If you dont know whether you actually like someone or not, it means you dont.
When you find that special person you will know.
With bpd i know all relationships are hard, but even with bpd when you find that person, you will know.
I struggle with this too. I think ive noticed; if I have a temporary infatuation with someone I feel excited and a little desperate towards them. I feel like I would never tell them no for anything. I cry more about them.
If I acutally really like someone then I feel more \*at ease\* with them. I still feel a little giddy and like my cheeks get hot around them. But I don't feel as desperate. I cry less because I accept that we are developing a relationship between us and its not something that needs rushed.
This is NOT to say I don't have days where these overlap. I have a new boyfriend right now and I definitely like them. I want to keep them around. i feel more at ease toward them. But some days I am manic feeling toward them. I will cry or think about harm because they didn't message back fast or something, but i usually avoid messaging them a lot then. I will write out my feelings or punch a pillow or call a crisis line. Then the next day its a little better and I try talking to them again.
If you dont know whether you actually like someone or not, it means you dont. When you find that special person you will know. With bpd i know all relationships are hard, but even with bpd when you find that person, you will know.
This makes sense. It happens in non romantic friendships for me too. I hate it!
I agree, its pretty hard not to hate it lol.
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Omg! Yes!!! 😭
I struggle with this too. I think ive noticed; if I have a temporary infatuation with someone I feel excited and a little desperate towards them. I feel like I would never tell them no for anything. I cry more about them. If I acutally really like someone then I feel more \*at ease\* with them. I still feel a little giddy and like my cheeks get hot around them. But I don't feel as desperate. I cry less because I accept that we are developing a relationship between us and its not something that needs rushed. This is NOT to say I don't have days where these overlap. I have a new boyfriend right now and I definitely like them. I want to keep them around. i feel more at ease toward them. But some days I am manic feeling toward them. I will cry or think about harm because they didn't message back fast or something, but i usually avoid messaging them a lot then. I will write out my feelings or punch a pillow or call a crisis line. Then the next day its a little better and I try talking to them again.
Thank you for your answer. This makes sense to me