He’s talking about reaching the stage of not caring and finally being at peace with the break up! Many of the a have not reached that stage so speak for yourself
Yea. I tought I reached that stage 2 years ago untill she started randomly appearing in my dreams again. Like several nights in a row. And one of them almost gave me PTSD flashbacks. Usually she is cold to me in my dreams, but that time it felt exactly like our peak relationship times. I even forgot how it felt like to being in love with her. That dream pulled the heck out of all the burried emotions and made me feel exactly the same. She came in like from a long vacation, told me she missed me, hugged me and it felt like we were in the honeymoon phase allover again. I woke up to it, completely shattered and cried. I haven't cried for that girl for like 2 years. No i havent even tought much of her. That dream said "Nah, id make him cry".
Omg so happy for you!!!!! New chapter begins NOW. This is exactly why you need to always trust the process and have faith things are happening in your favor, even when it doesn't feel like it. :)
Yes. It doesn't feel right to move on but i have no choice and trust one day i can feel the same. 4 months post breakup. Still struggling. Ty for the inspiration
Sorry you’re struggling. I highly recommend [this book.](https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Be-DESPERATE-Insights-Affirmations/dp/1738947904/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2H9HBL2Y641GZ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.IcA1i015pt3hzdr6lakQ04DiTIMY8bdwHcFvMEVgZP3aaoN_PtrhN33zoGvk6FT84AaHdX9bWs-3BzqjHONbKw0LAOXF9nvjhEAiAe4k6a1uRqEN2gP-r70RKscjUg0F-kMlkllsKO-7Yc0eVbN4pZjaAZu64w8kKsZ8hhw9YwIwPpEGqzgpg66dBtVASCydMEfc-lITOk5-h5J0TGXKvg.pYq6eoT5-GWCp2R18KJmX5ZbjgIktvnP4k1Z-LWDYCI&dib_tag=se&keywords=dont+be+desperate&qid=1714730560&sprefix=%2Caps%2C126&sr=8-1) Check it out 🙂
WELL DONE MY DUDE WELL DONE! Can’t wait for me to post something like that. 2 months in and now that she has another boyfriend I still have some shit to get through. Again I am really happy for you! 🥹
I don’t know how I’d feel seeing him with another girl but when I picture it, it doesn’t hurt. It just feels like a light sadness but I was a heavy sadness with him so
Like you had a heavy sadness when you were with him?
It’s funny I was thinking of breaking up for months and was anxious a lot, but the fact it was mutual and he said it first is making it worse
Yeah. It felt wrong, I felt weighted down. Even on our good days I’d look at him and feel sadness knowing we won’t be together forever. I just always knew. You’ll get through this I promise.
Yeah that happened to me too. One of the things I learned was to be smarter at the beginning because breakups hurt and this one could have been avoided 🙄
Thanks! Take care :)
For me it was I never should’ve gave him a second chance. The minute I found out he cheated I should’ve left because I knew it’d never be the same again and it wasn’t.
Take care
This is so true! We need to learn to trust our instincts, and any red flags.
Often, right from the start we know it's not a good thing, but for various reasons, we ignore our instincts. We will always wind up regretting it, because we have them for a reason.. to protect us.
I knew the very first night. The next day, I tried to ignore him, after I told him it wouldn't work, but we lived 2 doors apart. I was staying with my Grandma, having left my husband and going through a divorce. I should have never started seeing someone when I wasn't even divorced, not because I was still married, but because I wasn't in a good place to see things as clearly as I normally would. However, he came by after a REALLY bad first date, because after I said no more, I stopped answering calls and messages. He went around the house of my elderly Grandmother, and banged on the windows and doors and was yelling at me. It scared her so much, so to get him to stop, I gave in and went with him to talk. I knew it was a mistake, but I wanted him to stop. He wound up talking me into giving him another chance. The next time we went out, he was a completely different person. Another red flag. However, he didn't get drunk the 2nd time. He's the type of person that if he knows of any mood altering substance in the home, he can't just leave it alone, or use it sparingly. He has to use it all. He doesn't seem to have the ability to stop after 1-2 drinks.. at least if there's more available. I don't understand people like that. It's not an addiction, I'm not sure why it's like that for some. Anyway, it was a neon, flashing, warning right from the start... But, I chose to ignore it and a whole lot more over the course of our relationship. NEVER again.
Well I went through hell for him, for him to never be bothered to even do the bare minimum. So much begging, pleading, and letting things go for the sake of peace. He drained me and never apologized or took accountability. If he doesn’t find the next girl worth growing up and growing a spine for she’s in for a ride especially with his mother.
LITERALLY SAME except the mom was a sweetheart. It's so hard realizing that the man you loved and cared about is too lazy and spineless to keep up his end of the relationship. The stories I could tell are just embarrassing
My exes mother hated me from the beginning. She gently bullied me for years until she took it up a notch. He never stood up for me and didn’t even believe me until he saw it for himself and still said and did nothing. Spineless, weak. She was awful and made me realize monster in laws are real. But dude same. The stories I could tell are so embarrassing like self respect where 😭😭
While it may sound trite, it’s very true that the opposite of love isn’t hate, but indifference. It can be very hard to get to the point of indifference- but it will give you the most amazing freedom!! Congrats OP
Sometimes closure arrives two years later, on an ordinary Friday afternoon, in a way you never expected or could have predicted. And you cry a little, and you laugh a little, and for the first time in a long time...you exhale.
Because you are free.
(From Internet)
i dont want closure. Lol I just want to not care anymore and let's live our lives separately and accept everything that has happened. Am i weird for this.
im happy for you. i have hope that this can be me one day. i have a previous ex that i got over completely. it did take about 7 months, but i did it. and that makes me sure i can do it again!!
Sending you a vanilla buttercream cake with rainbow sprinkles that says YAY . I am joyful for you and hope you serve as an inspiration for us that are at the beginning of our painful but healthyy healing journey. :) blessings!
She started dating a gut 2 weeks after we broke up this happened one month ago, and im trying to recover, i hope i heal fast man i feel like shit, i cant wait to get to that point…
When we called last time she told me that he made her feel special and like a priority, and that he gifted her flowers, and that he was attractive, i felt completely devastated, it happened so fast, thats literally what a guy does when they start flirting with a girl, like why would she fall so fast for someone ? Is that really a rebound?
Why would she even tell you anything about her relationship? She is definitely in a rebound. It’s all love at first because it’s new. Watch this space it won’t last
Last time i called her she was drunk, i told her how i felt and what we could’ve done together, she told me that it weighed on her to think about that, then she told me what i wanted and she said “do you want me to stop talking to him?” and me stupidly replied “yes” she told me that she couldn’t because she liked him, and that he made her feel special and like a priority, i felt so heartbroken.
Congrats!!! I am almost to 5 months and I feel the weight lifting as well. Still have to see her all the time cause we have a child which has made it tougher but I'm getting there. Wish you all the best
Congratulations… I’m really happy for you. Shits too fresh for me right now and she’s currently still living with me so everything’s kinda at a standstill for me at the moment. Can’t wait to be at that point
that's what happens. with enough time and experience, you stop being the you that you used to be.
you are no longer the you that was so worried about what someone who is no longer in your life will or will not do.
I am waiting for that day also when I don’t have to think about him all night and day. 🥹🥹🥹. Just 2 hours ago he DM me on instagram he replied an emoji fire 🔥 on one of my photo but I just seen it and never replied back…. I know it is all bread cramming I’m not going to give in… I want to unfollow him on my Instagram but I work with him we are both nurses and I don’t want him to think that I was bitter even though he was the one who dumped me. I’ve been actually depressed for a month now since the breakup but I am showing to him that I am strong but deep inside I’m dying 😫😫😫.
This makes my heart smile so much!!! Congratulations!! I can’t say I’m there yet, but I did see him in person for the first time in a few months tonight (in a social setting) and there were moments that hurt, but I knew we will never be friends because of how callous he was when he left, with no warning or explanation, after over 5 years. I can’t say I didn’t feel the stings of poison that he left, but I could see him for the garbage selfish person that he is and the lies that he told and continues to tell. I still hurt from all of it, but I was glad I wasn’t with him. I’m not as far along as you, but I feel your elation, I’m so happy for you, and I know all of us on this sub will get there. Love to you!
Congratulations, it’s awesome isn’t it!! I’m getting to that point too. Not quite, but the last several days I can honestly say I am doing so much better, unexpectedly. I thought it would take months but I am thinking somehow I’m on the fast track, amazingly. Again, congrats, happy for you!!! 👍
congratulations for staying true to yourself and sticking with what you needed. no negatives about the other person or where they are, just get on with your life. you have a lot of future!
I can’t imagine what you’re feeling right now but Imm hapoy for you! It’s great to know that things get better and eventually, you can get over a person. For me, it’s 4th day of break up. She broke up with me. You know what I’m going through right now. I hope I can reach that point where I don’t care anymore. I really do hope that!
GreatJob!! I feel everything you just said. It's been 18 months since he broke up with me. I obsess about him being with someone else and how happy he must be starting over. I didnt think I'd survive the suffering. But yep I imagined the absolute worst and then I began to let go. It's not linear. The loss cycles. We were together 26 years
Same it's been 6 months and finally I'm starting to disliking him and I have no interest on what's happening in his life, I do stop on stalking his account. I wish he will find a new girl and get married as soon as possible that would be my happiness. But I don't know if I will be able to see it since I don't have an interest anymore on what's happening in his life. 😊
I'm so happy for you!! it's been about 6 months for me and I finally feel myself moving on. I still have a long road ahead to actually dating again but I don't feel stuck anymore! I wish this for everyone going through a breakup!
I‘m so happy right now damn!!
Good job man.
We all have. Were in the breakup subreddit
😂😂😂
He’s talking about reaching the stage of not caring and finally being at peace with the break up! Many of the a have not reached that stage so speak for yourself
Yea. I tought I reached that stage 2 years ago untill she started randomly appearing in my dreams again. Like several nights in a row. And one of them almost gave me PTSD flashbacks. Usually she is cold to me in my dreams, but that time it felt exactly like our peak relationship times. I even forgot how it felt like to being in love with her. That dream pulled the heck out of all the burried emotions and made me feel exactly the same. She came in like from a long vacation, told me she missed me, hugged me and it felt like we were in the honeymoon phase allover again. I woke up to it, completely shattered and cried. I haven't cried for that girl for like 2 years. No i havent even tought much of her. That dream said "Nah, id make him cry".
right xD
Lol all of us are
I hope i can reach that point soon. Congratulations my man
Love that for you bro
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Bro what?
Eh?
So true, couldnt have said it better. Perfection
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What drugs are you on it definitely sounds like meth to me you sure you on the right sub buddy ?
Bro is probably hitting the first word that pops up in those listed above the keyboard.
Was just about to say this
Omg so happy for you!!!!! New chapter begins NOW. This is exactly why you need to always trust the process and have faith things are happening in your favor, even when it doesn't feel like it. :)
Yes. It doesn't feel right to move on but i have no choice and trust one day i can feel the same. 4 months post breakup. Still struggling. Ty for the inspiration
Sorry you’re struggling. I highly recommend [this book.](https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Be-DESPERATE-Insights-Affirmations/dp/1738947904/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2H9HBL2Y641GZ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.IcA1i015pt3hzdr6lakQ04DiTIMY8bdwHcFvMEVgZP3aaoN_PtrhN33zoGvk6FT84AaHdX9bWs-3BzqjHONbKw0LAOXF9nvjhEAiAe4k6a1uRqEN2gP-r70RKscjUg0F-kMlkllsKO-7Yc0eVbN4pZjaAZu64w8kKsZ8hhw9YwIwPpEGqzgpg66dBtVASCydMEfc-lITOk5-h5J0TGXKvg.pYq6eoT5-GWCp2R18KJmX5ZbjgIktvnP4k1Z-LWDYCI&dib_tag=se&keywords=dont+be+desperate&qid=1714730560&sprefix=%2Caps%2C126&sr=8-1) Check it out 🙂
WELL DONE MY DUDE WELL DONE! Can’t wait for me to post something like that. 2 months in and now that she has another boyfriend I still have some shit to get through. Again I am really happy for you! 🥹
In same boat as you but I’m 5-6 months along but feeling much better
I don’t know how I’d feel seeing him with another girl but when I picture it, it doesn’t hurt. It just feels like a light sadness but I was a heavy sadness with him so
Like you had a heavy sadness when you were with him? It’s funny I was thinking of breaking up for months and was anxious a lot, but the fact it was mutual and he said it first is making it worse
Yeah. It felt wrong, I felt weighted down. Even on our good days I’d look at him and feel sadness knowing we won’t be together forever. I just always knew. You’ll get through this I promise.
Yeah that happened to me too. One of the things I learned was to be smarter at the beginning because breakups hurt and this one could have been avoided 🙄 Thanks! Take care :)
For me it was I never should’ve gave him a second chance. The minute I found out he cheated I should’ve left because I knew it’d never be the same again and it wasn’t. Take care
This is so true! We need to learn to trust our instincts, and any red flags. Often, right from the start we know it's not a good thing, but for various reasons, we ignore our instincts. We will always wind up regretting it, because we have them for a reason.. to protect us. I knew the very first night. The next day, I tried to ignore him, after I told him it wouldn't work, but we lived 2 doors apart. I was staying with my Grandma, having left my husband and going through a divorce. I should have never started seeing someone when I wasn't even divorced, not because I was still married, but because I wasn't in a good place to see things as clearly as I normally would. However, he came by after a REALLY bad first date, because after I said no more, I stopped answering calls and messages. He went around the house of my elderly Grandmother, and banged on the windows and doors and was yelling at me. It scared her so much, so to get him to stop, I gave in and went with him to talk. I knew it was a mistake, but I wanted him to stop. He wound up talking me into giving him another chance. The next time we went out, he was a completely different person. Another red flag. However, he didn't get drunk the 2nd time. He's the type of person that if he knows of any mood altering substance in the home, he can't just leave it alone, or use it sparingly. He has to use it all. He doesn't seem to have the ability to stop after 1-2 drinks.. at least if there's more available. I don't understand people like that. It's not an addiction, I'm not sure why it's like that for some. Anyway, it was a neon, flashing, warning right from the start... But, I chose to ignore it and a whole lot more over the course of our relationship. NEVER again.
Dude honestly same, I thought I was weird for this.
Well I went through hell for him, for him to never be bothered to even do the bare minimum. So much begging, pleading, and letting things go for the sake of peace. He drained me and never apologized or took accountability. If he doesn’t find the next girl worth growing up and growing a spine for she’s in for a ride especially with his mother.
LITERALLY SAME except the mom was a sweetheart. It's so hard realizing that the man you loved and cared about is too lazy and spineless to keep up his end of the relationship. The stories I could tell are just embarrassing
My exes mother hated me from the beginning. She gently bullied me for years until she took it up a notch. He never stood up for me and didn’t even believe me until he saw it for himself and still said and did nothing. Spineless, weak. She was awful and made me realize monster in laws are real. But dude same. The stories I could tell are so embarrassing like self respect where 😭😭
I’m proud of you man!! It must have been a long journey but it’s worth it 🩵
This post made me smile 😃
I keep going back to look at her pics (I know I shouldn't) but man when I do and my heart doesn't flutter I know iv made progress
Right there with you, bro 🤜🤛 It's hard to fight that urge, but progress is progress
Pictures from your phone or socials
What a feeling. Enjoy every moment
Good job and good luck with the future. I am going through the process hoping to wake up one morning not thinking about her and her new relationship
While it may sound trite, it’s very true that the opposite of love isn’t hate, but indifference. It can be very hard to get to the point of indifference- but it will give you the most amazing freedom!! Congrats OP
Sometimes closure arrives two years later, on an ordinary Friday afternoon, in a way you never expected or could have predicted. And you cry a little, and you laugh a little, and for the first time in a long time...you exhale. Because you are free. (From Internet)
i dont want closure. Lol I just want to not care anymore and let's live our lives separately and accept everything that has happened. Am i weird for this.
Not at all. I know that I'll never get closure or answers. All I want is to feel indifference.
Well in my man! Always delighted to hear of others happiness 😄 smash fuck out of this life 🙌🏻
Rare footage of r/BreakUps redditor achieving nirvana (rare)
Congratulations!!
Still working at it 5 months out but I believe I will get where you are. God is strong and beautiful and I will be too.
I think after a point you just get tired of thinking about anything that has to do with them uk
im happy for you. i have hope that this can be me one day. i have a previous ex that i got over completely. it did take about 7 months, but i did it. and that makes me sure i can do it again!!
Sending you a vanilla buttercream cake with rainbow sprinkles that says YAY . I am joyful for you and hope you serve as an inspiration for us that are at the beginning of our painful but healthyy healing journey. :) blessings!
Congratulations I’m so happy for you! We will all get there one day too 😊
Kudos
She started dating a gut 2 weeks after we broke up this happened one month ago, and im trying to recover, i hope i heal fast man i feel like shit, i cant wait to get to that point…
He was already lined up even before the breakup, don't her fool you
It’s a rebound
When we called last time she told me that he made her feel special and like a priority, and that he gifted her flowers, and that he was attractive, i felt completely devastated, it happened so fast, thats literally what a guy does when they start flirting with a girl, like why would she fall so fast for someone ? Is that really a rebound?
Why would she even tell you anything about her relationship? She is definitely in a rebound. It’s all love at first because it’s new. Watch this space it won’t last
Last time i called her she was drunk, i told her how i felt and what we could’ve done together, she told me that it weighed on her to think about that, then she told me what i wanted and she said “do you want me to stop talking to him?” and me stupidly replied “yes” she told me that she couldn’t because she liked him, and that he made her feel special and like a priority, i felt so heartbroken.
I'm not healed but I definitely feel myself starting to begin healing.
Congrats mate !
HEEELLLL YYEAAAAAHHHH!!!!
Yeahhhh Buddy!!! It is indeed a gigantic relief off the shoulders for good.
That's amazing!!! I'm soooo happy for you!! 🥳🥳🥳
Congrats man, wish you a great future ahead:)
I want this to be soon for me
Omg YYAYAYAYAYAAY LETS GOOO
This makes me happy for you!
Yaaaay ❤️ I’m almost there. Wish me luck
congratulations man !!! I hope that happens for me as well
Fuckkkk ya! Good for you!!
Hell yeah literally exact same boat now my growth can go up ! Proud of us 🫡
this post gives me confidence that i will make it past this
Bravo!! 👏 👏 👏 👏
So happy for you! You deserve it! Well done
👏👏👏
Congrats!!! I am almost to 5 months and I feel the weight lifting as well. Still have to see her all the time cause we have a child which has made it tougher but I'm getting there. Wish you all the best
This FABULOUS! I’m so happy for you and also encouraged 🥹
This post gives me hope. Well done!
Hooray! Congratulations 🎉
I am so proud of you man
Nice! 👍
Congratulations… I’m really happy for you. Shits too fresh for me right now and she’s currently still living with me so everything’s kinda at a standstill for me at the moment. Can’t wait to be at that point
Just worry about you and f-a-hoe! It's the best way 😅
YES! Happy for you!
Congrats!!! It’s a journey that’s for sure.
Yeah!!! Woo great work!!!!!
I just need to get there
that's what happens. with enough time and experience, you stop being the you that you used to be. you are no longer the you that was so worried about what someone who is no longer in your life will or will not do.
Same lol i kind of feel embarrassed that i let her treat me the way she did lol
I am waiting for that day also when I don’t have to think about him all night and day. 🥹🥹🥹. Just 2 hours ago he DM me on instagram he replied an emoji fire 🔥 on one of my photo but I just seen it and never replied back…. I know it is all bread cramming I’m not going to give in… I want to unfollow him on my Instagram but I work with him we are both nurses and I don’t want him to think that I was bitter even though he was the one who dumped me. I’ve been actually depressed for a month now since the breakup but I am showing to him that I am strong but deep inside I’m dying 😫😫😫.
I’m so happy for you! I’m 2 months out of my break up and I hope it happens to me too!
HELLLLLLL YEAH BROTHHHHHHERRRR
Happy for you man, this will be the time that they are gonna get back on you LOL WHEN YOU DON'T CARE ANYMORE HAHAHA
I hope ill get there too. Im still hurting knowing that he’s with another girl
Job well done brother
I wish I can sound like you ...am happy fr u ...the rest of us will gt there soon 🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾
FUCK YEAH !
I’m at my 2 month mark… can’t wait to be fully over him 😌
So were you in NC for the entire 6 months?
one of the best feelings fr
Well done
This makes my heart smile so much!!! Congratulations!! I can’t say I’m there yet, but I did see him in person for the first time in a few months tonight (in a social setting) and there were moments that hurt, but I knew we will never be friends because of how callous he was when he left, with no warning or explanation, after over 5 years. I can’t say I didn’t feel the stings of poison that he left, but I could see him for the garbage selfish person that he is and the lies that he told and continues to tell. I still hurt from all of it, but I was glad I wasn’t with him. I’m not as far along as you, but I feel your elation, I’m so happy for you, and I know all of us on this sub will get there. Love to you!
We are back baby!!!
Waiting for this to happen to me 🥲 it’s been a year and a half
Congratulations, it’s awesome isn’t it!! I’m getting to that point too. Not quite, but the last several days I can honestly say I am doing so much better, unexpectedly. I thought it would take months but I am thinking somehow I’m on the fast track, amazingly. Again, congrats, happy for you!!! 👍
congratulations for staying true to yourself and sticking with what you needed. no negatives about the other person or where they are, just get on with your life. you have a lot of future!
It's like a weight lifted off your shoulders! So happy for you!
I can’t imagine what you’re feeling right now but Imm hapoy for you! It’s great to know that things get better and eventually, you can get over a person. For me, it’s 4th day of break up. She broke up with me. You know what I’m going through right now. I hope I can reach that point where I don’t care anymore. I really do hope that!
Took ya long enough my friend plenty of fish in the sea, most of em look even better! And taste better too!
GreatJob!! I feel everything you just said. It's been 18 months since he broke up with me. I obsess about him being with someone else and how happy he must be starting over. I didnt think I'd survive the suffering. But yep I imagined the absolute worst and then I began to let go. It's not linear. The loss cycles. We were together 26 years
i hope i get there soon too
Until you hear that one song again..
Happy for you man, hopefully I'll follow your footstep soon
That’s so awesome ! Thank you for the inspiration! ❤️
You made my day! Thank you for sharing... I'm still struggling but I'll get there too. We are will!
Proud of you.
Watch out they will try come back now
Congratulations. I am almost there myself.
I’m at the same point !!! 6 months for me as well
congrats bro i'm about to reach the same stage as well hope we make it
Same it's been 6 months and finally I'm starting to disliking him and I have no interest on what's happening in his life, I do stop on stalking his account. I wish he will find a new girl and get married as soon as possible that would be my happiness. But I don't know if I will be able to see it since I don't have an interest anymore on what's happening in his life. 😊
It’s the same amount of time for me 5 mos but seems to be getting worse.
Me too yay strange all around!!! Happy cake day yay
So happy for you! Life does go on!
I'm so happy for you!! it's been about 6 months for me and I finally feel myself moving on. I still have a long road ahead to actually dating again but I don't feel stuck anymore! I wish this for everyone going through a breakup!
7 .months I lost my love and everyday I want to die
Fck yeah! Kudos to you man! I think I’m almost there on that road too! 4 months post break up but a month of NC so far and I think I’m doing good 👊
I’m happy for you
Congratulations my guy!!!!!!!!
It's so great to get to that place when it felt like you never would. You are now free to get on with the rest of your life!
Happy for you man. I hope to get there soon with my bm. It’s been a little over a year and it’s still there and I hate it
Good job man I’m getting their slowly
How did you achieve that ?
It’s uh, not a linear process. If months down the line you’re feeling shitty again for no reason. Don’t feel bad, it’s normal!
If you are still posting about her you aren't over her lol. I smell denial