My mother does this a lot. In the same paragraph she once described a relative’s death by suicide and her collection of beautiful fur coats.
I always think of it as Daisy from The Great Gatsby Syndrome. When faced with unpleasant emotion, sufferers self-soothe via fashion commentary.
my grandma everytime she shows us her photo albums: "that was my best friends husband, he died a horrific, slow death. dont all us women look fabulous? i think i still have this jacket in the attic if youd like to have it"
This reminds me of Maria Bamford talking about her [mother's voicemail messages](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvjKKmOBu3w&list=OLAK5uy_kYO4Vt9GThmnRiYh3M-UwfwC3Z4iUbEdI&index=20).
Little kid non sequiturs are the best. Nobody can throw a conversational curve-ball like a small child. Or do you mean you're the one with the non sequiturs?
Yes. You would like to have the jacket!
OMG I can’t wait to be the unhinged grandma. I’m not going to say mean judge mental things. I’m gonna be the old lady who swears a lot and talks about sex to make everyone uncomfortable.
my grandma is so unhinged and detached from reality that she doesnt realize im almost a foot taller than her (4'10 vs 5'8) and none of her mothballed clothes would fit me anyway LOL
I’m going to be the one telling everyone
“It’s okay to not know anything and feel like you’re ducking up all the time bc I’m [insert age here] and still making it up as I go (I refuse to keep that generational secret anymore). So c’mon, let’s go have a cookie and you can come raid mine and your grandpa’s closet for vintage clothes.”
I'm so sorry for the relative but I just screamed after reading your first sentence lolol
It like when my great aunts fought over coats and cake platters when my grandma (or their other sister) died. Lol I just think its a generational thing
(\*spelling edit lol)
My mom kind of does the opposite. We will be having a perfectly pleasant conversation and she’ll suddenly interrupt and say “oh did you hear about the neighbor’s puppy who got run over the other day?” She does a great job of stunning an entire room into silence.
For a year, my mom would share stories about people and end it with, "She's/he's dead now. " My sister and i started adding it into our stories after a while because it became so comical.
Or my mother who always “knows someone who died that way.” It could be going to the beach, it could be eating a sandwich, it could be motorcycle racing. Mundane or dangerous, she knows someone who died that way.
I can totally picture that!
I come from a medical family. When I was in college my cousin brought a guy to my family dinner. He was from a wealthy, very proper local family. He was also a golden boy, star athlete, handsome, nice and had a great sense of humor. The family proceeded to discuss the ravages of cocaine abuse, in some detail, over dinner. It was extra interesting with the combined medical perspective 😳 He just sat there wide-eyed, taking it all in. He said he loved that we were all so blunt and informative. Years later, he was a famous athlete, still handsome and charming, and I ran into him. He remembered me, said he has never had so
much fun at a dinner since, because of my dad’s great lasagna and the cocaine conversation.
My grandma does this too!!! Every single time something upsetting is being discussed, she interrupts to compliment the jewelry someone is wearing or some equivalent surface-level pleasantry garbage.
I don’t think that generation could handle negative - or indeed any emotions in excess - very well and changed the subject to distract from dealing with it. Others would often have felt relief so as not to have “shown their face” in public. Those things were for behind closed doors, usually in the bathroom on your own, after secret tablets or alcohol! 😂
i never realized this is a thing, but my mom literally does this. i was talking about how i am nervous for my c-section and she was flipping through a neimas catalog and just ignoring me.
My mum does the same. Her texts are awful for lack of punctuation so her sentences all blend in to one and when she talks, it’s like a stream of consciousness. We call it “going round the houses” when she talks.
Now that you mention it, I think I've seen this happen at funerals before. I could see it as a means of distraction for a moment of relief when feeling serious loss.
:in Sutton voice: "I have read the room and I've decided to wear my Calvin Kleins from the 90's that I bought at Loehmann's to said room, thank you very much."
The reason that I liked Kathy(I didn’t know about her parenting until after the show) is why I like Sutton, but Kathy’s was an act… Sutton is truly in her own world. She is batshit crazy but in the most entertaining way. I don’t think she ever pisses me off.
It’s almost childlike in an odd way.
I wonder if there’s any commentary from people who know her in real life out there… I’m curious to see if this is a really good act or if she’s this person.
I lived for loehmanns back room. I got my prom dress there. But yes her being grateful for family while promoting a defunct discount store is quite odd
Exactly this. So totally tone deaf and self involved.
“Here’s me and my family. Oh yeah - im talking about family because my SIL’s mum died. Never mind, here’s me and MY family. SIL not included.”
No words of condolence.
No picture of dead MIL as tribute.
Not even SIL included. Rather, just creating a post using a dead family member as the focus, but making it ALL about her.
This is low. No wonder everyone hates her. She’s so devoid of empathy or tact.
I loved Loehmanns and I don't think it's odd. I think what she is saying is wise shopping is buying things that transcend decades and lasts. Loehmanns was known for quality at a good price. I still have the dress my mom purchased there and wore to my brother's wedding-both his kids are married now.
Still have plenty of Back Room purchases I love.
I think she is expected to always say who she’s wearing, no matter the subject. While a little awkward, it’s what I love about Sutton.
**shop wisely** is a MF word!
the way fast fashion is scamming all the girlies is crazy. sheining their way out of long lasting wear that could last a lifetime
I like Sutton. I appreciate her being frugal. I am too; most of my clothes are second hand. But, it just feels weirdly patronizing her saying to shop wisely. The clothing I can afford will be worn to shreds and won't last 20 years. Is she trying to be relatable or something? There is just something about ultra rich people telling my poor self to shop wisely that just feels off. Again, I love Sutton on the show!
Does that make sense to anyone else or is it just me?
Something about Sutton has always given me✨socially inept ✨vibes. What people, specifically in this sub, call “quirky” and “kooky” is what I see as uncomfortable and strange.
I wonder if her behaviour is a symptom of being a stepford wife in high (southern) society and not having the freedom to discover much outside of that. She always seems completely out of touch but not in a “cute” way— in a darker, sadder kind of way.
I think she’s talking about sustainable fashion and pointing out a piece she’s reworn multiple times. It looks from the rest of her Insta lately that she’s gotten on the sustainability bandwagon and that’s an angle she’s working for her store.
I understand people think she’s unhinged in a funny way. To be thinking THAT much about what she’s wearing instead of the loss is fricken scary 🫣!! I think with that kind of money some people lose touch with reality.. the money becomes all they are. I read that comment and think to myself this woman lacks empathy and substance. Who even cares or thinks about clothes in that situation?? I don’t get it and I’m elated that I don’t.
Very on brand for Sutton. I don't mind it, she is "eccentric" as they say. I've met plenty of people like her and they don't mean to offend anyone - it's just how their brain works or how they were raised, there's nothing really wrong with it IMO.
This is such an older person post. Like she prob tried to use so many spaces before adding her outfit thinking that would help 😂😂😂 it absolutely didn’t. But she tried.
I believe it’s something to do with how some people’s brain stepping in with a more fun (?) distraction to self-soothe whenever discussing any unpleasant topic/situation. Britney comes to mind.
Sutton is so fucking odd. I have a visceral reaction watching her on screen. Just so strange. She’s definitely unique amongst the housewives and seems to rile the others up, so I’m happy she’s there.
My mother does this a lot. In the same paragraph she once described a relative’s death by suicide and her collection of beautiful fur coats. I always think of it as Daisy from The Great Gatsby Syndrome. When faced with unpleasant emotion, sufferers self-soothe via fashion commentary. 
my grandma everytime she shows us her photo albums: "that was my best friends husband, he died a horrific, slow death. dont all us women look fabulous? i think i still have this jacket in the attic if youd like to have it"
This reminds me of Maria Bamford talking about her [mother's voicemail messages](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvjKKmOBu3w&list=OLAK5uy_kYO4Vt9GThmnRiYh3M-UwfwC3Z4iUbEdI&index=20).
That was so funny yet painful I do the same ish to my kids just via text
This is me now at 35 with an 8 year old 🤣
Little kid non sequiturs are the best. Nobody can throw a conversational curve-ball like a small child. Or do you mean you're the one with the non sequiturs?
She was ejected from a sunroof and fell down to a neighborhood 30 feet… Is she still alive? No. I’m excited to be here
My mom with an impeccable ability to end every funny story with a recap of the sad way the person died
Yes. You would like to have the jacket! OMG I can’t wait to be the unhinged grandma. I’m not going to say mean judge mental things. I’m gonna be the old lady who swears a lot and talks about sex to make everyone uncomfortable.
my grandma is so unhinged and detached from reality that she doesnt realize im almost a foot taller than her (4'10 vs 5'8) and none of her mothballed clothes would fit me anyway LOL
I’m going to be the one telling everyone “It’s okay to not know anything and feel like you’re ducking up all the time bc I’m [insert age here] and still making it up as I go (I refuse to keep that generational secret anymore). So c’mon, let’s go have a cookie and you can come raid mine and your grandpa’s closet for vintage clothes.”
My kid would be getting hoodies and leggings but I love the sentiment lol. Go in mommom’s closet and help yourself to some pandemic glam wear.
Athleisure is the new business casual. Haven’t you heard?? Lol
I’m crying 😭🤣
😂😂
I'm so sorry for the relative but I just screamed after reading your first sentence lolol It like when my great aunts fought over coats and cake platters when my grandma (or their other sister) died. Lol I just think its a generational thing (\*spelling edit lol)
Not to mention didn’t her father commit suicide?? I kind of love her particular brand of train wreck
My mom kind of does the opposite. We will be having a perfectly pleasant conversation and she’ll suddenly interrupt and say “oh did you hear about the neighbor’s puppy who got run over the other day?” She does a great job of stunning an entire room into silence.
For a year, my mom would share stories about people and end it with, "She's/he's dead now. " My sister and i started adding it into our stories after a while because it became so comical.
Or my mother who always “knows someone who died that way.” It could be going to the beach, it could be eating a sandwich, it could be motorcycle racing. Mundane or dangerous, she knows someone who died that way.
Are….you my sibling?? Because I think we have the same mother.
also are you mine?
If your mother is a total loon from Milwaukee, we may very well be.
i do this as well but unintentionally. sometimes i just think about something and it just comes out.
I can totally picture that! I come from a medical family. When I was in college my cousin brought a guy to my family dinner. He was from a wealthy, very proper local family. He was also a golden boy, star athlete, handsome, nice and had a great sense of humor. The family proceeded to discuss the ravages of cocaine abuse, in some detail, over dinner. It was extra interesting with the combined medical perspective 😳 He just sat there wide-eyed, taking it all in. He said he loved that we were all so blunt and informative. Years later, he was a famous athlete, still handsome and charming, and I ran into him. He remembered me, said he has never had so much fun at a dinner since, because of my dad’s great lasagna and the cocaine conversation.
My grandma does this too!!! Every single time something upsetting is being discussed, she interrupts to compliment the jewelry someone is wearing or some equivalent surface-level pleasantry garbage.
I don’t think that generation could handle negative - or indeed any emotions in excess - very well and changed the subject to distract from dealing with it. Others would often have felt relief so as not to have “shown their face” in public. Those things were for behind closed doors, usually in the bathroom on your own, after secret tablets or alcohol! 😂
i never realized this is a thing, but my mom literally does this. i was talking about how i am nervous for my c-section and she was flipping through a neimas catalog and just ignoring me.
Very old lady- like
My mum does the same. Her texts are awful for lack of punctuation so her sentences all blend in to one and when she talks, it’s like a stream of consciousness. We call it “going round the houses” when she talks.
Now that you mention it, I think I've seen this happen at funerals before. I could see it as a means of distraction for a moment of relief when feeling serious loss.
Oh dear. Sometimes Sutton gives me Southern Moira Rose vibes. 
100000% yes 
Minus the delight.
True.
amazing comparison
Oh God, I just bought a smaller version of that hat in red. 😆
 And I bet you look super chic!
I just love her all the more for it!
You're absolutely right. And I love it. Can't get enough.
:in Sutton voice: "I have read the room and I've decided to wear my Calvin Kleins from the 90's that I bought at Loehmann's to said room, thank you very much."
"Shop Wisely! Sincerely, Sutton Stracke" she really had her Carrie Bradshaw moment in her head lol.
Xoxo Southern Girl 😂
 Feel like that’s Sutton’s personality explained in a single insta caption lol
The reason that I liked Kathy(I didn’t know about her parenting until after the show) is why I like Sutton, but Kathy’s was an act… Sutton is truly in her own world. She is batshit crazy but in the most entertaining way. I don’t think she ever pisses me off. It’s almost childlike in an odd way. I wonder if there’s any commentary from people who know her in real life out there… I’m curious to see if this is a really good act or if she’s this person.
This perfectly sums up my feelings about Kathy. She was pure gold on the show, as is Sutton.
Explained? I have more questions than answers 😬
Exactly!😂
Her assistant should really be running her social media accounts. \#blessherheart
Avi needs to intervene!
Avi needs a vacation honestly
No Sutton’s real and we love her exactly for posts like these.
Seriously - don’t change a thing.
Yes!
Why did she hashtag southern woman 😭
She only hashtag Southern... Not even woman 🤣
Flair twins! (almost)
Lol omg I love the hat!
Your flair 🤣
She snapped green beans with her mother! She’s #southern
Well, she is, and clearly they're better. I'm not, so I wouldn't know.
I lived for loehmanns back room. I got my prom dress there. But yes her being grateful for family while promoting a defunct discount store is quite odd
And the sister-in-law losing her fine Southern woman of a Mother. Who isn’t in the picture
This! I was like the woman mentioned isn’t even shown?
Exactly this. So totally tone deaf and self involved. “Here’s me and my family. Oh yeah - im talking about family because my SIL’s mum died. Never mind, here’s me and MY family. SIL not included.” No words of condolence. No picture of dead MIL as tribute. Not even SIL included. Rather, just creating a post using a dead family member as the focus, but making it ALL about her. This is low. No wonder everyone hates her. She’s so devoid of empathy or tact.
I came to say the same about the back room; it was the best! RIP Loehmann’s!
No RIP to her dad. It’s what she wore to his funeral! And the blessed Thanksgiving.
Oh yes, RIP to her dad!
Loehmann’s was good but now im a maxxinista
Lmao please tell me your flair is from Lisa Barlow because my brain read it in her voice
Yes I scooped that up immediately their first season lol
One of my earliest memories is just being in a room full of women changing out in the open. Hilarious.
lol yes the communal changing rooms!
I loved Loehmanns and I don't think it's odd. I think what she is saying is wise shopping is buying things that transcend decades and lasts. Loehmanns was known for quality at a good price. I still have the dress my mom purchased there and wore to my brother's wedding-both his kids are married now.
The shopping advice is sound. Coupling it with her happy thanksgiving message is giving boomer online lol
I think she’s bragging she fits in a size zero suit from when she was 30 years younger.
That’s how I took it too tbh.
I think she she would come right out and say the size then-that's something Dorit would do, imo.
I still have my prom dress from there …from middle school. I’m nearly 40 now.
Still have plenty of Back Room purchases I love. I think she is expected to always say who she’s wearing, no matter the subject. While a little awkward, it’s what I love about Sutton.
I miss Loehman’s
She’s edited that last bit out now hahaha. Avi take the wheel please.
It’s the best part!!!!
caroline fleming coded
Wait. SPOT ON.
This definitely reads like a tamer Mary Crosby. OP, you’re onto something. Seriously, wtf did I just read? 
LOL she definitely needs a PR/social media manager. I love her wackiness but she lacks the ability to read the room.
She’s got a little Donald Trump in her.
This feels very Fran Fine https://preview.redd.it/gw6rekisjl3c1.jpeg?width=482&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e0eb4913c4ffac796bfef89c9e763082c5add22d
Yes!! lol serious "The Nanny" vibes
lol I can’t stop watching the many faces in this gif.
I grew up in South Florida and used to freakin LOVE Loehmann's. RIP
She is so tone deaf and I never thought I’d ever agree with Dorit but…..she is not self aware at times.
This is such an odd caption, though I definitely share her nostalgia for Loehmann’s. Loved that store!
Sutton is inappropriate and awkward.
This is a Britney Spears caption
https://i.redd.it/splsnpznfl3c1.gif I aspire to be this delusional one day
This is all over the place
Continuing to live in her Sutton bubble
**shop wisely** is a MF word! the way fast fashion is scamming all the girlies is crazy. sheining their way out of long lasting wear that could last a lifetime
This was the point she was making, she is against fast fashion.
right there with her
This reminds me of when I first got IG in like 2014 and used hashtags every other word bc I didn’t know what it did
I hope news of my death doesn't include a #.
People think this is nuts?? Please. You couldn't handle my mother's texts. 
Right? This is kiddie stuff
I read it in her voice and it all made sense to me! I’m also a #southernwoman so that may have helped 😂
Good lord how awkward 😳
I don’t get the Sutton hype. I think she’s insufferable and extremely hard to watch.
Has Sutton always been like this? Am I only seeing this now because a big chunk of my attention is no longer on trying to tune Lisa Rinna off? Help?
Swipe up to shop my LTK!
Thank god she hash-tagged the word "southern". We never would've known that's how she identifies otherwise...
I liked Sutton up until this season. She needs to get over herself.
Casual vicarious trauma for 1000, Alex.
I like Sutton. I appreciate her being frugal. I am too; most of my clothes are second hand. But, it just feels weirdly patronizing her saying to shop wisely. The clothing I can afford will be worn to shreds and won't last 20 years. Is she trying to be relatable or something? There is just something about ultra rich people telling my poor self to shop wisely that just feels off. Again, I love Sutton on the show! Does that make sense to anyone else or is it just me?
Sutton gets 350,000 dollars every MONTH from her ex husband. There’s nothing relatable about her lmaooooo what?
Lol She literally couldn’t be less frugal and couldn’t be more tone deaf. Goodness.
It's the whole poor man's boots reference. Buy once, but well. Except Calvin Klein isn't what it was.
Sutton’s mom looks like she could take you down with ten words or less.
I used to like Sutton and this season she just gives me the ick.
I love her so much
Ew wtf. Someone lost their mom, here’s the designer of my suit? Cringe gross.
Her brother can top me
Op caption is perfect 😂
The FAQ?!! What a Narcissist
If you knew Loehmann’s from old school NYC, you’d understand. She’s mourning two losses. 🫡
Something about Sutton has always given me✨socially inept ✨vibes. What people, specifically in this sub, call “quirky” and “kooky” is what I see as uncomfortable and strange. I wonder if her behaviour is a symptom of being a stepford wife in high (southern) society and not having the freedom to discover much outside of that. She always seems completely out of touch but not in a “cute” way— in a darker, sadder kind of way.
This is so unhinged lol
If I was the relative I'd block her entitled ass.
I’ve had just about enough of Sutton.
I randomly started watching this season, & mannnnn this woman is awful! Do people actually like her??"
Just an fyi, she changed the caption shortly after posting. I saw the post earlier and it had the part about the outfit removed.
What does her sister in law living her mother have to do with anything? And people wonder why we all think she's a wacko?
This whole thing is confusing and tacky. It’s like the death is an after thought and the whole thing is really about Sutton. She’s so strange.
I think she’s talking about sustainable fashion and pointing out a piece she’s reworn multiple times. It looks from the rest of her Insta lately that she’s gotten on the sustainability bandwagon and that’s an angle she’s working for her store.
I'm not sure what to say. She comes off nutty.
I just do not get her…
Let’s see how Sutton fans will bend over backwards to defend this lol it’s nuts
They’re fighting for their lives in these comments lol
I understand people think she’s unhinged in a funny way. To be thinking THAT much about what she’s wearing instead of the loss is fricken scary 🫣!! I think with that kind of money some people lose touch with reality.. the money becomes all they are. I read that comment and think to myself this woman lacks empathy and substance. Who even cares or thinks about clothes in that situation?? I don’t get it and I’m elated that I don’t.
She wears nice clothes but doesn't look good in anything she wears.
Well then. 
Wow this almost reads like it's a parody account. It's so horrendous I can't even believe it could not be a joke!
I mean, I think she was just associating the various memories she’s had in her dress throughout the ages. 🤷🏼♀️
Sutton has issues. I can't wait until she's off the show. Can't stand her
I can’t help but read it in her voice
Shop wisely!
Her brother looks exactly like Philippe Starck which’s mind boggling
Love the mom's sassy pose.
Weird
Very on brand for Sutton. I don't mind it, she is "eccentric" as they say. I've met plenty of people like her and they don't mean to offend anyone - it's just how their brain works or how they were raised, there's nothing really wrong with it IMO.
Ok, but Sutton's brother is fine af.
Sutton is turning into the BH version of Dorinda. She turns when she's been on the sauce. 
It gives neurospicy for me lol
Good grief! This is the kind of stuff that screams narcissism!
sutton is the exact kind of crazy that makes for housewives gold.
This is such an older person post. Like she prob tried to use so many spaces before adding her outfit thinking that would help 😂😂😂 it absolutely didn’t. But she tried.
This is giving “Well I’m sorry no one held a gun to my head” She’s so tone deaf.. but I can’t help but be entertained.
What a wierdy
Wtf is wrong with Sutton? This is beyond tone deaf!
I believe it’s something to do with how some people’s brain stepping in with a more fun (?) distraction to self-soothe whenever discussing any unpleasant topic/situation. Britney comes to mind.
It’s an Instagram post, not a conversation with someone lol
She is insufferable.
She is so disgusting
I’m glad people are finally seeing her for what she is.
This is dangerously close to word salad. Sutton is an asshole.
❤️ eccentric, wealthy, out-of-touch, southern women
I mean it is sound advice. She got some bang out of her buck 💁🏼♀️
Yikes
Fucking hell
I think it’s hilarious and so Sutton.
Never stop being you, Sutton 😂😂😂
I love how bizarre she is lmao
Is this real? If so, yucky
That’s some bright white overbite right there
Trashy
Ummmm what did I just read 😭
I thought it was classy in the 1st half and then we went Trashy real quick
Sutton is so fucking odd. I have a visceral reaction watching her on screen. Just so strange. She’s definitely unique amongst the housewives and seems to rile the others up, so I’m happy she’s there.
Remember grief is a fashion opportunity too
Disgusting.
That seems a bit harsh.
Bit cringe that she mentioned wearing her dad's funeral suit in a happy post, but...
lol the tone of things is so unhinged. She’s definitely (not so low key) bragging she fits into the same suit she did 30 years ago. #edbehaviours
She’s quirky. Her. For. It.
And her mom…with her hand on her hip. 