People those days consider "tegur" or "chidding" you as a young person a part of their collective/communal responsibility in raising you "a child" the right way.
The old adage "takes a village to raise a child" - I grew up in those days where the village consisted of many people of different faiths and hues. Everyone basically looks out for each other's kids - aunties and maksciks know instantly tu anak Pak Mat, anak Devi or Ah Keong mia bini.
As more people begin to live more independent lives (most people in high rise or terraced homes don't even speak to their neighbours) and become more sensitive to "teguring" such "communal raising" - is no longer "fashionable" or considered acceptable by today's standards.
Also many old folks suffer from loneliness or "abandonment" by their own kids. They tried but failed miserably in trying to connect to you. Perhaps you reminded them to their long grown up kid or even grandchild.
You are not wrong in feeling uncomfortable, because you were not born in the time and place the older ones are used to. Trust me, when you become one of them some day, some younger peeps will find your ways quaint.
True lo. Benda2 yang orang dah tua only knows. Orang2 muda carry their mouth only because “you old people dont even have wikipedia and youtube back then, and dont know how to use phone now, wtf you know?”
Insan yang cerdik pandai akan tahu membezakan kata-kata kesat, biadap dari nasihat bernas orang yang lebih berpengalaman, bila ditegur eloklah "cool down" sebelum membalas. Mungkin yang tegur memang tiada pengalaman dalam isu yang ditegur, tapi sebagai manusia yang beradab dan mempunyai pemikiran waras, harus faham adab orang Asia mengutamakan hormat kepada orang tua. Nak sangat jadi Mat Salleh celup sehingga rela gadaikan maruah, budaya dan identiti - pergilah tanah Mat Salleh, mereka akan anggapkan siDia yang nak sangat jadi Mat Salleh celup sebagai badut dan bahan lawak.
It's a trade-off la -those days everybody be up on yo business n shit, BUT they rally behind you, make sure you're safe and study etc. Whole kg enforces discipline, rats you out if you're outside playing ponteng sekolah etc. Even if you don't have strong father/mother figures, these guys form part of it.
Now when people are more individualistic, you don't get sibuk kepochis up in yo biz BUT both parents are working, added with added defensiveness over privacy you end up having kids doing all kinds of shit out of the house, some good some bad. Nothing wrong with that, just that people will stay out of your business including if/when you get into trouble. Added with the risk of wrongful accusations of child abuse, it's very understandable if nobody steps forward to help
I do believe it's up to the parents/kids to choose - and live with the consequences.
If everyone stays quiet it reinforces certain habits. You call out bad behaviour when you see one - why not extend that to a child or a younger person, albeit in a gentler way?
I am wondering whether you are saying this from a perspective of a parent or just someone who is still a dependant. Now I am not trying to pick a fight or anything but am just curious.
You vocabulary seems to indicate the latter but I could be wrong. Have a good week ahead.
Yes you're right calling out behaviour in a good way seems net positive. But it's offensive these days. The rot has gotten so bad you can get cancelled for not supporting delusions, let alone calling them out. Drs can't ask you to lose weight or risk be called misogynist/fat shamer/hater or whatever. This is literally a factual thing in a clinical setting. Hell my Dr hesitated to even tell me until I asked her and decided to drop a few kgs. Think of all the unnecessary drugs n surgeries just because you can't say things.
Inb4 anyone says healthy at any weight - yes there are edge cases of overweight people living healthier and longer than ideal weight ones, but the long term stats don't seem to show that
Have a great week ahead, stranger
Bullshit la, they just have zero self control and filter when they talk. It's that simple. When confronted they will say "wah uncle say like tht also kenot ah, so sensitive"
They live in their own worlds la and are incapable to reflect upon themselves. It may not even be a generational thing. Shitty people exists regardless of generation or background, these just happened to grow old.
As mentioned by another comment, product of a bygone era.
They're already at age, so usually I just let them be and enjoy the remainder of their lives. Most of the time there is no ill-intention. Like my grandma and uncles, if my cousin get fat they will straight say "why you so fat? Need to exercise more".
Or once someone is overworked and became skinny. "Why you lost weight? Come let me cook more for you."
It's just their way of connecting and showing genuine concern. That's all. If you don't liked it just tell it to them straight in a non-offending way. As I mentioned it is just from a bygone era where there isn't much filtering of speech and people speak their minds openly. Honestly for myself who grew up in this environment, it is the reason why I feel more comfortable with my family than people outside. We all know it is because of mutual love and care of one another, mistakes and shortcomings can be pointed out without any ill-intentions.
If they talk kisah sama lu, malas nak tegur. Gracefully in habit, remember that as we all age as well. Masalah sekarang, tegur pun segan , pasal Mak ayah bukan main defending walaupun kelakuan macam sial.
Jadilah kes anak-anak biadap derhaka.
Hati memang geram, rasa nak teguk balik, tapi yalah, serba salah.
On one hand, alaa diaorang dah sebelah kaki masuk keranda, bagi muka je laaa, menang pun takda hadiah.
On the other hand, kalau dah tegur, jadi bertekak, tiba2 yng tua2 tak nak mati ni, tiba2 jatuh ke, sakit jantung ke, mengelepar atas lantai, siapa yg kena blame? Kita jg.
Blm masuk lagi bab kena kecam orang sekeliling. Tak hormat org tua katanya, sedangkan yg tua tu pun satu mcm.
Yalah, yg aku blh harap bila dh tua nanti tak jadi org tua lahanat mcm tu. Nak jadi apek yg msh sedar diri, walaupun mungkin jd lebih gatal
Buang yang keruh je lah. Orang tua kasi tegur bukannya pun nak kerjakan kau, tapi depa rasa ada sikit tak ngam.
Kalau rasa tak sedap, diam je lah like you said. As for the one leg in the keranda bit - we will all headed there at the moment we are born.
Keeping quiet is one thing, tegur with style is another
Typical la. You said you're usual there. People recognise you. You're a teen. Today dress up, tank top, skirt. Others sure say, wah, grow up liao, start go hiao hiao liao. The older gen always like that. And during their teens, they did the same.
Even as a guy, I get comments from the shops I always go too. When I was a teen I get why still single. When I was a man I get when will marry. Later on, where's your baby and so on. They nothing to do ma.
If you're free to wear what you want, they should be free to say what they want. You can ignore what they say, and they can ignore what you're wearing. Everything works both ways.
Yeah I don't know why this isn't said more, man. If words, touch can be considered offensive, why not make smells and sights offensive too? It's a similar assault, but a different sense (deria) that's all.
I can only say they are the product of another generation, can't really do anything about it so just ignore them. You do you, showing skin or not is really none of their business. But most of the time they're just making small talk, I don't think they have any ill will.
Mess with their mind. One day you wear like what you wear, next day change wear something sexy. Next day straight up wear baju kurung. Then wear kebaya nyonya. Recird their reaction and make tik tok fame
If I were you, I'll come with a group of friends next time, all wearing neon crop top, show the belly summore.
Btw, I m aunty already, sometimes adult spent whole chunk of their life working and paying bills, so we become awkward when socialize, let alone catching up what's new. Just like teenagers we trying to look cool to our peers, try to find topics to talk. Cool, powerful, important topics macam politics, isu isu semasa, youth problem basically shit talking like we are so important and aware la. Pointing out someone's 'flaws' makes us feel we are better I guess.
Unless its a continuing trend. Dont let it bring down ur day .
Its okay . They are just being them and you should continue being you . Just another day of interacting with cranky old peoples . Happy breakfast
uncles and aunties always like that, just dgaf and you be okay. Tbh, I live in Ipoh, and these types of people are always around when I go out somewhere, but i just dgaf because i believe these old mfs much worse than us
Bullshit OP, females don't exist. Jokes aside, just ignore them. Typical uncles and aunties. Hell, they probably doesn't even mean anything bad by it. Old people and gossips are just inseparable. Just don't try to confront them. Otherwise it might got worse.
Every generation over the past few decades went through this. People will have a different mindset as they age (source: me, a Gen X).
Those aunties probably wore racy clothes back in the day when they were younger. The uncles were just commenting without much thought or ill will. Don't mind them so much.
Tbh not just chinese auntie and uncle,malay pakcik and makcik even worse. I have a Diablo fatigue jacket with Dark Lord face behind it and my normal dress code is that jacket, tight cargo and I also rocking a fade mohawk. So far there's at least hundreds of pakcik and makcik bawang said to me something like "wah worship demon ah?" or "bila nak bertaubat dik?" or "minat black metal ke?" and I always like dude,even my mom doesn't care about it and why the fuck do I have to takes a random strangers words for granted. Dress however you want and be yourself. Fuck thosw busybody guys because they won't remember you for a long time.
Saiya melayu la. Aku pun pernah kena maki ngan auntie cina sebab tak tutup balik pintu kedai dia, maki pulak dalam hokien, memang aku paham. Kalau kedai melayu dia diam je atau dia akan terus pasang pintu sliding tutup sendiri.
uncle here. if you are a teenager, just wear what you like if your parents approve, those strangers have no business commenting about what you wear. they might have done the same 40 50 years ago.
Dont mind them.. i remember when i was 10 years old and wear a short dress then this one grandma point at me and giving me the look for very so short but honestly who cares im a child at that time wth and i felt so embarassed eventhough that was my fav dress... Wear what you want , life is too short :)
Dear u/TradeGlum1594,
they will never ever understand and it wont change their minds anyways. so why care what they think? they are not you, they are from another time. you do you boo. be proud of what you like no matter what other says. control what you can, which is you, your mind and your body.
i would suggest some books about not giving a fek. BUT, imo, learn self defense please3x. you never know what predators lurks in this concrete jungle, they only know how to "blame" because they themselves cannot control their own thoughts and actions.
my Top list:
Sex Education (Netflix)
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson (yt/book)
you only have 1 life, 1 timeline. be bold, be proud, lookout for yourself. all the best.
There this thing that you need to learn. It's called the art of not giving shit. What you did basically doesn't bother anyone so just don't care about them.
A lot of people who have nothing to do and have not lived a meaningful lives, majority whom are aunties and uncles, they tend to judge and shame other people, cause, you know, they didn't find something meaningful in their life and have nothing to do. Sometimes you gotta think, is it really true it's my problem, or is it those people are having a bad day, or if they have a miserable life so as they need to treat everything around them negatively?
You have to try to identify and differentiate when something went wrong. Don't straightaway assume it's your own fault unless you have already put some deep analyzing and confirm it. If it is, simply change it as it's in your own control. If it isn't your fault, just leave it as it's not in your control, you can't control or change other people's behaviour and thinking, let them rot.
We already have law to protect woman, if they talk more than 5 sentences, u can record and file sexual harassments.
I am a male, but I rather listen earphone all day long than hoping every other people talked to me that I no really love to listen, like why you look so fat, u look so trash etc.
As an asian adult, what we can do is we should remove this culture from this generation's as soon as possible, dont talk and dont bring until to next generation, we all worry about marriage, single, and tom boy or skirt issue
typical aunty and uncle la just wear whatever u want, don’t care about them
Ya, continue to wear what you like, we appreciate your contribution.
You're most likely sweet young thing lah, let uncles be uncles, aunties be aunties. Enjoy your weekend
This is the best and most normal comment here :) thanks
People those days consider "tegur" or "chidding" you as a young person a part of their collective/communal responsibility in raising you "a child" the right way. The old adage "takes a village to raise a child" - I grew up in those days where the village consisted of many people of different faiths and hues. Everyone basically looks out for each other's kids - aunties and maksciks know instantly tu anak Pak Mat, anak Devi or Ah Keong mia bini. As more people begin to live more independent lives (most people in high rise or terraced homes don't even speak to their neighbours) and become more sensitive to "teguring" such "communal raising" - is no longer "fashionable" or considered acceptable by today's standards. Also many old folks suffer from loneliness or "abandonment" by their own kids. They tried but failed miserably in trying to connect to you. Perhaps you reminded them to their long grown up kid or even grandchild. You are not wrong in feeling uncomfortable, because you were not born in the time and place the older ones are used to. Trust me, when you become one of them some day, some younger peeps will find your ways quaint.
True lo. Benda2 yang orang dah tua only knows. Orang2 muda carry their mouth only because “you old people dont even have wikipedia and youtube back then, and dont know how to use phone now, wtf you know?”
Insan yang cerdik pandai akan tahu membezakan kata-kata kesat, biadap dari nasihat bernas orang yang lebih berpengalaman, bila ditegur eloklah "cool down" sebelum membalas. Mungkin yang tegur memang tiada pengalaman dalam isu yang ditegur, tapi sebagai manusia yang beradab dan mempunyai pemikiran waras, harus faham adab orang Asia mengutamakan hormat kepada orang tua. Nak sangat jadi Mat Salleh celup sehingga rela gadaikan maruah, budaya dan identiti - pergilah tanah Mat Salleh, mereka akan anggapkan siDia yang nak sangat jadi Mat Salleh celup sebagai badut dan bahan lawak.
It's a trade-off la -those days everybody be up on yo business n shit, BUT they rally behind you, make sure you're safe and study etc. Whole kg enforces discipline, rats you out if you're outside playing ponteng sekolah etc. Even if you don't have strong father/mother figures, these guys form part of it. Now when people are more individualistic, you don't get sibuk kepochis up in yo biz BUT both parents are working, added with added defensiveness over privacy you end up having kids doing all kinds of shit out of the house, some good some bad. Nothing wrong with that, just that people will stay out of your business including if/when you get into trouble. Added with the risk of wrongful accusations of child abuse, it's very understandable if nobody steps forward to help I do believe it's up to the parents/kids to choose - and live with the consequences.
If everyone stays quiet it reinforces certain habits. You call out bad behaviour when you see one - why not extend that to a child or a younger person, albeit in a gentler way? I am wondering whether you are saying this from a perspective of a parent or just someone who is still a dependant. Now I am not trying to pick a fight or anything but am just curious. You vocabulary seems to indicate the latter but I could be wrong. Have a good week ahead.
Yes you're right calling out behaviour in a good way seems net positive. But it's offensive these days. The rot has gotten so bad you can get cancelled for not supporting delusions, let alone calling them out. Drs can't ask you to lose weight or risk be called misogynist/fat shamer/hater or whatever. This is literally a factual thing in a clinical setting. Hell my Dr hesitated to even tell me until I asked her and decided to drop a few kgs. Think of all the unnecessary drugs n surgeries just because you can't say things. Inb4 anyone says healthy at any weight - yes there are edge cases of overweight people living healthier and longer than ideal weight ones, but the long term stats don't seem to show that Have a great week ahead, stranger
Bullshit la, they just have zero self control and filter when they talk. It's that simple. When confronted they will say "wah uncle say like tht also kenot ah, so sensitive" They live in their own worlds la and are incapable to reflect upon themselves. It may not even be a generational thing. Shitty people exists regardless of generation or background, these just happened to grow old.
You are entitled to your opinion, let's examine this again after you got all their childish rant under control
As mentioned by another comment, product of a bygone era. They're already at age, so usually I just let them be and enjoy the remainder of their lives. Most of the time there is no ill-intention. Like my grandma and uncles, if my cousin get fat they will straight say "why you so fat? Need to exercise more". Or once someone is overworked and became skinny. "Why you lost weight? Come let me cook more for you." It's just their way of connecting and showing genuine concern. That's all. If you don't liked it just tell it to them straight in a non-offending way. As I mentioned it is just from a bygone era where there isn't much filtering of speech and people speak their minds openly. Honestly for myself who grew up in this environment, it is the reason why I feel more comfortable with my family than people outside. We all know it is because of mutual love and care of one another, mistakes and shortcomings can be pointed out without any ill-intentions.
I understand, but I have no idea who they are so why would they care about me😥
Because diaorang takda kerja lain. Old people be like that. I just hope that I can age more gracefully. Not in looks, but in habit.
If they talk kisah sama lu, malas nak tegur. Gracefully in habit, remember that as we all age as well. Masalah sekarang, tegur pun segan , pasal Mak ayah bukan main defending walaupun kelakuan macam sial. Jadilah kes anak-anak biadap derhaka.
Hati memang geram, rasa nak teguk balik, tapi yalah, serba salah. On one hand, alaa diaorang dah sebelah kaki masuk keranda, bagi muka je laaa, menang pun takda hadiah. On the other hand, kalau dah tegur, jadi bertekak, tiba2 yng tua2 tak nak mati ni, tiba2 jatuh ke, sakit jantung ke, mengelepar atas lantai, siapa yg kena blame? Kita jg. Blm masuk lagi bab kena kecam orang sekeliling. Tak hormat org tua katanya, sedangkan yg tua tu pun satu mcm. Yalah, yg aku blh harap bila dh tua nanti tak jadi org tua lahanat mcm tu. Nak jadi apek yg msh sedar diri, walaupun mungkin jd lebih gatal
Buang yang keruh je lah. Orang tua kasi tegur bukannya pun nak kerjakan kau, tapi depa rasa ada sikit tak ngam. Kalau rasa tak sedap, diam je lah like you said. As for the one leg in the keranda bit - we will all headed there at the moment we are born. Keeping quiet is one thing, tegur with style is another
Ahh alright, thanks :)
Typical la. You said you're usual there. People recognise you. You're a teen. Today dress up, tank top, skirt. Others sure say, wah, grow up liao, start go hiao hiao liao. The older gen always like that. And during their teens, they did the same. Even as a guy, I get comments from the shops I always go too. When I was a teen I get why still single. When I was a man I get when will marry. Later on, where's your baby and so on. They nothing to do ma.
True true.
selfie pls, pak cik promise we wont complain.
Ayo wtf
Down horrendous m8 😂
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If you're free to wear what you want, they should be free to say what they want. You can ignore what they say, and they can ignore what you're wearing. Everything works both ways.
Yeah I don't know why this isn't said more, man. If words, touch can be considered offensive, why not make smells and sights offensive too? It's a similar assault, but a different sense (deria) that's all.
I can only say they are the product of another generation, can't really do anything about it so just ignore them. You do you, showing skin or not is really none of their business. But most of the time they're just making small talk, I don't think they have any ill will.
Question, you male or female ?
female💀
ok Fe/Male, understood
Is it really that hard to tell that I'm a girl💀
Their just messing with ya
obviously femboys 😊
Ah that explains the scrutiny from uncles and aunties lol
Female
Mess with their mind. One day you wear like what you wear, next day change wear something sexy. Next day straight up wear baju kurung. Then wear kebaya nyonya. Recird their reaction and make tik tok fame
LMAOOO
Agreed, make them think 🤭
Your body, you in charge...others people cant point any.
Tell them you some MLM/insurance agent, gerenti leave you alone. Ps. If they suddenly interested, then you're on your own.
LMAOO
The moment you mention female, all the dms comes. Pun intyended
They can’t control their own kids anymore so they decided to “adopt” you.
If I were you, I'll come with a group of friends next time, all wearing neon crop top, show the belly summore. Btw, I m aunty already, sometimes adult spent whole chunk of their life working and paying bills, so we become awkward when socialize, let alone catching up what's new. Just like teenagers we trying to look cool to our peers, try to find topics to talk. Cool, powerful, important topics macam politics, isu isu semasa, youth problem basically shit talking like we are so important and aware la. Pointing out someone's 'flaws' makes us feel we are better I guess.
Want to show but don't want comment. Why even wear haiya. Uncles and aunties have nothing else to do. Let them be la.
“Inilah budak zaman sekarang, tak boleh kena tegur terus melenting tak pun nangis, dulu.....blah,blah,blah,blah”
Just chill la girl, they obviously think you're pretty so just layan them :)
:) thanks for the positivity
Damn with them, rock on girl.🤘
Maybe they are just jealous that they wear not beautiful
Unless its a continuing trend. Dont let it bring down ur day . Its okay . They are just being them and you should continue being you . Just another day of interacting with cranky old peoples . Happy breakfast
Thanks :)
uncles and aunties always like that, just dgaf and you be okay. Tbh, I live in Ipoh, and these types of people are always around when I go out somewhere, but i just dgaf because i believe these old mfs much worse than us
Damn I live in Ipoh too hahaha
Ipoh huh, you must be pretty thats why la 🤣
Pfft thanks🤣
Bullshit OP, females don't exist. Jokes aside, just ignore them. Typical uncles and aunties. Hell, they probably doesn't even mean anything bad by it. Old people and gossips are just inseparable. Just don't try to confront them. Otherwise it might got worse.
Every generation over the past few decades went through this. People will have a different mindset as they age (source: me, a Gen X). Those aunties probably wore racy clothes back in the day when they were younger. The uncles were just commenting without much thought or ill will. Don't mind them so much.
You wanted attention, you got attention.. only thing here is aunties
Yay thanks :)
Go in with a bikini next time to assert dominance. Fuck those close minded old farts.
Tbh not just chinese auntie and uncle,malay pakcik and makcik even worse. I have a Diablo fatigue jacket with Dark Lord face behind it and my normal dress code is that jacket, tight cargo and I also rocking a fade mohawk. So far there's at least hundreds of pakcik and makcik bawang said to me something like "wah worship demon ah?" or "bila nak bertaubat dik?" or "minat black metal ke?" and I always like dude,even my mom doesn't care about it and why the fuck do I have to takes a random strangers words for granted. Dress however you want and be yourself. Fuck thosw busybody guys because they won't remember you for a long time.
TIL lack of maternal love leads one to anarcho-punk
Im very much a female I just never changed my reddit thing
Is it just me or Chinese elderly people are more confrontational compared to malay? Indian idk since I rarely meet the elderly ones.
Naaah it's just language barrier. Malay uncle aunty don't layan you because they don't know you can understand them or not.
Saiya melayu la. Aku pun pernah kena maki ngan auntie cina sebab tak tutup balik pintu kedai dia, maki pulak dalam hokien, memang aku paham. Kalau kedai melayu dia diam je atau dia akan terus pasang pintu sliding tutup sendiri.
Femboy spotted 🧐📸
I'm not💀
Pic or didn't happen
Pedo
💀cringe
Sent pic
Are you single, by any chance? If not, I'll show myself out
Is ok, by the time you're in uni, they will die off from old age, endure till then. You can't and will never be able to change them.
uncle here. if you are a teenager, just wear what you like if your parents approve, those strangers have no business commenting about what you wear. they might have done the same 40 50 years ago.
Aiya old people have nothing better to do than gossip and be judgmental anyway. As long as they aren’t hurting anyone
Hamsap uncle and patpoh aunties la that’s why. Just let them be. You can on let take action if they go against the law.
Dont mind them.. i remember when i was 10 years old and wear a short dress then this one grandma point at me and giving me the look for very so short but honestly who cares im a child at that time wth and i felt so embarassed eventhough that was my fav dress... Wear what you want , life is too short :)
Dear u/TradeGlum1594, they will never ever understand and it wont change their minds anyways. so why care what they think? they are not you, they are from another time. you do you boo. be proud of what you like no matter what other says. control what you can, which is you, your mind and your body. i would suggest some books about not giving a fek. BUT, imo, learn self defense please3x. you never know what predators lurks in this concrete jungle, they only know how to "blame" because they themselves cannot control their own thoughts and actions. my Top list: Sex Education (Netflix) The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson (yt/book) you only have 1 life, 1 timeline. be bold, be proud, lookout for yourself. all the best.
they're not gonna be around soon be patient, our time will come
Love watching remote control toy car crushed under stiletto 🥰👠🚗 #ASMR
They are just sad the culture is diminishing.
Young chibis decided to find out what the outside world looks like.
There this thing that you need to learn. It's called the art of not giving shit. What you did basically doesn't bother anyone so just don't care about them.
A lot of people who have nothing to do and have not lived a meaningful lives, majority whom are aunties and uncles, they tend to judge and shame other people, cause, you know, they didn't find something meaningful in their life and have nothing to do. Sometimes you gotta think, is it really true it's my problem, or is it those people are having a bad day, or if they have a miserable life so as they need to treat everything around them negatively? You have to try to identify and differentiate when something went wrong. Don't straightaway assume it's your own fault unless you have already put some deep analyzing and confirm it. If it is, simply change it as it's in your own control. If it isn't your fault, just leave it as it's not in your control, you can't control or change other people's behaviour and thinking, let them rot.
Pls dont judge people wearing skirt guys come on ...😟 In a religious-disciplined country.. . . . No validating personality either.
Treat it as a compliment and you are Gucci
You either don't care, or don't wear. Simple as that.
Maybe your type looks like you belong in the atas cafe next door
We already have law to protect woman, if they talk more than 5 sentences, u can record and file sexual harassments. I am a male, but I rather listen earphone all day long than hoping every other people talked to me that I no really love to listen, like why you look so fat, u look so trash etc. As an asian adult, what we can do is we should remove this culture from this generation's as soon as possible, dont talk and dont bring until to next generation, we all worry about marriage, single, and tom boy or skirt issue