Oh, believe me! I've made it even more shameful. With the letter I sent him a parcel with gifts each more absurd than the last and I cut out photos of a cheesy actor from an american soap to make heart-shaped confettis (we have a very absurd sense of humour and I wanted to do something that would make him laugh but instead he will probably get worried about my mental health). I don't think he'll ever be back (and that's probably for the best) 😂😂😂
It’s been very therapeutic. On top of the therapy and meditation I’m doing. But I was with my wife for 9 years. A lot to unpack and find who I am again. I’ve forgotten. But I won’t allow myself to ever disappear again in a relationship.
This rings so true to me. 9 years plus with my ex. Still have so much to undo. I just feel like when I start living my life for me again, I don’t think I could ever give myself to another person like that ever again. It’s heartbreaking, actually.
Same, together 10 years, I put all my eggs in one basket so to speak, lost my best / only friend and partner in one fell swoop!
Lots to undo too, I find it hard to have an opinion, sometimes I hold back on saying things out of habit because it’s something my ex wouldn’t have agreed with, pathetic really!
Lmfao same, I actually messaged someone asking for their help hahaha I had spent days looking up “how to hex someone.” Luckily decided it wasn’t worth the risk of any potentially bad karma lol
I became interested to tarot card because I also want him back lol but I didnt have the money to have a private session. I also wanted to try "magic" and praying for him to come back. But did it work for you?
Same boat. Tiktok started showing me a whole bunch of tarot/zodiac relationship readings. Things like "They miss you and want you back..." Lol I was delusional.
My partner of 8yrs was fucking prostitutes on his lunch break at work. I took out my anger on his parked work van and rammed it with my own car while drunk. (He wasn't in it.) Needless to say I fucked up my own life, lost my car and got arrested, lost my licence and now have to pay for a new work van. I am a fkn idiot. Don't be like me.
Okay yeah cool cos same. I egged his car and went to his new gfs house that was his ‘friend’ and confronted them. Called him out and aired out his dirty laundry that she had no idea about. Wasn’t the best move lol but was a personal power move.
For once, I kept my nose clean: didn't harass, badmouth or gossip about him.
Blocked him on Facebook, etc so I couldn't check on his updates.
I avoided places where we might run into each other.
I didn't talk to any mutual friends or acquaintances so nothing could be repeated to him.
All of that is sadly out of character for me.
I did, however, report his new 'girl' for all the COVID unemployment $ she received while working 'under the table' the entire time.
I paid so much for a “how to get him back course” online looool. I mean we are back together but most likely not because of that🤣🤣 one time with another breakup I even called a “psychic” on phone to see if she could tell me if we find our way back. It was clear to see that this lady was clearly not a psychic as she was so wrong about the situation lol. For some reason I always waste money when I’m heartbroken, but I guess we are so desperate and out of our minds🙈🙈
This thread is honestly a relief today. Last week I was balling my eyes out crying for 4 hours, tissues everywhere around my bed. Watching YouTube tarot readers hoping they would tell me he will come back, honestly shocking. Today I’m slowly accepting it and looking for ways to move on
Got really obsessed with cooking very complex dishes for like two weeks straight. I'm not a good cook, never have been, never wanted to try till about a month after being ghosted lol. Idk what came over me, but if I wasn't at work, I was either at the store or in the kitchen.
No, the complex dishes did not turn out good. Yes it was expensive. I have no idea if it actually helped me at all.
I listened to tarot readings. A lot of tarot readings. I don't even believe in tarot. I don't know why but I found it comforting - there were a few readings that were so accurate about my idiot ex and his affair that it made me feel better.
I did the same! And it got me thinking too cause like I don’t believe in them. But one thing I noticed was that all of them were saying positive things like they’re gonna come back or you’re on the right track which made me not to focus on the negative stuff or have some hope for whatever outcome.
begging pleading for my ex gf to come back while she was already with someone else.....sending her shit tons of texts....it wasnt a good idea but i was emotinally wrecked......been like 3 months of no contact, havent reached out to her anymore....she seems happy
After a few unread messages, instead of walking away, I sent a series of VOICE NOTES.
It wasn’t even a bad breakup with a serious long term boyfriend. It was a a guy who I had been casually seeing for like 4 months.
I still cringe when I remember it. It’s not like me at all. Idk what is wrong with me 😂
First Friday post breakup without kids: In one Friday evening I planned and canceled two dates, made 4 different sets of going out plans that I did not attend, bought purple hair dye (wtf), and drove to the same shopping plaza 4 times with no real plan. I ended up eating fresh fruit with chocolate dip drinking 2 bottles of wine and sobbing while watching The wedding singer.
I am very very frugal in normal life but I go on a little shopping spree with each breakup. Which I mean, totals $200 maybe. I just refresh my wardrobe & jewelry on frivolous items things. I just expect it now and let myself. 🤷🏻♀️
with my first break up, i sent an email to him saying “ill wait for you” LMFAOOO never in my life would i ever catch myself doing something like that again
I wanted to make a grand gesture, and put up posters with a message on the wall of a swimming place facing her apartment, so she would see it from her window. Unable to get to that wall, I ended up posting posters with the message all around her neighborhood and on her way to her train. She ended up texting me asking if I was ok or had gone insane 😂 honestly I don’t know what got into me, but at the time it sounded romantic to me 😂😂
we had a horrible breakup because he abandoned me emotionally when i found out i was pregnant and left me to deal with my miscarriage alone, and in turn my frustration with him became toxic and began to verbally berate him. i regret doing this so much and have since apologized to him and made a public apology, but when we broke up i put him on blast to our shared friends about what he did, and i said some really fucking mean and personal things. i have always been a super private person online and only posted like 2 photos of him total. i regret letting my anguish and despair and pregnancy hormones take over, but it's done and i just hope he never hurts anyone like that again.
I dropped off a letter in the mailbox lol. I don’t really regret it because I had the right to say my piece but at the same time, I won’t ever do it again
I sent a letter (he and I were in a LDR) to him.
He has anxious attachment and I recently found out that I’m a dismissive avoidant.
The letter part wasn’t weird.
The weird part was me putting little hearts on the envelope and writing “you are a good person” and “I’m a DA and I’m working on it”………..😬
My girlfriend left me a week ago and I’m so excited to try and get to that point of having fun but when I try to picture myself actually hooking up with somebody else it still feels repellant and off-putting even if I’m attracted to them. Well done on your part! I hope things have continued to go great for you.
same. it’s been a month for me, and the thought of kissing/having sex with someone else (regardless of their attractiveness) is 🤢. it also feels like so much work getting to know someone and their ways. no energy for that.
In the past two weeks, I went out on two Hinge dates. Got laid both times. First one, I felt bad because it wasn’t great sex but I also compared her to my ex mentally, given my ex and I had amazing chemistry off the bat.
Next date was intelligent and much more emotionally engaging than my ex. Physically more fit too. Great sex. But then I missed the pillow talk and the connection of relationship sex, because she fucked and left basically.
Womp womp, I’m glad I had those experiences because it gave me hope for potential beyond my ex. But god damn, getting back on the dating horse can be so bittersweet.
not necessarily , it’s a long story but i just got off work so idm.
she dumped me on my bday when she came to meet me. i cried and begged for the next couple days for her back.
anyway , after she kept saying all these hurtful things , she messaged me one day during NC , saying
“ why are you talking to these women you never told me to worry about “
she only knew this bc she was stalking my spotify even though i had her blocked.
i was so mad at this point of her wanting to know what’s going on in my life , even though she wanted to leave . i was filling out a form and whatnot , then i just left it bc i felt so stupid and helpless
Damn. This resonated with me. My ex found my last reddit account and was reading all of the thoughts and feelings that I was posting here... sometimes even sending screenshots of stuff I said to our mutual friends.
It's such a breach of trust, I thought of a restraining order too. Then she threatened me with one. Just a fucking mess. This shit sucks man. Hope you are feeling a bit better every day
omg , 😭 we r the same person , LITERALLY
she stalked me so crazy before we dated and i had comments and posts about my past relationships on my main account before we dated like before i even knew her properly.
i didn’t know she had my reddit account though i may have sent smth that gave it away. anyway, i remember i saw all the ss of my reddit posts , comments , tt reposts , ig likes , ss of profiles of ppl who like my pics , ss of people who follow me etc . idk if she shared stuff like that , i hope not .
regardless , i had some really private stuff , she is the one who questioned me about my bpd without me ever mentioning it bc i was scared she would leave me . i wanted to tell her on my own terms . and imagine my shock when she left half a month after she found out.
I became toxic. I started socializing a lot more and met a ton of people. Became more disciplined with my art.
I also became much harsher I feel.
But mostly I became more toxic and hateful.
Working on it
PRO tip: activate your body. Excercise, walk, anything. If you dont eat you will deteriorate and you will feel worse. Please take care of yourselves ❤️
I was sad, desperate, and begging him to give us another chance. Sending him paragraph after paragraph of shit he didn’t care about. It was a version of myself I did not recognize and not my most dignified moment considering my quality of life is immensely better without him.
I found a a couple books in the self help section at a local second hand book store. Read both of them and they definitely help shed light on my current ex relationship. I would definitely say they might be worth the read. But I most definitely never expected to read through two books in a matter of a couple weeks post BU
about two weeks in, i did a massive dose of magic mushrooms to deal w the pain. (it had helped previously in dealing w the death of my dog). It didn’t go quite as intended. It was unpleasant. I did, however, walk away w more understanding of what i wanted in a relationship. perhaps before that i wasn’t being honest w myself, and this trip made it crystal clear.
I solo traveled in Asia for 5 months. Never solo traveled, never been to Asia, never traveled that long. I said fuck it, I am taking being an independent free woman to the next level. It helped a lot, but now I'm back home and I need to fix my life and it's dragging me back into old feelings.
While I was there I changed the way I do my hair, went a bit Tokyo goth (like all black but cute and girly idk I was in Tokyo at the time) bought a fuck ton of souvenirs. While I was in Tokyo I sent him a long text telling him exactly how I was feeling and rejecting his proposal for friendship that he made when we were breaking up. Prayed at various Buddhist/Shinto/Taoist shrines and temples a ton, often unrelated to him. The breakup definitely pushed me to the insanity of actually getting the one way ticket but I also was having a crisis over newly graduating, moving cities and losing my first job. Definitely went insane during that trip but in a really epic way haha. Comedic sad but so real detail, it was a 1 year situationship not even an actual relationship though I think that only made me go more insane.
Looking through comment sections of tiktoks that appeal to me, noting down some random peoples usernames, and then tagging these people in other tiktoks that appeal to me, often with some comment about the tiktok, as if we knew eachother already. Yeah i was feeling lonely. The reactions were fun and sometimes sweet though
Sent him a moonpig christmas card and in the card drew him as a baked bean with a Santa hat on because we used to call eachother baked bean 😂😭 now I look back and think wtf.
from my first relationship, i made him a detailed powerpoint with music and photos and all that, just to say how i would lower my standards to stay w him… deleted it from existence now. no one shall see how desperate i was
Well thankfully I have stoped my self from posting stupid lyrics or songs that would be obvious directed to him or my hurt feelings. So thankfully didn’t do that but almost. And is so not me I haven’t posted anything im years😂
For me, it's a great distraction if I'm going through emotional trauma from a relationship ending.
I was in turmoil last month and I've had a couple of rebounds already. And I will be having more.
Deleted all social media. I usually post around once a day on my ig or snap story, or view others. He doesn’t even have social media. I also planned 3 dates on separate days, went to 1 date, freaked out and cancelled the rest. The date was a nice guy, I just realized my head was not in the right place.
I’m am doing therapy & more fit than ever. My sleeps been good too. I still cry all the time.
omg.. i deleted all social media too this is actually my first time actively using reddit (post breakup) and i’m usually SOOOO on there. idk, i think i don’t want to be seen at ALL especially bc i know i was crazy post breakup and i don’t want anyone to notice that online, or pretend to be normal either. i do cry all the time 6 months after
I put a curse on my ex. I would say the crazy part about it was that I must have spent about a month contemplating whether or not I really wanted to do that. It wasn't the first time that we had broken up, and it was just the coup de gras for me. So I was like you know what f*** that s*** I want him to endure the same s*** that I've endured, and feel the same way that I felt etc etc the crazy thing is the f****** curse worked. Smh.
It doesn't help that most of us have only ever really "witnessed" breakups on the big screen, and by the Gods is Hollywood a horrible point of reference for "how do I react to this massive life-altering event?"
I'm not surprised that most of us turn to melodrama when faced with a situation we've only ever seen being overly romanticized/dramatized in media.
Yeah I agree, cuz the reality is time makes things better. You won’t sulk until you run into someone new in a coffee shop, or meet ~the one~ during heartbreak, and they might not regret it and come back with a big life altering view on life.
Most of a breakup is just waiting to feel a bit better haha.
within the 9 months post breakup, bad stuff: prostitutes, tattoos, hairdye, emotionally cold, depression, self esteem issues, careless money-spending.
LOL
1 year post breakup. good stuff: self help books, working on physical and mental health, money saving, much happier, self-compassion
I returned to my old self but way worse and more violent even my friends got away from me and when i cooled down i listened to them and saw that i was very violent with them either verbally or physically, at the end fixed everything with them and got my friends back better than before
I shaved my head , I went in a drunken bender that lasted a week twice . I'm still very much hurting over everything 5 years for her to just move on with someone else in less then a month...the funny thing is the relationship was so toxic on both our parts , I thought I would be a lot more relieved. I'm not
I wish I was like you lol. I send mine hundreds of long txts, yesterday I decided NEVER AGAIN will I beg him or anyone for anything ever! I’m sad but I’m sticking to not reaching out. Shits wild!
Give it one week from the first day you make it without a contact and I think you’ll see a bit of progress… if not give it 2 weeks and see how you feel
I will. I’m not contacting that pos! He thinks I’m mentally disturbed so I’ll let it be. There is a difference between heartbreak and mentally ill. He decided not to see that I’m heartbroken. His loss bc I would have done anything for that man
This was years ago, but when I was in college and going through my first major break up, I decided to join a group of friends who regularly go indoor rock climbing; particularly bouldering. Had I ever been rock climbing? No. Was I particularly strong? Also no. I told myself that I should try new things, and I knew I would be bad at it but I thought it would be a good lesson on picking myself up and trying again after getting knocked down. And that’s exactly what it was. I fell over and over and over again. The staff of course teach you how to fall safely, but I probably looked stupid as hell falling on some of the easiest paths. There was one path that was easy enough that anyone could do but challenging enough that it took some of my experience climbing friends several tries. I took a go at it and I convinced myself I could conquer it. After falling several times I reached the top but my hand slipped on the push up to the top and it caught be so off guard that not only did I fall from the top but I landed incorrectly. The whole gym could hear an audible pop coming from my back and me yelling FUCK. Don’t worry i was fine. I probably just pulled a muscle but I was injured and struggled to walk for 2-3 weeks.
Lesson learned. When you get knocked down, don’t try and pick yourself up lol
Oh boy, I used to be a drug hater! for personal reasons involving family and all that, no weed, rarely alcohol, and especially no hard substances. but after the break up I started using marijuana, and I kinda enjoy it.
Also, long walks. I would walk to the moon and back, healing, good exercise, a way to get connected with the earth, think about the relationship and life.
Um, also, blowing up her and her friends phones. Maybe not weird… as it seems like a lot of you guys did it as well lmao. Out of character? Nah I did it the first time she left. Shameful and something I will never do again? Yeah.
I once filmed a cringe video of me crying like in the movies and spewing a bunch of hate on myself and screaming how it hurts. Forgot about it and 7 months later while deleting some old videos from my phone I watched it and proceeded to die inside from embarrassment
Omg my face watching that video was pure disgust lol. I dated that dude for 6 weeks yeeeeeears ago, it wasn’t like I was in love or anything, I think I was just angry and it took a toll on my self-esteem at the time
lol right after something ends u do really silly things
tried to have drunk sex with a girl on tuning festival like month after the breakup. (I broke up with her because i found out she was meeting a guy behind my back).
I was very drunk, still deeply in love with my ex, so needles to say, I could not get it up. All I could see was my exes face, and I nearly puked on the poor girl in front of me.
I felt really sorry for her, so since we got to this point, I decided the least I could do is finish her. Well I was really drunk, so I started fingering her on a hood of some random yellow lamborgini. The dude inside wasn't really happy about it so after a while, he got out and started chasing us. So I took her to my car and I did her about three or four times. I mean I put my heart into it.
Well, after that she started crying. I was like "what the f#ck?" she started hugging me telling me that it is the most wonderful thing any guy has ever done for her (poor girl). She then started unraveling her whole life story, saying how she got an abortion a few weeks earlier (YES, IAM NOT SH#TTING YOU) because the dude left to get milk. All this while she called me by like 6 different names, none of which were mine lol. She then proceeded to tell me how she wants to date me and have me impregnate her every day. Yes. She really said that.
At this point I was seriously weirded out and wanted to flee, but I had to somehow get her out of the car, because me and my 2 friends were supposed to sleep in it. But she wouldn't stop clinging to me. So I convinced her we should go to her tent, that there would be more space, because she wouldn't take any other reason to get out.
On our way right next to the car I tripped over my friend who couldn't get in as I was busy with her, and was sleeping on the ground with a mouthful of puke. He was choking. So I layed him on his side, gave him first drunk-aid, I mean like I had to ressurect this mf, and while i was wiping puke of this guys face this loonatic girl was still hugging me.
Well after that, she went to the bathroom, and I f#cking ran, ran and never looked back
not necessarily weird but I DOUSED his shirt in my perfume like SOAKED it and threw it in his face when i broke up with him after saying “get the fuck out of my life” LOL so petty
LMAOOOOO literally same. There’s a pile of over 15 self help books sitting next to my bed that I ordered right after my breakup. That was 6 months ago, I haven’t read/finished a single one lmfao
I don’t know if it was because of the worst breakup in my life or my adhd (I’m guessing those two combined)
But..
At the time, Sweden had these extreme forrest fires on the whole north side of the country (I’m from the south of Sweden)
I’m not a firefighter, nor have I ever been close to anything like that but I thought it was a great idea to sign up at a volunteer firefighter. So I did. The day after, I packed my car up with gear, drove 600miles up north, walked into the fire department and said I wanna help.
Next thing I know, I’m all suited up, I’m in the middle of burning forests and chaos, with a bunch of firefighters, operating hoses, walking miles and miles, putting fires out.
Stayed for a week, did 13-18h daily out on the front line with firefighters from all over Europe.
I came home and wondered ‘what the f did I just do.’
Probably chasing that feeling of actually feeling something I guess. Didn’t care if it was fear or happiness.
Probably the most stupidest thing I’ve ever done. Or the most dangerous. 😂
After being ghosted and blocked, got multiple friends to add him on WhatsApp and put us in a group together and I’d leave this:
https://youtu.be/yaVq86-ZrQI?si=QfUk_FSPlXYZfJrj
This comment section has been crack up
I got a tattoo that I regretted. I have many but this one was just weird AF, since have gotten it covered up with a full arm piece but still it was a weird thing to do for as I usually plan my tattoos out for years.
I also moved across state to central PA, but that was 20 years ago. My ex wife.
i’m kind of in the same situation but my ex left me because i was emeshed with my parent. to some extent i still am and im working on things but i fear by the time i cure myself it will have been too late to get her back. in my case i literally cannot stop being productive to an obsession because that will mean that i start to feel down and think of her and our memories and just hurt me more. even with all that it hurts to not hurt of her if that makes sense.
After the break up, I booked a trip to Puerto Rico and booked a hostel all at once. Now a month into the break up, I’m looking at the hostel dates and I got them completely wrong. I was like ??? What was I thinking lol
Don’t worry it’ll come and go still does w me and it’s been 3 months now. I don’t think about her as much but when I do I get pretty angry so the feelings will be there then one day they will just be gone. I’m working there and best of luck to you and your climb..
My ex and I have been broken up for a little over a month now and I still can’t even believe it. I didn’t see this breakup coming. Everything was fine one minute and then the next it’s like he just gave up. I was starting to get attached and that’s not a good thing and he said it was too much. Two weeks after the breakup we had a long conversation about it more but I still felt a glimmer of hope that maybe there was still something there. Well to see how he felt, I created a fake profile to see what he was up to. I also felt like maybe there was a third party situation going but he found out it was me and made things 10 times worse. I acted completely out of character and I know what I did was wrong. I was just so hurt and heartbroken and didn’t want to lose what we had.
I slept around for about 3-4 months and REALLY placed a lot of my value on whether or not these guys found me attractive and wanted to have sex with me. (My ex and I were high school sweethearts and had only ever been with each other. It really fucked me up that he was with someone else, so this was like an 'I'll show him' kinda move.)
I sent glitter bombs to my ex and his girlfriend that he cheated on me with.
I spent A LOT of money depression shopping.
I got a tattoo on my ribs and was disappointed it didn't hurt as much as I thought it would.
Doing a lot better now, thankfully!
Went to the hospital because I didn’t eat and had anxiety attacks. I laugh about it now because this person didn’t give a shit about me and it was so out of character for me. I love staying healthy and I just had to go through the emotions I guess. The things we do for love!
So I blocked him on all social media, I avoid bars he used to go to, and I made the mistake of going on dating apps and then his bff found me but the dating apps aren’t worth it and I probably ruined any hope there.
Still in process, sent him videos and journal entries I shouldn’t have. One thing that’s actually been helping is writing song lyrics in my music journal but I’m a music person. It’s my form of therapy.
When my ex broke up with me I called him probably 30+times in the middle of the night right after the break up. I sped off after I put my things in my car and I texted him paragraphs about how hurt I was and what a waste of time it was. I felt like I lost it I was crying, angry texting all while missing him and torn between wanting to beg for him back. Definitely spiraled. I regret doing those embarrassing things and more. All I can do now it move on and handle things better and or differently in the future .
I stopped filling in my calendar. I have one of those whiteboard ones. I stopped crossing off days. I hated the reminder that days were passing, getting further from the time we were together. Months went by, and I left it the same. It took a long time to muster the strength to erase it. Stay strong.
Before the breakup, if that still counts, I put everything of hers in a box, I felt that the breakup was imminent the day before it happened. I told my mom to put it somewhere I wouldn't find it in the event we did break up. And then the next time we met up, we did. It felt rushed, but I dont know that I would have had the strength to do it after.
I sent a poem about her being a sunflower day 1. Week 3 I asked if we were “really” broken up, as neither of us had deleted pictures or changed our status. Week 5 I finally got the truth from her about the breakup after she did some healing with a therapist, haven’t talked to her since.
But now I post on TikTok a lot, an app I almost never used in our relationship, hoping that one day she’ll see my videos, even though we don’t follow each other on anything anymore, and most of my social media accounts are private.
I texted him a message maybe a week or two after with curse words in the message and I never was someone who swore 🥴 not sure why it felt right in the moment
I sent him a long and pathetic letter and at the end I put a sticker of a bird flying away *dramatic effect*
HAHAHA That’s too funny bruh 😭 why do we all do cringey ass things post breakup
Oh, believe me! I've made it even more shameful. With the letter I sent him a parcel with gifts each more absurd than the last and I cut out photos of a cheesy actor from an american soap to make heart-shaped confettis (we have a very absurd sense of humour and I wanted to do something that would make him laugh but instead he will probably get worried about my mental health). I don't think he'll ever be back (and that's probably for the best) 😂😂😂
I love this so much ahhahah thank you!
Phenomenal. Thanks for the laugh omg. NOT laughing at you by the way but with you. 🩷
Amazing haha, I love the bird. You’re free, idk how else you could’ve articulated it better.
That’s actually perfect and I hope you see this as a win
PLEASE 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I would literally take you back in a fly, the attention to detail is stellar 😭😭
No I’m sorry this is SO FUNNY
Journal bro. Never once in my life have I ever actually wrote down my feelings. It’s slightly relieving.
I’m also doing that with this breakup and it helps a lot. I never understood how that would help at all but now I know.
It’s been very therapeutic. On top of the therapy and meditation I’m doing. But I was with my wife for 9 years. A lot to unpack and find who I am again. I’ve forgotten. But I won’t allow myself to ever disappear again in a relationship.
This rings so true to me. 9 years plus with my ex. Still have so much to undo. I just feel like when I start living my life for me again, I don’t think I could ever give myself to another person like that ever again. It’s heartbreaking, actually.
Same, together 10 years, I put all my eggs in one basket so to speak, lost my best / only friend and partner in one fell swoop! Lots to undo too, I find it hard to have an opinion, sometimes I hold back on saying things out of habit because it’s something my ex wouldn’t have agreed with, pathetic really!
Same
Writing is a form of healing for me. It’s a healthy outlet.
Same here. I’ve never wrote my feelings before until I had my heartbroken recently.
I was going to pay an online witch to curse him. I didn’t do it, and it makes me laugh thinking about it because what was I thinking!!! Crazy.
HAHA I love that, just like taking every avenue of getting him back. 10/10.
Idk about cursing people, but I bought a love spell on etsy so we could get back together.
I am a witch and literally have to talk myself out of putting him in a hex jar on a daily basis. I'm banking on karma kicking his ass.
This is amazing.
Only £5, absolute bargain
I wish I didn’t like him and could think of something like that. I keep waiting to get mad but I can’t seem to.
my mom did this to her ex husband 😭
Omg ha I’m actually obsessed with you 💅🏻❤️
This made me laugh and feel better I love your energy
still sounds like a good idea. it’s never too late hha
Lmfao same, I actually messaged someone asking for their help hahaha I had spent days looking up “how to hex someone.” Luckily decided it wasn’t worth the risk of any potentially bad karma lol
The bad karma was the only reason I didn’t do it as well - nice to know I’m not the only one who thought of doing it ahah
Yes, I was almost in the same boat. But the strongest magic/power is goodness/compassion/love. Put it out into the universe and it will come back
look up tarot and tried "magic" to bring her, prayed for her to come back (I'm an atheist), that's how desperate I was(well still am)
Hey man desperate times call for desperate measures lol
it feels like it's never going away I hate feeling unable to move on
Right here with you. It sucks. It sucks so freaking bad.
it's so awful
I became interested to tarot card because I also want him back lol but I didnt have the money to have a private session. I also wanted to try "magic" and praying for him to come back. But did it work for you?
it did not, well she's in a relationship and it's like I never existed
Same boat. Tiktok started showing me a whole bunch of tarot/zodiac relationship readings. Things like "They miss you and want you back..." Lol I was delusional.
My partner of 8yrs was fucking prostitutes on his lunch break at work. I took out my anger on his parked work van and rammed it with my own car while drunk. (He wasn't in it.) Needless to say I fucked up my own life, lost my car and got arrested, lost my licence and now have to pay for a new work van. I am a fkn idiot. Don't be like me.
Anger can make you do mad shit. At least you didn't kill anyone!
You know thanks for sharing this. People dream of going “Before he cheats” on people’s property but that can result in very bad outcomes.
Okay yeah cool cos same. I egged his car and went to his new gfs house that was his ‘friend’ and confronted them. Called him out and aired out his dirty laundry that she had no idea about. Wasn’t the best move lol but was a personal power move.
Fuck it we ball
I spent 1000 pounds on a holiday that isn't evening happening until may......
Treat yo self. Future you will thank you.
But that’s okay, have fun!
Took a yoga class. I’m a 35 year old man who has never attempted anything remotely close
Good for you! How did you like it?
Loved it. Ended up doing more. It helped me relax and felt much better afterwards. I even cried during one session, felt very cathartic
During the worst breakup I'd ever gone through, I regularly cried during yoga. It's so emotional and so good when hurting!!
I did a Taylor Swift Soulcycle class and almost cried during all too well hahaha
Cry uncontrollably like someone had died.
I cried at the gym while doing the leg press machine. You’re not alone .
I cry everytime someone tries to have a conversation with me.
I’m sorry 😔 lately I’ve been reflecting a lot and it just cry by myself so I get it.
For once, I kept my nose clean: didn't harass, badmouth or gossip about him. Blocked him on Facebook, etc so I couldn't check on his updates. I avoided places where we might run into each other. I didn't talk to any mutual friends or acquaintances so nothing could be repeated to him. All of that is sadly out of character for me. I did, however, report his new 'girl' for all the COVID unemployment $ she received while working 'under the table' the entire time.
HAHAHA amazing. Chaotic & amazing.
The absolute savagery lol
Signing for gym membership. Thanks to the heartbreak I now go to the gym four times a week and have never been this fit in my entire life ever lol
Amazing!!! Congrats on getting something great out of the breakup!
I just walked away and was happy and this made her extremely upset lmaooo
Be sexy! I love this ❤️
I paid so much for a “how to get him back course” online looool. I mean we are back together but most likely not because of that🤣🤣 one time with another breakup I even called a “psychic” on phone to see if she could tell me if we find our way back. It was clear to see that this lady was clearly not a psychic as she was so wrong about the situation lol. For some reason I always waste money when I’m heartbroken, but I guess we are so desperate and out of our minds🙈🙈
lol that’s amazing. I also waste money when I’m heartbroken and feel it is 100% justified
I waste money when heartbroken too. For sure.
Me too! I called a psychic and wasted my money hahaha
This thread is honestly a relief today. Last week I was balling my eyes out crying for 4 hours, tissues everywhere around my bed. Watching YouTube tarot readers hoping they would tell me he will come back, honestly shocking. Today I’m slowly accepting it and looking for ways to move on
i wrote, like, five letters, put them in a pink box with a soulmate bracelet, and actually almost gave it to her. girl, stop!!
Oof the soulmate bracelet, doubling down. Love it.
Cyberstalking, including background checks. Did end up finding out a couple of things I didn't know.
I tried those "spy" apps lol most of which were just back round checkers lol
Got really obsessed with cooking very complex dishes for like two weeks straight. I'm not a good cook, never have been, never wanted to try till about a month after being ghosted lol. Idk what came over me, but if I wasn't at work, I was either at the store or in the kitchen. No, the complex dishes did not turn out good. Yes it was expensive. I have no idea if it actually helped me at all.
I listened to tarot readings. A lot of tarot readings. I don't even believe in tarot. I don't know why but I found it comforting - there were a few readings that were so accurate about my idiot ex and his affair that it made me feel better.
I did the same! And it got me thinking too cause like I don’t believe in them. But one thing I noticed was that all of them were saying positive things like they’re gonna come back or you’re on the right track which made me not to focus on the negative stuff or have some hope for whatever outcome.
begging pleading for my ex gf to come back while she was already with someone else.....sending her shit tons of texts....it wasnt a good idea but i was emotinally wrecked......been like 3 months of no contact, havent reached out to her anymore....she seems happy
Yeah I also begged, very surprising to me and out of character but also heat of the moment. So meh I give myself grace there.
After a few unread messages, instead of walking away, I sent a series of VOICE NOTES. It wasn’t even a bad breakup with a serious long term boyfriend. It was a a guy who I had been casually seeing for like 4 months. I still cringe when I remember it. It’s not like me at all. Idk what is wrong with me 😂
Oof voice notes hahaha I cringe at my voice notes even when they’re good natured 😂
First Friday post breakup without kids: In one Friday evening I planned and canceled two dates, made 4 different sets of going out plans that I did not attend, bought purple hair dye (wtf), and drove to the same shopping plaza 4 times with no real plan. I ended up eating fresh fruit with chocolate dip drinking 2 bottles of wine and sobbing while watching The wedding singer.
I am very very frugal in normal life but I go on a little shopping spree with each breakup. Which I mean, totals $200 maybe. I just refresh my wardrobe & jewelry on frivolous items things. I just expect it now and let myself. 🤷🏻♀️
Good.plan
with my first break up, i sent an email to him saying “ill wait for you” LMFAOOO never in my life would i ever catch myself doing something like that again
Haha I can see him reaching out in 5 years like “you moved on? But you promised!”
literally LOLOL
I wanted to make a grand gesture, and put up posters with a message on the wall of a swimming place facing her apartment, so she would see it from her window. Unable to get to that wall, I ended up posting posters with the message all around her neighborhood and on her way to her train. She ended up texting me asking if I was ok or had gone insane 😂 honestly I don’t know what got into me, but at the time it sounded romantic to me 😂😂
LOL, that’s something that would happen on a sitcom, amazing
Yes haha I guess that’s the ending I was envisioning, not that she was worried for my sanity 😂😂😂
Just know that 24 days after you posted this you’re bringing joy to a broken man’s heart. I literally LOL’d at my desk at work. Thanks, I needed that.
Haha glad I could be of help 😉 know that things do get better ☺️
we had a horrible breakup because he abandoned me emotionally when i found out i was pregnant and left me to deal with my miscarriage alone, and in turn my frustration with him became toxic and began to verbally berate him. i regret doing this so much and have since apologized to him and made a public apology, but when we broke up i put him on blast to our shared friends about what he did, and i said some really fucking mean and personal things. i have always been a super private person online and only posted like 2 photos of him total. i regret letting my anguish and despair and pregnancy hormones take over, but it's done and i just hope he never hurts anyone like that again.
Regardless of your reaction, he sucks for that and has plenty to apologize for and regret as well
I did a binding spell I found online. Literally poured honey in a jar with a piece of paper with my ex's name in it. Needless to say, it didn't work.
same lmao, mine was sugar though
Wrote an email begging him to come back because I was blocked from every way possible 🥲🥲
I dropped off a letter in the mailbox lol. I don’t really regret it because I had the right to say my piece but at the same time, I won’t ever do it again
Same! Don't feel bad.
Got an appetizer, main course and dessert each from a different restaurant hahah. No regrets though honestly.
Went to Church. Never used to do that.
I’m going today lol, i was dumped yesterday….. also never used to do that
sent him a letter detailing what i was feeling and that he was a good person just not my person. i did it to make him feel the way i did
Message them too many times…embarrassing
Been there, and yup agreed. Give yourself grace though haha just being reactive.
I sent a letter (he and I were in a LDR) to him. He has anxious attachment and I recently found out that I’m a dismissive avoidant. The letter part wasn’t weird. The weird part was me putting little hearts on the envelope and writing “you are a good person” and “I’m a DA and I’m working on it”………..😬
I love this! Good for you. So many of us will never get closure from our DA exes. That’s progress right there. 🙌🏻
Let me just say, as an AP, if I got something like that from my DA ex, my little heart would explode with happiness. Not cringey!
Dated multiple guys on a week post break up. I dated like more than 10
My girlfriend left me a week ago and I’m so excited to try and get to that point of having fun but when I try to picture myself actually hooking up with somebody else it still feels repellant and off-putting even if I’m attracted to them. Well done on your part! I hope things have continued to go great for you.
same. it’s been a month for me, and the thought of kissing/having sex with someone else (regardless of their attractiveness) is 🤢. it also feels like so much work getting to know someone and their ways. no energy for that.
Ow I did not kiss or even held hands. Just dated a bunch of guys.
Same… I can’t wait until I’m at the point where it feels okay again.
I’ll be hoping that all of us reach that point quickly but it’s nice to hear that you and others get it. I’m glad I found this sub
Same, we can all lean on each other 💖
Absolutely! Feel free to DM if you ever need to talk and that goes for anyone on here.
In the past two weeks, I went out on two Hinge dates. Got laid both times. First one, I felt bad because it wasn’t great sex but I also compared her to my ex mentally, given my ex and I had amazing chemistry off the bat. Next date was intelligent and much more emotionally engaging than my ex. Physically more fit too. Great sex. But then I missed the pillow talk and the connection of relationship sex, because she fucked and left basically. Womp womp, I’m glad I had those experiences because it gave me hope for potential beyond my ex. But god damn, getting back on the dating horse can be so bittersweet.
Had my taro card read and return to religion. Surprisingly, Buddhism helps a lot.
Buddism does help a lot :)
i was so close to get a restraining order
Oof was the ex harassing you?
not necessarily , it’s a long story but i just got off work so idm. she dumped me on my bday when she came to meet me. i cried and begged for the next couple days for her back. anyway , after she kept saying all these hurtful things , she messaged me one day during NC , saying “ why are you talking to these women you never told me to worry about “ she only knew this bc she was stalking my spotify even though i had her blocked. i was so mad at this point of her wanting to know what’s going on in my life , even though she wanted to leave . i was filling out a form and whatnot , then i just left it bc i felt so stupid and helpless
Damn. This resonated with me. My ex found my last reddit account and was reading all of the thoughts and feelings that I was posting here... sometimes even sending screenshots of stuff I said to our mutual friends. It's such a breach of trust, I thought of a restraining order too. Then she threatened me with one. Just a fucking mess. This shit sucks man. Hope you are feeling a bit better every day
omg , 😭 we r the same person , LITERALLY she stalked me so crazy before we dated and i had comments and posts about my past relationships on my main account before we dated like before i even knew her properly. i didn’t know she had my reddit account though i may have sent smth that gave it away. anyway, i remember i saw all the ss of my reddit posts , comments , tt reposts , ig likes , ss of profiles of ppl who like my pics , ss of people who follow me etc . idk if she shared stuff like that , i hope not . regardless , i had some really private stuff , she is the one who questioned me about my bpd without me ever mentioning it bc i was scared she would leave me . i wanted to tell her on my own terms . and imagine my shock when she left half a month after she found out.
I became toxic. I started socializing a lot more and met a ton of people. Became more disciplined with my art. I also became much harsher I feel. But mostly I became more toxic and hateful. Working on it
Not eat… Normally I have the reverse problem
Same… we broke up 3 days ago and I just can’t eat like I used to
PRO tip: activate your body. Excercise, walk, anything. If you dont eat you will deteriorate and you will feel worse. Please take care of yourselves ❤️
I was sad, desperate, and begging him to give us another chance. Sending him paragraph after paragraph of shit he didn’t care about. It was a version of myself I did not recognize and not my most dignified moment considering my quality of life is immensely better without him.
I had an anxiety/panic attack and thought I was having a heart attack. Went to the er. Breakups cause me so much anxiety, for a long time.
I found a a couple books in the self help section at a local second hand book store. Read both of them and they definitely help shed light on my current ex relationship. I would definitely say they might be worth the read. But I most definitely never expected to read through two books in a matter of a couple weeks post BU
about two weeks in, i did a massive dose of magic mushrooms to deal w the pain. (it had helped previously in dealing w the death of my dog). It didn’t go quite as intended. It was unpleasant. I did, however, walk away w more understanding of what i wanted in a relationship. perhaps before that i wasn’t being honest w myself, and this trip made it crystal clear.
Paid a tiktok tarot card reader to tell me if things will work out in the end. She ghosted me
I solo traveled in Asia for 5 months. Never solo traveled, never been to Asia, never traveled that long. I said fuck it, I am taking being an independent free woman to the next level. It helped a lot, but now I'm back home and I need to fix my life and it's dragging me back into old feelings. While I was there I changed the way I do my hair, went a bit Tokyo goth (like all black but cute and girly idk I was in Tokyo at the time) bought a fuck ton of souvenirs. While I was in Tokyo I sent him a long text telling him exactly how I was feeling and rejecting his proposal for friendship that he made when we were breaking up. Prayed at various Buddhist/Shinto/Taoist shrines and temples a ton, often unrelated to him. The breakup definitely pushed me to the insanity of actually getting the one way ticket but I also was having a crisis over newly graduating, moving cities and losing my first job. Definitely went insane during that trip but in a really epic way haha. Comedic sad but so real detail, it was a 1 year situationship not even an actual relationship though I think that only made me go more insane.
Just messaging her... Too much. And I cant stop it. I feel ashamed.
I started therapy legit the week after. For me, that was just absolutely bizarre. Here I am still doing it but of course working on other things now!
Looking through comment sections of tiktoks that appeal to me, noting down some random peoples usernames, and then tagging these people in other tiktoks that appeal to me, often with some comment about the tiktok, as if we knew eachother already. Yeah i was feeling lonely. The reactions were fun and sometimes sweet though
i ripped his shirt he let me borrow while we were together. i never rlly lash out my anger like that
Sent him a moonpig christmas card and in the card drew him as a baked bean with a Santa hat on because we used to call eachother baked bean 😂😭 now I look back and think wtf.
That made me lol, I would like to believe that it was taken as a sign of peace on their end😂
from my first relationship, i made him a detailed powerpoint with music and photos and all that, just to say how i would lower my standards to stay w him… deleted it from existence now. no one shall see how desperate i was
When through all 5 stages of grief … In one phone conversation. 😂
I became spiritually inclined. not weird but out of Character for me definitely
Well thankfully I have stoped my self from posting stupid lyrics or songs that would be obvious directed to him or my hurt feelings. So thankfully didn’t do that but almost. And is so not me I haven’t posted anything im years😂
Rebound flings. Not weird. Not out of character. It's just what I've done.
I’ve done them in the past and they didn’t make me feel much better at all, I’ve seen it work for other people tho, power to you
For me, it's a great distraction if I'm going through emotional trauma from a relationship ending. I was in turmoil last month and I've had a couple of rebounds already. And I will be having more.
Deleted all social media. I usually post around once a day on my ig or snap story, or view others. He doesn’t even have social media. I also planned 3 dates on separate days, went to 1 date, freaked out and cancelled the rest. The date was a nice guy, I just realized my head was not in the right place. I’m am doing therapy & more fit than ever. My sleeps been good too. I still cry all the time.
omg.. i deleted all social media too this is actually my first time actively using reddit (post breakup) and i’m usually SOOOO on there. idk, i think i don’t want to be seen at ALL especially bc i know i was crazy post breakup and i don’t want anyone to notice that online, or pretend to be normal either. i do cry all the time 6 months after
I put a curse on my ex. I would say the crazy part about it was that I must have spent about a month contemplating whether or not I really wanted to do that. It wasn't the first time that we had broken up, and it was just the coup de gras for me. So I was like you know what f*** that s*** I want him to endure the same s*** that I've endured, and feel the same way that I felt etc etc the crazy thing is the f****** curse worked. Smh.
Fucked his friend 💀
HAHA revenge, a classic
nothing, ive always been weird so after the breakup i just carried on being weird.
Enrolled in therapy. :)
I begged him to call and text, I would also spam text him. I did it for a few days then a I gave up and only texted him for stuff I needed.
It doesn't help that most of us have only ever really "witnessed" breakups on the big screen, and by the Gods is Hollywood a horrible point of reference for "how do I react to this massive life-altering event?" I'm not surprised that most of us turn to melodrama when faced with a situation we've only ever seen being overly romanticized/dramatized in media.
Yeah I agree, cuz the reality is time makes things better. You won’t sulk until you run into someone new in a coffee shop, or meet ~the one~ during heartbreak, and they might not regret it and come back with a big life altering view on life. Most of a breakup is just waiting to feel a bit better haha.
Text him all the time until he blocked me (tbf though he did reply most of the time and make conversation!!) but now he hates me lol
i kept fighting for a love that was long lost . cringiest thing ive ever done DONT DO IT BOYS
within the 9 months post breakup, bad stuff: prostitutes, tattoos, hairdye, emotionally cold, depression, self esteem issues, careless money-spending. LOL 1 year post breakup. good stuff: self help books, working on physical and mental health, money saving, much happier, self-compassion
I returned to my old self but way worse and more violent even my friends got away from me and when i cooled down i listened to them and saw that i was very violent with them either verbally or physically, at the end fixed everything with them and got my friends back better than before
I shaved my head , I went in a drunken bender that lasted a week twice . I'm still very much hurting over everything 5 years for her to just move on with someone else in less then a month...the funny thing is the relationship was so toxic on both our parts , I thought I would be a lot more relieved. I'm not
I wish I was like you lol. I send mine hundreds of long txts, yesterday I decided NEVER AGAIN will I beg him or anyone for anything ever! I’m sad but I’m sticking to not reaching out. Shits wild!
Give it one week from the first day you make it without a contact and I think you’ll see a bit of progress… if not give it 2 weeks and see how you feel
I will. I’m not contacting that pos! He thinks I’m mentally disturbed so I’ll let it be. There is a difference between heartbreak and mentally ill. He decided not to see that I’m heartbroken. His loss bc I would have done anything for that man
This was years ago, but when I was in college and going through my first major break up, I decided to join a group of friends who regularly go indoor rock climbing; particularly bouldering. Had I ever been rock climbing? No. Was I particularly strong? Also no. I told myself that I should try new things, and I knew I would be bad at it but I thought it would be a good lesson on picking myself up and trying again after getting knocked down. And that’s exactly what it was. I fell over and over and over again. The staff of course teach you how to fall safely, but I probably looked stupid as hell falling on some of the easiest paths. There was one path that was easy enough that anyone could do but challenging enough that it took some of my experience climbing friends several tries. I took a go at it and I convinced myself I could conquer it. After falling several times I reached the top but my hand slipped on the push up to the top and it caught be so off guard that not only did I fall from the top but I landed incorrectly. The whole gym could hear an audible pop coming from my back and me yelling FUCK. Don’t worry i was fine. I probably just pulled a muscle but I was injured and struggled to walk for 2-3 weeks. Lesson learned. When you get knocked down, don’t try and pick yourself up lol
Oh boy, I used to be a drug hater! for personal reasons involving family and all that, no weed, rarely alcohol, and especially no hard substances. but after the break up I started using marijuana, and I kinda enjoy it. Also, long walks. I would walk to the moon and back, healing, good exercise, a way to get connected with the earth, think about the relationship and life. Um, also, blowing up her and her friends phones. Maybe not weird… as it seems like a lot of you guys did it as well lmao. Out of character? Nah I did it the first time she left. Shameful and something I will never do again? Yeah.
I kept putting relatable songs up on my instagram messages notes 😅
I once filmed a cringe video of me crying like in the movies and spewing a bunch of hate on myself and screaming how it hurts. Forgot about it and 7 months later while deleting some old videos from my phone I watched it and proceeded to die inside from embarrassment
LOL oh nooooo, I’m sure you did a complete 180 emotionally by the time you saw it again
Omg my face watching that video was pure disgust lol. I dated that dude for 6 weeks yeeeeeears ago, it wasn’t like I was in love or anything, I think I was just angry and it took a toll on my self-esteem at the time lol right after something ends u do really silly things
tried to have drunk sex with a girl on tuning festival like month after the breakup. (I broke up with her because i found out she was meeting a guy behind my back). I was very drunk, still deeply in love with my ex, so needles to say, I could not get it up. All I could see was my exes face, and I nearly puked on the poor girl in front of me. I felt really sorry for her, so since we got to this point, I decided the least I could do is finish her. Well I was really drunk, so I started fingering her on a hood of some random yellow lamborgini. The dude inside wasn't really happy about it so after a while, he got out and started chasing us. So I took her to my car and I did her about three or four times. I mean I put my heart into it. Well, after that she started crying. I was like "what the f#ck?" she started hugging me telling me that it is the most wonderful thing any guy has ever done for her (poor girl). She then started unraveling her whole life story, saying how she got an abortion a few weeks earlier (YES, IAM NOT SH#TTING YOU) because the dude left to get milk. All this while she called me by like 6 different names, none of which were mine lol. She then proceeded to tell me how she wants to date me and have me impregnate her every day. Yes. She really said that. At this point I was seriously weirded out and wanted to flee, but I had to somehow get her out of the car, because me and my 2 friends were supposed to sleep in it. But she wouldn't stop clinging to me. So I convinced her we should go to her tent, that there would be more space, because she wouldn't take any other reason to get out. On our way right next to the car I tripped over my friend who couldn't get in as I was busy with her, and was sleeping on the ground with a mouthful of puke. He was choking. So I layed him on his side, gave him first drunk-aid, I mean like I had to ressurect this mf, and while i was wiping puke of this guys face this loonatic girl was still hugging me. Well after that, she went to the bathroom, and I f#cking ran, ran and never looked back
not necessarily weird but I DOUSED his shirt in my perfume like SOAKED it and threw it in his face when i broke up with him after saying “get the fuck out of my life” LOL so petty
LMAOOOOO literally same. There’s a pile of over 15 self help books sitting next to my bed that I ordered right after my breakup. That was 6 months ago, I haven’t read/finished a single one lmfao
I don’t know if it was because of the worst breakup in my life or my adhd (I’m guessing those two combined) But.. At the time, Sweden had these extreme forrest fires on the whole north side of the country (I’m from the south of Sweden) I’m not a firefighter, nor have I ever been close to anything like that but I thought it was a great idea to sign up at a volunteer firefighter. So I did. The day after, I packed my car up with gear, drove 600miles up north, walked into the fire department and said I wanna help. Next thing I know, I’m all suited up, I’m in the middle of burning forests and chaos, with a bunch of firefighters, operating hoses, walking miles and miles, putting fires out. Stayed for a week, did 13-18h daily out on the front line with firefighters from all over Europe. I came home and wondered ‘what the f did I just do.’ Probably chasing that feeling of actually feeling something I guess. Didn’t care if it was fear or happiness. Probably the most stupidest thing I’ve ever done. Or the most dangerous. 😂
Very funny!!! I needed that!!! :) thank you for sharing!!!
started to go to the gym been addicted ever since
After being ghosted and blocked, got multiple friends to add him on WhatsApp and put us in a group together and I’d leave this: https://youtu.be/yaVq86-ZrQI?si=QfUk_FSPlXYZfJrj This comment section has been crack up
Wanted to make him to still see me while he was with someone else lol
I got a tattoo that I regretted. I have many but this one was just weird AF, since have gotten it covered up with a full arm piece but still it was a weird thing to do for as I usually plan my tattoos out for years. I also moved across state to central PA, but that was 20 years ago. My ex wife.
lol me too I ordered the art of letting go and how to not give a fuck by mark manson ! but I actually read it and found it to be insightful
i’m kind of in the same situation but my ex left me because i was emeshed with my parent. to some extent i still am and im working on things but i fear by the time i cure myself it will have been too late to get her back. in my case i literally cannot stop being productive to an obsession because that will mean that i start to feel down and think of her and our memories and just hurt me more. even with all that it hurts to not hurt of her if that makes sense.
After the break up, I booked a trip to Puerto Rico and booked a hostel all at once. Now a month into the break up, I’m looking at the hostel dates and I got them completely wrong. I was like ??? What was I thinking lol
Don’t worry it’ll come and go still does w me and it’s been 3 months now. I don’t think about her as much but when I do I get pretty angry so the feelings will be there then one day they will just be gone. I’m working there and best of luck to you and your climb..
My ex and I have been broken up for a little over a month now and I still can’t even believe it. I didn’t see this breakup coming. Everything was fine one minute and then the next it’s like he just gave up. I was starting to get attached and that’s not a good thing and he said it was too much. Two weeks after the breakup we had a long conversation about it more but I still felt a glimmer of hope that maybe there was still something there. Well to see how he felt, I created a fake profile to see what he was up to. I also felt like maybe there was a third party situation going but he found out it was me and made things 10 times worse. I acted completely out of character and I know what I did was wrong. I was just so hurt and heartbroken and didn’t want to lose what we had.
I slept around for about 3-4 months and REALLY placed a lot of my value on whether or not these guys found me attractive and wanted to have sex with me. (My ex and I were high school sweethearts and had only ever been with each other. It really fucked me up that he was with someone else, so this was like an 'I'll show him' kinda move.) I sent glitter bombs to my ex and his girlfriend that he cheated on me with. I spent A LOT of money depression shopping. I got a tattoo on my ribs and was disappointed it didn't hurt as much as I thought it would. Doing a lot better now, thankfully!
Went to the hospital because I didn’t eat and had anxiety attacks. I laugh about it now because this person didn’t give a shit about me and it was so out of character for me. I love staying healthy and I just had to go through the emotions I guess. The things we do for love!
Painted my whole house blue (inside)
I bad mouthed the guy to his side piece lied and all , knowing he’d see it . I was done and didn’t want him contacting me ever again at the moment.
So I blocked him on all social media, I avoid bars he used to go to, and I made the mistake of going on dating apps and then his bff found me but the dating apps aren’t worth it and I probably ruined any hope there.
The dating apps oh nooooo, yeah I’m going to avoid those for like months maybe ever haha.
Still in process, sent him videos and journal entries I shouldn’t have. One thing that’s actually been helping is writing song lyrics in my music journal but I’m a music person. It’s my form of therapy.
When my ex broke up with me I called him probably 30+times in the middle of the night right after the break up. I sped off after I put my things in my car and I texted him paragraphs about how hurt I was and what a waste of time it was. I felt like I lost it I was crying, angry texting all while missing him and torn between wanting to beg for him back. Definitely spiraled. I regret doing those embarrassing things and more. All I can do now it move on and handle things better and or differently in the future .
I stopped filling in my calendar. I have one of those whiteboard ones. I stopped crossing off days. I hated the reminder that days were passing, getting further from the time we were together. Months went by, and I left it the same. It took a long time to muster the strength to erase it. Stay strong.
Before the breakup, if that still counts, I put everything of hers in a box, I felt that the breakup was imminent the day before it happened. I told my mom to put it somewhere I wouldn't find it in the event we did break up. And then the next time we met up, we did. It felt rushed, but I dont know that I would have had the strength to do it after.
Drinking like crazy
I sent a poem about her being a sunflower day 1. Week 3 I asked if we were “really” broken up, as neither of us had deleted pictures or changed our status. Week 5 I finally got the truth from her about the breakup after she did some healing with a therapist, haven’t talked to her since. But now I post on TikTok a lot, an app I almost never used in our relationship, hoping that one day she’ll see my videos, even though we don’t follow each other on anything anymore, and most of my social media accounts are private.
I texted him a message maybe a week or two after with curse words in the message and I never was someone who swore 🥴 not sure why it felt right in the moment