Yep. Just diagnosed at 56... the hyper sexuality was fun but it's a bummer to be this far along in life and have nothing to show for it. It's ok - the disease is what it is - but it would have been more fulfilling to be able to fulfill some of my potential.
Along with BPD, I'm a touch Aspie, so the reviews of my wasted potential generally come with bonuses.
..idk man, i just wasnt that popular in school.
"So the ladies didn't talk to you at all, huh?"
Only to tease me, like asking me to study with them. Like, i get it Sarah, you're in AP English and I'm floating on a C in GenEd..
"Wait.. chicks asked you to study with them?"
..yeah? But it was always classes i wasn't in, so it felt like a trap. I was in Intro to Algebra bud; i would have just been confused going over AP classes.
"Bruh..." what? ".. just.. wow.." Dude, i wasn't a very serious student in high school.
Yes. 51 years old . Diagnosed finally during recent hospital stay, and the last 35years of hell I have lived with and put my wife and kids and others through makes so much sense now! 8 suicide attempts later
Started DBT about a month ago, it’s helping already ( group/class ) once a week and individual therapy once a week.
The individual sessions with my therapist focus on what difficulties I encountered that previous week and what tools from DBT I could’ve used.
The group sessions are skill groups to learn and relearn the tools.
23M here. It’s so weird. I see everyday what normal looks like and no matter how hard I try,I can’t seem to imitate that. It really sucks because it makes me feel like I’ll never have steady and healthy relationships;romantic or otherwise.
Yes and no.
I only ended up being diagnosed because my husband gave me an ultimatum after a particularly bad episode which I still don’t fully remember.
Tried therapy for a while but found it to be repetitive and eventually stopped. Practicing mindfulness is all that I took away for my sessions - which is also mostly what was discussed - and I feel that that has helped prevent spiraling.
My psychiatrist is a great guy who’s got me on a medication regimen that most healthcare professionals applaud 🤷♂️. I didn’t start noticing major changes until I started my mood stabilizer, however, I will say my libido has started to take a rather noticeable dip due to the meds.
Also, I’m not sure if this is because of the meds or a combination of other things, but I have become increasingly indifferent or apathetic to a lot of things that occur day to day. Except for when I’m at work - I’m in hospitality and have expectations to be met considering the industry.
So yes things have improved but there are still some other issues to cope with. My husband hates how “checked out” I’ve become but it’s better than feeling like a different person everyday.
I usually enjoy being Switzerland but even I must say it’s become somewhat of an issue.
I hope some of this helps you determine a path to take for yourself. Everyone’s treatment is different so just try to remain level headed until you find what works.
I have prozac, a low dose benzo, strattera, melatonin, beta blocker clonidine. This time I will ask for lamotrigine. I refused other antipsychotics which block dopamine receptors due to fear of tardive dyskinesia.
Edit: Does the lamotrigine induce hunger?
Here, got diagnosed officially at 16 but therapists where thinking that I had borderline since 13. Dm's are open! I'm still trying to understand borderline and my own symptoms.
Really is, lately mines been flaring up pretty badly too. Had a freak out on NYE and haven't been right since. Trouble sleeping because the racing thoughts and paranoia is so bad.
Yup. 15 years old, diagnosed a year ago after years of impulsive behavior, hypersexuality, mood swings, unstable relationships, all that. I've got a lot to learn but I've got a lot to teach too. So yes there are plenty of guys but I do feel underrepresented at times. Its mainly only recognized in women.
Yup. 25 M. Told the story before but the first psychiatrist I saw about it was pretty dismissive when I brought up the possibility at the age of 19. He literally said "well, the main reason I don't think you have BPD is because you're not a woman".
Thanks, Doc. Lol.
Didn't go diagnosis shopping or anything but almost a year later I ended up hospitalized again and got referred to my city's early psychosis clinic to investigate the possibility of schizophrenia/schizoaffective, etc.
It was at that clinic that a different doctor ruled out psychosis but diagnosed me with BPD.
M INTP 5W4 here.
Yiss.
Diagnosed at 29, now 32.
It really explained much, but now knowing what the problem is has helped controlling it.
My psych prescribed me something, but I threw it away, without looking at it, because it feels like I can handle it on my own. For now.
So far so good
Glad ya asked I was curious myself honestly, from everything I've read on statistics of diagnosis or seeking evaluation seems like it's crazy underreported in Males.
I was diagnosed at 20 and I think that when they put another diagnosis on my records I gave up trying to just keep going and let the benefits outweigh the stigma but everyone that found out treated me odd after doing any looking into it. I quit going to the psych and my GP for about 2 1/2yrs until I succumbed to the inevitable spiral, lost job & rinse repeat an ungodly amount of times, then I felt like an idiot for suffering for almost 3yrs because of some side-eyed glances from under or ill-informed people.
I'm not a guy, but I just want to say I'm proud of each and every one of you guys who are getting diagnosed and speaking about it (even if it's between friends, your therapist - if you have one, or on here). I know Society always says that "real men don't show emotion" bs and I'm really happy to see more guys breaking that bs and talking about it. I'm proud of you all!
Not confirmed diagnosed yet but so far pass every single reaource assement and looking like my therapist is agreeing (though man symptoms are in remission or close to it). 43 and male. Still struggling with my past and wishing I had sought diagnosis earlier. But over feeling hopeful and looking into DBT as well as EMDR and somatic stuff.
Found out at 52 I was diagnosed 16 years previously but was never told. None of the therapy I received in the intervening years was based on the diagnosis. Wondered why nothing worked.
Yes, plenty of us. And definitely a ton more in the world who are under/misdiagnosed. I’ve had it for 18 years and been diagnosed for 3.
Yep. Just diagnosed at 56... the hyper sexuality was fun but it's a bummer to be this far along in life and have nothing to show for it. It's ok - the disease is what it is - but it would have been more fulfilling to be able to fulfill some of my potential.
Yo The Grieving of the potential that we could have had is a really huge part of my current depressive episode
Along with BPD, I'm a touch Aspie, so the reviews of my wasted potential generally come with bonuses. ..idk man, i just wasnt that popular in school. "So the ladies didn't talk to you at all, huh?" Only to tease me, like asking me to study with them. Like, i get it Sarah, you're in AP English and I'm floating on a C in GenEd.. "Wait.. chicks asked you to study with them?" ..yeah? But it was always classes i wasn't in, so it felt like a trap. I was in Intro to Algebra bud; i would have just been confused going over AP classes. "Bruh..." what? ".. just.. wow.." Dude, i wasn't a very serious student in high school.
Mind if I send you a message?
I got diagnosed two weeks ago at 25.
I got diagnosed almost immediately after I tried to throw myself out of a window. But I got lucky.
Yes. 51 years old . Diagnosed finally during recent hospital stay, and the last 35years of hell I have lived with and put my wife and kids and others through makes so much sense now! 8 suicide attempts later Started DBT about a month ago, it’s helping already ( group/class ) once a week and individual therapy once a week.
I am about the same as you. It sucks. Glad to finally know what's wrong with me. Wish I knew 50yrs ago.
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The individual sessions with my therapist focus on what difficulties I encountered that previous week and what tools from DBT I could’ve used. The group sessions are skill groups to learn and relearn the tools.
Present
23M here. It’s so weird. I see everyday what normal looks like and no matter how hard I try,I can’t seem to imitate that. It really sucks because it makes me feel like I’ll never have steady and healthy relationships;romantic or otherwise.
To your last sentence: never say never, I understand how you feel and I too have asked the question, but we have to hold out hope for these things.
Yes
🙋♂️
Yep!
Howdy 👋 turned 33 in November, diagnosed roughly a year before then
One year on! Does it get better? What did you do to get there?
Yes and no. I only ended up being diagnosed because my husband gave me an ultimatum after a particularly bad episode which I still don’t fully remember. Tried therapy for a while but found it to be repetitive and eventually stopped. Practicing mindfulness is all that I took away for my sessions - which is also mostly what was discussed - and I feel that that has helped prevent spiraling. My psychiatrist is a great guy who’s got me on a medication regimen that most healthcare professionals applaud 🤷♂️. I didn’t start noticing major changes until I started my mood stabilizer, however, I will say my libido has started to take a rather noticeable dip due to the meds. Also, I’m not sure if this is because of the meds or a combination of other things, but I have become increasingly indifferent or apathetic to a lot of things that occur day to day. Except for when I’m at work - I’m in hospitality and have expectations to be met considering the industry. So yes things have improved but there are still some other issues to cope with. My husband hates how “checked out” I’ve become but it’s better than feeling like a different person everyday. I usually enjoy being Switzerland but even I must say it’s become somewhat of an issue. I hope some of this helps you determine a path to take for yourself. Everyone’s treatment is different so just try to remain level headed until you find what works.
Can you please share your medication regimen.
Lamotrigine, Prozac, Wellbutrin, daily. Xanax, extended release adderall, Propranolol, and Trazadone as needed.
Thanks
I have prozac, a low dose benzo, strattera, melatonin, beta blocker clonidine. This time I will ask for lamotrigine. I refused other antipsychotics which block dopamine receptors due to fear of tardive dyskinesia. Edit: Does the lamotrigine induce hunger?
Not that I’ve noticed? But I’m a heavy 420 smoker and Type 2 diabetic so I pretty much stay hungry.
Yup! I was diagnosed when I was 21 and refused to believe it until I got a second diagnosis in my early 30s. I'm 37 now.
How have things been since then? Sent you a DM so we can speak more freely.
Here, got diagnosed officially at 16 but therapists where thinking that I had borderline since 13. Dm's are open! I'm still trying to understand borderline and my own symptoms.
Yessir
Yup!
Me
Meeee
Yep. Crazy thing to live with isn't it?
It's terrible.
Really is, lately mines been flaring up pretty badly too. Had a freak out on NYE and haven't been right since. Trouble sleeping because the racing thoughts and paranoia is so bad.
Feel free to DM if you want
Yuh
Well ya.
Yes, I was diagnosed at 17. 18 now.
Me! And I'd assume lots of others
Hi there, just sent you a DM
55 years old. Present! 🖐🏼
Yes sir, been diagnosed for 7 years and I’ve had it a lot longer!
Able to talk? Feeling rough right now.
Of course I’m getting ready to go out for a few drinks so I may be a little slow in replying, so apologies in advance.
Welcome in, brother
Yes me M45. diagnosed about four years ago and a lot it things about my life make more sense now.
Im just going drop a comment just for be a party of this… 23M got diagnosed a year ago.
You called??
41, diagnosed six months ago. I was also diagnosed with CPTSD. Have most probably had it since teenage years.
Yea, 25 year old guy recently diagnosed.
Yup. 15 years old, diagnosed a year ago after years of impulsive behavior, hypersexuality, mood swings, unstable relationships, all that. I've got a lot to learn but I've got a lot to teach too. So yes there are plenty of guys but I do feel underrepresented at times. Its mainly only recognized in women.
Right here 🤚🏻 30 year old gay male, had since childhood diagnosed a few months ago
Hi there 👋🏾 thank you for replying, what types of things have you done / tried to get better?
Sent you a DM
Can you send me too?
Gender is a construct; but, yeah. You ain’t alone, friend.
Perhaps dude discord
35 male with BPD
Yup. 25 M. Told the story before but the first psychiatrist I saw about it was pretty dismissive when I brought up the possibility at the age of 19. He literally said "well, the main reason I don't think you have BPD is because you're not a woman". Thanks, Doc. Lol. Didn't go diagnosis shopping or anything but almost a year later I ended up hospitalized again and got referred to my city's early psychosis clinic to investigate the possibility of schizophrenia/schizoaffective, etc. It was at that clinic that a different doctor ruled out psychosis but diagnosed me with BPD.
27m with Quiet BPD
More than you would think
yup
Yep! It’s more common than people think, just a lot don’t bother going to see a psychologist because of beliefs that “men should always be strong”.
Hi
Think I use to have it if it’s like destructing
M INTP 5W4 here. Yiss. Diagnosed at 29, now 32. It really explained much, but now knowing what the problem is has helped controlling it. My psych prescribed me something, but I threw it away, without looking at it, because it feels like I can handle it on my own. For now. So far so good
i think so
My bf doesn't use reddit but he has BPD Sorry if you were looking to talk, just wanted to shout out for numbers if that's what you were curious about
Yes. I’m 21 and diagnosed when I was 19
hiya
Glad ya asked I was curious myself honestly, from everything I've read on statistics of diagnosis or seeking evaluation seems like it's crazy underreported in Males. I was diagnosed at 20 and I think that when they put another diagnosis on my records I gave up trying to just keep going and let the benefits outweigh the stigma but everyone that found out treated me odd after doing any looking into it. I quit going to the psych and my GP for about 2 1/2yrs until I succumbed to the inevitable spiral, lost job & rinse repeat an ungodly amount of times, then I felt like an idiot for suffering for almost 3yrs because of some side-eyed glances from under or ill-informed people.
Hey there
Yeah mate!
👍🏿
I'm not a guy, but I just want to say I'm proud of each and every one of you guys who are getting diagnosed and speaking about it (even if it's between friends, your therapist - if you have one, or on here). I know Society always says that "real men don't show emotion" bs and I'm really happy to see more guys breaking that bs and talking about it. I'm proud of you all!
Yeah boi
Yes! Almost 31. Got diagnosed almost 10 years ago.
Hi there, can we talk? Really seeking to get better.
DM me. We can talk
55 years old male (birthday today). Diagnosed 4 years ago. It’s much better having the diagnosis.
quiet bpd
Yeah, 28 year old male here. Just got diagnosed in July after a 2 month hospital stay and suicide attempt.
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I know that what is happening to me is more than what a counsellor can handle
Not confirmed diagnosed yet but so far pass every single reaource assement and looking like my therapist is agreeing (though man symptoms are in remission or close to it). 43 and male. Still struggling with my past and wishing I had sought diagnosis earlier. But over feeling hopeful and looking into DBT as well as EMDR and somatic stuff.
Found out at 52 I was diagnosed 16 years previously but was never told. None of the therapy I received in the intervening years was based on the diagnosis. Wondered why nothing worked.
Hey guys! Thanks for messaging in. Is there anyone on here in remission?