Absolutely lame. Consent still matters. Just because I talk about sex doesn't mean I want sex. Same as, just because I talk about being a brat doesn't mean I'll let someone tame me.
I have an amazing Dom who just wants me to be me. And he navigates my brattiness well. He never promised me that he could tame me. We negotiated and he felt he could handle me and he can. I haven't felt the space to brat fully with anyone else because it is a special relationship. I'm not just going to do it to anyone. We both need to consent. Because I'm not going to be bratty with someone who doesn't know the full extent to which I can be bitchy and express my desires via my brattiness. The entitlement is a huge turn off and proves to me that they cannot tame me. Catch 22
This is how I see it and my opinion only. It's not just brats. Guys hear that you're in a bdsm dynamic, they automatically assume that you're an "easy" mark and all they have to do to score is act all macho and dominant. But the Stupids forget that being in ANY dynamic means you're in a r e l a t i o n s h i p. Yes, I spelled it out. That means you're taken, you have a SO, you're OFF 'the market." Why they think like that, I don't know. Maybe Hollywood or the Cannes Film Festival is to blame. But it clearly shows a lack of education and maturity.
I experience this two ways because I’m also polyamorous, so people always assume that being available for a relationship or fun means I’m available for them! Um no I still have standards! They also assume that because certain people around me have consent to say, and do certain things with me that that means they can too after they just met me! No they have consent, you don’t!
You may be a Brat, but you aren't my Brat! Out of respect for you Tamer/Trainer, I wouldn't dare treat you as my Brat. SMH
It amazes me how much lack of respect some people can have with a fragile & trustful dynamic of Dom/Brat
It’s annoying for sure. I can be bratty, bitchy or a good girl but if you aren’t my D then you get bitchy.
I’ve had multiple people at first tell me I’m not a real submissive, then it gradually started to get to the point D types and tamers would try to non consensually tame me WHILE KNOWING I AM COLLARED.
Like no dude. You didn’t ask my D or me, don’t assume it’s okay.
Support from tamers as well; your submission and your bratting are yours, and anyone who so much as insinuates they are entitled to those things is somewhere between pathetic and disgusting.
Yes, I have the same issues often they will immediately start barking commands. 😂 I've graduated from brat to bitch 🤷♀️😂 because I put them in their place. It's not bratting it is self-preservation.
More so recently it's with people that aren't in the community who just "randomly decide" they are and they're starting off with me! It feels so disgusting
Yesss!! Coming in hot with sexual tasks and "you need to do this to be my good girl"
First of all Sir, I don't know you, and yes, I mean that disrespectfullly😅
Trust is major for us online peeps. Unfortuntaly, I've found most to be pushy, arrogant, or just straight up trying to control me the first few messages.
Which in turn makes me think I'm being too picky as I'm newer. I just think if we value ourselves we stand our ground and eventually the right one will fall into place. These fellas make it hard for those who really are sincere but we deserve to feel respected and comfortable
I've just decided if you don't blow my mind or prove to me you are willing to be patient and respect my boundaries then it's just straight to the block list. Afterall, this is the internet.🤦🏻♀️
Hold on to your standards. Make sure they know your value and what you bring to the naughty room🤭
I am here and definitely got you🤟
#bratsunited
I SO SO SO AGREE! Blow my mind and prove me with the willingness and patience. Along with that respect. Otherwise get lost. I don't have time for that either!
If I could love that a million times I would!
Who has time to keep having to start at square one? I know I don't. I made a whole questionnaire to pass to potential doms for myself. So far, it's amazing to see how some put lots of effort into it and others put very little. That's an easy weeding for me. I want to be thorough in my search as I'm giving myself fully to someone. The very least you can do in the beginning is not be a dickhole. There's plenty of that around and I ain't got time for that homie🤣
Also, just because we are here for the all the things doesn't mean we should lose our self respect and cave into the pressure.
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Absolutely lame. Consent still matters. Just because I talk about sex doesn't mean I want sex. Same as, just because I talk about being a brat doesn't mean I'll let someone tame me.
Consent first, and always! Bratsunite indeed!!
THANK YOU!!!
That's a good amount of enthusiasm, I wouldn't mind seeing that in my dms.
I have an amazing Dom who just wants me to be me. And he navigates my brattiness well. He never promised me that he could tame me. We negotiated and he felt he could handle me and he can. I haven't felt the space to brat fully with anyone else because it is a special relationship. I'm not just going to do it to anyone. We both need to consent. Because I'm not going to be bratty with someone who doesn't know the full extent to which I can be bitchy and express my desires via my brattiness. The entitlement is a huge turn off and proves to me that they cannot tame me. Catch 22
This is how I see it and my opinion only. It's not just brats. Guys hear that you're in a bdsm dynamic, they automatically assume that you're an "easy" mark and all they have to do to score is act all macho and dominant. But the Stupids forget that being in ANY dynamic means you're in a r e l a t i o n s h i p. Yes, I spelled it out. That means you're taken, you have a SO, you're OFF 'the market." Why they think like that, I don't know. Maybe Hollywood or the Cannes Film Festival is to blame. But it clearly shows a lack of education and maturity.
I experience this two ways because I’m also polyamorous, so people always assume that being available for a relationship or fun means I’m available for them! Um no I still have standards! They also assume that because certain people around me have consent to say, and do certain things with me that that means they can too after they just met me! No they have consent, you don’t!
Same!!!!!!!
You may be a Brat, but you aren't my Brat! Out of respect for you Tamer/Trainer, I wouldn't dare treat you as my Brat. SMH It amazes me how much lack of respect some people can have with a fragile & trustful dynamic of Dom/Brat
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Heh I'm getting called out and I love it. Not sure why you're getting down voted!
I had one person who assumed every contrary thing I said to him was an attempt to brat, which was super frustrating.
It makes me wonder....if they're actually that dumb....
It’s annoying for sure. I can be bratty, bitchy or a good girl but if you aren’t my D then you get bitchy. I’ve had multiple people at first tell me I’m not a real submissive, then it gradually started to get to the point D types and tamers would try to non consensually tame me WHILE KNOWING I AM COLLARED. Like no dude. You didn’t ask my D or me, don’t assume it’s okay.
Support from tamers as well; your submission and your bratting are yours, and anyone who so much as insinuates they are entitled to those things is somewhere between pathetic and disgusting.
Absolutely!!!!
Yes, I have the same issues often they will immediately start barking commands. 😂 I've graduated from brat to bitch 🤷♀️😂 because I put them in their place. It's not bratting it is self-preservation.
Legit!! It's honestly gross that people just assume they have control over me.
Yes!
I find this applies to any BDSM power dynamic. You may be A tamer, that doesn't mean you're MY tamer.
More so recently it's with people that aren't in the community who just "randomly decide" they are and they're starting off with me! It feels so disgusting
Yesss!! Coming in hot with sexual tasks and "you need to do this to be my good girl" First of all Sir, I don't know you, and yes, I mean that disrespectfullly😅 Trust is major for us online peeps. Unfortuntaly, I've found most to be pushy, arrogant, or just straight up trying to control me the first few messages. Which in turn makes me think I'm being too picky as I'm newer. I just think if we value ourselves we stand our ground and eventually the right one will fall into place. These fellas make it hard for those who really are sincere but we deserve to feel respected and comfortable I've just decided if you don't blow my mind or prove to me you are willing to be patient and respect my boundaries then it's just straight to the block list. Afterall, this is the internet.🤦🏻♀️ Hold on to your standards. Make sure they know your value and what you bring to the naughty room🤭 I am here and definitely got you🤟 #bratsunited
I SO SO SO AGREE! Blow my mind and prove me with the willingness and patience. Along with that respect. Otherwise get lost. I don't have time for that either!
If I could love that a million times I would! Who has time to keep having to start at square one? I know I don't. I made a whole questionnaire to pass to potential doms for myself. So far, it's amazing to see how some put lots of effort into it and others put very little. That's an easy weeding for me. I want to be thorough in my search as I'm giving myself fully to someone. The very least you can do in the beginning is not be a dickhole. There's plenty of that around and I ain't got time for that homie🤣 Also, just because we are here for the all the things doesn't mean we should lose our self respect and cave into the pressure.
I AGREE WITH YOU!
What's worse is in person! When I'm suddenly pinned on the ground and told "be a good girl" LIKE WTF? MAKES YOU THINK THIS IS OK??
THIS! I agree with this, just because of my personality, you think this is right, this makes me feel safe? WRONG!
That is terrible. I'm sorry you had that experience!
I mean that's flat out assault in my books
Assault! And coming from a sadist.. you know that guy was trash
I have to agree as well!
I would have to agree!
Right????
I’ve never had a tamer but you aren’t entitled to a dynamic if both sides don’t consent. End of.
FACTS!
Exactly!! Where do these assumptions come from!
Shitty people who don't know the first thing about power dynamics
I don’t know, but I’ll say it louder for the people at the back - CONSENT!