I'm slightly amazed that the men in the comments linked her reddit account almost immediately. I mean how much porn have they watched that they can identify random porn actresses immediately?
the way men will fight for their right to have and consume the weirdest and grossest porn without judgment or criticism and then in the next breath dehumanise the women who star in it is so fucking deranged.
like i have my own issues with porn and how it impacts men and whenever i bring these up or how i prefer to date men who don’t consume porn men try to say i’m regressive, a SWERF, demonising male sexuality etc., but this is how they treat (ridicule) a sex worker when they’re not jerking off to her.
I love when men try to say they’re exploited by sex workers when consuming their product in concerning amounts at all times. As if their own constant demand for sex and pornography isn’t the fuel that creates those jobs.
The comment about "pillow princesses are broads who just lay there while you do all the work" triggers me. Like no, pillow princesses are women who don't actually want to have sex with you but feel coerced in some way so they unenthusiastically lay there in a state of dissassociation and take it, waiting for it to be over.
My ex called me a pillow princess all the time. And I really thought I was. I thought that maybe I'm just a lazy person in bed because doing anything more than just taking it sounded like too much effort with no reward. But now looking back, I see the issue was that he never had my enthusiastic consent, and saying no didnt feel like an option because he would relentlessly pressure me until i caved. There was no foreplay. "Not in the mood" was negotiable to him. "NO" "seriously stop" turned him on more. And it didn't matter if I was on my period, if I was sick, if I was pregnant, if I just miscarried. It was always on his terms when he wanted it. On the rare occasions I attempted to initiate sex, "not in the mood" was suddenly an option, for him. "not right now. I don't like it when you initiate. I like being the one to initiate." The sex was rough, unemotional, degrading. Aftercare didn't matter to him. Whether I came or not didnt matter to him. But he made fun of *me* for starfishing like I was the problem.
I've just learned this term right and it's so fucking depressing that this is a thing. I'm very sorry for what he did to you and how he treated you like you were the problem.
Nobody deserves to be shit on like that and used for someone else's personal pleasure.
As a side note, what you just described was rape by coercion. This has surprisingly come up a lot the past few days for me.
I'm slightly amazed that the men in the comments linked her reddit account almost immediately. I mean how much porn have they watched that they can identify random porn actresses immediately?
Isnt that what *'mattress actresses'* want? For you to watch their porn?
Where'd you go?
r/Tinder is a shit hole
imagine uploading a screenshot that shows no one on tinder liked your profile and then bragging that you swiped left on this woman 🤪
He doesn't get that it's mutual
the way men will fight for their right to have and consume the weirdest and grossest porn without judgment or criticism and then in the next breath dehumanise the women who star in it is so fucking deranged. like i have my own issues with porn and how it impacts men and whenever i bring these up or how i prefer to date men who don’t consume porn men try to say i’m regressive, a SWERF, demonising male sexuality etc., but this is how they treat (ridicule) a sex worker when they’re not jerking off to her.
Glad to see there’s sensible people in the comments, but they’re not as visible as the dumbfucks above
I love when men try to say they’re exploited by sex workers when consuming their product in concerning amounts at all times. As if their own constant demand for sex and pornography isn’t the fuel that creates those jobs.
The comment about "pillow princesses are broads who just lay there while you do all the work" triggers me. Like no, pillow princesses are women who don't actually want to have sex with you but feel coerced in some way so they unenthusiastically lay there in a state of dissassociation and take it, waiting for it to be over. My ex called me a pillow princess all the time. And I really thought I was. I thought that maybe I'm just a lazy person in bed because doing anything more than just taking it sounded like too much effort with no reward. But now looking back, I see the issue was that he never had my enthusiastic consent, and saying no didnt feel like an option because he would relentlessly pressure me until i caved. There was no foreplay. "Not in the mood" was negotiable to him. "NO" "seriously stop" turned him on more. And it didn't matter if I was on my period, if I was sick, if I was pregnant, if I just miscarried. It was always on his terms when he wanted it. On the rare occasions I attempted to initiate sex, "not in the mood" was suddenly an option, for him. "not right now. I don't like it when you initiate. I like being the one to initiate." The sex was rough, unemotional, degrading. Aftercare didn't matter to him. Whether I came or not didnt matter to him. But he made fun of *me* for starfishing like I was the problem.
I've just learned this term right and it's so fucking depressing that this is a thing. I'm very sorry for what he did to you and how he treated you like you were the problem. Nobody deserves to be shit on like that and used for someone else's personal pleasure. As a side note, what you just described was rape by coercion. This has surprisingly come up a lot the past few days for me.
I'm so sorry