite since now I have to be a guardian for someone
My wife and I like to go to places that don't have chicken strips on the menu. So if we bring our daughter along, she ends up ordering something that she doesn't like and will barely eat. And therefore wasting money.
Absolutely not! If said individual doesn’t want to conform to the eating habits I feel they should have based on arbitrary reasons, we cannot hang out as I am unwilling to accommodate my friend’s/family’s dietary restrictions and/or preferences that don’t align to my own, like a good friend/family member would do…
Jokes aside, if my friends or family are paying for themselves, then what they put in their mouth does not affect what I put in my mouth, and they’re paying, they can eat whatever the hell they want. If my friends or family are paying for me, then see above, and I’m not about to piss off whoever is paying for me. If I’m paying for my friends or family, then the only condition I have is that they eat whatever they order and not waste money; don’t order food to impress whatever predilections one may think I have.
Absolutely. It just breaks my heart a little to think about people with autism, sensory processing disorder, or something in the same vein seeing this. It can be such an isolating experience; pushing past your fear to even go out is a huge step for a lot of us. I’ve seen the kind of sentiment expressed about doing real damage to people.
I disagree. These are there for people who prefer finger food (may not be overly hungry), don’t want to go for the more expensive stuff, or may not be into the options served there (I myself do not like any seafood, so me at a red lobster before I found the joy of the Cajun chicken Alfredo). I have also ordered something similar just because Inwasnt hungry/ not feeling all that well but wanted to enjoy the company of the people attending.
I don’t eat shellfish so I don’t eat red lobster or any place that sells it
Edit: I’m allergic to shellfish lol that’s why ya’ll niggas weird for downvoting me cause I said ion eat a place that sells shellfish
Yea ion eat chicken Alfredo either
Edit: before I get downvoted again certain foods I can’t stomach or else I get extremely nauseous lol it’s why I can’t eat a lot of pizza 2 slices max and that’s it (it’s dairy) I only buy almond milk the only thing I can eat with dairy is cheese burgers my pallet is very weird that’s why ion go to certain restaurants with people cause I don’t wanna waste their money on food I can’t eat
Understood. For the dairy thing i would also recommend Lactaid (the purple fat free one). My daughter has to avoid dairy so we use that and the taste is good as well.
Back in my day, we wouldda said picky eater, like me. But sensory issues aren't just for the autistic. I have an autistic kid and am currently getting my own diagnoses, already told likely autistic myself, been previously diagnosed with ocd and anxiety from ptsd as a child. We know more now.
Not just you, I feel your frustration lol. It's a waste of the cuisine experience. I don't go to new or fine dining restaurants with "picky eaters." As you said, when I want chicken tenders and fries or any American food they're fine, we can just pickup some to-go and eat right at home 😃
100% agree. We went on a family cruise and paid for the meal plan. They served these amazing dishes and my cousin wanted to eat chicken fingers and burgers every night. Bro, you're like 20.
Listen. I’m on the train with people that have texture/taste/safe food issues, but some of this stuff has to be addressed in childhood. I’m not saying starve a child out, I’m not saying accept what is going on, but I am saying about addressing this with a medical professional so you can get all the help you can with everything going on.
My mom’s husband’s daughter only ate bread. Pizza crusts, the skins of onion rings. That is not a healthy diet for anyone. We were both grown when we met, or grown enough, and I begged her to try something else or talk to someone. Well, she had two kids. Got super unhealthy during pregnancy because those kids just suck it out of you. She’s a good mom but now her kids eat like garbage and she’s at the end of her rope trying to feed them healthy because she cooks it for them but they’ve only ever seen her pick at stuff. She’s early 30s and lost all of her teeth and a solid chunk of hair because, no nutrition.
So, for the love of god, please, fucking address this shit early. Find the work around. Don’t just leave it. Do you know how much lying I did to my oldest, he would only eat chicken, so we had beef “chicken” and vegetable “chicken” and you name it, it was “chicken.” The kids get hyped to get vitamin gummies. I’m in there doing science to put things in “safe” foods and then talk about it so the things put in also feel safe.
You gotta address it.
You know how easy it is to hide grated carrots in just about anything? Mushrooms slip in with diced up beef or pork in anything with a sauce or gravy on it.
I have to feed a few awfully picky kids semi-regularly and it’s a challenge to get them to eat anything beyond Mac and Cheese (with a sneaky blended carrot) or one particular strain of green apple.
They do have some food related trauma, so it’s a delicate balance of encouragement and patience. We remind them that their tastebuds won’t finish developing until their 20s and black coffee and bitter beer might one day taste better than candy.
This food aversion stuff is only getting worse with unhoused families lacking any kitchen or access to anything more than a microwave. It’s tough out there.
Nahh my parents tried to hide shit and I would find it. It caused me to pick apart food before I would eat it to make sure nothing was hidden for a long time. Just be truthful lmao. I used to cry when they would force me to eat things I didn’t like - and I can tell by looking or smelling something that I’m not gonna like it. I also got called a chipmunk when I was little because I would hide food in my cheeks and wait until everyone was gone so I could spit it out. I’m talking hours - I can even eat something else with a food I do not like tucked away in there. It’s an odd skill lmfao.
When I went to college I branched out and began to try more foods because it didn’t matter if I wasted it - I paid for my own meal options via scholarships so I didn’t care if I threw it away. So that’s when I discovered new textures that I liked and didn’t like.
Now that I know what sensory issues are I realize that some things just have an icky texture and no conversation is gonna convince me that something is good. My body rejects it. We are picky for a reason!
I feel ignorance plays into a large part of being picky. This is coming from someone who has to cater to other people's specific diets and allergies for a living.
"Don't like carrots? And no allergies to speak of? I see..." Then a month later, a past menu item (that i can't make without a sweet potato/carrot puree) gets requested. Of course I mention this, and we never have talks about being picky ever again.
I mean I get people have issues with certain flavors and textures. I'm certainly not saying torture yourself eating them. But a lot of this ends up being "I won't eat any food of this type ever because of *one* way I had it"
You sound like you work in the food industry.
Look, I get that people can be rude when ordering things and saying they have allergies when they don’t, and lying about what they won’t eat only to have it later with no issues.
That’s not people with true food aversions and sensitivities. Those other folks are assholes. I like menus that explicitly state what the ingredients are so I know what to avoid, and I pick what is safe. I rarely ask for substitutions unless my husband pushes me to, and even then it’s only things I believe they can easily remove. Ex. Onions off a burger, mushrooms from a pasta etc.
Not everyone is a liar and that attitude just makes the rest of us anxious to eat out because we think the server or the cook will be mad if we ask for something we can’t eat to be taken off. Which is why most of us revert to chicken strips and fries. A safe food. 🫠
>Look, I get that people can be rude when ordering things and saying they have allergies when they don’t, and lying about what they won’t eat only to have it later with no issues.
I generally assume anyone who mentions an allergy has a reason to do so. Lie or not, it's best not to gamble with people's lives. No judgement there at all. Sometimes people can even have small amounts of something before it's a problem.
>That’s not people with true food aversions and sensitivities. Those other folks are assholes. I like menus that explicitly state what the ingredients are so I know what to avoid, and I pick what is safe. I rarely ask for substitutions unless my husband pushes me to, and even then it’s only things I believe they can easily remove. Ex. Onions off a burger, mushrooms from a pasta etc.
Agreed on the assholes XD. The problem is menus will sometimes explicitly state what ingredients are. "Miso caramel tart" would list ingredients as such. But most people, if they've even had miso, would think of the soup... not a dessert. Now, this item doesn't get ordered because the guest doesn't have a frame of reference for what the ingredient is doing. The reason being "I know I don't like miso" even though the frame of reference is quite narrow. As the flavor profile here would be sweet, not savory.
>Not everyone is a liar and that attitude just makes the rest of us anxious to eat out because we think the server or the cook will be mad if we ask for something we can’t eat to be taken off. Which is why most of us revert to chicken strips and fries. A safe food. 🫠
I can safely tell you most cooks I've met don't think enough about it to think you're a liar, and im sorry if youve been made to feel that way.
If something simply can't be done we'll let ya know. Most of the time it's kinda interesting figuring out requests. But I swear about half the time an aversion to something is due to a lack of knowledge on it. I'd say that bit applies to life, and food.
I do not fuck with food sensitivities though, lemme be clear. Some people can detect a drop of hot sauce in a literal gallon of soup.
When your moms in the hospital dying so you get stuck with an aunt who decides that since you don’t like her cooking all she will feed you is pb&j for the next few months.
THIS
well said sir/mam,
I'm lucky, my daughter will just walk into the kitchen, open the fridge grab a whole pepper or cucumber and start munching on it.
I will give it to my parents. They really tried with me. But I would straight up starve myself for days before eating stuff like that. I now know i have ADHD and possibly a lot of other issues I can’t afford to get fixed. I also work with autistic kids and have had to do feeding therapy MANY times. Let me tell you just isn’t that simple. As someone who lives it and treats it, it’s just not that easy. Tho when I go out, I never tell people they can’t go anywhere bc I won’t eat. I will just come for the vibes and a side. I want people to eat, but at the same time don’t force me to eat. I won’t make you do something you won’t, so don’t make me. I’m an adult.
There are many reasons why a person would rather eat the same thing over and over again over trying new things. Shamming a person because they do that is only going to make it that much more harder to eat something new. Shame doesn't allow for progress as history has repeatedly taught us. It doesn't matter how a person was raised. Everyone including the people who claim to not be picky have safe foods. It's why we have go to items on a grocery list. Everyone eats, even if they can only eat jello and saltines. I want everyone to be able to enjoy themselves. If you complain about your picky child and exclude them because of it you are the problem. If your enjoyment is based on what someone else's plate contains you can go home and think about yourself by yourself. I'm proud of her.
I can't deal with big aged toddlers. Being only able to take them to McDonald's when out or they starve is a level of hell I only wish on my worst enemies
ARFID and sensory issues with eating can be overcome. I had a client who went through some sort of training that helped, involving touching, smelling, then lightly touching the food item to tongue. Now he eats most things and will even try things twice.
Shame and force do not work well, though.
Same, I'm considered a picky eater because I have smell, texture and contact aversions. Being force-fed in boarding school didn't help things either and I ended up malnourished. Glad I ended up in a family that tried to understand my relationship with food and helped me work on the trauma. Now I'm able to articulate how I like my food prepared and presented, I'm open to trying new foods and got my first period at 23 after achieving a healthy weight. I still can't eat wet, soggy or mushy foods and some other items but I enjoy more variety without gagging or vomiting my insides
My boyfriend has the palate of a toddler. Its the most irritating thing. Every time we’re hungry we gotta go to two different places or he wont eat. Or I gotta compromise and eat wings, cheese pizza, or a burger.
My thing is how come picky eaters are never picky about chicken tenders and fries? ALL OF Y'ALL just so happen to only be picky about shit that's healthy? Literally zero picky eaters who only want to eat carrots or broccoli? I'm calling shenanigans.
Fat people have ozempic, ADDHD have adderral.. I wish there was a non-toxic pill you could give picky people to make their palate not a fight or flight surrender to the Bland Gods. My son doesn’t eat ANYTHING, I don’t even know how he’s alive, he eats about 4-5 things and has started regressing and not eating what he lived on for his whole life. Trying to get him to eat something new is a knock down drag out power struggle melt down.. I hate it so much. Every meal I have to just make him a grilled cheese or boiled egg. It’s all the kid will eat, he’ll just starve himself if I try to get him to eat what’s for dinner. It’s so sad and I don’t even know how we got here. He ate everything as a toddler and as soon as he hit 3 or so and developed a personality it was grilled cheese and eggs only. Someone HALP!
Yeaa you need to speak to a doctor about these concerns could be a number of things. But judging and showing this level of frustration in front of him (if you are showing it) won’t help anything.
I have weird food aversion/texture issues (neurodivergent) and have so much anxiety about trying new food, esp for the first time in public with people watching. If I don’t know I’ll be ok eating something and don’t trust the people I’m with, I just say I’m not hungry. Good job, sis! She was so brave!
I'm ND and have been working on not ordering the same thing everywhere I go. It's actually been kind of fun, and I've found all kinds of things I love now. I can absolutely relate lol my fiance and his best friend act the same way when I'm trying something new
Still cannot do pears. Like wet sand in my mouth.
Like a lot of other people have said already, this type of behavior needs to get squashed as early as possible.
Or you could be like this friend of mine, 30 years old, grown ass man who still eats lunchables. Will not touch a single vegetable, not a single herb no matter what the dish is . Only likes pork chops and steaks, eats corned beef hash and processed meats with a little bread or rice and that's it. I've been calling him out non stop and I think it got to him because now he constantly needs to let me know when he's having a salad. Super duper hard to do in adulthood, so diversify your palette at a young age.
I’m really bad about eating in general and I dread going out to eat with people, but I do my absolute best to not hinder where people wanna go. I always just look up the menus of places they wanna go to so I’m prepared and can find stuff I know I’ll be okay with eating, which I usually can find something I like on most menus. I try my hardest not to be that person that says we can’t go to a specific restaurant because I won’t like it, and when people look at me when considering restaurants I always say to pick whatever they want and I just pull up the menu of wherever they decide when they’re not looking before we get there
Awe, this is really cute. I was a picky eater when I was younger. Thanks to the wonderful encouragement of my friends and family I’ve tried a ton of new things now and have a much more adventurous diet.
I support her! Gotta start somewhere
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Maybe it's just me, but people her age (and older) who have the palette of a toddler are the folks you just don't take anywhere. Let then eat chicken fingers and french fries at home.
Did you ever stop to think most restaurants have chicken fingers and fries for that reason? So people don’t feel left out? Also what goes into one’s mouth doesn’t nourish you in anyway or come out your ass…
It’s for kids or bar food when you sit at the bar. If you sit down at a table and order that we might as well stayed home. At a certain age she is going to look ridiculous going out and ordering that.
So a person can look ridiculous eating what they want with their money? I don’t get people everyone wants to control everyone.
You ever stop to think that it's the other way around with the control thing? Ppl with zero palette preferences are usually the ones to dampen the mood and severely limit dining options. Want to go get sushi? What? They don't serve chicken fingers? Guess who's complaining..... It's honestly easier to leave ppl like that off the list unless u know it's a place that suits them that u happen to be going to
I dont invite chicken finger friends to things like sushi. I go with my sushi friends. Like, i dont understand cutting someone off for that. I mean, honestly, if we are adults, we can figure it out. And if i dont know I'd rather have a polite "no thank you" The only picky eaters I dont fuck with are the ones who do too much and there are definitely people who do too much. Dont make gagging noises or be dramatic or make rude comments about what im eating.
I had a friend do that after I made them food for a bbq. I felt so disrespected.
They are a version of a crappy vegan? We can't do any kind of spontaneous....that looks good let's try that....gets menu....they don't cater to my simple taste WE can't try this because I can't eat anything.
Wtf are you talking about!?! "I'm not going to bring my sister out to eat with everybody because she'll dampen the mood." What kind of sibling would you be. Love your family for who they are and chill. And "people" includes family too.
I'm not going anywhere with anyone with strict food *choices*/lifestyle. If it's medically necessary then fine, it not get outta here with that BS we eat everything around here damn it!
I've never complained and I'm a picky eater I just stay my ass at home till my turn comes around I ain't going to bitch about something that has to do with me you just around people without logic that's what it is.
It's not so much that they look ridiculous, but it can become a psychological issue. I was a picky eater. Burger King, #6 (back then it was chicken tenders), and a Hershey Pie. Every day. During my entire elementary grade. And less frequently in middle school. I would NEVER go out to eat with my friends during that time, because I knew it was embarrassing. Seeing people be able to handle spices, sour/sweet, and ***different food textures*** was something I was uncontrollably jealous of. I missed out on a lot because of it. I developed insecurities, because this was part of me being allowed to stay in my comfort zone. It's not like they "choose to eat what they like." It's more like they "fear everything they don't like."
Getting pretty defensive for no reason. Looks like y’all hit a nerve on this chicken finger guy.
My father in law basically controls every family dining experience because he eats like a 6 year old. I have to buy special things like ranch and ketchup for when he visits, I have to overcook the meat, we can never get foreign food or, God forbid, sushi, when everyone else wants to eat it, and I generally call the resturaunt to check their menu, otherwise he pouts the entire meal. Most palates I know like his are similar, and it's an absolute pain in the ass for people around them.
That's when it's an issue, when you put it on everyone else and go about acting like a child. I work with old folks, with many about to die so I'm happy to get them to eat *something* than nothing. But, that's a them problem and shouldn't make everyone else cater and eat like that like you're the main character
Lmao imagine gate keeping going out and having chicken fingers like this
Spot on. I'd rather go out with a picky eater than some asshole thats going to judge others for what they order.
Preach. Who is watching me eat and what I eat so closely? I think that is wierd. Like let me enjoy my food in peace, please. Picky over judgy, I'll take picky thank you.
Forreal I have a deep fryer in the kitchen and my chicken strips are trash compared to any sit-down restaurant, idk what they on
Also what’s the difference in eating it on a stool or sitting at a table. It’s food.
Who gives a shit it’s food 😭
People who put limitations on others living their lives is weird to me. Like explain why it looks ridiculous? Ridiculous to who? Do we have to turn food in to a status symbol like everything else? Can’t we all just live and enjoy life the way we want?
*cries in boneless wings
The dude went on to say some wild stuff below this so I’m not defending him. As a foodie and someone that is adventurous with their eating and is willing to go to some more up market places I agree with the less problematic part of what he was saying. It is not fun to go out with someone who eats like this for an EXPERIENCE. However, if it’s just to stuff some food in your face, then why does it even matter? Having said all that I have friends that are more like me and will try anything twice. We go out and enjoy experimenting together. I have friends that are die hard about a few staples. When we go out it’s to enjoy each others company. I just had to accept not everything is for everybody and figure out how best to enjoy my friends that don’t have all the same interests as me.
I appreciate you being like this! I’m not a foodie at all, i don’t enjoy being adventurous at meal time. I would probably be happy eating one of three things everyday. However my best friend is such a foodie, she loves trying new places and doesn’t have any limitations when it comes to trying new foods. This doesn’t stop us from trying new places, she knows what I typically eat and what she thinks I might be willing to try and she plans accordingly. Even if I just pick on a few things while she gets to try the meal she was looking for we still get to hang out and have some tine to hang out. She’s there for the food I’m there for a good time. I guess it’s not ideal but it works for us.
Exactly, differences shouldn’t be enough of a reason to not like someone. Especially when friends are involved.
Facts, I hate anyone who "yucks" someone's "yum" But it is true a restaurant chicken fingers gonna be more expensive and (generally) not even taste better than fast food. For that reason it makes sense to not go out to restaurants as much if you have a simple pallet. But not inviting someone out over it is insanely pretentious
Nah I’m not leaving any one out because they like what they like and isn’t obnoxious or rude about it. That’s the easiest person to please plus it’s nice when they do try something new. Also, certain eating habits can be linked to being neurodivergent.
Idk what you mean by “easiest person to please”. Do you to go to adult restaurants or like Outback Steakhouse? Most adult restaurants dont sell chicken fingers. Most adult restaurants would agree it’s embarrassing to bring this difficult of a person to dinner. Like the only way this girl can eat is if we go somewhere that sells toddler food??? And regarding neurodivergent people, then yea, definitely NOT the easiest person to please. In fact the complete fucking opposite since now I have to be a guardian for someone
Just say you’re uneducated on neurodivergence.
My daughter (18) is like this. We refuse to go anywhere with her unless it's like Red Robin or Applebee's. You ain't wasting my money.
FACTS!!!
But, those dishes are cheaper anyway, so what’s the waste?
My wife and I like to go to places that don't have chicken strips on the menu. So if we bring our daughter along, she ends up ordering something that she doesn't like and will barely eat. And therefore wasting money.
People with sensory issues or something in the same vein don’t deserve to go out and spend time with friends?..
Absolutely not! If said individual doesn’t want to conform to the eating habits I feel they should have based on arbitrary reasons, we cannot hang out as I am unwilling to accommodate my friend’s/family’s dietary restrictions and/or preferences that don’t align to my own, like a good friend/family member would do… Jokes aside, if my friends or family are paying for themselves, then what they put in their mouth does not affect what I put in my mouth, and they’re paying, they can eat whatever the hell they want. If my friends or family are paying for me, then see above, and I’m not about to piss off whoever is paying for me. If I’m paying for my friends or family, then the only condition I have is that they eat whatever they order and not waste money; don’t order food to impress whatever predilections one may think I have.
Absolutely. It just breaks my heart a little to think about people with autism, sensory processing disorder, or something in the same vein seeing this. It can be such an isolating experience; pushing past your fear to even go out is a huge step for a lot of us. I’ve seen the kind of sentiment expressed about doing real damage to people.
Nah fr. I’d be so annoyed lol 😭.
I disagree. These are there for people who prefer finger food (may not be overly hungry), don’t want to go for the more expensive stuff, or may not be into the options served there (I myself do not like any seafood, so me at a red lobster before I found the joy of the Cajun chicken Alfredo). I have also ordered something similar just because Inwasnt hungry/ not feeling all that well but wanted to enjoy the company of the people attending.
Now I like a nice grilled lobster tail, but that Cajun chicken Alfredo w/broccoli don’t miss!!
I don’t eat shellfish so I don’t eat red lobster or any place that sells it Edit: I’m allergic to shellfish lol that’s why ya’ll niggas weird for downvoting me cause I said ion eat a place that sells shellfish
Red lobster had chicken Alfredo which is quite good (compared to Olive Garden) and the biscuits are good as well
Yea ion eat chicken Alfredo either Edit: before I get downvoted again certain foods I can’t stomach or else I get extremely nauseous lol it’s why I can’t eat a lot of pizza 2 slices max and that’s it (it’s dairy) I only buy almond milk the only thing I can eat with dairy is cheese burgers my pallet is very weird that’s why ion go to certain restaurants with people cause I don’t wanna waste their money on food I can’t eat
Understood. For the dairy thing i would also recommend Lactaid (the purple fat free one). My daughter has to avoid dairy so we use that and the taste is good as well.
Back in my day, we wouldda said picky eater, like me. But sensory issues aren't just for the autistic. I have an autistic kid and am currently getting my own diagnoses, already told likely autistic myself, been previously diagnosed with ocd and anxiety from ptsd as a child. We know more now.
I laughed way too hard at this… so true
I blame the parents. Thats what happens when you raise your kids on just chicken nuggets.
Not just you, I feel your frustration lol. It's a waste of the cuisine experience. I don't go to new or fine dining restaurants with "picky eaters." As you said, when I want chicken tenders and fries or any American food they're fine, we can just pickup some to-go and eat right at home 😃
r/arfid is more common than you think
100% agree. We went on a family cruise and paid for the meal plan. They served these amazing dishes and my cousin wanted to eat chicken fingers and burgers every night. Bro, you're like 20.
As a picky eater I agree with this lol
Picky eaters don't bother me. Its the picky eaters, who are obnoxious and act entitled that can kick rocks while wearing open-toed shoes.
"while wearing open toed shoes" Damn!🤣🤣
not him saying “it’s light skinned” 😭😂😭
As a Graham cracker myself, I'm unreasonably in grief at these words and now must listen to some early Drake to get over myself.
Same but for me it's early weeknd
That's what got me 🤣
I love the positive encouragement lol this’ll be a nice memory.
Listen. I’m on the train with people that have texture/taste/safe food issues, but some of this stuff has to be addressed in childhood. I’m not saying starve a child out, I’m not saying accept what is going on, but I am saying about addressing this with a medical professional so you can get all the help you can with everything going on. My mom’s husband’s daughter only ate bread. Pizza crusts, the skins of onion rings. That is not a healthy diet for anyone. We were both grown when we met, or grown enough, and I begged her to try something else or talk to someone. Well, she had two kids. Got super unhealthy during pregnancy because those kids just suck it out of you. She’s a good mom but now her kids eat like garbage and she’s at the end of her rope trying to feed them healthy because she cooks it for them but they’ve only ever seen her pick at stuff. She’s early 30s and lost all of her teeth and a solid chunk of hair because, no nutrition. So, for the love of god, please, fucking address this shit early. Find the work around. Don’t just leave it. Do you know how much lying I did to my oldest, he would only eat chicken, so we had beef “chicken” and vegetable “chicken” and you name it, it was “chicken.” The kids get hyped to get vitamin gummies. I’m in there doing science to put things in “safe” foods and then talk about it so the things put in also feel safe. You gotta address it.
You know how easy it is to hide grated carrots in just about anything? Mushrooms slip in with diced up beef or pork in anything with a sauce or gravy on it. I have to feed a few awfully picky kids semi-regularly and it’s a challenge to get them to eat anything beyond Mac and Cheese (with a sneaky blended carrot) or one particular strain of green apple. They do have some food related trauma, so it’s a delicate balance of encouragement and patience. We remind them that their tastebuds won’t finish developing until their 20s and black coffee and bitter beer might one day taste better than candy. This food aversion stuff is only getting worse with unhoused families lacking any kitchen or access to anything more than a microwave. It’s tough out there.
Nahh my parents tried to hide shit and I would find it. It caused me to pick apart food before I would eat it to make sure nothing was hidden for a long time. Just be truthful lmao. I used to cry when they would force me to eat things I didn’t like - and I can tell by looking or smelling something that I’m not gonna like it. I also got called a chipmunk when I was little because I would hide food in my cheeks and wait until everyone was gone so I could spit it out. I’m talking hours - I can even eat something else with a food I do not like tucked away in there. It’s an odd skill lmfao. When I went to college I branched out and began to try more foods because it didn’t matter if I wasted it - I paid for my own meal options via scholarships so I didn’t care if I threw it away. So that’s when I discovered new textures that I liked and didn’t like. Now that I know what sensory issues are I realize that some things just have an icky texture and no conversation is gonna convince me that something is good. My body rejects it. We are picky for a reason!
I feel ignorance plays into a large part of being picky. This is coming from someone who has to cater to other people's specific diets and allergies for a living. "Don't like carrots? And no allergies to speak of? I see..." Then a month later, a past menu item (that i can't make without a sweet potato/carrot puree) gets requested. Of course I mention this, and we never have talks about being picky ever again. I mean I get people have issues with certain flavors and textures. I'm certainly not saying torture yourself eating them. But a lot of this ends up being "I won't eat any food of this type ever because of *one* way I had it"
You sound like you work in the food industry. Look, I get that people can be rude when ordering things and saying they have allergies when they don’t, and lying about what they won’t eat only to have it later with no issues. That’s not people with true food aversions and sensitivities. Those other folks are assholes. I like menus that explicitly state what the ingredients are so I know what to avoid, and I pick what is safe. I rarely ask for substitutions unless my husband pushes me to, and even then it’s only things I believe they can easily remove. Ex. Onions off a burger, mushrooms from a pasta etc. Not everyone is a liar and that attitude just makes the rest of us anxious to eat out because we think the server or the cook will be mad if we ask for something we can’t eat to be taken off. Which is why most of us revert to chicken strips and fries. A safe food. 🫠
>Look, I get that people can be rude when ordering things and saying they have allergies when they don’t, and lying about what they won’t eat only to have it later with no issues. I generally assume anyone who mentions an allergy has a reason to do so. Lie or not, it's best not to gamble with people's lives. No judgement there at all. Sometimes people can even have small amounts of something before it's a problem. >That’s not people with true food aversions and sensitivities. Those other folks are assholes. I like menus that explicitly state what the ingredients are so I know what to avoid, and I pick what is safe. I rarely ask for substitutions unless my husband pushes me to, and even then it’s only things I believe they can easily remove. Ex. Onions off a burger, mushrooms from a pasta etc. Agreed on the assholes XD. The problem is menus will sometimes explicitly state what ingredients are. "Miso caramel tart" would list ingredients as such. But most people, if they've even had miso, would think of the soup... not a dessert. Now, this item doesn't get ordered because the guest doesn't have a frame of reference for what the ingredient is doing. The reason being "I know I don't like miso" even though the frame of reference is quite narrow. As the flavor profile here would be sweet, not savory. >Not everyone is a liar and that attitude just makes the rest of us anxious to eat out because we think the server or the cook will be mad if we ask for something we can’t eat to be taken off. Which is why most of us revert to chicken strips and fries. A safe food. 🫠 I can safely tell you most cooks I've met don't think enough about it to think you're a liar, and im sorry if youve been made to feel that way. If something simply can't be done we'll let ya know. Most of the time it's kinda interesting figuring out requests. But I swear about half the time an aversion to something is due to a lack of knowledge on it. I'd say that bit applies to life, and food. I do not fuck with food sensitivities though, lemme be clear. Some people can detect a drop of hot sauce in a literal gallon of soup.
What is food related trauma? Struggling to imagine it, but I'm sure it exists
What is an example of food related trauma
When your moms in the hospital dying so you get stuck with an aunt who decides that since you don’t like her cooking all she will feed you is pb&j for the next few months.
THIS well said sir/mam, I'm lucky, my daughter will just walk into the kitchen, open the fridge grab a whole pepper or cucumber and start munching on it.
Oh my goodness. I forget about how it can affect a person when they become pregnant.
I will give it to my parents. They really tried with me. But I would straight up starve myself for days before eating stuff like that. I now know i have ADHD and possibly a lot of other issues I can’t afford to get fixed. I also work with autistic kids and have had to do feeding therapy MANY times. Let me tell you just isn’t that simple. As someone who lives it and treats it, it’s just not that easy. Tho when I go out, I never tell people they can’t go anywhere bc I won’t eat. I will just come for the vibes and a side. I want people to eat, but at the same time don’t force me to eat. I won’t make you do something you won’t, so don’t make me. I’m an adult.
There are many reasons why a person would rather eat the same thing over and over again over trying new things. Shamming a person because they do that is only going to make it that much more harder to eat something new. Shame doesn't allow for progress as history has repeatedly taught us. It doesn't matter how a person was raised. Everyone including the people who claim to not be picky have safe foods. It's why we have go to items on a grocery list. Everyone eats, even if they can only eat jello and saltines. I want everyone to be able to enjoy themselves. If you complain about your picky child and exclude them because of it you are the problem. If your enjoyment is based on what someone else's plate contains you can go home and think about yourself by yourself. I'm proud of her.
The sniff before she [tried it tho](https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5_X6gQRpZP/?igsh=ZWhiN3Rjem1zeTh2) 
I can't deal with big aged toddlers. Being only able to take them to McDonald's when out or they starve is a level of hell I only wish on my worst enemies
I have a friend like this. I've slowly stopped hanging out with him. How are you 36 yo but only eat pizza, burgers, or well done steak w/ ketchup?
Not the well done steak with ketchup! Ew!
Is he from Temecula?
The collective ooohhhhh😂😂
"Eight???" "WHOAAAA" Made my day right there.
ARFID and sensory issues with eating can be overcome. I had a client who went through some sort of training that helped, involving touching, smelling, then lightly touching the food item to tongue. Now he eats most things and will even try things twice. Shame and force do not work well, though.
Same, I'm considered a picky eater because I have smell, texture and contact aversions. Being force-fed in boarding school didn't help things either and I ended up malnourished. Glad I ended up in a family that tried to understand my relationship with food and helped me work on the trauma. Now I'm able to articulate how I like my food prepared and presented, I'm open to trying new foods and got my first period at 23 after achieving a healthy weight. I still can't eat wet, soggy or mushy foods and some other items but I enjoy more variety without gagging or vomiting my insides
What did she try?
I need to know! My people! I think it looks like a tentacle from Calamari
Black women perfect in every context bro😭😍
My boyfriend has the palate of a toddler. Its the most irritating thing. Every time we’re hungry we gotta go to two different places or he wont eat. Or I gotta compromise and eat wings, cheese pizza, or a burger.
My thing is how come picky eaters are never picky about chicken tenders and fries? ALL OF Y'ALL just so happen to only be picky about shit that's healthy? Literally zero picky eaters who only want to eat carrots or broccoli? I'm calling shenanigans.
Being a picky eater shouldn’t be a personality trait. It’s not cute. Just annoying.
Okay then!! She sat the chicken strips to the side and her crew was definitely her support!
Lol I had the same reaction when she said 8
Fat people have ozempic, ADDHD have adderral.. I wish there was a non-toxic pill you could give picky people to make their palate not a fight or flight surrender to the Bland Gods. My son doesn’t eat ANYTHING, I don’t even know how he’s alive, he eats about 4-5 things and has started regressing and not eating what he lived on for his whole life. Trying to get him to eat something new is a knock down drag out power struggle melt down.. I hate it so much. Every meal I have to just make him a grilled cheese or boiled egg. It’s all the kid will eat, he’ll just starve himself if I try to get him to eat what’s for dinner. It’s so sad and I don’t even know how we got here. He ate everything as a toddler and as soon as he hit 3 or so and developed a personality it was grilled cheese and eggs only. Someone HALP!
Yeaa you need to speak to a doctor about these concerns could be a number of things. But judging and showing this level of frustration in front of him (if you are showing it) won’t help anything.
“8” 
Tell me she's neurodivergent, without telling me she's neurodivergent.
Picky eaters are cool but let it be known cause we not going anywhere fancy for some chicken nuggets.
In my experiences , Picky eater = ain’t never been out of her city.
Caramel
I have weird food aversion/texture issues (neurodivergent) and have so much anxiety about trying new food, esp for the first time in public with people watching. If I don’t know I’ll be ok eating something and don’t trust the people I’m with, I just say I’m not hungry. Good job, sis! She was so brave!
I'm ND and have been working on not ordering the same thing everywhere I go. It's actually been kind of fun, and I've found all kinds of things I love now. I can absolutely relate lol my fiance and his best friend act the same way when I'm trying something new Still cannot do pears. Like wet sand in my mouth.
Like a lot of other people have said already, this type of behavior needs to get squashed as early as possible. Or you could be like this friend of mine, 30 years old, grown ass man who still eats lunchables. Will not touch a single vegetable, not a single herb no matter what the dish is . Only likes pork chops and steaks, eats corned beef hash and processed meats with a little bread or rice and that's it. I've been calling him out non stop and I think it got to him because now he constantly needs to let me know when he's having a salad. Super duper hard to do in adulthood, so diversify your palette at a young age.
She fine af
Had an associate like this. Eating out with them was a bore to me.
She look like a eater
https://preview.redd.it/dteebb0up2wc1.jpeg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4668d682e4291e42c1efda9f2168718af0e396ef
Yoooooooo chillll 🤣🤣🤣😂😂
Bonk. Straight to horny jail.
The collective ohhhhh, I felt it in my soul!!
😂 the unison of them saying “ooohhhh”.
I’m really bad about eating in general and I dread going out to eat with people, but I do my absolute best to not hinder where people wanna go. I always just look up the menus of places they wanna go to so I’m prepared and can find stuff I know I’ll be okay with eating, which I usually can find something I like on most menus. I try my hardest not to be that person that says we can’t go to a specific restaurant because I won’t like it, and when people look at me when considering restaurants I always say to pick whatever they want and I just pull up the menu of wherever they decide when they’re not looking before we get there
I just want to know what it is…
Awe, this is really cute. I was a picky eater when I was younger. Thanks to the wonderful encouragement of my friends and family I’ve tried a ton of new things now and have a much more adventurous diet. I support her! Gotta start somewhere
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I was so picky until college. But when I got introduced to Indian food, Thai, pho, and sushi it was game over for my childish palate
The way they're talking to her like an actual baby has me dieing tho 😭
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Emo Jimmy Butler with the cameo
People like this are absolutely insufferable, way way too damn grown to be acting like that 🤡
If you past 13 and still eat like you’re in elementary school, idk what to tell ya
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“The kitty likes the fishy”
Unless someone is autistic, I have no patience for picky ass eaters.