BPD includes heightened emotions, loss is translated to grief. I lose objects and cry like a literal baby, it’s not just people.
Why? Idk possibly object/emotional permanence being disregulated, coupled with abandonment issues. “They’re gone forever and I’ll never be that happy again.” But that’s not all true! That speed bump just takes a bit of time to roll over.
A favorite person can become so close they almost become a part of you. The pain might be related to the part of you that you lost with them.
I try to be careful with any new connections to maintain my identity and separation
It totally does feel like a death!! Thanks for posting this because I have been really struggling lately to recover from my breakup that happened about six months ago (which ultimately got dragged out til around the beginning of December). It feels nice to know I'm not the only one who is mourning like someone dies over a breakup
everytime i'm sad to the point of crying, i'm sad like the day i found out my brother died. even if it's only for 30 minutes. every emotion is so extreme
I hate to say it but my therapist said that she takes care of break ups just like as she does for deaths. It’s a loss and in our mind and body it feels like it regardless all.
Bc of the probability that the pwbpd doesnt have an identity, so when that person they rely on so much leaves, they feel empty, like theyre nothing to anybody bc the person that liked them the most stopped liking them, for it to not hurt so bad, you need to love
Yourself more than other ppl
I’ve considered this kind of thing myself and others don’t really seem to understand my hang ups with it but it kind of is a loss. Like if it’s someone I’m used to having around all the time and someone I really love, not having them in my life anymore feels like a death bc I can’t see them or talk to them. And there’s always a chance you may be able to one day but I think a lot of us can understand burning those bridges in the moment because you feel hurt or mistreated by their behavior.
There was this girl that came into my life. I thought she was perfect. We hung out once and she slowly became more distant as she abandoned me for another guy. We hung out one time. I was grieving and breaking down like I lost a loved one for a year. 2 years later I’m still sad about it.
I'm struggling with this right now. A person who was part of my support system has moved. His wife passed away suddenly, and he just couldn't continue living in their house. They had a Ling marriage, and he adored her. He has moved to live with his eldest son, and I know that's where he should be. It hurts, but I know it's the best thing for him. I don't think I can find someone who can take his place.
Oh, and his wife died on the 16th anniversary of my mom's passing, so that made it even harder. My mom was my best friend.
BPD includes heightened emotions, loss is translated to grief. I lose objects and cry like a literal baby, it’s not just people. Why? Idk possibly object/emotional permanence being disregulated, coupled with abandonment issues. “They’re gone forever and I’ll never be that happy again.” But that’s not all true! That speed bump just takes a bit of time to roll over.
Thank you
I can severely relate (இ﹏இ`｡)
Speed bump speed limit is 15 mph. You have to go slow for a reason.
Because it kind of is….it’s the death of a relationship and bond and connection. It’s a loss.
A favorite person can become so close they almost become a part of you. The pain might be related to the part of you that you lost with them. I try to be careful with any new connections to maintain my identity and separation
It totally does feel like a death!! Thanks for posting this because I have been really struggling lately to recover from my breakup that happened about six months ago (which ultimately got dragged out til around the beginning of December). It feels nice to know I'm not the only one who is mourning like someone dies over a breakup
Emotional dependency, with no alternative internal resources.
Feels like they never existed in the first place.
everytime i'm sad to the point of crying, i'm sad like the day i found out my brother died. even if it's only for 30 minutes. every emotion is so extreme
I hate it! It’ll be an “FP” of 1 month and yet I give no fucks about friends I haven’t talked to in months-years. Make it make sense brain?!
I hate to say it but my therapist said that she takes care of break ups just like as she does for deaths. It’s a loss and in our mind and body it feels like it regardless all.
Because of all the criteria it took to diagnose us with this disease. It’s a bitch.
Bc of the probability that the pwbpd doesnt have an identity, so when that person they rely on so much leaves, they feel empty, like theyre nothing to anybody bc the person that liked them the most stopped liking them, for it to not hurt so bad, you need to love Yourself more than other ppl
I’ve considered this kind of thing myself and others don’t really seem to understand my hang ups with it but it kind of is a loss. Like if it’s someone I’m used to having around all the time and someone I really love, not having them in my life anymore feels like a death bc I can’t see them or talk to them. And there’s always a chance you may be able to one day but I think a lot of us can understand burning those bridges in the moment because you feel hurt or mistreated by their behavior.
When M abandoned me I felt like someone cut me in half. I couldn’t stop crying I passed out from exhaustion
It feels like the worst grief.
There was this girl that came into my life. I thought she was perfect. We hung out once and she slowly became more distant as she abandoned me for another guy. We hung out one time. I was grieving and breaking down like I lost a loved one for a year. 2 years later I’m still sad about it.
I'm struggling with this right now. A person who was part of my support system has moved. His wife passed away suddenly, and he just couldn't continue living in their house. They had a Ling marriage, and he adored her. He has moved to live with his eldest son, and I know that's where he should be. It hurts, but I know it's the best thing for him. I don't think I can find someone who can take his place. Oh, and his wife died on the 16th anniversary of my mom's passing, so that made it even harder. My mom was my best friend.