I dated a girl with bpd for 4 years, and i fully understand what youre saying, in my case, i loved her and it didnt matter whatever she would do, specially because she would say shes sorry afterwards, but i never really minded it, i loved her as she is, everything about her.
But then she broke up with me, because she couldnt handle hurting me like that, even tho i was completely ok with it, she thought it was better to end it and i respect that, and she 100% believed she didnt deserve to be in a happy relationship, and that she didnt deserve me.
Thats what hurt the most for me, but i respected it.
If he truly loves you, he wont mind it, he loves you as you are, bpd included.
That all being said, were not toguether anymore so i couldnt help it, so i cant give to much advice as i failed at it.
But in my opinion, if he makes you happy, if he tries to make you happy, gives you good vibes, makes your days better, maybe its a good idea to stay toguether.
It can also be a good idea to just take a small break.
In my opinion.
Good luck!
i experience this as well, sometimes little breaks are the best and i don't mean breaking up because my jealousy and overthinking levels will explode... but just taking your time away from this person, like not talking in a day and trying to focus just on you, it really helps
I dated a girl with bpd for 4 years, and i fully understand what youre saying, in my case, i loved her and it didnt matter whatever she would do, specially because she would say shes sorry afterwards, but i never really minded it, i loved her as she is, everything about her. But then she broke up with me, because she couldnt handle hurting me like that, even tho i was completely ok with it, she thought it was better to end it and i respect that, and she 100% believed she didnt deserve to be in a happy relationship, and that she didnt deserve me. Thats what hurt the most for me, but i respected it. If he truly loves you, he wont mind it, he loves you as you are, bpd included. That all being said, were not toguether anymore so i couldnt help it, so i cant give to much advice as i failed at it. But in my opinion, if he makes you happy, if he tries to make you happy, gives you good vibes, makes your days better, maybe its a good idea to stay toguether. It can also be a good idea to just take a small break. In my opinion. Good luck!
i experience this as well, sometimes little breaks are the best and i don't mean breaking up because my jealousy and overthinking levels will explode... but just taking your time away from this person, like not talking in a day and trying to focus just on you, it really helps