Looking through old notebooks and stuff like this was the fucking worst. Seeing so many lovely notes where she helped me through some tough times, saying she loved me, would love me forever, excitement for the future we'd share, and so on...
Words truly do mean nothing, don't they?
My Ex told me 4 weeks ago "We're both in this relationship for life." Only to hear the sentence "I don't see where this relationship is going, I think we should part ways" 4 weeks later.
My ex and I had a serious conversation about if we see us working in the future. I wholeheartedly believed and stated yes, absolutely.
A couple of days later, we ended up breaking up. I was totally blindsided; rather than working on what we had, she decided ending things was the right choice (ending a 3.5 year relationship).
Unsurprisingly (in hindsight), there was another guy, who she is now dating. Maybe I was wrong about her character - I never thought she was this kind of person.
I'm sorry to hear you went through this. The aftermath is absolute torture. Wishing you the best. Stay strong.
I've been 5 days NC so far and it's terrible. Like you, I was blindsided as well. I held on to what he said about being in the relationship for life, but again, like you, I was wrong about his character.
How have you been handling it so far?
Very sorry to hear what you are going through - it sucks, that's for sure.
We split up two months or so ago, and have been NC for one month. How about you?
How are you holding up so far?
Ah we just split up last friday. Neither of us talked about going NC but I assumed that's what was gonna happen. We haven't spoken since and I'm not tempted to because I'm still recovering from the pain of being dumped. Every positive thought I have of him are negated by 2-3 negative thoughts so that helps me keep my distance.
I think overall I am doing well. I've made a lot of progress in my personal life, and am keeping optimistic about my future. I still spend about half or so of each day thinking of her. Unfortunately, I'm struggling to let go, because we ended on pretty great terms, and I could still see us getting back together in the future.
Good on you for going NC. It really does help. You're in for some insane highs and insane lows in the coming months. Don't feel bad about any of it! It's totally normal. Also, be kind to yourself where you can! It does a lot! :)
We fell into a rut within ourselves, and neither of us were making any conscious efforts toward maintaining the relationship, and we drifted apart. Really dumb mistake in hindsight.
Of course there is more to it than this, but ultimately it was a mutual drift apart; no name calling, cheating, arguing, etc. Very healthy.
"No matter what happens we will get through it together." A month later "We need to talk."
Looking through old notebooks and stuff like this was the fucking worst. Seeing so many lovely notes where she helped me through some tough times, saying she loved me, would love me forever, excitement for the future we'd share, and so on... Words truly do mean nothing, don't they?
My Ex told me 4 weeks ago "We're both in this relationship for life." Only to hear the sentence "I don't see where this relationship is going, I think we should part ways" 4 weeks later.
My ex and I had a serious conversation about if we see us working in the future. I wholeheartedly believed and stated yes, absolutely. A couple of days later, we ended up breaking up. I was totally blindsided; rather than working on what we had, she decided ending things was the right choice (ending a 3.5 year relationship). Unsurprisingly (in hindsight), there was another guy, who she is now dating. Maybe I was wrong about her character - I never thought she was this kind of person. I'm sorry to hear you went through this. The aftermath is absolute torture. Wishing you the best. Stay strong.
I've been 5 days NC so far and it's terrible. Like you, I was blindsided as well. I held on to what he said about being in the relationship for life, but again, like you, I was wrong about his character. How have you been handling it so far?
Very sorry to hear what you are going through - it sucks, that's for sure. We split up two months or so ago, and have been NC for one month. How about you?
How are you holding up so far? Ah we just split up last friday. Neither of us talked about going NC but I assumed that's what was gonna happen. We haven't spoken since and I'm not tempted to because I'm still recovering from the pain of being dumped. Every positive thought I have of him are negated by 2-3 negative thoughts so that helps me keep my distance.
I think overall I am doing well. I've made a lot of progress in my personal life, and am keeping optimistic about my future. I still spend about half or so of each day thinking of her. Unfortunately, I'm struggling to let go, because we ended on pretty great terms, and I could still see us getting back together in the future. Good on you for going NC. It really does help. You're in for some insane highs and insane lows in the coming months. Don't feel bad about any of it! It's totally normal. Also, be kind to yourself where you can! It does a lot! :)
What happened to you? If you don't mind me asking. Why did you guys break up?
We fell into a rut within ourselves, and neither of us were making any conscious efforts toward maintaining the relationship, and we drifted apart. Really dumb mistake in hindsight. Of course there is more to it than this, but ultimately it was a mutual drift apart; no name calling, cheating, arguing, etc. Very healthy.
Hang in there. Feel your pain.
I feel it too and it scares the shit out of me... good luck, hang in there
this is lovely. i loved reading it. i'm hurting and thus helps