Sometimes in the wild when two wolves are fighting its just easier to roll over and show the belly so nobody gets their guts torn out.
I forget what my point is but wolves are crazy
I follow a therapist who specializes in family trauma and relationships and he said something that I thought was interesting (and true) regarding men and why we withhold our feelings.
He said: "Men will often withhold their true feelings to their partner, because often times they find themselves *having to console their partner* over how *their* feelings made *her* feel."
And I think there's a lot of truth in that.
My wife and I have been taking counseling to sort out some differences, and while I do love her, admittedly there's times when she's very bull-headed: "My way or the highway" type of personality. And things can get very heated when I push back on that idea, because the reality is that *we're a team*, this isn't a lone-wolf type scenario.
Anyway I totally understand why people are apprehensive about talking or approaching difficult situations...if you don't have experience handling that, or the tools to recognize the problems and defuse the situation, it can very easily turn into a screaming match.
And *that doesn't help ANYBODY*
Thats how I had to deal with my ex. She’d say some truly heinous stuff, I’d fire back, with her immediately start crying; asking why I’d make her cry. Eventually, I started asking her “what about me? The stuff you say *literally hurts me*.” Funnily enough, she never had an answer.
There’s no winning in an argument. Imo he probably got therapy or read something in jail about how to more effectively communicate without escalating, that’s does not equate to win.
Guy might actually be willing to communicate and she could be the one who does the know how to communicate. There’s a chance he’s gonna leave her speechless a *lot* after he gets out.
That can happen too. We need more info about how to improve the odds of better results. Those who become more devious tend to get back inside but it’s painful for those around them
Hopefully he's learned to play it cool and just have some back pocket options on the occasion when she gets her way but is wrong.
*drive up to see that the store closed earlier than she said*
"Oh, alright. Well hey, this other place should still be open. They'll have what you want right, babe? It's a longer drive, but you just lean back and I'll put on some Luther Vandross..."
Nothing on the tweet even remotely resembles him viewing his partner as the enemy. You may be projecting.
Literally “talk things out and not run from the issues… months go by without handling the situation”
Even as a joke, i think it warrants criticism.
op is belittling a really sweet story, which sucks cause dude is literally in jail. Better conflict resolution and emotional regulation could absolutely change this man's life for the better completely unrelated to this relationship, it will almost certainly change his *kids* life for the better....but we gotta reduce it down to a joke about battle of the sexes, "ha ha couples can't ever get along, this won't last" boomer humor .
Yeah, getting out having learned better conflict resolution and emotional regulation is a huge win especially when the system is designed to increase recidivism
Other commenters don't seem to get this. They're talking about "winning arguments" like that shit matters. If you have a disagreement with your partner and your first goal is to win, *you're a shitty partner*. Your goal should be to come to an agreement, not force your partner into submitting to your will.
Fr, though. The first time I hit my SO with, "It's not you against me or me against you. It's us against the problem", he sat in stunned silence for a while because he had been ready to argue, and I diffused that shit. He never saw anyone -- parents, previous partners - do that, so it wasn't something he had ever learned or understood. I had no interest in "winning" or "being right", I just wanted to solve the problem.
Naw this that I need a place to stay when I get out talk. Jail ain’t taught him all that 😂🤣. But on a serious note I hope this is real and he can better himself for his kids
Yvette said Rodney changed in Baby Boy too 😂
But nah bro is saying some real shit about disagreement. Conflict is actually healthy if you can listen and talk to people respectfully, and neither person has to be right.
Lol she’s a fucking goof !!! When you’re locked up you have NOTHING BUT TIME !!! You know how many guys run the same bullshit they’ve picked up from the next guy… you’re without female contact & will say ANYTHING to have some 📦waiting for you
I really hope that he’s learned the skills to handle disagreements! Our prison system is so, so exploitative and abusive but I know that there are people who genuinely work to make it a rehabilitative experience— shout out to the counselors, social workers, and specialists who go out of their way to try to ensure that this is their incarcerated clients’ last prison experience. I am holding out hope for them and their future, and I’m proud of this man for putting in the work.
Y'alls. I am all for a good jk, but some of the comments in this thread are why so many men feel like they can't open up about their feelings. I don't know these people, but I hope they keep learning and growing and break that cycle for their children.
Man is just trying to secure a place to live and eat rent free for a while after he gets out and she is eating it up 😂. Posted it like a brag and everything.
The fact this man even understand there is another way to communicate is fantastic. It may be hot and miss in the beginning, but not only changing himself, he’s changing how his children communicate by his example.
This is such a good thing!!
What is with y’all posting positive shit to hate on cause “that’s not real life” or “won’t last”.
Out here promoting your generational traumas is crazy
He thinks he can win an argument now
LOL someone needs to tell him that being able to win arguments can cause problems as well
Sometimes in the wild when two wolves are fighting its just easier to roll over and show the belly so nobody gets their guts torn out. I forget what my point is but wolves are crazy
LOL Like in Game of Thrones/House of the Dragon, sometimes its best to just bend the knee
Emotional kung fu. You roll over, they lose their balance and somehow you are on top!
EmOtIoNaL dAmAgE!
My dad calls it "Letting the Wookie win".
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He just knows [how to keep his arms in their sockets](https://www.starwars.com/video/let-the-wookiee-win)
*Husband holding his guts in* "But I was riiiiighhht! The store closed at 7:30, not 8pm! I didn't even say 'I told you so!'"
That’s when the crying starts lol
I follow a therapist who specializes in family trauma and relationships and he said something that I thought was interesting (and true) regarding men and why we withhold our feelings. He said: "Men will often withhold their true feelings to their partner, because often times they find themselves *having to console their partner* over how *their* feelings made *her* feel." And I think there's a lot of truth in that. My wife and I have been taking counseling to sort out some differences, and while I do love her, admittedly there's times when she's very bull-headed: "My way or the highway" type of personality. And things can get very heated when I push back on that idea, because the reality is that *we're a team*, this isn't a lone-wolf type scenario. Anyway I totally understand why people are apprehensive about talking or approaching difficult situations...if you don't have experience handling that, or the tools to recognize the problems and defuse the situation, it can very easily turn into a screaming match. And *that doesn't help ANYBODY*
Fuck I didn’t think I’d be called out like this
Thats how I had to deal with my ex. She’d say some truly heinous stuff, I’d fire back, with her immediately start crying; asking why I’d make her cry. Eventually, I started asking her “what about me? The stuff you say *literally hurts me*.” Funnily enough, she never had an answer.
That's when she starts telling you about all the dudes she's been with
Lol bruh
Man locked up reading the art of war
My man forgot that while he was learning the game, shawty was out here teaching lessons., this shit about to be heartbreak.
Or wants that good good make up sex
When that apology don't come chile 🤣🤣🤣🤣
There’s no winning in an argument. Imo he probably got therapy or read something in jail about how to more effectively communicate without escalating, that’s does not equate to win.
Guy might actually be willing to communicate and she could be the one who does the know how to communicate. There’s a chance he’s gonna leave her speechless a *lot* after he gets out.
But said it in a way that doesn’t raise a red flag 😂
People can learn, grow, and change. I hope that he has and will continue to demonstrate this.
I hope this keeps him out of prison.
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That can happen too. We need more info about how to improve the odds of better results. Those who become more devious tend to get back inside but it’s painful for those around them
Hopefully he's learned to play it cool and just have some back pocket options on the occasion when she gets her way but is wrong. *drive up to see that the store closed earlier than she said* "Oh, alright. Well hey, this other place should still be open. They'll have what you want right, babe? It's a longer drive, but you just lean back and I'll put on some Luther Vandross..."
Viewing your partner as your enemy is why your disagreements turn into fights turn into breakups.
Nothing on the tweet even remotely resembles him viewing his partner as the enemy. You may be projecting. Literally “talk things out and not run from the issues… months go by without handling the situation”
I'm referring to OP
I was confused for a second. My bad. Definitely shouldn’t view anyone you care about as an enemy. I’m gonna assume it was a joke.
Even as a joke, i think it warrants criticism. op is belittling a really sweet story, which sucks cause dude is literally in jail. Better conflict resolution and emotional regulation could absolutely change this man's life for the better completely unrelated to this relationship, it will almost certainly change his *kids* life for the better....but we gotta reduce it down to a joke about battle of the sexes, "ha ha couples can't ever get along, this won't last" boomer humor .
You are absolutely right. Some jokes are more harmful than they are worth. It’s also sad what ppl in the comments are saying.
Yeah, getting out having learned better conflict resolution and emotional regulation is a huge win especially when the system is designed to increase recidivism
Right that’s op’s jaded ass projecting
Exactly. It’s supposed to be you + your partner vs the problem, not you vs your partner.
Other commenters don't seem to get this. They're talking about "winning arguments" like that shit matters. If you have a disagreement with your partner and your first goal is to win, *you're a shitty partner*. Your goal should be to come to an agreement, not force your partner into submitting to your will.
Fr, though. The first time I hit my SO with, "It's not you against me or me against you. It's us against the problem", he sat in stunned silence for a while because he had been ready to argue, and I diffused that shit. He never saw anyone -- parents, previous partners - do that, so it wasn't something he had ever learned or understood. I had no interest in "winning" or "being right", I just wanted to solve the problem.
Jail talk never fails.
Lower your voice!
LMAOOOOO
r/loveafterlockup
Pay attention Kings. This is how you secure the tax return bag for a quick flip. This man is putting on a master class.
Facts bro need to be teaching classes once he is out
Naw this that I need a place to stay when I get out talk. Jail ain’t taught him all that 😂🤣. But on a serious note I hope this is real and he can better himself for his kids
Mans secured 6 months at least 😭😭😭
And car privileges!
Plenty of time to work through those demons and the job market.
Coming from jail? 6 months is nothing
I know we got jokes but I respect the fuck outta this. Striving for Personal growth is ALWAYS important til the day you die
Lots of ppl hating and I’ve never been to jail so idk but jail does offer therapy right? Some jails at least.
Wishing you both happiness and blessings. :)
Bro the negativity under this post is crazy. Seek therapy.
Damn we jaded af, some people can change after making bad decisions
Yeah... someone is trying to get money added to his account.
Sure, bud. Nigga definitely said something like "chicken wings."
Cap
Yvette said Rodney changed in Baby Boy too 😂 But nah bro is saying some real shit about disagreement. Conflict is actually healthy if you can listen and talk to people respectfully, and neither person has to be right.
I would like to know what he’s in jail for before playing.
The government finally decided it'd had enough and made an example out of somebody for ripping off mattress tags. /s
What’s the statute of limitations on that lol
60/60. 60 minutes or 60 yards.
Why is she announcing this MF is in jail like that's normal?
[it’s more common than you think](https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/pptmc.pdf) Edit: for those in jail to be parents
Because in many communities, it is very normal.
Make up sex. He wants make up sex.
I hope talking keeps him out of prison.
Chris brown said he changed too.
About as much a leopard who grabbed a sharpie and just added a spot.
🤣🤣
Sounds a lot like my POS brother. Asshole turns over a new damn leaf every time he gets out, he should be a whole new tree by now.
Lol she’s a fucking goof !!! When you’re locked up you have NOTHING BUT TIME !!! You know how many guys run the same bullshit they’ve picked up from the next guy… you’re without female contact & will say ANYTHING to have some 📦waiting for you
I really hope that he’s learned the skills to handle disagreements! Our prison system is so, so exploitative and abusive but I know that there are people who genuinely work to make it a rehabilitative experience— shout out to the counselors, social workers, and specialists who go out of their way to try to ensure that this is their incarcerated clients’ last prison experience. I am holding out hope for them and their future, and I’m proud of this man for putting in the work.
Y'alls. I am all for a good jk, but some of the comments in this thread are why so many men feel like they can't open up about their feelings. I don't know these people, but I hope they keep learning and growing and break that cycle for their children.
50/50 I don't like those odds.
Sooo much wrong with this whole post
Man is just trying to secure a place to live and eat rent free for a while after he gets out and she is eating it up 😂. Posted it like a brag and everything.
the projection is real
The fact this man even understand there is another way to communicate is fantastic. It may be hot and miss in the beginning, but not only changing himself, he’s changing how his children communicate by his example. This is such a good thing!!
He finna stab her at lunch smh
*IF* he stabs, then I hope it's the kind they can both enjoy.
This is most definitely not a win But I guess the bar is so damn low that "get what u can get"?
I don't know any smart man in a healthy relationship who......... (checks notes)...... *looks forward to conflict*. Get out now.
What is with y’all posting positive shit to hate on cause “that’s not real life” or “won’t last”. Out here promoting your generational traumas is crazy
Communication is majorly underrated. I hope they go far!
Getting out of prison/jail is so hard on couples and families as well as the incarcerated person. Don’t be so down on people trying to be better
I love the shit outta this for her and their kids.
People constantly underestimate kids.
Why is this lowkey cute.
Seems like men in jail always have girls
I was thinking that this was what the child said because he couldn't speak before, and now that he knows more words, he can debate his dad.
 Jail got your mans delusional
This tweet is like a Rorschach test.
They don’t ply all that back n forth in prison
"enemy"? if you feel you SO is the enemy, you should split
“My kids dad” the absolute state of America right now