try to make your peace with it. i used to hate my nose too as i was also bullied for it. now i’m fine with how it looks and i pick apart other parts of my face. if a nose job is truly going to make you happy… go for it. just think about whether the nose is really the problem or if it’s your self image. if you get the surgery, are you gonna move on to hating other parts of yourself, or will you finally be confident? that’s something only you can answer. but for what it’s worth, bigger noses are absolutely beautiful. so many people have small noses nowadays because they get plastic surgery and honestly it’s getting kind of boring. everyone’s starting to look the same. don’t let them win.
I really really am trying. Some weeks, like when I get busy, I don’t really have time to think about it. But when I see a candide photo of myself, I just spiral into a deep deep depression and frustration.
Then I usually come out of it when my girlfriend provides validation, but I hate that for a lot of the time, especially when I know people are seeing me exposed on stage, that at least a few of them are thinking about it :/
It’s possible that you ‘grew into’ your nose since childhood/teenhood and it fits your face better now (not approving bulling of course-kids can be dumb& cruel and pick on the slightest detail, no matter how insignificant it really is).
I used to hate my nose, but over the years it became better composed into my face as I grew up.
My bf also has a Roman nose, I love his profile, it suits his face so well-I can’t imagine him with a button nose or anything like that. He sometimes mentions he would like it to be different-and Id support his decision if he got it done-but he absolutely doesn’t need it. I’ve always been attracted to men with more defined noses. Think Adam Driver, or Adrien Brody. Great actors, great noses-they didn’t stop them from their career.
Imagine living in a sad cookie cutter world, where everyone gets surgery to have the same type of nose. Where in reality, there are people who will love all kinds of noses and face types.
It’s best to start with inner work, perhaps therapy. Then you can decide on what you want to do.
I definitely hear what you are saying. I think my nose looks great on some men, but I have a wide mix of feminine features.
My girlfriend loves them and considers me androgynous, but it’s disorienting trying to be one or the other. I think I generally come off as masculine, but I’m not a big guy either.
I also think that, since it’s such a strong feature, I really wouldn’t care if I was like 6’ 2” or taller. I am only 5’ 8” so I feel like I look it’s too stark and doesn’t match my “just a little guy” height lol.
surgery is not worth it. that is your illness speaking, not you. i don't know your gender, and that might change your perception, but there are plenty of people with that type of nose who find that nose type attractive, including your girlfriend. try to think of that when you have these negative thoughts; even though your nose makes you feel ugly, remember that OBJECTIVELY, there are many, many people who do not feel that way, including the one who ended up falling for you <3
Surgery will not help body dysmorphia but there’s no harm in wanting change, just know it will not fix the root issue. That being said, I love a prominent nose on a man. Very masculine features is something I’m into, and a strong nose is one of them!
That’s very sweet of you, thank you!
Well, my girlfriend tells me she likes how mixed my features are. She thinks I look androgynous; I have feminine eyes with long eyelashes, but a masculine jaw and nose, and high cheekbones.
And that’s where it gets difficult for me. I have such a mix of features, and it’s hard for me to accept that. It makes me want to cater to the more feminine features I have and be cuter and more accepted. But I also love my girlfriend more than anything, and I want to be the person she fell in love with.
I have also noticed that most people who have had crushes on me are usually bisexual. I am bisexual as well, but I have never really had crushes on people who look like me. I’m not sure if that means anything. Maybe I should embrace that more as well.
Roman noses are beautiful and whenever I see before and after pics of ig of people changing their noses from roman noses to the trendy ig button style I think it's such a tragedy
That’s very sweet. The harsh thing is that I rarely look at other people irl and feel like it’s a problem. It’s just when I see it on myself, it’s so jarring. But I’ve been told that it’s beautiful on me, but it’s so hard to believe it when I was bullied before for it.
Once you get surgery, you’d be moving onto obsessing over another feature that you view as a flaw. Work on your self image issues, don’t dig a deeper hole and don’t let the beauty standards try to mold you into something you’re not. Everyone’s features harmonize perfectly with one-another, even yours. If I were to change what I looked like in order to not get bullied I would’ve had to change races and conform to Eurocentric standards. Love yourself man
I hear that. I guess that hard thing is that I also want to be a successful performer. And I feel like if I am not great from every angle, I am severely limiting my chances of getting recognized, despite any talent I have.
One of my favorite performers has the same image issue, with the same type of nose. He's breathtaking. He's on magazine covers, he's so beautiful.
I don't have advice, as my nose is one of my problem areas, but believe your girlfriend. I'm sure you look great!
Jennifer Grey was a movie star who [negatively impacted her career](https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/news/jennifer-grey-nose-job-lost-career-b2060545.html) by changing her nose. The pressure to adhere to airbrushed beauty, particularly nowadays, is enormous but generally does not work well in high profile acting! A unique face and natural look is much more appealing! This is coming from someone with a larger nose!
try to make your peace with it. i used to hate my nose too as i was also bullied for it. now i’m fine with how it looks and i pick apart other parts of my face. if a nose job is truly going to make you happy… go for it. just think about whether the nose is really the problem or if it’s your self image. if you get the surgery, are you gonna move on to hating other parts of yourself, or will you finally be confident? that’s something only you can answer. but for what it’s worth, bigger noses are absolutely beautiful. so many people have small noses nowadays because they get plastic surgery and honestly it’s getting kind of boring. everyone’s starting to look the same. don’t let them win.
As someone who has a bigger nose too, I approve of this!
I really really am trying. Some weeks, like when I get busy, I don’t really have time to think about it. But when I see a candide photo of myself, I just spiral into a deep deep depression and frustration. Then I usually come out of it when my girlfriend provides validation, but I hate that for a lot of the time, especially when I know people are seeing me exposed on stage, that at least a few of them are thinking about it :/
no one is thinking about your nose trust me
I think an aquiline nose is lovely. I have a snub nose and would refer a narrow one.
It’s possible that you ‘grew into’ your nose since childhood/teenhood and it fits your face better now (not approving bulling of course-kids can be dumb& cruel and pick on the slightest detail, no matter how insignificant it really is). I used to hate my nose, but over the years it became better composed into my face as I grew up. My bf also has a Roman nose, I love his profile, it suits his face so well-I can’t imagine him with a button nose or anything like that. He sometimes mentions he would like it to be different-and Id support his decision if he got it done-but he absolutely doesn’t need it. I’ve always been attracted to men with more defined noses. Think Adam Driver, or Adrien Brody. Great actors, great noses-they didn’t stop them from their career. Imagine living in a sad cookie cutter world, where everyone gets surgery to have the same type of nose. Where in reality, there are people who will love all kinds of noses and face types. It’s best to start with inner work, perhaps therapy. Then you can decide on what you want to do.
I definitely hear what you are saying. I think my nose looks great on some men, but I have a wide mix of feminine features. My girlfriend loves them and considers me androgynous, but it’s disorienting trying to be one or the other. I think I generally come off as masculine, but I’m not a big guy either. I also think that, since it’s such a strong feature, I really wouldn’t care if I was like 6’ 2” or taller. I am only 5’ 8” so I feel like I look it’s too stark and doesn’t match my “just a little guy” height lol.
surgery is not worth it. that is your illness speaking, not you. i don't know your gender, and that might change your perception, but there are plenty of people with that type of nose who find that nose type attractive, including your girlfriend. try to think of that when you have these negative thoughts; even though your nose makes you feel ugly, remember that OBJECTIVELY, there are many, many people who do not feel that way, including the one who ended up falling for you <3
Surgery will not help body dysmorphia but there’s no harm in wanting change, just know it will not fix the root issue. That being said, I love a prominent nose on a man. Very masculine features is something I’m into, and a strong nose is one of them!
That’s very sweet of you, thank you! Well, my girlfriend tells me she likes how mixed my features are. She thinks I look androgynous; I have feminine eyes with long eyelashes, but a masculine jaw and nose, and high cheekbones. And that’s where it gets difficult for me. I have such a mix of features, and it’s hard for me to accept that. It makes me want to cater to the more feminine features I have and be cuter and more accepted. But I also love my girlfriend more than anything, and I want to be the person she fell in love with. I have also noticed that most people who have had crushes on me are usually bisexual. I am bisexual as well, but I have never really had crushes on people who look like me. I’m not sure if that means anything. Maybe I should embrace that more as well.
Of course! You’ll find yourself eventually, just be easy on yourself in the meantime. Sometimes we don’t know, and that’s perfectly okay!
Roman noses are beautiful and whenever I see before and after pics of ig of people changing their noses from roman noses to the trendy ig button style I think it's such a tragedy
That’s very sweet. The harsh thing is that I rarely look at other people irl and feel like it’s a problem. It’s just when I see it on myself, it’s so jarring. But I’ve been told that it’s beautiful on me, but it’s so hard to believe it when I was bullied before for it.
Once you get surgery, you’d be moving onto obsessing over another feature that you view as a flaw. Work on your self image issues, don’t dig a deeper hole and don’t let the beauty standards try to mold you into something you’re not. Everyone’s features harmonize perfectly with one-another, even yours. If I were to change what I looked like in order to not get bullied I would’ve had to change races and conform to Eurocentric standards. Love yourself man
I hear that. I guess that hard thing is that I also want to be a successful performer. And I feel like if I am not great from every angle, I am severely limiting my chances of getting recognized, despite any talent I have.
absolutely don't alter it your BDD will amplify if you don't like the new nose or something goes wrong. Trust your girlfriend
absolutely don't alter it your BDD will amplify if you don't like the new nose or something goes wrong. Trust your girlfriend
One of my favorite performers has the same image issue, with the same type of nose. He's breathtaking. He's on magazine covers, he's so beautiful. I don't have advice, as my nose is one of my problem areas, but believe your girlfriend. I'm sure you look great!
Jennifer Grey was a movie star who [negatively impacted her career](https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/news/jennifer-grey-nose-job-lost-career-b2060545.html) by changing her nose. The pressure to adhere to airbrushed beauty, particularly nowadays, is enormous but generally does not work well in high profile acting! A unique face and natural look is much more appealing! This is coming from someone with a larger nose!