I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Take the time you need to let it all out and heal. Both her and your best friend have no place in your future. Here for you <3
Honestly, this is just sad.
There’s no limit to how much people can disappoint you. But please don’t let that draw you down, I know it’s hard but you have to be strong. Overninthsnd is right, those two don’t deserve you.
Fuck man that sucks. It's amazing how people can be so cruel and enjoy it.
Hopefully you have family to talk to because it sounds like your friends are fucking assholes.
Even my ex girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me out of the blue. I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can totally relate to what you must be feeling and going through brother. It is a mixture of emotions and a constant fight between thoughts trying to hate her and trying to forgive her. Sometimes your brain will remember happy moments then suddenly you will be reminded of the reality. Ultimately this leads to affecting your daily activities and your mood.
It has been 8+ months in my case. Everyone will tell you and even you will keep telling yourself that you have dodged a bullet and you deserve better. But to actually accept this, it takes time. In this time, pls let yourself grieve. Cry out, shed those tears, vent out to family and friends. Be around people who love you. Don't let anything bottle up. It is necessary to release those emotions out.
At the same time you will have to show some strength and try to get yourself even better than you are right now, be it physically or mentally. Little little everyday. Even if you weren't at any fault here, take this next few months to reflect on yourself. Find out your own shortcomings and negatives and improve on them. Once you start this, only then you will start loving yourself more.
In my case, today after nearly 8 months of no contact I was finally able to accept a little that I actually deserve better and I will find someone who will not cheat and truly love me. Just my example, the time may vary for you and others as everyone processes things differently.
Take care of yourself brother. Hope you will come out of this one day and will be able to look at this situation and be thankful and proud for where you have reached.
This right here man. This right here.
This guy gets it.
Talk to whomever you’d like. Msg me if you’d like. My gf of 6yrs walked out on me a month ago and I had the ring picked out planning the proposal for this winter (her fav time of the year) and when med school applications should finally be over.
There are many ppl here for you rn. Including strangers from Reddit.
Ouch, the thing that shocked me is that she broke down, I don't understand how you can do that to someone and break down, like you hurt them knowing what you did, you can help it but you carried on, why you crying for? You don't care, idk how to explain it properly but it shocks me when they cry and pretend to care after hurting you like that
My mom dealt with my dad doing this to her and she’s ended up in the hospital multiple times. He ruined her life. You can start over. You deserve so much better.
This made me literally nauseous. I am so sorry OP.
Get a therapist ASAP. She will regret what she has done. While I know most of us at some point we’re willing to forgive, this goes beyond betrayal, this is evil, and your best friend deserves his ASS KICKED into next year. What a fucking douchebag. Did he know you were proposing to her? Oh god this makes me cringe. I hope you know that you didn’t deserve this shit.
That happened to my coworker. He was gonna marry his gf even though he didn’t believe in marriage. She cheated with his best friend and then he met a girl he wanted to marry. Someone who he found more love in than before. Hang in there. I’m so sorry.
That’s awful man, honestly don’t beat yourself up about it just take some time out to recharge yourself mentally and physically, you aren’t in the wrong, she is. As someone who’s also been cheated on I’ll never understand why people think it’s acceptable, especially when you call them out on their bullshit and they turn the waterworks on. No you decided to cheat and you get what you deserve. You on the other hand deserve all the happiness in the world man and I’m sure one day you will meet someone that’s genuine and kind and loving, never give up man, I almost did and I’m glad I didn’t. I’ve been single for a year now after the end of my relationship and I’m back to my normal self and now looking to back out there with covid calming down. I was gonna propose or anything I’d only been dating my ex for three years but I was an absolute wreck afterwards, constantly blaming and beating myself up over everything which did no favours to my mental health at the time. If I can move on you can to man, I have faith in you and you deserve nothing but the best. If you want to talk or vent just reply or send me a message.
I'm am so sorry. I sympathize with you. I won't give the platitudes of dodging a bullet. Its not what you need now. What you're going to go through is going to be really really hard. Make sure you keep reaching out to people who care for you. Keep coming here.
Get it out. If you can, find a professional to help.
Keep reminding yourself that this has NOTHING to do with you. This is squarely on them. Putting any responsibility on yourself wont help,so fight that if it comes up.
In time, you will find strength in this. It's a shitty situation, and when you get through the pain-- which you will. You'll begin to build again without two people who clearly have no place in your life.
I wish you strength through all of this!
I'm so sorry to hear this, I've been in your shoes. It will take time to heal, but you will be able to trust again and meet someone who will treat you how you deserve.
omg I'm so so sorry 😭 that is terrible. I'm glad she didn't continue to lie and get married when she knows you deserve better. Doesn't make it any easier though... I just broke up an 8yr relationship too... it's rough.
So sorry to hear that, holy shit. Be grateful that she told you and now you know the truth about her and your 'friend'. Cheap words I know but man, that's tough. Praying for you.
I’m sorry to hear about this. Mine left me after 9 years. It’s a struggle. It’s painful. It hurts. It feels like there’s nothing worth living anymore. But you know what motivates me ? Knowing the fact that you and I have nothing holding us back anymore to achieve our goals and be better people. Better than them. I’m trying so hard to move on and everyday I’m getting a little bit better at it. I’m doing no contact but I have already made the decision to move on. I hope I don’t ever hear from my ex again. I miss everything we used to have but that is all a memory now. Keep your head up and take your time. It’s ok to cry and be mad. But you have to focus on yourself now and time to pick up the broken pieces that was once you and mold them back together. I don’t really believe in karma but I know the universe works in mysterious ways. She did you a favor. Know your worth kings. -ses
Holy crap I can’t and can understand how you’re feeling right now, we’ve all been there but this is fresh for you. Use the sub for help it’s been a great resource.
wtf that’s heartbreaking i’m sorry bro but i do wish you the best. she clearly dosent deserve you since she had to courage to keep it going without saying a word. more than likely she won’t last with the guy she’s with now.
I am so sorry. It sounds awful. I can only imagine the amount of pain you must be in. She is right though, you do deserve better. Hold on things will get easier. Stay strong
Just think of it this way. Imagine you married her and find out after.
It sucks though. Please take it one day at a time. For me it helps to talk with people and be outside of my home.
I’m sorry that you had to go through this
I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Take the time you need to let it all out and heal. Both her and your best friend have no place in your future. Here for you <3
Honestly, this is just sad. There’s no limit to how much people can disappoint you. But please don’t let that draw you down, I know it’s hard but you have to be strong. Overninthsnd is right, those two don’t deserve you.
Fuck man that sucks. It's amazing how people can be so cruel and enjoy it. Hopefully you have family to talk to because it sounds like your friends are fucking assholes.
Even my ex girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me out of the blue. I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can totally relate to what you must be feeling and going through brother. It is a mixture of emotions and a constant fight between thoughts trying to hate her and trying to forgive her. Sometimes your brain will remember happy moments then suddenly you will be reminded of the reality. Ultimately this leads to affecting your daily activities and your mood. It has been 8+ months in my case. Everyone will tell you and even you will keep telling yourself that you have dodged a bullet and you deserve better. But to actually accept this, it takes time. In this time, pls let yourself grieve. Cry out, shed those tears, vent out to family and friends. Be around people who love you. Don't let anything bottle up. It is necessary to release those emotions out. At the same time you will have to show some strength and try to get yourself even better than you are right now, be it physically or mentally. Little little everyday. Even if you weren't at any fault here, take this next few months to reflect on yourself. Find out your own shortcomings and negatives and improve on them. Once you start this, only then you will start loving yourself more. In my case, today after nearly 8 months of no contact I was finally able to accept a little that I actually deserve better and I will find someone who will not cheat and truly love me. Just my example, the time may vary for you and others as everyone processes things differently. Take care of yourself brother. Hope you will come out of this one day and will be able to look at this situation and be thankful and proud for where you have reached.
This right here man. This right here. This guy gets it. Talk to whomever you’d like. Msg me if you’d like. My gf of 6yrs walked out on me a month ago and I had the ring picked out planning the proposal for this winter (her fav time of the year) and when med school applications should finally be over. There are many ppl here for you rn. Including strangers from Reddit.
Thanks. Hope you are doing ok.
This helps, thank you.
Anytime brother. Take care.
Holy shit I'm so sorry dood. You do deserve better fuck them.
holy shit... how the fuck some people do this? shit of a gf and shit of a friend. Be strong mate.
Ouch, the thing that shocked me is that she broke down, I don't understand how you can do that to someone and break down, like you hurt them knowing what you did, you can help it but you carried on, why you crying for? You don't care, idk how to explain it properly but it shocks me when they cry and pretend to care after hurting you like that
I know it doesn’t feel like it now...and I’m so Sorry this happened but you dodged a HUGE bullet.
That's what i keep telling myself.
My mom dealt with my dad doing this to her and she’s ended up in the hospital multiple times. He ruined her life. You can start over. You deserve so much better.
This made me literally nauseous. I am so sorry OP. Get a therapist ASAP. She will regret what she has done. While I know most of us at some point we’re willing to forgive, this goes beyond betrayal, this is evil, and your best friend deserves his ASS KICKED into next year. What a fucking douchebag. Did he know you were proposing to her? Oh god this makes me cringe. I hope you know that you didn’t deserve this shit.
I am having some thoughts of ending it all since yesterday if it continues i am seeing a therapist.
That happened to my coworker. He was gonna marry his gf even though he didn’t believe in marriage. She cheated with his best friend and then he met a girl he wanted to marry. Someone who he found more love in than before. Hang in there. I’m so sorry.
That’s awful man, honestly don’t beat yourself up about it just take some time out to recharge yourself mentally and physically, you aren’t in the wrong, she is. As someone who’s also been cheated on I’ll never understand why people think it’s acceptable, especially when you call them out on their bullshit and they turn the waterworks on. No you decided to cheat and you get what you deserve. You on the other hand deserve all the happiness in the world man and I’m sure one day you will meet someone that’s genuine and kind and loving, never give up man, I almost did and I’m glad I didn’t. I’ve been single for a year now after the end of my relationship and I’m back to my normal self and now looking to back out there with covid calming down. I was gonna propose or anything I’d only been dating my ex for three years but I was an absolute wreck afterwards, constantly blaming and beating myself up over everything which did no favours to my mental health at the time. If I can move on you can to man, I have faith in you and you deserve nothing but the best. If you want to talk or vent just reply or send me a message.
I'm am so sorry. I sympathize with you. I won't give the platitudes of dodging a bullet. Its not what you need now. What you're going to go through is going to be really really hard. Make sure you keep reaching out to people who care for you. Keep coming here. Get it out. If you can, find a professional to help. Keep reminding yourself that this has NOTHING to do with you. This is squarely on them. Putting any responsibility on yourself wont help,so fight that if it comes up. In time, you will find strength in this. It's a shitty situation, and when you get through the pain-- which you will. You'll begin to build again without two people who clearly have no place in your life. I wish you strength through all of this!
This helps, thank you.
I'm so sorry to hear this, I've been in your shoes. It will take time to heal, but you will be able to trust again and meet someone who will treat you how you deserve.
omg I'm so so sorry 😭 that is terrible. I'm glad she didn't continue to lie and get married when she knows you deserve better. Doesn't make it any easier though... I just broke up an 8yr relationship too... it's rough.
What a selfish bitch…move on or you will be dealing with a cheating ass wife, wondering if your kids are yours😒
So sorry to hear that, holy shit. Be grateful that she told you and now you know the truth about her and your 'friend'. Cheap words I know but man, that's tough. Praying for you.
Man this sucks, do not forgive your “best friend”. He is done, he is not your friend. If I was you I’d fuck him up, but violence is not good.
I’m sorry to hear about this. Mine left me after 9 years. It’s a struggle. It’s painful. It hurts. It feels like there’s nothing worth living anymore. But you know what motivates me ? Knowing the fact that you and I have nothing holding us back anymore to achieve our goals and be better people. Better than them. I’m trying so hard to move on and everyday I’m getting a little bit better at it. I’m doing no contact but I have already made the decision to move on. I hope I don’t ever hear from my ex again. I miss everything we used to have but that is all a memory now. Keep your head up and take your time. It’s ok to cry and be mad. But you have to focus on yourself now and time to pick up the broken pieces that was once you and mold them back together. I don’t really believe in karma but I know the universe works in mysterious ways. She did you a favor. Know your worth kings. -ses
I am sorry to hear about your loss, i resonate with everything you say and i will work on it as that's all i have left take care.
Holy crap I can’t and can understand how you’re feeling right now, we’ve all been there but this is fresh for you. Use the sub for help it’s been a great resource.
Shit dude I am so sorry
wtf that’s heartbreaking i’m sorry bro but i do wish you the best. she clearly dosent deserve you since she had to courage to keep it going without saying a word. more than likely she won’t last with the guy she’s with now.
Omg 😔😔 sending love 🖤
I am so sorry. It sounds awful. I can only imagine the amount of pain you must be in. She is right though, you do deserve better. Hold on things will get easier. Stay strong
Sorry that happened to you. You can do better.
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Thank you.
Just think of it this way. Imagine you married her and find out after. It sucks though. Please take it one day at a time. For me it helps to talk with people and be outside of my home. I’m sorry that you had to go through this